#we r both aspec too

[ace-up-your-sleeve]

how do you. communicate abt being ok w "spicy" stuff in a new relationship. which is long distance.

#its only been like a month #but also yeah #i cant even reference previous relationships #bc my gf is the first person i ever did anything with #and we had the gift if not bring long distance #so stuff just kinda happened and the talking happened later #helpppp #we r both aspec too #but idk how sex repulsed it is #so i dont wanna make it uncomfy by bringing it up #but there is the very large possibility that that is why it isnt bringing it up w me #oughhhhhh

[redysetdare]

every time i see a post that is like "ughh why cant we have aspec characters who aren't aroace for once" I have to do a double take like "is the aroace rep in the room with us right now?" because genuinely....where is all this aroace rep y'all are complaining about? Why cant i find it yet it's apparently the only aspec rep we get?? You admit that TV never says the word aromantic so where is the aroace rep. So far I've pretty much only seen canonically asexual characters and not much else buddy.

#text #half the time i think these ppl see other aspec ppl saying that x character feels aroace and then they take it as canon rep #instead of an interpretation of the character which likely was never meant to be written as aspec at all #because majority of people don't even know what that is #this isn't me saying that we shouldn't have aroallo or alloace rep btw #this is me complaining about people throwing aroace ppl under the bus because apparently we are 'hogging' all the representation in media #and it just reads as people being aphobic towards aroace people specifically and it drives me insane #you can ask for more aroallo and alloace characters without complaining and shitting on aroace characters???? #like bro we are all on the same fucking team. we are all trying to get seen and understood. we all want to see ourselves in media #stop fighting like one of us is somehow way more privileged than the other because 'you have x rep' #we all have crumbs my guy. just because someone else is getting crumbs doesn't mean that its your crumbs being taken. #idk i see so many posts like this and it makes me feel so unwelcome in the aro and ace communities #im tired of aroace people being used as a scapegoat that you can target to pretend like you're punching up #when in reality you're just committing friendly fire against people who are on your team #i miss when the aro and ace communities used to like... work together as a big aspec community #now ppl r way too focused on separating them and acting like they have nothing in common and don't have the same goals #and both communities now tend to put a lot of blame onto aroace people because of stereotypes we never had control over in the first place #it's exhausting #like the aphobia is coming from inside the house #i didn't go through the ace discourse on tumblr to deal with this shit.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for being condescending towards an asexual kid in GSA?

🙃🏳️‍🌈 to find later

Long post so buckle up.

I (17, they/it/he) am one of three co-leaders of my school’s GSA, along with R (18, she/her) and N (17, he/him). All three of us are openly bi, and I’m also openly trans and (most importantly) very loudly aromantic. We’re all in 12th grade now but we were leaders last year (in 11th grade) too. The school/GSA is small enough that all four grades (9–12, so around 13–18 years old) are in the same GSA, there’s no separate upper grade and lower grade groups. We also have two advisors, both cis queer teachers; and some younger queer faculty members also join sometimes for formal events. We take turns running events during club time, such as fun crafts or watching music videos. Sometimes we also do educational stuff or documentaries, including having teachers come in to facilitate discussions.

I’ve been planning (since early December) to run a two part series of discussions about asexuality and aromanticism (separate discussions of each). I really just wanted to do one day about aromanticism, but R said that if I did that, people would derail it and just talk about asexuality anyways, which both N and our advisors also agreed made sense. So, it’s two days, and the asexuality one is first so that the aromanticism one can be closer to Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week (ASAW).

There’s a girl in GSA, let’s call her A (16, she/her), who’s in 11th grade. She’s very socially awkward and if someone points out that she’s accidentally said something rude or offensive she’ll make a big deal out of not knowing and generally derail the conversation. Also, two years ago A made a ton of “jokes” about me and my little sibling (16MtF) being “secretly dating.” When I asked her (politely at first) to stop, she said she was just joking around, and kept doing it. I asked her again and also asked the theatre teacher and school counselor for help, and eventually she did stop. But A kept following me around and trying to be friends with me, and I was super uncomfortable to the point that I asked the school counselor to facilitate a conversation between A and I so that I could ask her to fucking stop. It somewhat worked. Now she still keeps trying to start conversations with me in the hallways and such, but I just brush her off or ignore her.

The one place I can’t do that is during GSA. Since I’m a leader, I have to be civil to everyone and actually talk to people (R, N, and I set norms at the start of the year during our planning meetings). A is asexual but not aromantic, and today she showed up like 5 minutes into lunch (cafeteria lines are annoying) and loudly asked if she was late. We weren’t doing anything in GSA today, just chilling. At some point during the meeting I announced casually that next week we’d be discussing asexuality, and then the week after that we’d talk about aromanticism, which leads nicely into ASAW during February break. When I said this, A immediately said that she would be extra ace that week [during ASAW]. I was like, “during aromantic spectrum awareness week?!?!” in the same tone of that “during pride month?!?!” meme. She looked like someone had just given her an F on the most important test of the year and said she hadn’t known.

I also made a comment about how there’s way more openly aspec people at our school than at most schools, and N said that maybe the presence of role models is part of that (clear subtext: he was referring to me). I said pretty loudly (more people could hear) that it was kinda funny that I’m the “ace role model” when I’m literally not asexual. A looked super lost and confused at this, and I think she might’ve thought I was ace, even though I’m super open about not being ace, and have told her directly more than once.

Here’s where the potential assholery comes into play. There’s an ad for PrEP that was fairly common on the back covers of theatre playbills in the past year. The ad shows a Black man dressed in ripped leggings with fishnets, shiny knee-length heeled leather boots, and some sort of white leather harness, doing a bridge pose with one leg extended upwards so that the “r” in PrEP is resting on the sole of the boot. The ad has a bright red background and text that says “you cast of PrEP options is changing” along with a small QR code and website link. The pose is somewhat provocative, but not out of place on a playbill for an all-ages show.

During GSA, A was saying that she thought the ad was bad, because of the leather being “fetish gear” and “weird” (basically the same arguments people use to say that gay people shouldn’t be allowed in public). I told A that there’s nothing wrong with someone wearing leather, and she said that “it’s fetish gear and that’s disgusting and degenerate and just bad advertising!”

