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tang0w0tek · 2 years

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sometimes I wonder if, as a lawyer, my dad ever will have to represent/has represented a non-cis person in construction law court and if he has then he better fucking use their correct pronouns or I'll show him what's REALLY "bad for business"

spoiler alert: it's not the LGBTQ community like you think dad

you can pull that non-accepting bullshit with me but you better not fucking do it with your clients

#not an incorrect quote #lgbtq+#tw transphobia #transphobia mention #pronouns #nonbinary #non-cis people #cisgender #lawyers #yes my dad works in construction law #which is a real thing yes

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nothorses · 2 months

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after having an entire hour long conversation with my coworkers about what "degendering" is, and the importance of using trans people's pronouns when you know them- rather than always defaulting to "they/them" no matter what- and still getting "they/them"ed by people I trusted not to fucking do that to me, I have decided that the name and pronouns circle of introductions for new additions to the group will now include the very clearly stated boundary that they do not use "they/them" pronouns for me.

your move, cowards!

#the positive end of this is that i happened to be the first non-cis person to introduce myself in the circle #and two nonbinary(?) people after me both followed suit & elaborated on like #which pronouns were okay AND which pronouns they actually preferred people use for them/how they use them #which was really cool!!#usually they've just given the list of which ones were okay #so it was nice to have the detailed insight and also nice to see them asset boundaries

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uncanny-tranny · 11 months

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Your fears that you don't have a body that will transition "well" are, sure, understandable, but there isn't truly such thing as a body that's unworthy of transition. Perhaps your changing body won't suit everybody's taste, but would you rather live for yourself or for the whims of random people who don't care about your happiness as long as they're attracted to what they see?

Transition is for anybody who wants it. It's okay to be fearful. It's okay to be uncertain. But it isn't the end of the world. You are in control, and if you choose to transition to any capacity, it should be at your behest. You and your body are worthy of transition. I hope you are able to seize transition and do what you truly want for yourself.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #have been seeing a small resurgence in some trans spaces that there is such thing as an 'untransitional' body #there are people out there who cannot transition for medical/financial/social reasons but that isn't what people often mean #kill the person in your head that says you need to adhere to cishet standards. it's okay to be trans and *look* it if you want #transition because it makes you feel happy or fulfilled. transition because it is something *you* want #while yes it's complex because appearing trans can be dangerous i ultimately want people to have the freedom to make decisions solely...#...on what *they* want y'know?#i have seen this idea that some people just aren't 'able' to transition because they won't 'appear cis' for years now and it's heartbreaking #like i used the whole 'i don't look cis' against myself because it's impossible for me *to be* cis...#...i will never be non-trans. i will never not be a transsexual and i used to hate that about myself...#...because i was taught that being trans is bad. i was taught that looking trans is a curse that nobody should EVER inflict upon themselves #and that the goal was to essentially distance yourself as far away from transness as you can #and it's okay for people to not want to 'look' visibly trans. it's neutral. what was harmful was the idea that TRANS was bad #there's a huge difference between 'i don't want to be visibly trans' and 'i think being trans and looking it is bad'

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arielthedaydreamer · 9 months

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The world would be a better place if cis people understood the concepts of gender euphoria and dysphoria as things that everyone experiences, not just trans people.

The woman is not wearing makeup and a short skirt for male attention. She is doing that because it gives her gender euphoria as a woman.

On a more serious note, if a man doesn't feel comfortable to wear a pink shirt; eat a pink ice cream; listen to a female singer who is popular; express his feelings; drink fruity juices; hold his girlfriend's purse; say certain words; act with kindness towards his loved ones; apologize; deescalate conflict; watch a movie enjoyed by women; play with a small and fluffy animal; because he thinks these things make him look girly, less manly or "nor a real man", that is no way to live. That man is experiencing intense levels of gender dysphoria and he needs help.

I feel like people only look at men like that and laugh and call them sexist. Some of them might be and they need to be called out for it, but I feel like gender dysphoria is very common in cis men and we should be calling it what it is.

A cis man doesn't "feel uncomfortable" when he paints his nails for the first time, he gets dysphoric. Just like the cis woman who wears jeans during summer because she forgot to shave her legs and is embarassed about it.

Dysphoria happens to cis people, All. The. Time. Pass the message on.

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communistkenobi · 3 months

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two iron-clad maxims I have learned through researching trans issues:

If an article claims to be talking about LGBTQ issues but doesn’t mention trans people and/or only uses the word queer, it is a waste of time

If an article about transgender politics is posted in a cultural or media studies journal, don’t even bother opening it

#I see you cis gay people! I see you using ‘gay and queer’ like you think you’re so clever! your theory is shit and useless!#leaving gender as sacrosanct as the starting point to talking about homophobia is a non-starter. do not pass go do not collect $200 etc #book club

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justdavina · 1 month

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Such a adorable transgender girl! I love her hair color! Her entire outfit along with nails and makeup are awesome! Step on it!

