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amerasdreams · 2 years
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Maybe I have to. Not pay attention to what's going on in the world. I have enough things on my own to deal with. And really, what could i accomplish? How could i help? When I can't even help myself
Maybe thats why I couldn't go back to sleep-- my mind seemed wide awake, thinking about Ukraine and russia. I couldn't believe it was still only 4 a.m. Mind started rattling on about it trying to solve it lol-- nonsensical in middle of night and not productive and just makes me more tired.....
Maybe just... not look at it before bed. I thought I was fine. Bc I scaled back a bit since May bc I couldn't sleep. I thought i had gotten "used" to it. But no. Basically all I did yesterday, after the mobilization announcement. YouTube captured me. I was like this is more important than anything i could do, historic. President Zelensky's UN address at the pets house before bed.
I did figure that I really have to stop watching anything about the war after supper or. I can't sleep. I wake up at like 4 and cant go back to sleep (lots of stuff does this but. I know part of it was the war bc thats where my thoughts went) part may have been headache too
I was like I have to focus on this... job pales in comparison. Make some kind of influential blog -- even do YouTube or gasp tiktok.... put my face on? But that's how ppl influence others.
This vague idea of helping. Counterpropaganda. Osint. Writing for good! Ideas! Doing stuff that actually works
But who am I kidding. I'm not an expert. Who would listen to me?
I would have to learn a lot more in order to even have any sort of credibility. Which would take years.
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magapatriot64 · 1 month
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A brutally honest take on Ukraine from a U.S. Army Veteran of Afghanistan and Iraq that is also a Purple Heart recipient (edited):
I have never and will never support the war in Ukraine. I now understand the Military Industrial Complex and the trillions spent off of the lives of US, the people.
If you do support the war, this post is going to offend the shit out of you.
And I honestly don’t care what you think. Some of you may agree, and some of you probably truly need to hear this.
I have been shot at, blown up, returned fire, everything imaginable. War is serious shit. This is not Call of Duty, this is real fucking life. The term “War is hell”, is coined for a reason.
First: I will start with NATO and Europe.
Why the hell are we in NATO if they don’t barely lift a finger for shit? Why is America always the one that will carry the burden of these asshats. Even President Trump commented TODAY and was almost begging for an end to this. To NATO: If you want this war so badly, then grab a compass and head due East.
Second: You can say whatever you want about President Trump. You can like the man, or you can hate him. However, you cannot argue the point that none of this bullshit was going on when he was President. Just throwing that out there. This is an undeniable fact.
Third: Why is it that it took an Airman to leak classified documentation to totally disprove the efforts in Ukraine? Don’t you notice how this story has been completely wiped from the mockingbird media? They are concealing the truth as well. American taxpayers have been lied to since this began.
Fourth: Where is all of our American taxpayer money going? Let’s be honest about it. How do you “over-calculate” over $6 BILLION DOLLARS of our money for this effort? Where exactly is it going? Into Politician or Zelenskyy’s pockets? If any of us made an “accounting error” on our taxes, we would all be in prison now. This is fraud, waste and abuse putting it lightly.
Fifth: This brings me to another point. Are politicians making money off of this war effort? If so, sorry to say, but you belong in prison. Plain and simple. And that is bipartisan speaking. There are Americans working 2-4 jobs at times just to make ends meet. People are recovering from a lockdown that YOU created.
Sixth: To the Americans backing this war. Why don’t you book yourself a flight to Kyiv and partake in this fight? It’s easy as fuck to be okay with war, while you’re chilling with your Starbucks in your comfortable environment. You love to criticize our country but have never contributed a fucking thing to it.
Last: Why are we not discussing diplomacy? There have been ZERO attempts to sit down like grown fucking men and come to an agreement. None. It is all too clear that they want this war to continue.
I sure as hell don’t claim to know everything, but this bullshit has gone on long enough.
To the dickheads who will inevitably cherry-pick this tweet know this, your opinion does not matter to me. You can comment, but I won’t give you the benefit of replying. Thanks for playing.
I know this is a very long-winded post. But if you took the time to read, thank you for listening.
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ml-nolan · 5 months
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Kick's 2023 Fic Roundup (YEEEHA!)
[Please use the Kayne Malevolent voice for that title]
SOOOOOO all domains included—fics, original fiction, nonfiction, and copywriting—I wrote over 300k words this year. Of that, fic was 132,449 words! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 I'm pretty proud of it, honestly, so I thought I'd hop on the rundown bandwagon.
Thanks to everyone who read my stuff, kudos-d it, commented on it, and yelled with me about it on Tumblr and Discord (Honk-Honk to all my honkos!!! 💜🖤💜🖤💜🖤). Y'all have made my life so much more fun this year.
The Sandman - Dreamling
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Music When You Speak [Rated E | 72,075 words]
When incognito rock star Dream of the Endless drifts into Hob Gadling's record store, it's instant attraction. Neither of them expected things to get this serious.
This started out as an experiment in "taking time to enjoy the scenery," so naturally I had to [SPOILER ALERT] add a kidnapping subplot that ends with Dream naked and covered in blood.
¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Oops.
I'm so glad so many people loved it. I loved it too. Still do.
Playlist here
Aaaaand complimentary ficlet, Piece by Piece [Rated T | 610 words].
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I'll Make You Sorry [Rated E | 12,035 words]
Things from Hob's past are making Hob's hookups run screaming into the night, and it's really freaking him out. Dream is very concerned (both that other people are dreaming Hob's dreams and that Hob takes so many lovers).
This is my only canon-adjacent fic (so far) that isn't ficlet or pure smut, and I enjoyed making both of them so deeply uncomfortable. Also I need to write more Corinthian because I found his voice disturbingly easy to emulate. 😂😂😂
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On Sex Dreams and Anachronisms [Rated E | 1,818 words]: Two embarrassing times Dream dropped in on Hob's sexy dreams and one much nicer one. Second silliest thing I wrote this year.
(Not) Spellbound [Rated E | 1,192]: This is just bondage smut. You're welcome. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
How to Extract Your Boyfriend from Toxic Internet Culture [Rated G | 704 words]: By far the silliest thing I wrote this year. Features retired Dream's stint as a True Crime Wine Mom.
One Tall Dark Stranger [Rated G | 565 words]: From the prompt "Accidental Hand Touching."
You Will Not Be Bothered [Rated G | 420 words]: From the prompt "picking a leaf/flower petal out of their hair, or brushing dirt off of their face."
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I'll Be a Better Man Than My Father Ever Was - Chapter 4 by @chaosclimber | for the Dreamling for Ukraine fundraiser.
