#to be fair to mask there's a lot of ways to propose

[pocketramblr]

"Oh no, that's a different fiance." "You got ANOTHER one?!" "Gimme a break. I was raised by a tree, I had no idea what marriage even was until you explained it to me. And you are the last person who should blame someone for girls falling for him."

"I think at this point you aren't even trying to avoid further entanglements."

"Untrue. I'm trying very hard to avoid Cia, and keep you from her as well."

"Thank the Goddess, at least there's that."

"I wouldn't thank any goddesses, if I were you."

"Don't tell me-"

"Hey, I didn't accidentally propose, or anything. Fierce just told me Hylia's got a thing for heroes too, is all."

#to be fair to mask there's a lot of ways to propose #how's he supposed to know that a pendant here or a ring there or a knife over there all mean proposals to different people #anon #pocket talks to people

[songsofadelaide]

Basketball superstar!Satoru x popular influencer!reader who is always on courtside gf duties whenever it's game season. You often go viral on social media for your antics— like proudly sporting a smaller version of your boyfriend's jersey, wearing cutesy cheerleader outfits, swearing at the referees whenever your boyfriend is hit with a foul, and jumping into his arms the moment his team is declared the victors. You were his number one fan, after all.

Fortunately, Satoru is way into PDA that you often get away with your antics, which he thinks are just so cute. His teammates are used to him running up to you instead of the trophies they've won. You don't mind that he kisses you while he's all sweaty— you relish his warmth even more since he's worked so hard.

At times when you're busy with your own gigs to attend his game, you send a care package his way along with other nutritional pre-game goodies for his team, too. They thank you with a cute and clumsy TikTok video on their official account, showing off their healthy snacks while still in their jumpsuits. Satoru takes the centre stage and is inevitably teased by everyone else in the locker room.

When game season is over and the teams get a break from training, Satoru joins you in your gigs and endorsement shoots, happily playing the role of your (real) stage boyfriend. He's mostly a glorified PA but everyone else in the set still gets so starstruck by his mere presence. He allows photos and selfies but only at a respectful distance, but he is handsy once you step into his space.

When you're both at home in bed in your pyjamas and Korean face masks, he'd show you his phone and how his socials were flooded with thousands of tags to photos and Pop Base videos of the two of you. You'd tease him about giving the people something else to talk about, but he'd reply in kind and enumerate in detail all the crazy things and trouble you two could get into— if you didn't care about your careers, that is.

You and Satoru are one of the most popular couples on social media at the moment, but you don't let your audience impact the way you two handle things. More importantly, you still keep a fair amount of your relationship to yourselves, so not everything your followers see online is the whole of it.

Satoru proposes to you on a quiet fall afternoon, and you fight the urge to post your engagement as soon as you realised what was happening. There would be so much speculation about your marriage and a lot of unsolicited comments from both family and followers alike, so you say yes in the same quiet way, savouring your first few sacred moments as a newly engaged couple before eventually texting your parents and siblings with a disclaimer— not to tell a single soul.

Your wedding photos go viral, and you laughed at how insane your Instagram comments went before muting your notifications. Satoru is drawing a lopsided heart in the sand, the bright smile on his face disappearing just as quickly as the waters washed away his artwork. Your honeymoon is just as quiet as your wedding, and while you thought you could have made a quick buck out of the whole ordeal, you really wouldn't have had it any other way— just you and him and all the precious people in your lives.

When Satoru returned to the game from your extended honeymoon, the media was nothing but ecstatic to see him and hear about your first few moments as newlyweds. He makes the rookie mistake of excitedly telling everyone that you were expecting, thus the influx of baby items from new sponsors. You forgive him for that, thankful for all the love and support you've received from both your followers so far.

You no longer swear at the refereees nor do you jump into basketball superstar Satoru's arms whenever his team wins a game. Instead, he carries your son on his shoulders, their matching jerseys a sight to behold for all watching his every move. Your son clings to his father as confetti rains over the court and the crowd, and you can't help but think how you've been dethroned as Gojo Satoru's number one fan. Wife sounds just as good, though.

#songsofadelaidewrites💛 #mari's prompts 🎠 #jujutsu kaisen #jujutsu kaisen x reader #jjk x reader #jjk au #gojo satoru #gojo satoru x reader #gojo satoru x yn #gojo satoru x you #boyfriend gojo #basketball boyfriend gojo!! #starry divider by @/cafekitsune

[ghost-rattan]

Things I think bsd characters would be like while dating them

Inspired by things my bf dose and I do (Aku and chuuya inspired by bf dazai and atsushi inspired by me)

Warning: none just fluff

(Sorry if my gramma is bad)

Akutagawa

Masks a lot but feels safe with you so he doesn’t

Spoils you like you mention some thing you want BOOM next day it’s at your door

Amazing at listening! He loves your rants about stuff you like

Rants to you about work so you know every one at the mafias tea

He also rants about stuff he likes! Bro will talk about his little hypertensions to you all the time (I head-cannon him with autism)

You hate the people who hurt him (dazai)

He thinks that he’s not worth the kindness you show him but he really is!

Sucks at swimming but he tries (he’s secretly a cat)

On topic with cats he adores them <3

Man is smitten by you like you can’t do any thing wrong in his eyes

Chuuya

Kindest mf to you and the people he cares about

He hates being hated by others tho so he will pretend to be nice even if he hates them (only exception to this is dazai)

He fell hella fast for you (but you fell first let’s be fr here)

He tried to flirt but failed cause you didn’t pick up on it cause hey home boys hot you where to scared he was out of your league (he thought the same dw)

You confessed cause cause your friend picked up he had the fattest crush on you and when you did chuuya was like 😟😳😀😏

He will always say he’s gonna propose to you because hey you confessed it’s only fair!!

Will legit do any thing for you! Oh you wanna play this game BOOM he’s playing it with you! You want some new shoes good thing he is at the shops rn!

He will spend as much time with you possible!

If long distance and he can’t visit you prepare for sleep calls!

With that tho he will visit you all the time

Dazai

Dumbass is all I can say. You will be doing some thing ANY THING and he will make a dumb joke about it! Oh your hungry? Prepare for hi hungry im Dazai!

He loves listening to you ramble it’s his favourite thing! He loves seeing you excited and happy over what ever you are talking about!

He also masks a lot but with you he is his true self

He finds ways to make you smile all the time!

Once even made a scrap book of things that reminded him of you! He was hella embarrassed but kinda proud of it!

If some thing shitty happens he will rant about it a lot to you cause he needs to get it out and understand what went wrong or how he could have prevented it and a bunch more what ifs!

Big spoon! He loves cuddles and he loves having you in his arms it means so much to him!

Atsushi

Puts you on a pedestal because you are perfect and he can’t see a single flaw in you

He has a wall of photos of you him and his friends!

He’s low key done with peoples bs and like dazai rants to you about it a fair few times because he blames him self for everything that went wrong

Good cook! He likes making sweets!

Will talk about things he loves in big rants and Ofc will listen to your rants!

He doesn’t have good social knowledge so he won’t pick up stuff if you are hinting at it

Talks about you all the time to any one who will listen

Keeps notes of things about you

He sleeps early and if you have bad sleeping habits prepare for him to help you fix them but if you can’t he will happily just sleep while you do what you want :)

makes sure you take care of your self! Need I say more!

#bsd #bungou stray dogs #bungou stray dogs x reader #chuuya x reader #dazai x reader #atsushi x reader #akutagawa x reader

[dollypopup]

I think a lot of people kind of miss the whole point of Polin.

There's conversation now about whether or not Penelope will accept Colin's proposal at the end of episode 4, and the cliffhanger being his infamous 'For God's sake, Penelope, will you marry me or not?' line from the books. And at first, there was all this buzz about how she'll say no and that's the cliffhanger because what if she picks someone else instead? What if he has to spend Part 2 convincing her?

In fairness to the fandom, that was dashed rather quickly. Firstly, we all know she won't say no to continue some semblance of a love triangle, because Debling is the personification of if flour was a spice, and he's not in part 2. Furthermore, it doesn't make much sense to have part 2 be Colin convincing her, when something much more pressing is hanging above them. Because the fandom caught on quickly as to the real conflict:

Does Penelope say yes to Colin, and continue hiding the fact that she's Lady Whistledown? Does she say no out of concern and part 2 is the unveiling? Or does she say no, and confesses?

And I think in our heart of hearts we already know: Penelope will say yes.

And in doing so, she will lie to him. Hide from him. And Lady Whistledown becomes the guillotine over their heads in part 2.

1: Penelope is on a narrative of self growth in Season 3. All leads are, but Penelope's narrative of growth is specifically to come out of the shadows. To be honest and open and brave in the light with nothing but herself and her own voice. And being those things? Yeah, not her strong suit as a character. It's the biggest pitfall she has, and it will not resolve halfway through. Penelope changes her outward appearance, and it still doesn't bring her full peace. Nicola herself has said that. She changes outwardly, but not inwardly, and that's where the real work has to be done. Lady Whistledown is proof that work has not been committed to. She is the manifestation of Penelope's fears of being herself aloud. A literal anonymous persona that can say what she feels she cannot aloud. Lady Whistledown is Penelope hiding, a wallflower in a masquerade mask. She's not going to be brave enough by Episode 4 to tell Colin. That's a whole season long arc. Furthermore

2: We would *all* say yes. All of us. We would all lie and hide in her circumstances. Here is the man she loves, who she has loved for years, coming to her and saying he wants her and cares for her and wants to marry her. She's not putting that in jeopardy. She says no to Debling (thank god, the man's an NPC in every definition of the word, Penelope deserves better) and so her options have narrowed, and really, she only *ever* wanted Colin. He has always been the ultimate desire of her heart. So she says yes to Colin. She wants to and she will. She wants *him*, and now she can have him. And in doing so, she fully solidifies herself as Marina's parallel. WHICH IS THE POINT.

2. a. sidequest: Marina is a vital part of Polin's story, but the fandom has missed that point. Instead of seeing what she as a character was meant to represent in their grand narrative, the fandom has instead demonized her. But in the same way Debling is a plot device to Polin's love story, so was Marina. Now, Marina at least got her own narrative, unlike Debling, who ONLY exists to be a plot point, but this is an analysis of Marina as a player in a narrative that isn't her own. I think Marina is a wonderful character, and I have a lot of sympathy for her, but the fandom saw her and villainized her. Which is SO not the point of her role in Polin's love story. The writers are all but slapping us in the face about that. EVERY character has sympathy for Marina. The narrative wants us to understand she was in difficult circumstances and did what she thought was best as a vulnerable young woman to survive. Which is the same, I imagine, it will do for Penelope in Season 3.

