#nonbinary girlhood

[blkmogai]

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✦ 　── 　 SAPPHEIR ( pronounced saff - air ): is a term for afro-american individuals who are AFAB, but do not identify as women outside of the context of being a black woman in america, largely due to how society perceives them.

✧ 　── 　 those who identify as sappheir do so specifically in reclamation of the “sapphire,” or “angry black woman” trope, which originated in america. sappheirs take pride in being ( perceived as ) black women, and embrace whatever biases that are held against them.

✧ 　── 　 this term is exclusive to afro-american ( as in, soulaan ) afab individuals who are under the transgender / nonbinary umbrella.

tagging: @idescription ( for image ids ). @vampitsm. @gender-goth.

#blkmogai #silver 𓂅 ✦﹕coined terms #stake 𓂅 ✦﹕flags #mod 𓂅 ✦﹕sylvie #sappheir #nonbinary #black exclusive #black queerness #nonbinary woman #nonbinary womanhood #nonbinary girl #nonbinary girlhood #black nonbinary #black enby #nonbinary fem #nonbinary femme #fingender #ningender #non-binary #mogai gender #liom gender #xenogender #neogender #mogai flag #liom flag #mogai safe #aemogai #transgender #black transgender #mogai

[thehealingsystem]

It's so wild to me that as a community we're still so hostile to multigender and genderfluid people existing in gay and lesbian spaces.

You...are aware that people who are both men and women are allowed to be gay, right? And lesbian? Their other genders doesn't cancel their connection to womanhood, or manhood, or whatever else they id with. They are allowed to be gay despite their fem-alignment, and they are allowed to be lesbian despite their masc-alignment.

It comes from these weird online spaces that the standard to be gay or lesbian is to be a "non-woman" or a "non-man," which is inherently transmultiphobic and...extremely ahistorical. And completely misunderstands nonbinary identity. So if you're both then you just don't belong anywhere I suppose.

#they treat these people as abnormal when really shoving anyone into categories of non-women and non-men is fucking #completely out of touch with how identity works #like i saw a demiboy lesbian flag and the comments are just FILLED with teenage queers getting so mad for no reason #saying shit like im in your walls or your father left you or whatever #please this is so CHILDISH grow UP #multigender #genderfluid #gay #lesbian #lesboy #turigirl #queer #lgbtq #just a he/they transmasc nonbinary boydyke lesbian VERY tired of this nonsense #actually erasure of multigender experience and that one of our genders will cancel out the other #made me very resistant to the fact that i may still be connected to feminity and girlhood #even though i am undoubtedly am #transmultiphobia

[silly-centipede]

There seems to be a wave of appreciating girlhood and traditional femininity and while this is great we have to remember that there is space “masculine” traits in girlhood and femininity and there is room for men in girlhood (nonbinary people, some transmascs, Multigender people, gender-fluid people, two spirit people etc) and femininity

#trans pride #transmasc #trans #transfem #femininity #gender noncomformity #genderqueer #genderfuck #genderfluid #bigender #trigender #pangender #multigender #nonbinary #girlhood #masculinity #two spirit

[fireflylove]

a pink disaster

#girlhood #aesthetic #girly tumblr #girly aesthetic #pinkcore #pink #that girl #it girl #girlblogging #tumblr girls #nonbinary #nonhuman #creepy cute #scary cute #cute scary #spooky

[cult-of-the-eye]

Periods feel inherently wrong because I'm bleeding and people bleed when they're hurt but I'm not hurt but it does hurt yes, but not the kind that should go with this sort of hurt. I feel eldritch with my fractal pain and I'd take eldritch over girl any day

#periods #nonbinary #eldritch #girlhood is monstrous #dysphoria #rambles

[constantlymisgendered]

I LOVE MINGA LONDON ･°.*☆･ﾟ.*☆

#Minga London fashion #grunge fashion #nonbinary fashion #trans fashion #fashion #grunge #just girly posts #coquette #it girl #girlblogger #lana del rey #cinnamon girl #girlblogging #lizzy grant #girlhood #angelic #bambi doe #gaslight gatekeep girlboss #female rage #female manipulator

[iammissingautumn]

i love you lesbians questioning their gender identity. I love you sapphics who encourage their partners to test new pronouns. I love you wlw and sometimes the journey to and beyond “girls” kissing “girls”. I love you those who can not disconnect their experience of femininity and loving women from their identity. even if it means often times it’s hard to understand yourself or hard for others to understand you. i love you.

