#bi trans ally history

[bitricky]

stripping bisexuals of our tireless contributions to activism and reducing us to regressive binarists, devoid of anything to do with the broader gay or transgender communities and indistinguishable from your average cis hetero is such a cruel, twisted agenda. we marched with you, we lived with you, we loved you, we were you then, and today we are the same but you silence us.

the prevalent 60s and 70s idea of the bisexual, the gender-defying hedonist dressed in androgyny while engaging in sex with partners of all sorts is unfathomable to some, but there were those of us then and there are those of us now who are still very much the same. but we are also those who live next door to you and shop at the same grocery store, and perhaps you wouldn't know until you asked.

but we are just as likely adhere to androgyny as we are to look like someone who conforms strictly to gender norms, and so are you. the nature of having an orientation defined by same (homo) and other (hetero) gender attraction is itself non-binary, as you are no longer adhering to one or another. this made us fierce allies of those who are transgender, especially when (lesbian/bisexual) trans women and bisexual women were forced out of radical lesbian feminist spaces for the crime of proximity to the phallus.

transgender and early non-binary (the popular term being genderqueer) individuals came to our meetings and our groups, and many of them were us as well, and many are today. our quotes of love beyond gender are stamped across so many of our speeches, our art, our literature, and it is the core of the bisexual movement. our activism has had direct effects on positive treatment of all of the members of our community, because in few ways we could relate to a hetero experience, we were able to bridge the gap that many misunderstood.

but you'll make up any and every false reason to hate us. you'll use propaganda spread in the aids crisis to demonize us as promiscuous cheaters who take disease between partners. you will see the statistics of violence against us and it won't matter because we'll have deserved it, somehow. our suicide rates and poor mental health as well as physical health, the poverty and job discrimination, the way we're forced to walk without belonging because we walk an experience that casts doubt on the binary, and people don't want to face that.

if we have pride in being bisexual, it's twisted on us because we don't deserve it. we're told we have privilege over everyone else despite that being categorically untrue in almost every aspect. things are only worse for those of us who are bisexual and transgender, and for those who are bipoc (people of color are more likely to identify as bisexual than white people). but you hardly even believe that there even are transgender and non-binary bisexuals, even though more transgender people identify as bisexual than non-transgender people do.

there's simply no excuse for it. it is undeserved hate born out of fear in the aids crisis, or stoked by transphobic radical lesbian feminists, and the homophobic cishet population buys into it with sadistic glee because they don't care that we have opposite gender attraction, the problem will be that there is any same gender attraction at all. and while there may indeed be those in the bisexual community who subscribe to regressive beliefs, there hasn't ever been a point where this has been a staple or notable, and we are far from the only group with some flawed members.

there is no way logical way to paint us as binarist without discounting the majority opinion and the way have defined ourselves throughout our activist movements. we as bisexuals all have the potential to be attracted to people of the same and opposite genders of ourselves, whatever spectrum that may be in relation, and also binary men and women, cis or trans, it breaks the binary and it breaks the status quo. this is why many hate us, but it isn't going to stop us. believing non-bisexuals when they say we're backwards shows a distinct lack of knowledge of lgbt history as a whole.

it's all just extremely disappointing.

#text post #lgbtq #bisexual history #bisexual activism #bisexual pride #bisexuality #biphobia #lgbt #bi privilege is a myth #bi trans ally history #transgender #nonbinary

[dieamoric]

solidarity is for white people

i don't blame qpocs for feeling ostracized and alienated from the lgbt/queer community, especially when the most vocal of us are white, benefit from racism, and a lot of us even weaponize our whiteness

we are never going to stand as a unionized front against our cishetallo oppressors as long as there are intercommunity issues between our different sexualities and genders, and races. and especially not when there are so called queer factions within the queer community who hate intersectionality with everything they have.

we can't just put aside our issues and "focus on the bigger picture" when so many of us treat qpocs like shit for having vastly different experiences and presentations than white queers. we NEED to start listening to their needs and wants before we white people focus on our own, whether that's smaller issues or bigger ones that keep us from being truly intersectional.

and yes this includes slur discourse. ._.

#lgbt #queer #racism #slur discourse #i am tired of white lesbians and bi women speaking over black lesbians about who can use the d slur #i am so tired of misogynoir and transmisogynoir and antiblack microagressions #im just tired of racism in general and everything that comes with it #we can be better than this and i am beyond disappointed that instead of being allies to qpoc (black people particularly) #we seek to cause further alienation between them and the queer community because we cannot comprehend #that their queer history has a way bigger impact and prevalence than whatever white queer history we have #it was a black trans woman who threw the first brick at stonewall after all #and without black queers a lot of us wouldn't even exist the way we are today or have our queer slang we use #we owe so much to them that i think we can give them the right-away to determine what people can and cannot say in terms of slurs #i think its the EXTREME LEAST we can fucking do

[fandomsandfeminism]

So, this is going to be a little meandering and all over the place. But I'm trying to express this...web of thoughts I've been having lately around this issue of queer, and labels, and the way we talk about our history and the way the community conceptualized itself in this very digital age. And it's still kind of half formed, so...let's see.

So. OK.

One thing I see a lot online, especially with people who are just now coming out, is a sort of...overfixation on increasingly niche labels. Im not saying that having a very specific or newer label is bad, to be clear. Labels are rhetorical tools, use what is useful. They help with visibility and discussing specific issues. No issues there.

But watching people quibble over bi vs pan vs omni vs abro or non-binary vs genderqueer vs demigender vs genderfluid vs agender vs xenogender vs bigender vs gnc. Asexual or gray ace or demisexual or queerplatonic. And whether they are a biromantic lesbian demigirl or bisexual greyaromantic genderuid. And it's always just a little exhausting, ya know? Again, if those labels are meaningful and useful, that's great, but I see people *agonizing* over which they "really" are. Like if they pick the wrong word to describe themselves, they are coming out the wrong way, like they are wrong about themselves if they can't find the exact correct word on an FAQ list of lgbt vocabulary.

And how I think that relates to the way people talk about our CURRENT labels as though these labels have always been there and like the people described by these labels now have no common experiences with other labels. Like lesbians and bisexual women have absolutely nothing in common. Like butches and trans men have no shared history. As though trans women and drag queens have always been completely separate and unconnected groups. As though ace folks and nonbinary folks are somehow new to the scene, and not community members who were always here and just didn't have a separate label until more recently.

