#narcisistic abuse

[welcometo-blackspace]

I don't believe I should be happy.

Or what I'm trying to say is that

I don't believe I was born to be happy.

I was born to mourn.

To stress about little things and subjects.

I was not born to be happy.

#personal vent #anxiety depression #depressing life #depressing shit #kinda depressing #dead inside #narcisistic personality disorder #narcissism #narcissistic abuse #narcissistic mother #bpd fp #bpd vent #actually bpd #bpd thoughts #bpd

[omglaurashutup]

everyone reading "i'm glad my mom died" like we're all one big book club with mommy issues, so cute

#i'm glad my mom died #book #jennette mccurdy #narcisistic #narcisistic mothers #toxic moms #toxic mom #icarly #abuse #toxic #book club #omglaurashutup #nickelodeon

[amazingmagda]

“Do not talk to me of dragon fire”

me, who was raised by a chaotically abusive mother, when I read posts about how NPD, BPD or psychopathy are not a “bad person illness” and we should all be nice and good to each other and it all will be well! ^*^

#narcisistic #NPD #BPD #mental health #abuse #parents #parenting #narcissism #child abuse #adverse childhood experiences #ACEs #gasligting #abusive parents #trauma #childhood trauma #do not talk to me of dragon fire #cluster b #personality disorder

[no-passaran]

Some people will say anything to avoid pointing that something happened because of sexism. No, Rubiales did not do what he did because he's a "narcissist", he did it because he's a misogynist and doesn't think women's bodies should be free from men's "impulses", as he himself has said very clearly in his press conference. Please start recognising women's oppression as an axis of oppression.

#what's up with calling everyone a narcisist recently #I'm seeing gender-based violence domestic abuse being rebranded as ''narcissistic abuse'' all the time now #the blame is not on people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder it's on the patriarchy! #💬 #I'm not trying to call out Héctor Bellerin or whatever I wouldn't care if it's just 1 person the problem is that there's more

[dead-lavender-society]

if you believe in narc abuse you believe in:

-adhd abuse

-autism abuse

-ocd abuse

-depression abuse

-anxiety abuse

-anorexia abuse

-ptsd abuse

-did abuse

think before you try to assign abuse to the possible (not even likely) “evil” disorder you’re assigning them. people with npd, but really ANY cluster b or “scary neurodivergency/mental illness”, don’t deserve this treatment

#narc abuse #narcisistic #narcissist abuse

[aqueencomplexx]

How do I thank my parents for ruining my life?

#i could have a drivers license rn #but they wouldnt let me #i couldve had more job experience #but they kept me from working #never taught me about credit #or how to get like food stamps and medicaid #they just made me clean and suck fucking dick #queen rambles #queen vents #queen is high #narcisistic parents #abusive family #abusive parents #narcissist family #trauma survivor #abuse survivor #sa survivor

[cybernightwanderer]

I don't feel safe...

My room was the last bit of protection that i had... and even that little bit she doesnt allow me to have... i dont know how to be in my room anymore, i cant hear music, i cant be on the computer, i cant even lay down... im just sitting here, trying to stop this panic im feeling... I can't breath...

#depression #suicide #anxiety #trauma #ptsd #toxic #toxic mother #toxic family #mental illness #mental abuse #mental disorder #anger #manipulation #gaslight #domestic violence #domestic abuse #abusive mother #narcisistic mother #control #controlling

[sonhador-falecido]

I hate it when people think they know how we feel

Bitch

You have had a mother that didnt made you hate being alive

A father that loved you

A house

A family

A home that you could grow up

Dont come to me saying you know how i feel because you dont and you will never

#please respect my pain #abusive parents #narcisistic parents #narcisistic mom

[drakesfavoritebbw]

I almost tried to unalive my self two days ago. I forgot how bad my mother can still hurt me. She was upset about something and told me she hated me and she had no daughter which I’ve heard so many times I’m not shocked anymore but she brought up my dad abandoning me at 16 at a police station telling me I deserved it and she regretted ever bringing me home. That broke me I’ve replayed her saying that over and over even though she’s moved past it and is no longer mad I can’t stop hearing her voice say it.

#tw mental abuse #verbal abuse #narcisistic #abusive parents #mental health #suicudal #depressed #tw suicide

[narcisistiedemoni]

Il periodo natalizio è una gioia per molte persone. Le celebrazioni tradizionali portano gioia e felicità a tutti i membri della famiglia. Tuttavia, per molte persone la celebrazione del Natale può essere malinconica a causa di passate esperienze traumatiche con un narcisista.

