#fuck heteronormativity

[cookieandbread]

the only thing I knew about mlp (apart from the whole traumatizing a whole generation thing) before the whole infection au thing started to trend on tiktok was that some guy once said that AJ and Rainbow Dash can't be shipped together because they're both masc therefore they need to be shipped with more feminine characters (such as Rarity or Fluttershy) and ever since then I have shipped appledash despite knowing next to nothing about them

#I ship appledash out of spite #fuck heteronormativity #but now that im older and wiser I realized something even better #the mane six are in a polycule #mlp g4 #applejack #rainbow dash #rarity #fluttershy #twilight sparkle #pinkie pie #mane six #appledash #flutterdash #rarijack #multishipping

[morgannotlefay]

You know what, fuck it---who wants to join my aspec pirate ship where we do nothing but platonically flirt w/each other bc it’s fun and wear really cool boots and eat lots and lots of garlic bread bc why the fuck not 

(Y'all can add whatever you want to this, drink up me hearties yo ho!)

#pirates #piratecore #lgbtq #aspec #asexual #aro #ace #aroace #aromanitc #qpr #fuck heteronormativity #I wanna be a pirate #garlic bread

[izzymeadows]

It's very telling that if we changed Will's gender, everybody and their mother would be sure by now that byler is endgame and yes, the Duffers and the actors would still not say it outside the show, but nobody in any part of the audience would be denying they like each other. In fact, probably everybody would have assumed that the reason why Mike is the one in the party who's most worried about Will and determined to get her back, to the point he's consistently compared to Will's mother in that sense, is because he's in love with her. But he's a boy, so nothing can mean Mike loves him.

But to me, it's way more telling the fact that if we changed El's gender, literally nobody would have ever thought they could be boyfriends judging by s1, because the only reason for people to interpret their interactions as romantic is that they're a boy and a girl. And lots of the people who ship them would think their first kiss in s1 was forced as all hell. Which it was. But she's a girl so everything has to mean Mike loves her.

#byler #anti mileven #in fact if Will and El were both boys- it would be assumed that the show would introduce three girls for them and Mike to date #fuck heteronormativity

[intersectionalpraxis]

Financial abuse can happen to any of us -getting married to men who either want us to be stay at home mom's/partner's to them and don't want us 'to work/maintain work skills/gain new skills' because they are is a huge red flag... it's sincerely such a slippery slope, and I partly blame the Trad Wives romanticizing being a SAHM/someone who stays at home to 'take care of their man,' online because your entire identity shouldn't revolve around this and being a parent is A LOT of work. And I'm not saying marriage or being a parent is bad -but getting married without a prenup and having children without having security outside of your husband's work can be dangerous and lead to abusive situations (and I mean this in no way to shame anyone who ends up in a situation like hers -but please, listen to women's stories and stories like hers before even considering marriage and having kids because there are so horrifying and heartbreaking one's out there and it's something I do believe we need to be aware of). Because it's all men until it's no men in so many instances.

The amount of unequal gendered divisions of labour going on here as well, on top of her unpaid work in the home -and in CREATING their home... I just, I hope the best for this woman and her kids and every woman like her. And sincerely, fuck heteropatriarchal norms.

The original video is about 6 minutes long, but if you have time to tune in to listen to her story, it doesn't feel long. Some of the things she mentioned that caught my attention was that her ex-husband would give her envelopes of CASH to go grocery shopping, she had no banking account, and he has since only paid alimony ONCE since their divorce, and when she did actually go to a job interview -the man LAUGHED at her not not having any 'real experience' and belittled her for being a SAHM. In the video she says she didn't how ill will towards him but how utterly humiliating to be treated like this. I hope her ex-husband befalls so much misery.

#feminist #social justice #feminism #stay at home mom #sahm #trad wives #fuck the patriarchy #unequal gendered divisions of labour #womens work never ends #sexism #internalized misogyny #misogyny #financial abuse #heteronormativity #fuck heteronormativity #marriage #divorce #relationship #partner abuse

[so-idialed-9]

I am NEVER getting over that not only did H help a guy come out by raising the pride flag and saying, you're gay my boy, but also:

Mateo had multi colored painted nails just like Harry's - how much Harry's journey must have meant to him, from scared kid afraid of putting polish on to owning and modeling his own polish and beauty line and proudly waving the rainbow flag constantly

Harry said, when this flag goes over the head you're officially GAY. Not out, GAY.

