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cuubism · 17 days

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some canon-verse trans Hob for the lovely @five-and-dimes who recently got top surgery! 🥳🥰 congratulations, I'm truly so happy for you, my friend. please accept this humble offering

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“So, it actually started on a dare,” Hob says, on the day he tells Dream the story of him. Or of this part of him, anyway.

Normally, Hob gets a bit guarded the first time he tells someone he’s trans. It’s hard to predict with absolute certainty how people will react, especially ones he’s just become romantically involved with. He’s had it go poorly, to say the least, in the past.

He doesn’t feel that way with Dream. It’s not because there’s so much trust between them—they’re still new, after all. No, it’s something about Dream himself. For all his prickly and standoffish nature, being close to him feels like sinking into a warm lake, into a dark sleep where secrets and hidden wishes float up like glowing reeds to the surface. Deep, personal feelings feel safe with Dream; he cradles them in his hands and soothes them. Or that’s how it feels, when Hob is touching him.

Personification of dreams, indeed.

“A dare?” Dream echoes.

“Sort of," Hob says. "Got frustrated with people saying women should or shouldn’t do this or that or the other thing, so I decided if they felt so strongly about it I’d just be a man. Moved somewhere no one knew me, dressed differently, got stronger, practiced the sword—and that was that. No one seemed to care much, once you were at war. So long as you could swing a sword and not get yourself killed.”

“A choice, then,” Dream says. He’s listening very intently, hands folded on his knees, untouched tea on the coffee table before him.

“At first. Was only after I’d been living that way for a few decades—before and after we met—that I realized while there might be a handful of women out there living as men for the freedom of it, that they didn’t all like it. Given the choice they’d rather just be women in a more equal world. You know?”

Dream hums in understanding.

“But I didn’t want to go back,” Hob continues. “I felt like... who I'd become was the truth of me all along.”

“Identity, while not wholly immutable, is resilient against adversity and circumstance,” says Dream. “You found what your heart wanted you to be, if in a circuitous manner.”

“You seem very unbothered by it,” Hob observes, sipping his tea.

Dream frowns. “Why would I be bothered by it?”

“Dunno.” Apparently he can’t fully shake that this’ll put a wedge in us feeling. “People sometimes are. Feel deceived, or something like that. So they say.”

“If they are deceived, it is by their own assumptions,” Dream says, with disdain. “You should be as you dream yourself, Hob. No more nor less. Put aside these petty physical trappings.”

“I do actually have to live in these ‘physical trappings’ even if you don’t, you silly thing.” He can’t help laughing. “Besides, I rather like being some kind of living creature in the world, rather than what? A ghost? Best I can do is make this body as close to how it should be as possible.”

Hob’s come to like his body, for the most part, in the form that he’s made it. He didn’t always. But he needs a body of some kind to be alive, and he likes being alive. So what he couldn’t change, he made peace with.

Besides, they have hormone treatments nowadays. Brilliant stuff. Makes it so much better.

“Anyway, now you know. I wanted you to. Since we’re together.” It’s still a marvel. Together.

“Thank you,” says Dream, with evident sincerity. “It is a privilege to be gifted your secrets.”

“Not really a secret, but I get what you mean.” He takes Dream’s hand, just to touch him, and admits, “Telling it to you is like… I don’t know. Feels like when I was younger and first admitted out loud, ‘I’m a man. I want to stay like this.’”

It hasn’t been a proper secret in a very long time. But giving it to Dream is like the freedom of releasing a held breath, even so.

“I am the harbor and cradle of dreams,” Dream says in reply. He traces his fingers over Hob’s. Does Dream’s strange form just spring from the ether? Hob wonders. Or does he have to choose it? The way Hob chose his? “Dreams of being and becoming… these are most precious for they grow from tough soil. I can only protect them, I cannot create them. You must do that. And I expect that were I to find you in the Dreaming, there would be a fantastic garden there, indeed.”

Dream himself is the most fantastical thing. “Well, darling, just know your work is appreciated.”

Dream’s lips tip up in a tiny smile. When he meets Hob’s gaze again, his eyes have gone dark and starry. He folds Hob into a hug, and—

oh, it’s like being hugged by the universe itself.