I *remember* watching the community make the switch from transvestite and transsexual, to differentiating between transsexuals and transgender, to basically just using transgender/trans. Those labels are not stagnant. None of our labels are some ingrained biological unchanging objective truth. Labels are rhetorical shortcuts to summarize this facet of our identity and lives and experiences- but they are just words.

And maybe this connects to the way people get really...weird about historical figures too. Like whether Sappho was a lesbian or bisexual, as though either of those words would have had any meaning to her. About whether Shakespeare was gay or bi, like he would have conceptualized his own identity that way. About what modern label Dr. James Barry would have used for himself if anyone could travel back in time and ask him.

And then I think about why queer feels so much more affirming, so much more a place of strength, than LGBT+. Not that LGBT as a label is bad, and I honestly probably prefer it for allies and outsiders to use. But as a community label- Queer, to me, says that all our experiences are queer experiences. Queer can be many things, but they are all queer. Regardless of how many genders or which specific genders you like, whether you have a romantic and or sexual attraction to whatever collection of genders, whatever thing your gender is doing today- all of it, ALL of it, once you step outside that cis, straight mainstream sexuality and gender norm- is queer. Equally queer.

Lgbt+ feels like we are still keeping all those labels separate, little boxes all lined up next to each other- different but a coalition. And while that isn't bad, I also think it isn't totally true.

[A caveat here, that there are times when more specific labels are very helpful. We don't want any specific kind of queer experience to be overshadowed or erased, and having more specific labels facilitates those discussions. Again, I'm not saying that we should eliminate or erase our more specific labels.]

But I think imagining our community as a collection of wholly separate groups that are just allied together, instead of one group that we are all equally in, can make it far too easy for exclusionists to sneak up and say "well ___ isn't REALLY lgbt. THEY aren't REALLY one of us. ___ dont belong."

If we take all the labels off all the crayons- red and pink and purple and blue and teal and green are not hard and fast divisions. They are artificial distinctions we have made- all of them are light, all of them the rainbow.

Anyway. I just think that, while everyone should use whatever labels bring them joy and are useful for them, we might be better off if more folks were ok with ALSO accepting the vast ambiguity of being queer.

#queer thoughts #queer rambling #maybe Im off here or missing some nuance #but Im bi AND queer #Im bi and genderqueer AND queer #and I think theres strength and beauty in seeing our diverse experience and saying YEAH all of us are in this together

[decolonize-the-left]

Hey this might be a weird question but you seem to know a lot about the strategies TERFs use and what they're hiding, so I just wanted to ask and you don't have to answer.

Why do so many TERFs have this weird hostility towards bi and ace people? I don't think either of those identities have anything to do with being trans but I've seen so many TERFs who are also biphobic and/or aphobic. My gut instinct was that there was some large overlap between bi/ace people and trans people, but then I've found TERFs give shit to cis bis and aces so I'm not sure if it's that or some other reason. I'm not trans myself but I want to be able to recognize TERF rhetoric to be a better ally to trans people.

A couple reasons.

First one is that hating bis/aces is at the entrance of the TERF pipeline; they utilize this 'soft bigotry' to radicalize LGBTs and it usually looks like this:

To recruit queer ppl first they try to get us to stop considering aces as Oppressed. That's how it starts. They're aren't Doing anything so how can they be oppressed? They don't know what it's like to marginalized....how could they? They're just stealing the spotlight of Actually oppressed ppl

And once you accept that they turn to bisexuals. Who are only half gay, you know? And most of them date men anyway or end up marrying men so like? How the hell would they know what it's like to literally Live oppression 24/7? Do we we really want them to have a voice and speak for those of us that don't have an escape from our oppression?

This works because on the surface TERFS/Radfems appear to care about women and gender equality, which a lot of queer people obviously support. But they exploit those of us that don't know enough about feminism's intersectional (and very gay) history to identify them as bad actors.

From here the person they've targeted will either a- accept this and likewise will eventually also accept that trans oppression isnt real either (fulfilling the TERF's actual goal of recruitment) OR b- they'll realize they've been manipulated and try to deconstruct.

Secondly:

TERFs are white supremacist and their beliefs are founded white supremacist ideology and outdated scientific theories that Support white supremacist rhetoric.

It's called gender-essentialism which is a branch of bio-essentialism which is the belief that the biological body you have has inherent skills and abilities. Racists have used this to deny Black humanity just as TERFs use it to deny the existence of gender diversity.

But nobody is inherently weaker because of a uterus, nor are they bad drivers just because they have a uterus. All women are not good mothers just because they are women. Men are not all abusers just because they are men.

TERFs would have you swallow these beliefs; they're vital to maintaining the Core TERF Value that that trans people aren't Real and people with uteri are always helpless victims to be defended against evil men.

And as white supremacists their goal is to disrupt and destroy minority communities so that we are too divided to unify against legal attacks. TERFs do this from the inside out by putting bis/aces in a different category from the other queers while disguising their bigotry as feminist. They get us to voluntarily undermine and destroy our own movement this way by causing intercommunity "bi/ace discourse" that makes bis/aces out to be an enemy of "real" oppressed people (like transphobic lesbians for example)

Thirdly:

Lots of queer people are feminists which makes us easy targets and that's why they focus on the queer community. Additionally, the queer community has a history of being a threat to the white supremacist establishment so dividing us is vital to their goal of eventually wiping out anyone who isnt cis, straight, white, neurotypical, and able bodied

#asked #answered #white supremacy #whiteness #terf ideology #recognizing bigotry #terf bs #radfem bs #bigotry #equality #queer #lesbian #gay #bisexual #transgender #asexual #aromantic #exclusionist #solidarity #red flags to watch for #lgbtqia

[hellomynameisbisexual]

"We are challenging people to face their own external and internal biphobia. We are demanding attention. We are redefining 'anything that moves' on our own terms."

So declares the introduction to Anything That Movies, a bisexual zine that ran from 1991 to 2001. Founded by editor and photographer Karla Rossi, Anything That Moves got its name from the stereotype that bisexual people will sleep with "anything that moves," and it sought to redefine these and other assumptions about bi people in its decade-long run. Rossi didn't respond to Mashable's request for comment.

All 22 issues of Anything That Moves are now archived by a group of young bisexual people and allies. Not only does the archive introduce a new generation to a rare instance of bi-focused writing, but it's also shockingly relevant to issues bi people face today.