[PODFIC] Inappropriate Uses of the Dewey Decimal System and Coworkers by Hob Gadling, no PhD (Chapter 2) by @chaosheadspace | for the Dreamling for Ukraine fundraiser.
Metaphysics by @quillingwords
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The Sandman - Femslash Weekend!
This was so fun, and I have at least one more femslash idea I really hope to have the spoons to finish in January. 💜🖤💜🖤
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You're Gonna Catch Hell [Johanna/Mazikeen | Rated E | 2,116 Words]
Johanna Constantine, a gun for hire, is meeting a very dangerous new client at Club Hell. A mysterious woman who spots her right when she enters the club might pose some complications.
Pure smut, although I have an enormous hc around this AU that I'm not sure will ever see the light of day.
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Obliterate All Prior Things [Lucienne/Gault | Rated E | Words 3,421]
Whatever horrible thing Lucienne says is happening to The Dreaming is certainly happening. But the other part—the bit where Lucienne thinks she is the reason for it—cannot be allowed to stand. Run away with me, Gault wants to say. We'll find our own way. Be whoever we want. And you can finally rest.
I have huge feelings about Gaulcienne, which will become extremely clear if you read this.
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The Magnus Archives — Goof Troop (aka., TimGerry)
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Just an Animal Looking for a Home [Rated E | 33,349 words | Love and Nonsense AU - WIP]
When Tim Stoker came to Pinhole Books, it was like someone jammed a foot on the accelerator of Gerry's life. After a health scare, a wedding to his (let's be honest) soul mate, and the exponential growth of the shop, it's showing no signs of slowing down. Now, Pinhole is opening a second location, their beloved Fiona Law is retiring, and Tim and Gerry are bringing a new canine member into their family. But even good changes can be overwhelming, and Gerry finds himself dealing with old trauma he thought he'd left far behind him. Plus, Tim is unexpectedly forced to face old conflicts, which takes him places where Gerry can't follow. With all these stressors on top of the typical growing pains that come with a still-new marriage, Tim and Gerry have to learn to work through their issues together. It's either that or fall apart.
This is the sequel to Hiding in Plain Sight, which I actually started this in 2022 and took a hiatus while I was writing Music When You Speak (so the word count includes 2022 chapters, don't @ me 😂). It's pretty heavy but I think the break will make the story that much better for it, honestly.
Playlist here.
Also in this AU, a couple ficlets set before TimGerry got together.
What's His Deal? [Rated T | 608 words]: Gerry tries to find out what Tim's deal is. Jon is completely unhelpful. From "Blossoming Romance" Tumblr prompt: "Attempting to find out if they are single/available"
Scoop [Rated E | 682 words]: Gerry has just hired a new employee at Pinhole books, and it may just cost him his sanity. Involves ice cream.
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Ad Libitum [Rated E | 1,861 words - WIP]
It's Tim Stoker's first week at The Magnus Conservatory, and his piano accompanist hasn't shown up for auditions. An imposing goth swoops out of the shadows to save him, but Tim worries his instant attraction to the man may make it hard to control himself.
I just started this one! Music conservatory AU where Tim is studying voice and Gerry is a pianist. Excited to see where it goes (honestly, your guess is as good as mine at the moment).
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And of course I've got a book and a Patreon with two serials in progress if you're interested.😉😉😉 But I hope to write a LOT more fic in 2024! Love y'all. 💜🖤💜🖤💜💜🖤💜🖤💜💜🖤💜🖤💜
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It's intro post time!
Hi! I'm KitCat!
~The end~
Okay okay maybe you need a little bit more.
As I already said, I'm KitCat, master procatsinator and moving catastrophe, nice to meet you. (Though, everybody calls me KitKat, Kit or Chocosy, which is perfectly fine as well as any other name you want to give me ;)
I'm a minor, so all the creeps please leave now. My motto in life is "live and let live", so if you're here to hurt somebody, please leave too. Thank you :).
The typical things (that I actually forgot when I first posted this): I'm a straight white European Christian girl (teenager) and therefore probably the person with the most boring background, according to Tumblr ;).
I have two "adopted daughters": 1. My Killercat and tuna-demanding master Pauline 2. ";)", the bracket face (she can adapt any form of bracket face if she wants to, but the winking one is her favourite)
Some random facts about me: - my favourite colour is something between purple and dark blue - I have no clue how to write the word color/colour - I'm a German and from Germany (obviously) - I have no clue about the 'typical German culture', since my family was in Poland, Ukraine, Kazakhstan and Russia for around three hundred years and only came back to Germany 30 years ago or so - I love brackets and bracket faces - I have no clue about aesthetics - I consider myself a writer - I have no clue how to continue my stories - I love cats (who would have guessed that) - I have no clue how to make an intro post - I have a stupid sense humour - I have no clue in general but I'm trying :)
You can consider me as: Your silly Tumblr neighborhood KitCat and founder of the hug-ducks ;).
Do I take Tumblr serious? No. I'm that one friend that will be hyperactive the one day and then just dissappear for the next three weeks without a word. But if you ever need me, my inbox is always open. Vent as much as you want to, I'll try to comfort you.
Random stuff: I often misunderstand stuff, so if I'm acting weird, there is a 1/3 chance that I misunderstood you, a 1/3 chance I wanted to make a silly joke and you misunderstood me, and a 1/3 chance that I'm just weird ;). I'm a "Very vibey" (@mushroomcarrotstick) person, btw. @hijabi-desi-bookworm told me once I was "literally one of the best and ~vibest~ people" she knows. Do with that whatever you want, but my name is KitCat Chaos Vibey Clueless Badass Silly for a reason. Oh and if ANYBODY tells you that I'm cute, they are liars. All lies. I'm a pure badass and never ever search after the leta vs. kitkat war. It's better to let the past behind us and move on.
Sooooo, what else can I write here? Hmmm.... AH! MY MOOTS! I FORGOT MY MOOTS!!!
How do I do this now... you know what? I'll just make a list of the moots and then put the link here.
What else? Fandoms, maybe? (current obsession right on the top) - Worm (Parahumans) - Renegades - Claim the Stars (still waiting for the second book) - pjo, hoo, toa - The Inheritance Games (currently reading the second book) - tpq - kotlc - Warrior Cats (don't make fun of me. These books are my childhood and I will read them until I die) - Shadow League (never read the fourth book as it wasn't translated)
Also I enjoy listening music by Imagine Dragons :).
Yeah well, that's it, I suppose. I have an ao3 account as well, but that's only Renegades fanfiction so far. If you want the link just ask or smth.
Since everybody does this, I'll drop an "aesthetic picture" that should give the same vibes as my blog:
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(source for the chaotic arson cat ;)
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ohsalome · 1 year
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What are some amazing, most read Ukraine authors? The only one I know is Gogol and I would like more on my radar.
