#this space is too safe

[apinchofm]

Modern De Clermonts au: they film each other crushing a watermelon with their thighs to raise money for charity

Why???

Also this brought back a buried memory of seeing this on This Morning and I was disgusted.

(that being said I would happily be between Baldwin or Marcus' thighs, but we move)

#butternuggets-blog #the things in my inbox #this space is too safe #a discovery of witches

[helloyellow17]

Idk man I might get torn to shreds for saying this, but I simply cannot understand the new trend, particularly among younger internet users, where people write a laundry list of their triggers in their bio and then expect everyone to read and cater to said list on a PUBLIC PLATFORM.

This is the same mentality that drives people to attack appropriately tagged fics on AO3 for having x y or z content because “How dare you post this when I have trauma about this???” Obviously if someone is going to write a super heavy and highly sensitive fic and NOT tag it properly, they ought to be called out on it. But this isn’t about that, it’s about the people who don’t curate their own content, it’s about the people who enter public spaces and demand that the general public cater to THEM specifically.

Additionally: Listing out your triggers for everyone to see is just ASKING for trolls to come into your inbox and flood you with triggering content. (Unfortunately, as much as we would like to believe otherwise, the internet is full of selfish jerks who don’t give a crap about anybody’s trauma.) Not only this, but the algorithm does not read your bio. The algorithm does not care about your triggers unless YOU make sure to block specific tags and content.

YOU are responsible for curating your own content, and nobody else.

Obviously this is not to say people shouldn’t try to tag their posts for common triggers, because that’s the common courtesy thing to do. But if Becky has a phobia of bees, it is on her to block that tag and curate her feed around it, and she does not get the exclusive right to suddenly demand that nobody talk about bees within a ten mile radius of her. If Alec has a phobia of dogs, then it is well within his right to avoid contact with them, but he doesn’t get to go to a public park and yell at anybody who brings their dog there. It is his responsibility to know his own limits and seek out parks that are dog-free. (If someone brings a dog to a dog-free area, that’s a whole different issue that I won’t be getting into rn but yes, the person who does that is in the wrong there.)

The internet is widely a public space. If you want to create a safe space completely and utterly free of your specific triggers, you have to put the work in to make that space for yourself. You don’t get to ask other internet strangers to do it for you.

I’m saying this out of genuine concern (and admittedly, frustration) because there are so many young teens in fandom nowadays who don’t understand this, and they end up putting themselves in extremely vulnerable and even downright dangerous situations because they don’t understand that putting your well-being in the hands of a stranger is a terrible idea.

Please be safe, and for the love of all that is holy, be reasonable. Curating your content yourself is just as much a protection for you as it is a vital key that allows public communities to function.

#hyramblings #fandom culture #internet discourse #trauma triggers #anxiety triggers #safe space #if I get one person saying “BUT WHAT IF SOMEONE IGNORES X AND DOES IT ANYWAY #we literally went over this #they’re a jerk and have responsibility too #but this ain’t about them rn #ya feel? #internet communities #fandom community

[ohitsmsn]

I don’t know what I would do without fanfiction😭

That’s it.

That’s the post.

#fanfic authors #i love you!!!!! #feeling thankful #ao3 #ao3 fanfic #ao3 is my safe space🥹 #fanfiction.net is good too🙌 #fanfiction.net #sydcarmy #the bear #richonne #twd towl #wolfstar #harry potter #stormpilot #star wars #brucas #merthur #merlin #cherik #bagginshield #johnlock #marvel #sambucky

[willgraham-manwhore]

#with will looking like that I'd spout some stream of consciousness shit like that too #hannibal shitpost #hannibal speak your mind its okay this is a safe space #hannigram #murder husbands #hannibal #nbc hannibal

[hauntedhotel]

As much as it isn't fun to hear Jon yelling at Martin, the end part of Mag 56 is so hilarious to me.

Listen, there is NO evidence to support Martin's claim about lying on his CV, and frankly it's kind of a weak cover story. You are required to show proof of your qualifications when you get a new job on the strength of them - not to mention ID - and even though on a relisten we know Martin's telling the truth and that Elias has his own reasons for hiring Martin, Jon doesn't know any of that. There's nothing to back up Martin's story and given how paranoid Jon's been since Prentiss, not to mention the fact that his specific concerns about Martin were that he might be hiding his own cunning behind the image of someone bumbling and soft (Jonathan "right for the wrong reasons" Sims strikes again) it is wild to me that he accepts this so quickly.

It's almost as though he's eager for Martin to be innocent, even though everything he's previously said about him would indicate that he'd rather it was Martin than Tim or Sasha, the assistants he respects professionally and likes on a personal level. It's so easy to picture him just blue-screening while poor Martin sits there expecting to be fired/screamed at again.

Martin: Okay, that's the truth, do your worst. Jon? Jon??

Jon, internally: Martin's innocent Martin lied to Elias but not me Martin didn't kill Gertrude Martin's safe Martin's still my friend Martin doesn't want me dead

Martin: Jon?

Jon, internally: MartinMartinMartinMartin

#tma #a mag a day #mag 56 #the magnus archives #martin blackwood #jonathan sims #jmart #hotel talks about tma #if martins crush on jon really took hold when jon believed him about prentiss #took him seriously and did his best to keep him safe #then this is where jons crush on martin really started #when he realised that martin really did just care about him and all the tea and lunches and fussing were straightforward kindess #and that martin is a safe space for him too #neither of them have ever felt safe #obviously they would fall in love with the one person that tried so hard to keep them that way

[hakusins]

T-The devil came and and she made me do terrible things and made me feel weird and and strange and maybe horny and she made me not focus on my work and gave me funny ideas and I want to draw them so bad and she’s bad right? And I had a little dooodle but I can’t attach it so uuuuuuuu

hang in there dollya !!! you can do it, you'll survive this !! i promise !!!