Discovering the bisexual zine

Snippets of the introduction have circulated the internet in recent years, and they're referred to as the ATM "manifesto" on its website. The words caught the attention of bi writer Kravitz Marshall, but he had never seen other material from the zine.

In 2020, Marshall found the Anything That Moves website, a relic of the early 2000s with an incomplete archive. He then bought issue #16 from Bolerium Books, a source for out-of-print books and material related to social movements. Marshall scanned each page of the issue and uploaded it online for free; he had planned on doing this for all issues of Anything That Moves, but acquaintances on a bisexual Discord server expressed interest in helping. The discussion grew so much that they created a separate server.

"It was the first time I became aware such a thing existed and I became very excited at the thought of finding and reading more copies," said Jo, a bi femme activist who became involved in the project and now helms the archive email.

The group found issue #2 via Reddit, but believed finding all the issues would be a difficult process — until a member of the now-inactive archive server was able to gather PDFs of every issue through her university library.

"It was thrilling and such a relief," Marshall told Mashable, "because had this not happened, we might've had to do it the hard and expensive way."

"It happened so fast," Jo recalled. "I just remember about seven bisexuals, including Krav and myself, putting our heads together to figure out the best way to get our hands on all these copies and how to share them with the rest of the LGBTQ community."

Now, the work of Marshall, Jo, and a group of bi people and allies is gathered in the archive.

Joy and heartbreak of Anything That Moves

Reading through the archive is, personally, an ambivalent experience. Anything That Moves began before I was even born, and I feel kindred reading this decades-old work; it's like reading discussions I've had with bi friends back to me. The articles, reviews, fiction, and poetry in discusses visibility, (non)monogamy, the inclusion of trans people in bisexuality — to name merely a few topics still pertinent today.

Despite the joy of reading this bi-centric work, however, it's telling how little has changed since 1991.

Jo, who grew up in a conservative area, found the zine refreshing and comforting. "Even when you discover/read/watch anything regarding LGBTQ history, it’s very rare for any specific focus to be given to the bisexual community," they said. "Finding Anything That Moves was a shock to my system."

Marshall was touched by the "unfiltered life" within its pages. "There's urgency, there's knowledge, there's joy, there's righteous rage, there's lust," Marshall said, "and you don't have to go searching between the lines for it — it grabs your shoulders and shakes you until you reach the back cover."

Despite the joy of reading this bi-centric work, however, it's telling how little has changed since 1991.

For Jo, the experience of reading Anything That Moves has been both special and heartbreaking. "A lot of the subject matter is stuff that the bi community has been dealing with forever," they said. "The same stereotypes and heterosexism that bisexuals faced nearly thirty years ago are still very prevalent today."

"It really hits you that virtually nothing has changed about the outside perception of bisexuality and bisexuals," Marshall agreed. "Almost every single issue we grapple with now is a hand-me-down."

He pointed to a piece in the inaugural issue called "This Poem Can Be Put Off No Longer" to display his point. Here are the first few stanzas:

The first several stanzas of "This Poem Can Be Put Off No Longer" by Susan Carlton, featured in the first issue of 'Anything That Moves.' Credit: Anything That Moves / Susan Carlton

The poem continues, but the point is clear from the start: Bisexual people aren't believed for who they are. They're belittled and told to "choose a side," that they're bisexual for attention. It's difficult to think that this poem is over 30 years old.

The poem "truly could've been written yesterday... or 50 years ago," said Marshall. "How long do we have to keep screaming the same things to the world over and over until people stop pretending we're speaking another galaxy's language?"

Stigma against bisexuality still persists today, and impacts people's lives: Bisexual people are more likely to be anxious and depressed; they're also more likely to experience intimate partner violence.

The stagnancy of the world's perception of bisexual people infuriates Marshall, he said, but it's imperative to still talk about these issues. "You can't just stop talking about these issues, so you just say the same things, because the world that needs to listen to you refuses to move on. And I'm not a fan of repeating myself," he said. "You just feel like you're going crazy."

The solace of Anything That Moves, however, is that even though progress has been slow, fellow bisexual people can relate to the shared experience detailed in its pages.

"How long do we have to keep screaming the same things to the world over and over until people stop pretending we're speaking another galaxy's language?"

After Jo came out, for example, they internalized that being bi made them "second-rate." They didn't feel welcome in cisheterosexual circles nor LGBTQ circles, a common feeling for bisexual people who feel like they're straddling both. Searching for issues of Anything That Moves, part of bisexual history, helped Jo connect with other bi people. Being able to meet others facing the same issues, and sharing this historical information and searching for more, has made the biggest impact on them and their identity.

"I don't feel as alone as I once did because bisexuals of today wanted to learn more about their bisexual elders," they said.

Those who have found the archive have also felt that connection. The archive team has received waves of emails, messages, and followers — some wanting to help, others thanking them.

"For the most part, people are just delighted to finally get to read the magazine," Marshall said.

Even this positive feedback echoes the sentiment of the time. Readers wrote to Anything That Moves, and some of those letters are published in subsequent issues. "You can see so clearly how life-changing these publications were to some people," Marshall said, "so thank God it was brought to the world."

"It's something I definitely needed when I was a closeted, bisexual teenager."

The archive has helped current bi readers ground in their bisexuality, Jo said. The archivists even connected with some former Anything That Moves editors, who discovered them through the project. "I'm just happy we got a chance to say thank you for everything they left for us to discover," Jo said.

There's still work to be done for the archive, like transcriptions for easier reading and sharing. Some people involved even planned on making an original virtual bi zine, Marshall said, but due to personal commitments, the idea fizzled out within months.

"I still hope it'll exist one day," Marshall said. "If by some miracle the future grants me that wish, I won't reveal its title, but I find it pleasantly cheeky."

For now, of course, there's nearly two-dozen issues of Anything That Moves. Jo believes the zine is a gift.

"I want to be able to share this gift with anyone else who may need it," they said. "It's something I definitely needed when I was a closeted, bisexual teenager."

#bisexuality #bisexual community #lgbtq community #lgbtq #bi #support bisexuality #lgbtq pride #pride #bi tumblr #bisexuality is valid #bisexual #bi pride #bisexual nation #bisexual pride #bisexual education #bisexual youth #support bisexual people #bisexual men #respect bisexual people #bisexual rights #magazine #bisexual woman #bisexual people

[waltywhitey]

🌟🌟 How the Breaking Bad crew would react to you coming out as trans 🥰🏳️‍⚧️🌟🌟

Notes: hi!!!! I'm a new writer and I just wanted to start with some breaking bad and better call Saul headcanons! Hope you enjoy!!!

