#Genderfluid help

[genderfluid-culture-iss]

for the baby genderfluid tips!!

this could just be me lmao, but DO NOT donate your fem clothes if you feel masc for longer than usual. or vice versa.

keeping a gender journal is something that can be really helpful to actually look back on and see how it changes (and also have proof of fluidity for when you begin to think "hmm actually im just a trans girl. nothing else." no, you probably aren't. you felt completely boy/nonbinary/etc just a month ago, and thats okay.)

basically it can be really hard to embrace that your gender is not static, especially if your gender stays stable for a slightly longer period. it took me so long to stop rotating between "im a girl always" "no, im a boy always" "actually, im nonbinary always" to just admit im genderfluid.

also, make genderfluid content. you don't have to show it to anyone, but sometimes it can really help to make poetry or art or write a story about being fluid and your experience in particular. i have an easy avenue for this since i write fanfiction (haven't published any of it yet lmao) and i just hit my favorite characters with my genderfluid beam and go nuts

follow people who are genderfluid, read genderfluid books, maybe join a genderfluid discord server (there are barely any, so actually maybe make one), try to make genderfluid friends. you are not alone, even though it sometimes feels that way.

if you have plushies or anything similar, make them genderfluid. i have a genderfluid squishmallow who i use she/they pronouns for, and a little husky that switches between he/she. idk it just helps sometimes lol

some of us change gender daily, or multiple times a day. some of us change gender only a couple times a year, or even less. we're all different and that's fine.

tips for presentation:

if you have a day when you can't figure out gender, go neutral clothing-wise

take little things to ease dysphoria if you switch when you're out somewhere (ex. lipgloss, eyeliner, leather bracelet, etc)

if you can, get pronoun pins. seriously, get pronoun pins (or a colored bracelet for subtlety or if you're not out). you can wear multiple at a time, you can switch them whenever you need to. you aren't a burden if your pronouns change. you don't have to stick to they/them to be easy for people.

if you can, get a versatile hairstyle that you can make suit your gender no matter what. if you cant, try to get a hairstyle that makes you the least dysphoric overall.

if you are organized enough, separate your clothes based on gender/what you feel comfy wearing on different days. do not pressure yourself to fit stereotypes. some people can only feel comfortable in skirts when theyre boys, so they only wear skirts on boy days. do what works for you.

it's kinda complicated, but if you can expand your vocal range to sound more fem or masc depending on how you feel, it can help. alternatively, vocal train to make it more androgynous.

keep makeup wipes with you in case you need to take it off part way through being out. basically, make it as easy as possible to be able to change/tweak your presentation if necessary.

this could just be me, but having lots of hoodies in different colors and styles will save your life

sometimes you might have "blender days", which is what i call it when your gender feels like its in a blender in a bad way and you can't tell at all what it is, everything feels wrong, it's changing like every 10 minutes, etc. tbh on these days all i can do is put on sweats and a hoodie and feel dysphoric. listen to music if it helps. do a hobby.

non-clothing items can help a lot. a blue tshirt and jeans can be whatever you want it to be based on what you wear it with. (ex. sneakers/ballet flats, leather bracelet/sparkly necklace, baseball cap/eyeliner)

and lastly: YOU ARE AMAZING. keep being you, keep being incredible, and know that being genderfluid is a gift. be proud to be who you are, have fun, know that you are unique and special and wonderful!! we're ever-changing, and that's awesome. you are precious. i love you.

🩷🤍💜🖤💙

dont wanna link my tumblr, but my name is kiley if you want to attach a name to this!

Okay this is a lot more than I was expecting LMAO /pos

Thank you so much for this Kiley <33 I’ll start working on a masterpost with links to all this.

#genderfluid #genderfluid culture is #genderfluid culture #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtq+ #anon #anonymous #Genderfluid tips #Baby genderfluid tips #Genderfluid help

[theeretblr]

I am holding so much gender in my hand right now

I'm not starting them just yet, there are some tests and fertility preservation things I've got to do first, but I now have Estrogen! I've been debating getting this for like 4-5 years, I may decide it's not for me after I start. I am still genderqueer/genderfluid and I still use any pronouns. I'm not taking T blockers yet either. We'll see how it goes! :)

If you are wanting to start HRT, I highly recommend Folx. I signed up with them, booked an appointment with a Doctor, and had a prescription for Estrogen within a week! Check them out: https://www.folxhealth.com/

#eret #gender #genderqueer #genderfluid #lgbtq+ #any pronouns #AMAB #Folx helped me so much #they got me hormone level tests #they got me a 30% discount on a fertility preservation service #I think they can also work with insurance (which I don't have) #We'll see what happens #I'm nervous and excited

[chonnysinferno]

genderfluid michael & sean based on this post . huzzah!

