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abbinurmel · 8 months

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Listen I frankly don't care how yall relax or decompress and if you're among those people who regress or like kid stuff purely for aesthetic then fine, whatever long as you're still able to live a functional happy safe life-

But.

I really gotta ask. Where does this "happy vacant minded pure innocent haha no thoughts mind" association with being a kid or reliving childhood play even come from?

Cos frankly alla yall never have been or been around kids. At all.

"Lookee mee teehee Imma just a kyoot widdle goil with my immaculately decorated and absolutely clean hair and clean #aesthetic pink room and expensive adorable imported Japanese cosplays and designer stuffed animals and Instagram selfie influencer makeup, i just sit all day in bed surrounded by neat fwuffy pillows and flowers and organized building blocks in my sweet cute heavenly paradise where nothing bad ever happens uwu"

Meanwhile ACTUAL childhood, regardless of gender be like-

"MOMMMMM BILLY'S BLEEDING COS HE CALLED ME A PIECE OF SHIT SO I BIT HIM"

"I GOT ICE CREAM ON MY DRESS"

"DADDY DADDY WATCH ME KICK DIRT AT YOU HAHAH"

"EEEEEEEEEEEUGGHHHHRARAAAAAAA"

"FUCK YOU! NO FUCK YOU! DROP DEAD STUPID POOP HEAD"

"WAAAAAAH AUUUGHHH GHHHHHHHNNNN BUT I WANNA EAT MCDONALLLLDS"

"I will now take Barbie atop the great fire mountain, where she will make a living sacrifice of Pinkie Pie to the bloodthirsty ancient gods, so they may be appeased and no longer send deadly plagues to wipe out LegoLand."

"LEAVE ME ALONE STAY OUTTA MY ROOM IDIOTS AGGHH I HATE YOUUUU"

"MOMMEE THERE'S GUM IN MY HAIR"

"It's 9PM and I am in bed and I just heard a funny buzzing noise come from the house somewhere. The whole world literally wants to kill me in my sleep now. My bed will have nothing but my skeleton left in it by tomorrow....👀"

"I got pushed down in the mud at the playground because I told my friends I liked the color purple."

"I saw a dead earthworm on the ground and I cried cos I knew existential despair til I was red in the face and then got sent to the principle's office."

"Billy threw up so I just stood there and laughed until Billy threw some of his throw up at me"

#childhood #kid aesthetic #kawaii culture #This aesthetic bullshit is cute and all and I see the appeal but its a freaking dumb lie and you all should know that #gen z #fashion #instagram #selfie #influencers #age regression #Even if you had a stable upbringing and loving parents your childhood on some levels also was chaotic and probably sucked #lolita style #Your illusions are illusions #cope #kids #raising children #Kids are kids not dolls #Nostalgia

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kittenzeke · 24 days

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#journal #personal #pic #booklover #currently reading #bibliophile #bibliophilia #types of intelligence #beyond intelligence #parenting #raising children #intelligence

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little-witchys-garden · 1 year

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I personally think

If you see someone stealing baby food or formula for their lil ones don't say nothing, mind your business.

If you see someone going to a food bank for their kids food or their own food don't say nothing, mind your business.

If you see someone taking food from a Free food box, mind your business.

If you see kids getting free canned food from school, mind your business don't say nothing.

I will never shame or tattle on someone for doing what they can so their kid don't go hungry.

A fed kid is a fed kid no matter how you feed them, I respect parents who do everything and anything so their kids can eat. .

Sometimes people fall on hard times especially in this economy and people gotta eat.

#psa #just my take #just my two cents #just my opinion #ted talk #ted talks #gentle reminder #parent #parenting #parents #kids #children #raising children

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quietflorilegium · 3 months

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“Look at it this way. You’re still a child, and you can’t earn your living or look after yourself properly. When you were younger, you could do it even less. All children are the same. So the law says that someone has to look after you until you can do it for yourself—your guardians in your case. And there’s another law which says that when you drop a stone it falls to the ground. Are you grateful to that stone for falling, or does the stone ask the earth to be grateful?” “I—oh—” David felt there was something missing from this. “But people aren’t stones.” “Of course not. And if people do anything over and above the law, then you can be grateful if you want. But no one should ask it of you.”

