#and this is why it speaks to me as an ace trans person

[trans-cuchulainn]

okay actually i'm not done prideposting because i'm having emotions about the way it centres solidarity and community

like. a few of the characters get individual arcs but joe's is the most fleshed out (bc he's a fictional character used to join the real-life narrative together and most of the others are real people, real lives aren't as narratively coherent). he starts out as this nervous kid who has never been part of anything, he's living at home, he's hiding who he is

and in many films his queer arc would be about, well, his sex life, his romantic life, whatever, he'd get a boyfriend and that would be what made him leave his parents' house and stuff. but while joe does get to make out with a guy at the Pits & Perverts gig, fundamentally what he gets out of LGSM is friendship and a place to belong and a place where he thrives, going from a nervous kid at the beginning to a confident leader at the end who reminds the others of the importance of standing together in the face of opposition

and the bit where joe leaves his parents' house and goes to stay with steph and they have their whole "i'm glad you came back" moment and steph goes "if we were normal, this is where we'd kiss" and they laugh and then they entwine their hands (because. holding hands is an important motif of solidarity in this movie and this is peak gay/lesbian solidarity right here)... many stories would have given joe a boyfriend to run away to live with and this would be a romantic moment, but this one doesn't, it gives him a FRIEND, because the solidarity is more important than the single individual identity

that is not to say that it would be a bad story that focused on those individual relationships because of course they are a crucial part of queer narratives. but this is a film about friendship and solidarity between different communities, different people, finding the common threads of humanity. and the themes of friendship and solidarity permeate the individual arcs as well as the larger story. for joe to be discovering confidence amidst a group of friends working together for a larger goal, and for him to find safety with a friend (somebody with whom he'll never have a relationship because they are fundamentally incompatible in that way), serves those themes better than a story that would focus on giving him an individual romantic arc. you know??? because it's a story about solidarity.

#and this is why it speaks to me as an ace trans person #because what finding other queer people as a young adult meant to me was friendship and solidarity and being less alone #rather than specifically offering opportunities for romance #i just. ah. #pride #pride (2014)

[perennial-bee]

"trans people are only trans because of oppressive gender roles and if we just got rid of the gender roles nobody would be trans" might sound like a hot take, a thoughtful and compassionate take, but unfortunately it is ice cold and does not understand how being trans works at all. meet and talk to and listen to more trans people - preferably in real life - before making assertions like this, especially if you yourself are not trans.

#if this was true then explain to me why my friend is still a man even though his parents tried to raise him with as few #imposed gender roles as possible #every type of woman under the sun was thrust his way with the insistence that his sex was not a limitation #and a girl can be anything she wants and do and study anything she wants #he saw and appreciated all of that and at the end of the day his kid self was still like #'thats nice and i hear you but i'm growing up into a man. you cant fool me' #this is not every trans experience but it is not an UNcommon trans experience. so this argument just doesnt hold water #also if 'giving into your dysphoria' would have made you want to die #and accepting a gender that's in line w your bio sex makes you feel better #congratulations. you are cis #and therefore you do not get to speak to the trans experience #YOUR experience is valid. projecting your experience onto the trans community is wrong #it reads to me the same as someone who thought they were ace until they realized they weren't #concluding that therefore nobody is really ace and all ace people just *think* they are #and their hidden allosexuality can be 'cured' or jumpstarted by whatever set of circumstances triggered *your* sexuality #(knew someone irl exactly like this and it was deeply frustrating) #or thinking that gay people just need to meet the right person to be in a str8 relationship with bc YOU found someone like that #like no sorry...you're just bi #i could go on #i'm frustrated. i understand where this take comes from but it's really misinformed. you need to listen to trans ppl. start there

[vaspider]

Pete Buttigieg is just a faggot.

It's very important to me that younger queers understand this: to the people who you're trying to be more respectable for when you say things like neopronouns set the trans movement back or you're why the cishets don't accept us or including [aces/bi people with the 'wrong kind' of partners/non-binary people/kinksters/non-passing trans ppl/furries/polyam people] just hurts us, can't you wait until we get all our rights before we talk about some of yours? -- to those people? Pete Buttigieg is just a fag.

On Sunday at Pride Northwest, some kids -- late teens, early 20s -- asked what our button I survived Reagan for this? meant. All of the queer adults at the tables making up our ad hoc counter looked at each other and sighed a little. Emet and another adult started to explain the way that the Reagan Administration handled -- or didn't handle -- the beginning of the AIDS crisis. How many people died. How much we were ignored. The Ashes Action. The Time Magazine article which explicitly blamed bisexual men for passing the pandemic to the cishet community, playing on all the worst stereotypical bullshit. The way that even when the CDC started paying attention, they were so focused on gay men that they ignored AIDS in the lesbian community, leading to the "women don't get AIDS, they just die from it" poster. And so on.

I finished counting out change and passed the last Bear Pride raised fist pin over to a bear a little older than me, then turned my head and interjected, "they didn't care until it started infecting more than just the fags." I turned my head back and handed him his change. He laughed bitterly and said, "remember when they called it 'gay cancer?'"

That what I need you to understand. The people for whom you are folding yourself into smaller and smaller boxes will never see you as anything but a freak. A queer. A dyke. A tranny. A fag.

Never.

These are people who will stand by and let you wither away and die alone, gasping for breath in a cinderblock room, and not even claim your ashes, and they will say you deserve it, because of your lifestyle. If they speak of you at all it will be by the wrong name, with the pictures you hate the most. They will curse at your lover, throw him out of the home you shared, and steal the gift you gave last Christmas to throw it in the trash just so he can't have it and they'll say Jesus loves you! while they do it. They'll feel good and righteous and blessed and holy and pure for doing it.

And for them, you spit in the eye of your sister. For them, you disavow your sibling. For their sake, you trim away bits of your heart and lace yourself up tight. Never too loud. Never too queer. Never inconvenient or embarrassing, never asking for too much.

Pete Buttigieg is what happens when your Boomer dad turns out gay. Middle America. Parents still married. Suburban-sprouted. Valedictorian. Harvard-educated. Rhodes Scholarship. Military service. More power to him: I hope he and Chasten are very happy together. Genuinely, I do.

You couldn't create a more respectable gay if you grew one in a lab run by concerned voter focus groups.

But Pete Buttigieg? Is just a fag.

That's the part you don't seem to get: when they abandoned us, they abandoned all of us. Rock Hudson was a beloved movie star and even personally friendly with that horrid pair of ambitious jackals. Nancy Reagan refused to help him get into the only place in the world that could treat him at the time, and he died.

It was 1985, 4 years after the CDC first released papers on what would eventually become known as HIV/AIDS and 7 years after the first known death from an infection from HIV-2. Reagan hadn't even said the word AIDS by the time Hudson died.

