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Breath Play 101

This text below is courtsey of Reddit because I couldn't really make a better document about this. So if you're interested in breath play, PLEASE read the following below.

There is no safe way to do breath play, period. You risk death and serious injury, every, single, time. Below is an in depth discussion of different methods to engage in breath play. It goes over in depth anatomy and risks of each type of breath play. A "blood choke" when you apply pressure to the blood vessels and not the windpipe is just as dangerous, if not more so than applying pressure to the wind pipe due to how anatomy and physiology work in this area of the body.

The complete Manual of Breathplay BY DUNTER EDITION S.LECLERC

Page 1 The goal of this manual is to provide information, not to encourage or discourage people from engaging in breathplay. I do not take any responsibility for any practice inspired by this manual. This is not a training guide, reference manual, or compendium. The practices mentioned below can lead to serious injuries or even death. I hope this book will inform you about some of the most dangerous BDSM practices, and help you and your community recognize the risks associated with these activities. Word from the author: Who I am and why I wrote this book

Firstly, I am not a doctor, black belt martial practitioner or a professional in breathplay. Therefore, readers should not take the knowledge presented in this book as absolute truth, and must conduct their own research. However, I have witnessed the tragic loss of many friends who engaged in breathplay activities, and my goal in writing this book is to save lives by sharing my knowledge and experiences.

Prior to conducting breathplay classes, I conducted extensive research on the topic and provided awareness on the dangers this practice can pose. Additionally, I have been involved in the BDSM community for many years, and have attended conventions across Canada and the United States, learning from a wide variety of people and classes related to this domain.

As an ex-military personnel and martial arts enthusiast, I have knowledge in areas that are not commonly discussed or shared, and I believe this information can be valuable to others.

I truly believe that sharing my knowledge is better than simply saying, 'Don't do it.' It's important to understand how and why something is dangerous so that we can explain how to mitigate risks as effectively as possible.

Page 2 Introduction What is Breathplay? Breathplay encompasses various activities within the realm of BDSM. For the purposes of this manual, breathplay refers to controlling the flow of air or blood. These activities range from choking to strangulation and are generally considered dangerous. When engaging in breathplay, you are playing with a vital aspect of your body's function, and some of these activities have resulted in fatalities in the past.

What are people seeking by engaging in breathplay, also known as erotic asphyxiation, and why do they do it? This activity has been present in the kink community for a long time, but it is not exclusive to fetish environments as both young and older individuals participate in it for various reasons. There are different motives that drive people to engage in erotic asphyxiation, ranging from experimenting with fear to psychological needs, while others are interested in physical sensations such as having a hand on their throat. Some individuals seek to experience passing out, while others are drawn to the effects produced by hypoxia. For some, the experience of waking up confused after the pass-out effect is what they desire. Thus, people use it to satisfy different needs, from physical sensations to mind games.

What is the danger and what is the safe way to participate in breathplay? Firstly, it is important to understand that breathplay carries inherent dangers and cannot be considered safe under any circumstances. Even those who are experienced in such activities cannot completely eliminate the risk of accidents occurring. The body may react differently to the practice and may be damaged as a result. Accidents can occur from both direct and indirect application of these techniques, and cumulative use can lead to long-term harm.

Those participating in breathplay may seek the feeling of hypoxia, caused by a decrease in the concentration of oxygen in the air. The air we breathe contains approximately 20% oxygen, and when the oxygen concentration falls below 10-15%, individuals may experience a state similar to drunkenness. This affects judgment and coordination, making it dangerous to continue the activity. Those who attempt to push through this state are at an increased risk of accidents and may be unable to recognize their limitations.

Many cases of individuals dying in relation to breathplay occurred when they were alone. With impaired judgment and coordination, such scenarios become accidents waiting to happen. It is vital that those engaging in breathplay do so with the assistance of a trusted partner who can monitor their physical and mental state, and intervene if necessary.

Page 3 FIRST RULE: NEVER DO THESE THINGS ALONE. At oxygen levels lower than 10%, we may experience a loss of consciousness, and levels lower than 8% can result in death. Please keep this in mind, especially if you are using bagging or rebreather techniques. Different methods, such as a change in blood pressure, can trigger the "passing out" effect. The lack of oxygen can also cause the body to react by shutting down non-vital activities to try to protect itself. Some people may enjoy the comeback effect, such as confusion. The sensation of passing out under control is intense and may include tunnel vision, loss of all senses, and loss of muscular control.

