#tw: abusive household

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

anyone else have multiple traumatic memories associated specifically with holidays/family vacations? because that is a topic I never see discussed in all the So You Had A Shitty Childhood, Now What? self-help books i've been reading. but for me, it was a significant thing. and the more i think about it the more it seems like this would be an (unfortunately) common experience. would be grateful to hear if this matches other peoples' experiences...

#not a shitpost #serious post #ask to tag #tw trauma #cptsd #c-ptsd #and if so we should TALK about it #because it means there are a whole group of survivors out there whose mental health regularly worsens during holidays #like i know i am most certainly not the only person who feels an undefined Dread hanging over christmas/my birthday/july 4 etc #bc too many shitty things happened during those times and now my brain is hypervigilant bc traditionally these are the Danger Times #and this seems like it would be particularly common for survivors of abusive/dysfunctional households (aka most people with c-ptsd) #because holidays/vacations typically mean 1) the whole family is together/being forced to interact #2) and undergoing external stressors e.g. travel/relatives aka 'outsiders' visiting/routines & coping mechanisms being interrupted etc #3) there is social pressure for this to be a Fun Family Bonding Experience which only highlights the cracks in the foundation #and exposes the common Everything Is Fine/We Are A Happy Family lie #4) the cognitive dissonance of feeling tired/anxious/stressed/afraid during a time when you are 'supposed' to be Making Good Memories #and then everyone is angry/tired/anxious/triggered and things boil over and something or someone goes Very Wrong #weird that i'm posting this in october when halloween is...sort of the ONLY holiday i have only good and happy feelings towards #i got lucky there #also i have positive feelings towards Labor Day but that's for socialist reasons

[sa-dnesss]

My home will be a home with no loud anger, no explosive rage, no slamming doors or breaking glass, no holes punched into the walls, no name calling, shaming or blackmail. My home will be gentle, it will be warm. No fear, no hurt and no worries. I may come from a broken and twisted place but I will build something whole and safe.

#tw abuse #physical abuse #abusive parents #child abuse #parental abuse #abusive relationship #abusive #toxic family #toxic parents #toxic household #emotional abuse #bad parenting #trauma #unhealthy #sad #depressed #sucidal #exhausted #tired #lonely #alone #empty #toxic mother #toxic father #upset #suicide thoughts #unhappy

[imtraumatizedsblog]

#mental health matters #mental health #trauma #childhood trauma #mental abuse #mental problems #mental disorder #childhood #mentally tired #struggling mentally #maladapting daydreaming disorder #mentally fucked #relationship #toxic household #toxic people #trauma vent #tw depression #painful #mental heath support #mentally drained #mentalwellness

[0vergrowngraveyard]

the sky is being noisy (thunderstorm directly over my house) so i’m gonna talk about my villain au boys because they need therapy like right now 🫶

tw: abusive behavior

sonic:

sonic was taken in by eggman when he was young (eggdad moment) and didn’t realize that the doctor was just using him for his own gains. when sonic did find out, instead of having a battle of morals, sonic just straight up said that he would be better than eggman ever was and ran away

being around tails has changed his life both for better and for worse. for better because, well, it’s tails! a sonic will always need a tails! they’re a cosmic truth, after all! …right?

unfortunately, being around tails has also caused some harm. he does consider tails to be his little brother, but subconsciously the thought of family scares him after figuring out that eggman had been using him. he’s terrified of rejection and getting attached

is tails just using him too? what if the kit leaves him alone as well? he doesn’t deal with thoughts like these very well, frequently spiraling into extreme highs and lows where he’ll either guilt trip tails into staying by his side or passive aggressively pushes him away

he hates that he does it, he’s very self aware and knows he’s hurting the kid, but he can’t bring himself to either change for the better for leave the kit somewhere he’ll be safe

tails:

tails was not abandoned by his parents in this au, but they were very abusive towards the kit. the prower name is a pretty big one so he’d frequently make public appearance where he was forced to hide his mutation. at home, his parents basically ignore him yet get mad at him for not being the perfect child they wanted

when tails met sonic, he’d been kicked out of the house for the day. he was six years old. sonic found him sitting outside and just started talking to the kit, eventually convincing him to run away with the hedgehog

while being around sonic has helped him feel protected, he can’t help but crave that parental affection he was never shown by his own parents. he’ll go above and beyond just for a simple “good job” or fur ruffle (he does not swat sonic’s hand away). he’s also still very insecure about his namesakes and rarely ever flies

despite craving sonic’s attention so much, he’s also kinda scared of him. he never knows when the hedgehog will snap next and is walking on eggshells almost 24/7

the brothers love each other, they genuinely do, they’re just damaged. nothing about their bond is healthy. it’s very codependent, both of them relying on the other to be their source of happiness. it’s ruining them both

they’ll never leave each other’s side, tho. they’re all each other have and neither of them wants to be alone