#osc #love of the s*n #malueslots #michael lots #sean lots #Chat i am running out of ideas. Help #sweats. looks around #love that these two are genderfluid ^_^

[cazmonaut]

is it madness?

#loki laufeyson #loki series #loki fanart #art #loki art #loki dark world #loki #mcu #marvel #do get help #im not doing get help #glorius purpose #im in love #men #but not a man if u know what i mean #genderfluid #tom hiddleston #painting #i love dilfs #happy birthday tom

[sad-sad-gay]

how am i supposed to function whilst knowing this level of gender exists and i can't have it

#good omens #crowley #anthony j crowley #anthony janthony crowley #gender envy #david tennant #how is this even fair #i see a man with a half up bun and it is over for me #it's literally always the man bun #i know crowley isn't a man but david tennant is so the point still stands #although crowley not being a man probably helps in this situation #genderfluid #nonbinary #queer #trans #gender is a scam #i want nothing more than to be a silly goofy gender thief

[befemininenow]

Are you a trans girl or non-conforming and would like to try out feminine clothing? You may want to check this out.

Say you found this dress online and you really love the overall style of it. Great! If you’re like me, you would say “F it! I’ll buy the dress and I’ll wear it how I like!” and move on with your life. That should the end of this guide, right? Except, there is one little problem: not everybody thinks this way. Those who look for the best matching outfits aren’t just searching to fit their style, color, or personality. It also has to do with their body type. If you’re in that situation, this guide may help you out.

Body shape

Believe it or not, there are many different types of body shape (up to 10). However, the most common tend to be the following (in no order):

Rectangle- Even distribution on shoulders, hips, and waistline

Pear/Triangle- Wide hips, well-defined waist, small shoulders

Hourglass- Near-exact hip and shoulder measurements, thinner waistline

Inverted Triangle- Broader shoulders, narrower hips, little waist definition

Apple/Round- Broad shoulders and big bust, thin legs and hips

Many transgender women have the inverted triangle body shape due to several factors such as genetics, bone structure, and age. However, your body shape may also change over time due to a rebalancing of hormones, body fat, and even lifestyle. While you can’t change your bone structure, you can change your body definition through exercises.

Body proportion

Here is something you may find useful if you’re looking to customize your look. Body proportions are unique to every individual and play a factor on clothing and to some extent, accessories such as jewelry. For instance, you may find the skirt you bought looks either too long or short. There are a few areas where to measure your body proportions such as wrist length or neck size. But the best way to improve your dress type is by following the “golden ratio rule” of dividing your body into three:

The way this is read is you’re either one-third top, two-thirds bottom, or you’re two-thirds top, one-third bottom. Once you get more knowledge, you can go upwards even eighths! But for now, the focus is on these two outcomes.

The two-thirds top, one-third bottom words well with long dresses:

while the one-third top, two-thirds bottom works well with more casual clothing:

Body measurements

Now that we got a few problems out of our way, it’s time to figure out what measurements you have. The best way to find out is by using a mirror and a soft measuring tape for body. Measure all the crucial parts of your body, which are the waist, hips, shoulders, and bust. This will determine the type of body you have and have a better idea on what length you will need to try out your clothing of choice.

Shoe size

One thing very important about an outfit is choosing footwear. Although you can use your old Converses with your flared jeans, you’re certainly not going to use them with a ruffled dress. You’re definitely going to want heels or flats! Unfortunately, women’s shoe size are not exactly the same as men. But don’t give up! Fortunately, there are women’s size conversion charts that help you choose what shoe size you need.

To find out your measurements on your own, grab at least two blank pieces of paper, a pencil or pen, and a measuring tape. Place your foot firmly forward and carefully trace around the outer area of your foot. Repeat this with your other foot. Once finished, grab your measuring tape and measure from your highest point to your lowest on both sheets. Measure the width as well. If both feet measure close to 10.5, your women’s size is a 12. However, due to a difference in manufacturing based on shoe brand, as well as shoe type like pumps, the average recommended size is at least 2 inches above your actual size. For those living in other countries that don’t use the US measuring size, I left a chart that shows all the possible measurements you may use to convert your shoe size into women’s size.

What to wear based on body type

Since not all clothing is made for everyone, it’s time to list what is considered the “ideal” clothing choices based on body type. Note that these are opinions from my source’s authors. IMO, the pictures below each suggestion are a better opinion. Your are free to choose your type of clothing.

