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etherealsign282 · 3 months

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BPD Tiktok is so unhinged and full of little kids who think they're entitled to extra compassion and sympathy because they've got a "good excuse" for receiving it ,while treating other people like shit

This one person was *respectfully* talking about what it's like to live with someone with bpd and just stated the symptoms and how it feels to randomly be ignored for hours or they suddenly get mean and say things they don't mean because something triggered them and their emotions are heightened to a greater degree than normal people's which is stressful. And everyone in the comments is like "so you don't care about their feelings? You're making it about you?"

Listen. As someone with really strong bpd emotions, who can probably be a little more rude than is necessary sometimes, I know it is emotionally exhausting to worry about someone's emotional state constantly and wonder what might have been done or said, especially when the people with bpd can be unhealthy and don't like to communicate. Coupled that with the fact that there is clear disregard for how the behavior affects the emotional state of the partner, it actually makes more sense to acknowledge that the person with bpd's feelings are the one that's more consistently being prioritized.

And his account should be his space to prioritize his emotions by feeling them, expressing them, acknowledging them, etc. If he has to continue to dwell over the other person's mental health and emotions in his own space, then when is it the "proper time" to care about himself? Why do people with bpd get to constantly blast their partners or talk about getting to devalue their partners, mock their partners, stonewall their partners, prioritize their intense emotions, cry about abandonment 24/7 after arguably being a terribly inattentive, neglectful, and selfish partner, for sympathy points if they DO get broken up with, but some guy can't be like "yeah i get it but when they do this or that it hurts and its tough struggling with my own emotions while trying to deal with someone else's intense emotions and reactions" without being labeled as a selfish person who only thinks about themselves? Just because your emotions are intense doesn't mean they should be prioritized every second of the day. Others are allowed to express their emotions as well. Otherwise it can bottle up to intense levels and then you'll actually be mad that you *can't* be prioritized because *they* had a genuine breakdown.

Not to mention the unfairness between the more aggressive people with bpd and the softer people with bpd who usually get stepped on and treated like shit, because the other person doesn't know how to manage their intense emotions, and we're still the ones labeled as selfish if we try to express our *equally intense emotions. Especially when we're actually being mistreated, while they're the ones reacting to scenarios in their head and need to be prioritized because their big feelings are louder, meaner, and more expressive than our big feelings*.

The instant reaction to defend people who are the meaner sounding ones, in any context, is one y'all need to unpack somewhere else, not in other people's spaces. It is not always the other person's turn to speak just because they're the ones that have BPD and the one currently talking doesn't (at least not that we're aware of, or the "loud version"). It's not always a time to "defend the aggressive ones because who else is going to?" Sometimes they need to just deal with the consequences of their actions. You can vouch for them getting help and getting the support they need without babying them, infantilizing them, and protecting them from their own behaviors.

Unfortunately for y'all, we *live in a society* and if you treat the *rest of society like shit*, it means you can't force *those people to care for you and your emotions on a personal basis, when you can't do it for them*. It doesn't mean yall deserve hatred or don't deserve love, it just means you're not the center of the world for having big *mean* emotions, and you gotta deal with it and fix it on your own time, while making room and space for everybody else.

My ex abuser was convinced I was trying to steal the "spotlight" because her attitude and hatred for me was sometimes, like 1% of the time, overshadowed by my depression over the fact that I was being mistreated by her over things she made up in her head (like trying to gaslight me about a color and actually being mad that I didn't listen). I mean, I hate her and want her dead because she's a rapist, but that's besides the point.

Generally she just needed to deal with the consequences of her actions to accept that she wasn't a good or nice person, she didn't need "protection" because "nobody else in the mh community would". They are not children. And if they need "protection", reflect on what they did that makes people like you think that they need "protection" and what exactly that protection is (is it protection from having to change and grow as a person through people actually disliking them the way they are now?) and why they deserve it more than anybody else, when *nobody* gets more loyalty and support than someone who says mean things and doesn't want to deal with the consequences of it because it hurts their feelings to be disliked for not being nice.

you just don't think they're grown or mature enough to handle building their own community or that they're too dislikeable without any help- reflect on why that is and why you think it's more important to baby them into being supported through guilt trips, than it's important for them to realize they aren't nice, and to unpack it using real mental health help tools and support groups that *relate*, not random people who are *sufferers of the behavior*.