First important disclaimer is that without knowing ukrainian, your pool of choice is very limited. Unfortunately, our translators haven't done nearly enough to make ukrainian literature acessable for english speakers, so a lot of genuinely amazing stuff would require you to know the language.
The second important disclaimer is that I am going to recommend you a lot of poetry, and, with no disrespect to the translators, it doesn't hit nearly as hard in english as it is in ukrainian. I've recently heard the phrase "to read poetry in translation is like to take a shower wearing a raincoat", and it is so true. So, apologies for this barrier, but there is nothing one can do.
With that in mind, let's start from classics:
The first most important author is Taras Shevchenko. He mainly wrote poetry, but has some prose works as well, and during his life he was more known as a popular artist. The Bible of his works is Kobzar (a ukrainian word for travelling blind musicians), and the same word is also often used as a nickname for Shevchenko - akin to how Shakespeare can be called the Bard. Among the most important poems pay attention to A Dream (the poem for which he was imprisoned by the russians with an explicit ban on writing and painting), The Caucasus, My Testament, Kateryna, A cherry orchad by the house, О thoughts of mine
The second big name to know is Lesya Ukrainka. Lesya is also more known for her drama and poetry than her prose, but she also was a prolific translator and a feminist. Her most well-know play is The Forest Song (a cartoon adaptation is soon to be released after 7 years of production, but from the trailer it looks like it's not going to be close to the text). I find her Бояриня play to be much more interesting and relevant, however, it looks like it has not been translated yet. Among her poems, some of the most important are Contra Spem Spero and Cassandra (the latter has had some successful stage prouctions in Great Britain last year, mayhaps it will gain popularity)
Some links to her works: [x] [x]
Fun fact: there are speculations about Lesya Ukrainka's relationship with her close friend Olga Kobylyanska. The letters they exchanged are quite intimate and sometimes even erotic in nature, which lead some academics to believe that they were more than friends (most still fall in the "gal pals" camp tho). However, if that were true, that would mean that Lesya Ukrainka is the only bisexual woman to ever be printed on banknotes.
The third pillar of ukrainian classical literature is Ivan Franko. Once again, we are talking about partiotic poetry, but there are also many socialistic ideas in his works (although he became dissilusioned with it in his later years ), which I think many western readers will find appealing - (side comment - it looks like "collective west" is going through the same processses that we overcame a century ago, so ehm... good luck, y'all will need it). I haven't been able to find much of his works translated in English, so here is a good master page. Zakhar Berkut is considered to be one of his greatest works (a ukrainian-american co-production movie The Rising Hawk was released a couple of years ago, it was shit). If you manage to put your hands on it, I would greatly recommend The Painted Fox and Moses. Also, reading Eternal Revolutionary imprinted on me so much in childhood and determined who I grew up to be, I pretty much consider Franko to be my spiritual father.
A great event that happened this year is that Valeryan Pidmohylny's The City is finally getting an english translation. I have been gushing about this book on this blog before (you can also find the link to the publisher there), because for the archetypical ukrainian literature this book is a breath of fresh air. It's beautiful, it's modern, it's urbanistic, the protagonist is irredeemable asshole, it's amazing and I should re-read it as well.
Among the authors that are much more difficult to find, I greatly recommend Ivan Nechu-Levytsky. In my humble opinion, he like no other has managed to capture the "ukrainian spirit" and his plots are extremely captivating and dramatic as hell.
I will always, always add Ivan Bahryiany to my lists of ukrainian "must reads". He is an author of the first ever ukrainian adventure novel Tiger Trappers/The Hunters and the Hunted, which is the book that is loved even by those who don't like ukrainian literature. However, I personally find his Garden of Gethsemane to be a much more important (but take care, it is much more depressing as well). This author is extremely important, but I struggle finding PDFs of his work - perhaps, you'd have to search the libraries or ukr diaspora publishers for paperbacks. I have also been unsuccessfully hunting for an english translation of Why I am not going back to the Soviet Union? pamphlet for years - and I know for sure it exists because the USA first lady at that time has read it and it influenced her opinion on the USSR - but I've had no luck so far.
Another very important author of the same time period is Mykola Khyvylovy. One of his plays has actually been recently put to stage in English (shamefully, I haven't watched it yet, but I can vouch for the text it was based on - it's brutal).
I can't speak about ukrainian literature without mentioning crimean tatars, and although their works are much, much less known (in Ukraine as well, unfortunately), please do not overlook it. It is a gorgeous culture, and reading it, I grew to love and value Crimea so much even without ever visiting it. There are some english translations avaliable, including those of Noman Çelebicihan - an extermely important figure in Crimean Tatar history, the founder of the unfortunately short-lived Crimean Democratic Republic, the author of their national anthem, and overall very influential revolutionary.
Now let's jump to the popular modern authors. Many don't have english translation, but the problem is much less prominent in comparison to the ukrainian classics. With these authors, you shouldn't have trouble with finding paperbacks. Among the most influential authors I can recommend Serhiy Zhadan (Timothy Snyder has once said that he expects Zhadan to receive a Nobel Prize in literature and I agree), Oksana Zabuzhko (she either aught to release soon or has already released an english-exclusive book about the russian-ukrainian war), Yuri Izdryk (extremely modern and unconventional, but he's a good represention of the current state of art), Yuriy Andrukhovych (love his mastery of language, hate his characters). These authors are more light-hearted, but a grim necessity for today is Stanislav Aseyev's The Torture Camp on Paradise Street. It is a autobilgraphical book describing his experience being imprisoned by russians between 2017 and 2019. Western journalism often describes the war crimes russians commit on our land, but just listing the number of people lost doesn't show the face of the russian horror. Read this book to understand why we were screaming about the russian threat before the full-scale invasion, and why every time we regain the territory we brace with terror of what we'll discover there - because everywhere russian army goes, they build hunderds of such Isolyatsya camps that the book describes.
Also check out Serhiy Zhadan's band!
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mythweaverarts · 8 months
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I JUST FINISHED GOOD OMENS SEASON ONE AND I'M BEING SO NORMAL I SWEAR BUT ALSO AAALAOFLFGNKDLROQLN
Ok here are the thoughts I can remember written down ⚠️GOOD OMENS SEASON ONE SPOILERS⚠️
1. Pepper is a badass. "I believe in peace BITCH" I love her so much.
2. I'm sorry but it's so funny seeing Crowley try and be Azi and Azi try to be Crowley like THEY KNOW EACH OTHER SO WELLLLLL
3. Crowley drove through a fucking fire. That's it, that's my point.
4. He got the Archangel Michael to miracle him a towel. 😂
5. The coat reference with Crowley/Azi not wanting to spoil his coat is a great callback to the paintball episode.
6. The fact that the Army Base guard is reading a book with NEIL GAIMAN very clearly printed on the front got me in tears, it's such a good gag.
