#dealing with people

[addictings]

Forget December

i remember always feeling excited for December. It was a month filled with joy, family and excitement. I remember the feeling of laying in bed wearing my reindeer pajamas under multiple fuzzy blanket, giddy with excitement for the next day to come. I never dreaded the days like I do now. I used to be filled to the brim with excitement to the point where couldn’t fall asleep. Now, the days drain me to where I no longer eagerly await the next day. I can’t wait to go to sleep again as soon as I wake up in the morning.

December became a new sense of dread for me. It’s a month consisting of constant reminders of loss, loneliness, and emptiness. The darkness surrounds my thoughts and begins to eat me alive. The coldness is so debilitating i struggle to keep warm under my blanket and my mismatched t-shirt with sweatpants i wore the day before.

I never knew people began to decorate the evergreen trees with lights and ornaments of sort to ward off the evils of December, but I don’t think that was our ancestors greatest accomplishments. The colorful lights that sit right outside my windows every December are a haunting reminder of Christmases past. The stupid faux evergreen tree that is shoved into the corner of my living room, tilts with the heaviness of memories of times where life was bearable.

Giving gifts was something that made this time worth it, but it seems as time passes, the less I feel motivated to mind-read what every person in my life wants. I never refined my motor skills either so wrapping the gifts after searching far and wide for a useless gadget that will be destroyed by next year, never worked well for me. I am a perfectionist at heart, but the effort it takes to learn how to wrap gifts for someone who may not be with you next year never felt worth it to me. I’m lucky if i overhear something my parents want, but otherwise I have been settling for gift cards hoping they will use it on necessities.

Working during this time always feels like a pointless effort, I am too exhausted to stay awake during the second half of my shift and too cold to leave my seat to wake myself up, so next to nothing gets done. Depending on my coworkers is a whole other issue when it’s obvious they’re in the same sinking boat as me. Of course the bosses don’t care as they spend their Decembers in Phoenix.

I always remember being excited for December and staying up late on new years, watching the year change. Now it’s just another reminder that all our time spent here is coming to an end quicker than we thought, but maybe that’s one good thing. Less Decembers for me

#mine #writers on tumblr #i hate december #i hate christmas #remember december #excerpt from a story i'll never finish #excerpt from a book i'll never write #excerpt from my diary #lonliness #heartbreak #grief and loss #dealing with grief #dealing with people #tw depressing stuff

[creatingnikki]

i.

I may be pregnant.

you said, lol ok sure. you said, but I used a condom. you said, are you serious? I am not old enough to raise a child yet. you said, I don't want to change diapers right now.

classy. you think I want to change diapers? I am literally your age. and chill, I am not pregnant. you really think I want to be?

you said, who knows. you said, but for being very specific say that you're not pregnant. you said, and even if you are say that you're not pregnant with my child. 

A, I am not pregnant with your child. and if I was, I wouldn’t keep it. 

you said, okay. good for both of us. you said, I’m glad it didn’t come to that. you said, I don’t want to ruin this for anyone. you said, that’s why I only engage sexually with sane people. 

what do you mean sane?

you said, I mean if you were pregnant I can’t force you to abort. can’t force anybody. you said, that’s why I can only sleep with someone who is capable of rational reasoning. 

ii. 

I may be pregnant.

you said, shit. did you take a test? 

not yet, I’m scared.

you said, of course you are. you said, at this point you shouldn’t think of the worst case scenario. you said, just take the test first. 

but, M, what if I am? 

you said, if you are then I will ask you what you want. you said, if you say you want to keep it I would tell you I am not in a place to financially offer any support. you said, I’d ask you if you can financially support the baby and if yes then I would offer all other support. you said, and if you didn’t want to keep the baby, I’d fly down and I’d take you to the clinic and be with you the whole time. 

M, if I am pregnant, I don’t even know if it’s yours.

you said, okay, that doesn’t matter. you said, I’ll still come. 

iii. 

I may be pregnant.

you said, what?

mom, I’m not sure, it’s mostly just a scare. 

you said, it’s okay even if you are. it’s okay. I will take care of the baby. you said, you can go on with your life. 

no, if I am, I won’t keep it.

you said, I want a grandchild and it doesn’t seem like you are going to go the conventional way and give me one later. just keep the baby. 

mom, no.

you said, don’t laugh, I am serious. you said, I’ll disown you otherwise. 

umm seriously? come on. 

you said, fine. just don’t do anything without telling me. don’t do anything stupid that will harm you. you said, we will take care of it. 

iv. 

I may be pregnant. 

I will take the test soon. I have a friend who said he will be there on call with me throughout. for every one asshole in my life, I have three people who have my back. more, actually. I just need to remember that. just remember that. remember. 

#tmi #writerscreed #poeticstories #poetryportal #pregnancy scare #pregnancy speculation #support #dealing with people #dealing with myself #spilled ink #spilled emotions #what if #creatingnikki

[infjpaladin]

Being introverted and autistic I felt that one.