Warnings: none

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✨ Walter White ✨

🔆 Apprehensive at first since he doesn't really understand gender

🔆 Grew up old fashioned but will eventually come around

🔆 He's a teacher so he has to be understanding and use your correct pronouns

🔆 He further explores LGBTQ+ issues and gender rights and is a proud ally

🔆 He attends Albuquerque's pride festival

✨ Jesse Pinkman ✨

🔆 He's your best friend since moving to Albuquerque

🔆 Once you tell him, he gets really excited about learning this

🔆 He's so happy that he shows you his top scars in solidarity

🔆 Jesse never told anyone that he's trans too -- bonding you both closer together

✨ Saul Goodman ✨

🔆 Doesn't understand pronouns or being gay

🔆 Admits that he was gay for a bit in highschool

🔆 He'll refer to you with your preferred pronouns so he doesn't lose you as a client

🔆 He will protect you against hate crimes

🔆 He will also fight for your right to gender affirming care

🔆 He also wears a trans pin next to his blue ribbon to tell other potential clients that he supports all the queers

✨ Gus Fring ✨

🔆 You are one of his employees and confide in him that another coworker called you a transphobic slur

🔆 Gus does not allow discrimination in the work place and has the coworker fired

🔆 He consoles you in his office and asks what your preferred pronouns are and promises to make sure everyone refers to you as such

🔆 During June, Gus has a special trans meal that comes with a free trans flag and all proceeds go to an LGBTQ+ organization

🔆 Los Pollos Hermanos also has a float in the Albuquerque pride festival

✨ Mike Ehrmantaut ✨

🔆 Silence

✨ Skyler White ✨

🔆 You're best friends with her son, Walt Jr.

🔆 She's seen you grow up so when you come out as trans she's a bit shocked

🔆 At first she'll ask how you know and forbid Flynn from hanging out with you

🔆 Her son bashes her for being transphobic and says that he is going to run away

🔆 Skyler calms down and thinks things through

🔆 Eventually she promises to not be transphobic around you

🔆 At first she'll struggle with your preferred pronouns but she'll get it

🔆 Over time she'll become an ally and be accepting when Walt Jr. comes out as bi

✨Marie Schrader✨

🔆 You come out to Marie and she is very supportive

🔆 Marie stole your goddamn estrogen pills

✨ Hank Schrader ✨

🔆 You're one of Marie's coworkers and best friend

🔆 She invites you over for dinner where you admit to them both that you are trans

🔆 Marie is very supportive but Hank looks at you with a face of confusion and disgust

🔆 He doesn't believe in more than two genders and that you can be a different gender than what you were born as

🔆 He refuses to use your preferred pronouns and tells Marie that he doesn't want you back in his house

🔆 Hank tells his coworkers about you and Gomez gets on to him for being transphobic

🔆 After awhile Hank is indifferent to you at the least and tries to use your preferred pronouns

🏳️‍⚧️💗 BOUNOS 💗🏳️‍⚧️

✨ Kim Wexler ✨

🔆 At first she'll be confused because she thought you were pansexual

🔆 You'll explain to her that gender and sexuality are different and she'll quickly catch on

🔆 Once you tell her your preferred pronouns, she'll immediately start using them

🔆 She'll research all about LGBTQ+ history and current issues and promises to fight against any hate crime related cases for you

🔆 As she furthers he studies of sexuality and gender, she later comes out as non-binary

✨ Lalo Salamanca ✨

🔆 He finds you hotter

✨ Nacho Varga ✨

🔆 You're a cousin of the Salamancas

🔆 You'll befriend him as he seems like the least menacing of Salamanca's men

🔆 After awhile, you'll come out to him and he'll be shocked at first but then happy

🔆 He congratulates you on this big step and that it wasn't easy coming out to a member of the cartel

🔆 He'll ask what your preferred pronouns are and uses them right away

🔆 He eventually asks you to join his polycule

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✨ Chuck McGill ✨

🔆 Dies

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✨ Howard Hamlin ✨

🔆 You work for HHM as a paralegal

🔆 Howard spots the paperwork for a name change on your desk and questions you

🔆 You come out as trans and he'll be gladly shocked

🔆 He'll ask what your preferred pronouns are and enforce them with the whole company

🔆 He'll even offer to drive you down to the court for you to finalize the name change

(Tumblr has a 10 images per post limit I'm sorry Nacho and Howard 💔)

#nacho varga x reader #lalo salamanca #nacho varga #lalo salamanca x reader #walter white #walter white x reader #breaking bad #breaking bad headcanons #headcanon #better call saul #better call saul headcanons #jesse pinkman #jesse pinkman x reader #gus fring #gus fring x reader #kim wexler #marie schrader #hank schrader #howard hamlin #saul goodman #saul goodman x reader #chuck mcgill #jimmy mcgill #x reader #imagine #🏳️‍⚧️

[blacksapphhicmaddonna]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH, ALPHABET MAFIA

just a few reminders:

- first pride was a riot

- black & BIPOC queer people are the foundation of our entire nation and the global culture

- we owe most of our rights and progress to BIPOC trans women/femmes and different communities of lesbians, trans/gnc folks and elders.

- trans people have always existed, they are ancient and indigenous to many cultures and places and are SACRED.

- I’m glad you’re here and there is community out there for you, waiting with open arms. Don’t give up just yet, please.

- rainbow capitalism isn’t liberation

- we are all we have, be fucking better to each other

- lesbians have done so much for lgbtqia+ people and should maybe idk stop being erased for no reason

- biphobia is real and just bc your ex cheated on you doesn’t make it bi folks fault, you’re projecting babe

- being queer doesn’t dissolve white privilege, pls touch grass

- be safe at pride. they’re coming for us all and we need to protect ourselves.

- not everyone wants to use the word queer/dyke/fag etc. I’m glad you reclaimed the slurs used against you, me too, but not everyone wants to and you need to respect that. LGBTQIA+* exists for a reason.

- the black and brown belong on the flag.

- the A is for asexual/romantic or agender, not ally.

