#life transitions

[toexistwithin]

#void exploration #life transitions #DejaVu #transition

[desultory-suggestions]

Often the best choices we ever make are also the hardest

#suggestions #suggestion blog #mental health #relationships #choices #life changes #transitions #life transitions #self love #ed recovery #anxiety #depression

[femmefatalevibe]

How to get over ghosting after being love bombed and future faking? He told me that he feels like knowing me for ages, surprised me with roses, asked me to go on a trip with him in December. Two days ago he already planned another date and yesterday he stopped texting me, I double texted him (normally I don’t do this) asked him if everything is alright because I couldn’t believe that he’s just going to ghost me. He told me that he doesn’t have time to getting to know me and to build a „friendship“ with me. I’m confused and sad…

Oh, I'm so sorry. Future faking is the most mind-bending type of gaslighting until you recognize the behavior for what it is – a way for someone to overcompensate for their own low self-esteem and confidence.

First, let yourself grieve the potential you saw with this person. Even if the potential for follow-through was a fantasy, the emotions these dynamics provoke are most certainly real (and sometimes deep).

Next, I would try to remember that his actions have nothing to do with you. Honestly, you're probably not even close to the first or last person he will do this to. Separate his mental health issues/cognitive distortions from your sense of self-worth or ability to show up maturely/sensibly in a relationship.

Finally, I would be relieved that you dodged a bullet so quickly! It's better to know/recognize this evil quality in a person after a few days vs. a few months or even years.

Allow yourself to heal and move on. You deserve better.

Hope this helps xx

#toxic people #narcissistic behavior #narcissistic abuse #love bombing #gaslighting #self healing #healing journey #emotional abuse #life lessons #life transitions #femmefatalevibe #dating #dating and relationships #q/a

[brownsugashawtyyy]

October please be good to me, the end of September was pretty rough.

Sometimes all you can do is hold ya head & do what you can.

#best foot forward #life transitions #personal

[transcendragon]

The Beginning of March 2024: New Creations, Unemployment, and a Poem

Don’t worry, there will also be another poem this weekend! Probably tomorrow of the day after. I wanted to give some updates as well, though. I’ll start with the writing updates and move on to a personal update. Two writing updates first. One: I’ve made a Kofi! If you like what I create, please consider supporting me. I will also provide additional content for those who donate $5 a month. Check…

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#blog stuff #blog updates #jobs #life #life poems #life transitions #original poem #original poetry #original writing #poem #poetry #transcendragons writes #updates

[petitmimo]

Je me réveille ce matin, un étau autour de la tête et la gorge. Je suis épuisée et complètement drainée.

Il y a des jours où je me réveille avec l'excitation d'une nouvelle vie et d'autres où je suis terrifiée de sauter dans cette abysse. Ce matin c'est la peur de mon future qui gagne.

J'ai peur de me tromper en quittant cette profession.

#daily journal #journaling #journal #journal intime #life #life transitions #france #frenchblr #french #frustration #changement de vie #routine #matin

[l3on-ne0n]

Life transitions, Chapter 16. By purplefuzzysocks on ao3.

I just had to draw this scene! All dialogue is quoted from the fic (will be pasted below)

‘The teen folded his hands over his stomach, while laying on his back. “Can I tell you a secret?”

“I sure hope it’s not like the last one.” Leo half-joked, though his voice held an air of worry to it.

“No,” Donnie replied, “Its actually something I used to visualise as a kid.”

“Oh?” Leo’s interest had been piqued. “What’s up?”

The soft-shell sunk into his mattress. “It’s…pretty personal.” He took a deep breath before resuming the topic. “Sometimes after…Dad punished me, I would think about what happened except I would fantasise Lou Jitsu coming to rescue me.”

Leo pursed his lips. “Oh, wow. I’m sorry Donnie.” It was new information to the slider, and it made him feel for his brother in purple to hear.

“Yeah…” The soft-shell released an empty sigh. “At night, I would beg him to come help me, quietly to myself, but he never came. Years later, I found out my childhood hero is the man I wanted to be saved from.”

The slider was unsure of what to say, but wanted to make sure he sympathised with his brother. “I’m sorry Dad ruined Lou Jitsu for you.”

The purple turtle shrugged. “Guess I really wanted to say this to someone. It made me really upset after finding out, but I think I can finally start letting it go.”’ End quote.

#digital art #rottmnt #rottmnt donnie #rottmnt leo #fanfic #life transitions

[calltoamentor]

Life Balance and the Feeling of Failure

For recovering perfectionists and "good kids", there is a struggle as we grow to be productive. To strive. To achieve. Even if it means sacrificing our own well-being to do it. Never works out that way, does it?

For recovering perfectionists and “good kids”, there is a struggle as we grow to be productive. To strive. To achieve. Even if it means sacrificing our own well-being to do it. We treat our lives and ourselves like machines to produce results, a means to an end and not like the living and growing beings we actually are. The temptation to stake our identity on success at these goals on a…

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#Burnout #Burnout Prevention #Burnout recovery #Change #Focus #Gifted Kid Syndrome #growth mindset #Life change #life changes #Life Transitions #Motivation #Perfectionism #Perfectionist #personal growth #Regain control of my life

[goddess-help-us]

So, like, I’m a little overwhelmed, because my best friend has entered a new stage in his life, and I am so happy for him. However, I just know that things are never going to be the same because he is growing his family and I may not be as much of a priority as before. For the first time in a long time I really don’t have a best friend right now. And that’s a little intimidating. 

