#elder gay

[machette-rhetti]

I know it’s like a kinda duh thing in hindsight but when you come out (as any kind of queer) to people and the reaction is anything but acceptance and interest in your identity it sucks ass. Like I keep thinking about with family oh it isn’t so bad at least they didn’t call me a bunch of slurs. But it’s like if I have to coddle you through it all just to get to the point of acceptance that actually just sucks. And my family never even got to the acceptance point. If you’re going thru it with ppl and coming out just know that anything but acceptance is actually below the bar of what love is. You can choose what to do with that but know you deserve better.

#queer #shower thoughts #coming out #elder gay #nonbinary #trans #bisexual #lesbian #gay #asexual #lgbtqia #pansexual #genderqueer

[remembertheplunge]

Getting dumped because I was 54

Another page from Black Lives Journal: (See the 1/1/2024  blog re: Black Pearls Journal)

PREJUDICE

"Terms like “prejudice” and “racism” often miss the full scope of racial devaluation in  our society, implying as they do that racial devaluation comes primarily from the strongly prejudiced, not from the good people.”

Claude M. Steele

April 11, 2010 Sunday 7:29am

“On this day, I…think about getting dumped by a young guy at the Midnight Sun because I was 54. Later, at a gay magazine store near by, the young male clerk, hearing my story about being dumped  said re: the guy who dumped me “Fuck him. I hate ageism.”

In another store, after telling the grey haired male clerk the same story, he said “A guy picked me because of my age.’

Later, at the card shop, the clerk there said “54. That’s young. Wish I were 54 again.”

End of entry

Note:

The Mid Night Sun was and still is a gay video bar on 18th street near Castro in San Fransisco, California. 

#journaling #writing #agesim #older gay male #elder gay #prejudice because of age #4/10/2010 #i forgot to give Claude M. Steel credit for the prejudice quote in my original blog

[blackbirdsilhouette]

Loving my new frames! 🤓

#gaylatino #gaybear #gaymer #gay cub #gay latinx #queer writers #beardedgay #elder gay #queer poets on tumblr

[prince-of-liafail]

just encountered a "my wife" (sapphic) in the comments section of a friendship bracelet pattern site. my heart <3

#sapphic #pan #bi #lesbian #elder gay #they looked like my moms age #SO wholesome #my post

[vergeofinsanity]

WOAHHHH

weird old gay rambling time

im not even twenty yet and i feel like an elder gay for this but-

most of my life i was ADAMANTLY anti-having a child in my future. i mean, they are drooly, and stinky, and so much work. and I knew i did not want to be pregnant and a baby was such a hypothetical that it was an immediate no for me

but i recently got a boyfriend, and our relationship is quite sustainable and happy. and i know he wants kids in the future. and as a logistical thing, not a honeymoon thing, i could very well see a place for him in my future. which has made me think recently.... do I want a baby?

i think the answer recently (not because of him) is im open to it. honestly? im stinky and drooly and a lot of work and people put up with me! and to have a kid of my own? to raise and love and do the best i can to make another great person in this world?

fuck maybe its the tiktoks but i might be having my first baby fever 💀

and look, this man is a social science ed major, im a poli sci/OL major. we arent going to be financially stable for a VERY long time if we stay together, so this is a far off idea still-

but maybe my horror at the idea of a child is a tad bit unfounded

#trans #lgbtq #mlm #elder gay #elderish gay #idek if im an elder fay yet but when i was young i never saw trans guys who were on t and in college with the possibility of children so #for the sake of my 12 yr old self and any trans kids out there who dont see their future yet #this is an elder gay ramble #yeah my moms gonna be thrilled if i ever tell her abt this shes so salty that neither of her kids wanted to give her grandchildren #now i need to unlearn my trauma so i can be a better parent than eithernof mine were

[wronggalaxy]

I don't want to be queer anymore.

Not only has it led to abuse, bullying, and worse for me and others in the community, but it's impossible to be accepted.

Half the LGBT people my age are really shitty; cheaters, friends with people no matter their views, quick to abandon others just because, etc. And all the ones older than me constantly make fun of 25 and under members of the community for everything, even stuff we don't do. Then there's the people who have decided for whatever reason that the community isn't discriminated against and are just being dramatic.

Why can't I just be cishet? I hate this.

I've literally been out for three years, and I still get called a baby gay just because I have dyed hair, hang out with other queers(they're all alright with that word being used to describe them), and like the flags.

When I first realized I was trans and pan I was so excited. Life finally made sense, felt right, I would have a community to love and support me. I couldn't have been more wrong.

Ya'll disgust me, open-minded my ass.