- get some pussy (or whatever you do (or don’t do)) and make space for joy! because black/queer joy is revolutionary and fucking righteous just as much as our anger is, too

- Juneteenth coming up too, issa parade in my city fr

- asexuals/aromantics belong at pride. Period. Full stop.

- safe sex is the best sex

- get tested!

- it’s okay to not watch the news. america is hell, go take a nap

- people 100% know themselves better than you ever will, people are who they say they are and you don’t get to decide that for them. respect pronouns, identity, etc. or argue w ya mama/god/someone else cause it ain’t finna be me ❤️

- you deserve relationships that feel safe and actually are safe. Don’t settle.

- learn your queer history. they won’t teach us. they took our elders from us.

- Black LGBTQIA+* history IS Black History.

- we all need to be thankful to the house mothers and the ballroom scene and those who gave us what we have now, regardless of who you are.

- don’t call yourself a stud if you’re not BLACK. wit a capital B and at least one BLACK parent.

- not everyone is out. happiest of pride month to y’all. you’re still gang and we love you just as much. 💗

- our collective liberation lies in the fact that we are all tied to each other. if you’re down for the gays but not the theys, you’re not as decolonized as you think you are.

- shout out to fanfiction writers who have been single-handedly providing queer art/content/representation for years while the industry continues to make a mockery of us or intentionally leave us out. one thing we gonna do is help someone find their queer awakening, and get that story right. love us 🤪 go team

- your life means something. it’s important beyond comprehension. you look good. your ass is fat (if you want it to be). get the mullet as a lil treat.

- LGBTQIA+* people across the board have ALWAYS existed in literally every culture and every continent (and Antarctica counts if you count the cute lil gay penguins😌). Don’t let them tell you different. We are not a “mInOrItY”, we have been MINORITIZED. we are not small, we are great and mighty and have ALWAYS been here. And we always will. We exist in the future just as we have existed in the past. We stand on the shoulders of MASSIVE collective ancestors. If that’s not an indication to keep going, keep fighting, keep laughing, dancing, voguing, and keep showing up authentically - then I don’t know what is.

- it’s gonna be ok baby. pinkie promise.

#pride month #pri DEMON th #black sapphic #sapphic #nonbinary #gang fr #rainbow shit #alphabet mafia #gay shit boutta ensue fr #they/thems assemble #munch szn #pansexual ig

[outeremissary]

I was really sleepy when I was answering asks yesterday and I almost forgot to check if you were doing the problematic oc ask too!

Balth is your oc I’m most familiar with! But if they’ve already been asked tell me about whatever critter is infecting your brain most rn 👀💖

Ahh, I appreciate the ask!! Somehow, no one did ask about him!! At any rate, I feel like this blog is full of Balthazar's sympathetic moments and not his Chaotic Fucking Evil Moments, happy to finally correct that <3

Lies constantly

Vengeful

Selfish

Past history of gold digging

Former con artist

Endorsement of experiments on animals

Enjoys watching other people suffer

Loves making people worse

Willing to sell out friends when they cease to be useful

Told a suicidal man to do a flip on the way down

Made fun of a suicidal man's family's deaths

Invades woman's memories to see her at her most vulnerable, mocks her for it

In general just willing to kick anyone when they're down

Doesn't like Regongar's puns

Profited from infant sacrifice

Murdered his own cult

Lied about having a cult

Problematic trans rep?

Accepted demonic gifts multiple times

Supported two different Lamashtu cults

Really does unconditionally forgive Tristian

Sincerely thinks Tristian did nothing wrong

(except cause problems for him but see two points above)

Funded demonic library

Misappropriation of public funds for personal projects

Harboring smugglers

Has been called the worst and most evil person in the Stolen Lands multiple times

Had a cult dedicated to him being The Worst (until he murdered them, see above)

Recruits enemies terrorizing area to work for him

Leading on poor Sharel

Frequently manipulates others into killing on his behalf

Takes credit for the work of others

Refuses to help with camp chores

Troll alliance

Hates animals

Obnoxious PDA

Abuses aasimar heritage to take advantage of others' trust

The public executions

The secret executions

Comes from working class family, often uses his success to close opportunities for others instead of opening them

Jaethal minister

Belittles Regongar's mental health problems

Ghosts Regongar instead of breaking up with him

Mocks Linzi's writing constantly

Enchantment specialist. Mind control is the way <3

Endorsement of experiments on nonconsenting wererats

Identity theft

Identity theft coverup

Asshole southern elitist, frequently belittles local culture as backwards

Propaganda

Lying to the public about a plague

Gaslighting rioters into fighting each other

24 year old bullying a 17 year old... Lander Lebeda is literally a minor

Plus that's just high key pathetic

The murders

The assassinations

Doesn't like dessert :(

Funding foreign dissidents

Endorsement of troll torture

Bad at communicating emotional needs

Using other people as shields in combat

Will throw anyone under the bus for anything

Really only heals Tristian in combat

Supports filicide for dark ritual purposes

His friendship with Jaethal in general

Problematic bi rep?

Attempted to recreate Bloom

Everything that happened during the Divorce Era

There's probably still a warrant out for him in Absalom

Due to [redacted]

Defacing a priceless historic tome (only known copy)

Anyone can die if it's for Tristian's sake

Sells out allies when they stop being convenient

Surtova supporter

Covering up Lander's death

Lander Undeath Incident

Torture is fine

I'm not even sure he seriously thinks torture works he's just horrible

Bread and circuses babyyyyyy

Mean to Nok-Nok

Literally kicked a dog

And there's an incomplete list of Balthazar Crimes! I'm sure I'm missing so, so much but honestly he's problematic more than he's not so. You know.

[prompt]

#because of timing I actually thought for some reason you sent the Kas anon asdfjoiasd #ask game #ask me emithing #balthazar lucienne #bearvanhelsing #cw suicide mention #god. the balthazar crimes requiring me to add that. #the kas crime list is so long but the balthazar crime list is Longer.

[gatheringbones]

[“I believe that many people who embrace TERF ideology, which conflates sex with gender and is ultimately a gender essentialist ideology, have been hurt by a rigid gender binary. Unfortunately rather than realizing the impact of settler colonial, patriarchal, misogynistic oppression, people who embrace TERF ideology view trans people as part of the problem and often even as “oppressors.” Instead of viewing the rigid policing of bodies as the issue, they adopt a rigid conceptualization of gender based on biology and conflate genitals with identity and experience.

