#lgbtq vent

[lunityviruz]

Why is it that whenever we bring up problems in the LGBTQ community, specifically problems about:

Racism

Transmisogyny

Lesbaphobia

Islamophobia

Antisemitism

Y'all immediately write it off as "petty infighting"? Y'all immediately bring up trans issues as a way to weaponize whenever we try and have these discussions. And I'm not talking about it now, I'm talking about how y'all have been doing it for YEARS even before the anti-trans laws in 2023. When are y'all gonna learn that multiple issues can exist at once? Or that different people face different problems and are going to speak on them.

I'm really tired of queer people more specifically white transmascs or white queers trying to silence everyone who speaks out on LGBTQ issues that aren't just homophobia or transphobia. At the end the day we are all queer people but guess what? At the end of the day I am a black person who can still be called the n word by a white queer. A lesbian can still be called the d slur by a non lesbian. A trans woman can still be labeled a predator or a "man" by other trans people. And same with antisemitism and Islamophobia.

If you want this community to grow and thrive listen to ALL of us when we speak out on our issues not just some.

#rants n rambles #there is no way yall can convince me im wrong about this post 💀 #lgbt pride #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtq community #lgbtq visibility #lgbtq vent #queer community #lesbian #bisexual #trans women #uhhh #uhm #gay #uhhhh #im running out of tags #transgender #transgirl #trans guy #transmasc #transfem #trans community

[opossum-disaster]

Sometimes I feel bad when I say I'm bisexual, because this label has stuck with me even before I opened up a whole world of gender identities, and now I don't want to exclude anyone (even though I'm aware it doesn't exclude anyone, but some people are still cautious because of it), because... I just like people. No matter the gender. And some would say "oh, so you're just pan" I KNOW I KNOW

But bisexuality, as self identification, has been stuck with me almost my whole damn life and considering I'm still discovering my own identity, gender etc, has been the only stable thing in my life. I have history with it, I have a huge-ass flag and a handful of pins, so it's hard to just let go. All my friends are pan and I feel like a white crow among them, even though I know we are really similar

This whole thing is hard...

#screem posting #lgbtq+ #bisexual #bisexuality #self discovery #pansexuality #confused #vent post #lgbtq vent

[moiravim]

Tw: vent, mention of transphobia

I've been struggling a lot mentally.

I recently realized that I am trans FTM. Because of my current living situation I am unable to buy things like binders or pretty much anything to make me feel more masculine.

I feel humiliated by my own appearance. I could ask for help but I'm scared to come out to my friends since my appearance is still so feminine. I feel confused and uncomfortable and I don't want to be around people anymore. I don't want people to see me because I know all they'll see is a girl.

I can't focus on anything because all I can think about is how full my chest is or how everyone in the room thinks I'm a girl.

I love all of you guys and I hope everyone is doing well🫶

If anyone needs to vent or needs someone to talk to, I'm here. I'm sorry if this post upsets anyone.

#vent post #tw vent #vent #transgender #transphobes #homophobia #lgbtq vent #lgbtq community #lgbtq+ #trans vent

[jaspynonikki]

queer life in turkey is like your own team fucking despising you. our shithead of a president calls us terrorists and "perverse ideology having creeps who desire to ruin the family structure" (whatever the fuck THAT means). its tiring to live in a homophobic household, space and fucking country. the worst part is no other political party is any good, either. its hell for queer turkish men, women and children/adults alike.

#queer #queer vent #lgbtqia #lgbtq vent #turkey #homophobia warning

[ageresequitur]

how it feels to realize you may never bond with your father as his son

#trans #transmasc #transman #lgbtq community #lgbtq vent

[milesinhiding]

Hi I'm sorry, this is very unusual of me to post soemthing like this but I do want the community to know that some trans people (including me) feel this way. Ive had many conversations with other trans(ftm) people about this and they too feel the same sometimes. This is just what I wrote on discord in a vent channel and I'm very sorry for the shit grammar too.

#transmasc #trans ftm #ftm pride #transgender #transexual #female to male #rant #lgbtq community #lgbtq vent

[he-they-thoughts]

One thing I hate with a burning passion is the assumptions we place on feminine/androgynous men. There's this automatic assumption that a man who is anything other than masculine must absolutely be queer.

From a afab trans masc perspective, I finally got out of the "oh, everyone thinks I'm a woman" part and landed squarely into "oh, everyone thinks I'm a gay cis man". I've been in a relationship with a woman for my entire transition. But people still told me that I'd realize I was gay someday. I'm not even a particularly feminine man, I just paint my nails occasionally and wear nice shirts.

1) Fuck off with the unreasonable assumption that all queer men are feminine or all feminine men are queer. That's not how it works.

2) Don't say that about anyone's relationship, I don't care who they are or who they're dating. It's literally the reversed rhetoric of "oh, it's just a phase, you'll be straight someday." It's not a quirky comment about me being internally homophobic or cluelessly closeted, it's an insult to not only my identity but also the relationship I've spent the past 6 years building.