No, Marina's purpose in that particular narrative was to prove who Colin is as a suitor and a potential romantic match. That Colin is warm and open hearted, he is caring and empathetic, he is romantic, and most importantly, Colin is *forgiving*. When he says he would have married Marina regardless of her life altering and reputation ruining secret, that is to set him up for marrying Penelope regardless of her life altering and reputation ruining secret!!! That is the *whole* point!!!

And just like Marina, Penelope hides her truth from him, in fear of losing all that she has. I hope that kind of parallel FINALLY inspires some sympathy in our fandom for both these women, who, in Ruby Barker's wonderful words, are just players in a crappy game.

3: Even in being a sympathetic choice, it is still a cruelty she commits unto Colin. Because up until that point, they really don't owe each other much of anything. Yes, they have a friendship, and that comes with expectations, but in accepting a proposal, she owes him honesty. And she cannot give that to him. Colin lays all his cards down on the table for her to see, and she keeps her own hidden. Just like Shonda said, this becomes a relationship built on the foundation of a lie. It's the cracking open of that lie that finally allows them to be a fully realized couple. Colin loves a version of Penelope that isn't fully real, just like Penelope loved a version of Colin that wasn't fully real. An idealization of their selves. His temper, how he can sometimes say the wrong thing, his jealousy, his bitterness: she does not KNOW these things. But Whistledown unearths them. Just like he doesn't see *her* jealousy and bitterness, her temper, and how SHE can say and do the wrong thing. And, once more, *Whistledown unearths them*. They're not a happy perfect couple by the end of Part 1, because she lies to him. She accepts his proposal, and in doing so, she starts the clock. Tick Tock, how long does it take to tell him?

4: She doesn't tell him. I am fully of the mind that he has to find out on his own that she's LW. Perhaps Eloise sets a time limit for her, that she HAS to tell her brother (she's afraid, of course. what if he's mad? what if he doesn't want to marry her anymore?) (and what of him? what of Colin? does he not deserve to know?), or she'll tell him herself, but Penelope will likely try and then shrink back. She *wants* to tell him. I think that'll be the crux of Part 2. She wants to be honest with him, but she's afraid. So, like most of us when it comes to difficult circumstances, she'll hold off on it. And hold off on it.

Until he finds out on his own.

5: He'll find out on his own. And he will be *brutally betrayed by the news*. Not necessarily that she's LW, though that's a gut punch in and of itself, but more so that she kept it from him. That they've been intimate together, and bare with each other, and that she kept it from him. Keeping it from him as a friend is considerably different than keeping it from him as a lover and a fiance. They will be sharing a life together. A name, a home, and any punishments that befall her. The *Queen of England* is in her pursuit, she is, essentially, tying him to her in all events with the binding of marriage, and he sinks or swims with her. That's a pretty hefty thing to keep from a partner. And on top of it, he'll be hurt by the *lies*. That she could not confide in him. That he told her the truth, but she couldn't tell him the truth, and that will be painful. When it came to marrying Marina, it wasn't the pregnancy, the circumstance itself that he felt was a betrayal, but the lie. Same with Penelope: it isn't that she's Lady Whistledown, it's that she kept it from him. She also slagged him off plenty in it if rumours are anything to go by, and that (SPOILER) at the end of Episode 1, she trash talked him in the article right after they made amends, and is relatively horrified that she wrote it in anger and it was published after everything smoothed over. Even still, she has hurt him with that publication, too. It's a firestorm of things for him to be upset by.

6: And he still marries her. Here is a woman who has arguably hurt him the worst, done a greater harm and insult to him than anyone else, and he chooses to still marry her. Because he's angry, but he loves her. She betrays him and insults him and lies to him, but he loves her. She knew him, got close to him, let him speak to her of things that he would blush to speak to with anyone else (that line from S2 was WILD Colin, I see you, trusting boy), and she slags him off in her public article, and she pretends like she has nothing to hide, and she says yes to him even though she knows he doesn't like LW and that she'll have to tell him eventually, and what does Colin do? He forgives her. He forgives her and he asks her to stay and he loves her. He's jealous of her success, and he's upset that she lied to him, and he absolutely blows up. But after all that facade is stripped away, after all the lies and secrets are flayed aside and they are just Col and Pen, who are imperfect people with a hell of a devotion to each other, they know they're living a really beautiful love story. No pretenses, no pretend, just him, and just her, in the light, holding hands.

Because the whole point of Polin is being seen. Being seen and being accepted. Sometimes, you don't like what you see of a person. Penelope didn't like all she saw of Colin, and Colin won't like all he sees of Penelope, but they come to appreciate those parts of each other because in loving one another, they recognize that these imperfect, unsavory aspects of them make them who they are. And so they come out of it stronger.

So yes, Penelope says yes. Yes, Penelope lies to him. And yes, we'll have debates about it when Part 1 comes out, of 'she would never do that to him!!!' or 'well, she did it for xyz and oueyigohp;wfnd'

but in the end, I think it makes the most sense that she has to make this fuck up (and it is a fuck up, absolutely it is) so that they can grow from it. In the same way he had to fuck up so they can grow from it.

And that's the whole point.

#polin #penelope featherington #colin bridgerton #bridgerton #bridgerton s3 #media comprehension and analysis is alive and well and i'm here to prove that #'but dolly it isn't that deep' IT IS DEEP TO ME!!!! IT IS DEEP IF I WANNA MAKE IT DEEP #and also it is absolutely that deep #polin my beloved #the fandom does a disservice to the beauty of this couple but i see you my darlings I SEE YOU

[badchoicesworld]

Helloo! Would you be willing to write a Hobie x Spider!reader, gender neutral? Maybe there's a big fight or something, and Hobie just adoringly watches his s/o take down villains before joining in? Up to you, just spewing the thought! Feel free to ignore this, have a nice rest of your day!

hobie admires your fighting spirit

RAAHH thank you, hope your day is going well too :] hope this met your standards !

established relationship ❤️‍🔥

warnings: none

hobie brown x gn!reader

requests: open ! pleasepleasepleaseplea

★⋆ ⋆☆⋆ ☠︎︎ ⋆☆⋆⋆★✧

so this can be interpreted however you like, maybe miguel sent you two out on a mission or you two are just out doing spidey-things when you come across some baddies that need a beat down

doesn’t matter how you got there, you and hobie are now choreographing a smack down with a bunch of scallywags

he’ll take the ones on that side, you’ll take the ones over there- easy peasy lemon squeezy, yeah ?

anyway, bing bang boom commences and despite being a little distance apart now, you’re still calling out to each other and probably discussing dinner over each wallop

i imagine hobie has the throatiest laughs for no damn reason so you’re occasionally hearing that from a distance whenever someone cracks a zinger or smthn

Hobie finishes his little dance w the baddies first and now his guitar needs retuning, but it means he gets front row seats to your own fight (tried so hard to think of a better word for fight that i haven’t already used)

mans is so enthralled by you when he swings over

can either be found sitting on the top of a car a short distance away or leaning on some kind of surface while he lets you go ape on these guys

is hiding the most snarky grin but loving eyes behind that mask

watching you swing from place to place, forcing your fist down on someone’s skull before using your enhanced agility to drive your elbow into the next guy- he’d never say it out loud but he’s absolutely entranced by all this

seeing you being all independent and protecting yourself, fighting so well and in such a fluent way, spider-people don’t feel real sometimes with what they can achieve

he’s so smitten by you. watching to be funny turns into this silent adoration while he watches you in your element

labels are restricting but there’s also no other way for him to put into words how he feels about you, so he’s just fucking glad he can call you his partner

if you catch him just watching by the sidelines and ask/demand for his help, it’ll snap him out of his trance

he’ll insist you’ve got it

lifts those lanky ass hands up all defensively and is like “Nah, love, you’ve got it!” you can hear his grin.

his body kinda drapes over whatever his been leaning on the whole time while watching you, he’s just so chill

keeps watching for just a liittle bit longer before swinging in to save the day, he’d never actually deprive his partner of his support

is absolutely cheeky abt it though, saying things like “ay, what can i say? i’m just that good.” “you really can’t live without me,” “no worries love, i’ve got you.”

2vswhatever-the-fuck seems about fair, so you finish the job a lot quicker together, but you did a number on the guys you did take out

if you’re feeling a little insecure by needing his help, hobie’s on it

“nah. you did good, love.” while slinging an arm over your shoulder and pulling you into one of those side hugs

probably nudging where his lips would be under his mask against the top of your head before swinging off, proposing a race while he has a head start

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ug so sorry this is kinda short

#across the spiderverse #headcanon #imagine #oneshot #spider man: across the spider verse #ask #hobie brown x reader #astv hobie #hobie brown #hobie brown x gn!reader #gender netural #gender neutral reader #hobie x reader #hobie x you #hobie x gn!reader #hobie x gender neutral reader #hobie x y/n

[youuuimeanmee]

Nol and Shinae's Dance Analysis.

I heard from some people, Quimchee planned the entire night sequence on December 21st to be filled with hints and set ups for events and character dynamics in the future. Though I don't know how far Quimchee is gonna put the hints since it's past Dec 21st already, but hey, Quimchee always insert some symbolisms and foreshadowings anyway so I wanna analyze this one particular scene because it has a lot of foreshadowing materials, and try to predict their dynamic in the upcoming Chess Game.

Analysis

1. Nol with the blindfold. He is hiding his eyes from crying so much. But why is he crying in the first place? One can only guess the reason, but we know the phrase: Eyes are the window of the soul. It immediately reflects our emotions, our fears, and our deepest emotive shades. Nol is hiding his true feelings (whatever it is: love, relieve, heartbreak, fear, anxiety) from Shinae. He is closing his eyes, ignoring whatever reality in front of him, and chooses to live in the moment with her --regardless of the consequences that might come after.

2. The head band covering Shinae's neck --or the delicate part of the body that must be protected, as Nessa once stated. Nol took it away from her. He also told her to take off her shoes earlier. Combine these two, and you have Nol basically rendering Shinae naked vulnerable in front of him. She believes Nol's excuse to play things fair without question; even without the blindfold, Shinae is pretty blind herself, because she couldn't see he's not fine at all.

3. Their outfits. They're both vulnerable in their own ways; Shinae without her shoes and her headband, and Nol in hospital gown with the bandages that covered his wounds. But, while Shinae's neck is out in the open (completely open with her feelings), Nol's neck is wrapped in bandages (hiding his feelings completely). They're not seeing eye to eye; it's not fair.

4. The dance movement. Nol is twirling Shinae around. Even in blindness, he had Shinae dancing at the palm of his hand. By lying and hiding behind a mask, he had her under his control. (Not that he has any malice --he just wants to make happy memories with Shinae before he's gone, but from here, we get a glimpse that Nol is capable of manipulating his partner to move like he wants to.)