Pete Buttigieg is just a fag, and so am I. Unless I'm a dyke, which seems to depend on who's yelling what from which window and what day it is.

Yes, there will be people who genuinely love and accept you. Those people are worth all the frustration of the rest, thankfully, and they're the ones who love you in a pup mask or a leather harness and a neon jock like the ones sold by the men up the row from us last weekend. They're the ones who laugh out loud when you tell them you hid the word "dyke" in your company name, the ones who love you in all your messiness and uncertainty and the way you don't fit into neat boxes all scrubbed up and clean.

Most cishets, though... well, they don't actively mean you specifically any harm, at least not when they have to look at you. Not when you're right there in front of them. Maybe they'll be okay with you, personally, especially if you're the kind of gay who makes a good rhetorical device, and as long as you remain a good rhetorical device.

They need people to know that they don't have a problem with the gays, after all, and there you are, being all convenient. You make a nice token, and as long as you do, well. You're useful.

But they call you by your deadname when you're not around, and they put the wrong pronouns in your medical record even though they met you years after you came out, and they won't put themselves out to save you. Not one little bit.

I didn't want to be here again. The year I graduated from high school was the worst year of the AIDS crisis. The world into which I became an adult was a world in which an advisor and friend to Reagan, William F. Buckley, openly advocated for forcibly tattooing the HIV status of HIV+ gay men on their buttocks (and IV drug users on their forearms), and in which my father not only told me that when I was 14 or so, but when was told me that he'd advocated for that tattoo being "over their assholes."

(Buckley wrote that in '86, but he doubled down on it in 2005.

Fucker.)

But yeah. I didn't want to be here again. I wanted my daughter to inherit a better world. I wanted Obergefell and Lawrence v. Texas and Hope & Change to really mean something. I work for it, today and all days. I haven't given up.

I need you to know that, too. This isn't a white flag. I'm not surrendering. This isn't over. To misquote Henry Rollins, this is what Marsha and Sylvia and Stormé and Leslie and Brenda and Auntie Sugar trained us for. This is punk rock time.

But I need you to understand that if Pete Buttigieg is just a fag, if that human embodiment of a Wonder Bread, mayo and Oscar Meyer bologna sandwich is not respectable enough for them -- and he's not -- then the rest of us have absolutely no hope of measuring up. Not even if we trim away every colorful, beautiful piece of our community, not even if the Sisters Of Perpetual Indulgence vanish into the ether, not even if we sacrifice the five elements of vogue on the altar of white supremacist cishet middle-class conformity: we can't trim ourselves down to something they'll accept.

The only other option is radical acceptance of our queer selves. The only other option is solidarity. The only other option is for fats and femme queens and drags and kinksters and queers and zine writers and sex workers and furries and addicts and kids and the ones who can look us in the eye and see all of us to say we're here, we're queer, get used to it just the way we did 30 years ago. It's revolutionary, complete and total acceptance of our entire community, not just the ones the cishets can pretend to be comfortable with as long as we don't challenge them too much, or it's conceding the shoreline inch by inch to the rising waters of fascism until we've got nowhere left to stand and some of us start drowning.

That's it. Either it's all of us or it's none of us, because if we leave the answer up to the Reagans of the world and all the people who enabled him in the name of lower taxes and Democrats who wring their hands, weeping oh I don't agree with it but we'll lose the election if we fight it right now, the answer is none of us.

The brunch gays can come, too, I guess.

#long post #uncensored slurs #slurs #homophobic slurs #ronald reagan's grave is a gender neutral toilet #lgbtq #queer #trans #transgender #fag #dyke #lgbt

[what-even-is-thiss]

Even when I do “feminine” things I personally feel completely disconnected from the concept of femininity.

Androgyny isn’t by necessity a combination or confusion of masculine and feminine elements. I think I’m just some guy but in an androgynous way. A neutral way, even. Even when I do things typically considered “feminine” that doesn’t really feel feminine to me.

I feel like gay man or even asexual man sort of feels like a gender by itself sometimes due to societal necessity. So much of manhood in our society is defined by its opposition to and partnership with femininity. So when you refuse to make that a part of your life the world doesn’t quite know what to do with you. Everything you do with your gender presentation whether it be hyper masculine, hyper feminine, just normal, or androgynous, has become disconnected from the reasons society says you should or should not be that.

I see lesbians talking sometimes about their gender being lesbian and I get that completely but like from the other angle. Even if you have no partner and never will you’ve disconnected yourself completely from society’s ideas of how a life should go for someone of your supposed gender.

And all this is just my perspective and personal experience. I can’t speak for anyone else. But I guess that’s part of why I feel barely connected to my own gender even though I am trans and chose to be a man because that’s what I am and what makes me happiest. Part of why I also identify as non binary I think. Most gay or ace men won’t but to me at least society ties your gender so much to your sexuality that I can’t help but feel weird about where I’m sitting in that ecosystem and feel disconnected from it. I feel like gender wise I have far more in common with other queer men cis and otherwise then I do with anyone else. Just the way I see it though.

#roman said a thing #trans stuff

[petersthree]

Succession + My favorite queer readings of (most) of the Roy family

Image ID under the cut: 

Five large gifs of Connor Roy, Kendall Roy, Tom Wambsgans & Shiv Roy, Roman Roy, and Greg Roy. Each gif is split up into one black and white gif and six gifs in color. 

[Gif 1: A black and white gif of Connor Roy on the top right of the gif, putting on his suit jacket and talking. The set says Connor Roy, trans. To the left of the gif are two vertically rectangular gifs. One is of Connor in a khaki shirt saying “I am the eldest son of our father. I am. Me.” and the other is from the same scene, where Connor says “I’m the eldest son”. The camera pans to Shiv, who says “Well, yeah, obviously, but you know what he means.” Underneath the gifs is a horizontally rectangle shaped gif of Connor and Roman in an apartment. Connor says “You know, PGN pulls up that photo of me in a ponytail any time they want to call me untrustworthy.” Roman points in agreement with his thumb after Connor says this. Under the gif are two small square gifs. The one to the left is a video of Connor in a kitchen saying “Ding dong! Who’s there? Uncle Sam. And where’s his hand? In my pants.” The other gif has Logan (offscreen) saying “Cut the horseshit. Know your role.” Connor nods sadly and replies “Yes Pa.” The final gif is next to these squares and underneath the black and white gif, and it shows Gerri saying “First-second born son.” As she corrects herself, Connor rolls his eyes and looks away.] 