#actually ptsd #actually abused #actually bpd #actions have consequences #toxic #mental abuse #mental health #mental illness

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warrior-cats-rewritten · 8 months

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Hi, @bunnycat70, I don't accept messages from blogs with no age because I don't wish to be dm-ing with potential kids. Not saying you're a child, it's a blanket statement. Hence the 18+ at the top of the blog. Replies and asks are fine since 99% ofbthe time they're related to my posted content, messages not so much. Just my boundaries.

But Gray Wing has, many many times in canon, worried more about how people see his extremely dangerous, abusive brother, than the people said brother has hurt. This is enabling behavior. Along with trying to peacefully tall with him and reason with him. Clear Sky is a proto-dictator, you can't reason with those types. When Bumble is dying and it is very clearly Clear Sky's fault, all Gray can think about is that people are going to hate his brother. Not the woman bleeding out in front of him.

He is also horrible towards every female character he meets. They're either attractive and he wants them immediately, or if they aren't, they're ambitious and threatening despite everyone being logically on edge due to Clear Sky's threat. Clear Sky's "redemption arc" doesn't work due to his previous actions the writers of the next book forget or don't bother to remember or don't or are maybe having some kind of power trip fantasy, and Gray Wing's excusing of them means he is enabling Clear Sky to commit more atrocious acts. This cat slaughtered a mother with 2 kittens and literally left her body to rot for like... Weeks. He killed Bumble, who did nothing wrong, murdered Rainswept Flower for offending him (despite the next book trying to say "oh he wasn't in his right mind anyways remember this event that didn't happen?")

You don't get to make excuses for those peoplenbut not others just because you have connection with the first and foreigners are evil. You do not get to be possessive over the girlfriend you treated like shit before you started being attracted to for wanting to take shelter during winter and accuse her friend of "stealing" her when you pushed her away until all the prettier girls got fridged. You don't get to be eager to throw out a domestic abuse victim for being fat and 'too traumatized to be useful'. You do not tell a mother who just lost her child that "Maybe it's better only the strongest kits survive" when that baby's corpse IS STILL WARM and CLEARLY SUFFERED in his last moments. (All while Clear Sky kicks cats out for being "too weak", hmmmm). Later after his death he effectively says that cats can't change and rather than try and help and accept that they can change after their death, he takes the lovely excuse "Well you shouldn't be bad in the first place".

Fucking RICH coming from you, I bet your brother was really scared when he murdered countless cats, smacked, emotionally abused, and endangered children, and left "useless" cats out to die while piles of tiny animal corpses rotted in his camp. I bet he was totally terrified of cats starving to death while those tiny bones bleached in the sun.

And you know the writers still think this is a good thing, because they constantly claim he is full of "love and compassion" and actively pushed back his death because they like him so much.

So yeah, with all that in mind, Gray Wing is the very first villain protagonist for WCR, and he's a shitty cat in canon.

#warrior cats #warrior cats rewrite #wcr #warriors #gray wing #gray wing is the fucking worst #i don't tolerate that behavior in the real world why should i tolerate it the rewrite of a series i write for mybown fun and comfort #actions have consequences #he was always bad #the writers are ableist and sexist and want you to think their abuse apolgism is cute

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n00nb00n · 1 year

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You wanna know what Optimus Prime, Elita-1, and Rodimus Prime all have in common (aside from all being Autobot leaders)?

All have had their lives utterly derailed and forcibly changed through:

A. Rapidly changing circumstances they were powerless to stop.

For Optimus and Elita, tensions on Cybertron were heating up as Megatron was not only building up an army, but had attacked one of the outer cities. And it all came to ahead when the attack on docks happened (makes the episode’s name especially relevant; it’s literally the dawn of war).

In Rodimus’ case, it was the sudden surprise attack on Autobot City, orchestrated by Megatron and the Decepticons. This all also relates to my second point:

B. Megatron

In all of these instances one person can be blamed: Megatron

It was Megatron who raised an army, attacked an outer city, and attacked the docks, massacring innocent workers.

