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positivelypresent · 2 months

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Some of the things I wish I’d known in high school!

#positivelypresent #self love #high school #life lessons #wisdom #wish i knew #advice for life #advice for women

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honeyssweetened · 23 days

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This has (sadly) been 90% of my experience with men

"He said 'she knows her worth too much 😡' because the woman is standing on business"

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lvr-by · 11 months

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My shyness has ruined another situation… what’s wrong with me

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weirdzzzzzz · 2 years

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WEIRDZINE - 08/24/2022

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thing to do: ask someone to tell you 1-5 things they love or admire about you.

you should stay true to you! no matter what 🤩. no matter friends, situations, family, or anything, keep the good qualities of you and the things about you that are so you forever. be a real one. especially the qualities people admire about you if you do too. don’t let anyone take you from you, because you might not believe it but you are awesome and amazing and brave and so loved <3.

nothing can stop you from being it least you, be the best you <3. people care about you, no matter how much you think no one does, i know it least one person loves and cares about you. take your existence as your chance to do you and act based off of your values.

you are. loved. :-))) and people do. care. take your life seriously, and try to make it epic by your terms of what that is. you have blessers no matter who you are or what religion, and we love you <3.

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there is it least one good something; because there is you. <33333. may your light never not shine and may you always be strong <3.

Art by Jennybird Alcantara - Charming the Wilds

~ lucy (fer) 🐉

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imliterallyher · 1 year

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May 4th 2023 - 02:43

I am such a negativity repellent, I am a daughter of an immortal - GOD. My father in heaven has blessed me with more than I could imagine. I am living my dream life, I am my own dream girl. And I get to enrich millions of souls doing something I love.

I give the glory to God. For blessing me with this opportunity, I am nothing without him.

Gods timing is best. Every single desire that I’ve thought about has become my reality. I am MS, at 21.

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theflowersofdestruction · 1 year

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#princess treatment #diary #love #men #woman #advice #advice for women #relationships

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vagabond-bohemian · 1 year

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#men suck #don’t let them dictate how you live #live freely #love freely #and fuck men #exist recklessly #life advice #advice for women #advice for young people #love yourself #live recklessly #feminism #male acceptance is worth dick

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deborrah-cooper · 1 month

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#relationships #dating #advice for women

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lilykincade · 2 months

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Turned 23 recently so here are 23 things I'd tell my younger self ✍🏻✨🫶🏻

#lily kincade #advice #younger self #advice for women #advice for artists

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joeystark2002 · 3 months

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Life Relationship Coach - Relationship Expert

A Life & Relationship Coach offers personalized guidance to individuals seeking to enhance various aspects of their life and relationships. Through tailored strategies and support, they empower Single women to overcome challenges, achieve goals, improve communication, foster healthy relationships, and cultivate overall well-being.

#Dating Advice #Advice for Single Women #Advice for Women #cheyenne bostock

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girlyadvice · 3 months

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What does it mean to be a girl?

There isn’t just one correct way to be a “girl.” We are the ones that define girlhood, and being a girl is a very personal experience. And although we live very individual lives we do share common struggles that we can relate to and can come together to share our similar experiences. One thing I can say that all girls/women live through is being put in a box. We are constantly told what we are and who we’re not. Is it possible to build a community of girls/women that can break away from the stereotypes that label us and force us into boxes with limited space? I think so. I want the girl/women reading this to know that she isn’t alone in her struggle to becoming the type of woman she is worth of being. That her way of expressing her feminine and masculine side of herself is valid. And that being a girl means being yourself

#girlhood #womanhood #advice #advice column #advice for women

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springofivyy · 3 months

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Why Women Should NOT Break Their Boundaries for a Man

One time when I arrived home from picking up my brother, I heard "Nothing But a Good Time" by Poison being blasted from a guy's car. I couldn't contain my excitement for the song and started dancing and singing along. My brother had already gone inside, but I stayed to talk to the guy about his music taste.

The guy and I had similar music interests, and after talking he wanted my contact information. He asked for my Instagram, but I was hesitant and offered my number instead. He took my number and wrote it down. Later on, even a day or two, I waited to hear back from him, but I heard nothing. It wasn't until I realized that I most likely dodged a bullet from a potential player.

Looking back now, I am grateful he did not reach out. I made a subtle boundary and given his actions, or non rather, it would appear that later down the line he probably wouldn't have cared about me or my boundaries. This also helped me realize that bad men will not respect you or your boundaries. They will try to break those boundaries to control women.

This might sound like an unpopular opinion, but when I am first getting to know a guy, I will only give my number until I feel that I can trust him. I do realize that social media such as Snapchat, TikTok, and Instagram are how my generation, I am Gen Z and proud to be, communicate. However, men can use women's social media against them. Men may exploit women's social media to try to belittle them, and ruin their lives/reputation if women do not allow men access to them. These men are dangerous.

I understand that social media is what is "trending" and "popular," but messaging on social media is the same as texting on the default messaging on phones. The default texting allows you to message, send videos, pictures, memes, and gifs. Just like social media!

Call me “old-fashioned," but this is my belief. I view my social media as personal to me. I would not want someone who I do not know well enough to know about my personal life and struggles - especially bad men. This is my boundary. You may agree or disagree, but what I am trying to say is women shouldn’t drop their boundaries for men.

It is important that while getting to know and dating men, women must have boundaries. This will help women weed out the bad men from the good men. Additionally, the more women are willing to stick to their boundaries, then the chances of finding a good man increases. Good men will respect and value women and women’s boundaries because they would not have ill-will intentions.

