#ocd advice

[take-one-last-breathxx]

Got off the phone with my therapist a couple of hours ago, and she did a little OCD assessment, and she definitely thinks I have it.. I just don't know how to feel right now. I had to talk about a lot of my intrusive thoughts and anxieties from 14 to now, and I'm just anxious. I just want to be okay and feel okay.. Anyone else with OCD, how do you cope with the anxiety?

#ocd #pure ocd #anxiety #panic attacks #ocd advice

[bl0w-m3]

My OCD is steady getting worse and I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve always had it but since I turned 20 last year it’s out of control.

#ocd #obsessive compulsive spectrum #obsessive compulsive behavior #obsessive compulsive disorder #mental health #mental illness #ocd advice

[justlittleocdthings]

Had a friend use the term “i am a little ocd” last week (as in “everyone is a little ocd”) and now don’t know what to do because feel so invalidated :/

That's so frustrating anon, I'm sorry! It hurts when people don't seem to understand the impacts that their words have.

Occasionally, if I know the person, I'll say something like "Oh, you have intrusive thoughts and compulsions? I'm sorry to hear that, OCD is really debilitating" and sometimes that's enough to make them backtrack. If you wanted to get more to the point, and you have a good relationship with this friend, you could say something like: "Hey, I know you didn't mean anything by it, but it's actually kind of hurtful when people make jokes about having OCD. Obsessive-compulsive disorder is a debilitating illness that's made my life very difficult, so it feels invalidating when you compare it to [wanting things to be orderly/liking items to line up/whatever the friend said]. I'd appreciate it if you could try to avoid statements like that."

Hoping this friend is understanding and listens to you! If anyone else has suggestions, feel free to reply.

#actuallyocd #ocd #ocd advice

[disteal]

I think the best advice I ever got to stop myself from getting in my head over issues i was having with a partner/friend was “Are you deciding on ultimatums in your relationship without the other persons knowledge or consent? Are you having conversations in your head where the other party is a projection you supply the responses for? If so; you have done this person a huge disservice in not allowing them to answer on their own terms. You have done so much architecture around this problem in your mind that is impenetrable for anyone who was not there when it was being built.”

That shit really changed my life and honestly? I think made me a nicer person to be around.

#dis.txt #been thinking abt that a lot lately #it’s good advice for ocd motherfuckers

[yakitori-queen]

all the advice on moral ocd ive been trying to find online is like "well you cant ever know for sure if youre a good or bad person you just gotta learn to live with the uncertainty" like yea thats the point brother. you nailed the exact thing i dont know how to do

#ocd equivalent to anxiety advice being like 'you just have to worry less' #like yeah thats the bit i struggle with #moral ocd #scrupulosity #ocd #mental illness

[girlcalledwhatsername]

Making my separate post because I don't want to derail the other one but yk that post that says (rightly so) that even if you aren't able to sleep just lying down and not doing anything is more restful than doing something to pass the time? That's 100% a fact, and it has helped a bunch of people myself included, i think about that often.

However. As someone who has also been told this same thing in situations where it absolutely does not apply i do want to add some caveats.

If you are unable to sleep because you are experiencing a manic/hypomanic episode, don't force yourself to lie still, your restlessness might make matters worse, it will absolutely not be restful, and it is better to find something to do that will tire you out (for eg my therapist recommended jumping jacks)

If you are unable to sleep due to a sensory issues and find yourself barreling towards a meltdown, don't just lie there hoping things will get comfortable on their own. A meltdown is not restful. You do not deserve that suffering, change what you need to till you feel at ease enough to rest (even if not sleep)

If you are unable to sleep due to severe anxiety, don't just lie there and wait out the night. If you are that tense and high strung that is not restful. If a distraction is the only thing helping you with certain obsessions or paranoia then depriving yourself of that will not help. Take a while to practice your self help techniques till you feel unwound enough to rest (even if not sleep)

If you are unable to sleep due to some kind of psychosis, likewise allow yourself to work through it till you aren't as tense or distressed by it

If you are unable to sleep due to disturbing intrusive thoughts/impulses, allow yourself to find a release and talk yourself down to calmness, especially if you find the distress intensifying when your thoughts spiral out from a lack of something else to focus on

Lying down and doing nothing even when you can't sleep is good because it is restful. If it isn't restful this will not help. Remember that only you know best what is helping you. And please if someone says that just lying down won't help them then believe them and let them solve their issues the way they feel best. Maybe there is more at play than you know

