Reminder: you don't have to be at your worst to ask for help.
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Depression has no face. Be kind to even the smiling faces.
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RUN THE DISHWASHER TWICE.
When I was at one of my lowest (mental) points in life, I couldn’t get out of bed some days. I had no energy or motivation and was barely getting by.
I had therapy once per week, and on this particular week I didn’t have much to ‘bring’ to the session. He asked how my week was and I really had nothing to say.
“What are you struggling with?” he asked.
I gestured around me and said “I dunno man. Life.”
Not satisfied with my answer, he said “No, what exactly are you worried about right now? What feels overwhelming? When you go home after this session, what issue will be staring at you?”
I knew the answer, but it was so ridiculous that I didn’t want to say it.
I wanted to have something more substantial.
Something more profound.
But I didn’t.
So I told him, “Honestly? The dishes. It’s stupid, I know, but the more I look at them the more I CAN’T do them because I’ll have to scrub them before I put them in the dishwasher, because the dishwasher sucks, and I just can’t stand and scrub the dishes.”
I felt like an idiot even saying it.
What kind of grown ass woman is undone by a stack of dishes? There are people out there with *actual* problems, and I’m whining to my therapist about dishes?
But my therapist nodded in understanding and then said:
“RUN THE DISHWASHER TWICE.”
I began to tell him that you’re not supposed to, but he stopped me.
“Why the hell aren’t you supposed to? If you don’t want to scrub the dishes and your dishwasher sucks, run it twice. Run it three times, who cares?! Rules do not exist, so stop giving yourself rules.”
It blew my mind in a way that I don’t think I can properly express.
That day, I went home and tossed my smelly dishes haphazardly into the dishwasher and ran it three times.
I felt like I had conquered a dragon.
The next day, I took a shower lying down.
A few days later. I folded my laundry and put them wherever the fuck they fit.
There were no longer arbitrary rules I had to follow, and it gave me the freedom to make accomplishments again.
Now that I’m in a healthier place, I rinse off my dishes and put them in the dishwasher properly. I shower standing up. I sort my laundry.
But at a time when living was a struggle instead of a blessing, I learned an incredibly important lesson:
THERE ARE NO RULES.
RUN THE DISHWASHER TWICE!!!
(by Kate Scott 2018)
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new hobbies to try out during covid ✨
During COVID, I definitely feel a lot of boredom and also feel like I’m wasting a lot of time. Therefore, here are some suggestions of hobbies you can try out! You might also have your own interest, which can be history or science, so I would 100% support you to do research and read about them!
Some more hobbies to try out:
🚴🏽♂️Stay active: swimming, running, working out, yoga, hiking, biking, skateboard
🎨Creativity: film-making, painting, origami, drawing, doodling, comic strip creating, photoshop, digital art, DIY, music making, song-writing, knitting, playing new instruments, acting, calligraphy, reusing and recycling materials, redesigning and decluttering your interior
🎧Communication: blogging, writing, podcasting
🧘🏻♀️Mental health: journaling, meditation
🧠Mind: chess, coding, puzzling, researching, online volunteering, enrolling in an online class, selling your old stuff online, learning a new language, listening to audiobook and podcast
QOTD: What hobbies do you have?
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💞💞 Happy World Kindness Day 💞💞
Can you remember the last time you were kind to someone, or someone was kind to you, without an agenda, just because? Let’s take this World Kindness Day to commit to an act of kindness, whether that’s within your community, online, or towards yourself—self-care is also a form of kindness! Use the tag #world kindness day to share the wholesomeness!
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Dark Academia self-care tips for the wintertime.
Embrace the beauty of the natural world as we enter into the depths of winter. There's something wonderfully haunting about the barrenness, the muted saturation, the quiet. This season is like the stillness between the exhale and the inhale. Dwell in that space.
Try and get in the habit of waking up early, even if you only manage it on odd occasions. This time of year, the sun might rise later than you. Bask in the morning twilight.
Dress well and fully, even if you do not intend to leave the house.