The definition of edge-play involves playing with someone's life, which is not legal in Canada. It is prohibited to give permission to be injured or hurt. Therefore, if such activities result in a person's death, it would be considered manslaughter even if the individual provided consent. When deciding to engage in such activities, please consider the impact on loved ones or dependents. Additionally, most fetish events, like dungeons, do not permit edge-play due to the potential danger involved. Please check the local rules and regulations of the venue to confirm whether edge-play and breathplay are allowed.

Before attempting breathplay Before attempting breathplay, questioning is an important part of negotiation. Common sense medical inquiries should be made, such as asking about any issues with blood pressure, breathing, or heart conditions. It's also important to ask about the sought type of activity, the desired effect, any limits the person may have, and how to communicate the safe word or signal to stop. If the person has consumed alcohol or caffeine, this could impact their body and change their blood pressure. Additionally, it's important to ask about any previous experience with these activities and the person's age, as engaging in edge or breathplay at ages 20-30 is not the same as doing so at 50-80. If there are any factors that increase the risks associated with these activities, it's best to try something else.

Before engaging in any risky activities such as breathplay, it is advisable to take a First Aid and CPR class in case of emergencies. It is better to be prepared for the worst than to be caught off guard if something goes wrong. These activities require your undivided attention, so stay focused at all times and avoid taking breaks. Leaving someone unattended during these activities is considered irresponsible, and if they cannot help themselves, you will be held accountable for any harm that may come to them. It is crucial to monitor their level of consciousness by observing their "thinkable reactions", such as giving an answer to a question or holding a limb in a particular position, their eye movements, breathing, and grip on objects - especially when lighting conditions are unclear.

Page 4 Anatomy The larynx is our airway and is made of cartilage, which can be damaged by pressure. If a foreign object is placed in the mouth, it can trigger the gag reflex, resulting in light coughing or even vomiting. The Adam's apple should also be avoided when applying pressure, as it can cause discomfort. The carotid arteries, located on both sides of the airway, provide blood flow to the brain and have a sinus with a baroreceptor that controls heart pressure. Consistent pressure on the carotid sinus can cause the heart to slow down or even stop. Backup arteries in the spine provide 30% of blood flow to the brain, making it crucial to understand how the lungs work and how pressure on the abdomen can make breathing difficult. Body modifications such as implants, surface piercings, and dermal piercings can cause issues with this type of play. Two nervous systems, sympathetic and parasympathetic, play a crucial role in the body's functioning.

When conscious, you have control over certain bodily functions, such as breathing. However, when you lose consciousness, your nervous system relies on mechanical information to keep working. For example, if you're underwater and holding your breath, but you pass out, your nervous system will try to make you breathe in water. It's important to note that every person's body is unique, with individual differences accounting for up to 15% of variance, from the shape of their ear to the complete inversion of their internal organs. Just because you know where something is located on one person doesn't mean it's in the exact same place on another.

Before engaging in any activity, make sure you have the proper tools and equipment, like safety shears, in case an issue arises. It's also a good idea to have a charged cell phone nearby to quickly call for medical assistance if needed. Additionally, always have a first aid kit and use common sense.

It's crucial to recognize the effects that come with breathplay and use them as indicators to stop or take a break. For instance, if someone experiences headaches, it may be a sign to stop the activity. Petechia, which is characterized by blood traces in the white of the eyes or on the skin due to ruptured blood vessels, is a well-known effect of breathplay.

If someone experiences an atypical effect, such as memory loss, during the activity, stop immediately and consult a healthcare professional. Breathplay involves controlling someone's breathing. One way of doing this is by manipulating the cycle of respiration. Many marksmen have learnt how to control their breathing patterns to improve their accuracy. People can hold their breath for some time before releasing the air. If you prevent them from taking another breath, panic and fear will swiftly take over. It is important to note that the cycles of respiration speed up when the cardio kicks in from stress and fear. Understanding this is crucial in breathplay. You

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You need to be aware that your partner needs to breathe, but you should also know when to stop them from doing so. Avoid blocking their exhales too forcefully. This is known as the Valsalva manoeuvre. Instead, focus on playing mind games to control their breathing, rather than intentionally causing hypoxia or hyperventilation.

Technical

-Valasalva maneuver: This technique is known to people who dive or use airplanes. The goal is to balance the pressure in the ears by blowing through an obstructed nose when the mouth is closed. This technique, when pushed to the extreme, can have negative effects, so never block the exhalation of air of someone.

-Gag reflex: The gag reflex is activated when a foreign object that represents a risk to breathing safety is detected by the body. The reflex can range from coughing to vomiting until the obstruction is cleared. This is important to understand when playing with objects in the mouth, such as ball gags or other toys of that type. Some ball gags have holes in the ball that allow saliva to flow out, but some do not.