5. The color. Rand said he has faith in his team. His words are in red in black, signifying power. He has conviction they won't lose to Yui. And sure enough, the duo is dancing without a care, they're building their team play. But notice the background color when they danced; they're not in the light (hope), but it's not completely dark either. It's basically grey. Despite Rand's hope, the situation seems bleak.

Nol who is blind, is guiding Shinae who is blind. You know what could happen?

This is the worst scenario though, I hope it won't happen.

The blind is leading the blind. One of them has to open their blindfold if they don't want to fall together. Fortunately, Shinae is quick to open her eyes from Nol's tricks. She saw Nol's tear stains and she immediately took the rein; she stopped their dance. Once it stops, we can see the light returns (even if it's not as bright as before).

Discussion

Nol and Shinae's dance has been teased for a long time, and we finally get to see it now. It's been teased from episode 5, when Nol proposed Shinae to be his partner. There has been many hurdles, but now that Shinae has fully accepted Nol's hand, they finally embark on a new journey as partners. Their dance represents their new partnership and how they work together as a team. And of course, being their first time, it's not all smooth sailing.

Nol and Shinae is a unique pair. They're almost like a mirror. Whatever Nol do that night, Shinae is able to keep up with him.

Nol and Shinae have the potential to be impeccable liars. They both can make nasty jokes that can cut their opponents deep. Like Nol's prank that reminded Shinae of her father in-coma, and Shinae's prank that reminded Nol of his abused days in the Hirahara Hospital.

They are capable of stealing. Nol stole the yearbook to investigate Alyssa to give Shinae the justice she deserves. Shinae stole some balloons from the poor, tired man to give Nol a happy birthday he deserves.

They both can equally be manipulative if they want to. Shinae doesn't want Nol to bolt from her since he seemed ready to do it anytime, so she lured him out using sweet words, shared her painful past to try to relate to him, and asked him to dance in Min-Hyuk's room so she could be with him longer. Nol doesn't want Shinae to bolt from him again since she seemed ready to do it anytime, so he listened to her music together, played around with her finger dance, asked her to dance --even taking away her shoes, and smile as Yeong-Gi so she won't run away from him anymore.

Whatever wholesome or nasty things, they could do it together. They'd be such a great partners-in-crime. But sometimes, because they're so matching, they often find themselves in unfavourable condition when they're not in synch. For example, like the first time they meet. Both of them were riled up by the mean guy's mockery; they stood up to teach him a lesson at the same time. But, because they had different idea on how to do it and they're not aware of each other's presence, Shinae ended up hindering Nol by spilling the juice on him --or Nol hindered Shinae by getting in the way, whatever floats your boat. Yes, it is an accident, but I believe Quimchee has been setting up their dynamic from the very start.

You get the gist. For the upcoming chess game, they need to fix their teamwork. And to get a nice teamwork, they need to be in synch. They already prove themselves they're capable of doing that, like their first prank and their tag team against Sang-Chul. But if they want to win against Yui, they have to do better. It's clear they're not there yet, because Nol is hiding too much from her. In fact, Nol is too smart for his own good and he hates putting his loved ones in dangerous or uncomfortable situation, it's possible he would "manipulate" Shinae in their partnership; he'd let her help him enough, but not enough to drag her into the mud with him.

I found this comment and I agree with this, though realistically, I'm not too hopeful Shinae could turn things around so quickly when this is just the very beginning of Nol-Shinae's partnership.

It's been hinted no matter how much Shinae is seem to be able to catch up to Nol, Nol is always one step ahead from her.

On their first "dance" in the Arcade Arc, what Shinae lacked is stamina. Right now what she lack is knowledge. Knowledge about Nol's past and the sticky situation surrounding Hirahara. Unfortunately, Nol is not ready to share it yet. Not at all.

Nol has always been in constant survival mode. Years of being preyed by Yui has build him to never show his weakness to anyone. Not to his friends, not even Nana --to some extent. Today, he just made a huge leap by crying on his loved one's shoulder instead of crying alone, but he's not ready to reveal it to Shinae. He has yet to process his feelings. It takes time. Things are gonna get complicated, especially when it's been foreshadowed that Nol is going to leave for a long time. If he does leave, it'll be a challenge to stay in contact and get close to him. And in the future, there will be much more things that Nol is keeping secret from Shinae. We already have Nol's investigation on Alyssa, for starters. Shinae has stated she doesn't like surprises and she doesn't like it when someone is going overboard for her sake. If she find out Nol has been manipulating her, doing all sort of things behind her back, and shouldering everything alone.... Welp. And she is capable of hurting Nol too, so... Yikes. I pray things won't get that far, I hope they won't hurt each other too much in the process.

I do hope we'll get a parallel of episode 65 on the next episode --Nol admitted to Shinae he's not fine at all, but since Nol is hard-headed, I don't dare to hope too much.

On (un)related topic, Rand, the Black King, has ordered Shinae, his Black Pawn, to inflitrate the opponent's den. Well, even though I said ordered, it's more of an advice on how to play the game. Shinae has the right to decide whether she chose to involve herself in this game or not. To make the decision, she needs to know what is exactly she's up against, and for who she's fighting for. And for that, she has to be aware of Nol's circumstances. Once she heard everything about Nol, there's no going back.

If Nol won't talk to her, I hope she can talk to Nana; I hope the two of them will meet. Yujing is currently brewing her article. If Shinae could learn about Nol's past from Yujing, it'll sting since she didn't learn it from Nol himself, but at least it'll start some conversation with him. Hell, she could even try to ask Rand if she's desperate enough. Nol is the same. If he wants to stand on equal footing with Shinae in the chess game, he needs to face himself, take a leap of faith and try to open up to her, little by little. He needs to believe Shinae is not as fragile as she seemed; she can take his burden and she won't leave him either.

If, in the future, Nol ever find himself immersed in his Antihero role for too long, or he's into his revenge plot too deep, Shinae needs to stop him from hurting himself. Maybe she even have to resort to some brute force if he keeps being stubborn.

Shinae and Nol have different stats in nature, so she has to get creative and proactive with her ways to make up for her weakness, if she wants to stand by Nol's side equally.

Just like Nol who has the capability to manipulate anyone -- including his partner -- if he wanted to, Shinae is just as capable to take the rein of their relationship, like the way she accepting and stopping their dance when she found something wrong. It's up to her if she want to continue the dance --letting her partner be blind, or stopping the dance completely if it means she could get him to open his eyes (come in terms with his feelings).

...

Maybe this is why Rand has so much faith in Nol and Shinae (especially the latter). Despite their flaws, despite their bleak situation, they can overcome anything as long as they're together. In due time, of course.

#i love yoo #ily #ily 222 #ily webtoon #ily analysis #ily meta #ily theory #nolan lochlainn #yoo shin ae #stalkyoo

[vickyvicarious]

I love Arthur so much. It was so good to hear his voice at greater length... and today he is doing the two things he does so very well: see through the mask and provide resources.

Art doesn't get a ton of time on the page. And even when he's there, he isn't usually the focus of the scene. So I think a lot of people tend to underestimate just how important his actions are.

Because... look, everyone knows that Mina is the one who 'writes Dracula', so to speak. She collates the information, she's the first to share the information, she makes unique connections with every single member of the team and takes on a lot of the emotional labor for them. She's great at noticing important things and at connecting with people.

But Mina isn't the only one. Arthur and Mina actually share a fair bit in common I think, and Mina would never have been able to do her thing if he didn't act first now.

Like... yes, of course Lucy is a uniting force in this part of the novel. She's the one everyone wants to save, and her relationships with others are pretty central to bringing them all together. And after they fail, Mina is the one who takes up that role in a lot of ways. But Arthur's relationships are pretty central too. It seems apparent from the way they're first introduced that Art is the reason Lucy met the other suitors in the first place, and he seems to be the one who is closest to both the others/has known them longest. Quincey and Arthur especially spend a ton of time together and seem super close. Van Helsing starts to think of him as a son. He and Mina agree to be like siblings for the rest of their lives, and while he has the least direct connection with Jonathan, he still goes on a journey alone with him at the end and makes sure to look after his health. Everyone loves everyone else, and they all have multiple close relationships, but I think Arthur is probably the one who gets the most emphasis on each different one after Mina. (Even as he is more of a side character.) And while he goes through a ton of loss and isn't able to be a support for everyone for a good while, he always seems to want to try, and he does when he can. I think when he isn't completely lost in grief that's his default state. And he seems pretty good at it. Not just the noticing but also getting people to accept his help. He convinces Lucy to meet with Jack despite the awkwardness. He convinces Jonathan to go to sleep despite his intense drive to keep going without pause. That sort of thing.

Most importantly here is how Arthur sees through Lucy's pretence. (And others too, like when Jack and van Helsing try to pretend she isn't as bad as she is, and he figures it out multiple times. Also, it's not exactly the same thing, but he and Jonathan are the only two people to notice Dracula at Carfax, however briefly.) I've talked about this before, but in the proposal scenes he was the only suitor that was meeting Lucy on even terms. They were both emotionally honest, his proposal was unplanned, and both he and Lucy could read one another well. Through various hints it seems to me that Arthur is usually pretty open with Lucy about everything including his worries, while she talks to him about all sorts of things except her own worries. However, even when she isn't honest with him, Arthur is able to see through Lucy's pretense. For someone who always tries to act happy/well and care for other people first, who hides how poorly she is doing and can't easily ask for help, that's huge. It makes them very well suited. And honestly, he expresses himself a lot in this book in a way entirely devoid of ego. He cries, he admits when he doesn't know what to do, he asks for help, he's willing to follow orders, he forgives what seem like slights against him...

And that's part of what makes his ability to provide resources so useful. Because sure, he throws money at problems. And that's super helpful later on. But he doesn't just do that. He also tries to anticipate specific needs when he knows he has the ability (planning to get his horses, bringing his dogs since he'd heard that Dracula could command rats amongst other things), and offers up his resources for others who know better what to do to use (letting Jonathan use his name to deal with the other lawyers, and giving his blood to Lucy is a big one). And that extends to people too. Arthur knows he can't save Lucy here, so he reaches out to Jack. He uses his relationships to do three things here: convince Jack to come, convince Lucy to be open with him, and trick/distract Mrs. Westenra so she won't be alarmed. Later on, he reaches out to Quincey as well. He never hesitates to ask for help when he thinks it's necessary and not only is he always correct to ask but he gets the answer he wants.

Even though he's far from the most visible character, I think he's pretty important. And I'm deeply fond of him.