This seems to be a manifestation of the roots of white Anglo feminism in many ways. If the baseline for the feminist movement is a cis white, often but not exclusively straight, woman, then anyone who does not fall in these categories deviates from the norm. Just as the early white Anglo feminist movement did not include Black and Brown women—as indicated by the history of suffragettes and the writing of many Black feminists and the creation of womanism—and later struggled to include lesbian and bi women, it is still struggling to expand to include anyone who is impacted by patriarchal, cisgenderist and rigid binary views of gender.

Some aspects of white feminism are so contracted, due to historical trauma, that expansion seems not only undesirable but dangerous. This can be viewed in the rhetoric used by many TERFs, which evokes images of rape, assault and general danger to instil a sense of fear towards trans and/or nonbinary people and our allies. As I have written in an article on “Gender and Sexual Legitimacy” in 2015 (p.105): trans bodies then seem to become the battlefield on which the expansion of our conceptualization of gender seems to be played, as Stryker points out in her essay on Biopolitics where she discusses trans as a category to be monitored by the biopower, which is actively invested in promoting and maintaining normativity in all bodies, including trans bodies.

Rhetoric of fear is often a tool used to contain, mainstream and keep people in line with the status quo. It is understandable that if we feel under threat, we might want to not rock the boat. We might prefer keeping things stable and protecting ourselves through both a freeze and contracted response in our soma. It is no accident that TERF ideology seems to be so closely aligned with what many BIPOC feminists have clearly labeled white feminism.”]

alex iantaffi, from gender trauma: healing cultural, social, and historical gendered trauma, 2020

#alex iantaffi #trans literature #white feminism #history stuff #gender stuff #currently reading

[pansy-byke]

Who wants to see some neat stuff I found poking around the Bi Women Quarterly archives

"Bistory at the Lesbian Herstory Archives"

"I talked with Joan about the principles behind the LHA and her vision of its future. She said that the LHA is dedicated first and foremost to being a lesbian space.

When I asked her what she meant by "lesbian" she offered "any woman who has at some time in her life loved another woman" She also remarked that she would rather err on theside of inclusivity than be too exclusive, which explains the large collection of materials relevant to both lesbians and gay men(such as the Gay Community News), feminist materials, and a small but growing collection of materials on bisexuality. For Joan, the mission of the LHA is "to preserve the multiplicity of lesbian presentations." There is something of interest here for any woman who identifies herself as a dyke, a feminist, a mother, a butch or a femme, a prostitute, a worker in a traditional or a non-traditional occupation, a practitioner of S&M, a woman of color, a Jew, a witch, a teenager or an olderwoman, a closeted woman or an activist, a bisexual, an artist, and the list goes on. The sheer amount and variety of the stuff is testimony to the diversity of the lesbian experience and the vitality of lesbian communities"

A poem "Here I Am" by latina bi dyke Laura Perez

"we dream a world

which bridges the barriers,

i, this

bi-coastal, bisexual

dyke of color

have living proof

the distance is

not so great"

Here's the whole thing go check it out

I also found a bi femme and trans lesbian butch couple- and my freakin heart I wish them the most wonderful things wherever they ended up in life

"How I Learned to Love My Femme Self, Butch Dykes, and Transgender Warriors" by Liz Nania

"Laurie honored my bisexuality and I honored her proud trans butchness. We often felt like poster girls for Bi-Trans Unity. She stood up for me to her separatist-lesbian friends who were disapproving of her dating a bi woman; I stood up for her when I heard trans-phobic remarks- We both know bisexuals and transgendered people are truly natural allies and need to celebrate and further develop our bonds i the community"

And here's a lesbian identified bisexual talking about assumptions

"Dont Assume Anything" by Amy Wyeth.

"They say, "Don't Assume Anything" and "Question Au- thority." No one, including gays, bis and hetero- sexuals, should assume anything about someone's sexual preference based only on the way that person looks. Everyone should question the notions defined or perpetuated by those in positions of authority (e.g. the media, certain powerful icons/members of gay culture, and cer- tain dangerous bigots) as to what a lesbian or bisexual woman looks like. Not all of us feel we are well represented by such narrow definitions."

Just goes to show how timeless the bi witticism of Assume Nothing! really is. I highly recommend just perusing through the archives or even the current isues there's loads of interesting history

#just tossing stuff i did on twitter here so it doesn't get lost forever when it dies lol #bi history #queer history #lesbian history #bi women quarterly #butch femme #butch/femme #butch #femme #trans history #lesbian herstory archives #bi lesbian #bi dyke #bi femme

[cock-holliday]

Yknow when I was in high school I, along with the only out lesbian and only out gay man in our year, helped form our school’s first GSA. I thought I was cishet at the time and just an ally, and then knew I was bi and was in a “gay relationship” with someone who did not go to school with us, so I was closeted to anyone besides my friends. All of the rest of the membership was “straight” as far as we knew.

Our advisor was also straight but enthusiastic. She meant well but she would pick out people she thought might join the group and thought to pull them from class to ask and we had to explain why that was a terrible idea. We all got shit for being in the club. The out gay kids got it so much worse.

Then on the flip side, a good friend of mine seemed very gay. I was out to my circle and was selfishly proud of my gaydar for being able to pick up that he was queer. We three tried to nudge him to come out. It was like we had found him out and of course we wouldn’t judge, so we prodded and poked and “your secret is safe with us.” It was hypocritical of me to try to get the answer I was looking for privately, while also being closeted publicly. He didn’t owe me anything and yet being In with the queers made me feel like I should get him to confirm he was One Of Us.

Then suddenly he stopped replying jokingly with our prods and grew very uncomfortable and quiet instead. We backed off with the change, but really shouldn’t have been so forward to begin with.

He was one of the first people I came out to as trans years later, and he confided in me that he WAS queer, but a friend he disclosed to outed him to his parents and it forced him so deeply back into the closet. My trio would never have outed him to his family, but we were hardly any better with pressuring him. Hints he was welcome to share was one thing, badgering him was another. Then someone wore him down and betrayed his trust, making it impossible for him to come out before moving away for college.

We wanted more community in our tiny town, we wanted him to be part of that secret inner circle, and we all knew how miserable it was to be closeted. We had good intentions and yet still had no right to try to force someone to adhere to our timeline. And because he trusted someone to share his identity before he was ready, he ended up in a much worse place than if he just continued at his own pace!