Rounded or apple shapes fit best with monochrome colors and make the person look more “fit”.

Pear or triangle shapes look more balanced with decorative accessories on top while keeping the bottom more plain.

Rectangle shapes tend to have more volume with a waist belt while pleated pants give more volume on hips.

Hourglass shapes look best when wearing bodycon dresses and cardigans to emphasize volume in their waistline.

Inverted triangle shapes pull off the wide leg pants and fitted top combo the best.

For a much more comprehensive guide for each body type, I highly recommend reading The Concept Wardrobe’s guides. It gives more details on what to wear and how to choose the best combinations. Link is provided here: https://theconceptwardrobe.com/search?query=body+frame

Tips on what to wear

Now that you reached this point, I’m pretty sure you’re excited to try out what your heart desires. However, before you go out and buy that two-piece dress, I recommend researching and observing the type of clothing women wear today. Believe it or not, people will judge based on your way of dressing, from background to social status to age. A simple look like bodysuit and jeans may look perfect on you and blend you in with the girls, but something like a hot pink bodycon will make you stand out, and most likely not in a good way. So how would you choose something that blends you in with society, but also be comfortable at the same time? Here are some tips and pics:

Find clothing that “feels” feminine. In other words, buy clothing that “feminizes” your body, such as tops that make your shoulders look shorter, wrap dresses that make your waistline shorter, and skirts that make your hips look wider.

Find the best colors based on skin tone and hair color. For instance, try out warm colors such as orange if your skin tone is warm.

Dress sexy, but never go too revealing. Seriously, have some respect to yourself. But if you really want to go out wearing, for example, a two-piece outfit, wear one that looks stylish and flatters your body in a great way.

Use accessories that fit and blend well with your body. Large jewelry goes well with larger frame, small jewelry fits with smaller wrist, and so forth. Don’t forget the purse! It is absolutely necessary now that you’re wearing pocketless clothing. Choose one that fits your taste and needs.

Bras and undergarments are necessary to wear now. As you further into your transition, your breasts will start growing and it will become more difficult and uncomfortable going out braless. Start out with a brassiere, then move on to a fitted bra as they become bigger over time. As for down there, I would use boy briefs as they’re similar to boxers. Although HRT will cause it to shrink, it does not make it disappear. If you must hide it, use a gaff or a tuck, but do not use chastity belts (Seriously, stay away from that unless you’re really into that thing). 

Optional: use waist shapers or corsets to slim down waist. Hip enlargement pads will also give your narrow hips and butt much needed volume. Breast forms can also give you an idea how big you want them in the future.

Fashion sense

But the most important part of choosing clothing as a trans girl is to wear whatever suits your taste.

For instance, are you more into the traditional and simple feminine aesthetic? Cottagecore may be for you:

But what if you’re the rebellious type that prefers to defy tradition? Well, maybe the alt-girl fashion is for you:

Maybe you’re the type that changes clothing based on season. So if you’re a summer-season type of girl, you’re definitely going for an outfit like this:

How about if you’re into the gym? Clearly your goal is to be like this:

Are you into business casual? There’s also a pic for that:

(The girl in the pic is also transgender! Her name is Suzi Hunter, better known as The Sphere Hunter.)

But we also can’t forget cosplay, either!:

(Cosplayer is Eden the Doll, a trans woman cosplayer! Picture belongs to Geo Leon.)

You’re probably the party type who loves some action:

Casual wear can also be tasteful and attractive too:

There’s so much to pic, but each style says a lot about what type of woman you are.

Where to buy clothing

If you’re interested in finding the right clothes for you, check out places that are especially gender-inclusive. As I’m based in the US, clothing stores such as Target are a good start while higher-end chains such as Nordstrom and Macy’s may have a better variety to choose from. If you’re a thrifty shopper, your local outlets, discount stores, and thrift shops have a surprising amount of great clothing for affordable prices. Although online sites like Amazon, Shein, and Zara have affordable and appealing clothing, many of these brands also have ethical concerns that overshadow their reputation. Dubbed “fast fashion”, they are a source of scrutiny among fashion fans and I would personally avoid them if possible. If you really need something affordable and new, I highly recommend purchasing through discount and thrift stores.