Hob feels the light breeze of a warm dark night, when he’d lain by the dying fire in a war camp in the French countryside, and looked up at a million stars and first whispered to himself what if this is really who I am? Dream is that breeze and those stars. The dying embers that had lit him as he’d run his hands over his body and felt it differently than he ever had before, and been terrified because what would it mean?—but also thrilled and alive. Dream is the night wrapping around him in that moment, the night that was listening to his dreams no matter how quietly he admitted them, Dream is that and more and the voice in his heart telling him it would be okay.

A younger, more uncertain Hob would have needed this. Hob now is older, and he already knows who he is and what he wants, but he falls into Dream’s embrace all the same. A tear slips from his eye, and Dream kisses his cheek, wiping the tear away with his tongue before leaning their heads together.

“I could craft you any body you wanted in the Dreaming,” he says lowly. “However I think the one you have made with your own hands is more remarkable.”

Oh, God, he’s going to tear up again. “Dream, you are the most beautiful, wonderful thing.”

Dream hums in pleasure at the words, and lets Hob hold him close, lets him cradle his head to his chest, a dream kept close to his heart. One that he knew as soon as he saw it walk into the White Horse. Sooner even than he truly knew himself.

Then Dream looks up at him with a hopeful expression. “With these truths revealed, are we able to be intimate?”

Hob laughs so hard he has to tip his head back against the couch. “Wow. One track mind with you, isn’t it? I spill my heart and that’s what I get?”

Dream grumbles, tucking his face in against Hob’s neck to press his lips to Hob’s throat. “I find myself impatient of late.”

“Knew all along you were only with me for my body.” He’s grinning, though. Can’t stop.

“Well. Considering it is such a lovely one.” He plucks at Hob’s shirt buttons. Lecherous little nightmare.

It feels fucking good, though, to be desired.

“C’mere, then,” he says, and drags Dream into his lap.

Dream settles there with a purr, starts playing with Hob’s hair, but says, “I would not truly derail this moment, nor distract from your feelings if you do not wish it.”

“Oh, I wish it. You’ve no idea how much I want you right now. You’re like a prize.” He cradles Dream’s beloved face between his hands. “Stick around for long enough and you’ll get the most incredible Dream at the end of it.”

“Or at the beginning,” Dream says, and Hob’s heart swells so much to hear him voice that that he has to kiss him.

When he does, Dream makes a low, pleased sound, settling deeper in his lap. Yes, this moment, this life, is certainly the prize for all of those years hanging onto those dreams:

the dream of his lover

and the one of himself.

#1389 hob: while you were busy with the gender binary i studied the blade #trans hob #dreamling #my writing #i think after this hob gets to ask his burning questions about how gender works for the endless and dream is just like [meme of marge #simpson holding a potato but it says 'trans and nonbinary people (except desire)'] 'i just think they're neat.#unrelatedly i did have to choose my gender--' and hob's just like 😐.........#[dream a known king of self awareness]#this is like sending someone a casserole when they get home from the hospital except the casserole is gay fanfic XD #a different kind of sustenance...#hope it's okay!! 🥺

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artichao · 6 months

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"Everyone in the Splatoon community is LGBT+ in some way"

And let me tell you the queer power that Splatoon holds is so powerful that I, a nonbinary with genderfluid tendencies, once started questioning my identity so hard for an entire day thinking I was actually ftm transgender purely because my (trans) octoling boy looked SO good I was filled with absolute gender envy.

So if I, somebody already absolutely queer, was questioning my gender due to THE POWER OF SPLATOON I am convinced there ain't a single Splatoon player out there who hasn't questioned their gender/sexuality at least once and it's all because of funny cephalopods.

#i've been playing splatoon since the first game and in the beginning i was cishet as hell #now look at me #callie and marie were absolutely fictional crushes that i didn't realise i had #splatoon #splatoon 3 #i tag splatoon 3 because it's specifically that game that made me question myself HARD #splatoon community #splatoon confessions #splatoon meme #lgbt #lgbtq #queer #gender identity #trans

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new-kit-on-the-block · 1 year

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Man, that pandemic huh?