It was Megatron who gunned down Orion Pax and Ariel.

And it was Megatron who launched the attack on Autobot City.

It was Megatron who held Hot Rod hostage and gunned down Optimus Prime.

Even reborn as Galvatron, he still plays a major role (he was practically holding onto the Matrix for Hot Rod).

Although these were not his intentions, Megatron’s actions came back to bite him and the Decepticons by playing a major role in the creation of Optimus Prime, Elita-1, and Rodimus Prime

In Summary: Through rapidly shifting circumstances and Megatron’s actions, three Autobot leaders were born.

#actions have consequences #transformers #maccadam #g1tf #optimus prime #elita 1 #rodimus prime #megatron #orion pax #ariel #hot rod #me: doesn’t post in a long and just reblogs #also me: here’s this introspective thread on how rapidly shifting times and the actions of a tyrant created three legendary leaders

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asra-x · 8 months

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Sometimes we just become the consequences of someone else’s actions

#quotes #writing #words #dark academia #actions have consequences #daddy issues #ed?#night thoughts #family #glitch girl #depressiv #bpd

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coinsoup · 7 months

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@lemontarto

#actions have consequences #!!!

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your-heart-is-a-treasure · 1 year

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The way you think determines the daily course of your life.

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intelligentchristianlady · 1 month

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Be Careful What You Wish For

Joe Biden is a Christian and a very moral person. But, if the Supreme Court decides that a sitting president does indeed have absolute immunity, what's to stop Joe (other than his moral compass) from sending Seal Team 6 to eliminate DT right before early voting starts?

Think about it. DT is betting his life on Joe being a good person, and it's a perfectly safe bet. Ironic...

#SCOTUS #absolute immunity #Joe Biden #trump #actions have consequences

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wanderingmirror · 2 years

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Steven Rogers, James Barnes, and Sam Wilson sat in front of the man all in guilty silence.

He sat in front of them with hatred and rage.

"You killed my wife. You killed my son. You killed my daughter. You almost killed me. If Mr. Stark had not found me buried under a shit ton of debris I would be dead right now. But I'm just a number. A casualty. A blank face."

With each sentence this man got louder and more violent. Barnes flinched. Rogers stared at the floor. And Wilson just held in his sobs.

"I'll never get to see my kids graduate from highschool. I'll never get to see my baby girl get married. I'll never have grand kids. I'll never get to grow old with my WIFE!! Because you all think you're some perfect person who does no wrong! Who thinks it's okay that you lived and everyone else dies!"

The man's rant was cut short thanks to a violent coughing fit. Tony gently helped him through it. Tony had promised the man that he would get his justice. That his family would get justice. The man, James Morgan, only wanted one thing.

"I want to know what was so important about this murdering son of a bitch that you costed my family their lives! I want to know just why you thought you could justify killing them! Why?! What's so special about this bastard that my kids had to die?! To never grow up?!"

James coughed again. He also sobbed. He had no legs. They had been crushed by a piece of the overpass from the knee down. He was too scared to go under bridges, too traumatized. He had to quit his job as a nurse because he couldn't stand the sight of blood anymore.

"I still see my Emily's bloody face. Her eyes full of blood and tears staining her cheeks. I still see my baby girls impaled body leaned against the back of her mother's seat. I can't stand to think about my boy. Do you know what it's like to be stuck physically and hear your child scream for you? Do you? My little boy, screaming his tiny lungs out because his arm was pinned by glass and his stomach was filling with blood."

Barnes flinched and shook. Wilson was doing his best to keep from vomiting. And Rogers just stared more. James looked at the man he once admired, who his son idolized. And felt nothing but hatred.

"You talk about how 'the safest hands are your own'. When the safest hands kill the people you're supposed to protect, who protects those people from you?"

James felt the emotions drain away from him. He got to say what he wanted. And Tony had already promised that these three would never hurt anyone else like they had his wife and children. He wasn't expecting these murderers to admit their guilt. They never had in the past. He looked at Tony and nodded.

"I have nothing else to say."

He said softly and the other brunette nodded in understanding. James Morgan, now a widower, was wheeled out of the room in silence. His sobs heard the entire way by those he passed.

