#self judgement

[infopathfinder]

#self esteem #self judgement #self care reminder #self care #self improvement #self development #positive thoughts

[crystalsenergy]

We are unique, but why do we focus so much on the outside?

We are singular,

but despite that, we spend a lot of time living various roles that change as the person in front of us changes.

The name for this is conditioning ourselves to others or, in other words, being a chameleon that changes colors according to the environment or situation.

However, in this process of sometimes being what others want, sometimes being more yourself but still holding back, sometimes being less, sometimes muuuch less, you lose yourself in these roles!

Before long, you can no longer discern who you are and who you aren't

The solution is to seek out who yourself, your personality.

And self-discovery begins when you direct more energy inward than outward…

#my writing #self healing #self knowledge #self improvement #self development #self help #self love #healing #self judgement #reflection #writers on tumblr

[firsttarotreader]

Have you asked the cards if Pedro usually judges his work too harshly and ends up hating everything he does?

Hello! That’s an interesting question. I asked the cards if he might judge his work too harshly and hate everything and the Major Arcana were The Empress reversed, Justice and The Star reversed.

The Empress reversed means he becomes very insecure about his work, he feels like he doesn’t have much to give, so he might try too hard and still feel frustrated and like he’s not evolving or going anywhere. Justice points to him making an effort to be more fair to himself, to be moderated, to think things through and not judge himself and what he does without thinking. The Star reversed, however, shows us he might become so pessimistic and hopeless about his work, like he’s not gonna make it right. He struggles to believe in himself and that he can do it.

The Minor Arcana were the 8 of Pentacles, Page of Wands and Knight of Swords. 8 of Pentacles with The Empress reversed means he will be feeling insecure and frustrated, but he’s still gonna work hard to learn the skills he needs, to get that character right, he’s not gonna give up, he’s gonna keep working, slow and diligently, to make things work. Because of The Empress reversed, he might end up overworking himself, emotionally or physically. Page of Wands with Justice points to him trying to be fair with himself and moderated about his self-judgement, especially since he is always SO excited and SO full of energy, he’s always ready to experiment and explore, to try new things, so he needs to not go so hard on himself so he can let out all that energy and that potential. Knight of Swords with The Star reversed tells us that even if he is so pessimistic and thinking he’s gonna fuck it up, he will still be hellbent on getting things right. He will not stop at anything, he will be strong, ambitious and determined and he will get it done.

So he might be insecure and pessimistic, but he will not let any of that stop him.

Also, does anyone remember where someone (maybe Craig?) said Pedro was so frustrated when filming Sarah’s death scene on TLOU? Because he was saying he wasn’t “there yet” with his acting? Can someone send me that? Because it’s exactly what this reading is showing. Please and thank you 😊😊

ETA: I’m gonna add this reading to the #confirmed readings tag because of this video or article I mentioned, but since I haven’t found it again yet, it’s pending. I’ll update the post when I find it! 💜

#career #work #insecurity #self judgement #Readings #confirmed readings

[lets-talk-spirituality]

Let’s Talk About: Healing your intuition

Years spent in western societal conditioning makes it almost natural to repress your natural impulses and instincts, which messes up your ability to clearly work with your intuition. If you are looking for some ways to heal your intuition, below are a list of examples you could do, but ultimately it’s your life and your impulses to follow!

whatever you’re craving for dinner? Let yourself have it instead of eating what you “should” eat.

stop eating when you feel full, or don’t be afraid to waste food you don’t like. Coming to terms with your privilege to be able to do that can be intense if you’re sensitive, but the reality is you can afford to be choosy about food and quantity. Stop eating when you’re full, not when the plate is done.

get rid of internal editing or judgement! Do you notice yourself adjusting as you create? Get rid of it. Say no, I’m just gonna let it come through me before I change it.

don’t judge yourself for what you like or don’t like, if you love cheesy romance novels, embrace it! Watch them without self judgement.

stop looking at your impulses or actions as flawed. Some things we perceive as flaws are actually what makes us unique, and different. Calling them flaws is believing these things need changes. Why? Are there legitimate reasons to change or are you doing it out of a previous wound, such as are you doing it to be more lovable?

when you get the impulse to run, run, if you want to sing, sing. Run through the sprinkler! Dance in the rain! Play hopscotch. I know sometimes in life we can’t just say yes to ourselves, like when we are at work, but as much as you can incorporate saying yes to your impulses the better.

you may prefer to act in different ways than you do or have but that doesn’t mean the choices or actions you’ve made are mistakes. There are no mistakes because that implies it shouldn’t have happened and everything happens as it’s meant to. Judging it as a mistake negatively connotes something that is just part of the human experience and is an egoic assessment of yourself, holding yourself to standards that may be rooted in societal expectations.

All these type of actions align you back with your internal navigation and intuition. Unfortunately many of us have been taught to repress things because they may bother other people or they may make others look at you strangely. You no longer need to fear this, be weird! Who cares? If you do care, then that’s something to examine. Why do you think you need to improve or aren’t good enough as you are? Why do you care if people think you’re weird? Start getting to the root of the reasons why you suppressed your inner voice to begin with. That is where you start the healing and recalling back all the power you have been freely giving away. As you say yes more, your connection to your own higher self and inner child will begin healing as well, allowing you to become more integrated as a whole individual instead of compartmentalized pieces of yourself.

#intuition #healing #spiritual gifts #spiritual evolution #spiritual insight #spiritual guidance #spiritual journey #self judgement

[catmint1]

It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else's eyes.

—Sally Field

#quotes #sally field #self acceptance #self judgement #acceptance #text

[psychicuniiverse]

Forgiveness has different levels of difficulties, subject to all variables in each situation. I think it's easier to forgive others because we are not responsible for the knowledge and capabilities of others. And there is a general understanding that mistakes just happen, making it more tolerable and understanding.