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purplezombietumbler · 9 months

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#funny #memes #barbie #non binary #nonbinary #questioning #gender identity #lgbt #lgbt discourse #lgbtqia+#lgbtqia #lgbtq community

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mantisgodsdomain · 5 months

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Scrolling through OC ask memes is very funny sometimes because a good handful of them have questions that... we don't think apply terribly well.

Yeah, they're a bug, tattoos are a bit complicated. They can't swim because they're an insect. Their ancestry is Cricket and their blood type is green. They don't know what a car is.

#we speak #its extra funny when a significant number of questions are dedicated to dating. your guess is as good as ours we arent keeping track #bau could be dating half the explorers association for all we know #we Have Not kept track #we're looking at a romance and relationships meme right now and its like. we do not think of these things for our ocs 99% of the time #we dont think they would know what monogamy is #we also don't know how to quantify gender in a species that only has One gender (dune cricket)#we are out of the norm but ALSO we swear this is like “youre trans if you identify as a different gender than you were assigned at birth”#like my man. we realize we're out of the norm but we CANNOT give you a solid answer to that question. nothing is binary enough for that #we cant define what sexuality this character would be in human terms we can't even define if a pairing with them is gay or not

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phoenixcatch7 · 1 year

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Everyone keeps pairing Danny up with the bat kids and I'm not even a shipper, but.

Pair him up with Steph,

Cowards.

#i am being 100% serious #Everyone says they don't care about the gender just the vibes #Okay well hear the vibes!! Steph and Danny would be THE MOST sarcastic chaos gremlins EVER #You KNOW that #They would be Literally unstoppable. They would enable and ride or die support each other NO questions asked #The shenanigans would be off the charts!!#B narrowly avoids them as they speed cackling past and then again as Jason sprints after them howling murder #'what have you two even done?'#*thermos rattles* 'oh we stole his pit rage!! Steph said it'd be best if we did it early morning cause no ones actually awake then lol'#*sound of heavy footsteps crashing into the kitchen and immediately getting soundly scolded by Alfred*#'that'll be him! I asked Alfie to have his fave cookies ready to help calm him down but I think Damien got there first...'#'popcorn?' 'POPCORN' *Steph holds up a peace sign as Danny phases her invisible and through the floor. Making eye contact the whole time #The MEMES. The IRREVERENCE. The unrelenting sarcastic optimism. The only thing would be getting cass' approval #She would so thrash Danny in a fight and while sitting on him hum in acceptance and then he wakes up next day with a new telescope on him #danny phantom #danny fenton #dp x dc #dc x dp #batman #batfam #steph brown #dc spoiler #black bat #cassandra cain #bruce wayne #Again I'm not a shipper I just spy SHENANIGANS #dc comics #What would you even call dead Spoiler? Red herring? Ghost writer? Death of the author? ASDFGHJKL MAJOR CHARACTER DEATH

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leftabit-leftabit · 1 month

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Every single time!

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raineofthedragons · 1 year

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So I made one of those LGBallT comics.

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syntaxfraud · 10 months

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I don't know if I'm androgynous, trans masc, or just cis who doesn't relate to woman due to their autism and I just don't find any reason to fit in with feminine gender roles but I also heavily relate to male gender roles and social norms (Jesus christ that was a long run off sentence)

What if I'm a pick me 💀

#trans male #trans memes #gender crisis #crisis core #lgbtq memes #lgbtq #lgbt memes #androgynous #non bianry #masc enby #enby #autism #pick me #transgender #trans teen #tumblr memes #nonbinary #genderfluid #questioning

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it-is-only-a-novel · 4 months

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Me after exploring my sexual orientation, starting to question my gender:

#trans #transgender #enby #nonbinary #gender identity #gender questioning #M's meme

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tisthegender · 4 months

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Y'know, I'm probably more girlflux than anything, now that I think about it.

Because like, I'm a woman, I love being a woman, but sometimes I'm just, you know, not. Sometimes my gender runs away, and I ran out of wanted posters, so I guess I'll just wait until she comes back...

Oh there she is.

