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fuckwoodyallen · 10 months

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Okay so there is a very real possibility that I am "technically" genderfluid judging from the posts I've read on here that are about being gay for both men and women or whatever the hell I was talking about in earlier posts, but also it's like that one tweet that goes "I'm probably nonbinary but I have a job so idrc about that rn". Or maybe I should just get over myself and accept that I'm probably bisexual

#it is so easy to put up a front and just be like idgaf about labels #I know I'd be lying if I said that #unfortunately I do care #in another universe I would label myself queer and call it a day #but alas #things are much more complicated than that #and as for the bisexual label #like I said earlier I don't feel any genuine attraction to boys unless I imagine myself as one (which I kind of already am but)#it's like a “my gender in relation to their gender” type thing #except it doesn't work like that the opposite way #like I don't see myself as a woman within the context of my attraction to them #generally speaking I'm sort of this fucked up very boy-adjacent thing #but not entirely a man #I don't know anymore

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icarusxxrising · 8 months

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#if the concept of labeling gender is a social construct then so is sexuality!#queer #lgbt #gay #lesbian #bi #bisexual #pan #pansexual #genderfluid #nonbinary #enby #bi lesbian #mspec lesbian #bi gay #mspec gay #trans #transgender

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warpedpuppeteer · 1 month

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Buck bonded with the queer man with the tape worm, learned about love from a gay married man who up and died on him, TK thought Buck was hitting on him, Maddie joked about his boy crush on Eddie and Josh, a gay man, was comfortable enough to joke about the dinner with Buck feeling like a set-up. Coincidence?? Hell no!! Bi/pan Buck has always been canonly alluded to! I'm hoping we see him finally addressing the fact that he's never been straight actually and not have a new awakening because the work has already been done. There's a lot of wink wink nudge nudge towards him not being straight. It would make sense (and funny) for him to be like "yeah I'm attracted to everyone I thought you guys knew??" and everyone's like we are surprised but also that totally makes sense.

#pansexual buck my beloved #bisexual buck my beloved #I'm good with both #i like pan buck because i go by pan as well #but any non straight label is cool with me #evan buckley #evan buck buckley #buddie #911 abc

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inkskinned · 9 months

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you're grabbing lunch with a nice man and he gives you that strange grimace-smile that's popular right now; an almost sardonic "twist" of his mouth while he looks literally down on you. it looks like he practiced the move as he leans back, arms folded. he just finished reciting the details of NFTs to you and explaining Oppenheimer even though he only watched a youtube about it and hasn't actually seen it. you are at the bottom of your wine glass.

you ask the man across from you if he has siblings, desperately looking for a topic. literally anything else.

he says i don't like small talk. and then he smiles again, watching you.

a few years ago, you probably would have said you're above celebrity gossip, but honestly, you've been kind of enjoying the dumb shit of it these days. with the rest of the earth burning, there's something familiar and banal about dragging ariana grande through the mud. you think about jeanette mccurdy, who has often times gently warned the world she's not as nice as she appears. you liked i'm glad my mom died but it made you cry a lot.

he doesn't like small talk, figure out something to say.

you want to talk about responsibility, and how ariana grande is only like 6 days older than you are - which means she just turned 30 and still dresses and acts like a 13 year old, but like sexy. there's something in there about the whole thing - about insecurity, and never growing up, and being sexualized from a young age.

people have been saying that gay people are groomers. like, that's something that's come back into the public. you have even said yourself that it's just ... easier to date men sometimes. you would identify as whatever the opposite of "heteroflexible" is, but here you are again, across from a man. you like every woman, and 3 people on tv. and not this guy. but you're trying. your mother is worried about you. she thinks it's not okay you're single. and honestly this guy was better before you met, back when you were just texting.

wait, shit. are you doing the same thing as ariana grande? are you looking for male validation in order to appease some internalized promise of heteronormativity? do you conform to the idea that your happiness must result in heterosexuality? do you believe that you can resolve your internal loneliness by being accepted into the patriarchy? is there a reason dating men is easier? why are you so scared of fucking it up with women? why don't you reach out to more of them? you have a good sense of humor and a big ol' brain, you could have done a better job at online dating.