-Thumb versus tongue: A swinger who likes breathplay during sex taught this technique to me. It should not leave any marks. Place both hands as if strangling someone, with fingers on each side of the neck. Then, raise your thumbs to place them where the tongue is, under the chin and one inch below it. Push up in that direction toward the throat to make breathing more difficult but not impossible. Do not put pressure on the neck or trachea.

-Face sitting: This can be a dangerous thing to do since you cannot see the face of the person. Always use other ways to verify your partner’s consciousness. The obstruction can be done from the front (vagina smothering) or even with the buttocks of a person. It can be done clothed or naked, and some materials like latex can add a layer of fun to this kind of play. Also, consider the weight of the person doing the sitting.

-Nose blowing: I always see this as a punishment. Blowing in someone's nose, like canine mouth-to-mouth, can give some people unpleasant sensations. Be careful not to over-pressurize your blow.

-Bathing cap: Latex can be used to create a sensory deprivation experience, however, it's important to ensure the person can breathe comfortably throughout the play. It is recommended to allow them to take deep breaths before applying the cap, and to only use it for a short duration.

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-Smothering: Smothering can be a light form of play, however, it's important to be mindful of the need for air during intimate moments. Blocking the nose can increase the effects of oxygen deprivation, but it's crucial to not block the exhale. Some individuals may enjoy using gloves during this type of play.

-Positional asphyxia: This is a highly dangerous form of play that has been used to torture and kill people in the past. It is vital to avoid any form of play that could result in the restriction of breathing or harm to the individual. Examples of ties that can potentially lead to this effect include the ebi-tie, full body suspension by the wrist, crucifixion, and hogtie. It's of utmost importance to prioritize safety during BDSM play and to only engage in activities with proper knowledge and consent.

-Compression: Breathplay through compression can be executed in numerous ways. For instance, sitting or placing a knee on someone's belly can restrict their breathing, while compression ties that compress the thoracic cage can have the same effect but take more time to execute and undo. Additionally, some people may feel that corsets are effective when it comes to compression. However, it's critical to remember when to undo these methods. It's worth noting that in certain choking games, kids often force hyperventilation before having their chest pressed against a wall. When they release, the change of pressure can cause them to pass out, which can be extremely perilous due to the fall that follows.

-Belly compression with legs or scissors-legs: Compression on the belly can make it harder to breathe. In some antiquated cultures, putting rocks on the belly was a type of torture that led to death. This practice can be just as risky as the others, but it's relatively quick to undo. It's important to be careful not to apply too much pressure on the ribs or bladder and to aim for the mid-belly.

-Gas Mask: As a former military individual, I am aware that gas masks can be used in breathplay. They make breathing more difficult due to their filter. A hose can be added to aid with the play. Blocking the intake is simple, and you can observe the mask approaching the face as a result of the vacuum. Some individuals use the hose to experiment with various scents or for sensation play. The masks offer limited visibility on the person's face who is wearing it, hence, it's important to monitor their consciousness carefully.

-Re-breather: These are bags that go along with some gas masks. They recycle the air, which becomes increasingly low in oxygen concentration, creating the buzz of hypoxia. While these games can be thrilling, they are also highly dangerous. Some re-breathers come as part of latex equipment, which means that the visibility of the user's face may not always be optimal.

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-Tape: Playing with tape can be popular for smothering play, pictures, and videos; however, it's important to be cautious of potential indirect effects. Sometimes, people can have allergic reactions to the glue on the tape, and removing it can be difficult. For a safer option, 3M Microfoam tape is recommended, as it is soft and easy to remove with less toxic glue than duct tape. Non-adhesive tapes that stick to themselves can also be used, but keep safety shears nearby just in case.

-Saran wrap (plastic wrap): Saran wrap can be used for breath play, but it's recommended to wrap it around the nose up so that the person can still breathe through their mouth. To create a blindfold, tape can be used over the Saran wrap. If you want to have control over the person's breathing, cut a small square that can be removed as needed. When removing the wrap, cutting it on the side of the head is best, being careful with hair.

-Bagging with a hard bag: Using a plastic bag over the head can be overwhelming, so hard bags are recommended. These can be secured to the head using tape, or nonsticky tape. As with rebreathing, the circulation of air can lower oxygen concentration in the bag. Hard bags can have a hole cut at the top to let air in or suck air out. This hole can also be used for cigar smoke or to fill the bag with water, which is very scary. Be cautious of condensation inside the bag that can decrease visibility.

