#you adore me

[whatudowhennooneseesyou]

HELLO, IT HAS BEEN A WHILE! Sooooo as to the discussion…..I got daddy issues so possessive men have a soft spot for me lolol. I know it isn’t healthy but dammit let me just FEEL something. I know this is most likely because of my fucked up mind but hear me out: I like the idea of my man’s wanting me all to himself and protecting me because that’s how I would know he loves me. I like passionate people and I feel like if my bf wasn’t cutely possessive I would get anxious if he even likes me all that much. I just like the idea of being liked so much he worried about me 24/7 (cuz men in my life usually don’t give a flying f about me lolol). I don’t have many male friends anyways so 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Hey, you're back!

Good to hear from you again.

It's okay babe, I have daddy issues too.

I would much rather have a possessive man that someone who is detached and doesn't care about me at all.

Passion is everything to me...effort is everything to me!

Okay, the 24/7 is a bit pushing it though babe, that would involve him messaging you every 5 mins just to check in but I completely understand the need to just feel adored.

#i wannna be adooooorrrrreddd #you adore me #whatudowhennooneseesyou moots #whatudowhennooneseesyou answered asks #slumber party with ruby #fun times with ruby

[megan03197]

"Voleva già finirla. Io gli ho dato l'opportunità di farlo."

Mia

#mia #amore mio #amore #love me #kiss #Kiss Me #love me harder #miss me #miss you #i adore you #you adore me #i love it

[sparklingthedas]

Astarion lectures of disappointment >>>

#astarion #baldur's gate 3 #he makes me so happy even when he’s flustered #hilarious #Neil newbon thank you for being you #also yes the other thing he says about the full concentrated power of the sun is also adorably fit giving

[the-phantom-peach]

🗣️ huh?? what do you mean I haven’t posted any Link signing propaganda yet??

#doodled a little comic bc I think the link/korok relationship is adorable #this is also pro-korok propaganda #anyways um #I used to hc that link signed in botw (for obvious reasons) #but after the calamity he gained more confidence in speaking #so now he only signs when he’s uncomfortable speaking around someone or just not in the mood to talk #sometimes he signs while speaking out of habit #thank you for coming to my ted talk #im sorry hes just so important to me IM SAD #I used to learn asl but now I forgot please forgive my mistakes OTL #the legend of zelda #legend of zelda #loz #loz art #Zelda #loz tears of the kingdom #tears of the kingdom #breath of the wild #totk #botw #totk link #korok #Nintendo #art #my art

[chloesimaginationthings]

The FNAF Mikes with their (not so) little sisters

#myart #chloesimagination #comic #mike schmidt #abby schmidt #michael afton #circus baby #elizabeth afton #fnaf #fnaf movie #sister location #fnaf fanart #five nights at freddy's #now that baby is actually introduced I can draw her more finally 🙏🏾 #Elizabeth is finally taller than Michael PFF #‘do you think we are siblings in every universe?’ moment #Mike is getting physically tired while Michael is fully mentally tired #this comic to me is equally cute funny and tragic #Adore them all sm #this is based off that clip of Mike and Abby’s actors doing a lil spin together btw 💜

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[alabasterpickles]

Silly quick lil comic about Junior having a nightmare and dad being an excellent sport because I thought the idea would be cute

#I’m literally obsessed with them you don’t understand #I adore them #he’s a good dad #my art #fanart #art #sketch #character design #drawing #animation #illustration #drawings #Super Mario Bros #Mario movie #bowser #bowser junior #bowser jr #comics #I literally think about them constantly and in my mind this is a hundred percent canon #I love me a man who’s intimidating on the outside and soft inside

[beebox-illustrations]

You will have to put up with my rekindled supernatural obsession…. Sorry guys 😬💚

Have a fantastic week!✨🌻

#supernatural #ah yes you will have to go down that rabbit hole with me guys #dean winchester #sam winchester #being adorable #learning how to make pancakes #bobby singer #being awesome #john being absent as usual #spn #beebox-illustrations #digital art #illustration #procreate #web comics #edit: fixed the ‘canned’‘ issue

[egophiliac]

C'MON TO THE THEATER!

I love these guys so much. forget NRC, I want to attend their terrible disaster school for disaster children that might actually be plastered on top of the smoking remains of an actively sinking ship. I may or may not actually learn anything, but I will have the time of my life.