#mod caden #lesbians #sapphic #wlw #transgender #nonbinary #gender questioning #i love my community oops #and etc #i have a very intimate relationship with my girlhood #and while i know it will evolve i know they are other flowers just as beautiful #much to say there are some beautiful vast spaces that frankly are not mine even though i’m a frequent lover and kisser of ppl dealing with #this #flower as in we have very unique but beautiful dynamics that aren’t always easy and aren’t always tough. love and hate and expression. #there’s afab aro 🤝 wlw girlhood solidarity

[petrichor-moss-and-lightning]

if i could do girlhood again, i’d ask to be utterly terrifying.

not terrifying as in unkind, but terrifying as in stop cruelty at the source.

terrifying as in more teeth and less hand-stitched closed mouths —

more rage [and not just the quiet, simmering kind];

rage like the ocean boiling itself to steam,

rage like the sun falling clean out of the sky.

if i could do girlhood again,

i would unlower my eyes.

i would bite the hand that feeds me.

after Sally Wen Mao, “Drop Kick Aria”, in Mad Honey Symposium.

#girlhood #poets of tumblr #poetry #poem #intersectional feminism #feminism #feminine rage #girl almighty #king by florence and the machines energy #words words words #prose #poetic prose #words n quotes #poems and quotes #writerscommunity #writersofinstagram #female writers #nonbinary writer #my words

[claradwor]

Gender moods at the uni

#nonbinary #transmasc #im happy that trans girls find joy in girlhood/womanhood that i cannot #but id like a refund on the gender i was given #gender #gender mood

[tinkeronii]

I’ve seen a lot of discourse about Dylan mulvaneys song, cis women mad cause it’s “offensive” but will blast California girls and Kesha’s old songs and they’ll defend them saying something like “those are about partying not girlhood” or shit like that.

I’ll admit when I first heard the song, I was a bit taken aback, I thought the same thing, ‘how dare she reduce girlhood/womanhood to taking pills and retail therapy’. And I was convinced that I had an issue with it because of the lyrics, but I thought about it more and I had problem with it because it was a transwoman.

I grew up in a pretty conservative household, I held the same beliefs as my homophobic family members and I was hateful. I’ve grown a lot over the years and discovered I hated those things because they were things about myself that I hated.

I’m bi and non-binary and tbh I still have issues with that, I still wish I was straight and ok with being afab, I wish I was “normal”. But I am.

I still have so much internalized misogyny and transphobia in me and I didn’t realize it till I heard Dylan’s song. If it was anyone else singing I, and others, would’ve ate it up.

The songs not an anthem for girls/women. It’s a song for Dylan and HER days of girlhood, not mine, not yours, hers and others like her.

There is always room for growth. Even if you’ve grown A LOT there is still room for more. It’s okay to admit that you may still have some hate in your heart, I do and I’m working on it. I love Dylan, the songs not my fav, but I fully support her and her journey. And I support anyone who is still trying to grow and unlearn all the dumb shit you may have grown up with to better yourself and love your fellow humans.

#dylan mulvaney #days of girlhood #trans rights #nonbinary #I really hope I conveyed my point clearly

[torturedpoetemotions]

A young person in a white sweater and olive green pants sits in a room with lots of posters and pictures on the wall, holding an acoustic guitar. A caption in pink letters says: "I wrote a song about watching the Barbie movie and having a menty B about not relating to womanhood in a gender sense but relating to girlhood and that community in regards to upbringing."

They strum a melancholy tune and sing in a soft voice:

"Used to pretend I could take off my chest, on and off, on and off like velcro. My own kind of joyride: a shirt from the boy's side and a flannel rolled up past my elbow. Teenagehood provoked me and soon, womanhood choked me, but sisterhood held me with care. The strictness confused me and like in the movies I suppressed what I could pretend wasn't there. I guess I was trying to unravel the world. I didn't grow into a woman, but I grew up as a girl."