[Gif 2: A black and white gif of Kendall Roy at the top left of the gif. He is staring at Mattson (offscreen). The gif says Kendall Roy, queer. To the right of the gif are two vertically rectangular gifs. The first one shows Kendall in a dark blue shirt, speaking to Stewy (offscreen). Kendall says “There was no card he wouldn’t play against me.” The next gif shows Kendall speaking to Lawrence Yee, both in suits. Kendall pulls out a chair and says “So, are we ready to fuck or what?” while Lawrence chuckles, caught off guard. Underneath these gifs is a horizontal rectangular gif. It flips from Stewy embracing Kendall to a shot of Nate and Kendall ending their hug, arms still around each other. Unnder this gif are two square gifs. The one on the bottom right shows Logan saying “Hey, are you queer? Did you try to fuck him?”. The camera cuts to Kendall, who does not speak. The final gif is of Stewy speaking, the only thing onscreen is Stewy’s hand, which makes a handjob motion. The text says “Why don’t we do what we did back in the day, let’s go to the bathroom, have a little something something, just knock out a few ideas.” At some point his hand knocks against Kendall, who moves his hands away.] 

[Gif 3: A black and white gif of Tom and Shiv at the bottom right of the gif. They are biting each other’s arms and grinning at each other. The text says Tom Wambsgans & Shiv Roy, mlm & wlw (cringefail beards). The gifs to the left of them are two vertically rectangular gifs. The one on the right shows Tom speaking to Greg (offscreen), saying “I’d castrate you and marry you in a heartbeat.” The gif to the left shows Shiv in sunglasses, speaking to Logan (who is out of frame), saying “[Lisa’s], yeah, she’s a pretty...she’s a friend.” The gif above these two is a horizontal rectangle gif of both Shiv and Tom. Tom asks “Can I...watch?” and the camera cuts to Shiv, who lights up and says, “Oh, yeah!” The gifs above this are two square gifs. The one on the left shows Tom kissing Greg’s forehead in Greg’s office. The one to the right shows Shiv speaking with Rhea. Shiv says “So, are you a person who can’t look someone in the eye after you fucked them?” The final gif is next to these gifs and shows Tom, speaking to Greg (out of frame) and Logan (out of frame). To Greg he says, “Would you kiss me?” and to Logan he says “I could give you a kiss from here.”] 

[Gif 4: A black and white gif of Roman in his child’s Walmart shirt. The text says Roman Roy, gay, ace, bi, pan. The sexualities are all crossed out and the bottom text says Yes. To the right of this are two vertical rectangular gifs. The one on the left shows Roman speaking to Jeryd Menckyn (out of frame). Roman says Well this is nice. Couple of cool guys having some disgusting fun.” The camera then cuts to Roman winking at Mencken. The gif to the right shows Roman hugging a disinterested Eduard Asgarov. Roman says “Oh my god, you smell like cotton candy. I almost want to lick your neck.” The gif above is a horizontal rectangle gif. It shows Roman and his physical trainer, they are doing a session but the implication is suggestive. The subtitle shows Shiv’s line from season 3: “Everyone says that he used to get jerked off by his personal trainer.” There are two square gifs above this one. The one to the left is of Roman and Mencken smiling at each other in the bathroom. The one to the right is of Gerri on the phone, degrading Roman, while Roman  masturbates in his room. The final gif is of two shots. The first shot shows Roman saying “...and [I’m the only one] who doesn’t wanna fuck anyone” and the second shot shows Tabitha. Roman (offscreen) asks her “Is there anyone you haven’t fucked?” and Tabitha replies: “You!”]

[Gif 5: A black and white gif of Greg in a suit, with an auction sticker on his forehead that was placed there by Tom (offscreen). The text says Gregory Hirsch, Gay. To the left are two vertical rectangular squares. The one to the right shows Greg in a restaurant, asking “You trying to seduce me, Tom?” before it flips to a shot of Greg in the same scene, blushing and brushing back his hair behind his ears. The gif on the left shows Tom and Greg at Kendall’s birthday party. Tom says “I got a dick the size of a red sequoia and I fuck like a bullet train. Okay? Satisfied?” and Greg steps towards him and says “Prove it.” The gif underneath these two is a horizontal rectangle of Greg running up close to Tom, excitedly telling him something while Tom looks annoyed. Underneath this are two square gifs. The one to the left show Tom in a white suit and Greg in a polo. Greg’s hand is on his cheek, he smiles at Tom and says “Souls are boring!” and Tom puts his head down and laughs. The gif to the right shows Tom and Greg at Kendall’s party, and Greg says “Well, just...I haven’t seen you smile in, like six hours.” The final gif is next to it, it is a square gif of Greg in a suit, walking in the bathroom speaking to himself nervously. He says “You could go to jail. Yeah, would you like that? Would you like that, pretty boy like you? Would you like it? Oh, you might. You might even like that.”] 

#successionedit #succession #successiondaily #useroli #useraudrey2 #tuserlena #tuserdi #usernicolee #tuserbeth #angelspotlight #userbrina #userahay #userlex #kendall roy #connor roy #shiv roy #tom wambsgans #roman roy #greg hirsch #janie makes stuff #*gifs

[weirdly-specific-but-ok]

"you make being gay your personality" uh no

we talk about and make jokes about how we're gay, or trans, or bi, pan, enby, aro, ace and all of the lovely and valid identities in the queer spectrum. and if you think we do it too much and you're okay with queer people but why do we have to "make it our whole personality"? it's alright sit down i'll tell you what's up

(TLDR up front coz i know long posts are hard for some folks: we do it to affirm our identities and find love, acceptance and community because IT IS SO RARE TO FIND SAFE ENOUGH SPACES WHERE WE CAN TALK ABOUT OUR QUEERNESS.)

We're so relieved that we have even small spaces or people that we feel safe enough in and around to make those jokes and comments. We're so relieved, we want to enjoy that relief of not being hatecrimed, disowned, and all the awful things that happen to this community.

We're so intent in being proud of our identity and reaffirming it, when so many people invalidate us every day.

We're so eager to connect with other queer people, to be assured that we are not alone, we have a family, we have a community.

We want to lighten up the mood around queer discussions, to make sure it's recognised as normal and human, to make sure it's not a dark taboo topic.

We want to reassure ourselves. That we are safe, that we are accepted, that we are loved, that we are valid. And we are.

We talk about it, we make jokes about it, because for so many centuries, and even now in most places and for most people, we couldn't and can't. When we are able to, we will.

Some of us have different reasons, too, reasons I may not know about and that's great too! I'd love to hear the opinions of other queer folks. Tell me if you feel anything needs to be changed or clarified, too, I'm open to hearing you out :)

And as for things that are not jokes, if you're complaining about a queer person speaking up about their experiences and/or the discrimination they have faced then mate you need to leave, educate yourself on sensitivity and empathy, and only then return.

