#social validation

[mingismom]

Nothing like good ol’ fashioned social validation—nothing really gets the heart beating quite like it 🥰

#I need someone to say their proud of me #social validation #damn that’s not a tag

[imakequestionablechoices]

I am incredibly perplexed and discussed by my daily interactions with people yet I crave social validation and have an incessant need to be liked. There’s no real conclusion to this statement, just something I’ve noticed.

#ambivert #maybe i’m the problem #perplexed #ramblings #introvert #extravert #social interaction #adhd problems #social validation #peoplepleasers #blog post

[daigah]

We lose everytime a girl in fiction who is on the masc side and happy with it becomes very feminine as a supposed sign of maturity

#Also applys to alt girls #Tropes #to everyone in my notes saying cassie sandsmark this was cassie vagueposting #IM NOT !!! REFERRING TO THOSE INTERNALISED MISOGYNY WHO DRESS MORE MASC CUZ OF THAT AND START TO EMBRACE FEMINITY JUST FINE #IN A POSITIVE WAY #this is more like. girls who were explicitly shown to dress gnc/masc leaning because thats simply their personality and what they like #and are comfortable with but still need to be “corrected” to dress feminine #especially if its for male/social validation

[thriftdyke]

it really does bother me how no one can seem to answer the question “what even is romantic attraction, really.” like some people are like “it’s who you wanna kiss and cuddle <3” and I’m like ok well kisses and cuddles can be either sexual or platonic depending on context. “It’s who you feel passion/desire/arousal for” well that just sounds like sexual attraction which you can have without even knowing somebody so I fail to see how that’s romantic. “It’s who you want to go on dates with” I go on dates with friends all the time plus “date” is a social construct anyway there’s really no innate difference between a date and hanging out. “it’s who you have deep feelings for” great news for you that can be literally any type of relationship. my friend told me she defined it as “who you wanna give roses to” and I’m like do u hear urself??? like the more I talk to people the more I’m convinced romance and romantic attraction is an elaborate socially fabricated illusion that has no real defining characteristics. and like there’s nothing Wrong with it being a constuct but why people are so attached to defending the supremacy of it is something I cannot for the life of me figure out

#like reading this u might be like ‘sounds like ur just aromantic sis’ but I’m like. listen. #ur missing my point. which is that I literally think romance Does Not Exist #at least not in this bioessentialist way people like to pretend it does #the desire for companionship and the desire for sex are biological drives. everything else is a social construct #which doesn’t mean its bad! or not valid! or anything like that! #but I’m just genuinely do not understand Why we are so bent on treating it like gospel

[troythecatfish]

#trans #trans community #trans rights #lgbtqia #lgbt #lgbtq community #lgbtq #lgbtqia+ #lgbtqiia+ #queer #queer community #current events #social justice #human rights #bathroom art #bathroom pic #graffiti #grafitti #graffittiart #graffti #lgbtqplus #trans rights are human rights #trans is valid

[bigfatbreak]

Birds of a Feather previous / next

#my art #feralnette au #birds of a feather #long tags #sorry I went apeshit in the tags #LETS SAY IT ALL TOGETHER NOW #I - M - A - G - OOOOOOOOO #its fun drawing marinette's back to Alya and having her appear stout and unstoppable and totally logical #and then you see her face and she's like two seconds from completely snapping and is keeping it together by a thread #as a note just because mari feels very certainly abt smth doesnt mean she's right. feelings can be valid and also irrational #in the throes of grief she decided it was better to be alone than to lose someone again so she started pulling away #and lila made pulling away very very very easy to do #shes also vaguely aware she's being unfair in pinning this on alya which is why she started spinning the drain on cockmoth again #legitimately all the shit that's happened to her wouldn't have been so catastrophic if he was never in the picture and she knows it #but the bitterness of her bestie choosing a fantastic liar over her at the worst of times stiiiiiings #alya's personal timing was bad but lila really took advantage of the fact that marinette had been acting off and weird #she basically clocked marinette as being unstable from SOMETHING and made up a lie about her #knowing she wouldn't have the strength to defend herself #between her social life going tachy bc of lila and losing fu in a way that felt like personhood death marinette was really put on the spot #and alya doing her thing of busting in there and assuming her bias is correct was a terrible combo #essentially marinette is highly unstable and alya is just realizing that #busting in and giving her a lecture when she's slightly hysterical and definitely delirious from exhaustion is NOT the way #to show her she's self sabotaging #cuz thats just gonna make her double down on self sabotaging. bc marinette will not accept that she is also a CHIIIIILD

[slfcare]

The positives of ‘putting yourself out there’ are worth it. Having a great conversation with a stranger will be worth the awkwardness of starting that exact conversation. Joining a small community of people you will see regularly is worth having to get through a scary first day. Getting your dream job is worth the scariness of chasing it. Don’t pick and choose experiences based on the level of ease now, but choose them based on how you want to come out of them.