Look at Mitch's little laugh when he says that.

Source: @hlkings x

He dressed as a modern Freddie Mercury after doing the iconic Freddie pose the day before and honoring his call and response at Wembley

After the usual pride flag dancing and coming out, towards the end of his set -

H finished LOML, picked up ANOTHER pride flag, raised it, draped it over himself, KISSED it... and walked off stage for the break.

Harry has come out ten thousand times. Anyone ignoring that is willfully participating in closeting not just him - but every LGBTQ person by assuming people are straight.

#harry's coming out #pride flags #walk in your rainbow paradise #hslot wembley 2 #love on tour #6.19.22 #2022 #queer harry styles #coded clothing #freddie mercury #fuck homophobia #fuck heteronormativity #harry styles #lgbtq

[love-byers]

the effect heteronormativity has on how watchers view byler keeps me up at night so i wrote out their story but took out names & instead used "boy" and "girl" 

read this and tell me it's not romantic:

boy asks girl to be friends on the first day of kindergarten.

boy has girls artwork all over his walls. boy has a binder full of girls drawings.

girl goes missing in 7th grade and boy does everything in his power to find her.

when girl is found and is recovering in the hospital boy is the only one not sleeping while waiting for her to wake up and when she does wake up he runs to her room and lays his head on her chest.

a year later when girl is struggling with ptsd, boy is always there for her. when she leaves school early to go to the doctor, he stares longingly and sadly at her empty desk. he notices when she's quiet, even though she's always quiet. when she has a flashback on halloween he puts an arm around her and takes her back to his house safely and talks about what she's going through. when she's going through something extremely scary he sleeps on her floor so she won't have to be alone. when she goes back to the hospital, boy sleeps in a chair next to her bed. when girl is possessed and loses her memory, she only remembers her mom and boy. later on, boy starts crying and says asking her to be his friend on the first day of kindergarten is the best thing he's ever done.

when boy gets a girlfriend, girl and boy start having problems for the first time in their relationship. after 6 months, boy and girl get in a fight over boy ruining their friend group by spending all of his time with his girlfriend, and girl leaves his house. boy bikes across town in the rain to her house and bangs on her door screaming apologies and begging her to come out so they can talk.

when girl is packing to move away, she assures boy she won't move on from him and their friend group and he reacts like this:

then boy's girlfriend, who is moving away with girl's family too, says she loves him and kisses him and he reacts like this:

when boy is leaving girls house after she's gone, he looks back at her house sadly and bikes away. he goes home to his mom and this happens:

6 months later when boy goes to visit his girlfriend and girl across the country, boy is awkward to girl and won't hug her, even though it had never been weird for them to hug before. he just pats her on the shoulder.

boy, girl, and boy's girlfriend go to a roller rink where girl feels ignored and like a third wheel. boy's girlfriend gets publicly bullied and runs away. while boy and girl are looking for her boy gets angry at girl for moping, not talking, and rolling her eyes because she "sabotaged the whole day", even though it seemed like he was ignoring her.

their argument goes like this:

girl: well what about us?

boy: *stops walking and turns around* what?

girl: you're mad that i didn't talk to you? you've made it clear you're not interested in anything i have to say

boy: that's just not true.

girl: you called maybe a couple of times, it's been a year. meanwhile [girlfriend] has a book of letters from you.

boy: that's because she's my girlfriend!

girl: and us?

boy: we're friends! we're. friends.

girl: well we used to be best friends!

boy: ...well maybe you should've reached out more, i don't know, but why is this on me? why am i the bad guy?

later on, boy comes in girls room and thanks her for knocking some sense into him because he was being a total self pitying idiot. when he starts to talk about the last few days, girl says she deserved it and boy assures her she didn't deserve anything he did to her. boy says their friends back home are great, but it's not the same without girl. and maybe he was worrying too much about his girlfriend and lost girl. boy says he wants them to go back to being best friends.

also during this trip, boy's girlfriend gets upset with him because he's never said "i love you" to her. he signed all of his letters with "from, boy", and he still doesn't say it even when she's crying and practically begging him to.

boy talks to girl about how he's afraid his girlfriend doesn't need him anymore and feels inferior to her.

girl gives boy a painting she made for him and confesses her love for him, but uses his girlfriends name to cover it up, so boy thinks this is actually his girlfriend's feelings. she says she's afraid of losing him and will always need him, and that he is the heart of their group and everything would fall apart without him.

after this, boy is able to say "i love you" to his girlfriend, but they are distant after it and his girlfriend doesn't talk to him much.