7. Crowley's entrance in the flaming car has to be one of the best entrances ever on TV. Side note, he walks like a wet noodle and I love it 😭 he's trying to hold in the noodle when he's Azi but it's hard for him.
8. Ok but like why was I crying about a car.
9. I want to hug Adam after the scream, because even though he started the destruction of the world, HE'S 11. My LITTLE SISTER is 11.
10. "Who are we at war with?" "Ukraine." ... that aged well.
11. The way Azi/Crowley couldn't help playing with Gabriel with the fire jet.
12. Adding to this, Gabriel is a dickhead.
13. The rubber duck 😭
14. Tartan is very stylish Azi, don't let Crowley tell you otherwise.
15. "To the world" THE WAY THEY LOOK AT EACH OTHER IN THIS SCENE IS TOO MUCH FOR MY LITTLE HEART. THEY ARE EACH OTHERS WORLD AND YOU CANT TELL ME OTHERWISE AAAAAAA
That's all the thinks I can think of for now, but I'm being so normal guys, perfectly normal behaviour.
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cbrownjc · 2 years
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Rashid is Armand, and I will stand by this theory until the show proves me wrong
So I gave it one week to think about it, and I am fully on the Rashid is Armand theory train. Reasons?
1. Having Armand go by the name of a minor character from Marius’ backstory (Blood and Gold) hints at the character's ties to Marius in a small way before the reveal that his ties to Marius are even bigger than that.
2. Not only does he always wear gloves and never stands in direct sunlight, but he’s also the only other person in the penthouse besides Louis who doesn’t wear a mask around Daniel. The pandemic has been mentioned more than once, with Louis specifically saying Daniel is immunocompromised in EP1. All the other household staff we see - particularly during the 7-course dinner scene - wear masks. Rashid never does, even when standing near Daniel in EP4. This hints that Rashid isn't human - like Louis, he isn’t going to pass the virus to Daniel because he’s already dead. 
3. What about his eyes, you say? The simple answer is that he’s wearing contacts to hide his eyes. The more intriguing answer to me, however, is that Armand is actually using the Spell Gift on Daniel to make Daniel not notice what his real eyes are like. Because, and this is key, all the modern-day 2022 scenes are told from Daniel’s POV. The whole tv series opens with Daniel, establishing him as the POV character for all the 2022 scenes. So when we see Rashid’s eyes, we see them as Daniel sees them, not for what they really are. 
4. But why is Rashid worshiping/serving Louis as a God, you ask? Well, he’s not. When Daniel directly asks Rashid about Louis being his god, Rashid doesn’t answer the question and changes the subject. Rashid has never directly said that he specifically worships Louis; it’s only what Daniel inferred. (Again, all the 2022 scenes are from Daniel’s POV.)
5. But then, why is Armand hiding his identity? Well, he’s hiding it from Daniel. And why is he hiding it from Daniel? Well, because The Devil’s Minion event already happened between him and Daniel. I want to shout-out @alwynwitch , who gave an awesome theory/breakdown of this theory of how The Devil’s Minion event could have already happened in the AMC universe. Basically, Armand let Daniel go instead of turning him. And Armand used the Spell/Mind gift to alter Daniel’s memories when he did so, so Daniel doesn’t remember any of it. As Daniel said in the first episode, he doesn’t even remember the interview between him and Louis in 1973. 
The reason he doesn’t remember isn’t just because of the drugs. 
But we are set to get a flashback to that first interview in EP6. And I think that is because Daniel’s memories will start fully returning to him, beginning in EP6. We got a set-up for it in EP4, with Daniel saying he’s been dreaming of Polynesian Mary’s, the gay bar he and Louis first met at, ever since he got the tapes back.
But neither Louis nor Rashid/Armand want to break Daniel’s mind in one go if/when the memories came back, especially by explaining it all to him all in one go. Hence, the slight subterfuge wrt Rashid’s real identity. 
I don’t expect to see the full Devil’s Minion story in EP6 or EP7 btw. That is totally something that would happen/be shown in S2, if this turns out to be true. But I wouldn’t be surprised if EP6 ended with Daniel remembering he’d met Rashid before in the 70s, too, just like he did Louis. (EP7 is when they’d fully reveal his identity IMO).
6. And of course, there are the other specific things - the Crimea/Ukraine connection and Rashid being shown to be religious - Muslim in this case instead of Christian like book-Armand, but still religious.  
7. That apartment? Again, will not be at all surprised if the place is actually Rashid/Armand’s, because it is very much more his style than Louis’ (going by the books, at least). Very much Night Island or what little I’ve read about Trinity Gate so far. (I’ve just started the Prince Lestat trilogy. Before now, the last book I read in the Vampire Chronicles was Blackwood Farm, back when it was first published, and then I stopped reading the series.) It feels like Trinity Gate, but in Dubai instead of New York.
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So yeah, those are my reasons for backing the Rashid-is-Armand theory. Just looking at everything, it just makes so much sense to me for now.          
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onestormeynight · 1 month
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Ask Game: List 5 things that make you happy, then put this in the askbox for the last 10 people who liked or reblogged something from you! get to know your mutuals and followers :)
1. Coffee. This is the one and only thing I get bougie about. I grind my own beans, I use a French press, I specifically buy from small roasters. I am what one might call picky. I'll make you the best pot of coffee you ever had, though.
2. My cats, Harvest Moon (no, not after the game or the song) and Grey Sun. I love them. Fun fact, I've already had a crazy cat lady stage. My sister and I took care of 20 feral cats at one point. I'd come home from work and yell here kitty kitty kitty and you'd see them coming from everywhere.
3. Music/musicals. I have playlists for everything. Car karaoke is every day. I love to sing and dance (very poorly but who cares, I'm here for a good time). I think life would be better if it was a musical, just saying. Maybe we wouldn't all be so repressed then.
4. Sunflowers. They've always been a favorite. But I will never ever ever forget hearing about the older woman who waltzed up to a heavily armed soldier and told him to put sunflower seeds in his pocket so sunflowers would grow from his body if he died in Ukraine. Absolute queen shit. 👏🍷👑💅
5. Reading. I don't read as much as I used to, but I still love it. I'm currently working on the Guardians of Childhood series because I needed some brain candy. Usually I read the books who's size allows them to double as a blunt weapon.