And to my queer siblings who say "i can't open this packet of biscuits im too gay for this": you guys are totally valid i too am too gay to open biscuit packets sometimes. Straight people who are offended by this: this is a joke. That we are allowed to make. See? it's that easy.

#lgbtqia #gay #lesbian #transgender #aro #ace #agender #genderfluid #bisexual #pansexual #nonbinary #gay jokes #gay memes #queer community #queer jokes #queer memes #queerphobes leave please there's the door #aphobes that includes you yes you are queerphobic #queer things #making it my whole personality right about now #too gay to function #disaster gays #aromantic #asexual

[the-delta-quadrant]

something that repeats itself over and over and over is that exclusionists don't understand the difference between one person and themselves, or one person and the entire community. they live for projection and generalisation. they live for an oversimplified mess.

we're seeing it now with mspec lesbians and lesbian men. someone states they're lesbian and attracted to men or speaks out in support of those who are and someone will immediately jump in and say "so you think that all lesbians are attracted to men?" as if someone stating their personal experience somehow makes it a universal truth, as if lesbians are a monolithic group.

the same thing happens when a trans man says he identifies as lesbian. someone will immediately jump in and say "oh, so you think me being a trans man attracted to women means i'm lesbian?" as if someone's personal experience is a universal truth, as if trans men are a monolith.

but this isn't new at all. REGs have always been awful at nuance. so much so that it often feels deliberate, to be honest. like a deliberate attempt to derail the conversation from the actual thing that's talked about, making it about a strawman that doesn't exist.

it happened with non-binary lesbians. "so all lesbians have to be attracted to non-binary people?" "so me being attracted to women as a non-binary person means i have to be lesbian?"

it happened with non-bi mspec people. "so because i'm attracted to people regardless of gender i can't call myself bi?" "so you think bi is exclusionary?"

it happened with aces not being comfortable being called bisexual, pansexual etc. "so you're reducing MY bisexuality to only sex?"

it happened with aces and aros labelling multiple orientations. "so you think everyone has to separate their sexual attraction from their romantic attraction?"

it happened with non-binary people. "so you think because i'm gnc i can't be a man/woman?"

and it probably happened with other identities before my time.

and for a group who loves to shout "non-binary isn't a single third gender", that loves to shout about how non-binary is not a monolith, they sure love treating basically every identity as one.

it's always the same. their response to other communities emerging and thriving is always that we're trying to take everything over with our ideas, that we want everyone to be like us, that we're somehow the ones that don't understand nuance. they think by stating our experiences we're trying to force our experiences into other people, despite us not randomly calling trans men lesbians without their consent, despite us not caring that people call all of their attractions collectively "pansexual", despite us not caring if people experience sexual and romantic people as one, despite us not forcing every trixic to be lesbian, despite us not caring that someone chooses the label bi over other mspec labels.

they also love to bring up real issues in this, trying to compare other people existing to real bigots, like people saying that asexuals not wanting to be called bisexual means that asexuals are just evil bimisics who oversexualise and fetishise bi people. and that's what makes it so much more believable to the people who aren't familiar with either side, because of course they agree that fetishising bi people is bad. they just don't realise that that's not what we're doing.

what we care about is inclusion. to not be erased. to not be demonised. to be respected. acknowledged. accepted. we want diversity, which includes people like and unlike us. but they think our existence is imposing something onto them. and this is honestly why i feel like there's no point in trying to convince REGs who are committed to their bullshit otherwise. it's no use. they'll just claim i'm trying to speak a universal truth by speaking my personal experience. they'll just keep using prescriptivist ideas and restrictive definitions of labels rather than treating identities like identities. they'll just go against everything that is queerness.

#queer #mogai #lgbt #lgbtq+ #gsrm #lgbt+ #rad inclus #genderqueer #nonbinary #trans #non binary #ace #aro #asexual #aromantic #enby #radinclus #mspec lesbian #non-binary lesbian #nonbinary lesbian #mspec #bisexual #pansexual #omnisexual #polysexual

[fanby-fckry]

It’s not Wednesday, but UH3 brainrot has once again consumed me.

I’m supposed to be catching up on Ace Alastor Week, and instead I’m writing ahead in the Season 1 fic.

Sneak peek below, heed the tags.

Content Warning: self harm*, blood, references to canon-typical violence, implied/referenced child abuse, inconsistent terminology regarding sex and gender**

*Whether or not this is self harm could probably be up for debate, but I, personally, consider it to be a form of self harm. Please put your own health and safety first; read with caution of feel free to keep scrolling. Stay safe, readers.

**Alastor sometimes conflates sex and gender because he just doesn’t think about or care what people have in their pants. He grew up in a time where the two were considered interchangeable; while he knows neither sex nor gender are static/that not everyone matches up with the gender they were assigned and will call a trans person by their chosen name/pronouns, gender them correctly, and treat them exactly like he’d treat anyone else, he still gets the terms a little mixed up from time to time. He wouldn’t gatekeep someone based on their transition status, because the physical state of someone else’s body isn’t his concern unless he’s actively in the process of killing them. And even then, he’s not focused on sex characteristics of any kind.

…

…

…

“And all this time, I thought it was mere population control!” Alastor ranted ino the private connection. He was pacing across his meticulously sound-proofed hotel room while his shadow flew from wall to wall.

“Well,” Lucifer began, but Alastor wasn’t done speaking and didn’t care for being interrupted.

“Ha!” Alastor laughed, threading a hand through his own hair. “Can you blame me?” he asked.

A rhetorical question, but Lucifer gave his best attempt at answering. “It is p-”

“They’ve got no style, no finesse! And barely any skill!” Alastor’s shadow curled its claws into fists, and Alastor removed his hand from his hair to keep himself from pulling it or digging his claws into his scalp as he felt the urge to do the same.

“Year after year, decade after decade, it’s nothing but artless, soulless slaughter!” Alastor laughed again, manic, hysterical, and lacking any and all joy. “Is it any wonder I assumed it was simply a mindless masacre?”

“Alastor-”

“Entertainment…” Alastor dug his claws into the inside of his palm, attempting to ground himself with the pain.

“If killing Sinners for one’s own entertainment is so damned Holy, then why is he in Heaven while I’m down here?” Alastor demanded, static rising in his voice. “Why, one could argue that he’s worse than I am!”

“He’s certainly killed more Sinners than I have by now, considering how long the Exterminations have been in effect.” Hell’s history books were patchy at best, and Lucifer only talked about his – and by extension, Hell’s – past in vague, non-specific terms, often while drunk or sentimental. Or both.

Alastor’s claws began to draw blood. “And from the combination of what Charlie and Lilith and you have all told me, he’s a vulgar, disrespectful chauvinist!”