Men constantly test women. They test women because they want to see what buttons they can push and see if the woman will react. If women do not act like themselves or break down their boundaries, then good men and bad men will act differently. Good men will not want women who try to prove herself because good men will see that the woman has low or no self-esteem - however, good men will not try to manipulate or control them, they’ll just move on to a woman who does stay true to herself. Bad men will see that the woman has low or no self-esteem, so they will not respect and value them and keep them around to manipulate and control them.

On the flip side, if women do stay true to themselves, do not break their boundaries, and do not try to prove themselves, then good and bad men will act accordingly. Good men will want to respect, value, and care for women because they’ll see women who do not compromise themselves take care of themselves and know their worth. Bad men will recognize that women are not willing to compromise themselves, so they’ll move on to find a woman who, in their eyes, is easily manipulated and controllable.

In order for women to find good men, they must not break their boundaries for any man - or anyone! We women are powerful. We are the ones men should be impressing - not the other way around!

#advice for women #womensupportingwomen #relationship advice #dating advice #supportforwomen

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lvr-by · 1 year

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I refuse to settle.

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godsg111rl · 4 months

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#my friends are always on point #godsg111rl #advice for women

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wanderervenom · 7 months

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suzannahnatters · 1 year

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all RIGHT:

Why You're Writing Medieval (and Medieval-Coded) Women Wrong: A RANT

(Or, For the Love of God, People, Stop Pretending Victorian Style Gender Roles Applied to All of History)

This is a problem I see alllll over the place - I'll be reading a medieval-coded book and the women will be told they aren't allowed to fight or learn or work, that they are only supposed to get married, keep house and have babies, &c &c.

If I point this out ppl will be like "yes but there was misogyny back then! women were treated terribly!" and OK. Stop right there.

By & large, what we as a culture think of as misogyny & patriarchy is the expression prevalent in Victorian times - not medieval. (And NO, this is not me blaming Victorians for their theme park version of "medieval history". This is me blaming 21st century people for being ignorant & refusing to do their homework).

Yes, there was misogyny in medieval times, but 1) in many ways it was actually markedly less severe than Victorian misogyny, tyvm - and 2) it was of a quite different type. (Disclaimer: I am speaking specifically of Frankish, Western European medieval women rather than those in other parts of the world. This applies to a lesser extent in Byzantium and I am still learning about women in the medieval Islamic world.)

So, here are the 2 vital things to remember about women when writing medieval or medieval-coded societies

FIRST. Where in Victorian times the primary axes of prejudice were gender and race - so that a male labourer had more rights than a female of the higher classes, and a middle class white man would be treated with more respect than an African or Indian dignitary - In medieval times, the primary axis of prejudice was, overwhelmingly, class. Thus, Frankish crusader knights arguably felt more solidarity with their Muslim opponents of knightly status, than they did their own peasants. Faith and age were also medieval axes of prejudice - children and young people were exploited ruthlessly, sent into war or marriage at 15 (boys) or 12 (girls). Gender was less important.

What this meant was that a medieval woman could expect - indeed demand - to be treated more or less the same way the men of her class were. Where no ancient legal obstacle existed, such as Salic law, a king's daughter could and did expect to rule, even after marriage.

Women of the knightly class could & did arm & fight - something that required a MASSIVE outlay of money, which was obviously at their discretion & disposal. See: Sichelgaita, Isabel de Conches, the unnamed women fighting in armour as knights during the Third Crusade, as recorded by Muslim chroniclers.

Tolkien's Eowyn is a great example of this medieval attitude to class trumping race: complaining that she's being told not to fight, she stresses her class: "I am of the house of Eorl & not a serving woman". She claims her rights, not as a woman, but as a member of the warrior class and the ruling family. Similarly in Renaissance Venice a doge protested the practice which saw 80% of noble women locked into convents for life: if these had been men they would have been "born to command & govern the world". Their class ought to have exempted them from discrimination on the basis of sex.

So, tip #1 for writing medieval women: remember that their class always outweighed their gender. They might be subordinate to the men within their own class, but not to those below.

SECOND. Whereas Victorians saw women's highest calling as marriage & children - the "angel in the house" ennobling & improving their men on a spiritual but rarely practical level - Medievals by contrast prized virginity/celibacy above marriage, seeing it as a way for women to transcend their sex. Often as nuns, saints, mystics; sometimes as warriors, queens, & ladies; always as businesswomen & merchants, women could & did forge their own paths in life

When Elizabeth I claimed to have "the heart & stomach of a king" & adopted the persona of the virgin queen, this was the norm she appealed to. Women could do things; they just had to prove they were Not Like Other Girls. By Elizabeth's time things were already changing: it was the Reformation that switched the ideal to marriage, & the Enlightenment that divorced femininity from reason, aggression & public life.

For more on this topic, read Katherine Hager's article "Endowed With Manly Courage: Medieval Perceptions of Women in Combat" on women who transcended gender to occupy a liminal space as warrior/virgin/saint.

So, tip #2: remember that for medieval women, wife and mother wasn't the ideal, virgin saint was the ideal. By proving yourself "not like other girls" you could gain significant autonomy & freedom.

Finally a bonus tip: if writing about medieval women, be sure to read writing on women's issues from the time so as to understand the terms in which these women spoke about & defended their ambitions. Start with Christine de Pisan.

I learned all this doing the reading for WATCHERS OF OUTREMER, my series of historical fantasy novels set in the medieval crusader states, which were dominated by strong medieval women! Book 5, THE HOUSE OF MOURNING (forthcoming 2023) will focus, to a greater extent than any other novel I've ever yet read or written, on the experience of women during the crusades - as warriors, captives, and political leaders. I can't wait to share it with you all!

#watchers of outremer #medieval history #the lady of kingdoms #the house of mourning #writing #writing fantasy #female characters #medieval women #eowyn #the lord of the rings #lotr #history #historical fiction #fantasy #writing tip #writing advice

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