-Bagging with a soft bag: Hotel mini garbage bags are a strong option for this type of play. Inflate the bag slightly before placing it over the head and closing it at the neck. This creates a scarier sensation as the bag gets closer to the face. Rebreathing is dangerous, so use caution when playing with this technique.

-Gags: Gags are a common item in many sex shops. Some are very basic, such as ball gags, while others are shaped like a small penis. Most do not have holes for drooling, but some have large holes that allow for breathing. The important thing to watch out for is the gag reflex, and you should always be prepared to monitor any issues that may arise with these implements.

-Kiss of death: The Kiss of Death is a romantic way to engage in breath play. When sealing lips with your partner, you can control the flow of air by blocking their nose with your hand. You can breathe through your own nose and give your partner some of your air, or you can steal some of their breath for a short moment of sensation play. It's important to ensure that your partner does not panic in this position.

-Hyperventilation: Hyperventilation can lead to passing out and is a dangerous activity. Some school choking games involve hyperventilation, then you get into a ball position and then rapidly rise to your feet. This can be dangerous due to the risk of falling.

-Nose plugs: Similar to those used for swimming, nose plugs are used to simply block the nose. They become a part of breath play when coupled with kissing or fellatio.

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-Latex band: Latex bands come in different sizes and are used by the Top to block breathing for a moment. The band takes the shape of the face and seals the area it is applied to.

Breathplay: Blood

Breathplay: Blood Strangulation, in this sense, is about altering the amount of pressure the brain receives from blood flow. The change in pressure can cause most people to lose consciousness. When a person passes out, you release the pressure. The person should regain consciousness once the pressure is released. It's important to note that playing with either blood or air can be equally dangerous. Most of these techniques are referred to as bilateral carotid compression.

Techniques:

-Pinch of Death: Apply pressure with a finger and thumb on each of the carotid arteries. Use your other hand to turn and lift the head by holding the hair to block pressure from the backup arteries. Remember that a person who passes out has no muscle control, so it's your responsibility to prevent injuries and protect them at all costs.

-Rope Neck: This topic is highly controversial. Rope neck techniques range from a simple rope passing in front of the neck like some Hojo-jutsu ties to a leash with a noncollapsing loop or a single column. It can be used for decorative or sensation purposes. Watch out for rope marks around the neck as they can be seen by others and lead to misunderstandings. Applying pressure on the carotid arteries can induce sensations or cause someone to pass out. Be mindful of the trachea and avoid attaching the noose to a solid object around the neck.

-Fake choke: Some people enjoy a hand on their throat as a way to enhance their passion, but it's important to be gentle and apply light pressure. To do this, place the palm of your hand over the hollow in the middle of the collarbones with fingers on each side.

-Rope and scarf choke: This technique is a good way to apply even pressure around the neck without focusing too much pressure on the baroreceptor. To do this, place the middle of the scarf on the front of the neck and wrap both sides around the back of the neck. During intercourse, the receiver can hold the scarf themselves and apply pressure while the partner monitors for safety.

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-Belt: Belts can be used for strangulation, but it's crucial to be careful with the locking mechanism as it can pinch the skin or cause harm. It's important to position the top of the belt bite in the direction of pulling to allow for some space. Neck play should focus on holding rather than squeezing the neck. While this can be a thrilling experience for some, it can also be dangerous, so caution is advised.

-Rear naked choke: This technique, borrowed from martial arts, applies bilateral pressure on the carotids using the bicep and forearm, and is very effective in making most people pass out in less than 15 seconds. Some call it the 'sleep-holder'. Make sure to take a class on these techniques with a professional. Just because there have been no accidents recorded in the records of judo and jiu-jitsu for this practice does not mean it is 100% safe. Ensure that you hold the person well because a person who passes out has no muscular control. If the technique is still not working after 10 seconds, let go. You may be holding it the wrong way, or the anatomy of the person may be different, with their carotids placed further back or if their backup arteries are bigger. I have met three people out of a thousand who cannot pass out, so there is no need to try harder than usual.

-Leg triangle choke: This technique can be very dangerous because it uses the most powerful group of muscles. Even well-trained practitioners can over-contract these muscles. It can also be seen as an erotic activity due to the close proximity of the head to the other person’s genitals. Seek advice and training from a professional to learn this technique safely.

-Recreational hanging: This activity resembles lethal punishment and is not recommended in any way. The neck is not designed to handle this kind of stress, and it can result in compression on vital organs. This type of activity was common in many countries in the past, but it should be avoided for safety reasons.