Diana Wynne Jones, "Eight Days of Luke"

#diana wynne jones #eight days of luke #mr wedding #david allard #odin #gratefulness #dysfunctional families #family dysfunction #social contract #children #raising children

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stoicmike · 1 year

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Human reproduction is biologically simple — but in all other ways fraught with difficulties. -- Michael Lipsey

#parents #parenting #family life #raising children

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dericka · 5 months

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Anyone else trying to

Trying to raise healthy kids while dealing with anxiety caused by my dysfunctional childhood. Children are allowed to have emotions that make us feel uncomfortable…it’s apart of life and the only reason we feel uncomfortable about it is because our parents didn’t allow us to express ourselves because of how it made them feel. Rewriting the story is a full time job…I just hope my children forgive me for the way my anxiety shows up.

#trauma #anxiety #mental illness #raising children #health #mental health #growth #learning #unlearning #parenting

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bacchicly · 7 months

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I'm better. Also here's what I wrote over the weekend...it's the reason (in my wip) that Lisa and Luke choose to break up.

I think it rings true...but if you have any "she wouldn't say that feelings..." I'd love to hear them.

Cw talks about Lisa wanting kids and wanting to parent non-traditionally.

It was almost exactly a year ago now… all starting when she had panicked… had lied and said she had been called in to work as an excuse to flee before the housewarming party started… the party she had insisted they hold - inviting only his team...

Almost a year since, after her lie and a meltdown in a random parking lot, Luke and she had spent those days holed up together in their new apartment, hashing out what their future could - should - look like.

Again and again during that time, Lisa’s heart had found its way to her throat. Sometimes it had jumped there suddenly… like when she had let herself imagine getting the call - baby on her hip - that Luke was dead. Other times it had risen like a balloon of bile - slow and acidic - swelling and choking her with the trudging fear that if they broke up, it would probably mean not having this beloved man in her life.

No Luke? Ever?

She could hardly imagine.

For three days she and Luke had held each other and whispered secret hopes - trying on alternative futures - hoping to find one that would fit - make them both happy. Maybe he could leave the FBI or find a safer post? Or maybe they should do counselling to help her get over her fear? Or maybe she could join the FBI?

But again and again, she had found herself askinv “But how would that work for their children?” whereas he… he wasn’t there yet…and as the days passed… he admitted to being less and less convinced he ever would be. They both cried. He assured her he loved her and if it happened he'd surely…

She hated that it wasn’t enough for her.

Lisa remembers the exact moment it become clear to her that - more important than anything - she wanted to be a mom SOON…but a mom and a doctor…and she didn’t want to be alone while doing it and… maddeningly… embarrassingly… she also suddenly knew that didn’t want her children to spend most of their days with a nanny or in daycare…no…

…and she still feels spoiled and guilty about it…

…but in Lisa’s ideal world? She wants her or her partner to be a saty-at-home parent.

Were modern women even allowed to want that?

And worse…since she - like Luke - wanted - maybe even needed - to keep working outside the home… that meant..she wanted to have a partner who was willing to be a stay-at-home parent…a homemaker…and well…she could see Luke as a lot of things…but.. remembering his refusal to leave with her when Jeremy Grant had murdered Phil…she had an unshakable fear that he just was not that that type of person.

So while she truly believed Luke had it in him to be an amazing father - defend his family to his last breath - but - because he was just like her - neither of them could just walk away and for as long as they were able to do their jobs… neither of them could ever leave the out-and-about-hero-ing to others and feel whole.

So she had tried to logic herself out of the idea. It was ridiculous. She didn't need a partner who wanted and was able to parent full-time…but no matter what direction she came at it she could not shake her conviction that if they did stay together and did have children and he did not stay home with them…meaning either she stayed home or they agreed to both work and find daycares or a nanny…even though she 100% knew it could work and many kids have great lives regardless of having both parents working…. No. She just couldn't shake the idea that living like that would break her - break her just as surely as not having children at all.

And she hated feeling that way but she just wasn't sure it would ever change but worse..worse…she was appalled that I until that moment…she hadn't known. Hadn't know that was what she really wanted,,, not until right then… had always thought of herself as being in the "maybe kids" camp…but she wasn't. Isn't.

She wanted to be a mom.

A mom and a doctor and married to a homemaker. Someone who would be their for her and their kids the way her mom had been for her and her brothers and their dad...the way her mom had confided she had felt lucky to be...

In the end it had been the question of children and never whether they did or didn't love each other that had finally pushed them to make the decision to break up.