I graduated high school 10 years ago. This isn’t ancient history.

My county never instilled protections for LGBT folks and friends of mine got told to their face they got fired for being gay. Matthew Shepard was killed in a hate crime in the early 2000s and for my entire growing up his name was wielded like a threat. People were afraid to “end up like matt shepard.”

Friends of mine still had to elope to another state to marry when we were adults because marriage equality wasn’t a thing in our state. Marriage equality nationally has only been a thing since 2015!

The risks and danger are not some bygone era now since 2015–it is real and tangible and still an issue! And that’s “just” being a gay man. Outing people can be life-ruining. It can be deadly. “Gay-bashing” is still a thing! We have no right to force someone to come out, not publicly, and still not privately!

It is not our choice no matter how progressively you spin it!

#LJsm

[sheisanimposter]

My rapidly changing thoughts on Ttpd clues (and on some of y’all’s behavior)

The twos, the black and white contrasts, and the nods to past albums feel like a symbol for duality, life and death, dying and rebirth

If that’s the theme of just one album, the up and down books could be the ups and downs of grief, titles of songs that represent moments of despair vs hope

If there is a dual album release, I wonder if it’s an evermore folklore sisterhood album situation where after grief comes hope etc, a quill fountain pen album before a glitter pen album release

Maybe she’s releasing the albums 2 weeks apart, a fortnight, and maybe that’s got other symbolism behind it

I think 2 more albums would bring her to 13, yes? Maybe a new release + reptv on dec 13?

Her bday also makes sense with death and birth themes

2 more albums and then she moves on to whatever her rebirth is? New stage in her career? Marriage? (Though tbh I don’t see Travis as her endgame sorry)

Everything about my knowledge of literature and art history screams that the fertility goddess crumbling is about more than a passing witty lyric, it feels like a symbol for miscarriage or abortion

While I doubt she’d write about abortion due to the safety risk of insane half literate forced birthers while she’s on tour, it would be so so so incredibly powerful to hear a song about complex abortion or miscarriage grief with how republicans are harming women/afab folx in the US right now

Realistically the symbol of crumbling fertility could more likely represent how she can’t wait to move on to the next phase of her life or career without crumbling / she started to crumble when she put her own goals off, it’s giving “my biological clock is ticking” which as a woman about her age I can say is a VERY real feeling even outside of fertility topics (it’s a mid life check in point) , but she probably doesn’t mean it quite so literally as being related to fertility.

She’s not coming out. As a bisexual I’d love her on our team, but y’all are unhinged if you think this is a “surprise I’m queer/trans” album. Even if she was queer I highly doubt she’d make that announcement during an international tour for safety alone. It’s also incredibly offensive as a bi woman to hear people say she’s staying neutral to queer bait or appease people when all she’s done is date who she is (at least publicly) comfortable dating. That is her prerogative, even if she’s attracted to more than one gender. This kind of rhetoric is not only biphobic but disregards the very real safety risks involved with coming out, especially as a celebrity with as many eyes on her as Taylor. Do all allies have to become queer to be safe from queer bait accusations? Come on. Stop putting her in a box where the only way she can please you is by being queer.

The leaks? Yes she’s a billionaire, yes physical record purchases help, but you’re taking away from her numbers and therefore the immense social and economic power she currently holds. Streams = numbers = power in a corporation run society. Every leak you play or promote is one less stream. It’s not that hard to understand, if you want her to keep making waves ya gotta wait like a grown up my darlings

#taylor swift #taylornation #gaylors #ttpd #ts ttpd #ttpd predictions #swifties

[wonderingwhereiam]

Resources:

Mental health resources

International LGBTQIA+ resources

International list of LGBTQIA+ helplines

More international LGBTQIA+ resoruces

Map of informed consent gender clinics *US

Lesbian, sapphic and wlw:

Am I a lesbian?

What does sapphic mean?

Safe sex and health for wlw and wsw

The D-slur

Butch / Femme

His and herstory of butch and femme

In defense of nonbinary lesbianism

Gay men, mlm and men who have sex with men:

I think I might be gay

Gay men and masculinity

The F-slur

Trans men becoming attracted to men

STI info for men who have sex with men

Straight but in love with a man?

Straight men who have sex with men

Bi, pansexual and other multisexualities:

Bi 101

The bisexual manifesto

Difference between bisexual and pansexual

What does pansexual mean?

Pansexual? Omnisexual? Polysexual?

Gender identity, expression and transition:

How do I know I'm trans?

You don't need gender dysphoria to be trans

Nonbinary but not trans?

Not cis. Not trans. Genderqueer.

Information on hormone replacement therapy

Explaination of gender and trans terminology

A book on trans history

Queer and questioning:

About the term "queer"

The queer nation manifesto

Questioning

Questioning and other resources

Intersex:

What is intersex?

Asexuality:

What is asexuality?

Asexuals and sex

Labels:

The split attraction model

Sexuality beyond L, G, B and Q

Unlabeled people and pomosexuality

Labels or no labels?

Nonmonogamy and polyamory:

General polyamory resources

Nonmonogamy and polyamory

Safe sex with multiple partners

Red flags in polyamorous partners

Is polyamory part of the LGBT+?

Normativity:

Heteronormativity and cisnormativity

Allonormativity and amatonormativity

Compulsive heterosexuality

Current LGBTQIA+ issues:

Puberty blockers

Should minors be allowed to transition?

Trans people in sports

LGBTQ+ "panic" defense

Conversion therapy

Countries that criminalize LGBTQIA+

LGBTQIA+ rights and equality by state

Misc:

No police at pride

Being an LGBTQIA+ ally

How to support your transitioning partner

Is not wanting to have sex with trans people transphobic?

Falling in love with someone at odds with your sexuality

LGBTQIA+ and intersectionality

HISTORY AND OTHER RESOURCES

#lgbtqia+ #lgbt #resources #flag edits #wondering #pride flags #trans #gay #lesbian #asexual #aromantic #bisexual #pansexual #nonbinary #queer #intersex

[posi-pan]

Random question, but do you (or does anyone following you) sometimes get sad to see campaigns created to combat queerphobia, but they never talk about anything outside of the big 4? I found out today is “International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia” and while I’m so very happy that things like this exist at all, I had a momentary flash of sadness at the realization that anyone who isn’t gay/lesbian, trans or bi is likely going to be left out of the conversation. And that happens to me pretty often.