I explained calmly, like I would to a child (although I probably wouldn’t talk about this topic with a child), that PrEP is a medicine that people take if they anticipate having sex with someone who’s HIV-positive, so it’s okay that the ad is somewhat suggestive. She seemed to accept that, but still said that the leather was weird, and the ad should’ve shown “a diverse group of people getting pills at a pharmacy” instead, because “fetish gear” was too much.

I asked if she thought that all leather clothing was inherently fetishistic, to which A said yes, and then I asked, “do you know that people can’t just choose fetishes?”

She hadn’t known that, but she still said the ad was too sexual. I pointed out that it was a fairly well-targeted advertisement, using theatre references, but maybe A was not part of the target demographic. I also said that sometimes outfits are just hot without there needing to be any fetishes involved, which she didn’t refute, and that even if it was a fetish, that wouldn’t make it inherently “bad” or “degenerate” at all.

A said that she still didn’t like it, and I told her that she was entitled to have whatever feelings she wanted to have, but that doesn’t mean the advertisement itself is a problem.

Another person (17, he/him) called out “[OP], what do you think about kink at pride?” in a sort of nonchalant way, so I walked over while saying “i’m pro–kink at pride.” The conversation eventually moved in other directions, and then club ended and we had to go to our next classes.

TL;DR: given my position of power and responsibility as a GSA leader, AITA for being kinda condescending towards an ace person who’s 2 years younger than me because she was being very sex-negative about an ad for PrEP?

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

[celticcatgirl2]

Gender and sexuality and how they can change over time can be such a funny thing so I had one friend as a kid who at the time had just came out as lesbian (tho now I think they may be transmasc of some sort ot another but I’m not 100% sure so I’m just using they/them) and I was at the time sorta trying to very awkwardly perform straight male identity^tm and like faking stuff I just wasn’t really actually experiencing to feel normal but I was also like not an asshole about gay people. So anywyas they had said soemthing when where hanging out at Barnes & noble and we where looking through calendars and there was one with some scantily clad women on it and this friend was Liek “oh I like that one…don’t judge I have needs you know!!!” And I to both try to I guess show support and also do the middle school performance of “yeah I’m totally doing the normal teenage boy things” was like “nah I get you it’s rhe same here ” even tho it WASN’T at the time like that at all a thing I was actually personally experiencing. Which feels also like an odd story cause now I DO have my own experiences of attraction and aesthic appreciation of women (albeit still probably not quite the same way due to the idiosyncrasies of my aspec stuff) that I could probably connect with more authentically.

I kinda wonder what happened to this person they where pretty cool and talked about like marvel stuff with me in elementary/early middle school we kinda lost contact and I don’t really have a way of getting back in touch r but I wish I did I kinda just in general have fond memories of hanging out as kids and kinda wonder how we might be able to relate now espically if them being trans in some way like I vaugely heard is true…

Heh this was just gonna be a funny story about childhood that’s even funnier with how the people involved’s identity’s changed over time but I I geninuely miss my old friend now….

I Remeber they were into My Chemical Romance and knew all about Umbrella Academy WAY before the Netflix show….they liked the teen titans cartoon and identified with Raven at the time (tho there’s a strong possibility this part may have changed) I hung out at their house and we watched like the 2000s X Men and Elektra movies and also scary movie I’m pretty sure, before they came out as lesbian out parents would tease us about “liking each other” but we where really just friends and it was just needlessly awkward.

At that bookstore some weirdo evangelicals tried to prostiyze to us and I was trying to comfort them after the fact and we ended up laughing at the whole concept.

We had a pretty cool music teacher we both liked allot in our small private K-8 cause liked all the DC Marvel stuff like we did (and in their case I think they knew more about like actual music stuff too lol)

I know this is a long shot I don’t even know if they’re ON tumblr but I’m gonna tag a bunch of relevant terms and see if they’re out there. If you’re NOT this person please reblog and boost this and increase the chances of them finding it…and if you ARE this person idk if you Remeber me but I’m Alex we went to High Point together, you probably changed allot from what I vaugely heard at the end and well I have too perhaps in similar ways I’d love to reconnect with you and catch up and see we’re where both at now. You were a pretty cool friend and I genuinely hope you’re thriving now I know you’ve had allot of difficulties over the years and I genuinely wish the best for you….

#shut up alex #personal #trans #signal boost #umbrella academy #marvel #dc #dc comics #marvel comics #teen titans #my chemical romance #scary movie #mcr #queer #Gerard way #raven #raven teen titans #ya #lesbian #lgbt

[moneyfor-nothing]

I feel like it's worth saying that the only reason aspec IDs are "safer" is because we're erased. When bigots do learn about asexuality and grasp what it actually is or we let people know what we are? We often get hurt. Insulted, erased, infantalized, or dehumanized at best and assaulted, face DV from partners, SA, probably murder considering it's not uncommon for SA cases to have dead victims, at worst. Repubs recently went on tangents about asexuality and it pretty much sums up their feelings on us pretty well.

Yes, this, too. Thank you for pointing this out cuz this is a really good point. And *insert trigger warning here*, not to mention “corrective” r**e. It is absolutely disgusting and none of us deserve to face any of this, ever.

I’m autistic and I can relate to the infantilization and it’s fucking exhausting and the worst. We are grown ass adults and we can make decisions for ourselves— this goes for both the autistic community and the asexual community.

Like I said to the last anon, you are worthy of love and respect, and you deserve joy, happiness, and acceptance. No one should have to go through any of what you mentioned.

#my post #tw mention of sa #exclusionist tw #exclusionism tw #lgbt discourse #queer discourse #lgbt discussion #queer discussions #lgbt #lgbtq #ace #asexual #asexual discourse #fuck exclusionists #corrective sa mention

[genderqueer-karma]

to me manfred von karma is transmasc and genderqueer at the same time. he is a guy and an enby but only vaguely and sometimes. since he is a prosecuting attorney all of the time he thinks that is more important really. he uses he/him but would also love they/them pronouns i think. he and his wife are t4t. this was revealed to me in a dream and the same dream told me he was bi and aspec but not in what specific way so i'll have to get back to you on that. he is neurodivergent and powerful and real and he is me and also my close friend. everywhere i go i see manfred von karma and i think that's beautiful. also yes i have been the same anon this whole time but i will probably just keep sending asks for a while before i dm you because i am very shy. thank you for your consideration

aww anon i’m shy too !!! you can keep sending me asks like this for now, but i meant it when i said i wouldn’t mind being friends at all!!! despite being kinda mean sometimes, i’m just passionate about things i like, hehe.

anyway: you’re so right about him being transmasc and genderqueer + bi/aspec. it’s like you’ve stolen the hcs right out of my brain… they/them manfred… nonbinary killing and maiming… just like me fr

ALSO GOD……… THAT MAN’S NEUROS…… SO DIVERGED BUT EVERYONE’S LIKE “he’s an ableist bitch” how does it feel to be so Wrong about him. (plus he’s literally canonically physically disabled? why’s HE the ableist one of everyone 🤨?)

we r both manfred in different ways. in fact, i think we’re all mvk .