#gender #lgbtqia #girlflux #girlflux memes #genderflux #demiflux #gender questioning

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thermodynamic-comedian · 2 years

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gotta stop with all this "i'm straight for [insert male character i'm aesthetically attracted to here]" nonsense bc i'm literally agender. like bruh. all attraction i experiance is inherently queer

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whovianderson · 8 months

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“What I’m worried about is you Mulder, how far you’ll go and how far I can follow you” oh Scully, you know you’d follow him to the ends of the earth and that’s why you’re worried.

Also, I’m an msr shipper to the end, but Mulder and Krycek could have kissed SO easily in one of the scenes.

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GOING FERAL OVER MULDER AND SCULLY’S REUNION!! SHE LITERALLY RAN TO HIM IN THE COURTROOM!! THE EXPRESSIONS ON THEIR FACES!! THEIR HUG!! MULDER SAYING “it’s good to put my arms round you”!!

THEIR MOUTHS ARE SO CLOSE, JUST KISS ALREADY!!

#4x08 #tunguska #mulder looks very gender this episode btw #ok but really question how did gillian run in those heels #is covarrubius flirting with mulder..?#ik the karen meme is old but when krycek asked to speak to the supervisor I thought of it 😭#4x09 #terma #pip watches txf for the first time and goes insane #the x-files

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jaygubz · 1 year

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oneiroy · 11 months

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5 for the pride asks? 👁

5. How did you figure out your oc's identity?

So, for context, when I first created Ryss I didn't put a ton of thought into her gender and sexual identity. It was lesbian for both, but mostly just because that was relatable to me.

It took me a while to revisit that, and what started it for some reason was realizing that she would be into Estinien LMAO. I remember that the thought hit me like a freight train while watching a cutscene at the beginning of endwalker, and at first I wanted to dismiss it cause like, she was supposed to be a lesbian?? But in the end I'm really happy that I put her identity back on the table because it led me to think more about her gender and about gender fuckery, and it's honestly bringing me so much joy ahahah

So right now I would refer to Ryss as bi and butch. She's a woman who's a guy, and she'd refer to herself in both feminine and masculine terms. I know I've used she/her exclusively for her so far, but she would also be fine with he/him.

(Little aside about languages and translations but I gotta say that the way I talk about it in english feels a bit stunted since the language is waaaaay less gendered than french, so using f pronouns with m terms doesn't usually work... e.g. in french i would say stuff like she (f) is an adventurer (m) but that doesn't work in english ;; But hey at least I can still call her Estinien's boyfriend lmao)

#ryssrael #ask meme #thanks for the question ryss is so gender to me and i love to talk about it

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alienscumbag · 9 months

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How to explain to ppl that jokes are the foundations to a lot of bigotry... Like you let ppl you don't know start laughing at jokes poking fun at groups they aren't in and that's where they start to get comfortable with being bigoted and then using "it was just a joke" as a defense

#personal #saw a post about getting wrapped in fabric for calling someone who is nb a girl #op said it was just a joke post and they didn't want ppl being transphobic in the comments #but guess what was all up in the comments??? u guessed it! transphobia #ppl making up scenarios that never happened to justify being bigoted #and saying that it's okay to misgender someone consistently and not try to properly identify them if you think it's ok cause u use the terms #in a gender neutral way 🤪🤪 hee so quirky #like stfu....#i use girl and bruh in a gn way but if someone told me they didn't want to be referred that way I'd stop #it's called being respectful #this is also why it's so sketchy seeing those joke posts that are made about specific group and then op is a gen meme uploader #with no identifiers of who is behind the account #i immediately clock the amount as run by a teenage cishet white boy since they wanna act like they're the default anyways #which then makes the perspective of their content a lot more heinous #and i don't care if its bad faith because these posts are often viewed and laughed at by ppl who are not the ppl being made fun of #and it makes the ppl in the content vulnerable to bigotry and having their existence questioned by assholes #so in my opinion if you're not apart of the group your joking about and you post content making fun of them to millions of strangers #then ur literally posting content that farms negative views towards the group you posted about #whether you did it intentionally or not #esp hate when they go but my friend is X and they're okay with it!!#ok and we aren't all your friend... and your friend isn't our ruler so....#keep that shit between you and ppl who know your boundaries or else don't complain when ppl think you're a bigot

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