#personal advice

[nightwatcherraph]

Advice for the day: don’t let childish people think they got to you! They thrive on knowing they hurt you so when you act like what they did isn’t keeping you down it takes away their power on you. Don’t give in to manipulation.

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[maddipinkkitty]

Why isn’t this story working? Three Questions to ask yourself:

-Do I want to write this? yes, I know it may sound weird. But many of my writings that weren't good were often that way because I just wasn’t passionate about it, or I put some perimeter around it which made it less fun. Asking this is a good way of finding the purpose of writing it and can be broken down from there.

-What am I missing? Sometimes I write scenes that just feel....blah. Not working. When encountering this question, it’s usually because I forget to interact the other characters besides the main ones when they should be doing something. Vague, yes, but can be thought-provoking.

-Where do I go from here? Another issue I can have? Running out of outline material, leaving a chapter to feel dead. If the writer doesn’t know where to go next, the reader sure as hell isn’t either. Purpose is again important here. What will the characters want next? What plot point is going to happen next? How will it affect the characters? Knowing a way that is logical and utilizes the characters the best can help ease the blah-ness of a story.

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[navybrat817]

Hi navy, I love all your work and you’re someone who really inspires me. As someone who is starting to write again but has a ton going on, how do you balance work/life with writing?

I appreciate your kind words, nonnie! It means the world. I'm excited that you're starting to write again and understand how crazy life is. The gif below is accurate.

It's a very fine balance with writing and life. The reality is that some days, I'm too busy or tired to get a lot of writing done. And you know what? That is MORE than okay. Giving yourself some grace is one of the most important things you can do because writing is meant to be fun, an escape, etc., and not stressful. If it takes a little longer to get something finished, it's worth the wait.

My current aim is five minutes a day. It doesn't sound like much, but it's enough on the days when time and energy are limited and I get a momentum going on the days where I have more of it. I also do my best to jot down an idea, dialogue, etc., when it pops up in my mind. Even if I can't get the full thing done, putting it in a doc somewhere for me to come back to is better than forgetting it.

One last thing, I don't force the muse. If I'm not feeling a certain fic or idea, I'm not feeling it. I'd MUCH rather spend that limited time on something I'm excited about versus forcing the words out. And I WANT to write because it's my safe haven. Our lives shouldn't be all work and no play.

I'm sending you all the good vibes and can't wait to see what you do. Love and thanks! 💙

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[generalluxun]

So, I’m a bit of an overthinker. I think I may have unintentionally insulted someone I care about. I have tried to discreetly correct my mistake. Don’t know if I made it worse. Don’t want to ask directly as in the past that hasn’t worked for me with other people. Should I just slam my head against the wall and just let it go?

I think I’m often perceived as not nice because I try to talk as little as possible, keep to myself. It hurts not being able to open my mouth without unintentionally annoying or offending others. Advice please?

oof.

Firstly! I am not a professional. I am a stranger on the internet. Take my input as just that, some dude.

I'll still try to answer as best I am able-

There are two parts here:

1)correcting your (maybe) mistake. I'd try to let it go, unless you feel whatever it may have been is impacting your friendship on their end. Obviously it is impacting you, but if *they* don't seem phased then I would focus on forgiving yourself and indeed moving on. Enjoy more good times, don't dwell on the (maybe)bad.

2)In general being quiet- My advice might seem counter intuitive to someone who doesn't like to speak but... be up front and open about it. Let people know once you've interacted a few times, or been together in a group setting enough times. 'Hey, I don't talk a lot. Please don't think I'm mad or trying to be rude, conversation is just tricky for me. I'll do my best to speak up if spoken to, but sometimes it's hard' (or some more accurate equivalent specific to your needs)

If you give people the information and tools with which to better interact with you, all your subsequent interactions will go smoother.

I hope this helped.

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[justseveralowls]

Hii,

Wanted to ask how do I explain to other adults why i don't want to people please anymore? Because people think explaining that it's not good for one's own mental health is not logical enough. I have been so deeply conditioned to do it but now am repulsed by it.

Thanks!

This is a very difficult topic to explain and something I'm still trying to figure out. Thus far I have had the most success addressing situations as they come. For example, someone tells me I'm laughing too much in public, and I respond "I'm laughing, I'm not hurting anyone or anything and I don't know those people and likely will never see them again.". Otherwise, I find being honest with people helps to get my point across (Example: "Your aunt will be so disappointed if you don't show up to this event." "I understand this is important to her but I am not comfortable in that situation or around those people and instead have decided to not attend the event. I hope you have a nice time and give my regards") Additionally, you can say things along the lines of "worrying about how people perceive me isn't worth my time or energy because people will decide to judge how they want"

I'm guilty of over-explaining and I've found that it often makes things more confusing and complicated. Often times the best result comes when I say something along the lines of "No thank you. I don't feel the need to be ashamed of who I am/ this action/this trait. Or I haven't found that doing (situation) is beneficial and want to do x instead"

The biggest advice I can give is that you don't owe anyone an explanation for keeping yourself safe, happy, and comfortable. You are not obligated to make them understand or provide a Ted talk on your coping mechanisms or decisions. Though being blunt and keeping your answers simple can feel awkward it saves a lot of headaches in the future.