#yo it's d :) #my emotional support geezer #ask #mwah mwah love u anon i’m giving u kissies (platonically) #i’m looking forward to exactly how his bi/aspec-ness pans out also 🙏🙏

[feathers-falling-through-clouds]

writerblr intro!

hii everyone! I'm fairly new to tumblr (not really, but I still haven't figured everything out on this site) and haven't talked about my writing on here a lot, so I thought I'd introduce myself so I can do just that in the future, and maybe meet some people who write similar stuff <3

ೃ⁀➷ [ a b o u t m e ]

my online name is Sami, pronounced Zah-mee!

i love birds and feathers are one of my favorite symbols, you might have figured that out already

she/her

i write in both english and german

i listen to kpop a lot but not very active in the community because it;;; can be eh sometimes

aroace (and you will absolutely see most of my works include at least one aspec character)

my favorite book genres are: urban fantasy and magical realism, slice of life, friendship - all that everyday life stuff with some glitter sprinkled in

my favourite fanfic genres/tags are: found family, (hurt/)comfort, friends to lovers, fluff, domestic fluff

ೃ⁀➷ [ f i n d m e h e r e ]

ao3 - SunshiningDiamond

Wattpad - sue me, it's where i started and i am very attached to this app: SunshiningDiamond (german fanfics), Moonlit_Diamond (english fanfics), Haesun_Finkenfeder (original works)

ೃ⁀➷ [ w i p l i s t ] - updated 22.07.2023

i write mostly fanfiction and poetry, but used to write original fiction and i'm slowly starting to get back into that!

I always have way too many wips, but I'll just put my current ones here and update / edit them whenever something changes:

Falling Feathers / Fallende Federn german fanfiction Kevin x Jacob (The Boyz) -> a lonely artist and the angel assigned to him form a close bond as time passes, which shouldn't be possible in the first place, but maybe the universe has glitched? Who knows...

we are souls made of paper / Wir Seelen aus Papier german original work -> when her best friend Corentin returns from living with his mother in Marseilles after two years of radio silence, Maia has questions. But with the magic of poetry, some rounds of ping pong and the power of friendship(TM), the two teenagers find their way back to each other again.

gunpowder is just dark stardust after all english fanfiction Wylan van Eck x Jesper Fahey (Six of Crows duology) -> character study revolving around Wylan and his relationship with the boom, the bang, the flint and fuss. And Jesper.

answer me, make or break english fanfiction Younghoon x Haknyeon (The Boyz) -> Haknyeon keeps insisting he would be a great boyfriend. Younghoon isn‘t sure how to feel about that. or: five (or more) times Haknyeon jokingly offers to be his boyfriend and one time Younghoon takes him up on it.

So yeah, that's me! I'm so sorry it's gotten so long ahh I'm such an overwriter istg

have a nice day!! <3

#writerblr #writerblr intro #writers of tumblr #writing #fanfiction #ao3 writer #introductory post #intro post #writers #writing community

[actualbird]

irt ur last drabble(?) LOVE ACESPEC ARTEM ❤️❤️❤️ (am i projecting? absolutely yes but also it literally is canon, source: me) and god nxx polycule being so supportive has me bawling, love your work as always and i love all your expansions on the nxx polycule :-)

hewwo, anon :DDD

wahhh, im glad u liked the most recent nxx polycule minific (?) (tbh even i dont know what to categorize the post as. it's not long enough to be a minific but theres enough plot that i dont think i can put it in the hc category but....dkjfksjdk IM THINKING TOO MUCH)

U R RIGHT, IT IS CANON, i too am vaguely projecting (not obvi im some kinda ace what with how much horny shit i write, huh? KJBJSKDKFS) and acespec artem just makes a lot of sense!!! my hc is that hes demi and bi and nobody is gonna convince me otherwise.

nxx polycule is good and theyll love each other no matter what!!!!! i wanna explore aspec artem in relationships with somebody/somebodies who arent aspec and how both of them like, navigate each others' boundaries and desires. i do wanna write something eventually where artem decides that sex really is something he Does Not want to do and hes waiting for the relationship to end because of that.

because surely, it will, right? this is a way of loving that he is incapable of.

like, emo incoming, but i think artem is quite susceptible to internalized aphobia. hes got his whole "i must be correct and to the standards of what is acceptable and expected" shtick and that applied to sexuality would fuck him up a lot, when he realizes hes acespec. just another thing he cant do right, he'd think. another fault, another malfunction, another way he's failed.

the people who love him: //bust the door down and bonk him with the "NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU AND WE LOVE YOU FOR WHO U ARE. SEX NOT BEING ON THE TABLE IS NOT A DEALBREAKER AND YOU ARE MORE THAN WHAT YOU DO FOR OTHER PEOPLE." stick

artem, thru tears: HHH

thank you for this sweet ask, anon!!! <3

#asks #anon #ive pointed acelaser at d/iluc and now artie. it's my right

[andy-deer]

Copyright protect both big and small ip's from their job getting stolen, but it OBVIOUSLY benefits the biggest companies the most, and is usually behind a paywall.

In the eyes of the law art is just a product. Therefore names, logos or even certain siloutes are branded. As an ip you may want to stop your product to get bastardize by someone or get your image distorded by fans.

Any fanart, fanfict or fangame is suable to a extent usually related to its publicity and its monetization.

There are laws that also protect you as a consumers and fans, for example you can make a parody, review and monetize a issued newspaper on content, using characters and iconography (star wars specials in lot of shows) and do cameos or references. This is not punishable as the thing you a re monetizing isnt the "stolen" original content.

Patreon, OF, Etc work aorund this making the monetization being a donation or patronize to the artist and not the art itself, you are supporting the person, not the content. But they are still suable.

One important factor is the media it is in. Making a drawing of a drawing, an animation of an animation, and a game of a game is extremely problematic. Also being used in a bussiness if very illegal.