If you’re in need of safe undergarments, check out Urbody. They have clothing suitable for trans people, non-binary, and other identities, varying from binders to tucked leggings. They are founded by trans and non-binary people and use ethical practices and living wages for their workers. If you’re interested in checking their site out, here is the link to their page (I am not sponsored by them): https://urbody.co/

Conclusion

The whole point of this guide is to help you pick the proper clothing and accessories as a newly-out girl. I made this guide since there doesn’t seem to be many that are detailed. Keep in mind I’m still learning about female clothing as I am still in the first stages of transition myself. If anyone would like to add more info that is missing or provide any corrections, please reblog and add more helpful tips as it would help trans girls, trans women, non-binary, and anyone else that desires to wear affirming clothing. Please refrain from using any hurtful language if you’re doing so. Thank you and hugs!

Links to sources:

https://www.healthline.com/health/women-body-shapes#why-shape-fluctuates

https://www.thestylatude.com/post/the-most-common-body-shapes-for-women-and-how-to-find-out-yours

https://theconceptwardrobe.com/build-a-wardrobe/inverted-triangle-body-shape

https://www.thestylebouquet.com/2020/02/17/5-most-common-body-shapes-for-women/

https://dressedformyday.com/how-to-discover-your-body-proportions/

https://gabriellearruda.com/how-to-dress-better-female-body-shape/

https://m2fguide.com/how-to-pick-clothes-if-youre-transgender-or-crossdressing/

https://feminizationsecrets.com/mtf-clothing-tips/

https://www.instagram.com/p/CHBk9v0J_WO/

https://www.transgendermap.com/social/clothing-accessories/

https://apexfoot.com/shoe-sizing-chart/

https://www.glamourboutique.com/crossdresser-fashion/guide-male-female-shoe-sizes-33255#:~:text=Minimize%20the%20chance%20of%20having,11%20in%20a%20women's%20shoe

#transgender #mtf #fashion #how to #gender affirming #trans #clothing #feminine #genderfluid #quick #guide #helpful #tips #trans woman

[catlover4536]

Coming here to say masc presenting Julie is one of my favorite Julie ideas out there and that, of course, I needed to make a femme presenting Frank to compliment @cyanwyrmy and their wonderful Julie!

#welcome home #frank frankly #julie joyful #not a genderbend #fanarts! for u! #I'll admit...I've had this lineart for a long time #I wanted to color them too...but I botched the job! #also my LINES...the colors...they eat them #which I'm still sad about...this has to be one of my favorite line arts ever #maybe one day I'll try coloring them again...on digital #for now tho #making this to tell you masc presenting julie has lived rent free in my head since they were presented #and I would be a fool for not helping to include their partner in crime! #i love these two besties so much #sooo tempted to just post julie tho...I swear she is one of my best line arts out there #my art #masc presenting julie I adore #genderfluid julie joyful #repeat: not a genderbent for either

[aimfall]

happy pride month from the s1 archives crew <3

just lines version under the cut!

#tma #the magnus archives #s1 archives crew #polyarchives #polychives #sasha james #martin blackwood #jon sims #jonathan sims #tim stoker #timothy stoker #I feel weird putting so many tags after my last couple pieces #this is a love letter to tma fandom for helping me realize that I’m genderfluid #aimfall art #undescribed

[rat0]

how do I explain my gender. i wanna look like a boy in a skirt who's a pretty boy and all cute and baby. sometimes I wanna look like a beautiful butch lesbian. home depot style. lesbian style. 6'ft and will kill you with my cold hard stare. don't fuck with me.

#im not normal #transmasc #nb #nonbinary #genderfluid #questioning #wtf is my gender help #i think i hauve covid #transgender #transfem

[trans-enby-culture-is]

Trans culture is changing your labels, and not being sure if you're confused about the right lable, if your identity changed, or if your gender fluid.

#93

#trans enby culture #i went form identifying as #agender #to identifying as #androgyne #then identifying as a #trans man #or maybe #transmasc #and now I think I'm agender #so maybe I was always right and I'm just #genderfluid #send help #trans #transgender #nonbinary #enby

[genderfluid-culture-iss]

hi! I’m currently tentatively identifying as genderfluid but I’m still a little scared/have some imposter syndrome.

I was scrolling through some other genderfluid blogs trying to do some research and find some posts to validate myself and I came across one made by a (seemingly inactive) blog. The post essentially said that you can’t be genderfluid without having gender dysphoria/wanting to transition your body medically to some degree?

I’m afab and currently use she/they, and though I do have days that my chest is icky, I definitely don’t want to medically transition at all. Can I not be genderfluid since I don’t have dysphoria???

Posting this directly instead of queuing because eww

I’m not sure what blog you read that from, but it’s false! You don’t have to experience dysphoria to be genderfluid—the same way a trans or nonbinary or agender person doesn’t have to experience it to be what they identify as!