#tw: abuse #villain au #toxic unbreakable bond? in this household? #more likely than you think #playing with the cosmic truth like it’s a doll #i love my fucked up boys so much #they need help like right now #but instead they commit crimes #they love each other but they don’t know how to show it 😭 especially sonic that boy is unwell #also please don’t make this a ‘sonic bad. tails good’ thing because it isn’t #sonic the hedgehog #miles tails prower #unbreakable bond #the brothers ever #sth au

[vampireink]

I will have a home one day. It will be warm, and it will be safe. It will have large windows so that it never feels like a prison. It will have comfort and light and colours, and there will be joy echoing off of each of the walls. There will be no shouting in my home. There will be no violence, no harsh words, no abuse ... it will be safe, and it will be my home.

#my thoughts #sad post #sad #tw abuse #abusive parents #abuse #toxic house #toxic parents #toxic family #toxic relationship #bad parents #parent trauma #parent issues #mommy issues #daddy issues #toxic household #toxic home #bad poetry #text post #emotional abuse #literature #poem #poet #poetry #writing #original #poets on tumblr #words #tired #trauma

[livininaburninghouse]

It is a valid response.

#childhood trauma #toxic family #abusive family #abusive household #abusive dad #abusive parents #abusive mother #abuse survivor #abusive survivors #physical abuse #emotional abuse #narcissistic abuse #tw parental abuse #tw abuse

[andersdotters]

I think the thing that's easy to forget about Arlecchino is that she is not the original Arlecchino. The one that set up the House of the Hearth, the one that greatly abused its members, the one that lied to Freminet about his mother, the one that brainwashed the members to be willing to give their lives for their family was the original Arlecchino, not the current Arlecchino. The current Arlecchino was previously a child raised by the House of the Hearth that succeeded the original Arlecchino through some kind of "serious clash."

The original Arlecchino was painted to be a very cruel person. She'd would greatly punish members that did not succeed in their missions. She lied to Freminet that his mother abandoned him, then used his mother's well being as a way to threaten Freminet into obeying. Going off of one of her subordinates actions, she would've been fine with the creation of orphans if that met taking them in to become later members of the Fatui.

When the current Arlecchino got into power, she changed many things. Where the previous Arlecchino wanted them to give up their lives for the family, the current told them that they must value their lives. Every single one of them was important. Where the previous Arlecchino would punish members for failing missions, the current does not do so, but chooses to give missions suitable to the person.

What I find really interesting about the current Arlecchino is that she is not without morals. When Lyney asks to receive a delusion to help his sister, though she does not react outwardly, her eyes were described to be full of "wrath." She then shows a startling amount of emotional intelligence and asks if that is what Lynette would want. When it comes to Freminet, not only was she furious upon learning he was cruelly lied to regarding his mother, what I'm shocked is she knew about his mother in the first place. She knew what his mother looked like. Freminet entered the House of the Hearth before she became Arlecchino, but she still knew. If you want to look deeper into this, this implies that she purposefully looked into his past and sought out his mother for him.

People may say she's acting. People may say she is acting "nice" to groom the sibings her way, but anger is not something easily faked. Those seemed to be genuine reactions. I do not think that was a lie. However, I'm not saying that she's not lying or manipulative either.

What the most important thing to keep in mind about all of this is what Wanderer and Childe have to say about her. They both fully state that she is insane. She has no problems betraying people. She seeks to control others. She is insane. No ifs, ands, or buts.

I'm just really curious to see how Genshin will reconcile this conflicting information about her.