-Water boarding, drowning, and wet towel: These techniques were used as forms of torture in the past and can be dangerous. It is recommended to take a class and use caution when practicing these advanced techniques. Breathing through a wet towel is difficult, and when it comes to waterboarding, using very cold water can be more effective in achieving the desired effect of a make-believe drowning sensation without causing harm to the person. The goal of these techniques is to play with the mind, not to cause harm.

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Last part In the "Don't" section:

-Arm bar: The arm bar was a technique used by police forces for a long time, but due to many deaths, they decided to use the "naked choke" technique instead. The arm bar compresses the trachea using the forearms, which can lead to damage to the air pipes, and it doesn't help to calm anyone down.

-Overpressure: Applying too much pressure with any technique will lead to injuries, and you don't want that.

-Solid hanging: Never attach a noose or loop to anything over your head that can lead to hanging. Never attach your neck to something that can move or fall.

-Other: Never engage in any of these practices alone; never mix these activities with drugs, alcohol, fatigue, or exacerbated negative emotional states. Remember that even if it's safer when you know what you are doing, it does not necessarily make these practices safe.

Death Death cases: Every year, many people die from practices like edge and breathplay, but not enough education is provided to help people mitigate the risks. Therefore, I strive to take a step forward and raise awareness.

-Autoerotic asphyxiation: David Carradine, the lead actor in 'Kill Bill', was found dead from what appeared to be autoerotic asphyxiation. This kind of death is sadly common, and often happens when people practice alone and make bad decisions.

-Obstruction incident in St-Julie: A paramedic who was engaging in heavy bondage and using a ball gag with his wife failed to notice that she vomited and was choked to death by her own vomit. This case was ruled an accident, as no breathplay was intended.

-Alone in St-Bruno: A fireman engaging in an intense session with his partner left her in a predicament alone. She couldn't move due to a metallic solid collar that was loose around her neck. The woman suffered from positional asphyxia, passed out, and choking herself to death with the collar.

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-Vacbed in Toronto: A friend of mine was using a vacbed with a small opening for his head. The latex collar was pressing on his baroreceptors, reducing his blood pressure, making him fall unconscious. Even after he was unconscious, the pressure continued to send a message to his heart to slow down until it stopped. This is a warning never to practice alone or apply continuous pressure there.

-Predicament in Italy: In the rope community, this incident is well-known. A rigger tied two intoxicated girls by the neck to each other. They had to stay on their toes to avoid choking, but one of them collapsed, choking the other to death. Both girls lost consciousness, still choking each other. The rigger was also intoxicated and had left his safety shears in his car, delaying the rescue attempt.

-Bag of death: Some countries use an 'exit bag' in conjunction with neutral gases like helium for legal suicide. This puts the person unconscious quietly, and the re-breathing inside the bag does the rest. However, it's important to seek help rather than resort to this solution as it is irreversible.

Appendix Glossary: • Erotic asphyxiation: The intentional restriction of oxygen to the brain for the purpose of sexual arousal. • Auto-erotic asphyxiation: Self-induced effect of erotic asphyxiation. • Passing out, syncope, also known as fainting: Defined as a short loss of consciousness. • BDSM: Bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism. • Safe word: A code word used to communicate an official instruction to stop the play. • Edge-play: Activity that endangers the life or health of the person receiving the play. • Ball gag: A fetish sex toy that consists of a mouth-insertable object with textile or rope to hold it in place. • Vacbed or vacuum bed: An envelope spanned by a frame, and a suction pump or a floor vacuum removes most of the air from the envelope. It is a restriction device. • Top: The person who administers the play. • Bottom: The person who receives the play. • Hypoxia: A condition where the body or a region of the body is deprived of an adequate amount of oxygen. • Adam's apple: The structure of the Adam's apple forms a bump under the skin. It is typically larger in adult males. Page 12

This book was inspired by: TSURUMI, Wataro. The Complete Manual of Suicide, Japan,1993. ISBN 978-4-87233-153-0

References: KOIWAI, E Karl. Deaths allegedly caused by the use of «choke hold» (Shime-Waza), Judo Info, Online publishing date unknown (original paper publishing 1987), (Online), http://judoinfo.com/ chokes6/ KNIGHT, Bernard and Pekka Saukko. Knight's Forensic Pathology Third Edition, CRC Press, United States, 2015. ISBN-10: 0340760443 LYLE, Douglas P. Forensics For Dummies, For Dummies, United States, 2016. ISBN-10: 0764555804 ,ISBN-13: 978-0764555800 Images from: Gray Anatomy, 1918. This book is dedicated to all the people who touched my heart and left too soon. Page 13 It is the result of the collaborative work of many friends.

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