In fact, it’s good you experience little to no dysphoria. Dysphoria is very common for most people, and it’s talked about a shit ton, but feeling comfortable in your own skin doesn’t make you a liar for identifying as something other than your AGAB.

There must’ve been a terf or something running the account, and I’m sorry for that. :(

#genderfluid #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtq+ #genderfluid culture is #genderfluid culture #anonymous #anon #Genderfluid tips #genderfluid help

[theeretblr]

hi, i saw your recent ask and i was wondering. how do you build an androgynous/femme outfit? especially for AMAB people who tend to have a more rectangular body shape.

thanks in advance!!

I think being able to separate clothing from gender is an important part of being able to present how you want to present.

Of course, there is a lot of cultural pressure around certain pieces of clothing being associated with certain gender presentations. However, I find that clothing is not the main thing that helps me with androgyneity. For me, that would be shapewear in the form of hip pads, butt pads (these are basically boxer shorts with inserts for specifically shaped pads), and breast forms.

Here is how I present most days I go out compared with a more masc look:

The main differences between these are the makeup and the shapewear for the femme look. Otherwise, the cargo pants are the same, and the vneck t-shirts are the same brand.

#askeret #gender #genderfluid #genderqueer #lgbtq+ #I am still working out my style #presenting more androgynously is helped a lot with a more androgynous body-type #I am basically a rectangle without shapewear #i will link what I use in a separate post #amab = assigned male at birth

[p0megranamanat]

transmascs who get gender envy/euphoria from girls and femininity i love you <3

transfems who get gender envy/euphoria from boys and masculinity i love you <3

non-binary people who get gender envy/euphoria from binary individuals and binary presentations i love you <3

trans people who don't change a single thing about themselves i love you <3

💙💗🤍💗💙

#gender has no look <3 #transmeds if you interact i will put one thousand ants in your mattress (DNI!!!) #trans #transmasc #transfem #nonbinary #non-binary #genderfluid #genderqueer #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #genderfuck #WHAT DO I TAG HELP #faggotry

[egg-salad-0000]

Please tell me nobody has done this yet 😿😿😿

#my art #my artwork #procreate #welcome home #welcome home arg #arg #shitpost #welcome home julie #julie joyful #welcome home eddie #eddie darling #welcome home fanart #welcome home meme #lgbtq #genderfluid #I’m losing my mind #i actually love welcome home sm #it’s infecting my brain #PLS HELP #anyways the silly 😊😊😊 #😻😻😻 #fanart #edd posting

[barbthebuilder]

Dear mutuals, followers, and random strangers: I have something to ask from you

18th to 25th February 2024 there will be a global strike for Palestine.

I understand things have been extremly depressing and you feel hopeless and so do I. But we cannot stop. I will not be silent and neither should you. Please, fight. Fight for our fellow human beings in need.

How do you support the stirke?

1. No purchasing of any kind. Online, irl, local shops, supermarkets - nothing. Make sure to gather necessities before the strike like food or higene products.

2. Don't go to work/school.

3. Speak up about Palestine and for the following week talk ONLY about it. Use your voice to support palestine people, artists, journalists etc. Don't engage in any other content and use social media only to talk about Palestine.

4. Educate yourself on palestine culture, make food and art related to palestine and post it online. Don't let Palestine die.

5. Donate. This is incredibly important.

6. Call/send letters/email your representatives about the Palestine.

7. Educate others. Organise meeting in your local library or school to talk about palestine culture.

8. Put up flyers that will inform others about situation in Palestine and encourage others to fight.

9. Go to a protest (make sure to read throughly how to do it proprly)

10. Stay safe. Don't do anything that will put you in a dangerous situation. You are important too. Take care of yourself.

11. Reblog this post. The more people know, the more can help.

There are probably more I am missing. You can do something. Please consider joining us.

#global strike #strike #gaza #free gaza #free palestine #palestine #from the river to the sea palestine will be free #activism #reblog #important #we need your help #lgbt community #i could always count on you #genderfluid community #don't let me down #disabled community #we have the strength too #mental health community #we are stronger than anyone can imagine

[harlansthoughts]

besties of tumblr i seek your wisdom yet again

i need a subtle synonym for lgbtq+ because i have an account that my homophobic family follows but i also want to let people know i am not straight???

#lgbtq #gay #lesbian #transgender #trans #genderfluid #asexual #ace #aroace #aromantic #synonyms #queer #queer community #lgbtqiia+ #lgbtqia #lgbtq community #help #transgirl #transmasc #nonbinary