#i do this every month

[sourcedecay]

Beginning to think I may have depression

#i do this every month

[ravioliwings]

idk why i always think i can fall back asleep before the cramps get worse

#i do this every month #also massive oversight on my part of not bringing my ibuprofen into my room

[ardri-na-bpiteog]

Also increasingly aware that a LOT of people "manage" getting through the 40+ hour work week by sleeping less than is healthy and relying on stimulants like coffee and energy drinks to keep them going.

For people who are unwilling or unable to do this...work really does just dominate your life. Like we really should not have to rely on unhealthy practices just to have a social life or keep on top of housework or whatever.

I know I post about this a lot but I'm so TIRED all the time and it's just so depressing that this is how we're expected to spend the one life we have.

#i have to get at least 8 hours of sleep a night to even barely function #with sleep #getting ready for work #commute #cooking #and errands #I typically have maybe 2-3 hours to actually do what i want in a day #and I'm usually too tired to actually do the things i want to do #and that's with a very short commute #if i actually had a long commute I'd basically do nothing but work #i see my friends like once every few weeks or months #because we're all so fucking busy with work and have such little time for socialising #and none of us even have kids or anything!!

[badolmen]

WARNING 18+

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#ra speaks #it’s a silly joke/pun dw #we stay silly :3 #edit: #woahg. that’s a lot of notes. hi everybody o/ #10k. stop clenching your jaw and drink some water. #15k. eat some fresh fruit this week! I’m having kiwis tonight :] #20k. quit sitting like a shrimp it’s bad for your neck! sit up straight and do a little stretch every now and then #25k. I’m up at 2 AM but I’ll get to see the sunrise today :] if you can’t see that I hope you admire the sunset later today #30k. do something fun you haven’t done in a while. I haven’t drawn in months - I think I’ll paint a cat tomorrow :3

[happyheidi]

｡ﾟﾟ･｡･ﾟﾟ｡ ﾟ. November will bring blessings.

ﾟ･｡･ﾟ

#let’s manifest this shit! #like we do every month #and November makes me so happy #I love that month #cottagecore #classic academia #light academia aesthetic #positivity #manifestation #snow #winter aesthetic #november #emoji #cottage academia #text #affirmations

[deep-dark-fears]

Out out, Mister Goofums. A fear submitted by Lauren to Deep Dark Fears - thanks!

You can find original artwork or commission portraits in my shop!

#comics #deepdarkfears #Deep Dark Fears #Fran Krause #scary #fear #watercolor #sketch #sketchbook #art #illustration #friend #ghost #death #mister goofums #Sorry I haven't posted in a month #I've still been doing this comic every Monday but I haven't had a chance to post it #I have a backlog of like a year of comics #it's been so busy lately #but a good kind of busy #so don't worry about me #I'm doing good #your pal #Fran

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[dadstielkline]

fun facts about sharks

#I know I didn't include every pride flag #but these were fun to make #might do a part 2 #lgbtq #gay #lesbian #pansexual #asexual #aromantic #nonbinary #transgender #pride month 2022 #pride month #unlabeled #happy pride 🌈 #bisexual

[sirenetica]

My beautiful boyfriend @spellboundcities made art of the wonderful DDVAU (made by @xmaruu11 and @kitsuneisi respectively) and, obviously, i took that as a CHALLENGE!

So here's some fanart for a wonderful AU!

#are they holding hands? are they not holding hands? the better question is ARE YOU A NARC? /ref #i looove this au #i binge read every single thing i could when i found it months ago #and then my beloved partner #my darling angel #had the AUDACITY #to draw fanart BEFORE ME! /lhj /nsrs #so i could not let that stand #ddvau #ddvau fanart #desertduo vigilante au #trafficshipping #hermitshipping #technically but not technically? #gtws fanart #grian fanart #my art #the textposts were supplied to me by my beautiful boyfriend #with brown eyes #he tells me what to do and i say yes sir #on it boss

[werewylf]

slinking back into my lil neurotypical box bc i have to be faking all this shit,, i feel like i'm going crazy and copying other ppl i wanna cry,, like am i faking it is it real or is there just something wrong with me

last time i thought something in my brain was fake it turned out to very distressingly real but like what if i'm lying to everyone including myself and just co-opting an experience i am not actually having i want to sleep for a month i am so tired

