#emotional needs

[safe-haven-safe-place]

#mental health #self care #healing #recovery #emotional needs #emotional control #dealing with emotions #emotional regulation

[melblogsgfreethruptsd]

#toxic parents #emotional abuse #accountability #narcissism #therapy #aftermath #maternal narcissism #immature parents #emotionally unavailable #lack of empathy #parental neglect #child neglect #emotional neglect #emotional needs #enablers #abuse apologism #invalidation

[pain-is-my-game]

You know what makes it all the more worse. I know my mom loves me but it's just not in any way that matters.

#i will never care if you reblog #vent #tw vent #cw vent #eldest daughter syndrome #eldest daughter #oldest daughter #eldest sibling #sad thoughts #parentification #mother issues #mommy issues #toxic mom #toxic mothers #toxic mother #on love #on trauma #emotional neglect #emotional needs #thoughts to throw into the void

[loveyourlovelysoul]

Sometimes in relationships we focus solely on what we are not receiving in the way we'd like to receive it. I'm not saying it's wrong, at all: on the long run, it feels really draining, sad and lonely. It makes us feel not enough and hard to be loved. But maybe we are failing to see that, in that relationship (of any kind), there's possibly not just that: there's also some type of love we're receiving in a different way, or when we don't need it. Still, it's the other person's way to deliver it to us, to show us that they care. Let's be ready to see that part too, and to not just focus on what we're lacking or missing.

And also, let's communicate (when it's okay and safe to, ofc) about our needs and how we'd like to have them fulfilled. Maybe the other person cannot see that by themselves and needs us to explain/ask (totally fine), or maybe they cannot provide that type of attention in the way we'd want them to, but at least we'll know what it is about and not let that lack mean something about us or ruin our relationship. Through communication we can learn to compromise and balance demands and responses, equally, from both sides.

And btw... we can also get love in the form we need from another relationship (this is not about cheating, at all: let's say you rely for all you need on a single person; this may become a lot to bear with occasionally. But if, for example, you have a partner, a group of friends, good colleagues, family members and rely on all of them to fulfill your different needs, all of your relationships may flourish. Sometimes we ask for a certain type of love's display to the "wrong" person -the one who cannot provide it to us everytime we need also cause they have their own needs as well-, when there are other 3 that are willing to give it to us. Let's try to not be so strict, maybe: there are so many types of love so it's okay if there are different people for all of them -and if you haven't found those people yet, I promise you you will).

#words #healing #positivity #thoughts #love #relationships #emotions #emotional balance #emotional needs #unmet needs

[daughterofanarcissistwoman]

#building self confidence #reparenting #remothering #inner child healing #healing from abuse #mirror work #affirmations #glamour magick #self love #self care #positive self talk #uplifting self talk #empowering self talk #you deserve to be happy #mental health #emotional health #emotional balance #emotional needs #emotional support

[softnoodlesdoodles]

E is for emotional

#alphabet superset #emotions #emotional needs #mental health

[outstanding-quotes]

Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

#Lindsay c Gibson #adult children of emotionally immature parents #psychology #quote #emotional neglect #emotional needs #parent child relationship #childhood trauma #emptiness #loneliness #isolation #emotional loneliness #emotional maturity #emotional availability

[lilmooody]

#twitter #love #self love #we heart lt #mental health #heal #healingjourney #emotinal #emotional needs #unavailable #emotionally unavailable

[wisterianwoman]

The Impact of Unmet Emotional Needs: An Invisible Battle

While physical needs like food, water, and shelter are fundamental for survival, emotional needs revolve around our feelings, thoughts, and social connections, contributing profoundly to our mental health.

Have you ever wondered about the hidden impact of unmet emotional needs on your mental health and wellbeing? In this exploration, we aim to understand these needs and their profound influence, embarking on a heartfelt journey of self-discovery and resilience. wait, you mean I have needs? When I was a kid, I had a roof over my head, a bed to sleep in, food to eat, a shower, and a toilet, too! I…

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#addiction #cptsd #depression #emotional needs #emotional wellbeing #emotional wellness #emotions #healing #healthy habits #mental health #mental wellbeing #neglect #suicide #therapy #Wellness

[void-galaxy-shenanigans]

Y’all.

30%-33%.

If your parents reliably meets & learns to understand about ⅓ of your needs, you'll develop a secure attachment.

Only ⅓. 33%.

The bar is on the floor. 😭

~Nico

#trauma #healing #healing from trauma #childhood abuse #emotional needs #needs #child neglect #childhood neglect #~Nico #the bar is in hell #the bar is on the floor #😭

[mbti-notes]

Anon wrote: Hello, hope you’re having a good summer break. I’m an intp who’s probably been overcompensating for and overworking Fe, and I don’t really know how to ask for help.

I feel like I’ve come a long way in terms of emotional intelligence since my teenage years - mostly stopped feeling worthless, more action and task-oriented, reaching out to make new friends and care for close ones, and they’ve responded by saying I’m much more understanding and emotionally stable now, even coming off as extroverted - but it doesn’t keep me from feeling lonely. I’ve spoken with friends about feeling sad and unsupported, they would respond by saying they understand, but truth is I barely feel the connection. I’m happy for their company, they just don’t seem able to share my burdens, which are objectively my own. It feels like I’ve overworked myself so now my psyche is demanding that someone else take care of my emotions instead of me doing the work myself. A very subjective internal temper tantrum.