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thepoisonroom · 2 months

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'I flirted with the idea that instead of being trans that I was just a cross-dresser (a quirk, I thought, that could be quietly folded into an otherwise average life) and that my dysphoria was sexual in nature, and sexual only. And if my feelings were only sexual, then, I wondered, perhaps I wasn’t actually trans.

I had read about a book called The Man Who Would Be Queen, by a Northwestern University professor who believed that transwomen who were attracted to women were really confused fetishists, they wanted to be women to satisfy an autogynephilia. And though I first read about this book in the context of its debunkment and disparagement, I thought about the electricity of slipping on those tights, zipping up those boots, and a stream of guilt followed. Maybe this professor was right, and maybe I was only a fetishist. Not trans, just a misguided boy.

About a year later, on the Internet, I come across a transwoman who added a unique message to the crowd refuting this professor. Oh, I wish I remember who this woman was, and I wish even more that I could do better than paraphrase her, but I remember her saying something like this: “Well, of course I feel sexy putting on women’s clothing and having a woman’s body. If you feel comfortable in your body for the first time, won’t that probably mean it’ll be the first time you feel comfortable, too, with delighting in your body as a sexual thing?”'

-Casey Plett, Consciousness

#this quote always moves me almost to tears when i remember it #i'm not a trans woman and i don't share the author's specific experiences with transition #but it really moves me that she frame transition as joyfully giving yourself permission to approach your body #not as something that has to be disciplined and deprived and made small in all these various ways #but as a means for experiencing pleasure and joy and delight and for insisting that our feelings and desires are worth #valuing and exploring and treasuring #i always used to think of prioritizing those things for myself as selfish and irresponsible #but who does it harm to want to experience pleasure in your own body?#it's such a beautifully simple and powerful switch to have flip in your head #and equally why are we forced to deny our own pleasure in transition and anything else related to our bodies in the name of moral rectitude #this is why i get so confused and pissed off when other trans people are fatphobic for example #like why are you so invested in politics of shame and disgust that never had any purpose other than #violently disciplining people as if they've violated moral codes by existing in a body #to say nothing of white people being racist in gay and trans communities #like again this system of violence is foundational to homophobia and transphobia #so why are you acting like it has nothing to do with you #even if you are unmoved by the urgency of other people's suffering which btw you should be moved by #what do you hope to gain by acting a collaborator and handmaiden to those systems #Casey Plett #she really is one of my favorite authors i wish more non-canadians read her #this quote is from a series of columns she did ont transition and every single one is a banger #i love when she talks about the people-pleasing elements of dysphoria and transition denial #she's so sharp about noting how many of us deny our own dysphoria on the grounds that others like and validate our bodies #that's how i always felt during my cis conventionally feminine era #it pleased other people so much and also that reception felt so hollow and joyless to me because i hated it #i get less of that positive feedback but that feels so unimportant next to the joy and pleasure i get to experience #said with the understanding that i'm very privileged in being able to prioritize those things without fear. but it was a switch flip #personal nonsense

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elizakai · 4 months

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Every time I draw or think about human Dust sans he has to be trans masc and I simply do not make the rules.

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modify-and-sever · 4 months

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are trans men really just "angrier because of the testosterone" or are you just saying and doing things to upset and anger trans men

#as someone on testosterone it absolutely does give you mood swings #and while anger isnt strictly a part of that experience for me (any moreso than i already was anyway)#im sure that some trans men / mascs out there do experience more anger than they did prior to HRT #and thats okay! its okay if thats your experience #but in my experience 99% of the “T makes you angry” crowd are either hostile non-masc trans and cis people who think that testosterone is #The Evil Chemical #and the other 1% are trans men / mascs who have been tricked by the 99% into hating themselves #so like.#before you start demonizing testosterone as a concept #please consider the implications of what youre actually saying #and not only that but WHY its your experience that people taking testosterone are more likely to be angry with you #transphobia #trans community #trans masculinity #transandrophobia

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astrangerthatlovesyou · 1 year

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An especially happy pride month to the trans people that aren’t transmasc, or transfem.

Happy pride month to the trans people that also aren’t transneutral

Happy pride month to people that aren’t cis or trans

Happy pride month to AMAB demiboys, neoboys, libramasculines, and helians

Happy pride month to AFAB demigirls, neogirls, librafeminines, and lunarians

Happy pride month to pomogender, quoigender, and gender apathetic people

Happy pride month to the trans AFABs that are still women and the trans AMABs that are still men

Happy pride month to agender and gendervoid people that don’t feel cis or trans, and to those that do

Happy pride month to trans people without dysphoria

Happy pride month to trans people who don’t want hormones or surgeries

Happy pride month to people who never wanted to change their names, pronouns, or otherwise socially transition

Happy pride month to everyone that wonders if they’re trans enough

Happy pride month to everyone that isn’t quite cis. You’re trans enough for the trans community, and if you don’t feel trans, we’re happy to have you here too.

I’m glad you’re here, I love you.

Happy pride month!

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vroomvroomwee · 10 months

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I think we can officially call Good Omens the show for the nonbinarys.

