Y'all remember that scene in Ladybird when her mom says "of course I love you", but Ladybird's like "but do you like me?? as a person??" and her mom can't answer properly and ends up saying "i want you to be the best version of yourself"
"And one day the sun will come out - you might not even notice straight away, it'll be that faint. And then you'll catch yourself thinking about something or someone who has no connection with the past. Someone who's only yours. And you'll realize... that this is where your life is."