#queer representation #queer stuff #queer #lgbtq #lgbtq community #lgbt problems #lgbtpeople #trans boy #transmasc #transgender #genderqueer #nonbinary #pansexuel #demisexual #demiromantic #acespec #arospec #baby gay #elder gay #coming out #support #acceptance #accountability

[garethschweitzer]

Orren and Robert

#orren and robert #elder gay #eccentric #superior style

[testosteronetwunk]

#tes #skyrim #the elder scrolls #gay #greatest hits

[the-sappho-of-lesbos]

Source: Out In America; A Portrait Of Gay and Lesbian Life , by Michael Goff and the staff of OUT magazine

#gay elders #older gay men #gay man #gay men #gay love #lgbt history #gay male positivity #gay male love #gay male history #image #photo #lgbt #gay intimacy #gay #personal

[blue-genes]

#not mine #tesblr #tes #the elder scrolls #elder scrolls #morrowind #oblivion #skyrim #redguard #thalmor #sotha sil #vivec #ulfric stormcloak #genderfluid #intersex #gay #prostetics

[kuuwo]

House Dagoth possession

#happy valentines #Voryn stared at my souls for 4 days straight for peeking his hot gay kiss #morrowind #nerevoryn #tes #elder scrolls #indoril nerevar #the elder scrolls #voryn dagoth #my art #illustration

[blackbirdsilhouette]

Feeling my oats this morning

#gay bear #gay latino #gaymer #dad bod #joteria #queer gpoy #gpoy #me #elder gay #queer writers #gaylatino #queer poets on tumblr

[remembertheplunge]

My name is Lew Wentz.

I am a 68 year old gay criminal defense lawyer. I have been keeping journals for 46 years. I am writing a book based on the journals.

I came out as a gay man in 1984. I was married to a woman then. I left the marriage after telling her I was gay.

My younger sister, Zoe, who I was very close to, died rather suddenly of pancreatic cancer earlier this year. She gave me permission to blog the last two weeks of her life. Those blogs run from May 1 to May 14, 2023.

I journaled my journey through the turbulent 1980's and 1990's. During that time, I was pretty vocal about being gay. I volunteered to help people with aids through their illness and death. And, I believe because of this, I was fired from my job as a deputy Public Defender in Modesto California. I also documented the 12 year relationship I had with my partner, Jim, who died in 2009.

I wrote pretty much daily about these events and many others. I never intended for the entries to be made public. But, I now think they should be, as they weave what I believe to be our common story of what it's been like to be out, human and gay in the past four decades.

And, as I journaled, I developed ideas and ways to journal and wrote about them in the journals. I discuss the impact journaling has had on me. And, the amazing revelation reviewing journal entries for the blog and book of just how incredible our lives have been. Memory fades. The journal details do not.

My hope is that , after reading the blogs, and maybe some day the book, you too will become addicted to journaling. Your life on paper will amaze you down the line.

My blog turned one year old on February 5, 2024.

#journaling #gay man #criminal defense attorney #gay history #journaling techniques #Remember the Plunge Blog turned 0ne Year old February 5 #writing #radical gay elder #aids #volunteer support for people with aids through illness and death in the 80's and 90's. #gym and diet enthusiast #being fired from a job I believe because I was out #gay and vocal #Being disinherited for the same reason. #death of a sister #working through grief and mourning

[gayelderstourney]

GAY ELDERS BRACKET ROUND 4 (SEMIFINALS)

Propaganda:

Eda Clawthorne/Raine Whispers:

they were high school sweethearts but ended up going on completely different paths in life; they met again many years later and rekindled their relationship. they led a rebellion against the corrupt government together. eda turns into a harpy and raine’s reaction is pure awe. they’re canonically two of the strongest witches on the boiling isles. also their adopted son is the son of god!

Bob Zanotto/Helmut Fullbear:

THEY LITERALLY MADE MR CRY THE FIRST TIME I PLAYED THE GAME. THEY LOVE EACH OTHER SO MUCH AND THEY FINALLY GET TO BE HAPPY TOGETHER. YOU DONT UNDERSTAND HOW MUCH THEY MEAN TO ME.

they are married in canon and are epic and amazing. they had sad canon events where bob thought helmut was dead for like 30 years or something but helmut WASN'T dead his brain was still alive and they are reunited in the game first by way of stealing an evil dictator's body and then later on they put helmut's brain in a ball as a temporary fix while they go out to find his body which has been frozen in ice. the game forces you to walk through bob's memory of saying his vows at their wedding ceremony and it's seriously some of the most romantic and heartwarming shit i've ever heard, especially "just when i thought i was turning to seed, you made me bloom again" like my god. i love them

they're gay and old as hell!!!! there's a level dedicated to their wedding!!!

Helmut is voiced by Jack Black and is currently a brain in a ball, and Bob knows him so well that the mental image of him in his drunken mind says things Bob KNOWS the real Helmut would never say. Also Helmut is temporarily in the body of a guy voiced by Elijah Wood-

#polls #round 4 #gay elders tourney #tournament poll #eda clawthorne #raine whispers #the owl house #raeda #psychonauts #bob zanotto #helmut fullbear #vikingvines

[she-is-ovarit]

Identifying as.

This is Rachel Dolezal, who legally changed her name to Nkechi Amare Diallo. Dolezal is a white woman who identifies as black and insists that she is transracial. Growing up, her religious white parents adopted four black babies, claiming that they "saved them from being aborted", and routinely delivered strict punishments to their kids including Dolezal. Dolezal does not seem to have a good relationship with her parents and, based on interviews, wanted to distance herself from them and distance herself from rural white culture.