I believe the difference in forgiving ourselves, is that we are directly responsible for our knowledge, capabilities. No one else is responsible is ourselves. This makes it harder to defend self-excuses but we know we need to be self-responsible. This added with higher expectations for ourselves, can make forgiveness difficult

#self growth #selfworth #self responsibility #higher self #self forgiveness #self acceptance #self discipline #self criticism #self evaluation #self judgement #self improvement #self respect

[belamourelysianlimerence]

To: my inner child, and traumatized teen

If you can brush your teeth, you're not that fat. If you can bathe, you're not that fat. If you can walk around, you're not that fat. If you can go grocery shopping, you're not that fat. If you can change your clothes, you're not that fat. If you can brush your hair, you're not that fat. If you can climb stairs even one time, you're not that fat. If you can do any and or all of these things, you're actually not fat at all.

From: Yourself, I love you.

#negative self talk #selfworth #self care #self worth #self admiration #self appreciation #self awareness #self affirmation #self boost #self betterment #self deprecation #self degradation #self esteem #self forgiveness #self gratitude #self gaslighting #self growth #self h@te #self judgement #self kindness #self knowledge #self love #self learning #self loyalty #self luv #self liberation #self trust #self understanding #self work #weight worry

[rainbowpopeworld]

This is a big thing that I continue to work on unlearning/relearning

#care tasks #self care #cleaning is a process #a never ending cycle #judgement makes it harder #morally neutral #spoons #spoonie #disabled #nd things #neurodivergent #cleaning #oh no it's queue

[vizthedatum]

I understand that giving people moral judgement (yes I do this, and I likely will… it’s a learned behavior but I’m learning other ones) is giving them more of your precious energy.

Not everyone deserves my energy.

I am allowed to reflect on my and their morality, however bad/good/wrong/etc. they may be! I think that’s fine.

I cannot drain myself in the process.

I’m going to learn how to feel and observe whatever I need to AND keep that energy to myself.

#growth #healing #neurodivergence #healing journey #trauma #judgement #self judgement #self love #relational love #prose #affirmations

[memoriae-lectoris]

At its essence, Embrace is simply giving yourself the same support, warmth, and kindness you would get from a good friend or that you would offer a good friend. It’s a little help when you need it the most.

Now, “self-compassion” might make visions of patchouli incense dance in your head, but it’s actually a very practical tool. Some, especially those raised in an overly strict or critical family, may object at first, maintaining that self-compassion is indulgent, weak, or lets you off the hook. But when I spoke with Dr. Kristin Neff of the University of Texas, a pioneering researcher on self-compassion, she offered a good way to filter out what self-compassion is not.

“Put it in a context,” she suggested. “Would a compassionate mother let her child eat all the candy?” No, of course not. Instead of allowing her child to be indulgent and undisciplined, she would acknowledge that candy sure is tempting and then kindly encourage a healthier choice. Self-compassion is about creating that same sort of supportive, kind, encouraging environment from which you can gather the courage to choose wisely.

In short, self-compassion is the opposite of self-judgment. Self-judgment looks for what is vulnerable inside us and pounces, whereas self-compassion looks for what is human and meets it with understanding, graciousness, appreciation, and encouragement.

According to Dr. Neff, self-compassion has three components: mindfulness, self-kindness, and an awareness that we are all in this together, or what she calls our common humanity.

#book : how to be yourself #self compassion #self judgement #mental health #kristin neff #parenting #mindfulness

[branwyns-eclectic-grimoire]

Be there hero you always needed...

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#be your own hero #self knowledge #self judgement #spiritual healing #inner shadows #shadow work #shadow self #healingjourney

[warm-autumn-evenings]

changing every “i should have known better” to “i know better now”. i will not judge past versions of me through the lens of who i am now.

#healing #self acceptance #self esteem #self forgiveness #non judgement #unconditional love

[thecoachingdirectory]

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#addictions #aimless #Anxiety #confused #dark tunnel #depression #emotional trauma #Existential crisis #lost #physical trauma #PTSD #Root cause therapist #sadness #self judgement #suffering #trauma recovery #sheetal mistry #Soul Reflection Trauma Recovery

[o-finn-bem-viado]

ok so i am officialy convinced that if you write well enough, the most non-sense, over-tone, non-existing ship can become better than romeo and juliet

ao3 is killing me

#ao3 #reading #fanfic #writing #self judgement #i cant write in english #no beta we die like ao3

[lazycranberrydoodles]

they are so in love and disgusting and also sarcastic bitches. follow for more / prev comic / next comic

#i have BEEN the grossly affectionate couple in the friend group btw. maybe one more reason i love them #right off the bat after meeting they are holding hands and hugging and touching each others shoulders #xie lian even rubs hua cheng’s back to calm him down during the lang qianqiu/ qi rong scene #also #the fandom knows that xl is an essentially kind person but i’ve been paying attention to his dynamic w/ fxmq #they give each other so much shit lmao 😭 #when xl is with people he knows well and trusts he is truly so judgemental and sarcastic. #it is so funny. #can you imagine being confronted by the most powerful people in the three realms and they destroy your self esteem with dry fucking wit #feeling so insane about them currently #tgcf #art #hualian #heaven official's blessing #tian guan ci fu #hua cheng #xie lian #feng xin #digital art #my art #mxtx #comic

[strozzaprete]

holding grudges against people who have done unforgivable things to you especially if they show 0 remorse is actually really healthy for you it helps your brain build pattern recognition and boundary-making skills and it's a show of self respect self preservation and self love

#''forgiving'' people against my better judgement has never worked out well for me #cutting people out of my life without giving them reason to feel self-righteous though... perfect