#art #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland spoilers #stage in playful land #stage in playfulland #unique magic posters #so it was fellow after all and not gidel? whoops #i was merely overthinking it #me? overthink fictional characters? surely not #god though #i can't not love a guy who gets the cutest most adorable power #and instantly goes 'i shall use this for Crimes' #also every time he was like 逃げる! my brain auto-translated it as CHEESE IT! #accompanied by twst's running-away sound effect which is just the quintessential sound of someone cheesing it #if i could have (1) twst spinoff it would be the adventures of these two idiots trying to do an education #they would have a stodgy bureaucrat antagonist who keeps trying to catch them in their sleazy corner-cutting ways and shut them down #(OF COURSE there would be a bit where they are trying to host an unforgettable luncheon but egads! their roast is ruined!) #and all while they're trying to evade being hunted down by the playful land investors #the hijinks would be SO wacky you guys #i've made myself sad now because this will never exist #it's real in my HEART

[yangjeongin]

HYUNIN | RACHA LOG EP. 09

#hwang hyunjin #jeongin #i.n #hyunjin #stray kids #bystay #createskz #a9gifs #long post #*gif #*ccarly #*hyunjin #*jeongin #*carly:hyunjin #*carly:jeongin #and if i tell you i almost cried. i'm not even joking #the first gif is sooooo devastating to me #there are 11 of these so it's long but it's not my fault they are adorable. my god. #*hits

[canisalbus]

Real fan art is coming one day, but for now I really wanted to see if it was feasible to simplify their gradients into something that would fit a simple style like Bluey’s 😅

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#aaaaaaaaaAAA #they're so precious I can't ;m; #I still haven't watched Bluey so I can't really comment on show accuracy but to me these look spot on #if you ask me the gradients work really well #if you look at them and unfocus your eyes they look like their normal markings #Vasco might benefit from having one more band between the base yellow and the lighter brown but that's totally optional and might take away #from the simplicity of his design #their colors are so true to the way I color them which is both cool and kind of uncanny #like Machete's pink details which in reality are very peachy almost closer to light orange than true pink #and their colored linearts which use the same colors I use for my colored linearts #I don't know I thought that was really cool attention to detail #they're adorable #thank you! #gift art #apupcalyptic #own characters #Machete #Vasco #their lives would be a lot less stressful in bluey universe I reckon

[possiblyawesometmblr]

something something redcanary went into the institute ruins to check if it was cleared and died soon after something something the canary was sent to the coal mine to see if it was safe something something alexander j newall and jonny sims i fucking see you

#i have spent too long messing around with the canary curse to miss this shit #i fucking SEE YOU #hi it's me your local symbolism adoring gay #tmagp #tmagpspoilers #the magnus protocol #tma #the magnus archives

[mel-kusanagi]

so anxious

very normal about these two 🧍‍♀️

part 2

#miguel praising peter b hours lets go #peter was feelin a bit insecure with his dad bod but miguel is all “my darling you are wrong and let me show you how much i adore you” #yeah vdjfvbdfjvbfdjvb #shoutout to my fellow spiderdads enjoyers for giving me this idea on discord vjdfbljdflbj #more peter b with glasses bc sony robbed me from having it #peter b parker #miguel o'hara #spiderdads #peter b parker x miguel o'hara #spider man #spider man 2099 #spiderverse #across the spiderverse #my art

[queerplatonicpositivity]

I started a new remote job last week, and I'm the only genderqueer person at the company (and the first person who uses neo pronouns that anyone on my team has ever met, apparently).

So far:

Manager carefully wrote down spelling and pronunciation of my pronouns and told everyone on the team to respect them.

Coworker apologized privately for misgendering me (I hadn't told her yet) and said she will practice.

Guy on another team valiantly tried to use my pronouns and ended up saying something like zirzs-zhizz (I DM'd him and thanked him for trying and linked him to a practice site).

Teammate told me he has written out my pronouns and how to use them in a sentence and literally taped it to his monitor so he can practice.

Teammate also referred to me as compañere after I linked to a comic about gender-neutral endings in Spanish (whole team except me + 1 other person speaks Spanish as first language and they held all meetings in Spanish before the two of us started).

I am so stoked that people are actually trying. 💜🤍💚

#pronouns #genderqueer #genderqueer positivity #pronoun positivity #op #the zirzs-zhizz was literally so adorable #I'm just so happy he was trying #he tried in a meeting in front of like 10 people and that honestly means so much #in past roles people have been so scared of getting it wrong that they just don't refer to me at all #which can feel really lonely like you're something so weird/bad that you can't even be spoken #so I'd really much prefer people to be vulnerable and try

[pdfbabe]

spotify will be like are you a HARDCORE PUNK do you HATE THE ESTABLISHMENT and want some songs to BEAT UP COPS TO? listen to our PUNK PLAYLIST! and the playlist is like. welcome to the black parade

#this is not an exaggeration the raised on punk spotify playlist is #she by green day -> helena by mcr -> i was a teenage anarchist #which why is that the am! song youre using. like you couldve put a different am! song and yes i know that that song isnt against anarchy #but cMON. if you want an iconic antiestablishment against me song do baby im an ananarchist #and yes. wttbp is on this playlist #also im literally a huge mcr fan i have an mcr blog. like nothing against mcr AT ALL i adore them. but theyre not punk #maggie.txt #flashing gif

[geryone]

that summer, Silas Denver Melvin

#quotes #poetry #quote #poem #silas denver melvin #id in alt text #adored all three of these poems!! everyone go read them ❤️ #I’m always hesitant to post the poetry of poets actively posting work on tumblr so let me know if you want this deleted Silas!!