3) Bonus Points: Added layer of hatred that when after I explain I'm not gay over and over again and they find out I'm trans they go "that makes sense." No, it doesn't, you're just trying to make a feminine man queer because it fits stereotypes.

#he/they #trans #trans vent #lgbtq #lgbtq vent #nonbinary #trans masc #transgender #ftnb

[highwaytohellsystem]

Vent warning; Being abno isn’t fun at all. Randomly getting and loosing (/qp, /p, and /r) crushes on people requires a lot of emotional damage and it can just be constantly changing or someone can just be like “oh we’re like siblings” when you were dealing with a romantic thing at that time and you have no choice but to ignore it cause you know it’s not constant. Even before you know the label, you understand that you’re unable to really confess and for it to stay, or if you don’t and DO confess then you can just loose that feeling instantly because of some dumb bad timing, or you can suddenly like a friend who cannot like you back in that cause you’re younger and they’re aroace but you don’t realize this time it’ll go away cause you don’t know yet. Then you start very *obviously* on/off feelings for one person (or a system lf people) and it’s just the first time you realize this. And then finally you might confess but they have to guess it, but they don’t guess it, you don’t confess, you find the label. You find the thing that describes you. And it hurts to know that any romantic feelings you have might just turn into less, any queer platonic omes might turn into less *OR* more, any platonic ones might suddenly be more. And you’ll never know what is “real” or not or if any of it is. You’ll never know why *you* must be this way. You’ll never know why you most likely might never have a partner

(This is a collective identity, meaning it happens to us *collectively* and it sucks.)

#abnosexual #lgbtq vent #vent post

[muggle-born-princess]

Reblog if you're LGBT and are against MAPS/Child Groomers

#i kinda want to prove a point to certain people #i don't usually post my personal problems on here unless I need to because I find it unecessary and childish #but this bullshit has been eating me the fuck up and I need to vent #LGBT does not equal groomer #Child groomers are not LGBT #MAPs are not LGBT #TW: Child Grooming #Tagging it that just in case anyone feels uncomfortable with said topic #fucking hate Texas and religion extremists and conservatives #LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #reblog bait

[namelessknight]

It’s frustrating when your parents just don’t listen. It’s upsetting at the fact that one doesn’t seem to care about who you choose to be.

I am not the child. I am not the child anymore, the child doesn’t need you anymore, I am the young adult that needs you. I am just confused on what to do as someone who wants to be seen as…them. I feel alone and yet I have those that love and care about me.

I don’t want to give up. I went through too much shit to just give up. I have too many things I want to do.

I want to see the snowy tundra.

I want to feel the warm sands of the beach.

I want to be engulfed by the salty waters of the sea and brushed by the branches of the green.

I want to see my friends smile & laugh.

I want to watch my favourite movie.

I want to listen to my favourite songs.

I want to smell & taste my favourite foods.

I want to live. I want to create.

I am not gonna die. I won’t die.

I am a knight who has seen & been through shit. I am not giving up!

I will not give up!

I will live. No matter what.

#lgbtq vent #lgbtq #am i alone in this? #hope #i want a hug #icanwin #i need therapy #you are strong #you aren’t alone #i love you

[tommy2020]

I’m a boy and I kiss other boys.

I’m a boy and I was not born a boy.

I’m a boy and I use unconventional pronouns.

I’m a boy and I want to live as a boy.

I’m a boy and I want to be free to say that out loud.

I’m a boy and I want to live without fear of being hurt.

Just like the other boys.

My friend is a girl and she likes boys.

My friend is a girl and she was not born a girl.

My friend is a girl and uses she/her.

My friend is a girl and she wants to be called a girl, not a slur.

My friend is a girl and she should be allowed to live as a girl.

My friend is a girl and she shouldn’t be assaulted because she is a girl.

Just like the other girls.

My sibling is nonbinary and they like every gender.

My sibling is nonbinary and they were not born that way.

My sibling is nonbinary and uses whatever pronouns they feel like.

My sibling is nonbinary and wants to be perceived as a person too.

My sibling is nonbinary and should be allowed to choose what they call themselves.

My sibling is nonbinary and shouldn’t be shoved under the rug because their gender identity “doesn’t make sense”.

Just like other people.

WE ARE PEOPLE.

TRANS RIGHTS ARE HUMAN RIGHTS.

#trans rights #poem #i guess #writers on tumblr #poets on tumblr #transgender #transmasc #trans #nonbinary #gnc #gnc positivity #vent #gay #lgbtq+ #queer #genderfluid #queer rights #lgbtq rights #gay rights #queer issues #queer community

[spilled-ink-n-blood]

i feel bad for talking mad shit about my friend’s cishet boytoy, but you can’t just switch up to a fem name and pronouns after meeting this man and not expect me to be a little concerned?? (this person identified as transmasc for 4 years btw)

#lgbtq vent #anti cishet #cishets dni

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

I'm a bit tired of people calling asexuality 'not a big deal.'