#clark kent #superman #infj #infj the paladin #introverts #introspection #introverted #autism #autism spectrum disorder #asd #adult autism #actuallyautistic #actually autistic #aspergers syndrome #educator #teacher #instructor #martial arts #teaching #dealing with people #being social #masking #autism masking

[letsnotandsaywewantedto]

No shit, there I was, just scrolling through Mastodon, and I come across a link to the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration's Office of Coastal Management's guide to Dealing with Disruptive Behaviors.

Go look. I'll wait.

When you select an icon, it gives a description of the behavior followed by suggestions for intervention. There's a toggle so you can make the suggestions "gentle" or "firm."

This is great even for those who don't run meetings. If you've ever struggled with dealing with diverse personalities, these tips will help!

I did a little digging and I also found the PDFs for their entire training manual for Planning and Facilitating Collaborative Meetings and the Quick Guides for Dealing with Disruptive Behaviors & Facilitation Techniques.

Many of these techniques are helpful even outside of an office environment. There are some fairly universal communication techniques like Paraphrasing, Mirroring, Summarizing, and Boomeranging.

WTF, NOAA.

#noaa #personalities #Disruptive Behaviors #NOAA training modules #autism #dealing with people #personal interactions #good stuff #life tips

[choclatespain]

I srs need friends, or like a course on how to interact with people. Actually the course needs to come first any recommendations on how too?

#feeling bleh #making friends #i have no friends #friends #I srs don’t mean to say mean things #ppl are difficult #dealing with people #socializing #socializing is hard

[penname-artist]

*cracks knuckles* it’s time for more delicious Pinterest-pulled quotes, memes and other information. Today’s collection theme is “dealing with shitty people”

(Side note this one ^ has me thinking about the times that Karens in fast food joints get their asses handed to them once and they had no idea it was coming because they’re so used to getting their way. Anyways, where were we?)

I am actually debating a lil series of these so like, if you have any “themes” that you want, hit me up because I have a LOT of fucking saved content in many locations and I want to share the wonderful quotes. Or anything really. We can do post chains about other shit like. Cats. Or stupid design choices idk, give me something

#quotes #toxic people #dealing with people #what else do I even tag this with lol

[snowstorm14]

WE ARE A BRAINWASHED

✨📺🌀GENERATION🌀📺✨

#brainwashing #mind control #scary #propaganda #fear #fear of god #i belong to him #dealing with people #just relax #relaxingtherapy #harmony #self love #secure #he saved me

[cray-cray-anime]

Personal advice

Real growth is when you can tell people to fuck off (or in professional settings, formally nope out of it) and not feel guilty or care

And sometimes you gotta be a bitch and say this is how it's gonna go down and if not, ya drop them

Get evidence when ppl are being dicks to you so noone try turning it on you

Do the bare fucking minimum in work if it's pointless

Academics specifically: If you get to pick the topic, pick the simplest thing even if its unoriginal or boring, THEY WILL NOT CARE ABT YOU DOING ANYTHING INTERESTING OR UNIQUE

And if put in grp work, say clearly how to FAIRLY split the work cos not every section/sub topic requires the same amount of work. AND REGULARLY MEET AND KNOW WTF EVERYONE ELSE IS DOING

#cray-cray-anime #personal advice #life advice #University #school #work #group projects #dealing with stress and anxiety #dealing with people #dealing with shitty people #academics #assignment help #group work

[tuxedosaurus]

A life lesson I’ve had to learn is that people often just ask questions because they want their own opinion be parroted back at them.

I’m not good at determining when this is the case, but it’s useful to know: when someone reacts negatively to your answer, maybe this is why.

#life lessons #dealing with people #frustrated

[whoneedssexed]

Can someone constantly calling you affect your mental health? I have this issue, were the person will call the landline and wake us up, when we are dealing with important issues (knowing it too), call when we are dealing with the children (they live on the same property, can hear the kids when they have their tantrums/being loud, and will call us and ask what's going on) etc., and I swear to god, dealing with this damn phone is worse than the kids.

An older ask in the inbox is similar:

Can getting repeated phone calls affect your mental health. Like, not just from scams, but having the phone ring constantly in general (from scams or people you know).

Yes, it can elevate your stress and anxiety for sure. It can be the last thing you need to happen when you’re dealing with crap. And, there is such thing as phone-specific anxiety, a type of social anxiety that very directly involves phones.

So absolutely it can affect the mental health, you don’t even need to have a history of trauma related to phones.

But, for the original ask here, it also seems like someone is being nosy and pestering you, which in itself is also known to deteriorate the mental health. Whether they mean it maliciously or not, this seems like something you need to discuss with them. There are things that aren’t their business, or things that they can only make worse by butting in.

- mod BP

#mental health #stress #anxiety #phone anxiety #social anxiety #socializing #relationships #communication #dealing with people #phones #phonecalls #asks

[a1sart]

if there's one thing this last episode has affirmed for me about Alastor it's that he FUCKING HATES being reminded that he's not the most powerful creature in hell.

