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achilleanfemme · 1 year

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What is an Achillean Femme?

I am a queer person, I have been for as long as I can remember. As a young boychild, I was very feminine. I loved pretending to be Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz (very on-the-nose) and lip-syncing to Britney Spears songs with my sister. As an adolescent, I came to describe myself as gay, and through YouTube and Tumblr, came to better understand my gayness. Around 18, I began identifying as non-binary. Now at age 26, I have coined (as far as I can tell) a new term for my queerness that descibes both my sexuality and my gender identity: achillean femme.

The LGBTQIA+ wiki page for achillean says that “achillean refers to a man or man-aligned individual who is attracted to other men and man-aligned people''. The same wiki’s page on the term femme says that “femme.. often refers to a person of queer gender expression [or identity] that embraces, reclaims, or subverts their culture's understanding of what it means to be feminine.” I think that the term is pretty self-explanatory once you understand the terms that comprise it. An achillean femme is an achillean person, meaning a man or someone who identifies within the realm of manhood, who is a femme or describes themselves as feminine.

I love the term achillean because it makes sense to folks who have been apart of the gay male or man-loving-man community and spaces for any amount of time. Achilleans who are 60, 70, 80 years old know “gay men” who are feminine and flamboyant who barely align with any societal definition of manhood yet are lumped in as gay men. They also known bisexual men in the community who have called themselves gay for decades, eventhough they’ve always been attracted to, and been with, folks of other genders. Millenial and Gen Z achilleans are more and more describing themselves as non-binary and not aligning themselves with the terms “gay man” or “gay male” because they do not see themselves as cisgender men, even as they still identify within the realm of gay manhood. I believe that many of these folks would feel much more comfortable using a term like achillean that allows them linguistic space within the MLM community without confining them to strict identification as monosexual and/or cisgender men.

The term femme has taken me longer to come around to using. I love the term femme, but trans-exclusionary discourse in online feminist spaces for a long time gatekept me out of using the term to describe myself. I feared that cis lesbians and cis sapphic women would dogpile on me online and try and dox me for being a person assigned male at birth who describes themselves as a femme. It has lesbians and sapphics on twitter and tumblr, many of whom are non-binary and trans themselves, who helped me overcome this fear and embrace my femmeness. No two femmes are the same, there are as many experiences of femininity as there are feminine people, but what unites us is a common understanding of our devaluation under patriarchy and the experience of empowerment that we feel when we live authentically into our feminine inner-light. My femmeness is energetic, funny, and contagious. When I am being my femme, fairy self, people enjoy being around me. Living out my authentic feminine soul, allows others to do the same. That makes me happy.

So who are achillean femmes? Achillean femmes are fat non-binary bearded ladies like myself. Achillean femmes are magical fairy gays who strut into a gay club in a jock strap, butterfly wings, platform heals, and a tiara. Achillean femmes are drag queens of many stripes. Achillean femmes are the queeny old gays at brunch in a kaftan, sharing gossip, drinking mimosas. Achillean femmes are the trans fags who are often excluded from predominantly cis gay male settings and continue to fuck with gender anyways. Achillean femmes are anyone and everyone who feels at home in a gay club and a tea party. Achillean femmes are cis men, trans men, non-binary AMAB and AFAB people, intersex folks, and genderqueers. If you love your femininity, however you define it, and you love guys, dudes, bros, lumberjacks, bears, muscle daddies, hunks, and twinks then you are probably an achillean femme. If you are none of these things but the term feels right to you then join me, let’s be fags together! Let’s be achillean femmes!

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Flag Design: Flag uses the achillean flag design (created by Trumblr user pridenpositivity in 2016) as a base and then pulls colors from the femme flag design (created in 2017 and posted by the noodle tumblr blog). The final design is mine and was created and posted by tumblr user achilleanfemme on December 12, 2022.

#achillean #femme #achillean femme #queer #gay #gay male #gay pride #queer pride #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbt pride #lgbtq pride #lgbt flags #gay flag #pride flag

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genderqueerdykes · 20 hours

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a long time ago, my roommates had an argument over whether or not hamburgers are sandwiches. this actually got heated to the point of one of the guys having to get upset and walk away because he was convinced that hamburgers are not sandwich, but instead their own classification of food.

people will pick any hill to die on- we as a species cannot 100% all agree on the definition of anything. that's why we can't agree on the definition of gay, queer, lesbian, trans, bi, pan, aromantic, asexual, etc. because we as a species just can't do that. we all have a unique perspective on what concepts are and what they mean.

if we can't agree on whether or not a hamburger is a sandwich or not, i think it's best if we learn to agree to disagree on what the "true" meaning of gay, lesbian, trans, queer, etc. are and just let people live their version of that identity in peace. at the end of the day it literally doesn't matter if you don't know if a hamburger is a sandwich or just a hamburger- you're still going to eat it and gain nutrients from it.

a trans person having a different definition of trans than you, or a lesbian defining lesbianism differently than what they've been told, or any other type of queer person defining their identity in their own way isn't a threat to you- at the end of the day, it doesn't stop them from being trans, a lesbian, queer, or whatever. disagreeing on the definition won't stop it from happening; it's just petty. not every hill is meant for someone to die on. let go

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transfagfemme · 1 month

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dyke and butch/femme identities are fully inclusive of bisexuals if ur not a gatekeeping, baby radfem, lesbian separatist COWARD!