#the healing (starts here) #growth in the self #comfort kindness family #self care #self love #positivity #positive #positive suggestions #positive thinking #suggestions #suggestion #self validation #mental health #learning to be a social being

[goodluckdetective]

Look, this is what moral OCD is like for me:

I walk past a piece of paper. I don’t pick it up because I had a long day at work and it’s very cold outside. This then becomes my internal monologue:

I didn’t pick up that piece of paper, I should have. Don’t I care about the environment? It’s not my trash, I shouldn’t have to pick it up. But also that’s how these things happen right? We place the blame on others as our environment degrades. It was just a piece of paper, it’s not like it can do that much damage. But also how do I know: I’m not an environmental expert. Maybe stray paper scraps are killing the frogs. You’re literally killing the frogs. You should look up how many frogs die a year so you know how shitty you are-No stop it.

I care about the environment, and I recycle and I joined green activism movements but is that enough? I could be doing more. I should be doing more. I should donate my entire check to charity. But isn’t it self serving to think that my one check could help that much? Do I really think I’m that important, how self entitled and-no stop it, reset! You are obsessing and if you fall for it, you will not eat dinner. Let it go.

Okay it’s just a piece of paper. It’s okay you skipped it this once: it could have had something dangerous on it. Yeah that makes sense. But also, that means I’m putting my own safety over trying to help the environment, which is very selfish of me. I’m just one shitty person: god how could I be so self absorbed. I should have picked up the piece of paper. I’m so selfish, and shitty and-no, no, stop it! This is not helpful. It’s fine.

It’s been a long day and I’m cold, that’s not a crime- no that’s being selfish again, you’re making excuses. You’re just a lazy piece of shit who doesn’t care about others, and selfish and God the fact you’re thinking this much about one piece of paper shows how selfish you are, you care more about if you’re a good person than anything else, you’re a piece of shit, you’re a piece of shit, YOU’RE A PIECE OF SHIT.

I get home and open up Tumblr. The first post I see says “if you don’t reblog this post about the environment you’re as complicit as an oil billionaire.” I close my computer and resign myself to looking up the state frog populations until I go to bed.

I don’t eat dinner.

The amount of frogs that die a year is somewhere from 200 million to over 1 billion.

#moral ocd #ocd #scrupulosity #Iz rambles #this is okay to reblog I think people really don’t get it #mental illness #the issue with the social media post is not that it exists or that OP even feels about this issue: the issue is it validates my ocd #I don’t obsess about frogs but that is a bummer stat I do rather like them #obsessive compulsive disorder

[melittosphex]

Vampworld bubbline sketchdump bc I have the brainrot 😔

#art #fanart #bubbline #vampworld bubbline #vampworld #princess bubblegum #marceline #marceline star #lesbian #bonnibel bubblegum #marceline abadeer #my video blew up on tiktok and I’m a little high off the positive feedback hfhdgsg #my socials have been dead since twitter died and I really needed that affirmation #I feel so validated both artistically and bisexually

[ruhlare]

i don't like it when someone is easy to reach. when someone is open to everyone, when literally anyone can get their attention. it is a question of values ​​and principles not to be open to everyone and not to have the need for everyone's attention. people who are easily available won't value soulful connections.

#that's something i think about a lot #the same goes for social media #can't take people serious who seek online validation #especially some men are easily to find behind the posts and likes of women #this makes someone clearly unattractive in my eyes #does someone understand what i am trying to say? #how less do you have to think of yourself to fill the void with VARIOUS people? #i like people who stand out #my writing #soul #letters

[sluttylittlewaste]

It's wild how many people took Kristen's line of questioning as her saying Tracker isn't taking her religion seriously instead of what I heard her asking which was:

How many of these people would be here if it wasn't religious Coachella?