((check the tags for more of an analysis on her that goes a bit deeper))

#genshin impact #arlecchino #freminet #lyney #lynette #if you ask my personal opinion about the matter i don't think the siblings' view of her or the harbingers' view of her are wrong #i think she has morals #i think she values life #i think she genuinely felt disgust in both freminet and lyney's instances #however at the same time? #i do think she's insane #i do think she has no issues betraying people #i do think that she wants control over people #i don't these things conflict each other #another thing i want to point out? (tw abuse mention ahead) #she was originally a child brought up in the house of the hearth under the previous arlecchino #she grew up abused and tortured up until the point that she went against her abuser #so when you realize that she grew up in this environment it makes sense why she values life #it makes sense why freminet being lied to like that disgusted her so badly #it makes sense why she's insane bc u can't grow up in an abusive household and come out unscathed #but you sure as damn hell come out with the strongest morals in the world lol #did she 'groom' lyney to become her successor? i mean... it's clearly stated that she did i don't deny that #is she manipulating the siblings to her side? #uh yeah duh #but that doesn't make her actions and reactions all a lie #that's the point i'm trying to make here #idk if that make sense #it's just boring to paint her ONLY as a evil emotionless manipulator when like... she has potential for more

[letteriwillneversend]

having parents that are nothing more than unfriendly strangers wearing familiar voices that say familiar things makes you wonder if there was ever any such thing as home.

it makes you wonder what it might be like to have a bad day and have someone you can call or talk to. what it might be like to have someone you can to for advice or comfort. what it might be like to have a shoulder or lap you can finally rest your head on. what it might be like to have a bowl of cut fruit that spells out unconditional love.

some days i find myself looking for home even when i don’t know what to look for.

#heartbreak #i'm just so tired #orphan #angst #journal #my thoughts #my writing #letters i will never send #abusive parents #tw: abuse #abusive household #distant parents #emotionally exhausted #emotional neglect #where is home and is it mine #what’s that one quote that’s like #i need a mother a father some older wiser being to talk to

[somewhat-very-insane]

things that people seem to think are perfectly fine and socially acceptable, but that should not be punishments. and no, i don’t care what your kid did do «deserve it,» these are just wrong

starving or withholding food from your children

making your children destroy their comfort objects (or destroying the objects yourself)

feeding your children foods that they are allergic to

watching your children while they shower or bathe (when significantly past the age where any «help» bathing would be necessary)

hitting your children, manhandling your children, or otherwise utilizing aggressive physical contact against your children

making your children pick up broken glass (without teaching them how to safely do so) or walk on broken glass

withholding medical treatment from your children

threatening to do any of these things to your children

teaching your children ideas like «privacy is a privilege, not a right,»; «these items are in my house, so i am allowed to destroy them even if you paid for them»; and «people are allowed to hurt you if they feel like you did something wrong,» are so damaging to impressionable, fragile minds. you are setting your child up for a ruined, unstable future by doing these things.

* feel free to add on

#i am saying these things as someone who is also a victim of ramcoa #so more «severe» abuse #because upon being removed from the ramcoa i was placed into a household that did all of this #among other things #such as forcing me to get many pointless surgeries i did not want #but because it was «better» i was told that it could not be abuse. #//god's words #information #tw abuse #abuse tw #child abuse #abuse

[justbreakonme]

Household items for your Whumper to use:

-Whumpee has ten fingernails, and Whumper has ten questions and a pair of pliers.

-Many household cleaners can be used to make highly corrosive or poisonous concoctions, and Whumpee is about to find out exactly how that works.

-Whumper always said that beauty was pain, and, with their curling iron in hand, Whumpee was about to find out exactly how accurate that was.

-Whumper takes a trip to the pet store, and finds the perfect thing to keep a mouthy Whumpee under control. A shock collar, that’s set of by the vibration of Whumpees vocal cords. Hopefully Whumpee doesn’t have a cough, and that they can keep quiet when it goes off.

-kitchen knives. Enough said.

-stove burner. Also enough said.

-zip ties make excellent restraints and are much less bulky and suspicious looking than rope or handcuffs.

-many medications can be used improperly, especially to put someone to sleep, and if the whumper really wants to do some heavy duty damage, well… if they have no moral qualms about what they would do to the whumpee, what’s to stop them from getting prescription or illegal stuff too?