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longeyelashedtragedy · 4 months
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tbh did not send the Lamps chara ask (shy) however I was seriously considering and someone beat me to it. if you feel like it and have time/energy after the others pending then I would massively enjoy expanded Redders thoughts. and/or JT if you like vintage Chels beyond Frank. ik that the skipper (derogatory) corrupted Grealo but he no doubt sunk claws into Frank first
i can definitely do redders for ya! JT i don't know too much about. i know he has some controversies, but that ain't my business lol. i appreciate how he made franko feel and i'm intersted in how the 2 of them have taken different paths both about how they act toward each other and how they talk about roman abramovich post-ukraine war 😂 (would love to hear more about how he corrupted grealo.) BUT. jamie i've got a lot more to say about.
i feel like if you read jamie's odd autobiography and then think of him through that lens, he's a real diamond in the rough of a fascinating footballer. he seems kinda brainless and vapid but i think some of that is because he has too much going on in his brain to use it for that sort of thought. i don't even mean that as a diss. that's a real thing!!! but let's see...
favorite thing about them: well, he certainly seems unpretentious and easy to talk to, which i like. has some good taste in music, is still close to his parents, always takes franko's side and defends him 😂
so, this next part seems like a weird thing to list as a "favorite," as i'm sad he suffers or has suffered in this way, but out of all the things i've read about mental health, both fiction and non-fiction, jamie's book described some of my specific childhood/teenage Horrors so well it was like i wrote it and i was so surprised that he went through all that and admitted it so unselfconsciously. that combination of talented kid with an idyllic life (this was me, albeit in other ways than jamie lol) who lives in this private world of pure fear. some of the things he mentions, like having to paint his room cheerful yellow to ward off Bad Thoughts and Scary things, and being so afraid when he saw the exorcist as a teenager that he slept with the lights on and couldn't get the movie out of his head for weeks--the isolating strength of these kinds of fears is sooooo fuckin real man. he also describes needing to watch the same movie every day for comfort when he got home from school where he got bullied and teased for being a little different, and his attachments to his toys that he'd have to do little rituals with every day to help him feel Calm, and how he took them to school to try to make friends and kids stole them :( he also describes his older self as having something Dark inside him, like when his close friends would become occupied with a girlfriend, he'd kind of freak out and try to get in the way, because he was afraid of losing their support.
his book also describes very sinister perceptions of the external world too, a lot of kind of scary or just ominous scenarios drift through the book (a creep that tried to grab him in the park, the scary, dark corridors under dean court stadium when his Daddy was in charge of bournemouth--i related to that too--, rumors of some weird creep working at tottenham when they wanted to sign young him?)
i apologize if this is repetitive to anyone reading but i had some very particular Problems as a kid and i've just never seen some of them articulated the way jamie articulates them. and i just found all this so...fascinating. i think it explains a lot about his adult self and provides such a contrast between him and brainy franko (see headcanons section!)
least favorite thing about them: he cut his hair and has a beard! i'm predictable--if a footballer had long hair and now doesn't, this will be my response. otherwise, what's there really to dislike? he's kind of inoffensive imho
favorite line: uh a few
"Frank Lampard has a vision for seeing things." (i-hope he actually said that for real)
from his book:
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oookay then, anyway:
brotp: idk, who does he hang out with? i like his interactions with the guys on ALOTO even though his main feature is clearly to be the punching bag. maybe with stevie g? with Daddy-Uncle Harry? lmao
notp: his new wife. at first they didn't look as miserable together as he and poor Louise always did, but he just posted a video from their maldives vacation today, and woof--she looks miserable. well, i'm not here for blonde scandinavian models and i think jamie is too childish to do well in a Grownup Married Relationship. again, kind of like with franko, i don't mean childish like... "spoiled entitled manbrat" or "hasn't lost joie de vivre"--more like. is trapped as kid because of his own mind. i think if a therapist saw only jamie and franko as clients, and no one else, they'd be set for life
otp: well...there can be only one. i'd love for jamie & franko to give romeo + juliet their happy ending 😭 they are weirdly...made for each other. and hey--according to the internet it's legal! 🫡👮🏼
random headcanon: so many! lampardverse is sort of all about Jamie in a sense, and i think as a child Jamie so very much appreciated the solid steady presence of his younger cousin. franko's psychological issues are of a very different nature lol, plus we know he's a master of repression (can relate) and we imagine that he'd help jamie with his homework and read him chapters of the narnia book, and eat the food jamie refused to eat.
another one is that jamie is super dependent on his Well-Known Dad. they do a lot of stuff together and idk on ALOTO one of the main purposes seems to get jamie overwhelmed and stressed--because he gets like that very easily--so it feels like Uncle Harry's presence is just. very necessary for him.
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fascin8ing! YMMV.
unpopular opinion: i don't think i have one? are there popular or unpopular opinions on jamie redknapp? hahaha
a song i associate with them: hmmm, not really any? i do have him singing shimmy shimmy ya by ODB at franko in "red red red" lol. but i don't really count that 😂
favorite picture of them: let's do a few!
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gay af behaviors (affectionate)
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whump tendencies
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bougie gay cou-- (cousins? couple? choose your own adventure)
THANKS for coming along on this wild ride!
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aif0s-w · 3 months
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Just wanted to send you a message. The last 2 years have been atrocious and appalling, but also remarkable in how the country of Ukraine has stood their ground. Living in a relative safe country, I’m not going to pretend I know exactly what you have gone through, but I reckon it’s been awfully tiring to deal with all the r*ssian shit.
That being said, I want to thank you for posting and sharing all that you have. I have no friends from Ukraine, but reading personal posts along to the news and books I consumed was important.
I wish you and all your countrymen the best. Slava Ukraini!
Thank you for the support. Sometimes posting about Ukraine feels like screaming into the void, but then I see someone is actually reading that and that makes me feel better.
Slava Ukraini and heroyam slava!
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jessequinones · 6 months
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The Good Reads Awards Need To Change
It's time to dissect the 2023 Good Reads Book Awards and the controversy in which it brings.
Sure, these awards might seem like a popularity contest since the winner is decided via public vote but please understand when I say that winning "best book" is very important. 
Winning any category for Good Reads isn't just a pat on the back; it's something you can be proud of. You can brag about it, traditional publishing houses might give you a call and it’s also a marketing goldmine, (which is what traditional publishing houses only care about).
In order to win “best book” you need the public to vote for you, which means you need to have fans which also means lesser-known authors are pretty much left in the dust. Even the ones who do get nominated for a category, if there’s another book who had a lot of marketing backing it up, it’s unlikely the one with less advertisement will win.
Authors aren't assembly lines. They can't churn out a new book every year. For many, this year's publication might be their one chance at winning and unless you're blessed with a fanbase the size of George RR Martin's. In a world where about four million books drop annually, doing these awards right and fair is crucial.