The pain no longer felt like an anchor. It was fuel on the fire that was the rage burning within him, the wrath he felt at the injustice of it all.

“My mother raised me to be a gentleman,” Alastor said. “Any disrespect I show is based on a woman's actions, not her sex. But Adam expected Lilith to bend to his whims simply on the basis of her gender! He talked down to Charlie, likely on the same logic!”

“And yes, I kill because I enjoy it, but I’m selective with my victims! I enact vengeance on behalf of the weak and vulnerable! In life, I corrected the injustices of a corrupt system, and in death I punish those already Damned by their sins!”

Blood was seeping through Alastor’s knuckles. He pushed his claws deeper, sinking them into the meat of his palms.

“So why…?” There were bloodstains on the carpet. Niffty would be quite upset if she learned that the blood was Alastor’s rather than one of his meals’.

“Why?” Alastor repeated, barely audible above his own feedback. His cheeks were wet. He must have gotten blood on them at some point.

Everything was silent for a moment, save for the static Alastor couldn’t reign in.

Then, Lucifer spoke. “It’s complicated,” he said, quietly.

Alastor made an animalistic sound deep in the back of his throat, something between a growl and a whimper. But he let the Devil speak.

“I don’t know the particulars, but murder and vengeance are both Damnable sins.”

“Then why isn’t he Damned,” Alastor said through gritted teeth. “Why hasn’t Adam Fallen?”

Lucifer sighed. “Nepotism?”

Alastor laughed. “Oh, that’s rich coming from you!”

“What the fuck do you mean by that?” Lucifer asked, his volume increasing. “My Father kicked me out of Heaven for falling in love with Lilith and for daring to dream of a world where humanity wasn’t bound by eternal ignorance.”

“And he gave you a kingdom!” Alastor swung his arms, flinging blood across the room with the sheer force of the movement. “He let you and Lilith elope when he could’ve smited you both! Do you think he’d give the same courtesy to his other angelic children, or do the rumors of you being his favorite son hold true, hm, Lightbringer?”

The radio began to smoke and glow with a faint golden light.

“Get that name out of your fucking mouth, Alastor.”

Alastor ignored him, ignored the projections of his power.

“My father never would’ve shown me such benevolence if I’d disobeyed him the way you did yours.” Alastor moved to inspect the bloodstains on the walls. “And the best thing he ever gave me was a lesson in the inherent cruelty of man.”

#self harm cw #implied abuse cw #fanby’s fuckery #fanby’s fic snippets #fanby: uhverse #fanby: uh3 #fanby: an age of upheaval #not tagging fandoms and shit because i don’t want this breeching containment #uh: alastor #uh: lucifer #uh: radioapple

[thedrarrylibrarian]

Several people have been kind enough to let me publish their thoughts on fandom, community, and queerness to celebrate Pride in the Library. Today's piece comes from @lqtraintracks.

I got into fandom a long, long time ago, way back before I found HP in 2012. My early days in another fandom (days meaning years) are not a time I want to revisit, even though it started out really good. I got to explore my sexuality for the very first time there. I met my first gf there. And those things were beautiful, for sure; they were just short-lived. After a couple of years, I met an abuser, and from then on my fandom life was predetermined by them—what I could and couldn’t read, could and couldn’t write, who I could and couldn’t form friendships with, etc. And even in the midst of that, there were those friendships that bolstered me. @elrhiarhodan, I’m looking at you.

But after 13 ½ years of that… I found HP. And I found a wonderful person who would change my life. I met Shelly / @unmistakablyoatmeal. For the first time in a very long time, I saw someone writing queerly and freely, who, far from being limited to one pairing for life, was writing all kinds of pairings (and threesomes), dynamics, and stories! I was so powerfully drawn to that freedom, and to her, and in no small way, she and this fandom are why I survived, and how I escaped and started to change my life and reclaim it as my own. 

I’ve met so many wonderful people here, many of whom have become close friends, my best friends. I’ve been writing all the queer smut my little queer heart has desired for many years now, and it’s been beyond amazing.

But something changed for us a few years ago, and our community hasn’t been the same since. The person who wrote the canon turned on us. She revealed herself to be all kinds of monstrous. 

There were clues, of course—the antisemitism inherent in her Goblins, the fat phobia, the queer baiting without any actual rep, the racism and ignorance shown in naming Cho Chang, etc. We knew but maybe we didn’t want to know. And being white and not Jewish, I lived under an umbrella of privilege that meant I didn’t have to see it until other people began pointing these things out to me.

But then the transphobia started. And kept going. And it became her platform. And it got worse, and worse, and fucking worse

As painful and horrific as that has been, it seems to have done what that sort of vile bigotry has always done though: It’s shown us that we are and will always be stronger, wiser, more loving, and ultimately undefeatable. I’ll speak for myself: I wasn’t writing trans characters before. I was afraid I’d get it wrong. JKR’s evil bullshit is what pushed me to get over myself. 

This fandom is where I have learned the most about the queer community I love. It’s where I’ve truly learned to write. And it’s where I’ve learned about facets of queer life I’d never connected to properly before out of the fear of trying. 

Here’s what I’ve learned: Bloody no one comes together like we do! No one supports one another like we do! We’ve forged a stronger bond because of some terf’s hate, and I feel closer to my fellow queer creators than ever.

This fandom, you beautiful people, have taught me so much, continue to teach me so much. I’m honored to share this space with you. Happy Pride to all you gorgeous people being your trans, nb, fluid, ace, bi, pan, poly, intersex, queer, powerful selves.  Thank you from the bottom of my little queer heart. I love you.

Thank you, LQ, for joining me in the Library. I love your declaration of fandom as ours, and the recognition that we are a stronger community because of what we've overcome. Thank you for celebrating Pride in the Library with me.

If you want more @lqtraintracks be sure to check out their work on AO3! I just finished reading her Phoenix in the Fire and I was hooked the whole time! I couldn't stop until I'd devoured the whole thing. I think you'll be just as hooked as I was. I also want to throw in how much I loved A Strapping Young Man - I loved reading about Harry's desire for Draco, and how Harry's desire is bolstered by Draco's confidence.

🏳️‍🌈 Lots of Love and Happy Pride! 🏳️‍🌈

#pride 2023 #pride in the library #pride in the library 2023 #lots of love and happy pride #friends of the library #fandom community #lqtraintracks

[girltwinkskye]

Suppose I, a trans girl, was fully capable of making my voice sound like a passable girl. How do I not be scared of people's thoughts about it?

the shit you did with your dad was inspiring, and I need some of that confidence.