With my infp partner, I’m in this loop where I can sense she’s sad/anxious/unfulfilled, she wouldn’t talk about it because she couldn’t put it into words and also doesn’t feel the need to do so either, I could either try to cheer her up or accept that she’s in her own emotional state and simply wants company. I know and she confirmed that she’s lost interest in many of our common hobbies, but will feel sad if I pull myself away from her for alternative stimulation. But I need stimulation even if she doesn’t. I’ve expressed that simply sharing some of her life and thoughts takes a huge weight off my chest, I love hearing from her, but she insists there simply isn’t any event or thought she could share. I can talk, and she will respond happily. It’s just so draining especially since we’re long distance right now and can only communicate in words. It almost feels easier if I could just be obliviously content to talk to her about anything like I was several years ago.

I’m hoping that taking a vacation from work and study to go home will help me focus more on the things I love (reading, drawing, creating and experiencing life in ways that stimulate my brain) although it does mean a lot more time spent staying with family and other new social circles as well, which could also be a mixed bag.

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When you're in touch with Fe, it makes you more aware of your emotional needs. This is not a bad thing, but it can be a hard thing when you haven't yet learned the best ways to fulfill them. You say your self-worth has improved, which I take to mean that you see your emotional/social needs as legitimate and yourself as deserving of support? Believing you deserve love is the first step for many people.

Because Fe is the inferior function, it's safer to get to it through the auxiliary function whenever possible. For example, using Ne, are you able to visualize the ideal social interaction/communication/relationship that would help you feel more supported and loved? If you were granted control over other people for a short time, what would you make them do to better fulfill your needs? This visualization might give you a more precise idea of what you ought to be requesting of the people around you.

You seem to be implying that this romantic relationship is putting you in a difficult position of having to choose between you and her? I don't think that's the case. While I agree it is sad to feel forced to seek stimulation outside the relationship, a healthy romantic relationship should allow space for such a move. It is unhealthy to believe that one person can/should satisfy your every need. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Healthy couples should be able to live satisfying lives together... and apart.

I think a good way of looking at the situation is you have a need but she, for whatever reason, isn't capable of fulfilling it. It's nobody's fault but just the reality of the situation. It sounds like she's not as emotionally available as you would like, or not in the way you would like. Maybe when you first met, you didn't realize you needed emotional availability, but now you do. This doesn't mean the relationship has to end, though choosing a new partner better suited to your needs is always an option. When the things that brought you together no longer work to keep you together, then you have to find some other way to remain bonded. Relationships can evolve over time. You also need to come to an agreement that it's okay to get some of your needs fulfilled outside of the relationship. Be honest and transparent about every move.

It sounds like you've imposed an obstacle on yourself and now feel stuck because you really want it to be her to fulfill this need of yours. The fact is, no matter how much you want it, it isn't her. Face the fact and move forward accordingly. Grant yourself permission to take proper care of yourself.

#intp #inferior fe #self care #emotional needs #ask

[safe-haven-safe-place]

#childhood trauma #trauma recovery #unhealed trauma #complex post traumatic stress disorder #cptsd #cptsd coping #cptsd awareness #cptsd healing #shame #overcoming shame #trauma wound #emotional neglect #emotional flashbacks #inner child #emotional needs #emotional dysregulation #trust issues

[the-healing-mindset]

Look it's true. Awful people do exist. You can't continue to hold yourself accountable for the way that they treated you. Sure. Because we're good people, we want to give them the benefit of the doubt. However, we can't let some people off the hook, especially if they are continuing to cause us emotional difficulties. We must begin to realize that we did everything we possibly could have done to try to mend the connections that broke us. So much so that we gave ourselves away in the process, which broke us further. We can let ourselves off the hook for not being able to improve relationships and people that we thought we could. In some cases, those things were never our responsibility in the first place. Now that we see that they don't serve us any good, even in worrying about them, we can let go of responsibility entirely. It hurts, but we must continue to develop our own identities so that we don't have to rely on such appalling people to meet our needs.

#reminder #gentle reminder #relationships #abusive relationships #abuse #manipulation #emotional manipulation #healing #recovery #growth #difficult relationships #hurt #pain #emotional pain #emotional distress #feelings #emotions #emotional needs #needs #note to self

[quillandquotation]

I'm terribly preoccupied with the memories of my past that haunts me, the memories of my present that taunts me and the memories of my future that mocks me

-99 shots of misery

#spilled thoughts #dark academia #spilled words #writers block #writers on tumblr #spilled ink #authors #emotional needs #mental health #therapy #healing #stress management #stress #emotional health

[namalam]

By Gina Gomez.

My emotional needs:

Top tier: Self-Actualization. Self-Love. Inner Peace.

Second tier: Assertiveness. Boundaries. Autonomy.

#enneagram #personality #emotional needs #me #ahappierme #a happier me #self care #healing #recovery #growth #stability #enneagram 9 #enneagram 2 #enneagram 1

[wildwitchwondering]

I asked myself this question last night: what do you need to be emotionally ready to sleep? Last night the answer was to journal the key insights I have had over the weekend.

In order to get a full night's sleep, I should be going to bed, to sleep, a couple hours earlier than I usually want to. There's a meme that says the Japanese have a word that means revenge bedtime procrastination. I remember reading that it most often happens when someone hasn't gotten any time for themselves or time to do something they want to do (as opposed to all the things they have to do all day.)

Since I started working a job where I need to be up at 6:30am, this has been a very real part of my life. I work all day, grab a snack, do whatever social thing I need to do in the evening, and when I'm home at 9:30, I am really tired. But I am not able to just hustle to bed and sleep. I need to unwind and play a game or do some social media time. Heck, I am even now procrastinating bed as I write this.

So last night, I asked myself this question. The answer, then, was some journaling. Tonight, I did some writing and talked to a family member who lives far away. Both were great chances for me to settle into my mind, heart, and body.

I'm looking forward to seeing how my exploration of this question goes.

#insomnia #witchcraft #paths #introspection #emotional needs #self care #self love #self parenting