#dracula daily spoilers #big ones #dracula daily #arthur holmwood

[captainsspnanon]

Mighty Nein Echos of the Solstice reaction

First of all, the new art just confirms for me that the Nein are 100% the hottest of all three campaigns. holy FUCK. Also lol at 90% of them having long hair now.

I actually called Luc being Sam's PC before it was revealed! Not...not MUCH more, but when Veth didn't immediately have new artwork and she said "I have a TEENAGER", that's when I figured it'd be Luc. Look at me predicting things slightly sooner than they occur!

Did NOT call the guest PC though! Was this the fastest death? Or does Spurt still beat him out? Really did go through the full run of 9, nat 20, nat 1. What more could you ask for?

I really don't think I feel strongly one way or the other about Veth not being there and Luc being there instead. We got a lot of funny bits because of it, and it's not like Veth has fully abandoned adventuring, considering she said that next time she would. It truly seems like it was just the responsibility of the kids, which very fair. What I would love to know is Sam's thought process as to why he wanted to do it. Very intrigued.

Taliesin definitely took a few minutes to get back to Caduceus's voice, but *squeal* love him so much! Interesting that he told Yasha to 'go fuck him up', because I'm genuinely not sure if that was a bit of Ashton bleed, or if this actually broke Caduceus's desire to not swear. Could be either! XD

Yasha doing so much damage!!! Is it just because her strength score is finally good? Well, holy weapon added a bunch, maybe it's just level 20 bulk? But 110 on a NON crit??? DAAANG.

As someone who does enjoy periodic Caleb whump fanfic, this was delicious, especially his interactions with Beau. I do like that Trent ended up getting 'fate worse than death' scenario.

Combat was fun as heck even though there were things that got set up that didn't get used (crown of stars, etc), and I'm a TAD sad that Caleb ended up shapechanging as I always love some good high level spells flung around, but it was still an utter blast regardless.

SURPRISE MARRIAGE PROPOSAL!! Are they poking for another one shot?

The audience wearing Sam face masks at the beginning was the PERFECT troll move, SO MUCH.

#cr spoilers #critical role #the mighty nein #echos of the solstice

[hail-brod]

Proposer

ProHero!Midoriya Izuku x Reader

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“Would you marry me?”

The green haired man asked as he basked in the sights below him, finishing his freshly made katsudon that you had made. The sight was a city that was well protected by its heroes, and mainly with a heroic figure as a foundation of hope and goodness. Both of you looked down on the busy scene, surveying for any dangers or misfortunes that may take place. Seated side by side with the man, you dart your eyes onto him as he didn’t turn to look at you. It was visible on your face that you we’re quite taken aback from the question.

You only rested your eyes on his seated form as he dangled his legs over the solid rock edge. The gears in your mind had only fogged as your stare stayed on him longer. He was always so calming to look at. It just makes your heart swell, as if it wanted to drift away from too much admiration.

You eventually respond. “Would I?”

The No. 1 hero beside you twitched a small smile. “How straightforward of me, huh?”

“You have no idea.” You giggled as the man playfully huffed.

As someone who wasn’t big on giving bold replies, Midoriya Izuku was never going to let go of chances when it comes to you. He wanted to know. He wanted to be aware if you had the mutual intentions when it comes to both of your relationship. It needed to be equal and understood, or else he’s risking the feeling of breaking apart. Both your heart and his.

“But seriously, would you? Given that….we’ve been dating for—“

“—four years, yeah….that’s…..that’s a lot.” You took the next sentences. You’ve already thought about it. You’ve already thought about that. It, of course, also clouded your mind a lot recently and you could never say it’s something you dislike. You can never also pit it close to your ‘not-want’ list because it’s so much more than a dream.

Midoriya Izuku. You can never see yourself saying a ‘no’ to a life with him.

You had four years with him and you feel amazing to be lasting so long. You see no point in asking for more.

But marriage?

That’s like the most special thing that could happen in your life. And only with him.

Sighing, you turned your head away from him. Izuku could only tilt his head at your actions. You then speak. “You know, you’re a dummy.”

“Woah, hold on what’d I do?” Izuku had his eyes on you as he raised one brow. He wondered for a second as he pouted.

“You didn’t have to ask whether I’d marry you or not.”

…….

“’Cause I wouldn’t hesitate to kneel right here, right now.”

The curly haired man stared at you with wide eyes as his emerald ones got caught up in one blink. Two blinks. Three blinks.

Huh.

The next thing he saw was you standing up and proceeding to kneel in front of him. “Midoriya Izuku…I will ask you—“

“Whu- h-hold on! Hold on! What are you doing?!”

“Proposing?” You replied almost so with a stoic face.

“No- I mean- I should be- I wasn’t prepared, God….”

This was not fair. Izuku thought. He was in a craze of blush. Layering colors of red masked his whole face as he frantically slapped his palm to cover his mouth.

It wasn’t supposed to go like this but he isn’t upset either.

The look on your face when he brought up marriage, it was reassuring. The way you had look like you have no hesitations to convey what you wanted and how it aligned with his, it elated him. He felt so lucky.

And you could never get tired in seeing him craze in blush but also, truth be told, your heart was also exploding. You are aware of the effect that Izuku can withhold against you, and you only had your way to let out a nervous chuckle until it turned into laughters.

“I told you I wouldn’t hesitate…” You said, looking fondly at the man in front of you. A visible blush on your cheeks.

Izuku could only snap at his frantic thoughts as he met your eyes. Fond. He always saw it and it did miracles to his heart. Your fond eyes we’re so familiar, because he could always see it looking at him — and only him. It was one of the things that made him fall in love with you more. Thinking about it made his insides flip in a swirl of blossoms.

He chuckled. “You really love me that much?”

At this point, it was no use to pretend and cover up being flustered. You could only blush further at his question as you bit your lip from a growing shyness in you. But you rivalled that and faced the honest side of your world.

Huffing, you replied.

“I….really, really, really love you that much.”

Izuku’s heart swelled.

Even though you we’re heating up and fluctuating, you didn’t want to miss the chance to be a tease. “I’d be more than happy to see us having matching rings.”

The green haired man playfully rolled his eyes as he smiled. “Oh, hush.”

You both giggled as your stares halted on each other. Izuku was the one to break it first as he smiled wider at you. You almost fawn over that.

It wasn’t long until you felt a pair of strong arms pull you in a warm hug.

And it would be a total waste to break it, so you melt in his embrace as you closed your eyes, hugging him back. You hide your face in the nook of his neck, basking in in the comfort of the man you love. He patted your head gently as he only tightened the hug further once he felt you bury your head below his chin.

He felt so overjoyed.

But it had to end when Izuku’s phone rang.

He blinked a few seconds before burying his hand on his pocket, taking out his phone without breaking the hug.

He read the caller ID as it shown the name ‘Kacchan’.

“It’s Kacchan.” He sighed. “I think I’m in trouble.”

He almost forgot he was supposed to be patrolling the area.

“Oh, frick.” You opened your eyes as you realized the time. Your boyfriend was on his hero duty and you both we’re still here, hugging like a desperate lovesick couple. Not that it's untrue. “My bad for keeping you long enough.”

You didn’t see what came next as you only waited for a vocal response but you soon realized he wasn’t going to do that first. Izuku then pecked your lips.

It never gets old because it still sends your stomach in a frenzy.

“No, I’d love for us to hang out a lot more. I’ll see you back at home later, okay? I love you…” You locked your eyes with his emerald ones as he gently squeezed your arm to assure you. He looked down at you with those shine in his eyes and it was a perfect image. You might have to recall this visual from time to time and fawn over it.

Looking away from his gaze, you reply with a smirk.

“Woo me later and I’ll say it back again.”

“Wha- that’s just not fair.” You chuckled at his response.

It was only for a few seconds when you we’re both interrupted once again and not by the phone, but by an exploding loud voice that is Bakugou Katsuki.

“Take that home, lovebirds! I can’t believe both of you we’re flirting while I was gone. And you Deku! How dare you miss my call?!!”

He was fuming as always as he shouted from a few distance away in another rooftop. Scarlet eyes we’re mixed with disgust from the display of lovey-dovey interaction as he clicked his tongue irritatingly.

Izuku could only sweatdrop for getting busted as he nervously chuckled. “Oh hey, K-Kacchan…!” He greeted back. “Sorry, sorry. We’re about done here.”

“Don’t fuss it, Katsuki. You’ll get your bestie back.” You also shot back innocently as you received a scoff from the hothead. You and Katsuki actually had a stable friendship after Izuku introduced you to him.

It was all because you we’re a beginner cook and he didn’t want your precious Izuku to have such an incompetent girlfriend.

Yes, you really thought they we're brothers by blood.

"Break’s already over like 25 minutes ago. You’re on duty mister No. 1 hero so get it over with your wifey. I’m going.” He huffed while exploding his way out of your sight.

“Wifey?” Izuku repeated.

“Huh. Even Katsuki expects us to get married soon.” You said, looking at the empty spot where the hothead was standing earlier. You let out a pleased hum while nodding.

“You’re tempting me, love.”

“I could say the same, darling.”

Your boyfriend walked beside you as both of you went to the rooftop door. You asked one last thing.

“Ever heard of eloping?”

“Huh, wait, are you suggesting what I think you’re suggesting?” Izuku gave you a shocked expression, looking as if he had seen you done something villainous.

“What? Wouldn’t that be something?” You only laughed at his reaction.

“Oh, you’re so desperate.” Shaking his head with a grin, he held your hand as you arrived outside the door.

“Thanks.” You cheekily replied as you fully faced him one last time.

“I’m no different either way.”

Leaning closer to you, it was less than a second when you felt a pair of familiar lips connect with yours. It was a quick roll of a passionate kiss that is far from a peck. “But no, we are not eloping.”

Giggling, you replied with unrivalled elation. “I know, I know…”

“Just prepare your ring finger, Mr Midoriya.”

The said man raised a brow.

“I hear a challenge. Don’t get too cocky now ‘cause you’ll be Mrs Midoriya in no time.”

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[sebastianstanisahotmf]

Hi love 🖤

I want to start by congratulating you on reaching 100 followers; you deserve every single one! 🥳

Second of all, I would love to make a request for your celebration, and this one will be for none other than our most wonderful God of Mischief, Loki! 💚

This story can be as either a regular or best friend or partner, whichever you think fits best with this story! But since Loki is of course the God of Mischief, what would a prank war with him look like?

Him and Reader pranking each other in a lot of different ways, all with the goal of making everyone laugh of course, we don't want anyone to intentionally get hurt during this!