So, how do you get it right and what’s wrong with this year nominations? Well, check this out:
In the fiction category, 20 books are up for grabs. Out of 20 authors, you've got...
1 Palestinian (Free Palestine)
1 Puerto Rican
1 Chinese
2 Black authors
The other 15? White.
Representation isn't a checkbox to avoid “cancellation”; it's vital. There are storytellers worldwide, from India to Ukraine, Egypt to Kenya, Cuba, and beyond, with tales to share. But the top 15 authors on this list are white, and only one non-U.S. or non-English POC author made the cut.
Authors from all over the globe published their books this year but can't represent their countries because Good Reads is laser-focused on the American and English demographic which closes the door on unique voices worldwide and is a disservice to literature.
Let's be clear—I've got no beef with these nominated authors. If they're up for best fiction, I assume they wrote a good book. But with 20 choices, most folks will vote for what they've read, likely the one with the flashiest marketing. That puts POC authors at a disadvantage because, let's face it, they're usually broke.
The Good Reads Book Awards needs a change. Keep the popularity contest if you must, but let the real award be decided by a diverse panel of judges who've read every nominated book, cover to cover. Sure, it's not a flawless plan, but it's better than letting popularity and marketing muscle dictate the winner. And let’s make sure the judges aren’t known to the public to avoid any kind of bribes.
To ensure representation, appoint one person from each ethnicity or minority group to represent their book. From the disabled community to LGBTQIA+ (to be fair there was at least one person from this group who made it to the nominee list this year), and definitely an indigenous author here and there—make it not 20 popular fiction books but instead 20 popular diverse voices who wrote a fictional story.
Authors aren't faceless entities; they're individuals craving a spotlight for their stories. If you're asking, "Why aren't there any [blank] authors?" they're out there. You just can't find them because these awards heavily favour a certain kind of author, leaving others, particularly those from minority groups, in the shadows.
May I recommend some First Nation Aboriginal books that came out in 2023 if you would like to diverse your reading? Happy Reading.
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“Funeral Songs for Dying Girls” by Cherie Dimaline follows a young Indigenous girl named Winifred who lives in an apartment above a cemetery. Her father works there in the crematorium, and her mother, who died during childbirth, is buried out in the front yard.
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“Warrior Girl Unearthed” by Angeline Boulley: In order to reclaim this inheritance for her people, Perry has no choice but to take matters into her own hands. She can only count on her friends and allies, including her overachieving twin and a charming new boy in town with unwavering morals. Old rivalries, sister secrets, and botched heists cannot—will not—stop her from uncovering the mystery before the ancestors and missing women are lost forever. Sometimes, the truth shouldn't stay buried.
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“A Grandmother Begins the Story” by Michelle Porter: Carter is a young mother, recently separated. She is curious, angry, and on a quest to find out what the heritage she only learned of in her teens truly means. Allie, Carter's mother, is trying to make up for the lost years with her first born, and to protect Carter from the hurt she herself suffered from her own mother. Lucie wants the granddaughter she's never met to help her join her ancestors in the Afterlife. And Geneviève is determined to conquer her demons before the fire inside burns her up, with the help of the sister she lost but has never been without. Meanwhile, Mamé, in the Afterlife, knows that all their stories began with her; she must find a way to cut herself from the last threads that keep her tethered to the living, just as they must find their own paths forward.
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dora-papp · 4 months
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A guide to my novels
For my followers who might not have a clue about what sort of stuff I have bled out of my soul and fingers so far. All of these books have only been published in Hungarian. Should that situation ever change, then please find me ridiculously drunk in a comfortable sitting nook.
Tükörlelkek 1-2. (Mirror Souls 1&2)
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A young adult duology telling the story of two very different teenage girls: the most popular girl in school, Kriszti, a smart, beautiful dancer, and the uncontrollable, rebellious rocker, Orsi. Two parallel romance stories showing the everyday struggles of Hungarian teens.
My most known work, and a compulsory reading in many schools.
Bolyongó (Wanderer)
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The story of 19-year-old Norbert, a somewhat modern viking, a follower of Germanic neopagan faith, and an outsider in his town and in school. While trying to finish his studies, he falls in love with an atheist girl, who helps him overcome his demons emerging from his childhood.
The Hungarian IBBY student jury’s choice as best young adult book in 2019. Read an excerpt in English here (pages 12-15).
Rúnatánc (Runedance)
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24-year-old Norbert, a neopagan wanderer living in Berlin at the time of the pandemic, trying to come to terms with his feelings on the anti-vaccination movement and the Russia-Ukraine war, while exploring Berlin with his ex-girlfriend and facing a new, scarier world.
Helena-trilógia (Helena trilogy)
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A fantasy romance set in Oregon, USA about an 18-year-old orphan living by the rules of a menacing monster within her, as she meets three siblings with healing powers, one of whom she falls in love with. She discovers her suppressed powers given to her by Mother Nature, and fights for survival in the time of the climate crisis and human destruction of nature.
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catgirlforeskin · 8 months
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hii u seem very smart and well read and I wanted 2 ask as someone who's just started reading capital (very slowly) what reading/theory resources do you recommend? Especially ones that have really shaped how you think and analyze things today :3 I'm also really curious how u became so knowledgable about the conflict Ukraine is having, I want 2 learn more but it seems like a lot of history and I'm not sure where 2 start
I’m honestly not sure what to recommend because I was mostly shaped by a very eclectic scatter of a million articles and whatnot, it’s hard to point to any one source. I wish I had saved more of the stuff I read in college, there were a lot of good academic journals and stuff I’d have no way of finding now.
When I was first getting into leftism/anarchism I read a lot of Noam Chomsky but I don’t think I’d really recommend him, he’s more of a “baby’s first” exposure to anticapitalism, and if you’re following me you’re beyond needing him lol.
I’ve always been a history person above all else and prefer reading on the ground reporting from conflicts/political struggles than more abstracted theory (though it’s useful to have that foundation and analytical skills built up).
The Daughters of Kobani, Generation Kill, and README.txt are good military history done by reporters on the ground (though README.txt is a lot more than just military history). The authors of those vary in political radicalism (the first two being mostly libs) but it’s hard to find that kind of reporting anywhere else.
I’m currently reading Blackwater by Jeremy Scahill, Homage to Catalonia, and Rise of the Warrior Cop, and so far recommend all of them, Homage to Catalonia would be my one anarchism recommendation here I guess, wish I had more but I just can’t remember anything else off the top of my head. I’m sure some mutuals will have stuff to recommend down below.
With history generally, finding good sources is difficult, and historiography is imo the most important thing for leftists to learn. Figuring out how to compare different histories of the same events and tell the value of sources and how they’re cited is vital.