also. jesus christ. why can't you just get a drink with somebody without your internal feminism meter pinging. although - in your favor (and judgement aside) in the case of your ariana grande deposition: you have been in enough therapy you probably wouldn't date anyone who had just broken up with their wife of many years (and who has a young child). you'd be like - maybe take some personal time before you begin this journey. like, grande has been on broadway, you'd think she would have heard of the plot of hamlet.

he leans forward and taps two fingers to the table. "i'm not, like an andrew tate guy," he's saying, "but i do think partnership is about two people knowing their place. i like order."

you knew it was going to be hard. being non-straight in any particular way is like, always hard. these days you kind of like answering the question what's your sexuality? with a shrug and a smile - it's fine - is your most common response. like they asked you how your life is going and not to reveal your identity. you like not being straight. you like kissing girls. some days you know you're into men, and sometimes you're sitting across from a man, and you're thinking about the power of compulsory heterosexuality. are you into men, or are you just into the safety that comes from being seen with them? after all, everyone knows you're failing in life unless you have a husband. it almost feels like a gradebook - people see "straight married" as being "all A's", and anything else even vaguely noncompliant as being ... like you dropped out of the school system. you cannot just ignore years of that kind of conditioning, of course you like attention from men.

"so let's talk boundaries." he orders more wine for you, gesturing with one hand like he's rousing an orchestra. sir, this is a fucking chain restaurant. "I am not gonna date someone who still has male friends. also, i don't care about your little friends, i care about me. whatever stupid girls night things - those are lower priority. if i want you there, you're there."

he wasn't like this over text, right? you wouldn't have been even in the building if he was like this. you squint at him. in another version of yourself, you'd be running. you'd just get up and go. that's what happens on the internet - people get annoyed, and they just leave. you are locked in place, almost frozen. you need to go to the bathroom and text someone to call you so you have an excuse, like it's rude to just-leave. like he already kind of owns you. rudeness implies a power paradigm, though. see, even your social anxiety allows the patriarchy to get to you.

you take a sip of the new glass of wine. maybe this will be a funny story. maybe you can write about it on your blog. maybe you can meet ariana grande and ask her if she just maybe needs to take some time to sit and think about her happiness and how she measures her own success.

is this settling down? is this all that's left in your dating pool? just accepting that someone will eventually love you, and you have to stop being picky about who "makes" you a wife?

you look down to your hand, clutching the knife.

#writeblr #this is a mashup of like 3 dates i accidentally went on lol #by that i mean that i was out with a woman on a date in 2 of these situations #and a man just. joined us. and we were too awkward to say anything while he tried to ''date'' me #& one was a longterm friend that i was like. you what????#like he's nice he's a doctor and my mom was SO happy she was like raquel think about it #''it's a perfect love story you grew up together and reconnected as adults and like the same things and he's friends with ur brother #and his sister is one of ur close friends!!!''#yes but alas. he is a boy . she only likes girls. can i make it any more obvious #anyway im tryna write about like the force of male attention being actually incredibly ingrained to women like we are SUPPOSED to like it #it's seen as the only important thing #even if ur gay #and it's a nuanced thing idk #and while rn i i.d. as lesbian #like .... it wouldn't be UNTRUE to say i am probably like ''cusp bisexual'' bc i CAN experience attraction to men bc like .#sexuality is fluid...#don't tell straight ppl tho bc they do not understand the concept that ppl don't necessarily need a solid everlasting label #they're like GET in the BOX #if ur gay & in boston i'm 30 and pretty please come kiss me.#(i usually only date older ppl sorry in advance tho)

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khaopybara · 28 days

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Ongsa, do you want me and Tinh to help you pursue Sun?