Here's the thing, I never thought it was a big deal either. I didn't have a big angsty coming out about being aro or being ace. It was difficult in a sense to think of the future I'd imagined for myself not coming true, but I didn't mourn that future. I was happy that there were others out there feeling what I was feeling and going through what I was going through.

But it's become a big deal. It's become a big deal because as I have grown older, I have realised the future is still fucking blurry. I have no idea what to expect from it. Society was not built for those who do not or cannot follow its rules. I've realised just how MUCH people say aphobic stuff on a daily basis. I feel constantly othered by comments that carelessly remind us we are out of the majority. That remind us again and again that we are NOT the norm and will never BE the norm. I rarely see myself on TV and in books and in movies. People feel weird about it, so they just never bring it up like an unspoken secret. I'm constantly doubted and told I'm mistaken about my own identity, which causes anxiety and self doubt so many years later. People make a variety of assumptions about me and tell me it's 'sad' and I'm 'missing out.'

It's not just about 'not having sex.' It's about feeling like you're the only one at a concert that doesn't know the words. it about society making you feel like you're just a little bit off. My sexuality/romantic identity doesn't define me. I don't WANT it to be a big deal.

But it is. It is a big deal because all of you make it a big deal.

#i've heard this from lgbtq allos and from young aspecs alike and i'm just tired and needed to vent #asexual #aromantic #ace #aro #aroace #asexuality #aromanticism #aro stuff #ace stuff #aroace tag

[ferallynotthinking]

#vent #sketchbook #lgbtq vent

[aptericia]

Not proud to be here.

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Ok, here goes draft like 5 of this fucking post. I spent 4 hours tossing and turning in bed last night thinking about this, and then this morning I found a tumblr post that really helped me understand what I was trying to say.

The post talks about how aromantic "advocates" claim that "aros don't take up resources, so there's no reason not to include them!" And if that's actually what people believe, I think I can finally articulate why it is that I feel so alienated in queer spaces.

It's because aspecs in general aren't "welcomed" by much of the queer community. We're tolerated. We perhaps get the luxury of not being contradicted on our own identities, or not being specifically kicked out of LGBTQ-only spaces, but that's the whole point: what we get out of the queer "community" is people NOT doing things, not actually doing things FOR us. And that, frankly, is not enough. We deserve conversations about us. We deserve to have others consider our feelings, even when making lighthearted jokes. We deserve varied, respectful representation in media. We deserve the active deconstruction of amatonormativity in society. We deserve to have space made for us, rather than at most being told we should "go take up more space!" ourselves.

Of course, the reality is that my being aspec is a personal matter that does not inherently affect anyone else. But the same can be said for literally any queer identity. Your being gay doesn't say anything about me, so of course I shouldn't hurt you for it, but why should I help you either? Because your happiness and comfort are important. The same goes for aspecs.

And most of the time, I don't even need anyone to make space for or expend resources on me; I can live fine in everyday, non-queer-specific places without mentioning my identity at all. But it's the queer community that claims it will make that space for me, doesn't, and then acts defensive and morally pure if I call out the hypocrisy because "we're queer too, you can't erase our identities to advocate for yours!!!!"

Again, this post isn't about specifics. I have queer friends who are incredibly thoughtful and supportive about my identity, just as I have non-queer friends who are. I find more solidarity in aspec-only communities, as well as trans/genderqueer ones, although there are still many exceptions. This post is also not about amatonormative ideology, which is extremely common from queer and non-queer people alike. This post is about the reason I've felt so betrayed by the queer community.

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On a personal note, I remember being so excited when I started identifying as aromantic (and later asexual). Fitting myself into labels has been a lifelong struggle for me; to this day I still can't confidently say if I'm White or PoC, neurotypical or neurodivergent, abled or disabled, cisgender or not cisgender. I continue to struggle making friends because I don't fall into social cliques. To discover that I officially, certainly, was LGBTQ+ lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. And now I'm just so sad to find that despite that, I'm still stuck in the middle. I didn't get rewarded with a community. I still feel alienated from both queer and non-queer people. I know it was silly to get my hopes up when there's such vast diversity in both groups, but it really was a disappointment. Going to my first Pride parade last year was really the moment where I realized this.

#my art #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia #queer #aromantic #aro #aromantic asexual #aroace #aspec #social commentary #aro tag #eyestrain #<- idk? #kissing #long post #aphobia #arophobia #vent art

[milesinhiding]

Goodnight to the people that have been bullied so badly about their sexuality/pronouns/gender that they aren't even proud to be such anymore. I love you and hopefully, you find peace in being who you are soon.

#gender #sexuality #pronouns #goodnight #lgbtq vent #lgbtq community #lgbtq #lgbtqplus