I dont know. I used to be extremely insecure about everything i did. What i did personally was just pretend to be confident. If you want to make your voice more feminine, go and do some voice training. While youre doing that and while you still have a manly voice dont put yourself down because of it. The more you internalize how much your voice sucks and how much you hate it (maybe) the worse you feel about yourself and the less confident you will be moving forward. Instead focus on how much progress youre making, or just focus on other things you like about yourself first. Basically trick yourself into liking yourself and you will soon learn to tolerate the things you dont like about yourself yet.

An example from my own life maybe. I used to feel very stupid and ugly a couple of years ago. In math i would always fail every test and i was underweight as hell. But guess what i still suck at it and it doesnt bother me anymore. Instead i focused on the subjects im good at. I speak fluent english, aced every history test and so on. That realization let me build up a sense of self worth outside of the stuff i suck at. And now i can do whatever i want to do without feeling insecure about it. Because i know that i have value and anything i want to do is fine to do because i am and feel important enough to do it no matter what other people might think.

So much for the whole confidence thing i guess. If you wanna do something, do it! Thats basically it.

"How do i not be scared of peoples thoughts about it?"

Why would you need to be scared? You obviously dislike your current voice but does anyone hate you for it? Why would anyone dislike it if you changed it? Unless youre talking about transphobes/bigots which are and always will be a problem no matter how much you change your voice for the better.

Tl;dr: focus on the stuff youre good at and you will be able to deal with the stuff youre bad at in a more healthy manner. Also your voice doesnt define your character and wont make people like or dislike you based on it alone.

(Also i havent even started voice training and im still a real girl just like you)

#ask #196 #trans #mental health

[koi-pond-tears]

Headcanons I love even tho they go against my main beliefs for these characters

Ace/Aro bakugou. Idk why but I just. Love it. So much. Like yes lil dude be free!!! Fuck nobody!!! You never needed bitches!!!

And especially the headcanons where he's like. Absolutely clueless about love. Like Mina will ask "so bakugou what's your type?" And he just looks confused n goes "?? You mean my blood type???"

Izuku and Katsuki being brothers. Like not literal brothers by blood but they have that brotherly bond. I actually do ship dekubaku but this headcanon is still very dear to me and I think in another universe it could work.

Like it's so funny imagining them fighting the way brothers do or being mean to each other but also having each other's backs and protecting/defending the other. I love that for them

Idk why but asexual todoroki just. Wow. I love him

I feel like he would still want a romantic relationship just without the sex part. Like he's totally cool with kissing or cuddling bc cmon there is no way in HELL this boy is not absolutely touch starved.

I feel like while Ace bakugou thinks sex is gross and is repulsed by it, ace todoroki is just indifferent to it. He doesn't rlly care or have any feelings towards it. Like ok bestie go smush your peepees together while I watch the entire Beverly Hills Chihuahua franchise

As much as I love my blorbos bakudeku together I have to admit the idea of izuku being the token straight friend in a class full of the ell gee bee tees is so fucking funny to me. Like he doesn't understand the lingo and is absolutely sweating his balls off trying not to say something offensive and it's just hilarious. He accidentally uses she/her instead of they/them once and almost commits seppuku ( a japanese style of suicide which includes disembowelment)

I'm sure he includes everyone's pronouns in their description in his notebook to make sure he remembers what to use

Nonbinary jirou just. Fits. Like idk what anyone has to say about that but look me in the eye and tell me that bitch doesn't put on a binder

They're an enby and also bisexual bc I am correct about everything.

Trans kiri just works.

If deku doesn't grow up to be tall as fuck then I will literally have a meltdown

does he not look like the tall lanky nice friend that can't even say fuck??? Look me in the eye and tell me that. Do it.

Eri grows up to be really tall

Like idk where this comes from but to me she's just. Tall. Girly doesn't get you things from the top shelf she IS the top shelf

Also I personally don't like the eri x kota ship, I think it's kinda weird to be wanting these whole ass 6 year Olds to date, idk but it makes me uncomfortable

I saw a post once that said that Ochaco would be an active memelord (back when that term wasn't cringe) and oh my god. No. This bitch wouldn't know anything.

She has a fucking flip phone I doubt she has access to motherfucking twitter

I think she'd be like Izuku where she's just absolutely clueless on the lingo and slang and feels left out when her friends reference memes she's never seen before

And even if they do take the time to send her one or two she wouldn't understand it

I also saw this in a different post but tsuyu listens to asmr

Tokoyami too

I love the black Mina headcanons but I'm filipino and so starved of representation so I'll just pretend she's half pinoy but grew up in japan so she doesn't really know much of the language (you'd be surprised how many of us don't speak our native language despite living here all our lives)

Himikos eyebags come from the many long nights she spent as a villain doing literally anything else but getting a good night's sleep. Like I know in the backstory episodes we see her with the eyebags as a child, but when I first watched the show I just assumed that that was the reason she had them, and I'll stick to that till I die

Mirio is autistic. Do not argue with me I am right.

#asexual bakugou #asexual tododoki #asexual #aroace #mha #my hero academia #mha headcanons #mha hcs #headcanons #bakugou #todoroki #midoriya #uraraka #tsuyu #tokoyami #mirio togata #toga himiko #jirou kyouka

[tfp-enthusiast]

Can I have some Headcanons with TFP Wheeljack & a Trans reader who came out to him?

[Sure, it was a bit hard to write for me cause I was worried I would offend someone, if I did tell me, so I was just slowly driving my one braincell to go insane]

[I made Reader human, hope you don't mind]

[Since you didn't specify if it's meant to be platonic or romantic I made it so that you can choose for yourself.]

Wheeljack X Human!Trans!Reader

Before:

Before you came out to him he didn't even see anything different if you stood next to the kids from the base.

He knew there where differences in like the way you act or speak or look but it's more like that he didn't see you as that much different in a sense of 'that person is bad' or something, just another being that lives and is one of his friends.

Coming out:

I gotta warn you though; if you come out to him it's probably gonna be different from what you normally expect from any person.

Like he doesn't even listen to you, or at least it seems like it.

It would probably go like this:

"Wheeljack.. I-I think I don't wannabe a boy/girl anymore..."

"Mh? If you think so.. Can you help me real quick? You're so small, you can get that cable there easier than me."

At first this makes you probably insecure or confused you but he doesn't mean it in the way you probably think he does.

It's just not such a big deal for most Bot's, especially where he's from, and he thought it would be like that everywhere.

After:

After you, or one of the kids probably, explain it and why it's a little wierd for most people that someone isn't happy with their gender he does get a little mad.

He just doesn't understand why some make such a drama about the decision of someone else, like it isn't something bad or hurts anyone else, why would you bitch about someone elses body?

When he gets you from school/work he always makes sure to ask you how you feel and if anything happened.

Last time someone bullied you for wanting to change your gender Wheeljack almost ran them over out of anger that he actually saw that happen with his own optics.