All this comes to the point that every fan-thing is suable to make it "protected" against unfair uses, but are the companies themself who decide if the sue or not artist, being Nintendo and Disney two of the most anoying party poopers, destroying modded roms or fangames.

Most the time they dont sue small artist becouse of the time cost they would have to invest in that would be huge so they just sue the bigger ones wich translates in trouble to the platforms themself. We almost lost memes on twitter and yt due to Article 13 not so long ago.

There are chill corps like Riot that even gives away free uncopirighted content for people to use on streams.

It is strictly regulated and judges will often fail against the companies protecting the citizen, happened a lot. F.ex: Capcon tried to copiright the fighting genre completely, court said "do you want to copiright breathing too?"

Anyting market related, like branding and copyright can be extremely unfair, but ultimately unnecesary.

Disney wont be happy if you sell a movie to Netflix called the avengers (R) done by some random dude and drawed by its little cousin, they will be rightfull to sue netflix, the publisher and the director.

There are also fine tunin on those laws, Disney cannot own Thor as a concept but can own the Thor that uses a specific style that shares a relation with a certain character in a certain way. And yes there are originality laws that can set the diference between stolen, inspired by, parody and plagiarism (last one is doing the same plot but channging the names and aspec a little).

Nintendo could Sue the BOTW demake wich was basically a Zelda game, but not Genshin Impact

Yet there is no way Disney can sue Sr.Pelo for mockey

Sorry for the long text, but i think its a complicated matter.

Laws can be unfair even in the fine tuning ones and therefore judges are needed to evaluate each case and bend this laws forth or back case by case based on theyr own education and morals.

Final thoughts

People have right not to get their job used to profit

People have right to use content for themself as fans

People should be able to monetize reinterpretations and fan crafted content

Two of those statements contradicts each other

OH NO

This planet is a fucking nightmare

#long post #thanks for taking the time to write this/gen #i still think these laws are used in the complete wrong ways most of the time aka the long examples you made #like disney stfu for a moment everyone hates you #and doesn't most of the time costs more defending yourself legally than making the content profitable?

[smol-grey-tea]

I was gonna write the romo attraction thing today but honestly i dont feel like doing it bc im just rlly upset about smth that im sure a lot of ppl can relate to

So my irl friend groups are very... well they dont know much about these kinds of things, i had to be a walking encyclopaedia for them about my identities like nb stuff bc they didn't bother to just... look it up.

When i told them i was trans they would say "omg are you actually trans?? I have a trans best friend!!" Yikes

Instead they would ask me to explain it. Which is fine, i kinda hate having to explain for the 5th time that no, using the correct terms and pronouns is not a fucking burden, and that yes, dysphoria is awful and wont just magically go away.

and when i tell them to yk, not use pronouns for me and just use my name instead, not 1 person did that. They just... misgendered me and used she/her when i explicitly told them that it makes me dysphoric. I then told them to use coo/coos/cooself instead bc i quite like it, but they still didnt use it.

Then i gave up and told them to use they/them since it doesnt make me dysphoric even tho i lowkey hate it. They still misgender me but said "they'll try to get used to it". Its not that hard guys what the actual fuck???

Anyway, i was actually going to talk about aspec stuff. So i only told one of them that i was demiromantic demisexual, and they said "wtf is that" which yk is not a nice way to react to someone coming out, but i have thick skin so i just explained it bc again they couldnt bother to search it, and they said "ok ig" and changed the subject when i wanted to explain my attraction???? I've never had anyone that i could talk to about my complicated feelings with being aspec and just when i thought i could i was shut down.

I thought it was over and done with, until they started to... ignore my fucking identity??? Which i would say is way more important and personal to me than my bisexuality??? They never did any of that bs with my bisexuality probably bc they were pansexual themself, but jfc is it that hard to not make jokes about me being horny or having a crush or joking about setting me up on blind dates??? It legit made me so uncomfortable and i have no idea what to say.

Bc remember, they didnt exactly respect my pronouns and kept using gendered terms to refer to me even more after i came out??? I swear it feels like its on purpose every time they called me a girl but whatever

Istg they forgot that im demi bc they keep making these jokes and ignoring that i dont feel sexual or romantic attraction like that and keep acting as if i want to date ppl or fuck them when i say they look pretty??? I spent way too fucking long mistaking my aesthetic attraction for sexual for ppl to once again reinforce this idea and im done with it. Please for the love of god stop it.

I said i liked wilbur and thought he was rlly cute and they then proceeded to, you guessed it, act like im in love with him or that i want to fuck him. First of all, hes a real person on the internet that i do not know, 2nd of all, fucking eww, and 3rd of all, hes a whole ass adult and we r both in high school. Yikes again.

Ofc i didnt tell them these things and just said that i dont like him that way and just thought he was pretty and nothing else. They completely ignored this and thought i was just embarrassed or smth or that i was in denial. Yikes again again.

So yeah. The only lesson i learned is to never come out as aspec to anyone irl ever again. Tbh i kinda want to tell them that im not bi and that i dont feel any kind of attraction. It would be a lie but christ i wish they would stop. They can validate my bisexuality but not my nb or aspec identities? I knew that queer sexualities were more normalized now which is awesome but why cant they do that for trans ppl or aspecs? Why does it have to stop there?

Sorry for venting like this but i thought this might be relatable for yall. Ive never had the experience of feeling "broken" bc of any of my identities, im very confident in them. I just wish other ppl other than my online friends would feel the same.

Also sorry for delaying the romo attraction thingy i just rlly dont feel like it rn. Idk when i will write it but hopefully if i feel better i will finish it today

There's no pressure to write it up dude it's cool :) whenever you're ready ❤

And those ppl do not sound like good friends- idk exactly how old you are but ik I'm older, and I can tell you for certain that you will find better friends one day. It's guaranteed :) they don't deserve your friendship and I am glad to validate and help you in any way you need ❤❤

Yee I've never felt broken either! I think an element of that is that I thought I was allo for a very long time? But on the other hand I was bullied in my childhood for not having attraction so idk why that hasn't manifested into a phobia of romance but eh I'm better off this way whether it makes sense or not.