"I've never questioned being a girl or woman, for example, but whiteness has always felt foreign to me, for as long as I can remember. I didn't choose to feel this way or be this way, I just am. What other choice is there than to be exactly who we are?"

She apparently "passed as black" for several years before her parents came out and said that she was white and is identifying as a black woman, and she was asked in a TV interview if she was African American and responded with "I don't understand the question". She taught Africana Studies at Eastern Washington University. She crafted a fake story in growing up as black and has argued that she experiences race-based related hate crimes. She darkens her skin and gets perms and started using hair products she observed her adopted black sibling to use. She lied about her father being black and lied that her black adopted brother was her son.

I hope that as details of Dolezal's story are read about, we are able to understand that tanning white skin does not make someone a black person, that blackface is wrong and racist. I hope we recognize that what makes someone black isn't a collection of racial stereotypes, isn't based on feeling a kinship with black people more than with white people, and that being black isn't based on not feeling a connection with white culture. I hope we understand that a black person cannot identify out of racial oppression, and that a white person cannot identify out of white privilege.

Jewel Shuping, age 38 now, was born healthy but dreamed of being blind since age 13. She stated her mother would tell stories about finding her walking down dark hallways at age 3, and mentioned that by age 6 the thought of being blind comforted her. When she was a teenager, Shuping bought a white cane and learned to read braille, becoming fluent in it by age 20.

She claims to have asked a psychologist to pour bleach in her eyes so she could fulfill her lifelong dream of being blind, and that the psychologist "understood her" and agreed to do so after giving her numbing eye drops to help with the pain (which was not ultimately helpful). She deliberately waited to seek medical attention so doctors were unable to save her eyesight. Gradually, over the course of six months, she became blind.

What Shuping has is considered a real mental health condition called Body Integrity Identity Disorder (BIID), a rare condition in which people who are born without disabilities believe with conviction that the should be disabled. There is another name for this in political activist circles, termed "transableism".

"I went blind on purpose, but I don't feel it was a choice."

Several other people with BIID are pretending to be paralyzed to use wheelchairs, with many not being driven to the point of causing harm to themselves to become disabled but instead living full lives faking being disabled.

I hope that as details of the stories of people pretending to be disabled are read about, we are able to understand that feeling like oneself should be disabled is an incredibly serious mental health condition and does not really mean that a person is "disabled inside". I hope we recognize that identifying as disabled does not make someone disabled, and that feeling a kinship with disabled people or a comfort in the thought of being disabled does not mean a person truly is or should become disabled. I hope we understand how people with mental health disorders claiming to be disabled can place further strain on resources and accommodations provided to disabled people. I hope we understand that inflicting pain, disfigurement, or physical altercations on healthy people to "help them physically match how they feel" is an inhumane way to treat a mental health condition.

Paul Wolscht, who changed his name to Stefonknee Wolscht, was married to a woman for over 20 years and fathered 7 children before deciding to live life identifying as a six year old little girl. Living as a six year old little girl allows Wolscht to escape depression and suicidal thoughts because Wolscht gets to now play - even when in jail in solitary confinement for nine days for an undisclosed reason.

“If I’m six-years-old, I don’t have to think about adult stuff.”

Wolscht still drives and drinks coffee, but does so feeling and identifying as a six year old.

Emile Ratelband, age 69, petitioned the courts to allow him to change his age to 20 years younger because he "does not feel" 69 years old. Ratelband has argued that he did not feel comfortable with his date of birth, that age 69 did not accurately reflect his mental state, and that at age 69 he experiences limits.

“When I’m 69, I am limited. If I’m 49, then I can buy a new house, drive a different car,” he said. “I can take up more work. When I’m on Tinder and it says I’m 69, I don’t get an answer. When I’m 49, with the face I have, I will be in a luxurious position.”

Ratelband even asserted that doctors have told him he has the body of a man 20 years younger, and he said that he was willing to renounce his right to a pension. He argues that if people are able to legally change their sex on documents, there is no reason why he should not be able to change his age.

I hope that as we read these stories of people identifying as a different age, we are able to understand that feeling like you are 20 years younger or 40 years younger does not really make you that age. I hope that we understand that even though identifying as a different age might help avoid suicidal thoughts, being discriminated against on dating apps, or denied resources, it does not really change biologically what is. I hope we understand that there are also broader societal and legal consequences to being able to legally change one's age. That an adult might identify as a certain age to trick kids into trusting them so they can sexually abuse them, and/or that allowing an adult to legally consider themselves a different age would make it easier for adult predators to gain legal access to kids in environments in which they would normally be socially and legally discouraged from being in.

#trans #trans identity #transgender #trans pride #trans people #LGBTQ #lgbtq community #gender #transage #transabled #transracial #racism #ageism #sexism #ableism #disability rights #gay rights #LGB #women's rights #elder rights #mental health

[i-like-eyes]

hello to all my tf2 followers that are just finding out i am a massive puppet stan

#its okay i still love heavymedic #but these two are like my dads #gay elders tourney #myart #??? #the muppets #tf2