#hmm..... #fuck heteronormativity #byler #will byers #mikewheeler #byler endgame #byler analysis #stranger things #they would be THE stranger things ship #the couple everyone has been dying to see get together since s1 #the slowburn of the century #they would be pam and jim level #i will die on this hil

[ladygoodomens]

#good omens #good omens 2 #david tennant #lgbt #David has is own gender now #fuck gender #fuck heteronormativity

[audhd-nightwing]

when i say i hate the “mom steve” stuff and the overfeminization of male characters in caretaker roles i NEVER mean he/she or transfem steve, she means the world to me

i only ever mean transmasc or cis steve that’s mlm and forced into a heteronormative stereotype because he takes care of the kids / is made the ‘mom’ while eddie is the ‘dad’

like it’s just annoying how with mlm ships ppl still find ways to make it heteronormative. with steddie, they can both be the ‘dad’ !! there doesn’t need to be a ‘mom’ !!! fuck off!

idk some of this might be me projecting abt not being seen as masculine as a trans guy or just leftover trauma from the haikyuu fandom who knows

#stranger things #steve harrington #mom steve #mlm ships #steddie #fuck heteronormativity #he/she pronouns #transfem steve harrington #ily #and also #transmasc steve harrington #gay #genderqueer #eddie munson

[onbearfeet]

Incoming Sewing Rant

I'm sewing my own bridesmaid dress for an October wedding, and I had the whole thing laid out in my head: princess seams, A-line skirt, made of navy satin or sateen if I could get away with less shine. I even made a test run of the dress in black sateen as a Winter Soldier ballgown cosplay for SDCC and torture-tested it for a whole con day. Here's how it looked at the end of that day.

Still good, right? Solid design, suits me well. I was also going to make something for the other bridesmaid bc she's 6 feet tall, built like Barbie, and ironically has trouble finding things that fit. This dress would look great on her, too, as would a dozen other ideas I had. I THOUGHT I was going to make us both look GOOD as bridesmaids for ONCE in my life. (I have been in so very many weddings and have another one next year, and every single time I've been stuffed into something that was the wrong size amd/or a hideous color and/or three inches too long and NOT ALLOWED TO ALTER IT. My last bridesmaid dress was so loathsome I got rid of it within 12 hours of taking it off, not least because it made me look like I was a Doric column made of chewed-up bubblegum.)

But then Other Bridesmaid went and found what amounts to a fluttery chiffon sack that will look amazing on her because anything does if she can get it on at all.

And now, if I want to look even vaguely like I belong in this wedding party, I have to make something chiffon, and guess what? Every dress design in chiffon, when applied to my actual body (long torso, defined hourglass shape, pudgy), becomes one of three looks:

-Pregnant

-Wearing a Sack For Some Reason

-SIDEBOOB and also Pregnant or Wearing a Sack, Possibly With a Belt

I really should know better by now than to expect to be able to look good or be comfortable in bridesmaid gear, but the prospect of making it myself fooled me. Now I'm just gonna look like shit but with more labor involved, either because I'm making a shitty dress or because I'm scouring the internet for a shitty dress that comes in my size.

All of this would be relatively tolerable if I weren't surrounded by non-sewists who know nothing about fabrics or design but INSIST a chiffon sack (with or without sideboob or faux pregnancy) is going to look just as good as the fucking hand-tailored ballgown (with POCKETS) I was getting compliments on from strangers on the con floor. No, it's not! It's going to be shitty! I know enough about fabrics to know chiffon looks like ass on me for a REASON!

I know bridesmaid dresses are supposed to be hideous, but I wish other people would stop pretending otherwise.

Uuuuuuuugh non-sewists stop overruling the opinions of professional sewists 2k23.