I hope this helps, you aren't alone and I believe in you

-Love from a fellow people pleaser trying not to give a *dolphin noise*

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[kxowledge]

Dear I'm very lost and would like to hear your opinion, I just graduated from a one year MA and have been accepted to a two -year one, both are/were in subjects that interest me. The thing is that I'm already over 25 and fear being the oldest one and not having real tangible experience once I'm done with both of them...

My dear, I completely understand the turmoil you find yourself into.

I know of course very little of your situation but my two cents are the following:

It’s much easier to go back and get admitted to a master program after some work experience, while it becomes more difficult to find your footing in the job market if you don’t have any. Partially this is due to being set aside not because of your age, but rather because of your lack of experience. Partially, it’s because you have less room for experimentation and figuring out your preferences.

Do you know what you are interested in on a more practical level? How will you provide for yourself? How do you envision yourself in the future?

Why are you considering to do this other master degree? What will it bring you? How is it related to your goals? These are the questions I’d ask myself. If your interest is purely personal & doesn’t extend into the job opportunities that this master would offer you and you are not in a financially advantaged position, I don’t think continuing your studies at this moment in time is the best choice. And possibly this is something you already know and why you are in such distress. It’s not an easy choice to make. It’s not, however, necessarily going to be a final decision. It doesn’t have to. You can change your mind at any moment and change direction. You can drop out, if you decide to start the MA. You can re-apply, if you decide to work first.

Age-wise, I find it matters much more that you don’t have tangible experience, while there is very little to fear when it comes to starting a MA/MSc as an older student.

There’s also the other side of the coin: concretely, what other options do you have aside from this MA? It’s not going to be easy finding a job either, and maybe a MA can offer some opportunities that otherwise you wouldn’t have access to (i.e. being able to apply to certain schemes – again this relates to the question of why you want to do this other MA). If you are a recent graduate, you should still be able to benefit from some career services from your previous university. Plus, there’s other ways in which you could find employment.

Overall, I think doing another MA right now, would serve as a safe blanket for you at the moment & that’s perhaps not what you need now. I hope my reply isn’t too harsh but that instead a third person opinion might gives you some food for thought.

#happy to speak further about this if it can help you #wish you the best whatever choice you make #replies #personal advice

[cray-cray-anime]

Personal advice

Real growth is when you can tell people to fuck off (or in professional settings, formally nope out of it) and not feel guilty or care

And sometimes you gotta be a bitch and say this is how it's gonna go down and if not, ya drop them

Get evidence when ppl are being dicks to you so noone try turning it on you

Do the bare fucking minimum in work if it's pointless

Academics specifically: If you get to pick the topic, pick the simplest thing even if its unoriginal or boring, THEY WILL NOT CARE ABT YOU DOING ANYTHING INTERESTING OR UNIQUE

And if put in grp work, say clearly how to FAIRLY split the work cos not every section/sub topic requires the same amount of work. AND REGULARLY MEET AND KNOW WTF EVERYONE ELSE IS DOING

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[findthedi0r]

surround yourself around those with similar futures not similar pasts

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[saruhzzz]

My advice for people with friends who are grieving: sort out your own thoughts about death and then get rid of your sympathy eyebrows. You may not be able to imagine losing a loved one, but it is our life and those brows gotta go by the time we can laugh about our memories.

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[clairethecutepup]

Sorry I refrained from the usual daily post of progress, thoughts, etc. I was simply setting up my official work desk:

It's even right in front of the TV, for optimal video viewing. Also, you could consider this a semi-advertisement, though unpaid: I suggest a Mini PC and Huion tablet, as it makes for the digital artist's perfect and space-efficient set-up.

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[zanygardenherowobbler]

Shes Gone Whats Next

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[navybrat817]

What advice would you give writer’s who want to give up and how to deal with needy anons?

Hi, nonnie. My heart goes out to any writer who is in a position where they want to give up. Hobbies, especially ones we are passionate about, provide us with an outlet for escape. They're a way to express ourselves. They may serve as a distraction from the stresses of life. They're cathartic. They're a boost for our well-being.

I'd ask why you started writing in the first place. Maybe it was to destress. Maybe it was to tell the stories you wanted to tell. Maybe it was to connect to others. It could have been a combination of things. Remember why you started your journey.

My next question would be why do you want to stop? Is the passion or joy no longer there? Does it feel more like a chore than an escape? Is it doing you more harm than good? Is the journey coming to an end?

There's still a chance to reignite that passion. It's also okay to take a break and reevaluate. And something else to keep in mind: Giving up is when you decide not to do something without giving it a chance. Having enough is loving yourself enough to know when is the time to let go.

*****

As far as needy anons, you have every right to set boundaries for yourself and your blog. No one here has to be at anyone's beck and call. This is meant to be a fun place. I hope your followers respect that.