#also #some of y'all don't seem to realize that Brennan is referencing some very serious real world questions #of what happens when legitimate religious movements get turned into social clubs #and how that transformation often deteriorates the messaging and purpose of said movement #jesus and judas had the same conversation #it's a significant part of why protestantism even exists #did y'all not watch the Hillsong doc? #have y'all never been to an evangelical megachurch #when the church start using free shit and cushy rewards to get people to join? it's a dog whistle for them losing the plot #which Kristen 100% knows #which is WHY SHE ASKED #she's asking how many of these people give a real fuck about Galicaea #IT'S A VALID QUESTION #and it's important that Kristen #(who understands just how deeply Tracker cares) #can pull her back to the reality of what she came to Fallinel to do #let me die #if i die #d20 fhjy #fhjy #dimension 20 #kristen applebees #rant #tracker o'shaughnessey #trackerbees

[to-be-a-dreamer]

No, because I've already talked about this to the Discord besties but I'm still vibrating over the fact that Percy didn't just sacrifice himself for Annabeth, he outsmarted her. He tricked her into letting him be the one to stay behind that's such an amazing detail

#the way the show and specifically walker portrays percy's incredible social and emotional intelligence #i love it so so much #he immediately knows what happened between annabeth and echidna #he knows the right thing to say to cheer her up when she feels bad about snapping at grover #he understands and validates her relationship with athena even though he doesn't 100% GET IT get it #he is so so smart and i love how they're showing that in both dialogue and walker's acting choices #you can SEE the gears turning in his head whenever stuff starts happening #10/10 but also that cliffhanger was inhumane #percy jackson and the olympians #percy jackson disney+ #percy jackson #annabeth chase #percabeth #walker scobell #percy jackson episode 4 #percy jackson spoilers

[wwrenwrites]

**Y/N entering the bathroom where Jason is showering**

Y/N: Jason name a woman

Jason: Fiona from Shrek

Y/N:

Jason: Why?

**Y/N wheezing walking out of the bathroom**

Jason: Why??

#starting a fight with the boyfriend trend #both of you binged the movies a week before #jason todd #redhood #you were definitely expecting something else #y/n: … Valid #jason todd x reader #y/n doing tiktok trends to her jason-no-social-media-boyfriend #redhood x reader #jason todd x y/n #jason todd incorrect quotes #dc comics #dc incorrect quotes #batbros

[empresspiscea]

Self vs Social Validation Braindump

#self validation #social validation #braindump #my post

[jedi-starbird]

I don't care what the hatman says I firmly believe Ahsoka is not describing Anakin as anything other than the most cringefail jedi ever.

When she finds out Anakin is Darth Vader? The same Vader she's been fighting against for a decade? The same Vader who's crimes she's had a front row seat for in the rebellion? Who killed all the friends and family she grew up with and is now also killing the new friends and family she's managed to scrape together in the ashes of everything she ever knew? Who puppets around the 501st, her and Rex's brothers, the men who trusted him with their lives, as nothing more than mindless murderers? Ohoho she wants him dead sooo bad. She takes 3 business days to process then comes back with full murderous rage unlocked. She's outside his evil lair banging pots and pans together telling him to square the fuck up, Master. Her Cain instinct is fully activated. Move outta the way old man, Ahsoka's going to do what she must and she's actually going to follow through with her words.

Obi-Wan's got the cornerstone on depression, Ahsoka's got rage covered, together they almost form one healthy grief response. (I'm imagining them both living at the same rebel base post O66 and the twins going between them for wildly contrasting takes on their dad lmao)

#she's hopping on the holonet and setting up bots to call darth vader a bitch ass little loser on every social media platform #this is her most important work as Fulcrum #also Rex too he fucking hates Vader for what he did to the 501st Ahsoka might eventually make peace with it all but he will fucking not #and thats so valid of him king #Vader being just a little proud of how good Ahsoka is when she duels him which just makes her even more mad because he has no right anymore #slightly scared cause this feels like a hot take in this fandom #ahsoka tano #darth vader #star wars

[amourduloup]

Trauma and Recovery, Judith Herman

#outside of the realm of socially validated reality #the possibility of the impossible #*lit #judith herman