I can't wait to see where you're going to take this idea, and once again, congratulations on reaching this wonderful milestone 🖤

Loki x Reader

A/N Firstly, I want to say thanks for your support xoxo. Secondly, thanks for the ask and I was very excited when I first saw it. I hope I write Loki's character right since I love him but have never written for him before. I also decided to make Loki and the reader a couple and I only used he/him pronouns for Loki but I am aware that Loki is genderfluid so next time I write a fic I will make sure to include that. This is a part of my 100 followers celebration and likes, comments and reblogs are appreciated.

THIS IS NOT AN 18+ FIC BUT I STILL FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE WITH MINORS READING MY FICS SO PLEASE DNI IF YOU ARE A MINOR.

Summary

DO NOT REPOST ONTO ANY OTHER APPS/WEBSITES. THE ONLY PLACE THIS FIC IS ON IS TUMBLR.

Warnings Fluff

Loki was the God of mischief. There was no doubt about that and he even carried his mischievous tendencies into your relationship. That was why there was an unnofficial prank war going on between both of you. 

It all started when Loki set up a flour bomb but used his powers to mask it which made it invisible. 

You were thinking of a way to trick Loki and decided on hiding all his books. 

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“Do you know where my books are darling?” Loki asked you.

“No babe,” you responded, trying to stop yourself from smiling.

“Ok,” he replied.

A few minutes later, he walked back into the room, “Are you sure you don’t know where any of my books are my love?” he asked, crossing his arms.

“I told you I don’t know, you must have misplaced them,” you shrugged.

“I can’t have misplaced seven books darling,” he told you with his right eyebrows raised.

He looked around everywhere in the living room and walked back out in search of his ‘misplaced books’.

Once you knew he had gone, you took the books out from under the couch and placed them in a pile on the coffee table.

“My love, where on this god forsaken planet have you put my books,” Loki asked, walking back into the room.

“They’re on the coffee table love,” you said, desperately trying to hold in your laugh.

Loki huffed and looked at the coffee table where his books were.

“I can assure you my love, the books weren’t there earlier,” he stated, crossing his arms again but this time he had a smile on his face.

This made your facade crack and you burst out laughing.

“Do you think this is funny darling?” he questioned, walking over to you on the couch.

He leaned over and started to tickle you, “I won’t stop until you apoligose my love.” 

���I-I’m sorry b-babe,” you weezed out.

Loki stopped tickling you and gave you a chassed kiss.

“It was payback for the flour bomb,” you told him.

“So does that mean you declare a war,” he proposed.

“Yes. I am declaring a prank war,” you said, crossing your arms and sitting up straight.

“You’re going to regret this love. You’re messing with the God of Mischeif,” he said matter-of-factly.

“I can take you,” you declared.

“It’s official then,” Loki announced.

“I think we need to officially seal it though,” you said.

“How do you suppose we do that?” Loki inquired.

“I think we should kiss to seal the deal.” 

“That sound fair.” 

You kissed Loki and then he picked his books up and left the room. 

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It had been a few days since you had declared a prank war on Loki and you both haddn’t made a move yet. That was until today.

Loki knew you enjoyed baking on the weekends so he decided to prank you today.

He grabbed the carton of six eggs and took them out of the fridge. He filled a pan with water and put it on the hob he turned on a few minutes prior. Then, he put the eggs in when the water was boiling and waited until he knew they were hard-boiled. 

Although Loki was unskilled in the kitchen due to his upbringing, he was still taught some basic skills and one of them happened to be boiling eggs.

Loki took the eggs out of the pan and waited for them to cool down before putting them back in the carton. 

He cleared his tracks and started to make coffee and pancakes for both of you.

As he was halfway through flipping pancakes, you walked into the kitchen and wrapped your arms around him. 

You kissed his back before saying, “good morning babe.” 

“Good morning love, how did you sleep?” 

“It was alright, and you?” you grabbed your coffee and sat down at the kitchen table.

“I always sleep well when you’re in bed,” his response was a little too kind compared to his usual responses.

Loki wasn’t mean to you -he was far from it- but he usually pulled that line out if he felt particularly cuddly or if you went to sleep mad at each other (which was an infrequent occurrence), making it seem more out of place.

You just shrugged it off and carried on with your morning as usual.

At around 12 o’clock, you turned to Loki on the couch and asked if you had any eggs he responded that you did so you decided to bake a cake for the two of you.

Loki had been acting weird all morning but you couldn’t put your finger on it. You concluded that he wasn’t feeling too good (mentally or physically) so baking would allow you to give him space and make him something he enjoys.

You got all the ingredients out and started to measure them. Once that was done, you mixed the butter and sugar together before reaching over to the eggs. You grabbed the first one and tried to crack it on the side of the bowl. 

You were extremely confused when only the shell cracked. Without thinking, you reached for another egg but the same thing happened. You looked a little closer and peeled the shell off. 

That’s when you realised why Loki had been acting strange all morning.

You walked into the living room with the two eggs and saw Loki reading a book. You strolled over and grabbed the book out of his hand which made Loki smirk. 

“So you found my little surprise my darling.”

“Yeah I did,” you retorted, putting both hands on your hips, “Do we actually have any eggs or have you boiled them all?” 

“Theres a spare carton of eggs hidden behind the cheese and yoghurts.”

“I’m gonna get you back for this,” you assured him.

“Oh, I’m sure you will love,” he almost whispered, to which you responded by putting your middle finger up at him as you walked out the room.

I’m considering doing part two because I have a few different prank ideas, but I don’t want to make this fic too long. Idk about you guys but I have a shit attention span which means I struggle to read longer fics but if that is what you want then comment below and I will make fics longer in the future.

If you want to be tagged whenever I post a fic then click on the link

If you want to see what I repost, my other account is @sebastianstanisahotmf-reblogs

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[lowkeyerror]

Best Friend's Wedding

Wanda Maximoff x Reader

Word Count: 2.9k

Warnings: Violence, Angst in the beginning, No powers AU

Summary: Your best friend is getting married and you wish that she wasn't.

An: I reached 1,500 followers not too long ago, to celebrate I'm posting 15 fics right now. Check them out, if you want, and hope you enjoy this one.

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There were moments in life where tough decisions had to be made. The impact of those choices would have an irreversible effect on life.

Marriage was one of those tough decisions. Spending the rest of your life with someone you love should be an easier decision. However, nearly 50% of marriages end in divorce.

Falling out of love with someone takes twice as much effort as falling in love with them. The question at hand was if you could wait for the love of your life to fall into that divorce statistic.

Your best friend was getting married. The woman you spent hours on the phone with, the woman who you've held in your arms, the woman that blushed when you looked her in the eyes, was getting married.

Wanda loved Vis. You couldn't deny that. It was in the way she spoke about him. The light in her eyes when he complimented her. The way she bit her lip when he rested his hand on her lower back.

You knew if he proposed, she'd say yes. There was always heavy doubt in your mind that he would ever propose. It was obvious to you that Wanda loved him, but you were less convinced that he loved her.

That's not to say he was affectionate or caring towards her, but there were times when you doubted his motives. There were things that he changed about Wanda, little instances where he corrected something he wasn't fond of.

For example, Wanda had an accent, being from Sokovia. She never had any issues with her accent before him. It wasn't until he commented on it that she started trying to hide it.

He changed a lot of little things that you love about Wanda. She insisted that she was just growing up and that these things happen over time, but you knew it was directly correlated to him.

There was no outward hatred of Vis on your part. You did your best to play the role of Wanda's best friend. For her sake, you treated him like he was a friend. All malice remarks and criticism stayed only in your mind.

However, the closer it got to the wedding, the more your mask slipped. The first instance being when Wanda asked you to be in the wedding. There was a snort of sorts before you declined.

She was taken aback. Her eyebrows knitted together in confusion. Why wouldn't her best friend want to be part of her wedding? You played it off as general scheduling conflicts, stating you wouldn't be able to be as involved as she needed you too.

She didn't let you completely off the hook, playfully demanding that you do a speech. Something that you begrudgingly agreed to.

Going to the wedding was giving you anxiety. You didn't want to fuck up Wanda's big day. It wasn't fair to her that you couldn't get your shit together. You'd be there for her no matter how much it hurt you.

" If it's any consolation, I'd always thought I'd be walking her to you," you stood outside the wedding venue, Pietro's voice bringing you back to the present.

He was wearing a dark blue suit. His shaggy hair was slicked back for the occasion and his face was clean-shaven.

You sigh to hold back your tears," That helps a little, I guess."

He rests a hand on your shoulder," I'm not leaving your side today, okay? I know you need the support."

" Thanks, Piet," the two of you walk into the venue together.

Your eyes took in the details in the venue. It was beautiful, traditional, but beautiful nonetheless. Pietro walked you to the front row, your seat reserved next to his.

You'd be steps away from where it was all happening. Your heart ached, but you smiled and greeted everyone like you were fine.

When the ceremony was about to start, Vis appeared on the altar. He looked plain, black suit, only one piece short of a tacky prom outfit.

Pietro took that as his sign to go find Wanda. Leaving you alone as the wedding party began to make their entrance. The bridesmaid and the groomsmen walked out first, followed by the flower girl, Morgan Stark.

She personally handed you one of the flower petals, and you smiled brightly at her. Though the smile was genuine, the pain in your chest rang out as you noticed that this was all too real.

Then you heard the beginning of here comes the bride. Everyone turned in their spot to get a view of Wanda.

When you saw her, you were overwhelmed with emotion. There was nothing you could do as tears fell down your face. She was… everything.

The dress only worked to highlight her natural beauty. The intricate details of the white dress were magnificent. She didn't have a veil, her piercing green eyes on full display.

You could hardly tear your eyes off of her. Then she walked past you onto the altar. Vis was smiling at her, and she smiled at him.

Pietro risked a glance at you, and when he saw you crying, his heart broke too. He knew how much you loved his sister, this was one of the cruelest form of punishment that he ever witnessed.

It wasn't until Wanda cleared her throat that he noticed it was time to give her away," I- I am."

Then he took a seat by you, holding his hand in yours.

Your legs were spread wide, so that your elbows could rest on your knees. You were trying your best to hide the way your body was trembling. Most people would just assume you were extremely happy for your friend, but in reality your heart was on fire.

The minister led the ceremony, and it was all a blur for you until the vows.

" Vis, I never thought I'd be getting married until the day I met you. I didn't know anything was missing from my life until you showed up. I couldn't imagine being up here with anyone else. I love you and I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you."

The minister turns to Vis, waiting for him to recite his vows. There was a long pause. Then you saw it, he was trembling. Sweat covered the top of his forehead. His eyes began to dart around the room.

" Vis," Wanda tried to get his attention discreetly. He took a step back from her.

" I- Wanda I'm sorry, I can't do this," he stormed down the aisle away from Wanda.

Your eyes widened, what just happened? Pietro was out of his seat in an instant, anger crowding his face. He chased the runaway groom.

