#my siblings in asexuality

[starstruckodysseys]

d&d shows have done more for asexual representation than like ninety percent of media

#happy ace week #asexual #dimension 20 #d20 #fantasy high #riz gukgak #a crown of candy #acoc #liam wilhelmina #the adventure zone #taz graduation #fitzroy maplecourt #my siblings in asexuality #feel free to add more in the tags btw!!

[knifearo]

aspecs: i've been thinking a lot lately about the "ace people can still have sex in a relationship/aro people can still be in romantic relationships" sentiment and the logistics of being aspec in relationships in general. obviously, the predominant sentiment is that you should be able to have a relationship where the other person will be happy without having sex/being romantic with you. if you feel comfortable sharing in tags/replies/reblogs/asks/whatever, though, i'd really like to hear people's experiences with sex/romance in relationships as an ace/aro person. have you found it generally possible to have a relationship with an allo person when you're ace and don't want to engage in sex? what are people's experiences being aro and being in relationships (labeled romantic or otherwise) with alloros? reblogging for reach is appreciated and any related experiences you feel comfortable sharing are completely welcome <2

#aspec4aspec relationship experiences welcome too obviously. not specifically what i'm looking for here but i always love to hear ab it haha #please do pass this on if you feel inclined. i'm looking to get like. survey reach. y'know. #curious is the wrong word but i'm thinking a lot about aspec people in relationships after that last big post i made #and i really want to have a better idea of what it's really like for people. #not so much curiosity as desire to understand. material for better allyship to my aspec siblings who engage in relationships like that. #care very deeply for you guys i want to facilitate a better understanding of aspec experiences for everyone <3 #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #aroace #aspec #talking #asexual #ace #asexuality #acespec #aro

[bored-boring-and-tired]

this panel is so beautifully drawn. before this, the other panels are more zoomed in on the two of them, but this one takes quite a few steps back and they seem so small.

the way it shows tori so small immediately sent my brain to making a connection to how she might feel alone in this because she doesn’t have many/any people to talk to who will understand aspec identities in general (PLEASE GO BECOME BEST FRIENDS WITH ALED PRETTY PLEASE IM BEGGING YOU-), and her and charlie are the only two in the panel, alone in the world. there’s so many other people there but they’re separated. just like there’s so many people in the lgbtqia+ community but aspec people often feel set apart and are often less understood or less accepted overall.

not to mention how the speech bubble is (proportionally) so large in this panel compared to the others. this is like, woah, it’s a scary thing to say, but you said it. and they’re at the top of the ferris wheel and the climax/breaking point of their conversation. tori figured herself out, she knows that she’s ace, and i have a feeling telling this to charlie is so freeing to her and takes such a weight off of her chest.

I JUST THOUGHT OF THIS WHILE TYPING - the two birds in the top corner are little bits of tori and charlie. one of them is the weight lifted from tori, she’s letting it go, setting it free, and the other is a bit of charlie going with that bird to help it and guide it through the sky to a safe place, he’ll help her feel safe and loved no matter what. i love them so much.

#this has been unfinished in my drafts like since the update came out but i finally finished it #alice oseman #osemanverse #heartstopper #heartstopper comic #heartstopper alice oseman #charlie spring #tori spring #solitaire #ace #asexual #asexuality #spring siblings #sprolden #victoria spring #ace representation #!!! #lil ramble there

[genderqueer-frog]

aroallo and alloace solidarity is literally just like 'I do not understand your attraction whatsoever but ily and you're awesome anyways do you want to commit arson later'

#ace speaks #I am alloace btw and I love my aroallo siblings #aroallo #alloace #asexual #aromantic #asexual spectrum #aromantic spectrum

[zibiscusloon]

Happy Pride from the Blights!

Also reminder that regardless of where you are, especially if you’re not in a supportive environment, things in your life can change for the better: “I grew up thinking everything was an opportunity to justify existing, but there are people out there who won’t make you feel worthless, you just have to let yourself meet them.”

#my art #the owl house #toh #toh fanart #pride month #pride 2023 #happy pride 🌈 #amity blight #edric blight #emira blight #blight siblings #blight twins #blight family #lesbian #aroace #aromantic #asexual #transgender #transfem #polysexual

[zoeeooe]

Another comic of me and my sibling.