#again absolutely agree with lie down even if you can't sleep in most cases #but some of us also have a lot more going on and that advice might not always apply #and i promise you aren't being a petulant child if you refuse to 'try to sleep' when you know it will make you more distressed #you do not deserve to be distressed #mental health #mental health stuff #mental health awareness #anxiety #depression #bipolar #mania #psychosis #paranoia #intrusive thoughts #ocd

[blubefishy]

When people talk about internet safety, they often don't talk about mentally ill people and the neurodivergent, which they should because it's very important. Neurodivergent people and mentally ill people get targeted a lot online. Some people probably already know this, but others don't, and unfortunately, I've seen people fall into these things.

If you say that you're mentally ill and/or neurodivergent online, there's a chance that you will face stigma and possibly harassment. Even by people who say they're allies to you, they may have an underlying stigma or be lying, and put you under more harsh treatment and scrutiny compared to your mentally healthy and neurotypical counterparts.

Be careful who you disclose that you're mentally ill and/or neurodivergent to. Especially if you're a minor! Unfortunately, there are people who go and target mentally ill and neurodivergent people, knowing that they are, and end up bullying them and/or preying on them. I've seen predators and bullies do this so often, just please be safe. This includes people who you may find through kokobot.

If somebody tries to claim that you're 'faking' it, simply put, you don't owe them anything. You don't need to prove yourself to anyone. You especially don't need to show private and personal information, don't share that.

Please be safe.

#i think i used neurodivergent in the right way? tell me if i'm wrong #internet safety #reminder #advice #mentally ill #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #autism #adhd #add #ocd #bullying #tw bullying #tw predator #tw predation

[somerandomhuman080]

i didn’t wanna open up on this app but… NEURODIVERGENT  PEOPLE PLEASE HELP! i’ve suspected i’ve had adhd for about a year now. I AM NOT SELF DIAGNOSING, it’s a suspicion. i have many reasons to believe this, some being my short attention span, fidgety tendencies, bad memory, random bursts of energy, “clumsiness”, inability to focus on a conversation or movie (even if it’s entertaining), lack of motivation, spacing out, and weird obsession with textures (does that make sense? like if something feels good i can’t stop touching it. idk if that’s and adhd thing or just being weird lol), hiper fixating on people, things, songs, and then phasing out of it, lack of organization, etc.

i’m aware that there are two different kinds of adhd and again, i have my suspicions about my own (if any at all). however a lot has been going on in my life lately and i think this could be tied to anxiety and/or depression, i know these symptoms overlap and i’ve tried to separate them many times. i also think it could be ocd. and once again i know i shouldn’t self diagnose, i brought this up to my friend with adhd hoping for some help. they told me straight up not to self diagnose. so am i overreacting? i know symptoms in women are often missed and i’m afab, but i feel this could also come from depression and/or anxiety. any advice?? (sorry for the rant) :)

update: https://www.tumblr.com/somerandomhuman080/725964643304079360/heyyyy-so-just-a-lil-update-on-my-adhd-post-if

update :)

#adhd #please help #neurodivergent #ainxiety #depression #advice? #ocd #idk but something’s up with me

[theotherpacman]

was anyone going to fucking tell me that avoidance is part of ocd or was I supposed to think I was a horrible awful person forever

seriously the fuck since when

#I wish I was in therapy or something #the main advice I remember my last therapist giving was for me to get a job #I have a job now bitch #and the intrusive thoughts make it fucking hell every day #obsessive compulsive disorder #actually ocd

[selfcarediaryy]

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[notabled-noodle]

also when I say “let go of the things you can’t control”, that means you need to think through what it is you can and can’t control.

the bus is running late? you can’t control that. make your apologies to the person you’re meeting. and let it go.

you’re not sure if that email you’ve already sent came across as passive aggressive? you can’t control that right now. what’s done is done. let it go.

trust that, if a real problem comes up down the line, you will be able to sort it out. but now? while these things are out of your control? you just have to let it go

#anxiety #ocd #recovery #advice

[funnierasafictive]

some advice i see a lot regarding how to tell if someone is a fictive or just a character that the person is imagining is to try to imagine them doing something they wouldn't and see if it feels wrong or if they flat out refuse but i was wondering is there any way to tell if you've just imagined them refusing? like, if it's more in character for them to do so is that not simply where your mind would go? how can you tell whether there's a person behind it or whether it's just that your mind itself doesn't want to cooperate??