He will absolutely try and make sure that you know that if you want to do it and you think it helps you then you should absolutely do it.

If you are a girl and wanna be a boy? If you wear a binder one day he will shower you in compliments about how cool you look and that he is so unbelievably proud of you because you finally grew balls (no pun intended) to wear one, especially in public!

You must tell him that you have to take breaks from the binder tho because he doesn't know much. When the binder is off then he always let's you sit in his half-closed servo or in his vehicle mode because he knows that you feel more comfortable when less see you without it.

You're a boy that wants to be a girl? He secretly loves it when you ask him to help look for something that looks good on you, likes especially if you wear tomboy clothes but he likes everything else too.

He will also praise you if you change your hairstyle or even if you just wear that one shirt that you liked but didn't really have the courage to and he will absolutely call you beautiful for the rest of the day, so much that you actually have to stop him at some point.

Summary:

He doesn't really care at first because he thinks it's okay and normal if someone want to change something about themselves and if they are happy with it then why not?

He just thinks that as long as it's not bothering anyone else then why should you not do it?

But when he sees anyone insult you in anyway then you can bet your sweet ass that he will try his best to run them over or at least give them the scare of their life.

Will show a lot more openly that he cares for you because of that.

[Here a little Authors note because I think it's important to say this.]

[Doesn't matter if your trans, gay, nonbinary, ace or something else, if you don't feel comfortable in your body because you want to have a different gender or like a specific gender then get help if you think you can't help yourself on your own. Get yourself a good frirnd that assures you that it's okay to feel this way and that protects you a little or get yourself a teacher/psychiatrist/call a special hotline for those situations. Don't let the feeling of being different, in a bad way, control your life. You should feel comfortable in your body and if there are some people talking shit about that then try to ignore it(I know it's hard) or get someone that can help you with those kinds of people.]

[I know it seems often like people are saying this like it's easy or no big deal or you feel like it doesn't work for you and you feel desperate, but I just want to try and help at least a little or give people the feeling of not being alone in this.]

[I'm sorry that this became a lot more serious than normally but I just wanted to tell this.]

#tfp x reader #tfp wheeljack x reader #Trans!Reader

[moonmeg]

How would Caleb react to one of his children being part of the LGBTQ+ community? I know that obviously Caleb would continue to love his son no matter what, because he is the father that we all love, but it can still be a cultural shock, so to speak.

greetings 💚 :D

Funny you ask, Robyn is indeed bi (when he's a teen and up) - it's a Clawthorne thing or something.

Caleb had it all explained by his lovely wife way before they were married because he was exposed to more mlm, wlw, poly etc. relationships in the demon realm than he would've ever been in Gravesfield and so he just had to ask. Kitty/Eve herself is pan (and he himself is kinda bicurious at the least).

By the time Robyn or another of his kids were to tell him they're bi/gay/lesbian/pan/ace/..., the surprise factor and the "how do I handle this??? I was taught this is wrong??? KITTY HELP??" factor would be nonexistent as by then he would've already spent over 10 years on the Boiling Isles and more or less forget and ignore what was drilled into him as a kid. I paint him as a very open minded person. My guy literally looked over all he was taught about witches and demons and decided to stay on the Isles and marry his hot witch crush.

All that matters to him is that his babies are happy and loved.

My guy would give a thumbs up and probably bake a cake with some dumb pun on it - "my kid is trans, so now I'm transparent"- esque. He'd possibly even act as wingman. Unasked of course. Robyn would be like "that guy kinda cute-" and Caleb is all "Say no more, son". Before Robyn can even realize what is happening, Caleb is talking to the guy like "Excuse me? Hi. My son thinks you're cute. Yeah, the one staring at us big eyed, face red."

"WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT, PA?!?!"

"Standing around and staring will not get you into a relationship. You're welcome."

"WHAT RELATIONSHIP EVER HAPPENED BECAUSE A FATHER SAID 'MY SON THINKS YOU'RE CUTE' TO A STRANGER????"

#moonmeg ask #tdaac

[paloma-ascends-into-hellfire]

intro post or whatever because why not i'm bored and i should be studying for my finals but haha, clearly i'm not

~ basic info ~

paloma/palo/whatever | she/they | ace + bi | latine (el salvador)/canadian | infp | bookworm | writer | music lover | theatre kid |

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~ books and movies and musicals, oh my~

percy jackson / a good girl's guide to murder / one of us is lying /

epic the musical/ starkid/tcb/ dear evan hansen (i'm sorry i'm a cringey teenager) / stranger things (fuck noah schnapp) / the outsiders / glee (again, cringey teenager) / wednesday / rtc

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~ music ~

laufey, olivia rodrigo, melanie martinez, the cardigans, em beihold, precious pepala, paris paloma, dove cameron, showtunes, taylor swift, abba, seb lowe, daisy grenade, billie eilish, renée rapp, paramore, dua lipa, camilla cabello, kaia jette, kendall nicole, mariah rose faith, haim

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~ fav albums ~

guts, olivia rodrigo

reputation, taylor swift

1989, taylor swift

speak now, taylor swift

midnights, taylor swift

egg in the backseat, em beihold

when we all fall asleep where do we go?, billie eilish

sour, olivia rodrigo

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~ misc. ~

i play alto sax, drums, keyboard, and clarinet

my blog is kind of a disaster, but it's mostly hatchetfield, spies are forever, lgbtq+, current events, wholesome stuff, and occasionally a personal anecdote, we're kinda all over the place here but oh well

PLEASE TALK TO ME ABOUT MEDICAL STUFF ESP MEDICAL HISTORY

also i love ranting so if you wanna rant with someone, i'm your girl

free palestine

fuck jkr

trans rights

go away terfs, homophobes, aphobes, islamaphobes, anti-semites, racists, bigots in general

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#intro post

[jibbi]

Matt Walsh Wrongly Calls Out Someone Who's Ace

So, ever since last month, I've been a bit heated about Matt Walsh making a video on (or close to) Valentine's Day putting down an asexual girl briefly speaking in an article about what she enjoys doing on Valentine's Day for herself. Listen, I'm heated about most things this man says and how hateful he is, especially towards anyone - mainly us trans folks - in the LGBT+ community. But the fact that he constantly says how we sexualize so many other people and things yet completely contradicts his usual narrative by insulting someone who isn't even interested in sex just really struck an extra nerve.

I was happy to see The Queer Kiwi and Annamarie Forcino recently call him out on this video, but I wanted to bring some more attention to it, speaking from my own experience as an aro-ace person and what I've learned. I feel like there's hardly ever enough light shined on aro-ace folks, but we certainly didn't deserve a negative light shined on us by Matt Walsh, one of the most massive bigots out there.