I made this for the asexuals who may be anxious about ending the bloodlines of their family.

Bonus +

Remember: stay safe, eat cake!

#my draws #asexuality #asexual #siblings #comics #lgbt memes #asexual memes #aroace #lgbtqiia+ #lgbtq

[dootznbootz]

This might be my asexualness speaking but simply putting your faces together, nuzzling, and quick pecks on cheeks/forehead/nose/etc. will ALWAYS be more loving/intimate than kissing on the lips.

To me, those "smaller" acts of affection are more intimate as it's simply a physical reminder of "Hey, I care about you" and/or "I love being close to you".

I've seen so many people make out just to make out even with folks they don't know (Good for them! I do not care what others do as long as everybody involved is okay!) and I think for Allos, the act of kissing each other's lips is a way to gain physical "pleasure" as well as there are a lot of nerves on the lips.

But lil kisses elsewhere? Your skin isn't touching their skin enough to GAIN any pleasure for yourself other than a happy "I'm just letting you know I care" sorta thing you know? And if it is prolonged nuzzling/closeness, it's still just very "soft". You're doing a small physical act of affection for THEM. And idk I just really love that. Little reminders of love for THEIR sake, you know?

#btw the little kisses/nuzzles is any relationship btw. I just know most folks usually only kiss lips for romantic/sexual purposes #parent kissing child's forehead. sibling kissing sibling's cheeks. lover kissing lover's palm. etc. ANY relationship. #I hope this makes sense T.T #I'm also someone who's pretty grossed out by saliva🤢 #I would not consider myself aromantic so maybe that's also something that should be considered?? idk??? #I'm writing right now and small affections have always been more loving to me so yee #asexual #ace #romance #??? #idk how to tag this for once in my life lol #Mad rambles #writing #lgbtqia #essay

[thespinofmakkerswheel]

Obsessed with this bit in the new Heartstopper update <3

#michael holden my beloved #and also happy ace tori coming out to everybody!! #we waited for so long but it was worth it #i loved this spring siblings interaction #michael holden #tori spring #charlie spring #pan representation #ace representation #pansexual #asexual #sprolden #alice oseman #osemanverse

[steampunk-llama]

Genuinely begging people to understand that sex favourability =/= sex positivity, and that sex repulsion =/= sex negativity

Also if we could please leave behind the mindset that asexuality (specifically repulsed aces) = Puritanism in 2024 that'd be wonderful thanks <3

#This is particularly rampant in aspec circles but M A N #One of those is a political stance regarding peoples right to engage with sex how they please #The other is simply personal preference on the subject #Me being physically repulsed by sex doesnt mean I think everyone who has it should like. Die or w/e holy shit #You can be both sex repulsed and sex positive!! Just like you can be sex favourable and sex negative!! #Sorry to my indifferent siblings if you feel left out rn this was more a vent about the Extremes tm #sex repulsed #sex favourable #asexual #aspec #sex positivity #sex negativity #ask to tag #sex favorable

[herbirdglitter]

Dear god we need more asexual awareness.

And more awareness for sex repulsed people

#asexual #sex repulsed #just had the worst argument with my queer siblings

[mellointheory]

last weekend me and my sibling went out to celebrate 4/20 and they said “theres a cake night at one of the goth clubs” and i said CAKE NIGHT OMG LETS GO and then when we got there she pointed at a piece of paper on the door and said “those are the rules” and when i read it i found out it was Kink Night, NOT cake night. so i was disappointed and we went somewhere else. anyway thats the most asexual thing ive done this week.

#asexual #4:20 #tbh tho i think a kink party sounds interesting #but i wouldnt go w my sibling and i wasnt dressed for it

[maskedshinigami]

As a demi aroace, I just wanna say...

Just because I form a deep connection, doesn't mean I'm gonna be attracted to you.

Yes, I have found connections that end up that way~

But 99% of the time, it doesn't. 99% of the time, that person just ends up being platonic/familial. As in, that's my bro/sis. And the person in question is usually chill with that - it's always some weird outsider that assumes there must be "more" happening? And it's so fuckin annoying.

To be accused of, "Oh you hang out with so-and-so all the time, so you must be in love with them!!" so many times and having to explain it over and over again...to the same people, no less...

I'm tired, lol.