I hope this helps, nonnie. Sending all my love and thanks. ❤️

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[jaynovz]

if yall ever want like serious advice from me about how to solve burnout as a creative it's like...

literally ignore it. stop pushing. go do something else, enjoy your life, fill it with other things, do what brings you joy in the moment if you can.

go to the gym, take a walk to touch grass and look at dogs and smell flowers, cook dinner, watch tv with your friends, talk about your feelings as needed with ppl you trust, take a drive and blast your music, do the chores you need to do, the job hunting slog you need to do, read books that aren't for research, stop cordoning off your brain for The Craft or The Draft or whatever the fuck

forget about the project, stop thinking about it for as long as it takes to be excited again.

fuckin rest, basically

#thoughts #writing stuff #personal #wish there was better advice than Stop Pushing and Rest and Ignore It #but sure haven't found any #and the time in between sucks a lot #jay prescribes a nice beverage four orgasms and a good movie with friends for your burnout #hope that helps #jay philosophies

[theambitiouswoman]

Green Flags in Communication 💚💬

"I want to know when I hurt your feelings."

This shows they are willing to understand and acknowledge the impact of their actions.

"I don't want you to feel alone in this."

This shows empathy and indicates that the person is supportive and does not want the person to deal with issues alone.

"I've been struggling with ___”

This demonstrates vulnerability and trust, as the person is open about their struggles.

"How have you been feeling about ___? I know it's been on your mind a lot."

This shows concern for the other person's issues or worries, showing that they are listening and care about what's important to the other person.

"I feel __ when you __; are you open to trying __ next time?"

This is an example of constructive communication.

"What do you need from me when this happens with your family?"

This shows awareness and sensitivity to the persons family dynamics and a willingness to provide support.

"I appreciate when you ___.”

Expressing appreciation is vital for positive reinforcement and acknowledging the efforts and qualities of the other person.

"I didn't handle that well."

This is a sign of self-awareness and accountability, recognizing one's own mistakes and being open to learning and growth.

"I'm sorry, I was wrong to say that. I'll try to be more mindful in the future."

Shows you are able to apologize genuinely and a commitment to improving behavior.

"Tell me more about that; I'm really interested in hearing your perspective."

Indicates a genuine interest in the other person's thoughts and feelings.

"I noticed you seemed a bit off today. Is everything okay?"

It shows you are attentive to the other person's emotional state and a readiness to provide support.

"I'm here for you, no matter what you need."

Offers unconditional support, creating a sense of security in the relationship.

"I love how passionate you are about your hobbies. It's inspiring to see."

Expresses admiration for the other person's interests.

"Let's work on a solution together. What do you think would be fair?"

Focusing on collaboration rather than conflict.

"I trust your judgment on this."

Trust and respect for the other person's decision-making abilities.

"Your happiness is important to me. Let's make sure you're taking time for yourself."

Prioritizes the other person's happiness and emphasizes the importance of self care.

"It's okay to feel that way. Do you want to talk about it more?"

Validates the other person's feelings.

"I appreciate how you handled that situation. You're really good at ___."

Praises specific strengths or skills, boosting the other person's self-esteem.

"I know we disagree, but I respect your point of view."

Acknowledges differences in opinion while still maintaining respect and understanding.

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[princessphiine]

Hi I’m in need of some input please. So a guy just ended things with me because this whole time we were talking a year long distance he’s had a gf and hid it from me and her...I found out from the girl reaching out to me, sent her all the screenshots and she said they broke up...as soon as he was found out about he deleted his Instagram (it’s been deleted over a month) and blocked me...I tried calling him many times from no caller ID and he texted me to leave him alone, move on, stop being obsessed so I did....anyway, he’s been very confusing ever since. He’s texted me (usually one word like yo) and call me then block me before I answer, then just recently he calls me Friday night and he goes “hey what’s up” and I was like “I’m at home, what about u” and he goes “on my way home, you sound sick” and I was like “I am” and he goes “ok bye” and I was like “wait what what’s the reasoning” and he goes “what do you mean” and I’m like “the call I don’t want to go back and forth with you don’t you have a girlfriend” and he goes “yeah I have a girl” and I was like “I’m confused because she said you guys broke up” and he goes “we’re ehh” and I was like oh ok.... why’re you calling and he goes “yeah i have a girl you said you don’t want to talk, take care i feel like you miss me” and I was like “what” and he goes “ok bye” then he kept trying to say bye and I was like I’m so confused being like “huh, what multiple times” and he goes “bye, bye, I’m trying to say goodbye and kept saying “bye” and take care” like what??

Sorry to get to this so late.

You answering him and trying to continue talking to him is only inflating his massive ego that he has shown you from the very first incident with the other woman... You continue to play into his little mind game that only validates his self-worth and diminishes yours.

Baby, you gotta pull yourself up by the cute little sandal straps and stop giving a damn. Become obsessed with yourself to the point where this interaction with that cookie-cutter male is no more.

But most important of it all, if anything confuses you whether it be a situation or person that you aren't receiving a paycheck for dealing with, ignore it and focus on you.

Again, that man wants to play you and only sees you as a fallback in case the girl he is with (possibly for room and board mainly) kicks him to the curb. Stand up and focus on yourself, baby.

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