Touching on Demi Romantics/Sexuals

So Matt had read direct definitions about being asexual and aromantic, and one of the sub-labels that was defined within that definition was demisexuality and demiromanticism. Of course Matt had to make a comment about this, saying how making a friend and falling in love with them is a normal person's emotions and experience.

However, I will say I do understand where that misguidance comes from, considering it's what I originally thought too when trying to gain an understanding of demisexuality (even Annamarie expressed this misunderstanding in her video, too). So let me just give a breakdown on why this is a common notion amongst people who don't fully understand demisexuality/demiromanticism:

It's a very common plot in fictional romance for two people who are already friends (or who develop a friendship) to fall in love with each other. And naturally, when people think of a common romance story, they think of that plot and/or maybe it's something they themselves have experienced or want to experience. So, they think just about everyone else also feels that way or has had that same/similar experience. But, the truth of the matter is, that's not necessarily what everyone wants and/or has and most importantly, it's not something allo folks need to build a relationship.

Lemme explain. For allo people, it can be a want but it's not a needed thing in order for them to simply develop any sort of romantic and/or sexual attraction to someone. That's the biggest thing. Demisexual and demiromantic people absolutely need that deep platonic connection with someone in order to develop that desire for a romantic relationship or sex life with them.

A lot of allo people are able to look at someone or know someone for a very short span of time, and desire that sexual and/or romantic relationship with them, feel that attraction to them without knowing them well. That isn't something that happens for demi rom/sexual people.

Asexual people aren't miserable & narcissistic

Matt talks about how ace people live sad, pathetic lives just because they're don't want sex and, are making up a label just to mask their low libido or want for sex but not getting it and to feel good about themselves since they're narcissists.

Man, that is one of the stupidest things I think I've ever heard. Asexuals don't necessarily need to experience sex to be happy, hence why they're asexuals. Also, that is exactly what Odel Pax is trying to get across in the article - she's asexual but that doesn't wreck her Valentine's Day.

Also, I feel like the word "narcissist" gets tossed around so much without fully understanding how serious of a term it is and what actual signs of being a narcissist are. For instance, a very big sign of a narcissist is having a strong disregard for other's emotions and having no problem manipulating their emotion's for their own personal gain. That's not what LGBT+ people do. They're just trying to live their lives and shine a spotlight on their identity to bring awareness about what they experience in hopes of helping and educating others.

Matt often tries to say that people in the LGBT+ community are narcissists because they're "entitled" and all they want is attention yet can't take harsh feedback, when that's not the case at all considering so many bigots - like him - say such foul things about them and make them more oppressed. Like, why would anyone want that? Why would anyone fake being queer for attention when half of it is extremely negative attention that includes threats? Yet here he is saying they're the least oppressed people to walk this earth.

Also, sexual attraction and libido are not the same thing. Libido is someone's sex drive; that natural bodily sense of needing that pleasure that sex gives. Sexual attraction mainly refers to that want for sex, especially with another person. For instance, in my own experience, sometimes I do have that bit of a sex drive because it's something my body naturally sees as a need but do I often feel a sexual attraction? No, not really. Having actual sex with someone isn't something I enjoy much at all, and I often don't feel sexually attracted to others. But, seeing as how this is something I can't control - I've just always been this way - I'm asexual. It's not a chosen thing or something I see as made up when it's an actual emotion I feel and have no control over.

I think a decent analogy for what I said is when you need a drink after a run you just went on. Your body needs the fluid but someone only has a drink for you that you don't like. However, it's all you have and it's still a drink. So you still drink it even though you don't really like the taste. That's what it's like when your libido increases but you're on the ace-spec. (Also, just to clarify, just because someone's libido has risen doesn't mean they necessarily want to or feel comfortable satisfying that need/craving).

Romantic Attraction & Sexual Attraction are different

I feel like this isn't hard to understand. Matt says these two are "synonymous" but they aren't. There's a reason why I've been separating the words aromantic and asexual throughout this breakdown of his video - because they're different. You aren't romantically attracted to every person you're sexually attracted to, and vice versa. This applies to people who aren't even on the a-spec. Annamarie explains this is her video, too. I too do not get how Matt doesn't understand this concept.

He also states that when you tell someone you want to date them but don't want sex with them you have given them no useful information. Like what. That's directly explaining that you are romantically attracted to this person but not sexually attracted. Not all relationships involve sex nor need to. You don't have to have sex with someone to love them or vice versa.

Conclusion

Matt Walsh as usual calls someone out who he doesn't understand and doesn't make the effort to understand. He wrongly stated things about an asexual person and said they're not asexual - those aren't facts, that's just him making things up and spewing his own opinion.

Matt doesn't care about the LGBT+ community and he'll keep stating all these wrong, made up things about us. He's not smart, he's hateful, so don't let him tell you who you are.

I'm always glad to advocate for my community. I wanted to call him out and properly explain things on the a-spec. I'd love to do posts about his terrible opinions on trans people and other gay people, but that would take a very long time seeing as how he targets them even more than the aro-ace community within the LGBT+ community.

#aroace #aroace and proud #ace pride #aro pride #ace #aro #asexual #aromantic #a spec #lgbt #lgbt pride #matt walsh #the daily wire #fuck matt walsh

[aroaceconfessions]

TW for discussion of negativity I guess?

Maybe I’m just too internet poisoned, but part of what is so frustrating about my Aro Experience(tm) is, like, I don’t know how to compare it to other queer identities. Aro or ace appear to be the only ones who arrive at self-discovery through a perceived “lack” of feeling or experience. (I can’t speak for agender - please correct me if I’m wrong! - but I assume that experience is more in line with nonbinary or trans or genderqueer self-discovery.) There isn’t any other group of people we can look to for help.

And whenever you search for resources or help, ALL you get is a million other voices saying the exact same damn thing as you. Telling me it “takes time to grieve” isn’t enough on its own, because I’ve been grieving this since puberty. I’ve burned through therapists like matchsticks, and no one has been able to offer real help with the daily disappointment and resentment.

Like I KNOW I’m biased. I KNOW I do NOT understand The Trans Experience. But if I was trans instead of aro, one of my biggest childhood hopes (falling in love) would still be possible. If I was trans, if I was bi, if I was nonbinary, if I was “just” gay, I could still hope for love.

I know I can still “love and be loved” as an aroace person. Theoretically. In real life, the odds of anyone devoting themselves to me and building a life with me are so low. And I know I need to brace myself for a life on my own, but also if I give up hope entirely then what’s the point of going forward at all?

It just all feels so damn unfair. And that’s why I complain (although I try to keep it tagged and hidden). Sorry, everyone :/

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #arospec #acespec #aspec #aroacespec #arose #amatonormativity #internalized aphobia