#personal #friends #friendship #life things #life transitions

[finding-hope-strength-courage]

We are all individuals and approach things in our own way.

A Past Teacher & Someone Who Helped Me Through So Much; 17/11/2010

#Mental Health #Awareness #Understanding #Fighting #Healing #Recovery #Progress #Growth #Strength #Hope #Courage #Personal #Support #Supportive Words #Kindness #Kind Words #University #Life Transitions

[wordsarefakeokay]

Five years driven

Pandemic

Break ever since

I had things figured out, did you know?

Then I figured out more

Then the toilet paper crisis social distancing quarantine

"In these trying times"

"Imagine" sung by celebrities like it's a cure

And me breaking in ways I couldn't know otherwise

So I took a break

Focus on me, be with the people I love, my family

Things I never had time for before

But I don't feel at my best

How do I get there after all this time?

I've picked myself up twice from some pretty dark places

And each time, where does all that energy go?

I wish it were just back

I wish I knew what to do

How do I feel like myself again?

When do I get a place all mine again?

And where did all the time go?

Was it worth it?

#words #writing #spilled ink #poem #poetry #queer writers #love #pansexual #pandemic #gay #school #covidー19 #covid #quarantine #plague #covid19 #life transitions #dark places #depression #self care #taking a break #college #original poem #poets corner #poets on tumblr #writers and poets #family #living at home #queer writer #writers on tumblr

[toexistwithin]

#displacement #liminalspace #derelict #life transitions #dreamlike

[potatopossums]

i will set foot in a new apartment, away from my ex.

i will be prepared for what is to come financially.

i will be able to ask for help if i need it.

i will set foot on foreign and familiar soils and see my friends.

i will achieve my goals and i will feel fulfilled by them because I'll be so busy jam packing my goals with things i love that there's no way things could fall apart and be disappointing because they're all foolproof things i genuinely enjoy and love about myself, and that can't be taken away from me.

i will be okay.

#mental health #friendship #personal #long distance friendship #life transitions #moving #depression

[femmefatalevibe]

Hello, I've been at home since covid times and now I'll be going for my masters this July. But these days I've been feeling very homesick. Don't want to leave the house, keep overthinking scenarios like how ill able to survive outside. Any tips you can share? Thankyou

Hi love! Sorry that you're going through this. Please know that you're not alone. I definitely had major anxiety surrounding going outside, to events, socializing, etc. in post-vax 2021 (Summer/Fall) and early 2022 with Omicron and everything. Covid changed all of our lives in different ways, so remember to validate this experience for yourself <3

The best advice I can give is to start small and push yourself through the initial resistance.

Start with the simplest, least social outings, like forcing yourself to go outside and take a long walk. Just get your stuff together, headphones on, put on your shoes, and walk out & lock the door before you have too much time to think about it. Force yourself to walk around for at least 30 minutes without retreating to your living quarters. Do this every day until it feels normal/habitual to you.

Next, give yourself a destination daily on these outings (grocery store, drugstore, dog park, coffee shop, ice cream parlor, etc.). You don't need to buy anything but give yourself at least 5-10 minutes to reacclimate into being in a space with other people and interacting with a contained environment. This exercise allows you to ease into the idea of being outside and socializing without having to do too much of either the former or the latter.

Graduate into taking time in social spaces alone while doing a leisurely activity. You can go to a coffee shop and have a beverage while reading a book, get a smoothie or ice cream to enjoy in the park, or have a meal or coffee outside while sitting on a bench, rooftop, etc.

Finally, once you're comfortable with both being outside the home and engaging in activities around other people, it's time to reintegrate into society. Start small with one-on-one coffee, lunch, or drink dates, walks in the park, workout classes, an art class with a friend, etc. Once you're comfortable with these intimate social engagements, bigger social events like group dinners, events, large classroom environments, etc. should become less overwhelming and feel more manageable/enjoyable.

Hope this helps xx

#social skills #socializing #life advice #life skills #femmefatalevibe #q/a #student life #student tips #life transitions #social interaction #social isolation #pandemic #networking #self discovery #it girl #girl advice #dream girl #glow up #level up #self healing #healing journey #healthy habits

[grady70]

North Beach

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#Aging #Coming of age #Heroes #In Memorium #Life Transitions #San Francisco

[the-duality-of-matcha]

the change nobody wished for

Something’s bothering me for almost a year now: a decision that will haunt me for the rest of my life, only if I let it to (which I already did). That’s why I’d like to make this day and the succeeding ones a little bit different from these past months, with the aid of the magic word: acceptance– Not by thinking about it over and over, like dirty clothes in a washing machine running endlessly…

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#acceptance #change #life transitions #maturity #peace of mind #quarter-life musings