#to me they are both overwhelmingly connected to my Bisexuality + Achilleanism + Manhood. JUMPSCARE!!!#if ur against bi dykes and bi butchfemmes ur biphobic idk #bisexual butchfemme #bi butchfemme #bisexual butch #bi butch #bi femme #bisexual femme #bisexual dyke #🐈#bi dyke

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pokemonprideflags · 3 months

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all the pride flags i can possibly color picked from terapagos and it's forms [part 6]

butch

femme

twink

bear

sapphic (wlw/nblw)

achillean (mlm/nblm)

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bigayasuka · 7 months

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Femme achillean || futch achillean || butch achillean

#∗ ࣪ ˖༺ flagz ༻˖ ࣪ ∗#mogai #femme achillean #futch achillean #butch achillean #gaybian #femme #futch #butch #achillean #gay #mlm #wlw #dyke #lgbtq

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caeliangel · 7 months

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IMAGE IDS. 3 rectangular flags with 7 stripes. The first row all have the bear symbol. The first flags stripes are, in order: magenta, dark purple, purple, light purple, light green, turquoise, dark blue. The second flags stripes are, in order: magenta, dark magenta, pink, light pink, pastel yellow, turquoise, dark turquoise. The last flags stripes are, in order: fushia pink, dark red, orange, light orange, greenish pastel yellow, turquoise, dark green. END OF IDS.

୨୧ • femme, futch, butch bear bigay

︵︵︵︵︵︵★ ꒱ explanations :

୨୧ • a flag for bearfemmes, bearfutches, bearbutches who are also bigays!

︵︵︵︵︵︵★ ꒱ meanings :

୨୧ • no individual stripes meanings.

PT. femme, futch, butch bear bigay. explanations. a flag for bearfemmes, bearfutches, bearbutches who are also bigays. meanings. no individual stripes meanings. END OF PT.

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moonlightsapphic · 2 years

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A queer transmasc friend of mine once said “I always thought my obsession with mlm was weird until I realised I AM mlm myself.” As a non-binary sapphic person whose introduction to LGBTQ+ media was through achillean relationships, I felt that SO HARD.

Back when I identified as just a (really enthusiastic :D) ally, I also avoided sapphic media like the PLAGUE. It just gave me an uncomfortable, forboding feeling, and I now realise that’s because I was subconsciously aware I would end up being able to relate to wlw. On the other hand, I adored all other LGBTQ+ media, but especially mlm. Achillean characters gave me an opportunity to mildly project myself onto their queer experiences (and queer happiness!) while also keeping a safe distance, and by the time I had come to terms with my bisexuality, I was also realising my gender identity is more fluid than I grew up believing.

The way mlm is often portrayed through a fetishizing cis-heterosexual female gaze in media is not okay. But, perhaps besides supporting real mlm, the rare unproblematic gems have also given a lot of queer women and queer femme-aligned enby folks an opportunity to gently find ourselves without overwhelm.

Please reblog with well-done, non-problematic achillean shows and movies that need more support! I’ll start:

Heartstopper (Alice Oseman, 2022 show)

Sasaki to Miyano-san (Harusono Sho, 2022 anime)

Red, White and Royal Blue by Casey Mcquiston (show in the works!)

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bisexual-cat · 1 year

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☆ FEMME 4 FEMME ACHILLEAN FLAG ☆

This flag is for femmes that r queer for men who primarily (exclusively or not) date / are attracted to other femme achilleans!!! This can also be used as a twink4twink, fem4fem, or gnc4gnc achillean flag, but it was made specifically with the femme identity in mind!

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#my flags #femme #mlm #achillean #mogai #mogai term #nblm #qlw #femme4femme #femme mlm #twink4twink #mogai flag #liom

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moontheyo · 1 year

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mangedog · 1 year

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if you want, put in the tags where you're from so i can see if theres a dialect/regional difference!

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flag-mashups · 1 year

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Queer + Gay + Bi + Roseboy + Boything + Femme Man =

(Please read pinned post before interacting! <3)

Queer - Someone who is not straight.

Gay - Someone who experiences queer attraction towards masc-aligned people.

Bi - Someone who is attracted to two or more genders.

Roseboy - A soft feminine masc-aligned person.

Boything - A gender related to being both a boy and a thing.

Femme Man - A man who behaves or presents more feminine.