EARN PREEYAPHAT as CHAROEN, MILK PANSA as ONGSA NANNAPHAT and VIEW BENYAPA as AYLIN feat. FORD ARUN as TINH and JUNE WANWIMOL as LUNA episode 4 of 23 POINT 5

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variousqueerthings · 1 year

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asexual in a bisexual way

bisexual in an asexual way

#the blur is real #that is -- am firmly and comfortably asexual at present point in time #but the possible experiences of bi and ace are incredibly flexible and overlapping from person to person #and they often see a kinship of experience/places where they meet #ace stuff #bi stuff #queer stuff #asexual #bisexual #and ALSO that fucking around with labels is good for the soul/part of what queerness as philosophy is about #it's all bi-aced as they say

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em0-opossum · 10 months

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"can I be [x gender] if I..." "can I still call myself [x term] if..." yes. yes. if you like the term then use it. do whatever you want forever. labels are just little words we use to categorize our infinitely complex existential experiences on this floating rock !! no two people who use the same label are going to experience it the same way and that's the beauty of it !! use "contradictory" labels, use labels that don't make sense to anyone, change your label every day or not at all, explore anything and everything, use no labels at all or every label under the sun, confuse people or correct them or let them assume things rather than explaining, I promise nothing other people think about your identity is worth your happiness !!

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fixing-bad-posts · 5 months

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bi people like pansexuals

Submitted by @puppyenergy

#fbp submission #blackout poetry #puppyenergy #bi pan solidarity #bisexuality #pansexuality #queer solidarity #queer #mspec labels

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onesidedradiostatic · 1 month

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continuation of my "alastor thinks asexual means asexual reproduction"

so I mixed up calling flowers asexual in my original post (although some plants can asexually reproduce), but the thing I was thinking about was them being unisexual and bisexual

and it just made me think

vox: I am bisexual alastor, in his head: is vox secretly a plant????????

putting it together he also has now come to the conclusion that rosie may think he is a plant too (she called him asexual once and he had to go through every organism in his head that can asexually reproduce)

he now thinks being a plant is just a metaphor for media/broadcast demons

and as I'm typing this it's getting even worse as I remember alastor says "now I know it's been a while since someone with style treated hell to a broadcast" (<- I have no fucking clue what this implies in this plant context but it sounds like he's making fun of vox for being a flower without a style (vox: "SINCE WHEN DID I SAY I WAS A FLOWER!?!??!?"))

someone should just teach him what they actually mean before it gets worse.

#osrs.txt #my blog is literally 90% crack 10% actual content atp I'm sorry #hazbin vox #hazbin hotel vox #vox #vox hazbin #vox hazbin hotel #hazbin alastor #hazbin hotel alastor #alastor #alastor hazbin hotel #alastor hazbin #aroace alastor #asexual alastor #ace alastor #bisexual #asexual #alastor's modern sexuality label crisis

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morgaine-la-reveuse · 2 days

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I don't know who needs to hear this, but:

It is absolutely fine to use a label, only to realise it doesn't suit you anymore. Labels aren't there to bind you to them. They serve as a way to better describe how one feels and what ones lived experience can be like.

I had two pipelines of relabeling myself simultaneously.

From bi to lesbian, and back to bi.

From asexual to demisexual (because I thought, that one day, maybe I feel this kind of attraction, as sex-ambivalent and oscillating were terms I related with, and still do), and back to being asexual.

Does that make me less sapphic or a-spec? Absolutely not.

And to be honest: I still haven't figured out if I'm demiromantic or aromantic. And that is perfectly fine. We don't own anyone an explanation, but ourselves.

If the label felt good at that time, but doesn't anymore, let it go and take the one that feels more fitting. ♡ We are human beings. We are allowed to grow. You are valid, no matter which label you choose.

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aromantic-diaries · 10 months

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I remember when JaidenAnimations released her coming out video and I watched it, related to Almost Everything She Said and KNOWING I relate. And still going Ah my many experiences COINCIDENTALLY overlapping with that of many aromantic and asexual individuals is nothing to think about I am Most Certainly Bisexual

#aro #aromantic #arospec #ace #asexual #acespec #so um. younger and dumber me kinda latched onto the idea of being bisexual. i guess i was searching for some kind of identity #i got really attached to that label okay. not even actually wanting to date or have sex jusg The Idea™ of being bisexual #which is probably why i'm still drawn to bi musicians like a moth to the flame #but yeah that and my internalized arophobia which was a beast

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annabelle--cane · 27 days

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jon figured out the asexuality by himself but georgie had to be the one to tell him he was bi. she didn't even mean to, she had just figured out her own sexuality and was telling jon about it and said "ah, it's felt so nice to talk this through with you, I knew you'd be a cool and understanding about it since you're also bi" and he said "ah um. sorry to break it to you but I'm not?" and she just blinked like. "jonathan. I've known that you're attracted to men since before we even started going out. it can be seen from space whenever you get a crush. did you not realize???"