I always feel guilty for it, because I know it’s important for these things to exist at all. I’m happy to see them existing! I’m happy to see so many people show support of the lgbt+ community, whether they’re a part of it or just allying with us. I love seeing that always regardless of the cause! But sometimes it is just… disheartening to see that pansexuality is never included in these discussions. And if a pan person tries to join, they’re labeled as -phobic and attention seeking or told they’re derailing.

In the case of today, I do understand why it’s not about us. And I know we have plenty of community-made days to celebrate all identities in the community, and I love that too!! But. Idk. Sometimes I just get a little sad knowing we’re not really included in the big stuff. It’s like, no wonder people don’t care about us. They don’t know about us! And when they learn, odds are they’re hearing about us from panphobic resources, so then they hate us. It just sucks.

honestly, it’s not that days like this aren’t about us, it’s that most people think homophobia, transphobia, and biphobia cover everything.

in the case of international day against homophobia, transphobia, and biphobia, it wasn’t originally called that. it was originally international day against homophobia in 2005. transphobia was added to the name in 2009. biphobia was added in 2015.

and this is true of a lot of names of organizations and events. for example:

the national lgbtq task force was originally the national gay task force in the ’70s, then lesbian was added in the ’80s, and now it’s lgbtq.

the lgbtq+ victory fund was originally the gay and lesbian victory fund in the ’90s, it changed to the lgbtq victory fund in 2018, and this year the plus sign was added.

the glbt historical society was originally gay and lesbian in the ’80s-'90s and changed to its current name in the late ’90s.

the bay area bisexual network was founded in the ’80s and changed their name in 2019 to the bay area bi+ and pan network.

in ’93, bisexuals campaigned to be included in the name of the march on washington, which since the ’70s only included gay and lesbian

lgbt history month was originally gay and lesbian history month in the ’90s

pride month in the ’90s-’00s was gay and lesbian pride month, ’00s-’10s it was lgbt pride month, and in ’10s-’20s lgbtq+ pride month (this is based off government recognition of the month, there have been too many names for pride days/parades/month to list here)

even lgbtqia+ was originally just gay, then gay and lesbian, lgb in the ’80s, and lgbt in the late ’80s-’90s. and all the other variations followed.

so it’s pretty shitty that the people who make pan folks feel bad or guilty for wanting to be included and say we’re derailing had to advocate for their own inclusion in the first place. if they can campaign for language that includes them, why can’t we? why is it “this isn’t meant to include you” for us, but with others it’s “this should include you”? and if all these events and organizations can update their names/titles once or even more than once to reflect the evolving nature of our community and language, why couldn’t they do it again?

all this to say, you are definitely not alone in feeling sad or bothered by general queer things not mentioning or including anyone beyond the main four. and most importantly, you shouldn’t feel bad or guilty about wanting to be included things like this, and you definitely shouldn’t believe the idea that general queer things (such as idahtab) just aren’t for you. speaking about things like this is what gets language updated, as shown. so, keep speaking up about it (if you’re comfortable doing so, of course), who knows what changes could be made in the future?

#asks #anonymous #pansexual #pan antagonism #reference #long post

[brokenfoxproductions]

It just dawned on me that, since I came out as non-binary and trans to my mom almost ten years ago, her attitude has gone from saying "you can call yourself whatever you want, but I had a daughter and I'm calling you what I named you" to her and my stepdad referring to me as their kid or son, always using my preferred name and pronouns, and my mom offering me her advice as a nurse and lawyer on where to get hrt and how to get my insurance to pay for surgeries because of our family history of breast cancer.

Like, my mom has always been pretty open minded to neutral about things like this, she's suggested before that she might be bi, she took me to my first pride, she's has been an ally to the LGB part of the community, so I'm glad that she outgrew the ideas about trans people that she had when I was younger. Basically she thought that trans people could only exist as straight binary trans men or women, and that they're basically full time drag performers, because she had only met two or three trans people before I came out and they were all older straight trans women who had previously done drag. She didn't understand what "non-binary" was, it wasn't in her vocabulary at all.

When I came out as non-binary, and later demi-masculine, she basically just thought it was another social label, similar to me being a juggalo. She saw me being non-binary as just shaving my head and having a phase, and really didn't take it seriously. She was under the impression that it would just blow over in a few months. Then it didn't.

I'm not sure if it's because I socially transitioned, because she got more information, because she just "got it", but eventually she got used to it and accepted it. She started using the right name and didn't make a big deal about it, even though she's been vocal since I was a 4 that she didn't like it (I changed my name to a longer, proper version of a childhood nickname but I still go by the same nickname). She stopped calling me "she" and her daughter, even to her friends. It was gradual, but she really got better with it.

Obviously not every parent is going to warm up to you being trans like my mom did. I don't think my dad would have accepted it if he was still alive. But there's hope. So if you just came out and your parents are still confused or not understanding of your gender identity, please don't give up hope. People grow and change, and hopefully you can look back in ten years and see how much your parents tried and grew as people, and hopefully your relationship with them is better. 💗

And if your parents are just shitty, I'll adopt you. I'm your mom now.

#trans #transgender #lgbtqia #transmasc #trans man #ftm #nonbinary #non binary #enby #tw mention of transphobia and ignorance #it gets better in the end though #coming out #trans acceptance #trans ally #allyship #family relationships #lgbt #lgbtq positivity #trans positivity

[bisexual-femme]

online queer communities are so grossly bimisic and i'm tired of pretending that they're not.

they blame bi people for transmisia when the majority of trans people are bi. they harass us for using terms that we've always been allowed to use. they call us things like halfbians and bihets and then get mad when we reclaim those terms. they blame bi people for men harassing lesbians and trans people instead of.. you know.. the men themselves. they defend lesbian separatism and spew bullshit about how bi lesbians were actually supported by terfs and that we should be grateful that lesbian separatism let bi people have their own communities. they NEVER acknowledge the fact that terfs want to drop the B as well as the T. they're so fucking weird about bi women who date men and bi men who date women, especially the former because they are misogynistic as fuck. they expect bi people to be doormats for mono lesbians and gays, they expect us to be the perfect allies who never defend ourselves when they spread bullshit about our history, but they've never supported us for a day in their life.

we could give y'all a whole fruit platter and you'd get mad at us for co-opting the word "fruity."

#biphobia #bimisogyny #monosexism #bimisia