#queer #gay #vincian #bi #biromantic #bisexual #roseboy #boything #femme man #nonbinary #enby #NB #trans #achillean #mlm #mlnb #nblnb #mspec #multiromantic #multisexual #flag combo #flag mashup

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achilleanfemme · 1 year

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A Prayer at the Start of Advent

Heavenly Sovereign,

Mother of Peace,

My heart aches and my heart yearns on this first day of Advent 2022.

Aching and yearning are two tremendously Adventen emotions. At the time of Jesus’ birth, Mary and Joseph, Palestinian Jews living under brutal Roman occupation, yearned for safety as they prepared to bring the Son of God into the world. Mary and Joseph ached because they knew that the time and place that they were bringing their new child into was not one of harmony, but one of violence and suffering. Yet they fled and fought, and with God’s help, baby Jesus was born. A new star in the midnight sky, a new dawn coming forth from an evil age setting on the horizon. The story of Christ’s coming is a story of hope in the face of immense grief.

Just one week after the shooting at Club Q in Colorado Springs, it feels like we have entered into a new battlefield with the MAGA Right in the USA, and trans and queer lives are on the frontlines.

I am afraid, Dear God.

How is one expected to carry the weight of the fear of never feeling safe in public? How does one march onward when it feels like the future is narrowing and your existence is not a part of that future? How does one put on the armor of light in the midst of such immense darkness? I want to know, Beloved Creator.

Please give me a sign.

Jesus, King of Glory everlasting, please give me the gift of wisdom in the days ahead. I sense the vipers slithering just out of sight, gathering strength. I hear the past talking through me in my day-to-day interactions with people and I don’t like what it is saying:

“Give up. Retreat. Hide. Run. Lash out. Don’t trust. Don’t love.”

If these words can cut like knives then please help me beat these blades into plowshares. Free me from the ghouls that haunt my innermost thoughts. Aid me in moving towards your pearly gates of love and liberation.

God of Mercy, I know that salvation is nearer now than it was when I became a believer. Grant me the courage to truly see the manger, to see the palm branches, to see the cross, and to see the empty tomb as symbols of what they are: a promise of ultimate mercy and unending love. I want to see Christ’s example of forgiveness and make it my own. Help me to let go of old wounds. Help me to want the best for the people that I despise the most for if they are living a prosperous, joyful life then that means that I am probably much better off too. I cannot see the path to this destination God, ask your Holy Spirit to light it for me. I do not want to hold on to hate, for if I did, I know the weight would break me.

Lead me on, Father, lead me on.

It’s easy to see the growing darkness of the days in Advent as a sign of Death and Darkness. Help me to instead hear dusk as a call to rest, to renew. Just as you made the Sabbath, Lord, let this Advent be for me, a season of slowness, gentleness, and love.

Help me also to keep awake, for Christmas is coming, and I can hear murmurings of the Chorus of Heavenly Hosts in the distance, singing, “Emmanuel, Prince of Peace, Wager of Love, has come and He will never leave again. Alleluia! Alleluia!”

Amen

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transfagfemme · 6 months

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I made these butch & femme double mars heart symbols !!! For all the butch / femme fags & boylikers out there !!! :3 free to use (no credit necessary)

#hopefully I can make more things like this bcuz I feel like we need more butch & femme flag graphics #+ also butch & femme achillean stuff #my graphics #graphics #butchfemme #achillean #mlm #butch #femme #qlm #double mars symbol #double mars #🐈

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pridebicons · 11 months

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femme4femme achillean bow pride icons

requested by @autisticichihime

like/rb if using + credit

#my icons #pride icons #she ra and the princesses of power #spop #spop pride icons #she ra #bow she ra #bow spop #femme #achillean

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parxgender · 1 year

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Femme Flags

Lesbian (Emily Gwen) / Lesbian (Labrys) / Gay Bisexual / Trans / Nonbinary Agender / Bigender / Genderfluid Sapphic / Achillean / Nonbinary Bisexual

Inspired by @intersexshez's femme flag!

#flags #my flags #femme #lesbian #gay #bisexual #trans #nonbinary #agender #bigender #genderfluid #sapphic #achillean #nonbinary bisexual

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caeliangel · 5 months

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IMAGE ID. 3 rectangular flags with 8 stripes. The first flags stripes are, in order: hotpink, dark pink, less dark pink, light pink, light greyish purple, dull purple, dark dull violet, blue. The second flags stripes are, in order: magenta, dark magenta, lighter dull magenta, light purplish magenta, light grey, blueish grey, indigo, blue. The last flags stripes are, in order: purple, dark purple, violet, light violet, pastel green, green, dark greenish turquoise, blue. END OF ID.

୨୧ • femme, futch, butch bi mlm

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flags for femmes, futches and butches bi mlm!

PT. femme, futch, butch bi mlm. explanations. flags for femmes, futches and butches bi mlm! END OF PT.

#femme bi mlm #futch bi mlm #butch bi mlm #bi mlm #bi achillean #mlm #achillean #gay #mogai #liom #radinclu #mogai flags #radinclu flags #🩸︰︵︵ gift for the beloveds #⚰️︰︵︵ rise the flag

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