#aro #ace #parents amirite? #but ive also had ''friends'' like this #idk ive been thinking about this for a hot minute #ive had many ''sibling'' friendships over the years and this ALWAYS happens #demi aroace #demisexual #demiromantic #asexual #aromantic #also this is my experience lol js

[aceinthefreakinspace]

The "if you don't have a queer cousin, you are the queer cousin" thing is so funny to me because on my dad's side there's 5/19 of us and on my mom's side there's 4/12 of us. We're out here as a whole fourth of the family

#b talks #maybe it's just because people don't have that many cousins lol #but yeah ive got a trans cousin a bi cousin a gay cousin #my sister and i are ace #my other sibling just changed their pronouns on insta to be they/them but technically hasn't told me yet #but i definitely noticed #ace #asexual #queer #bi #trans #gay

[aletterinthenameofsanity]

Lauren/Mia playlist!

Listen, Power Rangers Samurai was my first Power Rangers show. I watched it when I was eleven with my little brother and it has a very special place in my heart- which means I am the first one to say that some of the decisions made in canon pissed me off. Making Lauren the first female Red Ranger and the first Red Ranger to fail to defeat her Big Bad? I still get a pit in my stomach thinking about it and it has been TWELVE YEARS.

So in this fic, I wanted to dedicate time to exploring her backstory going into Samurai as well as the aftermath of the show (and, yes, she gets to be part of the final push to defeat Xandred because I'm not an idiot). As an asexual lesbian, Lauren has a LOT of trauma wrapped up in the training process/her isolation/the fact that she had to give birth to a daughter to maintain the bloodlines (hello, Hatsu Shiba, one of my favorite OCs in this series). But with Mia and Lauren's friends and her brother, she gets to learn how to recover and how to be an aunt to the daughter she was made to have. This fic is angry and bitter and sweet and devastating and healing and it meant so much to me writing it back then. It definitely stands the test of time, too!

@skyland2703 @madhare0512 @khruschevshoe @liveinalovelyway @disastardly @augment-techs @our-raven-strife-universe @infinitysgrace @estel-eruantien

#lauren shiba #mia watanabe #recovery #power rangers #power rangers samurai #playlist #paris paloma #christina aguilera #mary lambert #kelly clarkson #trooper #AWOLNATION #shinedown #ajr #fun. #this one has a very important place in my heart in terms of fire symbolism/feminine rage/asexual characters #lauren shiba as an asexual lesbian in the face of shiba tradition means SO MUCH to me y'all have no idea #the subtext of samurai about traditions & child abuse & pressure & pain & the weight the shiba siblings carry still slaps me in the face #my fics #aletterinthenameofsanity #Spotify #LAUREN SHIBA IS HEIR TO NO ONE SAVE HERSELF #the difference between the meaning of family and tradition here v. in mystic force but also the similarities get me every time #chip thorn and lauren shiba would have a lot to talk about

[niamhthefae]

as an aroace, yeah there's loads of things that can be great! and I can still be a whole person without a s/o.

but at the same point I really really want to be sat in my room at night with that one person in my mind, longing and listening to hozier, or have someone to fall in love with. I read fanfiction about others falling in love and gawd I really feckin want that

#aroace #asexual #aromantic #love #and a lack of it #I just want that coming of age movie moment #and to feel what I imagine my sibling feels when they ramble about their girlfreind #I want cute dates on the beach and dancing in the kitchen #: #/

[plumrat]

Being aroace is great and I wouldn’t change it if I could

But it really does get frustrating that most people refuse to believe that it’s not just a phase that’ll change when I “find the right person” and “change my mind”

Constantly having to justify myself and explain

no, remember, I already explained that I’m not into anyone and that isn’t going to change no matter how hard you disagree

is exhausting and really takes the life out of you when you start to feel like you only ever speak to an empty echo chamber

#aroace #aromantic #asexual #aro #ace #i’m so done #fuck amatonormativity #this is brought on because both my siblings just tried to convince me that my coworker and I were dating #and they made something that was supposed to be fun into something super awkward #like seriously how many times do I have to explain who I am #my whole family is acting weird about it now #and my coworker could definitely tell that something was off with my siblings #so now everything is awkward #and I hate it #I kind of want to crawl into a hole and disappear now #so there’s that