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Yandere Spencer Reid heacanons because I was inspired |Part 1|

Preface: It’s hard to imagine the upstanding, moral Spencer Reid as an obsessive, compulsive lover who would do anything and everything for your love. Lucky for you, I’m here to help you imagine.

Yandere!Spencer Reid is chefs kiss. Exactly what I need (and want awooga)

Part 2 here Part 3 here

Warning(s): Mentions of violence, stalking, kidnapping, psychological abuse, (un)willing reader (depends on if you fw this imagine), spiral into pure criminality

He is first horrified when he begins to feel the obsession or possession

When he first meets you is when he first begins to get those feelings

Tries his absolute hardest to logic his way out of it, or to control it, or to seek help

Tries his best to communicate to you as a healthy, normal person would, but he can’t help but find those thoughts creeping in again

He believes it’ll be better if you’re away from him, but his thoughts and feelings change to hardcore yearning

Knows it’s not love he’s feeling, and is potentially dangerous to you

Might spiral down into a breakdown (or a few) because of it

Will genuinely think of himself as a horrible person who thinks he can’t get help

If you try to help him he’ll vehemently decline it and will tell you it’s a bad idea

Others at the BAU try their hardest to help him, but the thoughts are still there

If Reid sees you interacting with someone who seems interested in you, his mind will implode

Will be constantly trying to justify the person’s ‘disappearance’ to himself for hours whilst alone

Will come up with the excuse that the person is dangerous to you, or has the potential to be (his calculations will be slightly skewed)

At first, he’ll ask Morgan or Hotch to help him ‘deal with’ the person, but since the person is literally innocent, they can’t do anything

He gets frustrated but brushes it off as paranoia

Spencer starts to find himself hovering near where your house is just to ‘check in’ on you to see if you’re alright

To him, he’s just being protective over you. He wants you safe

But he also knows if he springs all of his thoughts and worries on you, you’ll hate him

Whenever he thinks about you hating him he feels like he can’t breathe

He needs you to like him--love him, even

As weeks and months go by, he doesn’t fight his impulsive thoughts as much as before

Whenever you’re near, you have 100% of his attention. He barely looks away from you if you’re within his line of sight

He’s a nervous wreck when you talk

He’s scared he’ll mess up and say something that’ll fuck your friendship up

He’s not good at mincing words, so he has to carefully curate his sentences

When you smile or laugh at something he says, he feels high

When you mention someone who’s not a part of the BAU, that high disappears instantly

It’s replaced with a cold disinterest in whoever it is you’re speaking about

He tries to manipulate the conversation to see if he can pull more info out of you about the person

He takes advantage of his access to FBI equipment and software to find the person

He makes sure to cover his tracks thoroughly and will not rest until he’s sure any audit trail or history or whatever isn’t linked back to him

When he finds the person’s personal info, he finds himself ‘checking them out’

Will take walks in front of their house, or follow them

Does this for every person who’s not an overt threat

He will, however, drop whatever stalkerish shit he’s doing if you call or text him

If someone does ask you out, or you mention going on a date, or talking to a person of interest, haha

Someone’s going to die

Once Spencer gets the necessary information, he’ll stalk the person out

He might have a conversation with them, profile them, and then talk about their relationship to you

He’s more than likely not strong enough to physically overpower a person of above-average strength, but he’s got the brains to make the odds even

Will create an elaborate plan to get the person to come to him instead

Whenever he does manage to kidnap/isolate the person, he won’t kill them immediately

He’d have a genuine heart-to-heart with them

He’d say you’re his. He’ll say he’s yours, and whoever tries to take you away (be it romantically or otherwise) will be met with a steep response. He’ll say he loves you, and will do anything to be sure you’re with him, and only him

Probably kills the person by slitting their throat. A bullet is too easily identifiable

He’ll comfort you if you’re saddened by your date’s/person of interest’s disappearance

When you hug him, his entire body goes hot

He hugs you tightly (probably a bit too tight)

He verbally comforts you as best he can, and assures you you’ll go on other dates (hopefully with him)

He’ll gently rock you if you’re hugging for a long time

If you pull away first, he’ll try to keep you in the hug, but will let go if you push him away

He’ll let you sleep on him, and he’ll stare at you while you do

He’ll think to himself about how beautiful you are, and how you deserve everything, and how much you deserve him especially

He gets a lot pushier after that, especially when it comes to you getting close with others