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Wanda Maximoff was led into a room with two children. Twins she had been told.

Orphans.

The boy, rendered mute thanks to too much dust getting into his throat. And a girl, losing her left arm after it was burnt too badly to fix.

When the boy saw her, his eyes widened and he grabbed his sister and pushed her behind him. Moving them both to a further corner away from the red head. Maximoff tried to get closer but the little girl wailed.

"MOMMY! DADDY! Help! Someone help!"

She wailed. The boy, despite his brave front, was shaking like a leaf. The girl wailed and begged for help. When Pepper entered the room the little girl waddled over to her and begged to be picked up. Her face red with tears running down her face.

"I want my mommy!"

Her tiny lungs heaved with the force of her cries. The boy ran over and hid behind the other red head's legs. Tears of his own streaming down his face silently. Maximoff watched all of this.

"Did Stark do this?"

She only got an even louder wail as her answer. Then, two other adults entered the room. Pepper gently coaxed the wailing girl to the female. But the boy was harder to move. Whenever Maximoff would try to help, he only clung to Pepper tighter.

"Get away from Brandon! No! Stay away from my brother!"

Maximoff was stunned. The girl was trying to get down to protect her brother. From her.

The boy, Brandon, took her distraction as a chance to dart to the man behind the other woman. Hiding behind his legs and gripping his pant leg tightly. Pepper looked at Logan and Jean and the two X-Men led the children out of the room.

"The one who orphaned them was you, Miss Maximoff. The one who disabled them was you. The one who traumatized them was you. The one who found them was Tony. The one who had to keep them from looking behind them, to keep them from further trauma at the sight of their parents, was Tony."

Pepper said this with a monotone voice. She kept eye contact with Maximoff and watched as the fight left the other woman.

"You sent their home into the building next to it. It crushed their father to death. You caused both to catch fire. It burned their mother alive. They survived because Tony had heard Brandon screaming for his sister's life. She was unconscious and bleeding. Brandon will never speak again because that fire blew smoke and dust into his lungs and throat. And Maria, the little girl, won't let those two they left with out of her sight."

Pepper looked deep into the other's eyes.

"Because the red lady took her parents away."

Maximoff sobbed softly to herself. Pepper left her there without another word. When she opened the door, Maximoff was left to listen to the heartbreaking wails of little Maria.

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Clint Barton and Natasha Romanoff were sitting in a room silently. They had been told that they had someone that want to talk to them. When the door was opened, a woman was led into it. A teenager walked with her. Her hands were shaking violently. James Rhodes walked in with them, holding a Baby Carrier with him.

"Barton and Romanoff, this is Agatha Lopez. She is the Widow of Agent Markus Lopez. And this is his eldest son Jackson, and his youngest son Ethan."

James introduced the three. Both the spies where confused as to why this lady needed to talk to them. Did she need their help?

"What can we do for you Mrs. Lopez?"

Barton asked. The widow was still shaking too badly. So Jackson Lopez spoke.

"You worked for Shield right?"

His question was answered by twin nods. And both had to jump back when Jackson punched Barton in the face and almost hit Romanoff too. Vision entered the room and gently but firmly held him back.

"You Fucking Bastards! You killed my Dad! You Killed him! He promised to come home and you killed him! I hate you!"

Jackson got so loud and violent, it woke Ethan up. The baby wailed and it seemed to snap Jackson out of his tirade. The older boy stiffened and darted to James' other side to gently pick his brother up and rest him in his arms. Agatha was silent the whole time.

"Mrs. Lopez you need to keep your son under control."

Barton said and that got him a nasty glare from the teenager.

"Shut the fuck up. You have no right to order my Mom around after the hell she's been through. She just got out of the fucking Hospital thanks to your little info dump."

Jackson sat down and rocked his baby brother back to sleep. Vision rested a gently hand on his shoulder and it seemed to soothe the boy. The two agents were stunned. This was a victim of the info dump? They could see it now. Scars lined her neck and wrists. She was refusing to look around but her eyes laid on her two sons.

"I'm sorry, Jackie."

Was her near silent whisper. Jackson shook his head.

"Mom you don't need to apologize. It's okay. Doctors said you need rest anyway."