Honestly, I'm not sure how to answer that. BUT, it does remind me of when our old host met Jaiden (not a fictive) and they read that a way to check if someone is really sentient, you do this specific exercise about balancing a feather on their noise or something. Honestly none of us remember the point of it or how it would have worked, but what happened was, Jaiden was already Real. He split real, Jamie just wasn't sure (thank you denial). Because Jaiden cared about Jamie, he indulged him and did the exercises. But it would go on for DAYS to the point where Jaiden literally told Jamie to just "stop". "I'm real!" and even if Jamie told him to do these exercises, it was annoying him.

So yes, having them do something they'd like is an option. But have you considered annoying them to the point where they snap at you?? SKDFJS

OF COURSE DONT like. put yourselves on bad terms. but its something to think about. A lot of the time when we're in denial, the person we/the current front is in denial about, starts getting annoyed, and then we feel bad about hurting their feelings.

So I'm not your therapist and I can't tell you what's what- but I guess you could also think.. "If I annoyed them, and they react badly to me annoying them, and that feeling of them scolding me makes me feel bad.. why would I ever make that up?"

Also give it some time. Sometimes if a split is new (or you think someone just split) it'll be hard to tell. Denial is a BITCH. If you already are used to having alters or system members in general, The fictive who just split WILL eventually be comfortable enough to be "concrete enough" with you, if they already even know who they are. maybe your brain itself is still figuring things out. We talk about splitting as a community a lot--where spliting is usually depicted as like this FAST thing. but sometimes its slow! which DOESNT help if youre trying to figure out if you have someone or not!

#ask #Anonymous #and then of course tehres like. so many different factors like sure maybe its ocd or something #but anyway yeah #i do not recommend HARASSING people but im NOT a good role model so. nudging them a little might do something #bc like with ANY ALTER (not just fictives) a lot of the advice tends to be 'get a reaction out of them' lol #Talk to them? #im going to stop talking now because i feel like if i do my advice will actually get like really bad and you should NOT just listen to me g #'annoy them!!!' BAHAHA #-SUSIE / blurry susie i gyuess #ANYWAY HOPE IT GOES WELL! #be patient with YOURSELF and be patient with this possible fictive #its valid to live life being like 'idk' and then find out the actual answer a week or two later or more #i mean yk some systems only find out they had a fictive of someone YEARS later /gen yk #not funnier as a fictive #sorry its long lol..... #i also dont usually use commas but i used them here so im a little more comprehensible

[klapollo]

i dont talk about my ocd much because im blessed enough to have worked hard enough at my ERP and taking my meds for a long time that it doesnt really interfere with my life too badly right now but it ruined me for a long, long time. i lost many years of my life -- especially my early adulthood -- to it. my grades suffered. my social life was nonexistent for a long time. i missed out on so many things i'll never get back.

there were months where all i would do was sit on the couch and literally scream at the top of my lungs because i was constantly doing mental compulsions and i wanted to silence my intrusive thoughts. ive had nearly every theme you can imagine -- contamination, scrupulosity, sexual OCD, real event OCD, numbers, superstitions. i only really got to a point where i could finally function about two years ago, after being in and out of a deep haze since i started college, and i still struggle from time to time with some things.

i guess what im saying here is if youre in the throes of severe mental illness right now, even if it's been years, youre not hopeless and you can find a way to live with it. i'll be fighting this battle for the rest of my life and i have to be constantly vigilant to avoid relapsing, and there's a good chance i will anyway, but i like to think i get stronger every time i fight it off again.

#if you have ocd and ever want advice feel free to send a message honestly #it's so hard i wouldnt wish it on anyone

[ametistapp]

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[daybringersol]

really need to internalize the idea that just cuz something someone says hurts me deeply doesnt mean theres a part of it thats true. like theres loads of reasons things people say can hurt, i dont need to spiral into obsessive introspection just cuz something hurt me. usually, that just makes the pain last longer, and i dont even learn anything new about myself.

#solsthoughts #scrupulosity #moral ocd #mental health #mental health advice #this is inspired by but not limited to being upset at transphobia

[fairysquirt]

if anyone here has hallucinations and know of ways to make them stop.. lemme know. Would be greatly appreciated.

#actually psychotic #actually bpd #actually bipolar #actually ocd #this is depressing #need help #vent post #need advice #schizoaffective #actually hallucinating #actually mentally ill #bpd vent #bpd feels #adhd stuff #text post #bipolar psychosis #psychosis