It makes me happy as well cuz a lot of ppl in the community seem very pessimistic abt how we're treated but it's nice to know that not all of us feel broken cuz the 2 of us are living examples of that :)

But unfortunately yeah, your experiences above are things many ppl can relate to. I'm sure almost everyone can remember a time where they came out to someone and weren't met with good responses,,

Let this be a reminder that this is not right and we deserve more support for something so personal. Even if you don't understand someone's identity that doesn't give you the right to dismiss or ignore them. Our identities are very important and personal to us and supporting them is basic respect.

#my post #ask #long post #lgbtq #aspec #aroace #aroacespec #non binary #transgender #neutralitea #transphobia tw #aphobia tw #acephobia tw #arophobia tw #swearing cw

[intearsaboutrobots]

Tell me about aro Elle Legally Blonde!! (But also I would like to see a cool picture too please.)

ELLE LEGALLY BLONDE IS VERY ARO AND ILL DIE ON THIS HILL

elle knows Social Scripts and Rules, so when she meets warner she knows how to laugh and toss her hair and touch his arm. she feels a warm glow of satisfaction when he pulls her in to dance instead of any of the other girls, and it doesnt exactly matter how she feels abt him.

i think that she isnt super romo repulsed like this is less defs some kind of self-harm than sycamore - kissing is pretty gross but /shrug thats just smth we all put up w, and we all think of it as "putting up w" for sure!!!

she is genuinely upset when warner dumps her bc a) hes a rl ass abt it b) this is a Loss a Failure

anyway she goes to harvard and her and enid become friends and elle is like Oh Hm im straight but its so funny how when enid talks abt "compulsory heterosexuality" that totally reflects some of my feelings ! maybe she even hm if she from talking to enid is doing the period appropriate equivalent of "im straight and looking up playlists tagged lesbian on 8tracks in a str8 way", maybe she if she is perhaps a little drunk and having a bad night would kiss enid and then be very upset that that Also feels gross and so shes Not a lesbian she Must be straight ;;-;;; and just Bad at being straight!! and enid might not know terminology abt being aspec and also has been blindsided by the kiss and crying both, but she Does know a lot abt women and agency over their bodies and will say like, "Hey if u dont want to kiss anyone then dont!! if someone wants to kiss u and u dont want to kiss them they can fuck off and ill tell them that w pleasure".

anyway the end of the story is elle and emmett get married for tax reasons and enid also lives w them and dates ladies, and elle gets to hold hands w and cuddle them both bc in my lb ships post i rlly talked myself into emmett&elle&enid where its a vee and emmett and enid r friends who r both in a relationship w elle

and here r some out of context riverdale screenshots that i hav saved on my phone as ur Cool Picture gshdkdkahdkfl

#legally blonde the musical #legally blonde #haha that 8tracks thing.. Such a random example and Defs not from my rl life /sweats #emmetts aro too also btw #hes aroace #enid is a lesbian #elle is aro for sure n still workin the rest out

[mighwnt]

c!tubbo and c!sapnap for the ask game

tubbo:

Sexuality Headcanon: aspec gay

Gender Headcanon: transmasc demiboy :) also ids as nonbinary and ftm, likes he pronouns the most but also uses they, bee, buzz, and chirp pronouns

A ship I have with said character: c!beeduo is something that can be so personal…. whether u see them as qpps or /r,,, so good imo

A BROTP I have with said character: not gonna go for the clingyduo despite how much i care them. i really really like tubbo and quackity’s dynamic, they don’t always like each other, but they so often end up on the same side, even if they’re there for different reasons. i feel like they both don’t address their issues, they both have husbands with memory issues, they both have an history of being hurt by a lot of the same people etc etc etc. i just think there are so many parallels between them…. i hope that gets explored in the burger arc

A NOTP I have with said character: fuckin uhhh tommy and tubbo. they are best friends dont b weird

A random headcanon: he’s a goat hybrid but didn’t know until the manberg era when schlatt made some comments about it. because he didn’t know his parents, he could only go off his traits and he (as well as everyone else) thought he was a moobloom hybrid, especially because his hair was naturally blonde as a kid before it started darkening.

General Opinion over said character: oh he is my favorite i’m sure anyone who follows me knows this :]. cc!tubbo was the first dsmp streamer i watched so i was predisposed to like his character but holy shit oh my god. i was kin assigned him by my friends before i knew what dreamsmp was and god were they right!

sapnap:

Sexuality Headcanon: hmmm omnisexual i think

Gender Headcanon: he’s a trans guy who used to use he/him exclusively, but karl introduced him to neopronouns and now he switches it up with a bunch of fire themed neos too

A ship I have with said character: karlnapity pls come back from the war

A BROTP I have with said character: literally sapnap’s entire character is constantly being left by his friends whether metaphorically or physically can we pls talk about this i am so emo over this man… gonna be basic and say the dream team bc my headcanon is that they were all super close when they were younger but grew apart due to circumstances and sapnap just… can’t understand how dream became the cruel guy he is now. did he fail as a friend? did he never notice? and then george is like so obviously depressed so he must feel awful about that as well i just… c!sapnap my beloved

A NOTP I have with said character: cosmo, wanda, i wish everyone who ships bbh and sapnap would go to hell when they die

A random headcanon: he’s 100% human but his dad (bbh) taught him some cool fire magic mostly for protection in the nether, but he ended up liking it so much he started learning a bunch himself.

General Opinion over said character: underrated as fucking hell!!!!! he makes me so goddamn sad, everyone stan c!sapnap

(/rp)

#ask #anonymous

[pronouncingitwang]

s1 archives crew | 1.7K words | basically tim and martin think sasha and jon are dating and have a Time about it to my specific amusement

[INT. BUBBLE TEA SHOP]

[BACKGROUND: PEOPLE CHATTING, BAD DANCE MUSIC PLAYING OVER THE SPEAKERS]

TIM

(bitter, reminiscent of a cup of black tea that’s been steeping, forgotten, for an hour) I hope they’re having a good time

[PLASTIC HITTING PLASTIC, LIKE SOMEONE IS JABBING AT HIS BUBBLE TEA WITH HIS STRAW AND FAILING TO CATCH ANY PEARLS ON THE POINTY END]

MARTIN

(bitter, reminiscent of a cup of black tea that’s been steeping, forgotten, for two hours) I don’t.

TIM

(heh) Wellll… It’s more that I hope they’re having a good time, until something about the way Sasha talks reminds Jon of his grandmother, and the thought is so awful that he starts wishing it weren’t a date.