Wanda had sprinted from the altar, all of her bridesmaids as well as you in tow.

Fuck.

What the fuck was happening?

" She locked the door," Natasha was banging on the door," Wanda, please let us in."

You watched as they all tried to get her to open the door.

" Is there a window ?" You asked.

" Definitely," Yelena answered you.

You were running out of the building in minutes, looking for the 3rd story window. Through one of the thin curtains, you were certain you saw Wanda's silhouette.

Years ago, climbing up the side of a building would've been easy for you, now not so much. Each step was one of trial and error. Sweat coated your hands, making it hard to find something to grip.

When you finally reached the window, luck was on your side. With one push it opened inward allowing you to tumble through and land with a thud on the floor.

" Jesus Christ, I'm not as young as I used to be," you groaned against the wooden floor.

" Y/n," Wanda rushed to your side, helping you off the floor," Why would you do that?"

" You weren't opening the door," she looked away when you said that.

" I just need to be alone," Wanda's voice trembled as she spoke.

Ignoring her words, you slowly stand and wrap your arms around her. Her head instinctively falls on your shoulder," I don't think you should be alone right now."

She starts silently crying into your shoulder as you rub calming circles on her back," Why did he do this to me, Y/n?"

" Anyone who is stupid enough to ever walk away from you, never deserved you in the first place," you hold her a little tighter as you say it.

" I did everything he wanted. I changed so many little things that he insisted were making me better. I- i just don't understand," her accent comes out strong in her distress.

" Look at me," she slowly raises her head to meet your gaze," This isn't your fault. You're perfect. Everything about you is absolutely extraordinary. If he got scared and insecure enough to run away, then he wasn't ready for a woman like you."

She shakes her head," He left me at the altar, Y/n. I'm the one who looks stupid."

Your voice is soft when you speak," No, you don't. He's just run away from the best thing that would've ever happened to him, and everyone here knows that. If anyone looks stupid, it's him."

She takes in your words. You can see her processing them in her mind. She deflects," Maybe it was for the best, you looked like a wreck out there."

You crack a smile at her joke," Was I not supposed to be emotional?"

She chuckled," You were in tears before I even took my first step."

A blush spread across your face," You took my breath away. The dress, the makeup, the hair; how could I not cry?"

There was a banging on the door," Pietro's going to kill him."

You and Wanda shared a look before rushing out the room. Natasha was on the other side, waiting.

She led you two to the commotion outside. Apparently, Pietro had dragged the runaway groom all the way back to the venue.

Wanda's hand flew over her mouth as she saw her brother wailing on Vis. She was going to enter the fray to stop it, but you did it first.

You yanked Pietro off of the man, who then stood quickly. You positioned yourself between them," Enough!"

" Y/n he deserves it," Pietro tried to move past you, but you wouldn’t let him.

" But she doesn't," your eyes shift over to Wanda and her brother instantly calms down.

Vis interrupts," Oh, get off your high horse Y/n. I know you're probably happy I didn't go through with it anyway. Seeing as everyone knows, you're hopelessly in love with Wanda."

You turn your attention to him," I'm trying to save your ass right now. You've already embarrassed yourself by walking away from the best thing to ever happen to you. So I suggest that you continue to walk away and never come back."

He gets in your face, but you stand your ground," She'll never love you."

" I can live with that a lot easier now that she's not marrying a loser like you," you smile brightly at him.

He tries to punch you, but you grab his arm and twist up behind his back. Then you push him away from you.

He's seething as he looks at the crowd and his eyes land on his would've been bride," No one will ever love you like I did."

" I think that's the point," you rebuttal.

For a moment it looks like he's coming back, but then Pietro stands right beside you, staring him down. Almost begging him to come back.

Vis, walks away and doesn't look back.

The room is silent as they try to process all the drama that just transpired.

" I feel like we all need a drink after that," Natasha breaks the intense silence, earning a few chuckles from the guests.

Wanda perks up," She's right, we can't let all of this go to waste. We might as well have a good time."

Everyone begins to chatter and servers begin bringing around platters. It's almost as if things were normal.

You took this as a sign to slip outside of the venue, away from the reinvigorated party. You took a seat on the steps as Vis's words rang through your head at a thunderous volume.

You felt embarrassed. Your feelings were thrown out in the open without consent. It didn't matter if everyone already knew, it was just something no one brought up. They'd all heard it, and you didn't deny it.

" Y/n," Pietro plopped down next to you," You alright?"

" Trying to be, but it's hard when everyone knows you're in love with your best friend who was supposed to get married," you bury your head in your hands.

" I hate to tell you this, but a lot of them already knew. You don't necessarily hide your feelings."

You groan, and he rests a hand on your back," I bet a drink will make you feel better."

" If I'm going to wallow, I might as well go home," you mumble into your hands.

" I think you should talk to her."

You meet his eyes," Well I think she's been through enough today; and as her best friend I can tell you the last thing she needs is me confessing my love for her."

Pietro sighs and with a dry laugh says," Always thinking about what's best for her, even when you're at your lowest."

You shrug," Can't help it, she's always on my mind."

The two of you sit silently after that. Pietro's company keeps you grounded. The thoughts that you had before, no longer so overwhelming.

" Hey."

You both turn your heads to see Wanda standing atop of the steps. No longer in her wedding gown, but still wearing a semiformal romper.

Pietro stands up from his spot and offers it to his sister. She takes the spot next to you. He gives you a nod before returning into the venue.

" I brought cake," she hands you a slice as a peace offering.

" Thanks," you take a bite and a tiny grin appears," It's good cake."

You eat the cake in silence as you feel her eyes taking in your appearance. She wants to ask you about it, you can feel it.

" This day was eventful in all the ways I didn't want it to be," she says half jokingly," My fiancé left me at the altar, he fought my brother, and tried to punch my best friend. Natasha told me I had bad taste, but fuck."

" You'll find someone else, hopefully someone better than him," you tell her.

She plays with the ring on her finger," You want to know what else Natasha told me?"

" What?"

She continues staring at her ring," Years ago, when Vis and I officially became boyfriend and girlfriend, she told me I didn't need a boyfriend because I had you."

You felt your skin flash hot in an instant," What does that have to do with anything?"

She laughs lightly," I said that same thing. Natasha told me that you were my soulmate. That I'd never find someone to love me better than you did. I was young then, confused. I didn't understand what she was implying, but I think I get it now."

She turns so that she's facing you," Not everyone climbs through windows to comfort their best friend, they don't break up fights between their brother and ex-fiance, they don't stick around after having their private feelings exposed in front of tons of people. The only person I can think of that would do all those things is you."

" Wanda, we don't have to talk about this right now."

She grabs one of your hands," We do because I've been an idiot. You've been right here the whole time, and I have taken you for granted."

You keep your hopes low," What are you trying to say?"

She takes a deep breath," I'm saying I know I just got left at the altar and I probably shouldn't be doing this right now, but you're my best friend. There's no one who knows me like you do, and if you don't mind taking a chance on me, I'd like to take you out sometime."

You blink at her, mouth agape. She looks at you with her eyes shining. Everything seems unreal.

" A-are you asking me out?"

She nods," I'm asking you out."

You can't help the wide smile that plasters itself on your face," Yes, I'll go out with you."

Your heart is pumping with adrenaline. You are in utter disbelief about what's happening. Wanda was getting married earlier today, and now you were going on a date with her.

Completely caught up in the fact that she asked you out, you were blindsided when her lips touched yours. The red head surged forward and planted her lips on yours.

Her hand rested on the back of your neck, keeping you close to her. Your lips cascaded over hers in pure bliss. When she pulled away, your eyes were still closed.

" You just kissed me," you said, touching your lips.

" I did," she beamed at you.

" Do it again."

And she did. She kissed you numerous times before you both went back to the ex-wedding party. The day that you were dreading the most turned out to have a pretty sweet ending.

#lowkeyerror #wanda maximoff #wanda maximoff imagine #wanda maximoff x reader #the avengers #pietro maximoff #natasha romanoff #vision marvel #wanda maximoff x vision

[mermaidsirennikita]

Have you read historical books with the I HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF HER vibe?

Devil's Bride and Scandal's Bride by Stephanie Laurens immediately come to mind. Like, all the Cynster books are really on this because Cynsters are CONQUERORS!!!!11 but these two are especially intense. Devil is like, buying Honoria a million gowns without her asking or consenting, and she's like "why" and he's all "I AM PRACTICING FOR BEING HUSBAND???" even though she. Still. Has not. Accepted. His proposal.

Richard/Scandal is just like. Convinced that Catriona needs someone to follow her around and take care of her while she does her mystical Lady of the Vale duties. And to be fair, he is correct, because Catriona is completely insane and sees absolutely nothing wrong with hurtling herself into danger. One of my favorite little moments in the book is when they're walking on like, a wintry landscape, and she's all "I CAN DO EVERYTHING BY MYSELF I DON'T NEED YOU" and then immediately like slips on some ice and almost falls. And Laurens describes him as sort of being like "God help me" while grabbing her before she hits the ground.

Indigo by Beverly Jenkins, dude. Hester is so practical and is so determined to take care of herself, and Galen comes into her life and is like "no no no I am the captain now". His grand gesture at the end. Ugh. Just thinking about it makes me wanna cry. Such great caretaking.

Grace Callaway heroes tend to be this way, while also being paired with the battiest women on God's earth, who again will just cartwheel into danger. Olivia and The Masked Duke, Fiona and The Enigmatic Earl, and Glory and The Master of Shadows are the ones that really stand out to me on this front. (I've read like... a lot of Grace's books lol, but she also has a big backlist and I need to knock out some more soon because I love her.) The Duke Who Knew Too Much also has this vibe hard.

On a different from, How to Steal a Scoundrel's Heart has this vibe in a different way, wherein the very frosty hero who only intends to keep the heroine as his mistress, it's just business... but then she gets her period and is in bed with cramps and he's like "AWWWWW" and like curls up with her in bed to hold her and shit lol.

Lorraine Heath heroes always wanna take care of a woman lol. Shoutout to Olivia getting sick in Between the Devil and Desire and Jack Dodger having an entire conniption over it. Putting her in the ice bath, making her endure it to bring down her fever, watching her sleep in her weird little room of clocks (and calling in Graves, the Greatest Victorian Doctor of All Time) to be like "OMG HELP HER but also to be clear I have zero emotional investment in this annoying woman" while Graves, who's known Jack since childhood, is like "RIIIIIGHT SURE".

Surrender to the Devil is a great "let me take care of you" book. Sterling is another one who initially just wants a mistress, but once he realizes how traumatized and in need of tenderness Franny is, he's sooooo gentle and sweet and caring with her.