#lisa douglas #criminal minds #luke alvez #Whoa!#tw breakup #raising children #stay at home parent #parenting

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he-who-needs-to-be-silenced · 24 days

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Reminder to be patient with your kids and teens

#raising children #I’m no parent #but I’m speaking from the experience of the child #they will turn out fucked up #parenting #children #teens #breaking generational curses #the curse is inflicting trauma onto children

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halleehalfgallon · 1 year

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Hi! I hope that this isn't a strange message, but I just wanted to say that, as a young woman, your blog gives me a lot of hope. I eventually want to live a homesteading lifestyle and raise my children in a similar manner to you, and usually the only women online who post that content are white supremacists or tradwives. It's really refreshing to see a homesteading feminist. thank you for the things you post, it's made me see that that life is possible <3 have a lovely day angel.

thank you so, so much - it’s so validating and encouraging to me to receive these messages 💖 people don’t realize that homesteading can be radical, parenting, when chosen, can be radical. this is the most important work i will ever do. i wish more people wood reject the narrative that homesteading, slow living, having babies and even wearing dresses is reserved for the religious and the white supremacists. none of it was never theirs, so let’s not let them claim it. i really hope you live the good, rich life you dream of 💝

#feminist homemaking #not a tradwife #feminist parenting #feminist parents #feminist #parenthood #feminist mother #homemaker #feminist homemaker #slow living #simple living #live slowly #homestead #homesteading #feminist homestead #gender roles #gardening #raising children

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xoxocathyy · 1 year

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socialization in children

Do you ever think about how often and with whom your children are socializing ? Being able to be around people as you are developing is incredibly important for children to be effective communicators as adults. When you are used to being around others, you become much more confident. This can also lead to autonomy in children, them being able to be in social situations by themselves. Also, by exposing your children to different kinds of people is very beneficial for them to grow into more global citizens and be culturally aware. Another benefit is getting them to learn more about the world around them. In this post I will be discussing how important it is to socialize your children and how to do so in an effective way.

https://www.thebreakiebunch.com/improving-childrens-social-skills/

Now, you may be wondering; ”What are the benefits of making sure my child is socialized?” In the video, "Why Socialization Is So Important for Children," Dr. Laura Markham from Hartford Healthcare emphasizes the crucial role that socialization plays in a child's development. Dr. Markham explains that socialization is not only about teaching children how to behave in society, but also about helping them to develop social and emotional skills that are essential for healthy relationships. One of the main points that is made is that kids have a natural drive to connect with others. From the moment they are born, kids seek out social interactions with their caregivers and other people in their environment. As they grow older, this drive to connect with others only becomes stronger. Therefore, it is important for parents and caregivers to provide children with ample opportunities for socialization from a very young age. She explains that socialization helps children to develop empathy. By socializing with different people, children learn to recognize and respond to the emotions of others. This is crucial for building healthy relationships, as it allows children to communicate effectively and develop meaningful connections with others. Socialization also helps kids develop their own identity. By socializing with others, children learn about what they enjoy and what they do not, they know what their strengths and weaknesses are , and they develop their own set of values and beliefs. The ability to be self-aware is a huge part of creating self - confidence, which is essential for building resilience against all the world has to offer. Another important aspect of socialization is that it helps children to develop problem-solving skills. By interacting with others, children learn how to navigate different situations and come up with solutions to problems. This is a crucial skill for success in life, as it allows children to think critically and adapt to new situations.

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In addition to this, it is also very important to socialize your children with people of other cultures. It has been proven that when exposed to those of other cultures, kids become more tolerant as adults. It is important especially in today’s day and age to be accepting of all other cultures. Also, You can learn a lot from other cultures. I personally went to a highschool whose main focus was to make us global citizens. I studied Japanese and through this I was able to learn so much about Japanese culture. I also learned about Chinese and Middle Eastern cultures because they were also taught in my school. I also went to Japan which was incredible as a developing person, to be able to see how another country, its people, and its culture work in person was something that I cannot recommend enough. It broadened my perspective on the world and made me see things in such a different light. I doubt I would be the person I am today without that trip.