#disclaimer jon does not have a canonical label for his mspec orientation. however I'm bi and like hitting people with the bisexuality stick.#tma #marina marvels at life

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spookystarfishzombie · 1 month

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mrmaxdragonx3 · 1 year

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I feel like we can all agree that labels can either bring people comfort or make people feel like they are being put into boxes. So on that note, I wish you all a good day, and I hope you find comfort with yourselves whether or not you identify with a label.

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ingravinoveritas · 19 days

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feliciafancybottom replied to your post "angelsadvocate96 replied to your post "I am…"

I saw one earlier about Michael setting such a fine example for straight boys who go through a 'phase' of crushing on men. Yeahhh. Michael "No closet can hold me" Sheen… Michael "Happy Bi" Sheen… Michael "I set David on fire fairly regularly" Sheen… Michael Sheen who did one sex scene with Stephen Fry 27 years ago and hasn't stopped talking about riding him like a bucking bronco ever since. Is that the right Michael Sheen? If so, I think someone needs to tell him that he's the Sheriff of Straighttown now because I don't think he got the memo.

@feliciafancybottom Oh my God. "A phase"...yeah. That's always the other one, isn't it. Never mind that he had a crush on John Taylor when he was a teenager, and then a crush on Jude Law during Wilde when he was almost 30, and now an overwhelmingly obvious crush on David in his 50s. Nope, definitely just a phase.

I just...I genuinely do not understand how anyone thinks that the man who made that "closet" tweet, who christened himself "THE southern pansy" during Pride Month a few years ago, who said he considers one of his characters (Roland Blum) to be pansexual, and who has been telling us exactly who he is in every way possible for multiple years now...is completely straight. And to then have the gall to dismiss Michael's sexuality by further referring to it as a "phase" is the peak of bi erasure.

On one positive note, I will say that "Sheriff of Straighttown" made me snort, and I'm now picturing Michael and David roleplaying that with Michael as the "straight" Sheriff and David as the seductive "saloon girl" who leads him astray, so thank you for that. Haha. Good times...

#feliciafancybottom #reply post #michael sheen #welsh seduction machine #i think Michael has been telling us exactly who he is for a long time now #him using the word 'pansexual' was honestly what convinced me most #because that is not a sexuality that most het people would ever think about let alone mention #Michael is not hiding #even if he doesn't label it specifically #bisexuality #bi erasure #i can't even with this nonsense #fandom woes #discourse

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madohomurat · 1 year

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ppl for real out here calling themselves "gay and straight" instead of just saying bisexual. or like. theyll be like "im both a lesbian and a gay man" as if its some wild and new thing for you to define your sexuality based on who you happen to be dating at that moment. biphobia isnt new sir. and no this is not me hating on an "identity i dont understand" either. i undrrstand that you are genderfluid, bisexual, or both, and harboring deeply rooted biphobic ideas.

you think youre "gayer" than other bisexuals. you think youre "more sapphic" than other bisexuals. you think you understand gender, gender nonconformity, and genderfluidness more than any other bisexual possibly could. and you also think that these thoughts are somehow good and enlightening rather than shallow, bigoted, closeminded. you need to sit down and think about why you are so disgusted with the idea being bisexual

#cy texts #discourse bullshit sorry #biphobia #i sound mad but im not mad rlly just thinking about how messed up it is how the bisexual label has been dissected like this #when its a label that was created as a way for bisexuals to have community and be heard #your desire to be involved and relate to every gay and lesbian experience has led to you actively burying and erasing bisexual experiences #why are you so desperate to other yourself from bisexuality

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