[ON THE WORD “DATE,” MARTIN LETS OUT A SOFT GROAN]

MARTIN

(glum) Cheers to that.

[THE TAP OF TWO PLASTIC CUPS AGAINST EACH OTHER]

MARTIN

(wistful) What do you think they’re talking about right now?

TIM

(glum) How smart and perfect they are, probably.

That, or work.

MARTIN

I don’t even know if Jon’s capable of not talking about work.

TIM

He was, back in research. (contemplative) He and Sash always got along swimmingly, but I never thought…

MARTIN

(oddly agitated) I didn’t even know he swung that way. Do you think— (lowering voice to a whisper) is it possible Sasha’s his beard?

TIM

(laughing) What, he needs her help staying closeted from us? You know, come to think of it, we are both such raging homophobes, so—

MARTIN

(laughing, but still tense) Yeah, alright, alright, lay off it.

[SILENCE]

TIM

Are you alright? You look… really wound up. Like, shaking.

MARTIN

(agitated) I’m fine, I just— (words bursting out) Look, I’m sorry, but—what does Jon see in her? Like, Sasha’s my friend, and she’s great, but—

TIM

(trying for lighthearted but landed on “stern”) Going to have to stop you there, Marto.

MARTIN

What? Oh, right, right, I’m sorry—

TIM

How about some ground rules. I don’t talk shit about Jon, and you don’t talk shit about Sasha.

MARTIN

Y-yeah. That sounds good.

[AWKWARD SILENCE]

MARTIN

I hope… that Elias calls Jon down to the Institute for an emergency live statement before they’ve even ordered food?

[CLINK OF ICE, A CUP BEING RAISED]

TIM

That’s the spirit!

-

[INT. ARCHIVES, THE ARCHIVIST’S OFFICE]

ARCHIVIST

I know you said, but your wording was ambiguous earlier, and I’ve gotten this wrong before in the past—this is strictly platonic, yes?

SASHA

(amused) Yes, Jon, I promise I’m not trying to steal your virtue—

[SPLUTTERING NOISES FROM THE ARCHIVIST]

SASHA (CONT’D)

—or your heart.

ARCHIVIST

That’s, ah. That’s good to hear.

SASHA

God, Jon, if I knew you were going to be this flustered over “My corkscrew wound hurts, so you’re taking me out to dinner because I said so,” I wouldn’t have asked.

ARCHIVIST

No, it’s perfectly alright, I’m happy to—

SASHA

If it helps, I’m also aromantic as hell.

ARCHIVIST

Oh! That’s, well. (inhale) (enunciating each word clearly and sincerely) Thank you for telling me, Sasha.

SASHA

(laughing) You can stop making that face, I haven’t been hiding it, or worried about your reaction or anything. I only really figured it out recently. I haven’t even told Tim yet.

ARCHIVIST

(awkward) Ah. Well, either way, I’m glad that you found a label that works for you.

SASHA

So am I.

ARCHIVIST

(abrupt) I’m… I’m asexual. Not that it—but I thought you might like to know.

SASHA

Nice!

[SOUND OF A HI-FIVE BEING EXCHANGED]

SASHA (CONT’D)

And you’re right, I do like to know.

So, you ready for Aspec Solidarity Dinner?

ARCHIVIST

I thought this was Sorry You Got Stabbed Dinner.

SASHA

(with exaggerated gravity) Sometimes, things… can be two things.

ARCHIVIST

(heh) Fair enough.

-

[INT. BUBBLE TEA SHOP, SEVERAL HOURS LATER]

[LESS BACKGROUND CHATTER THAN BEFORE]

MARTIN

(dreamily) I hope they both get food poisoning. Not— (correcting course) not anything too bad, just… unpleasant enough that their neural pathways start connecting the idea of a romance between them with feeling sick.

TIM

(mock-offended) What, you think getting food poisoning with someone means you can’t stomach the sight of them again? And here I was thinking we were friends!

MARTIN

Well, we weren’t on a date, then. The logic works out differently. You don’t make me ill, but the idea of stakeouts does.

TIM

I mean, we could.

MARTIN

Could…?

TIM

Go on a date. A proper one.

MARTIN

What, like, to make Jon and Sasha jealous?

[BEAT]

MARTIN

Shit, Tim. I’m—

TIM

(quiet) I was just thinking a date in general, but—

MARTIN (CONT’D)

—so sorry, that was so inconsiderate—

TIM

(overlapping) No, no, it’s alright. It was… stupid to ask. I know how much you like Jon.

MARTIN

And I thought you were—I thought—Well, you just spent an hour talking about how you were interested in Sasha?

TIM

Doesn’t mean I can’t have other interests.

MARTIN

Right. I mean—

TIM

Let’s just agree to forget about it.

MARTIN

I mean, it’s not that I don’t—

TIM

We’re having fun, right? Let’s keep having fun.

[SILENCE]

MARTIN

(quiet) So you really want to forget about it?

TIM

Martin, what does that even me-

MARTIN

I don’t know! I just—Can we talk about it tomorrow?

TIM

... Yeah. Yeah, that sounds good.

[MORE SILENCE]

TIM

(with forced enthusiasm) Hey. I just had an idea. Do you want to get really, really drunk?

-

SASHA

(laughing) And then— (laughing harder) they just hung up on me! Just like that!

ARCHIVIST

(engrossed) What did you do then?

SASHA

Called them back, of course.

ARCHIVIST

No.

SASHA

It was my favorite sweater, Jon, I wasn’t going to let it rot just because Tim left it behind while trespassing for you!

ARCHIVIST

So now it’s my fault, too?

SASHA

Absolutely. I think you owe me, oh, at least two more dinners for that.

ARCHIVIST

(audible smile) That can be arranged. Though, (hesitating) I don’t know if that’s… wise.

SASHA

(mildly exasperated) Listen, Jon, just because you can technically fire me now doesn’t mean we can’t still spend time together.

ARCHIVIST

Well, yes, but—

SASHA

You’re my friend, Jon. I missed talking to you.

ARCHIVIST

(somewhat touched) I… also consider you a friend, Sasha.

SASHA (CONT’D)

(smug) Besides, I know you’d never fire me, anyway.

ARCHIVIST

From a professional standpoint, I can neither confirm nor deny that.

SASHA

Ha! Knew it.

Movie at mine after we—sorry, after you—pay?