Will physically hover closer to you

Will glower at anyone who looks at you a certain way

Will never let you privy to these thoughts and habits and behaviors of his until he’s sure you can handle/accept them

He will definitely try to gaslight you and/or emotionally manipulate you if he thought it’d make you like/trust him more

You’d trust him, most likely. He’s Spencer mf Reid, why wouldn’t you

He wouldn’t psychologically manipulate/abuse you that much, and wouldn’t physically put his hands on you unless he had to

He notices the obsessive and compulsive thoughts calm when he’s around you, so he wants you next to him almost 24/7

Gets very disenchanted and uninterested when you’re not around

The team believes him to be down bad

They think he’s a puppy in love with you and find it adorable

Will mention you often to get him engaged

Sometimes he’ll just push through a case due to the thought of seeing you after

If he gets injured on a case, his first and only thought would be his desire to not die and leave you behind. Anything else comes secondary

If you’re a mother figure, or give off ‘motherly’ vibes, that’ll make this worse

If you initiate any form of physical contact, he will beam

Literally treats you like an actual god(dess) (aside from the occasional emotional manipulation but yk)

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matilda-jugs · 3 months

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don’t play with me rn 🔪

it’s giving sorry i only date girls who stab me

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residemon · 1 year

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I don't know who needs to hear these things, but I know I did at one point.

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You should never have to change who you are at the core for someone else.

Relationships are about compromise, but you shouldn't be bending over backwards to "change" for your partner while they openly admit they won't put any effort to change/get better themselves because it's "too exhausting."

If you're autistic and/or adhd, you shouldn't be put down and told to change yourself constantly when you show symptoms. I was told I was obnoxious, and that "no one cared" about what I had to say. Among other ableist bs.

Maybe she didn't care. But I know many other people who do care.

Don't change yourself until you don't know who you are anymore. Don't change yourself until you can't regonize yourself in the way you speak. Don't change yourself until you can't even recognize yourself in the mirror.

That's a toxic expectation to put on you.

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If you tell your partner no to anything, and they keep asking about it over and over until you finally say yes... You didn't give them consent. They just coerced you into something you didn't want to do. That by definition is SA, maybe even more depending on what the thing is.

You always have a right to say no.

I know first hand that it's hard to keep saying no when someone keeps asking you. And it's not your fault if you gave in.

Especially if you make it clear to your partner that you have a hard time saying no to things out right.

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Trans people can fetishize other trans people. I've experienced this. My ex is a trans woman and she often said and did some very uncomfortable things to me.

She never asked me about what my transition goals were and assumed that I wanted bottom surgery. When I told her I didn't, she told me that she'd never see me as a man if I didn't. When I told her off she backtracked. She stated that she had built up the image of me like that in her mind and it would take a while to undo that image. It was incredibly demeaning and damaging to me.

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I have screenshots of her doing this. Among the other things I mentioned her doing. I'll always keep them. Not because I want to, but because I'm afraid she'll try and blame me for her own actions as she did before.

No one should have to go through this. And those that have, I'm sorry. I hope you're able to heal from it.

I'm still trying to heal myself. Sometimes I don't recognize myself still. Sometimes I remember what she coerced me into in flashes. It's hard. But I'm healing.

Healing isn't linear. Sometimes there are setbacks, and that's okay. I'm just glad you're still here.

And I care about you. Even if we've never talked or never met.

Take care of yourselves and stay safe.

#trauma #healing #toxic ex #toxic relationship #toxic relation traits #trauma healing #mental abuse #emotional abuse #tw abuse #abuse recovery #abuse mention #trauma recovery #trauma release #tw sex abuse #tw sex assault

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muskuna · 1 year

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it is not fair, you don't deserve it, you just simply don't who the fuck i have to be so you treat me right what the fuck do i have to do

All you have been doing is just hurting me more and more everyday, you make me so fucking sad only if you knew how many times i cut myself because of YOU and nothing else, you make me feel unlovable, unworthy and like im just human trash, everything you say and do makes me crazy and i feel like that because i fucking care about you, you bastard. Everytime i try to tell you how i feel you want me to shut up. I would try to tell you to fuck yourself but i just cant lose you.