Exchanging children with other cultures is an important part of their development and education. The world is becoming more and more diverse and it is important for children to understand and appreciate other cultures. By interacting with people from different backgrounds, children can learn about different customs, beliefs and traditions. This can help them become tolerant, respectful and open-minded, which is so important in today's globalized society. One of the major benefits of socializing children with other cultures is that it helps develop empathy and understanding. When children are exposed to different lifestyles, they begin to see the world from different perspectives. They begin to understand that people from different cultures have different values, beliefs and experiences. This understanding helps them to be more accepting of others and reduce prejudice and discrimination. Another benefit of socializing children with other cultures is that it helps develop communication and language skills. Children learn new words, phrases and expressions when they interact with people who speak another language. This exposure helps them develop a wider vocabulary and improve their communication skills. It can also help you develop an interest in learning a new language, a valuable skill in today's global economy. Exchanging children with other cultures also helps them develop an identity. Children exposed to other cultures can learn more about their cultural heritage and understand how it applies to the wider global community. You can also develop a sense of pride and appreciation for your own culture while respecting and appreciating the cultures of others. This helps them develop a strong sense of self and a positive self-image. Finally, exchanging children with other cultures helps prepare them for the future. In today's globalized world, it is very important to communicate and work effectively with people from different backgrounds. By introducing children to other cultures at an early age, we prepare them for the challenges and opportunities they will face as adults. This helps them to be successful in their professional and personal life and contribute positively to the society and society at large. In conclusion, the exchange of children with other cultures is essential for their development and learning. By introducing different ways of life, we can help them become empathetic, open and tolerant. It also helps develop communication skills and identity and prepares you for the challenges of a globalized world. As educators and parents, it is our responsibility to ensure that our children interact with people from other cultures and understand the richness and diversity of the world around them.

Here are some tips to properly socialize your child:

Start early

Socialization begins at a very early age, before children can speak. Babies learn to communicate with others by observing facial expressions and gestures. Parents can promote socialization with their children by constantly interacting with them, playing games and singing songs. Take your child to playgroups, library study hours, or other age-appropriate activities that encourage interaction with other children.

Show them basic social skills

As your child grows, it's important to teach them basic social skills such as sharing, turning, and saying "please" and "thank you." These skills help the child develop positive relationships with peers and adults. Model this behavior yourself and encourage your child to use it in social situations.

Encourage them to have play dates

Play dates are a great way for your child to interact with other children and develop social skills. Invite other children to play at the park or playground or meet other parents and their children. It is important to monitor play dates and guide your child's interactions to be positive and productive. Participate in group work

Enroll your child in group activities, such as sports teams, music classes, or art classes. These activities provide a structured environment to interact with other children with similar interests. It can also help your child develop teamwork and collaboration skills.

Show your children empathy and kindness

It is important to teach your children compassion and kindness in order to develop positive relationships with others. Talk to your child about how his behavior affects others and encourage him to consider other people's feelings. Praise your child for being good to others and model this behavior for yourself. tribute to independence

Socialization is important, but so is encouraging your child's independence. Let your child explore and play on his own. This will help you develop your own interests and skills. Encourage your child to make independent decisions and solve problems.

Make sure your child doesn’t spend too much time on Screens

Excessive screen time can interfere with socializing and communication skills. Limit your child's screen time and encourage him to interact face-to-face with others. Encourage your child to play outside, read, and engage in other activities that promote socialization and bonding. conflict resolution training

Conflict is a natural part of social interaction. Teaching your children conflict resolution skills will help them resolve conflicts in a positive and constructive way. Encourage your child to express his feelings calmly, listen to others' points of view, and work toward mutually beneficial solutions.

In short, socialization is essential to a child's development and well-being. As parents, it's important to provide your child with opportunities to interact with others, teach basic social skills, encourage independence, limit screen time, and teach conflict resolution skills. Following these tips will help your child develop the social skills they need to interact positively with others and successfully navigate social situations.

Works Cited (MLA)

The Breakie Bunch. “Improving Children’s Social Skills.” 2021, https://www.thebreakiebunch.com/improving-childrens-social-skills/.

Hartford Healthcare. "Importance of Socializing for Children - Dr. Laura Saunders" Youtube, uploaded by Hartford Healthcare, 23 Mar, 2023 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UlPO1aTe9Ss

Fatherly. "The Best Expert Parenting Tips for Socializing Kids." Fatherly, 1 November 2017, https://www.fatherly.com/parenting/the-best-expert-parenting-tips-socializing-kids/.

Fink, Elian. "Children's Friendships." The Psychologist, British Psychological Society, 5 February 2019, https://www.bps.org.uk/psychologist/childrens-friendships.

#socialization #parenting #parenting tips #children #raising children #Youtube

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