-

[INT. TIM’S FLAT, SEVERAL HOURS LATER]

[SOUNDS FROM THE TV]

MARTIN

(earnest, clearly inebriated) I can’t believe David broke up with you! That was so mean! How could anyone be so mean to you?

TIM

I can’t believe Jon’s so hard on you. I know you didn’t get a degree, but you work so hard, Marty. It’s not fair.

MARTIN

(sighing) ’Least he’s pretty.

TIM

So pretty.

MARTIN

Just wanna hold his hand.

TIM

(daydreaming) Sash has nice hands.

[SILENCE AS THEY FANTASIZE]

MARTIN

(coming back to himself) This isn’t fair. You’re hot! People should be getting weepy over you!

TIM

And you’re hot and you write poetry! We should be the fucking office heartthrobs!

MARTIN

Fucking David.

TIM

Fuck that guy. Or don’t, actually.

[TIM GIGGLES]

MARTIN

What?

TIM

Your face is so red, Marty. (contemplative) Sash’s favorite color is red.

[DRUNKEN SILENCE]

MARTIN

(whispering) Hey. Hey, Tim.

TIM

Yeah?

MARTIN

Y’know what you should do?

TIM

What?

MARTIN

You should text her.

TIM

Nuh. No way.

MARTIN

You should!

TIM

Only if you text Jon.

MARTIN

No, no, Tim.

TIM

Yes! Where’s your phone? Gimme.

MARTIN

(whining) Tim, no, he’s my boss, Tim!

TIM

It doesn’t have to be weird! Either you write something and send it, or I do.

[MARTIN RECOILS IN HORROR]

MARTIN

Fine.

-

[INT. SASHA’S FLAT]

ARCHIVIST

(puzzled) I just got a text… from Martin.

SASHA

(with a mixture of surprise, anticipation, and amusement that can only come from suspecting something that Jon doesn’t) Oh? What does it say?

ARCHIVIST

It says, um, (spelling out the typos) “hpe ur date went well an no food poisonig”?

SASHA

(laughing) Sorry, what?

ARCHIVIST

I really don’t see—W-wait. (fast) When Prentiss had Martin’s phone, she kept talking about a stomach bug—do you think this is her again? Is he in danger?

SASHA

(suppressing laughter) I really don’t think it’s Prentiss.

ARCHIVIST

How can you be sure? We should probably go to the Institute, or at least call Elias, or—

SASHA

Martin’s fine, Jon. I just got a text from Tim about him.

ARCHIVIST

Oh! Well, that’s a relief.

SASHA

(giggling) Listen to this: (enunciating each word) “me n marty r soooo drunk i miss u an i thin ur lauh is pretty also lrgally u have 2 tell me if bossyboss is a good ksser ok byeeeee.” And then, five—no, six exclamation points.

ARCHIVIST

Good… kisser? (horrified) Wait, do Tim and Martin think we’re…

SASHA

(giggling) Apparently so.

ARCHIVIST

Should we—should we correct them?

SASHA

Well, yeah.

[BEAT]

SASHA (CONT’D)

(sly) On Monday, that is.

-

[INT. TIM’S FLAT]

MARTIN

He said, (reading off his phone) “This is highly unprofessional, but yes, Sasha and I are passing a—” Passing? Tim, they’re still…

TIM

(with a deep and heavy sadness completely at odds with the actual words) Damn. Get it, Sasha.

MARTIN

(continuing) “—a perfectly pleasant evening. It was kind of you to ask.” (despondent) Tim. I hate this.

[BEAT]

MARTIN

Tim?

TIM

(flat) I just got a text from Sasha.

MARTIN

(dreading the response) What’s it say?

TIM

See for yourself.

[THEY LOOK AT TIM’S PHONE IN SILENCE]

MARTIN

(quiet) I’ve… I’ve never seen Jon with his hair down before.

[MORE STARING]

TIM

They look fucking adorable.

[MORE STARING]

MARTIN

Jon looks so happy.

TIM

So does Sash.

[A LONG MOMENT OF CONTEMPLATION]

MARTIN

(inhale) (determined) You know what? (exhale) (forcing the words out) I’m… I’m glad they’re having a good time.

[A LONG SILENCE]

[TIM GROANS]

TIM

(glum) Yeah. Me too.

-

bonus:

[INT. SASHA’S FLAT]

SASHA

Aw, look at this.

[FABRIC RUSTLING AS JON SHUFFLES CLOSER]

ARCHIVIST

Is that…? Oh. Well, they certainly look alright. No worms, or… Michael.

SASHA

I’m just glad Martin has a place to crash tonight other than Document Storage.

ARCHIVIST

I mean, I can’t imagine that Tim’s couch will be that much better than the archives cot.

SASHA

(heh) Tim’s couch, right.

[BEAT]

ARCHIVIST

(surprised) You think…?

SASHA

That they’re sleeping together? I mean, I don’t know for certain, but Tim’s talked to me about Martin before, and…. well, let’s just say I “strongly suspect.”

[DEAD SILENCE. THE ARCHIVIST FEELS HE IS CLOSE TO AN EPIPHANY, BUT BATS IT AWAY. ALTHOUGH HE NEVER REACHES IT, THE GRIEF THAT WOULD ACCOMPANY SAID EPIPHANY IS STILL FELT ACUTELY]

ARCHIVIST

(flat) Oh.

#The Magnus Archives #tma #magnuspod #martim #jonmartin #martin blackwood #tim stoker #sasha james #jonathan sims #fic

[plethoraofocs]

im gonna make y’all meet my cringe af sherlock holmes ocs, who are blatant ripoffs of holmes and watson, starting with elizabeth hale, who, as you can probably tell from the pretentious fucking name, is my ripoff of holmes!!

so we meet her as someone who is moving into 221C with her friend (roslyn norton, who is my watson rip-off), and while we almost immediately are introduced to roslyn, elizabeth doesn’t present herself to the 221B household until quite some time after they have moved in. when she does introduce herself, it’s with the solution to a v e r y time-sensitive case holmes was having severe difficulty solving and j u s t the right level of snark that holmes immediately hates her. he’s very suspicious of hale, and resents the fact watson seems to be great friends with both norton and hale. watson doesn’t understand why holmes doesn’t like hale, because he thinks she has very irene adler vibes. holmes thinks shes far too much Like Him for it to be a coincidence. eventually, he actually runs into her while on a case, and deduces she’s also a consulting detective, which pisses him off, until they share notes and actually solve the case twice as fast than if they had been working alone. holmes doesn’t feel the need to protect her the way he does watson, and sometimes feels he could use some help in some of the more,,, disreputable places his investigations take him. it takes a while to convince her but once watson finds out holmes is doing the next best thing to making a friend, he and norton collude together to get them to work together.

holmes gradually becomes quite fond of hale (platonically, i hc all versions of holmes as homosexual and aspec), and they actually begin to spend quite a bit of time together, on and off of cases. (they drive watson and norton twice as mad but at least they have each other to bitch about their insane detectives with).