After you wake up, go for a walk, be it brief of meandering. Do not listen to music, but rather hone in on the silence, the sound of your footfalls, the winter birds.
If you live near a park or otherwise pleasant natural area with benches, take with you a novel or poetry collection, and linger for a time to read. Remember to wear gloves so that you may turn pages without discomfort.
Open a window periodically throughout the day, even if it is cold. That brief blast of air will anchor you to the natural world.
Try to complete at least one chapter of reading per day. You must tend to your mind just as you tend to your body.
If you wish, you may compose handwritten letters to those you care for, or fear with whom you may be losing touch. A physical letter holds so much more weight than a text or email. Practice your cursive, make the letter truly lovely.
Eat dark chocolate rather than milk chocolate, tea rather than soda, whole bread rather than white.
Keep a handwritten journal of your upcoming tasks, daily aspirations and idle musings. Maintaining a written record of one’s obligations helps to remind oneself of the obligations’ true scales so that they do not try to expand and sprout teeth in the mind.
Work hard. This season is stark and unyielding, as are you. You were built for this. Face the storm head on.
As night draws in, play some classical music in the candlelight. Close your eyes, tip your head back, and lean into it. Let the song flow through you in haptic ecstasy.
Before retreating to bed, record some of the positive experiences brought to you throughout the day: from tasks you completed successfully, to poetic thoughts that stuck you, to birds you spotted on your windowsill. Kindle your childlike sense of wonder, for there is so much in this world to wonder at.
Breathe. Always. Feel it.
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It's okay to listen to your body when it tells you what it needs, even if that's different from what you feel it should need. Give yourself permission to be free of the shoulds.
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To the person reading this, I hope tonight treats you gently, and that tomorrow looks brighter
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A Dose of Reminders on Instagram
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I hope you surround yourself with people who show you how important you are to them, who treat you with love and respect. You deserve nothing less.
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self-care for quarantine 2021
Hi, it’s werelivingarts! My school was shut down once last year, and I recognize that both of mental and physical health got much worse (staying up over midnight and eating so much unhealthy food). I took me almost a semester back in face-to-face school to cope with normal flow again. ☺️
Now my country is having another school shut down, I’m going back to virtual learning and I’m determined to be better than last year (yes, it’s the second year of COVID-19 now). Above is a list of things I want to remind myself in quarantine, and I want to share it with you all too!
Stay safe and healthy, wear mask and sanitize your hands frequently! ❤️💙💜
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Is it an ADHD thing to not realize you're in pain or not be able to recognize the source of pain? I just spent 6 hours feeling awful because I had a really bad headache, but couldnt figure out what was wrong until my mom asked be why i was being so grumpy. Also, i just wanted to thank you for the way you actually talk about your experiences with ADHD and Autism and being Nonbinary. Also the cursed stuff is cool too.
self-regulation tends to be more difficult when you have adhd/autism. it’s good to get in the habit of pausing for a few minutes and consciously making an assessment:
what is my biggest current source of pain/discomfort? how can I change that? should i take a pain reliever?
am i hungry? how’s my blood sugar? when did i last eat
how’s my general level of anxiety/overstimulation?
how’s the noise level? could i benefit from wearing earplugs?
am i too warm/cold? should i put on/take off a layer?
am i thirsty? are my lips dry? could i use water/chapstick?
if i could do one thing to make myself more comfortable in the next hour, what would it be?
try setting a timer and doing this every 2 hours or so. soon it gets to be automatic (i still set timers sometimes when i know my day is going to be busy). on a related note, it’s good to carry around a ‘self-regulation grab bag’ (mine has painkillers, granola bars, ear plugs, water, chapstick, lotion, etc)
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They are judging you for not taking care of yourself, go drink some water, eat, get some sleep and do some self-care.
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You always see the best in other people. Why is it so hard to consider that someone could do the same for you? That maybe, people aren’t worried about the spot on your face or the frizz in your hair, because they’re too busy looking at your smile.
The wonderful things you see in other people? You have them, too.
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