Something that really changed how I view stuff is the book There Are No Accidents by Jessie Singer, I can’t recommend it highly enough. Was life-changing for me, and it’s honestly the one thing I’d recommend for anyone getting into any kind of leftist politics. For me urbanism really is at the heart of my politics, everything is connected to it. I hate to recommend YouTubers/podcasts here but CityNerd is very good for learning urbanism, he used to be a city planner.
This got longer than I intended but I also feel like it’s still severely lacking. Part of me wants to go find every good article I’ve ever read and link it here, but I’ll cut this off before it becomes too sprawling haha. Mutuals if you’ve got good stuff, put it below 👇
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willkimurashat · 6 months
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15 People, 15 Questions
Thank you so much for tagging me @rebelrayne and @operationnope !!!💕💕💕
1. Are you named after anyone?
I don’t think so!
2. When was the last time you cried?
A few weeks ago, reading a book for class that hit a bit too close to home🥲
3. Do you have kids?
Nope lol
4. What sports do you play/have you played?
I was never a sporty gal, so I wasn’t in any sports teams whatsoever, but just generally in gym class I liked racquet games, so like, tennis and badminton:)
5. Do you use sarcasm?
You tell me, darling
6. What’s the first thing you notice about people?
I have bad memory on faces, so probably their height, their voice, their clothes, maybe their hair or any super distinct feature, if they have one
7. What’s your eye color?
Brown, but when my eyes are watery, they look kinda green👀
8. Scary movies or happy endings?
Happy endings - I’m too jumpy for scary stuff lol😅
9. Any talents?
I write a little, I draw a little, play a little piano, maybe some other little things I can’t think of right now lol😋
10. Where were you born?
Ukraine
11. What are your hobbies?
I’m a bit of a jack of all trades, so just a little bit of everything lol😅 actually, put that for my talents - I’ve been told that I can pick up anything and be good at it haha (not at all me bragging🙅‍♀️)
12. Do you have any pets?
Not currently:(
13. How tall are you?
5’1 (teeny-tiny)
14. Favorite subject in school?
English, art, psychology, and I actually really liked calculus cuz I had a really good teacher I guess😊
15. Dream job?
I like the field I’m in now, which is good, given I’ve been studying for it for 7 fucking years ha!🙃 But, if not that, I’d love to be in a creative field - maybe animation or game design or idk, something of the sort:)
Tagging: I’m very late to this, so I think everyone’s been tagged already lol, but if you haven’t - go for it!!
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yourlakebed · 8 months
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a couple days ago I sent a letter here on tumblr to @neil-gaiman , to which he did not respond (fair enough, he was probably on strike that day from what I've seen on social media, and he also has so many asks per day that I'm honestly amazed how he manages to live his life answering so many of them). but i decided that i want to leave it here anyway. because it came out much more personal than I originally intended and I'd like to have it as a reminder to myself about these part of my life and this version of me.
so the letter goes like this:
hi, mr Gaiman!
I sincerely hope you're having a good day. I'll try to be brief, which is barely possible as I have so much to say.
first of all, I cannot put into words how thankful I am for all your work and especially for what you've done to good omens. throughout the history of tv we were queerbaited and gaslighted to the point where it was even hard to believe that what I'm seeing on the screen had actually happened, and had actually appeared on other people's screens (and I know for sure that lots of people in this fandom share this feelings of mine about season 2). and it's not only about the queerness, but the depth of the story itself. i would very much like to go into all the details about the way your art influenced me on a deep, profound level and helped me realise and accept some very vital aspects of my personality (I was in agony for two months, thank you 🖤).
secondly, I want to thank you on behalf of all your Ukrainian fans. I remember the first months of russian invasion, when was forced to move to Germany, and suddenly found myself completely isolated from everything i knew. it felt like Death, like I was practically separated from Life. so I clung to any type of mental support from the creators I new and loved before. lots of them broke my heart.. and then there were you with all your posts about our situation and encouragement of people to do everything in their power, and your participation in Lviv Book Forum with Noah Harari, and your post here about that one old Ukrainian church (yep, I remember everything!). that meant the world to me and still does.
it was summer and "Sandman". and then it was autumn, and I found myself still in Germany, still completely alone and isolated on a bench in a park reading "The Graveyard Book". and then "Good Omens". I practically used the second season to survive the august, and in the end it helped me to make one of the hardest decisions in my life. now I'm home, in Ukraine again. right now when I was writing this the air alarm went on, but I am happier than i ever had been in this past two years.
i know the chances that you'll see this are very low. but i needed to get this out of my chest and let you know how grateful I am.
and the last one - i finally got my physical copy of Good Omens, and decided to customise it myself. mostly to make the soft cover harder, but also to make it pretty✨️
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thank you, mr Gaiman, for everything.
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i genuinely did not intend for my previous ask to come off as accusatory. i have ASD and have problems conveying and interpreting tone, so if it seemed like i was trying to paint you as something you’re not then i sincerely apologize. you are, however, correct in pointing out that there’s a lot frustration tied to the topic for me, as i’ve time and time again seen people use innocuous-sounding statements about the importance of not being judgmental wrt:kinks as a fig leaf for their habitual pushing of survivors’ boundaries on topics like rape and things like “consent play,” “raceplay,” “ageplay,” etc. as a survivor myself i find much of this stuff extremely triggering, and i’m tired of seeing people whose blogs are plastered with things like simulated SA and CSAM take advantage of others’ good faith when they say things like “don’t judge people for taboo kinks,” knowing that most will assume they mean stuff like vore or inflation or whatever. i’m trying to imply that you are one of those people, but i don’t think people realize how generally positive statements like “don’t judge others’ kinks” can be co-opted by those with harmful intentions.
So first I want to say that it's understandable for these subjects to be emotionally taxing (and yeah, triggering), and also that it's kind of a lot to deal with in the space of a Tumblr post. I'm going to try to be both careful and somewhat concise - and sometimes those things can be read as condescending and curt. I appreciate your clarification, I'm trying to answer sincerely, and it is not my intention to come across as either of those things.
Also, we live in the worst timeline where when people say "CSA" they can mean anything on the gamut from horrible crimes such as actual children being assaulted, to ~horrible crimes~ such as having sex ed books in the library or, you know, gay people existing in public. I'm going to assume that you are neither asking me about irl child abuse nor about some cute picture book where two ladies hold hands. My impression from everything you've said here and in the other ask is that your frustrations are centered around people having kinks or sexual fantasies that have something to do with pain/violence/consent/age/etc, and also artistic depictions of sexual violence and/or of underaged characters in sexual situations (again, I'm not certain how broadly you define this; I've seen people object vehemently to coming of age novels that include teenagers having sex, or to eroticized fan art of grown-up versions of young characters). If that general outline of your concerns is off-base somehow, I apologize for misunderstanding.