BUT

we as readers know that not only is hale a criminal-for-hire as opposed to a detective-for-hire, but she is responsible for the majority of the crimes she helps holmes solve, pinning them on other people (which is what she is hired to do). the whole reason she moved to london (she’s from cork lmao of course) was because she was hired to frame holmes for the murder of john watson. she has roslyn fooled into thinking she’s a detective, and while roslyn is very intelligent (she’s a doctor too, baby! that’s a whole other plotpoint for victorian!norton but shh) she is also madly in love with hale and is subconsciously turning a blind eye to all the tell tale signs. to be fair to watson, holmes has turned up covered in blood many times and not been guilty of anything, so he doesnt suspect either. once holmes gets over his initial misgivings, he is so confident in his ability to read people that he trusts her implicitly.

the whole murdering watson plotline is really long and rambly and y’all dont wanna hear it but yeah it involves a mess of romances, betrayals, and depending on which era it’s set in, a multitude of accusations on holmes.

*john mulaney voice*

shes a bitch and i love her so much.

#Sherlock Holmes #dr roslyn norton #elizabeth hale #general description

[chrysalismwaves]

Could aro/ace/agender exclusionists explain their reasoning to me? I’m genuinely curious — why dint you see them as part of the LGBTQIA+ community?

I mean, what’s your definition of that community that aspec people somehow aren’t part of it?

They definitely fall under the term q***r (sensored because some people are, ubderstandably, sensitive to it), as that was originally an insult created by cis straight people for people who weren’t cis and/or straight. If you identify as asexual, aromantic, or both, you’re not straight. Because, correct me if I’m wrong, but you can’t be attracted to the “opposite” gender if you’re attracted to no gender at all. Those two things are mutually exclusive. If you identify with no gender, you can’t have your gender and sex be the same. That’s mutually exclusive, too.

And if you think that they don’t count because they’re not discriminated against: just because it looks different to what others go through, doesn’t mean it’s not discrimination. In fact, every sexuality, romanticism and gender — and every person within that sexuality, romaticism, or gender — experiences discrimination differently.

Ignoring more systemic problems: Homosexuals are told that they’re wrong and sinful, Bisexuals are told they aren’t real or should decide and face a lot of erasure (even more so that homosexuals), Pansexuals are told that they’re just Bisexuals or that they’re attracted to animals, Demisexuals are told they’re picky, Binary trans people are told they can’t just “switch” because that’s not how they were created, non-binary individuals are told they have to be apart of the binary — just to name a few things. And people with lesser-known identities are treated differently, too.

We live in a hyper-sexualised society, which can make aspecs feel ostracised or lonely or *wrong* because they don’t want/have something that’s presented as something they should want/have. Asexuals get called prudish and have people tell them that “sex can help you with your issues” (I actually heard someone say that). Aromantics — especially those who do feel and want to act in sexual feelings — can be called anything from a sl*t to predatory. Agender people get told they “have to have a gender” or that they can’t just feel the absence of something that *surely* must be there. And, again, that’s just to name a few things.

Claiming they shouldn’t be part of the community just doesn’t make any reasonable sense.

#lgbtq+ #aromantic #asexual #agender #why is this even i discussion? #i really don’t get it

[corelliaxdreaming]

@gffa put out a call for aro Star Wars fics, and I wanted to answer. It feels a bit selfish that they’re all gonna be self-recs, but if anyone’s going to appreciate them, right? I’ve relatively recently started identifying as aroace, and since I process e v e r y t h i n g through fic, I’ve been writing a ton of self-indulgent aspec stuff. Most of my stuff is for the Legends X-wing book series, but there’s some Jedi: Fallen Order, Alphabet Squadron, and Sequel Trilogy mixed in too. (I’ve got quite a few ace ones too, but I’ll just but the aro ones here.)

X-wing:

Coming Out (2,582 words) - grayro/aroflux Tycho/allo Wedge - Tycho wants to pursue a relationship with Wedge, but first there are some important things Wedge needs to understand about him.

The Last Minute (831 words) - aroallo Wes&aroallo Hobbie qpr - the “derpy werewolf au” -  Being a struggling college student and a werewolf is hard, but luckily Hobbie has Wes to watch his back.

That Time of Month (709 words) - ace Wedge&arospec Tycho qpr - more derpy werewolf au -  Asexual Wedge is uncomfortable with the things the cycle of being a werewolf does to his feelings.

The Possibility of Us (12,405 words) - aro Tycho&allo Wedge, starts with romantic feelings, ends as qpr - There's only one way to survive Hanahaki disease without having your love requited - the surgery that removes the invasive plant from your lungs but also takes away your ability to love romantically forever. As Tycho recovers and explores his new aromantic life, can there be a future for he and Wedge after all?

Jedi: Fallen Order/Alphabet Squadron:

Three Against the World (1,901 words) - aroace Cal&Wyl/Sonogari qpp (Wyl and Sonogari are in a romantic/sexual relationship, and Cal is qpp to both of them) -  Cal is happy with his queerplatonic partners, Wyl and Sonogari, but sometimes the world's focus on romance is still hard to deal with.

Sequel Trilogy:

Tap Dance (474 words) - aro Rey - Aromantic Rey asks Finn to explain him ho his love for Poe feels.

Spectrum (524 words) - aroace Poe, arospec ace Finn -  Poe explains aromanticism and asexuality to Finn. Some things sound familiar.

Got Your Back (858 words) - aroace Rey&gray aroace ofc qpr -  Rey and her QPP discuss their orientations and how difficult it can be to know what you really want.

Being Loved, Being Cared For (655 words) - aroace Rey&same gray aroace ofc qpr - Rey has difficulty dealing with things after Exegol, but her QPP will always be there for her.

#holy HELL is Got Your Back thick with projection from a very specific part of my own identity hourney WOW #*journey #my fic #aro star wars club #katie's pride month posts