Waking Up with the Duke, of course. Shoutout to Ainsley rubbing Jayne's feet while she's like a billion months pregnant (lol me laughing and crying with it segueing to him pushing her nightgown up and her going "... I cannot sleep with you right now" only for him to respond with "I have literally never seen you BIG WITH MY CHILD, can I please just stare creepily at your pregnant belly :/". And then he kisses it. That poor man. I'd die for him.) He also puts her in a special warm pool while her back hurts??? And then she IS like "okay you can do it to me now".

The Duke's Perfect Wife by Jennifer Ashley. Like, never mind Hart giving Eleanor money without being asked while she's like "I don't want you to take care of me and my stupid father who's not good with money" and he's all "I am going to take care of you and your stupid father who's not good at money" (tucking the cash into her bodice) (in his brother's book.... god what an ALPHA movie)... He's also like such a caretaker. He's a NESTING HERO which is really a subsection of the caretaking hero. Hart wants to build Eleanor a nest lined with so much fur and feathers and random shining objects he finds on the forest floor. When she gets hurt, he's like "Eleanor!!!! We cannot Do Things while your arm is in a sling!!!!" and Eleanor is all "oh trust and believe we can". (She wins. One of the only books where he's shellacking her while her arm is in a sling.)

In Which Matilda Halifax Learns the Value of Restraint by Alexandra Vasti has this vibe to me. Because again, Matilda is crazy, and Christian is very like *SIT DOWN YOU SILLY WOMAN AND LET ME TAKE CARE OF THIS*. Fortunately, Matilda is soooo into that.

Hotel of Secrets by Diana Biller has a hero who's like, a virgin and very uptight with this much more experienced and free-spirited heroine. But like. So much of this book is her having near-death experiences and him charging in to save her. Like, not even intentionally? He's just acting on instinct. It's very dear and I love it.

The Duke Gets Even by Joanna Shupe. OBVIOUSLY. Lockwood is literally like "nobody has ever taken care of this woman and guess what I am gonna fix that RIGHT NOW". He like, forces her to get in the tub with him after. He pushes cuddling all the time. He's like forcing her to rely on him lol.

Marrying Winterborne by Lisa Kleypas, another obvious one. I think Dreaming of You gives me this vibe a lot too because Derek Craven is just like "take my Regency black card and buy yourself EVERYTHING" because Derek Craven has zero taste and he's gonna buy all of it like the new money man he is.

#romance novel blogging #romance novels #book recs

[aspd-culture]

Do you have any like actual tips for pro-socials who have antisocial loved ones, like friends or partners? So many sites are like “dealing with a [x]? Here’s ten ways to handle it!” and then it details abusive tactics (which is blatantly stupid, IMO, pwaspd/npd already expect the world to do this to them so idk where they’re getting the idea that pwaspd/npd wouldn’t expect this behavior because their upbringing TRAINED them to expect this behavior but hey, nobody said ableists actually knew what the fuck they were talking about).

I personally struggle with an aspd trait here or there alongside a bigger bpd/npd comorbidity so I get the pathological aspect of this disorder but truly, it is hard to like. believe them when they say they care or whatever because even though I know, mentally, that the bare minimum is pretty much their way of trying to care when they don’t get anything out of it like I do, a small part of me wishes for the mask back where I got the effort and adoration I used to. It sucks but I also don’t think pwaspd should also be left behind in society just because their relational instincts got fucked up before they had a chance.

Idk. I feel like there’s a lot of ableism that people without aspd need to unpack (myself included) but it’s also like, what do you do when someone quite literally admits to manipulating you (in an effort to hold themselves accountable) and frequently lies to make their lives easier? Like I get it Mentally and I can pinpoint why their actions Are them trying to care and show care, especially if they actually do care and well, aspd innit? but the mental understanding is one thing and the craving for the emotional connection with them is another.

I hope this is cohesive and I hope I’m not imposing or being an ableist dick or anything, I just. Don’t think it’s fair to hold the disorder against them and a grand majority of people who think “HOLD THEM ACCOUNTABLE” about mental illness advocacy is almost always punitive and withholding and expecting an exorbitant amount of groveling or self-flagellation on part of those with “scary” disorders and idk how to approach this with sensitivity and nuance that it deserves and requires.

Ok, so first part of your question asked for tips for prosocials who have antisocial loved ones. Here I go into how to support someone with ASPD (suspected or diagnosed).

Following the tips further down in this post can avoid conflict as well as help you communicate in ways that are effective to pwASPD.

As for dealing with someone telling you they are manipulating you, try and remember that much of the socially acceptable (and even some mandatory behaviors) are manipulation. Manipulation is just trying to affect someone's feelings, thoughts, or actions, or trying to change the end result of a situation. This includes flirting, job interviews, college applications/essays, pay raise negotiations, court proceedings (on the part of everyone in that room except the judge and jury), etc etc etc. If you have ever apologized with the hope or expectation that you will be forgiven, you have manipulated for your own gain. If you've ever bought someone dinner before asking them a favor, you have manipulated someone. One of the most romantic things someone can do - an elaborate proposal where you take them on a lovely date to their favorite places and make them feel special and then list all of your favorite things about the person before asking them to be with you forever is MASSIVE manipulation. It's just not malicious manipulation. Have you ever tried to convince someone to get out of an abusive relationship? That's manipulation for the purpose of sabotaging a relationship because you believe it is what is best for another person, even at the expense of what they think about it and what they want. Does that make it wrong? Of course not. There is such a thing as being manipulative in neutral and/or positive ways - society just doesn't like calling all of that stuff manipulation because the word manipulation has been given a nasty connotation.

As for the lying, though, if they are lying to *you* consistently and not making effort to change despite communication about it (including reassurance that you will allow them to explain themselves fully without interrupting and do your best to remain calm even after that no matter what they tell you - people with ASPD need that if you expect us to give up a coping mechanism as big as lying in a close, vulnerable relationship/friendship that we don't want to lose), that is a problem. It is not acceptable for them to lie to you. You are entirely in your right to make boundaries and separate yourself if they can't be honest with you, especially about big/important things, but honestly about anything. If they're lying to other people in a way that doesn't affect you, though, why is that a problem? They are dealing with their symptoms and making certain they are doing so in a way that doesn't harm you. That is very difficult for someone with ASPD, as it would be for anyone with any personality disorder, and that effort should be respected and appreciated.

Also who *doesn't* do things to make their lives easier? If you were being asked by a creep at a bar for your number, would you give it to them? Would you maybe lie about having a partner or give them a fake number or say you had to go for a pretend emergency to get out? Yes, those lies are for your perceived safety because that situation could be dangerous, but for pwASPD (people with ASPD), every interaction with other people has as much potential for danger as the situation I described. It is understandable to not be used to seeing things that way, but that was our life during vital stages of development and there are things we had to do to adapt to that reality. ASPD literally changes how your brain is wired, so there is only so much that you can expect us to change, and one thing you cannot expect from most of us is to get rid of that belief that we are in danger. Trying to only really makes us see *you* as a danger trying to get our guard down so you can hurt us.

I also don't think "the bare minimum" is a fair way to describe the way pwASPD show love. It not being what you're used to is not the same as it being the bare minimum. It takes an exceptional amount of work on the part of someone with ASPD to try to understand, accommodate, communicate with, and avoid hurting prosocials what with all the extra effort that requires for us. We literally work more than a prosocial does to be "extra" in a relationship just to manage what you call the bare minimum. What is caring about someone if not inconveniencing yourself purely for the sake of understanding them and making them happy? What is love if not effort?

I do understand wishing for the mask to come back, but as someone who has disorders you mentioned in your ask, I'm hoping you understand why asking them to do that would be unfair, unrealistic, and ableist. However, it is none of those things to privately miss that time, and it sounds to me like you're doing the latter which is in no way problematic in my opinion.

There are ways to ask for some of their previous behavior and treatment back without asking them to mask again, if it's things that aren't symptoms of ASPD themselves. For example, if they initiated hangouts/dates more often before, it's completely reasonable to ask them to do that again. If they no longer are expressing interest in your emotions, you can address that concern. Things like that don't have to be asking them to mask - it can just be asking them to do some things within your love language. That's not unreasonable if you're being kind, communicating with them, and making sure your requests are made within reasonable expectations with their symptoms.

You're allowed to have needs and most pwASPD will respect you much more if you can effectively communicate exactly what they are, rather than a generic "I don't feel like you care about me as much anymore" or expecting us to read social cues we aren't wired to understand/look for. I have given (and stick by!) more than one pwASPD the advice to not engage with guessing games and make boundaries expecting their partners to communicate in a way they can understand easily - and thus to not adjust behavior unless they have been told that it is causing harm unless it is *blatantly obvious*. When I say that, I don't mean obvious to prosocials; I mean things like physical or sexual abuse. Even raised voices are pretty normal to plenty of pwASPD, to the point where it isn't obvious that that would scare or hurt someone.

However, if no amount of simple behavioral changes or verbal reassurance can convince you that someone with ASPD cares about you without them basically not having the disorder or letting you cherrypick allowed symptoms, then I feasibly see two choices for you. This isn't me trying to be a jerk, just being objective to what I think makes sense for you and them. The first is that you can put in the work yourself to unlearn the ways that you're used to care being shown to allow you to accommodate your loved ones with ASPD without feeling hurt. If that isn't something that can work for you, that's okay. It's okay to have boundaries and be honest with yourself about what things you are incompatible with. However, at that point, the only thing to do that would be fair in my opinion is to separate yourself from the people with ASPD that are in your life.

I'm not suggesting you never speak to them again (although you are certainly allowed to make that choice for yourself). I'm suggesting you may need to restructure your relationships with those people such that feeling like they don't care (so long as they are doing their best to show they do) won't negatively impact you. In other words, for example, if you can't handle a partner showing they care the way they do because of their ASPD, then it's your job to end that relationship with them and either entirely remove yourself from their life, or just be friends.

If that's the choice you need to make for yourself, then I think it's important that you stress to them that this is not anything they have done wrong or need to work on - that it is an issue with how you are able perceive people caring about you. It's hard to say this in a way that won't sound ableist, because admittedly the issue would be rooted in some societal ableism (not really ableism on your part, just that the way children are taught to perceive love is incompatible with ASPD and even other disorders that can affect empathy and such).