#tw vent #tw sh related #tw s3lf harm #sh mention #ventpost #tw selfh4rm #venting #toxic relation traits #toxic relationship

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aleesabella · 2 years

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Quote by Niykee Heaton

#niykee heaton #niykee heaton quotes #discretionary #panic attack #attention #attractive #energy #desires #desire #keep your head up #toxic relation traits #toxic friends #toxic family #toxic frienship #badass #bad bitxh #attitude #love yourself

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barbaragenova · 11 months

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"Part of the horror of a toxic relationship is that it’s codependent. You can fight against the strictures of it, but for a while you stay, you compromise, because of your need for love or belonging, or your belief that this person has your best interests at heart, or that you’re responsible for holding them together. A lot of the time there’s no big explosive event that makes things clear, it’s more the building up of a pattern that you’re not even sure you’re seeing correctly. You feel like your intuition is broken, which makes it really hard to make any big decisions. "

#Sarah zachrich jeng #codependency #toxic relationship #intuition #toxic relation traits

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gwenyvarso · 1 year

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This is how it ends

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yves-writingprojects · 1 year

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"I never compared her brown eyes to his. I never expected or wanted to turn around and see her instead. I never thought of her while kissing him.

They are just different… so much so that it hurts in some ways.

Sometimes I think it would have been addictive, had there been something about him that constantly reminded me of her. But at the end of the day, what makes me love him is actually that: what I feel for him doesn't scare me.

I'm not lost in his existence, I'm not terrified of losing him. He doesn't bring me intense joy or overwhelming pain.

So, I'm truly relieved not to find her in him, I'm relieved not to find anything in him. That's why I love him.

And yet, tonight we crossed glances. The girl I fell in love with is still there. Existing in her brown eyes."

-- the girl who talks to the moon

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matilda-jugs · 1 year

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so happy i’m out of my toxic relationship 🥰🥰🥰

#hey mickey!#free #toxic relation traits

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pingbing-blog · 10 months

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#toxic relationship #toxic relation traits

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muskuna · 1 year

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use me, destroy me, fuck up my life, make me wanna slit my skin and take off my guts, make me cry, scream i don't give a fuck, i will never leave you because bodies can die, but feelings don't

#ventpost #tw s3lf harm #tw vent #tw abuse #tw self destructive thoughts #toxic relation traits #tw blo0d #tw self destructive behavior #tw violent thoughts

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unitedwecaresposts · 11 months

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The Toxic Relationship: How To Identify And Take Action

It is toxic when you feel unsupported, misunderstood, denigrated, or assaulted in a relationship. It is poisonous when your emotional, psychological, or even bodily well-being is in danger during a relationship.

Individuals grappling with mental illnesses such as bipolar disorder, major depression, or depressive tendencies may exhibit increased vulnerability to toxic relationships due to their preexisting sensitivity to negative emotions.

Characteristics of a Toxic Relationship

You feel exhausted and underappreciated because you give more than you receive.

You frequently feel mistreated or as though your needs need to be addressed.

Over time, your self-esteem takes a hit.

You feel assaulted, degraded, misunderstood, or unsupported.

After chatting or spending time with the other person, you experience depression, rage, or fatigue.

It's always your fault, and they reverse events such that mistakes you previously believed they had made are your fault.

Toxic Relationships' Effects

Your self-esteem, general mental health, and physical health may all be seriously harmed by toxic relationships in addition to your physical health. Establishing boundaries, looking for support, and developing a safety plan are critical.

In addition, you can assist online experts and therapists. United We Care is a reliable application where you can get quality couple therapy or help you get over toxic relationships.

#toxic relation traits #toxic relationship #mentally tired #anxiety issue #mental wellbeing #love

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ievakamb · 1 year

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5 reasons Why is it So Hard To Leave A Toxic Relationship

#youtube #toxic relationship #toxic relation traits #toxic love #ievakambarovaite #relationship advice

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yves-writingprojects · 2 years

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"gods cant make mistakes, right? I guess that's why you couldn't forgive me, even when your sins outnumber mines"

-Yverest

#poetry #god complex #toxic relationship #toxic relation traits

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gajalyasblog · 2 years

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7 Signs You Are in a Toxic Relationship

What is your ideal relationship should be like? Well my point of view, even when it can't offer you a heave, it shouldn't be hell. A relationship should be the one where you find your home and peace. Toxic relationships are such relationships. To know whether your relationship is toxic or not, read my blog on 7 Signs You Are in a Toxic Relationship below.

#relationships #toxic relationship #toxic relation traits

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