With those caveats out of the way, there are basically three points I want to touch on:
Point #1 is that all kinds of good/true/useful statements can be and often are co-opted by people with harmful ideas and/or intentions, and that this is not a reflection on the validity of the original statement. It's unsettlingly common for people to advance violently racist arguments about population control on the basis that climate change is happening. This doesn't mean that climate change isn't happening, or that anybody who says "climate change is happening" is responsible for every conceivable way that someone could twist that statement for their own ends. Russian war propaganda (and I am singling out Russia because it's a very current example, but arguments in this vein are a staple of war propaganda generally) says that because neo-nazis exist and are bad (true!), invading Ukraine is good (no). Obviously I'm sketching very quick and broad outlines here because neither of those topics is what we're actually discussing, but I think you can see the point I'm making. It's totally understandable to be frustrated when people twist good arguments for bad ends, but that's not a reason to reject those arguments out of hand.
Point #2 is that "triggering" is a morally neutral descriptor. A lot of people - for fairly obvious and sympathetic reasons - find this hard to swallow. But if you reflect on specific scenarios it comes into focus pretty quickly; someone who was badly bitten by a neighbor's pet may find dogs triggering, but this doesn't make you a bad person for posting pictures of your puppy. A lot of people are triggered by really mundane and innocuous things that - at least to a casual observer - have no clear connection to the trauma itself. Plenty of people are triggered by stuff that's not just innocuous but generally agreed upon to be nice: birthdays, a kiss on the forehead, the smell of a certain food cooking. That's just how trauma works. We put trigger warnings on things so that people can make informed decisions about whether to avoid them or to brace themselves, not to mark those things as inherently immoral and tainted.
What I'm driving at here is that people can have every valid reason for being upset by something without it automatically following that the thing which upset them shouldn't exist. It is 100% understandable for survivors (or anyone else for that matter) to be disturbed by a rape scene in a film/show/book/whatever. That doesn't mean that it's morally wrong to write a rape scene; art is a means of discussing the human experience, some people writing those scenes have experienced rape, and all of us live with rape culture and have thoughts and emotions and experiences pertaining to it. That also doesn't mean that tasteless or exploitative or just plain bad art does not exist, or cannot be criticized as such. It means these things have to be judged on a case by case basis - how art handles sensitive subjects, not just the fact that it chooses to explore them - and that sometimes people are going to disagree about those judgments. That in itself can be scary and upsetting to come to terms with, and I get it. It's comforting to have hard and fast rules. It is so much easier to just say "nobody should ever write a rape scene" and be done with it. But imo that would hurt at least as many people as it helped - and most likely far more. If anything is shaming and silencing and soul-crushing to trauma survivors, in my experience, it is the insistence that to speak openly about violence is itself a form of violence.
Crucially, none of that means that you can't have boundaries. Anyone who insists on pushing those boundaries is absolutely and unequivocally in the wrong. At the same time, it's important to recognize that a boundary is a fence that you place around yourself, not a cage that you can order everybody else to stay inside. You're well within your rights to (eg) not read or discuss Lolita, but you can't ban other people from reading Lolita or discussing it in a public space like Tumblr.
Finally, Point #3: you are far from alone in being (at best) grossed out by certain kinks. You are not wrong that people can be pressured and coerced into things that they don't really want to do (which is equally true of the most vanilla of vanilla sex; in fact, if I had to guess, I'd wager that far more people have been pressured into sex acts that are commonly viewed as '''normal,''' specifically because they're viewed as normal - and thus mandatory, or at least weird to quibble about). And you are also not wrong that we live in a society. Of course kink does not exist in a vacuum. In the aforementioned rape culture, for example, it would be genuinely astonishing if a lot of people DIDN'T ever get their wires crossed between fear-arousal and sex-arousal and then fantasize about coercive or violent scenarios. To use a less loaded example, I think if you took a poll you could probably find a good number of people who at a formative age watched some film or other in which a sweaty handsome action hero got tied to a chair, and found that it Awakened Something in them. For that matter I don't even think something as simple as the number of people who get completely undone about boobs (as opposed to some other body part or erogenous zone) is entirely uninfluenced by the way women's bodies - and sexuality in general - are represented in pop culture.
And with all that said...human brains are individualized and complex and frequently pretty strange. Of course kink is influenced by the society we live in...but how exactly that influence plays out, how logical or 1:1 it is, is also individualized and complex and often strange. The primal monkeybrain is sometimes MUCH better at distinguishing different intensities of sensation/emotion than distinguishing different types of sensation/emotion (people cry when they're sad but also when they're furious, or frightened, or delighted, or deeply moved - or sometimes after really good sex, for that matter). Libido often operates very much in the realm of metaphor. Plenty of people do not literally want to fuck monsters, but are really into the rush of danger or the recognition of self in the other or just the idea of desire existing outside the limits of what is '''supposed''' to be desirable. Plenty of people do not literally want to be eaten, but really like the idea of being consumed.
All of which is to say that the reason people are reluctant to be judgmental about kink isn't that it's some magical zone where the rules of critical thinking don't apply. It's that you can't critically evaluate something when you're missing a ton of context, if you haven't been invited into somebody's bedroom you often are missing a ton of context on the whys and hows of what they're into, and there's no way you can demand someone explain all the fine details of their sex life to you without being the bad guy (that's, y'know, sexual harassment). I think it'd be pretty naive to say that nobody has ever kinked on something for cruel or dehumanizing reasons. I also think that cruelty and dehumanization are bad independent of how they're expressed. Abuse is wrong whether the perpetrator is as vanilla as a bottle of extract or the kinkiest person on the planet.
Does that make sense? What I'm saying is that all the potential ins and out of individual human sexuality between enthusiastically consenting adults are way above my pay grade, and what matters is that someone treats their partners (and also people they aren't sleeping with) respectfully and kindly. I don't think there's a world where somebody is into something specifically as a tool to mistreat people that doesn't lead to anyone being mistreated. And I think that sort of thing - actions, end results - is what's most feasible to judge if you don't want to be in the business of prosecuting thoughtcrimes.
Which I recognize is probably not the answer you were after, and like I said I think it's fully understandable to wish for a much more clean-cut and comforting answer when grappling with pretty fraught subjects. But I do think that even if you disagree with EVERYTHING else that I've said here, the basic stance that you're asking me about remains true: normal ≠ moral. Weirdness ≠ violence. Even in your ask above, you've drawn a distinction between non-normative behavior that you see as basically harmless and non-normative behavior that you see as harmful. Which says that we're in agreement that the fundamental question is whether someone's behavior is harmful, not whether someone's behavior is transgressive of social norms.
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