It is very important to note that most of this does not apply if what you are dealing with is abuse - meaning for the purposes of this that they know they are hurting you, they are in control of the behavior that is hurting you, and are choosing to continue it without making any effort to change despite you clearly communicate your pain and what exactly is causing it. To evaluate that, you need to be objective and really ask yourself if you're coming from a reasonable place or not. Are you asking this person to either not have a disorder or allow you to pick and choose what symptoms you find acceptable? Or are you communicating boundaries to protect your wellbeing and making compromises that work for both of you while respecting their past and their symptoms? Those are two very different things, and there are shades of gray inbetween. Asking another prosocial who has not intentionally worked to unlearn their ableism against ASPD and done their research into its symptoms or a pwASPD who has not taken reasonable steps to heal their trauma and not hurt those close to them is not going to be truly objective. If you have a therapist who is aware of and respectful of ASPD, they would be a relatively objective place to evaluate what is abusive vs symptoms they can't be expected to control, assuming you could keep your language neutral (moreso than in your ask, which while not disrespectful or ableist, was definitely not entirely neutral). However, as a person with ASPD I would always prefer my partner speak to me about their concerns over my behavior before they ask anyone else - so if you haven't done that, I would certainly advise you to start there.

Even if any of the things I said are ableist or are rooted in ableism apply to you, it's worth noting I'm not saying or implying you are ableist yourself. Evidently, you came to a blog to get help with this situation from someone who understands the perspective of your loved one as much as possible, and that shows you likely aren't ableist - but as you mentioned one can have ableism to unlearn while not being ableist themselves. Please do not take any of this post as aggressive or attacking. It was all written in a neutral tone, I promise. I am aware how my text tone can come off to prosocials, which is why I specify this. If I was upset with the ask or thought you were just an ableist person or that the ask was disrespectful/not in good faith, I would just delete it.

I hope this helps and if you have or need any clarification, have any other questions, etc. you are more than welcome to submit them to me./gen

#aspd-culture-is #aspd culture is #aspd culture #actually aspd #aspd #aspd awareness #actually antisocial #antisocial personality disorder #aspd traits #anons welcome

[yanderefreud]

I asked my dearest mutual ev about her favorite Sineala fics so it’s only fair that I also provide a list of my own. @cowboyhorsegirl, this is for you bestie (also never apologize for answering late, I am also just like you in that regard lmao)

1. Think of This as Solving Problems (That Should Never Have Occurred):

So. This has to be my favorite Sineala fic of all time. I love identity porn in Stevetony fics, I love angst, and I absolutely love to see Tony suffer (this is for his own good I promise). I absolutely adore the idea of Tony losing his memory and then literally no one knowing where Iron Man went, and Steve being worried for both Tony AND Iron Man. And then Tony realizing and having a Moment

2. Sucker Punch:

Angst, as I mentioned before, is quite literally the key to my heart. This fic has it all: identity porn, unresolved romantic tension, and civil war (my behated). Reading it causes me physical pain… I love it so much. Steve just not knowing who Tony or Iron Man really are, and ending up hating Tony because Iron Man chooses him over Steve all the time… and then finding out it was him the whole time… insanity. Also the way it is written, as with most Sinhala fics, is absolutely beautiful. I could feel the mental illness

3. Never Too Late for Love:

You had this one in your list too, and for good reason. This fix is ults characterization done absolutely, brilliantly right. Steve’s struggle with internalized homophobia which is only amplified when he finds out that Tony is his soulmate is truly incredible to read. Tony, on the other hand, is so fucking sad and horny the whole time and that just… hits a spot in my heart. This fic has to be one of my favorite ults ones, it just makes me very happy. And the ending! Talk about happily ever after

4. How to Date a Robot:

Can you tell how much I love identity porn? This fic drives me up the wall, honestly. Steve wanting to know who Iron Man is behind the mask but not wanting to betray his trust and Tony being absolutely terrified of what could happen if Steve found out who he really was. I think it addresses one of my favorite things about 616 Tony - his inferiority complex (that sounds so bad when I say it but honestly I like it because it’s relatable). Him thinking that Iron Man is the best of him, and the rest of him is just Wrong, but not being able to resist Steve… and the marriage proposal! Poor boy had a heart attack and then went in to see Steve with full armor on lmfao. I just love how Tony is written in this fic, and even though it’s not from his perspective, the prior knowledge of Iron Man’s identity makes it very insightful

5. Peace of Mind:

This fic is very, very close to my heart. Steve taking care of Tony can be something so personal… and love confessions. Who doesn’t love love confessions. As much as I find comfort in fics written from Tony’s point of view, reading one’s from Steve’s just makes me happy because of how he sees Tony, yk? Him being uncertain as to where they stand, whether they’re even friends anymore, all the while being in love with him, and then walking into him having a full blown migraine attack and confessing his love. Great timing, buddy

Sooo! That’s my Top Five list all done! Thank you for reading, I sure did have a lot to say lmao

#stevetony #616 stevetony #sineala

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Amanda Lewellyn at Vox:

Canada has a growing populism problem. Even Prime Minister Justin Trudeau thinks so. Like many other countries — including the United States — Canadians have spent the last several years dealing with pandemic restrictions, a rise in immigration, and a housing affordability crisis (among much, much else). And like many other countries, that’s showing up in a host of ways: Trust in institutions like the government and media is down. Sentiment on immigration is becoming more negative.

“Well, first of all, it’s a global trend,” Trudeau told Sean Rameswaram in an exclusive interview on Today, Explained. “In every democracy, we’re seeing a rise of populists with easy answers that don’t necessarily hold up to any expert scrutiny. But a big part of populism is condemning and ignoring experts and expertise. So it sort of feeds on itself.” As Trudeau points out, Canada is not alone. But our northern neighbor’s struggle is notable because the country has long been seen as resistant to the kind of anti-immigrant, anti-establishment rhetoric sweeping the globe in recent years — in part because multiculturalism is enshrined in federal law.

It goes back to the 1960s, when French Canadian nationalist groups started to gain power in Quebec. They called for the province’s independence from Canada proper. The federal government, led then by nepo daddy Pierre Trudeau, stepped in. Rather than validating one cultural identity over the other, the elder Trudeau’s government established a national policy of bilingualism, requiring all federal institutions to provide services in both English and French. (This is why — if you ever watch Canadian parliamentary proceedings, as I did for this story — politicians are constantly flipping back and forth between the two languages.) Canada also adopted a formal multiculturalism policy in 1971, affirming Canadians’ multicultural heritage. The multiculturalism policy has undergone both challenge and expansion in the half-century since its introduction. But Pierre Trudeau’s decision to root Canadian identity in diversity has had lasting impacts: Canadians have historically been much more open to immigration — despite having a greater proportion of immigrants in their population — than their other Western counterparts.

But in more recent years, that’s begun to change rapidly as large numbers of immigrants have entered the country amid a housing affordability crisis. An Environics Institute survey showed that in 2023, 44 percent of Canadians felt there was too much immigration — an increase from 27 percent the year before. That’s where Conservative opposition leader Pierre Poilievre comes in. Known as a “soft” populist, he’s started calling on Canada to cut immigration levels (so far, without demonizing immigrants, as we’ve seen from his populist counterparts elsewhere in the West). That said, he looks like a traditional populist in a lot of other ways: Poilievre embraced Canada’s 2022 Freedom Convoy protests, opposed vaccine and mask requirements, voted against marriage equality, has proposed defunding the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation, wants schools to leave LGBTQ issues to parents, and has talked about repealing a litany of government regulations — from the country’s carbon tax to internet regulations. Basically, he’s against any “gatekeepers” to Canadians’ “freedom.”

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The plan: Fight populism with policy

Enter: Trudeau’s half-trillion-Canadian-dollar plan for “generational fairness,” also known as the “Gen Z budget” for its focus on younger generations feeling the economic squeeze most acutely. [...]

Can it work?

The bet Trudeau is making is this: The best counterpoint to anti-establishment rhetoric is … using the establishment to make people’s lives better. “The biggest difference between me and the Conservatives right now is: They don’t think government has a role to play in solving for these problems,” Trudeau told Today, Explained. “I think government can’t solve everything, nor should it try. But it can make sure that if the system isn’t working for young people, that we rebalance the system. Market forces are not going to do that.” A key challenge will be demonstrating progress by the time elections roll around. Housing and real estate experts generally cheered the announcement — but noted that it might be years before people on the ground see any real change. Elections, on the other hand, aren’t yet scheduled but have to happen by October 2025 (parliamentary systems, man).

Even Canada isn't immune to the trend of increased right-wing populism, as it could end the reign of PM Justin Trudeau and his Liberal Party.

Trudeau is trying his best to counter it by enacting a Gen Z-focused budget plan.

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Can I have a Luke skywalker x reader/how he reactions when he finds out you have body image issues/body dysmorphia? Thanks!

You most certainly can ! I’ve dealt with my fair share of these problems and doing this was almost therapeutic. I hope it brings some to you as well <3

Warnings: angst with comfort, reader is gender neutral, body insecurity, body dysmorphia, self deprecating thoughts, and reader gets a wee bit emotional but don’t worry luke is there to help

❖ Luke is a very perceptive person he will notice if you start tugging on you clothes as a sign of discomfort, he will notice you staring in the mirror with a small grimace, he will notice the twinge of darkness that now presents itself in your force signature and what breaks his heart the most is how you seemed drained most days

❖ He wont approach you at first in all fairness he consults his mini force council (Mostly Qui Gon because we all know how Obi-wans love life went) because oh maker he is worried

❖ The confrontation is subtle intertwined into a conversation over breakfast he was carrying stepping lightly as to not spook you

❖ He will point blank as you what he can do for you

❖ Want some new clothes that fit you ? He is more than happy to help and he will come along to make sure you don’t get overwhelmed

❖ Want to wear some of his clothes because they are absolutely comfy ? You got it, darling

❖ One time he even proposes that you take a shower together of course only if you are comfortable and if you are then prepare for a whole self care routine

❖ Face Masks are in fact involved

❖ The shower itself will contain him massaging your head telling you about his day (Han was getting on his last nerve on this particular day) then goes on to lathering your body in soap still talking as a means of distraction but he will sneakily plant in little ’I am glad the force brought me you, darling.’ ‘I cannot imagine having to live without you, my love.’ ’You are absolutely magnificent.’ And to top it all off a gently kiss is placed on your forehead with a whisper of i love you darling

❖ Cuddles lots and lots of cuddles but if you arent a fan of those he will keep up with the words of affirmation/quality time

❖ This sweet man will also incite you to meditate with him to settle yalls minds

❖ Every morning you will wake up to ’Good morning my sunshine .’ and the personification of <3

❖ On your rough days he will stay with you in the house maybe even in bed watching movies letting you cry into his chest (though he just kisses away the tears for you) these days hurt him beyond imagine but can feel through the force that it hurts you ten times more

❖ Makes sure you hydrate and eat properly and if that means he has to eat with, not look at you while you eat, or anything else so be it

❖ He worships you but he understands how you are feeling to a degree and just wants to be there for you in all the ways he can be

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