#i do this every month #'oh i may have figured something out abt my- nvm the self loathing kicked in i am a big faker and a liar' #'nothing is wrong with me and i am the most average person around <3' #man shut the hell up and go to therapy #ghouls groans

[lotus-pear]

smoke break

#this was lying around in my drafts for three months and i colored it just now so sry if the art style looks kinda 💀 #teen skk is so special to bc they’re just idiot kids forced to get along and that’s what makes them hilarious #when will the unreleased seventeen light novel come out omfgggggg slamming my head into a brick wall #i need to see them in their peak years. their double black years. the years where they finally learned to trust and grow fond of each other #i am never painting again i cried every second doing this #bungou stray dogs #bungo stray dogs #bsd #osamu dazai #dazai osamu #nakahara chuuya #chuuya nakahara #sokouku #skk #lotus draws

[sanctus-ingenium]

fumes

#setting: mez #artists on tumblr #mech design #another one from patreon #i was kicking about the idea of a monthly postcard-sized print and this would have been one #but the costs (incl. environmental) of doing it kinda sapped my enthusiasm as well as my doubts that i could #manage to make a new one every month #ah well.

[raycatzdraws]

LU WIND BUT HE'S A ITTY BITTY HUMMINGBIRD

Slingshot Proficiency!

+bonus doodle drafts

#requests #linked universe #linkeduniverse #lu wind #lu legend #lu sky #post post comments: #Wind agreed to do this but whether he caught the moon pearl or Legend caught him is up to you ajdsfsd #this is for shits and giggles and I know it's kinda ooc 'xD #also it's in reference to the d&d polymorph spell - the hummingbird likely has only one hit point so taking any damage would change him bac #PLEASE DON'T HIT BIRDS IRL #the slingshot being such an important item in Seasons is cool #if I had a nickel for every time I post LU fanart and there ends up being a new LU post that day too - I'd have at least three! #I was thinking that it being a friday near the end of the month that there'd be a chance and LO

[wild-neko]

disabled people: we are still dying, can you please just wear a mask to the grocery store and doctor’s offices so we can live

conservatives: no, die or stay inside all day, no one cares

leftists: no 🏳️‍🌈✨💖

#wear a mask #covid #sars cov 2 #disability rights #eugenics #disability pride month #lgbt #it really is like this :') #queer #pandemic #ableism #disabled queer #auspol #me not ever being able to share the same air with anyone ever really does something to your mental health #trying not to die in the ongoing pandemic #wear a fucking mask #we would actually like to access third spaces too #we just lost 100 years of disease prevention bc govt propaganda worked a little too well and gave every single medical person brain rot #they went from 'do no harm' to 'actually i think you should quit complaining and allow me to kill you with airborn aids' #which is happening EVERYWHERE BTW and it made it to the media that an aust hospital COVERED IT UP like this is what we're dealing with #this is what modern day eugenics looks like and no one gives a shit #Ableism #HAPPY NEW YEAR #pride #LGBTQIA #activism #acab

[obsob]

happy and proud!!

✷(print shop)✷

#mine #original #sm how managed 2 miss pride month....but its pride month every month in this house hold #ive read two bad YA books so far this month as a break from th 2nd farseer book but now.....i am back.........i am reading th 3rd one #its gna make my brain explode i can feel it #n then idk what i will read. maybe th hands of th emperor #could i read smth other than 800 page epic fantasy pls #the YA books werent too bad for YA but they hve that YA cringe 2 it. idk how u people read it constantly #if i hve 2 read th word 'heck' one more time #also theres always like. disney channel vibes. like i read gay YA romance n its so sanitised n vanilla. its so superficial #like i get this is for 16 year olds but were is the longing. the yearing. these guys are fanfic tropes stuck 2gether 2 glue. #also. what is with nearly every mlm romance / fantasy being YA not adult fiction. whats up w that #anyway hve a good evenin im gna do knitting!!!!!!!!!!!!

[nonpoppie]

drawin the scum villain duo again

#luo binghe #shen qingqiu #shen yuan #scum villain #svsss #its them . bingus and meowmeow #i posted doodles of them earlier i just wanted to do it again #bc my style changes like every 3 months or something . #i think ive drawn binghe non posted like a BUNCH of times already #hes my aphantasia apple fr #my art dump #also i do think shen yuan is a good looking guy i think? canonically? #but its offset by his cringe and fail vibe #well maybe if he didnt die before his gay awakening