Like, he hates being ignored by Carmilla when she says she doesn't care why he was gone

He hates Lucifer ON SIGHT

He threatens to KILL Husk when he dares to mention that Alastor is working for someone more powerful than him

and now this.

Alastor freaking out because he almost died. Something almost killed him. He can fucking die. There is something more powerful than him out there. And it's not something he can ignore or brush off because it almost killed him.

Alastor hates the reminder that he's not as powerful as he tells people he is. He isn't indestructible, he isn't invincible. And he fucking hates that.

#hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel spoilers #al talks about things #OUUGH HE'S MAKIN ME INSANE #he isn't blorbo yet #but he could be #anyway I've seen people say that he's freaking out because he's realizing he maybe does care #No???? that's not it??? #He's scared because he just got the shit beat out of him by an angel??? #He got reminded that there are things out there that are more powerful than him? #that's why he immediately jumps to trying to figure out a way out of his deal #because he wants to get out from under whoever is more powerful than him!!! #hazbin hotel alastor #hazbin alastor

[leonor3nono]

some people only think about themselves, like we had a project in group and a girl in my class wanted us to pay for the money she spent on materials. But she didn’t think it was fair for her and others to pay for our work, because our work was mostly on paper, on prints. Like wtf, we all were working for each other what makes her more rightful, our work Isn’t less important or necessary.

And the way that she said it, like she was superior or right made me angry and sick.

I just couldn’t understand.

#journaling #college life #real life #day #mental health #life lately #journal #people #dealing with grief #dealing with depression #dealing with anger #dealing with people #tired but pretty #tired

[queerasflux]

man I wish people understood how much it sucks ass to be neurodivergent and trying to find the middle ground where people like/tolerate you. like, I'm either "boring" (trying to wait my turn in conversations, holding space for other people, taking a back seat to let others get some spotlight) or "too much" (too loud/talking too much, getting excited to share, trying to participate in group conversations/activities). No one really talks about how much of being neurodivergent is just sort of trying to make yourself palatable.

I feel like so much of my life has been spent trying to find this effortless sort of middle ground everyone else seems to automatically already know, and I'm always swinging too far one way or the other. I'm lucky to have neurodivergent friends who grok me, but goddamn I wish that I could just like, exist without the constant background script in my brain that's like "you're being too loud. You're not talking enough. you're being self-centered. you're being boring. you're wrong, you're wrong, you're wrong." I feel like I'm back in high school trying to make friends but stuck as the eternal "weird kid"

it's just... lonely and sucks bad.

#I'm fine #just had a sort of blegh night with some people I'm playing dnd with #not a big deal but man the way I interact with neurodivergent people vs neurotypical people is like speaking two languages #except I'm only fluent in one of them and keep accidentally insulting people in the other #I'm just trying to make friends irl #flux's bullshuit #neurodivergent #autism #adhd #audhd #audhd things #audhd problems

[refugeed-kim]

YES YES I NEED THIS SIGN IN EVERY SINGLE PARK PLEASE

This is my daily struggle, I had so many arguments with people with off-leash dogs (in a mandatory leash area!!!). Thanks to this behavior I'm struggling with Kim being anxious/aggressive with other females as she often gets involved in unpleased interactions with free females while on leash. And every single time that I ask for the dog to be at least recalled, I'm being called names and insulted of course.

Also 9 out of 10 their dog isn't really that friendly at all.

#dogblr #dog #dog training #petblr #the most unpleasant part of owning a dog is having to deal with awful dog owners... #the richer the neighbourhood the worst are the owners #but of course the only park that isn't a hour-long drive from home it's full of this kind of people #I want to live in a city where there is enough space to actually walk without meeting anyone if we don't feel like it

[stuckinapril]

lived my whole life in guilt bc i thought i was responsible for people's feelings. newly realizing that other people are responsible for their feelings and reactions, even if they make it seem like i'm the problem. a lot of the time it really has to do w them and their own emotional regulation. i can't keep thinking i'm not allowed to have space bc of other people's insecurities. like i literally refuse to dim myself. other people are responsible for their feelings just as i'm responsible for mine.

#like i'm always gonna operate from a place of kindness but i've had to deal w so many people who're bad at communication/confrontation #which led me to think i'm the problem #that i deserve to be given the silent treatment or dismissed disregarded belittled etc #that's j not true. i'm far from perfect but i think so few people deserve that kind of reaction. and my biggest revelation is i do not #even if people want to make me think i do / that their reaction is justified / that i'm a burden etc #my biggest problem is i humor people like this for too long bc it's been normalized behavior to me #does this make any sense to anyone. it's the end of the year and i'm reflecting on so many things #p

[ghostvvitch]

I honestly can’t keep dealing with people. Sometimes with people shit just happens and you keep wondering if it’s because of you or if people are just fucking insane or if it’s something in the water, idk

But I’m genuinely tired of going through these situations.

So I decided that I’m going to be a hermit.

#personal #personal diary #my post #thoughts #witchcraft #dealing with people #at the beginning I was gonna say dealing with men but it’s honestly all people #let’s not discriminate #tired #tired of your shit #bye #hermit