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uncanny-tranny · 1 year

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I totally get gendered petnames like dude, sis, bro, and whatever else, and I get why some people might be confused as to why some trans people might take issue with a petname you might think is neutral. However, I do want people to remember that trans people often have different relationships with those petnames because they're gendered, and they might be uncomfortable with those connotations. A trans woman who doesn't want you to call her "dude" is probably not doing it to anger or accuse you of anything, but she might just have a negative relationship with that word.

I get that it can be hard to change habits, but it is worth it to include trans people. If a trans person in your life asks you not to use certain words, I promise they aren't trying to fuck you over or make you feel like you're under attack. They are just expressing a boundary - one that cis people also express.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #the example i gave is again just one instance of what i'm talking about #i can get why it's hard like... i use 'bro' and shit like it's a filler word and it's a habit of mine #however it isn't anybody's fault that i'm like that and i'm more than willing to stop using it for somebody #because it's like... that word is just a word to me and that means i can abandon its use at any time #and if not using it means that somebody feels included then fuck yeah i'm going to not use it #i just hear people weirdly antagonizing trans people for setting these boundaries and it's like...#...have you MET a cis person because they do the same things as trans people (it's just seen as more acceptable ig)#it IS annoying that people want to have the same conversations again and again and again #because ngl i only made this post because of the antagonism these trans people face for... no reason???#they're literally going 'please don't call me [x]' and yet that is still too polarizing????????? HUH??????#you'd think that that trans person like... ran a car through a bank with how they're treated but no... they're just stating a preference #and it's crazy to me because it's EASY to not do... because it's a non-action. and if you fuck up all you have to do is apologize #the hardest thing to do would be to watch what you're saying a little more but that's like... not a big deal???????

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stargazing-enby · 2 years

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I love transitioning as an act of embracing my femininity. Being transmasc not as in butch but as in femme. Going on testosterone HRT so I can become my girliest self.

#Transmasc #Transition #trans positivity #Random thoughts that have been on my mind today #I don't expect cis people to understand but if you know you know #BTW this isn't about presentation for me #I like dressing masc and I don't care for jewelry and most forms of makeup #Or dresses and skirts for example #For me this is more about mannerisms and my way of moving and talking and laughing and expressing myself (verbally and non-verbally)

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genderkoolaid · 1 year

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i think "nonbinary" can be useful but a lot of times the way it is being used isn't helpful to actually discussing nonbinary people, especially since it is a HUGE umbrella term with very few boundaries. like there are nonbinary men & women, so positioning "nonbinary" as something intrinsically separate from man/woman isn't accurate. or there are times where it would be more useful to name the specific group (like multigender people, androgynes, abinary/aphorians) rather than a much vaguer term

in general the problem is that our language to describe nonbinary existence is basically some scraps held together with duct tape. there's sooo many ways in which nonbinary people are erased or binaried through language. not just through the lack of gender neutral options but the la of blatantly genderqueer ones.

i kinda feel like as of right now, nonbinary-ness is pretty slapdash & all over the place and it would be helpful to have a large-scale discussion on what terminology would be best for discussing things like exorsexism and it's various aspects, and how to talk about nonbinary people without homogenizing us, while ALSO acknowledging the need for umbrella terms that can cover a range of individual identities, even if people don't personally identify with the umbrella term itself. & on that note we should also probably discuss the issue of. like. perfectionism wrt nonbinary language & the way that potentially useful terms get lost bc of it. I don't think nonbinary people can really achieve meaningful equality and inclusion on the same level until we are able to have equally diverse and useful ways of describing ourselves, and a stronger understanding of how we relate to each other as a community.

#I've been chewing on this general topic for a while #bc I'm realizing that I don't like identifying as nonbinary specifically bc of how ppl often use that #to just mean ''gender neutral'' & often exclude androgyne multigenders by assuming nb can't be men/women #even trans theory so often just groups nonbinary people in with whoever feels the most relevant and is uninterested in exploring exorsexism #outsidr of it's connection to other issues #there's an assumption that nonbinary experiences can be more or less grouped in w binary ones without missing out on much #it's just frustrating. same w when people assume that all transitions end w people looking cis-passing #and ignore the difficulties that can come from things like non traditional bottom surgery!#there's next to no resources for salmacians and virtually none for agenital prople #which y'know. might be important for things like urinary/genital care #or sex work or anything #hell so many people have argued that exorsexism doesn't exist because all nonbinary oppression is ''just transphobia''#so many ppl are completely uninterested in looking at nonbinary people separate from binary ppl & binary experiences #m.

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justdavina · 1 month

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Such a wonderful outfit worn by a marvelous cis gender person.

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purpleartrowboat · 11 months

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i love you cis people who can still get a little weird with gender. i love you feminine cis men i love you masc cis women i love you he/him girls i love you she/her guys i love you guys who are also ladies i love you girls who are also men. cos people should be funky with gender and stuff more often

#zylo's posts #if they want to #of course.#feel free to share your favorite non gender conforming cis people #queer #lgbtq #cisgender #transgender #gender #queerness #gender nonconforming #gender nonconformity

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