#sewing #rant #bridesmaid bullshit #fuck heteronormativity #you can't tell me a sack is better than what i made #but sack it is #if anyone has hideous chiffon dress patterns please send them my way #i think i need to go for maximum ugly on this

[beeesworld]

#rugrats #boys in skirts #boys in dresses #fuck heteronormativity #gender nonconforming #clothes don’t have a gender

[itslenagain]

Better Late Than Never

I was only 19 But somehow felt so absolutely sure I knew what forever meant And what I really wanted

So when you dropped to your knee On the cold beach in March I cried "yes" and envisioned a future Just you & I against the world

Now, I add you to my laundry list of trauma And wonder why 26 would look at 19 Only wait 6 months to buy the damn ring And then be so utterly confused when I chose to leave

When you cry about 8 years of history I don't want to hear it, I'm looking ahead To a future where I'm healing And sleeping in my own bed

At 19, I thought I wanted a family The kind that only exists in magazines House in the suburbs, going to church Mother, father, son, daughter

Now when I look upon our shared children Our son and his nail polish, our daughter's buzz cut Some part of my soul heals Knowing they won't grow up like I did

Because at 28, I call myself they/them I call my girlfriend she/her And I call you my ex husband Even when you remind me the papers can't be filed yet

I live in my own apartment Pride flags hang on the walls And I'll make damn sure our kids know It's ok to not know at 19

Who you are or who you love Is more fluid than the Bible tells you And I'd like to believe my younger self would be proud That I finally know what I really want.

#divorce #lesbian #nonbinary #coming out later in life #lgbtqia+ #creative writing #poetry #non binary #pride #enby lesbian #writers #fuck heteronormativity #coming out #late in life lesbian #poets on tumblr #queer #enby #expectations #marriage #writers on tumblr #healing #healing from trauma #religious trauma

[hobohobgoblim]

#not gay as in happy but queer as in fuck you #queer liberation #destroy this society #trans liberation #bashback #fuck capitalism #fuck heteronormativity #fuck cisnormativity #be queer #light fascists on fire

[intersectionalpraxis]

women coming 'into' their queerness -especially our bisexual and lesbian women in the lgbtqia+ community -are not any 'less' queer just because they were 30 and above when they realized they are part of the rainbow. there are SO many factors that can influence human beings and their identification with/understanding of their attractions and sexual/romantic desires and interests -including the impact of living in heteronormative/amanormative societies -or there being a lack of security and safe spaces/communities to feel comfortable exploring or reflecting -these are just a fraction of the nuances -the bottom line is LEAVE WOMEN ALONE.

i cannot emphasize this enough because it's just not fair to challenge the 'validity' of her sexuality EVER because apart from not knowing her at all -it's just wrong. stop doing this.

for context, i see this without fail in comment sections of women talking about their experiences about realizing they were queer/gay/bi when they were in their late twenties/thirties, and the people berating them for it among other problematic elements (especially the biphobia specifically) is beyond awful. stop it -stop.

#feminist #feminism #queer community #queer #lgbtqia #bisexual #wlw #women #coming into queerness #sapphic #sexuality #fuck heteronormativity #heteronormativity #amanormativity

[so-idialed-9]

While we're debating which song (Home or OTB) Louis responded on camera today 'it's an amazing feeling" that it had been adopted as a queer anthem...

Let's focus on Louis' journey - from a young, proud, and out (at minimum to some friends and on social media site Bebo) queer person, which couldn't have been easy in working class Donny in the early 2000s. But he was fucking unapologetic and brave and LOUD.

And who showed up being himself to audition...and was the second one cast. Who was then beaten down, made to feel he had no talent, manipulated, threatened, and violently closeted by homophobic assholes with virtually unlimited power over his life and the lives of people he loved.

And Louis, so young still, refused to be de-gayed, called himself camp and flamboyant and made ball-licking jokes and continued loving and fighting right there in the public eye with his lyrics and soft touches and kindness to lgbtq fans and queer coded clothing and toy bears teaching gay history lessons and being LOUD.

Whose management was so idiotic that instead of capitalizing on Louis' lovability and innate talent for the music industry they fucked up his confidence and his image, to the point he became seen as a... homophobic straight man in a long term het relationship who tweets defensively when anyone relates him to LGBTQ support.

Can you imagine how traumatizing that was? A young, isolated queer person under constant scrutiny and in what amounts to conversion 'therapy', to be seen as an enemy of your own community?

That Louis. He said calmly and confidently, on camera, that he is proud his song is seen as a queer anthem, that it's an amazing feeling.

From no flags at his concerts to a sea of rainbows to pride flags on stage and on the tour bus to rainbow lights in his own stage lighting to happily discussing his support for lgbtq on camera.