Jackson moved and slowly hugged his mother, careful of his little brother. Agatha carefully took her youngest and rocked him gently. Jackson turned to them again.

"You owe my family more than just a fucking apology. You made my mother a widow. And now Ethan will never get to know his dad. You almost made me and my brother orphans if Mr. Stark and Mr. Rhodes hadn't gotten there when they did."

The boy had rage in his eyes. The only thing stopping him from jumping the table was his mother. She couldn't handle the loud bang of a table being knocked over.

"Thanks to you, my mom may never handle loud noises the same without thinking it's a fucking gun shot. Cause she had to watch as my dad was shot right in front of her after he refused to snitch on your asses."

Jackson felt the anger fill him again and was thankful Mr. Vision had not let go of his shoulder. He probably would have tried to give the blonde bitch a matching black eye to the other.

"You're paying for my mom's medical bill. You're paying for my dad's funeral. And this time, Tony is not allowed to help you. He's already helped enough. Saved me and my baby brother from becoming Hydra soldiers."

Jackson stood up slowly, gently taking his mother's fragile arm and getting her to stand. He took Ethan and placed him in his Carrier. He nodded to Mr. Rhodes and guided his mother out. The Colonel followed behind him with Vision not far behind. Leaving the two Shield agents to sit in shock and horror at what could have happened if Tony hadn't been fast enough.

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Tony gently hugged Mrs. Lopez. He guided her to sit on the couch in the common room. Jackson was getting her medicine for the pain in her arms and back. Ethan was sleeping soundly in his Carrier as little Maria watched him. Brandon was with James Morgan as the older man taught him sign language. Ever since meeting these few victims, Tony could not just leave them to suffer alone.

Mrs. Lopez's home had been burned to the ground. She had no family to go to as her parents had passed away and her husband's parents were too old to be able to take care of a baby while she was at physical therapy. Jackson still had highschool so he could only take care of his brother after he got home.

James Morgan had no legs and no job. His phobia of blood making it hard to work as a nurse or near a hospital. But he still helped the best he could. Tony was going to offer him a job as a teacher in the Avengers Initiative. Many heroes, super human or not, could learn a thing or two from him.

The twins, Maria and Brandon Simmons, had mutant powers. Maria was telepathic, though she wore a necklace her mother made that helped block it. Brandon was able to create explosions with his hands if he thought about it hard enough. But like his sister, he had a necklace that blocked it. Professor Xavier was going to send Jean Grey and Logan Howlett in one week a month to help them build their powers.

Once they were old enough he would collect them from the Tower for proper training and education. As they were only eight. Although Maria was still very against either of them leaving so soon. Since they had been there with the twins since they were found. Neither X-Men minded.

Tony wasn't sure how Jackson Lopez was mentally. He had suffered trauma at the hands of Hydra after his father's identity was leaked. The Latino boy was tense when his mother was gone for longer than he had been told. More than once Vision had been called to gently calm him down from a panic attack or raging fit. It seemed the android was the only one who calm the teenager down. Despite the former's inexperience with emotions.

"You're not gonna let em walk free are you?"

Tony looked at Jackson as he walked over. The seventeen year old was slower than the stories Agatha told him. Tony guessed it was because he didn't want to startle his mom.

"No. They'll get long sentences."

That seemed to satisfy the boy. He went on to help his mother with her medicine. Tony's attention went to James Morgan. The other man was quietly teaching sign language, his eyes fond but full of grief and sorrow. Brandon seemed to help. Maria was quietly rocking the baby in his Carrier. Cooing over how tiny he was and getting a small smile from Agatha.

Yeah, the Accords will be able to prevent things like this from ever being normal when heroes went to save the day. Tony rubbed Agatha's back. Seeing these few victims of his former team's mistakes, he couldn't help but wonder if it could have been prevented. If Maximoff never sided with Ultron, the Simmons Twins would have their parents. If Barnes had surrendered, James would have his life and his family. If Romanoff and Rogers had asked him for help, Agatha wouldn't be a widow.

Then Jackson wouldn't have to act as the man of the house. And Ethan would not have to grow up not knowing his father.

Tony promised himself and them that the Rogues would never harm another family.

He promised them they would get their justice.

He promised.

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