#hi for the love of god hello #this song rewired my brain #you PUT the THING into WORDS #we need an archive of all the incredible queer music happening on tiktok tbh #gender #transition #nonbinary #girlhood

[fromtheseventhhell]

The nonbinary!arya takes with Arya’s “i’m not a lady” quote makes no sense to me. I honestly don’t mind a single hc about any of the starklings’ sexuality or gender identity- but then the way Arya’s feminity is constantly brought into question irks me. I mean, the “i’m a girl” everytime Arya’s mistaken for a boy is Right. There. So there you go, Arya’s peak feminine icon because she firmly states, explicitly even, that she is, in fact, a girl at every opportunity. Bye

See my issue with takes like this will always be that this fandom is obsessed with removing Arya from her girlhood. So while I don't see anything inherently wrong with having the headcanon, most of the time it's coming from the perspective that her being a non-conforming girl in a strict patriarchal society makes her less of a girl. People think they're being progressive and "open" by having this opinion but, like you said, Arya is firmly rooted in her identity as a girl and corrects people on multiple occasions. Like...okay? You think a character constantly masculinized and belittled by fandom for not being a conforming female character is non-binary, congratulations? Meanwhile, female characters who actually toe the line with gender aren't getting the same treatment cause they're either considered too "feminine" or they're associated romantically with a man. It's just so forced, and I'm tired of non-conforming female characters being treated like they're lesser women.

#ask #anon #arya stark #asoiaf #fandom nonsense #I already made a post about this but the only headcanon that really works for Arya is trans-femme for very obvious reasons #that post that's like /this is the most butch girl twitter can handle before they get scared/ but it's people being unable to handle a #non-conforming 9-year-old girl without trying to remove her form her girlhood and the specific misogyny she faces #no hate to people who just genuinely like the idea but again it can't be separated from people who just hate acknowledging Arya being a gir #like Arya is 9. She is fucking 9 and grown ass people are taking about how she isn't a real girl because she doesn't want to conform #and I just think that's...fucked up 🤷🏾‍♀️ #cause if I said a feminine woman was nonbinary cause their femininity is largely a societal performance I'd get called a misogynist #but Arya is non-conforming which basically makes her a man according to a big part of this fandom so

[kneel-gayman]

they make me feel a certain type of way

#crowley #good omens 2 #good omens #good omens series 2 #baby girls #lazlo wwdits #blackbeard #taika waititi #our flag meets death #what we do in the shadows #girlhood #nonbinary #sweet cheese #good time boy #aziracrow #go2 #good omens spoilers #neil gaiman #david tennant #matt berry #i wish i were them but in the way that the characters experience gender and relationships #our flag means death

[genderqueerdykes]

I’m transmasc and nonbinary, but I’m a girl in the sense that like, I’m a girls girl. I’m a girl as in ‘girl who is a he’. Idk I just feel connected to femininity in that way.

that 100% rules and i hope you keep it up. i'm very much a man only in the sense that i'm a woman who's a man. beinga man in a distinctly genderless genderqueer way. i get u. keep up the good work!

#asks #answers #my gender is #transmasc #nonbinary #femininity #girl #girlhood

[v333spertine]

for xara

- but do you remember me?

you write & i write back, saying

- of course, my love. 

  for if i was you, i would not remember:

  i have never known myself, thus i have never 

  had anything to forget

- but oh, i am not you anymore.

//

you don’t write back.

but then again,

that is the nature of time.

#poetry #dark academia #dakota warren #poems #chaotic academia #obsession #coquette #ethel cain #girlhood #rot #trans #queer #trans love #transisbeautiful #trans masc #xe/xem #trans past self #deadname #nonbinary #horror #horror poetry #trans poetry #self love #andrew joseph white

[punk-rawk-pkmn]

why is 17 the worst age ever.

#being a boy but also a teen girl.. bc teen girl is an experience not a gender 😞 #←tmasc nonbinary ramblings on complicated feelings about gender and girlhood