#tw torture #tw burns #tw abuse #whump #whumpee #household objects as weapons #burns #drugging whump

[stacys-mom-has-got-it-goin-on]

When they've just traumatized you and then 2 seconds later they act like nothing ever happened and everything is rainbows and sunshine.

#dysfunctional family #toxic relationship #toxic household #toxic behavior #abusive father #toxic family #toxic people #toxic parents #toxic mother #narcissistic abuse #domestic abuse #psychological abuse #tw abuse #sunshine and rainbows #red flags

[xan-the-emo-trans-man]

I just called myself out so let me call out the rest of you as well:

Do you actually hate yourself or were you just raised in an abusive household?

ask yourself this question: would you still hate yourself if you were raised in a house with good parents that had a healthy marriage and you had all your needs met?

because Idk about you but for me that answer is no. I don’t think I would if I didn’t have a toxic mom to constantly criticize me and someone I constantly compare myself to. I don’t think I’d hate myself if I never had people tearing me down in the first place

#mental illness #Abusive household #Tw abuse #emotional abuse #childhood trauma #trauma #toxic household #toxic family #toxic parents #mommy issues #daddy issues #inferiority complex #self loathing #depression #anxiety #self hatred

[grimbunnies]

Mary-Sue: "I... I'm pregnant!"

Daniel: "What? I thought you were too close to aging up..."

Angela: "Dad!"

Jennifer: "Well... congratulations to you both?"

Mary-Sue: "I'm not certain how to feel..."

Daniel: "Well, I think it's great! This is going to bring us closer together! I'm going to take care of you, give you backrubs. Maybe I can get some time off work..."

Mary-Sue: "I'll have to take time off work..."

Daniel: "I know your job is important to you, but you can go back right away after giving birth! It's not like we don't have options for childcare, even free childcare."

Mary-Sue: "Oh, there you are. Done abusing that notebook instead of doing anything productive or spending time with your family?"

Lilith: "I am. By the way, I think this is great! Oh! And it'll be so fun and quirky if dad knocked the maid up, too, when he woohooed her yesterday while you were at work. Maybe you could basically end up with a second set of twins!"

Daniel: "You lying piece of shit!"

Lilith: "Methinks he doth project too much... I skipped school. I heard everything. Not that I expect you to believe me, mom, but I'm not lying."

Mary-Sue: "You know what, Lilith? I do believe you."

#daniel pleasant #mary sue pleasant #angela pleasant #jennifer burb #lilith pleasant #pleasant household #pleasantview hood #pleasantview round 1 #sims 2 #abusive parent tw

[bitchesgetriches]

(tw abuse) Can I say thank you for your blog?

I'm currently trying to escape an abusive household, but I wasn't sure of how I could get money or a job because I'm not allowed to get a job. Or learn how to get one. Or anything similar.

Which I later learned is financial abuse.

But I found a lot of useful resources and info here on how to get money online. And in person...

Thank you!

Honey, we are so, so, SO fucking proud of you. In the darkness of an impossible situation, you've somehow found the strength to seek out help and resources. You're an inspiration to us all, and we are rooting for you so hard. Keep in touch--we want to know when you're safe and out of your abusive household.

For anyone else who might be dealing with a similar situation, here is some information on financial abuse and where to go for help:

When Money is the Weapon: Understanding Intimate Partner Financial Abuse 

How Abusive Workplaces Mirror Abusive Relationships 

Did we just help you out? Tip us!

#tw abuse #tw domestic abuse #financial abuse #abusive household

[struggling-to-find-home]

Me, when the trauma symptoms are at bay and don't hinder my quality of life: I'm a shitty abuse victim because I am not even visibly affected by the things that happened to me

Me, when visibly affected by my trauma: I'm a shitty abuse victim because I shouldn't be reacting to abuse this violently, it wasn't that bad anyway

#well fuck me i guess #abuse tw #toxic family #toxic household #dysfunctional family #toxic parents #toxic mother #dysfunctional parents #trauma memes #toxic siblings

[livininaburninghouse]

Fuck you

#childhood trauma #abusive parents #abusive household #abusive family #abusive dad #complex post traumatic stress disorder #living with cptsd #trauma survivor #complex trauma #trauma #abusive survivors #narcissistic abuse #tw parental abuse #tw abuse #physical abuse #emotional abuse