Ecco alcune idee su come sopravvivere alle festività natalizie con un narcisista: 😈Come sopravvivere al Natale con un narcisista 😈 - YouTube

Continua a leggere il post nel mio sito ufficiale! Segui questo link: https://www.monicadesantis.com/forum-1/festeggiamenti/sopravvivere-al-natale-con-un-narcisista

#narcisstic personality disorder #narcisista #narcissim #narcisismo #new video #youtube channel #italian youtuber #italian video #natale #amore #monicadesantis #narcisistiedemoni #genitori narcisisti #madre narcisista #padre narcisista #narcisistic #narc abuse #narcissist

[welcometo-blackspace]

WHY is it whenever I'm having fun it's WRONG

#personal vent #anxiety depression #depressing life #depressing shit #kinda depressing #dead inside #narcisistic personality disorder #narcissism #narcissistic abuse #narcissistic mother #bpd vent #actually bpd #bpd thoughts #bpd #bpd fp

[katimorton]

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I've been seeing “Love Bombing” pop up a lot on social media - It’s a great mental health topic and I wanted to dive into it. Love Bombing is a possible characteristic of a narcissist and can happen in narcissistic relationships. It's a manipulation tactic used by some narcissists to overwhelm the victim with love and attention with the goal of later getting them to do what they want. Love bombing can be hard to see or identify, especially at the beginning of an unhealthy relationship, so I'm breaking down the common red flags (things to look out for) in this unhealthy relationship pattern. Let me know in the comments: have you ever been love bombed? Or have you love bombed someone else?

#narcissticabuseawareness #narcisistic #abuse #ptsd #trauma #katimorton #mental health #abusive relationship #psychology #manipulation

[drkatz]

just saw "believes in narc abuse" in someones dni and i was like ... narcoticsq abuse?

#narcisistic abuse. #not narcotics abuse

[aena-blue]

Red Flags - Episode 02 - Love Bombing

Hello all you beautiful souls. I am finally writing (and posting!) my red flags series for romantic connections. Even though this is meant to be a spiritual blog, one should not ignore the very real human experience we are all having on a daily basis.

I find that too many people, like myself, find themselves blindsided by emotionally abusive individuals and I think the best way to fight back is to spread awareness so that hopefully someone else will think twice and walk away before any significant damage has been done.

Note that all my posts will tend to be general and that exceptions always apply, but there is never an exception or acceptable reason for someone to treat you badly. Use your own discernment, trust your gut instinct and intuition, your body will often alert you to danger before you have become consciously aware of it, learn to listen to yourself <3

One thing I did not mention in the first episode which I want to address is this: Just because a person is abusive/toxic, doesn’t mean that they are necessarily doing it on purpose. Often we can fall into the trap of insisting that a toxic/abusive person isn’t actually a bad person, because we see all the nuances of this person, we may see their kindness, what a good friend they are etc. Humans are nuanced, unless someone is a straight up sociopath, they will have good qualities too. There are many reasons why a person might act the way they do, but please do not ever let this be a reason to excuse a person who is acting in this type of way and please try to not let this be a reason to allow a person to treat you poorly. Their issues are their own, whatever they may be or however they may express themselves in connections. It is not your job to try and fix and change this person, and you probably can’t no matter how hard you try. Change, just like happiness is an inside job and it is up to the individual to work on making these changes.

Now back to today’s episode, love bombing.

Love at First Sight - Sounds like a Dream, but is it Real?

I think most of us have had that fairy tale fantasy of love that is fast, almost instantaneous, but in reality, this is rarely the case. Love and attachment is something that tends to grow over time, even with people we don’t like all that much, (consider the saying “they grew on me”). Now feeling a spark with someone is something that I believe to be real, but attraction (the spark) isn’t the same as love, being in love or falling in love. Neither should chemistry be confused with compatibility (but that is a different topic all together). Therefore, when someone is expressing an excessive amount of affection and adoration for you at an early stage, this should be considered as a red flag. 

Love bombing in its simplest form is when someone gives you a lot of compliments and show you a lot of interest in the early stages, they may want to see you almost all the time, they will tell you how amazing you are, how different you are. That you are not like anyone else they have ever known. Which, if we are being honest with ourselves, how would they even know that if they have only known us for a couple of weeks (or less)?

As amazing and beautiful as you are, which I am sure is the truth, an emotionally stable person does not tend to get so enamoured and swept up so hard after just meeting and knowing you for a day, a week or just been on one date (or even before the first date in some cases!). If someone is showering with you with compliments while hardly knowing you, it is probably not all that sincere. It may actually feel real for the person doing it. But the person doing this is very likely projecting their romantic fantasies onto you, as an almost empty canvas they are throwing paint on. It is rarely based on who you actually are, and often based on who they want you to be, which obviously isn’t fair to you at all. The Double-Sided Mirror - Love Bombing Works when you Want it to too

Now this kind of projecting can easily go both ways, as I said before, most of us long for love and connection, and can easily fall into the trap of wanting to believe in the romantic fairy tale to the point that when someone shows this type of exaggerated interest in us, we want to believe it’s real, and that we finally get to have this fairy tale whirlwind love and connection. This is equally unfair, because just as this person barely knows you, you barely know this person. If you recognise yourself in this behaviour, please remember to take a moment to stop and pause and ask yourself, is this realistic? Now this is a boring question I know, because the romantic fantasy is so much better, but it is an important question none the less. Would an emotionally stable person profess their love for you on the second date? (Or any other way too early time frame?)