What a fucking journey so far.

I'm just over here in tears, so proud of him.

#louis' image #closeting #lgbtq #louis tomlinson interviews #louis tomlinson world domination #9.19.22 #2022 #louis tomlinson #proud of louis #fuck the system #fuck heteronormativity #queer louis tomlinson #fuck simon cowell #home #98.5 krz

[theirloveisgross]

June 2021, when I'd been in the fandom for barely 2 months, I wrote this post on Facebook to a lot of my irl. It has more to do with casting in movies, but it was triggered by talk around My Policeman. Thought I'd put it here now too.

"I just want to put this out there about something that's been bothering me for a couple of years now.

I've always felt that the discourse of "casting queer actors for queers roles" invalidates SO many experiences. Of course, I love seeing openly queer people representing queer people in media! Hell yeah, give me that representation! Flaunt it! Be proud! YES!

But now... for the sake of my argument, I'll use Call Me by Your Name and Timothée Chalamet's outstanding representation of Elio Perlman, a young queer man. He gave us one of the best performances of the decade, which was recognized by multiple awards organizations, and if you haven't watched this film, what are you doing with your life? ANYHOW! Shortly after, people and the media started speculating about his sexuality and there was even that one time when he was on Ellen's show and she said something along the lines "because you're straight, right?" and kept going with the question or whatever, and Timmy just sat there, in one of his first big TV appearances, nodding. NOW, he might be straight, sure, but my thing is... WHY DO WE ASSUME SOMEONE'S STRAIGHT UNTIL THEY'VE SAID OTHERWISE? Why is heterosexuality the default sexuality? How regressive is that? Can we stop?!

What about actors that are "still in the closet"? Or actors that don't have the need to tell the whole wide world that they're queer just to feel like they deserve to represent queer characters? What about actors that have been purposefully closeted by the industry they're in and have had a straight image pushed onto them for years?

Okay, Jules, what happened? Why all of this now? Well, today, David Dawson, an English actor who's currently working on a gay film called "My Policeman" alongside Emma Corrin and Harry Styles, sent in a video to a Pride event where he mentions that "he's so proud" to be part of the LGBTQ+ community. I was a little confused about people freaking out and congratulating him for coming out, because I thought he was already publicly out. This was my impression when I did a bit of research on him when the cast was announced. Well, apparently not, but I'm proud of my brain for not assuming he was straight, ha! I don't follow his career that closely but apparently people were giving him shit for being a straight man playing a gay role, etc. So there you have it! Like him, so many others! You know who else is getting shit for the same reason? Harry Styles. "Another straight man in a gay role!" Uhm, you are not paying attention AT ALL if you think Harry isn't queer, sweetie, I'm sorry. But that's another LONG story I won't get into.

At the end of the day, I want to see movies and series that have queer characters portrayed by amazing actors, and I don't need them to be "out" for me to be like "oh, yes, I'll believe their performance now". That's not how it works. Let's stop invalidating people's experiences because of societal rules of how things are supposed to go down. Some people might be made to feel less-than because they can't/won't/don't want to be screaming their sexuality in order to be valid.

Oh, and I'm also here for queer actors playing non-queer roles because that is the beauty of ACTING! Maybe we should advocate for more queer voices behind the camera, don't you think?

I always say I hope I'm alive to see the day when no one has the need to "come out", and people can be who they want to be. The day when there's no more "default sexuality", i.e. straight. Just you, being human. Period.

Rant over. Listen to #OnlyTheBrave.

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!"

#ramblings #I always feel triggered by this topic as an actor myself #And I'm queer and proud but I don't want to be proving myself all the time #I want to be cast because of my talent and not my queerness #Most casting notices nowadays say they encourage auditions by LGBTQ+ members and whatnot #Sometimes they specify they want lgtbq+ people for a specific role and... Sometimes I feel like they just want to fill up a quota #it's like what about actors that are queer but aren't out and feel connected to this character but can't audition because they aren't out? #Agh #My brain just whirring at 7am on this day I should be sleeping #fuck heteronormativity

[nbroyalty]

"I'm enby"? Nonono "I'm ⧫︎❒︎♋︎■︎⬧︎cending gender"

#non-binary #enby #puns #so tired #gahhhh #non binary #genderqueer #fuck heteronormativity