As exceptions always apply and you may even know people who had a very quick paced relationship that isn’t toxic, it is important that you listen to your own intuition and what you’re feeling from the connection and the other person. Red flags never come on their own, so pay attention to the overall picture and all of the small details to make your own judgement. Don’t be afraid to tell a person they might be moving too fast, that you would like to slow things down or that you need more time before you are comfortable reciprocating.

Related to Love Bombing - Over Agreement

Love Bombing isn’t just compliments or saying I love you way too soon. Love bombing can also take the form of agreeing with everything you say and being into all the same things you are into. (Usually only at the start of the relationship/dating however). It is great when we meet a like minded individual and I had this experience with a now ex of mine. I found it so amazing (and so great!) that every time I told them of an interest of mine, they said they were into the same thing. I really thought that I might have met ‘my person’, the one that is just for me due to how similar we seemed to be. This couldn’t have been further from the truth. As it turned out, a lot of the things they said they were interested in, they had little to no interest in at all. They faked liking a lot of things. This is of course done to create a bond/attachment and to further attraction. 

Once you wise up on the fact that they are not in fact into all the things they claimed, chances are that you are already so attached/in a committed relationship with them that you will stay with them regardless. Basically with all of the red flags I will go through, they serve to break down your standards and boundaries, often subtly and gradually, to condition you to put up with all of their crap so that the relationship can be more or less completely on their terms.

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#love #life #advice #tarot #spirituality #red flag #relationship #abuse #abusive #toxic #love bombing #unhealthy #redbubble #etsy #ladyblue #aenablue #narcissism #malignant narcissism #covert narcissism #narcisistic #emotional abuse #red flags #fairy tale #romance #romantic #truth #awakening #support #low value #low effort

[thegirlwhokeepsranting]

The worst thing about having a narcissistic mother, is that they expect you to be perfect. And when you do achieve “said” perfect, they tell you you could do better. I just got my marks and I had topped every subject, to which my mother told me that I could’ve still gotten more in French and math. (I’d gotten 19 on 20; those were the highest)

At a point, you realise that you’ll never get the praise you truly want and deserve, and that you could always be better in their eyes. At a point, you realise that you’ll never be enough for them, and that breaks you.

For my mother, the best means to be just like her. She doesn’t want me to be perfect, she wants me to be just like her, which in her case is equal to perfect. It gets exhausting sometimes, because you know that you’ll never fulfil their “perfect” expectations.

But I need you to know that you don’t have to be perfect. You are so much more than perfect. You’re a human being, and we aren’t meant to be perfect. You are not alone, I get what you’re going through.

#narcissistic family #narcissistic abuse #narcisistic #narcissistic mother #narcissismawareness #narcissistic people

[greenevergreens]

Saw this posted on Twitter by user @AwareOfTheNarc, and I couldn't agree more. So many stories of people being shamed, guilt tripped, screamed at, called horrible names, hell even beaten or raped (like if they say they aren't in the mood and they ask the narcissist to respect their no or whatever), for telling a narcissist to treat them with respect and decency, but narcissists seem incapable of being decent to anyone who isn't directly benefiting the narc to treat nicely. And the second that person stops being useful is the second the abuse starts for them too. It's a horrid cycle and I really am glad more and more people are waking up to the reality of associating with a narcissist in anyway.

It's also nice how many people are coming around to the idea that you can't fix someone for them, someone has to want to and put the work into getting better, otherwise they will never change. And narcissists are AWFUL at acknowledging they're the problem in any way shape or form, hell feels like pulling teeth just to get them to give a half assed, not really an apology that is also sort of an insult apology. You can basically forget about getting a genuine, honest, and compassionate apology from a narcissist.

I mean yeah there are (or so I've heard) narcissists in treatment, in therapy and who are doing their absolute best to be decent people. It just seems like those are only the minor cases, the more severe someone's narcissism, is the harder it is to convince them to even consider the POSSIBILITY that they could be part of the problem. You want to get them to admit they ARE the problem, period? I bet they'd rather get shot.

Though to be fair, I'd rather shoot a narcissist than try to get them to admit they're the problem in their life as well, so lol. Then again, I'd prefer to shoot a narcissist than have to interact with a narcissist in most any way. Awful creatures.

#narcissism #narcisistic #narcisisstic abuse #narc abuse #abuse #rape #narcissistic abuse is real #narcissistic abuse is very real #mental illness isn't an excuse #abuse survivor #abuse victim #tw abuse #tw narcissistic abuse #tw narcissism