#also i didn't notice i had that disabled !! im so sorry #HEHEH you can send the doodle in now #BWUT UWEHHHH BHERBFHBJHERF #ITS OKAY THE DEVIL CANT HURT YOU HERE ANYMORE #THIS IS A SAFE SPACE #I HAVE MADE A RING OF SALT #WE'RE SAFE #dollya-robinprotector #dollya is so fun to draw... #shes so cute to draw crying too BHJERBFBJEF #dean answers #eri the orphan #fan art #art #mine #my fan art #my art #dol #dol related

[welcometogrouchland]

Also I am. Constantly forgetting how fucking funny Hunter is. We never give him enough credit for how funny he is because his life is so fucked up but I swear 90% of his lines are just bit after bit after bit. He's not even trying either. Anytime he actively tries to make a joke it falls flat but if you just put him in a Scenario he'll find a way to be so over invested and yet out of touch/at odds with whatever's going on. He's so autistic

#the owl house #ramblings of a lunatic #i forget hunters character voice A Lot #plus the most recent ep is always whats most clear in my mind (so rn that's ftf) and he's obvs much more angsty in that one #idk ppl credit thanks to them as the first time Hunter was like happy and silly #but i highkey think asias was the prelude to that. like i think the events of that day are so vivid and special to hunter #precisely bc it's the first time he's interacted with witches his age in a non hostile or strained way #it's the first time on screen we see him have fun doing something that isn't deranged #yeah whatever souls are made of his and willows are the same. but more importantly her gus and the rest make him laugh #that's important for the guy canonically having the worst day of his life Every Day #part of why huntlow appealed to me initially was that it was hunters first taste of like. normal teenagedom #not the romance with willow (cause that's barely an undercurrent in asias) but flyer derby and hexside in general #and that's part of why willow and later gus r like. his safe space #and thus why it's so significant that he goes out of his way to protect (keep them safe) too #anyway enough hunter thoughts for tonight. i love him but this isn't my Brand

[a-dauntless-daffodil]

remember how charlie started dating her gf back when she thought vaggie was a sinner who'd earned a place in hell, and then she found out the gf used to be a murder angel and got angry / hurt bc SHE tells vaggie everything so why didn't vaggie trust her with the angel thing??? does vaggie not really LOVE her????? oh yeah and murder bad too whatever- OH WAIT SO VAGGIE /DOES/ LOVE HER!? fuck yeah who cares about murder! the angel gf's wings are hot and charlie Will Hug Her

what im saying is... charlie doesn't just TALK about the fluffy vague idea of redemption

she's been living it this whole time

we see her CHOOSE to stay with vaggie even after having the exact terrible bad things vaggie did shoved in her face. there's no "she's just naive" excuse here

she knows. her kindness and hope doesn't come from a LACK of knowing how bad things or people can be

but that was vaggie's past. charlie talks about a breach of trust, of vaggie not trusting her with the truth, of the fear that other things between them hadn't been true too- Those are all PRESENT vaggie issues. they're all questions about the woman vaggie is NOW, and what kind of relationship charlie has with her, today

even charlie's line wondering if vaggie would've told her about an angel's weakness- it's not, "oh you're still one of them", it's "now i know there was something else important that you didn't tell me"

it's so quiet. that kind of, amazing moment. where charlie just unravels the whole idea of sin and flicks it away, like a speck of dust

being reminded of how many ways vaggie SHOWS who she is and who CHARLIE is to her, that settles charlie, answers all her worries and questions (she can trust vaggie) (vaggie is in this with her no matter what)- because none of them, those fears and pains, were about what vaggie had been

that's how the hotel can work. it's built on something REALLY strong- it's built on charlie honestly meaning what she says, and vaggie truly actively being her partner in it

we can't SEE that happening without looking at THEM

(we see people not taking them, or charlie, seriously- and getting fucked up when they Find Out)

them being and staying together is proof that the hotel can work, that angels can sin and seek redemption, that people- even sinners- can change

and when they change there'll be at least one place where they can BE that new person

at the hazbin hotel

#hazbin hotel #charlie morningstar #vaggie #chaggie #too manny thoguhts #you don't understand #how much i love charlie #how punishment or revenge is never part of her idea of justice #she just wants #things to be BETTER #because she knows they're bad right now #and believes they don't HAVE to be #and she's right #her and vaggie #and their hotel- how it ended up feeling like HOME to their friends- a space that's safe and THEIRS and worth fighting for #shows just how right she is

[liauditore]

cw// implied character death, double life nonsense

because you are love itself.

#my art #trafficblr #double life #divorce quartet #<-- insane about how scott killed pearl in limlife. #this comic has been sitting unfinished in my files for a good month its def not finished to my usual quality but god it needed to be done #so uh scott... yeah. i like villain scott but not pure evil scott. i like a scott whos scared of being loved and manipulates others to spar #himself the pain. i like a scott who ditched pearl because their friendship was actually becoming real and when the server gods confirmed i #with DL he freaked out a bit and ran off. #ofc u can interpret this comic however u want but i was just thinking way too hard abt smajhor #i feel like often ppl get divided into scott did nothing wrong vs scott is pure evil alot of the time #which is understandable cus like i said with fanart/fic u only have so much space to show someones personality #but idk i like him all angsty. like i know im a bad person but to keep myself safe i need to keep being like this. #hes so blorbo *puts him in a blender* #i hate him *wraps him up in a blanket and takes him home* #cw implied death #cw implied violence #scott #pearl

[melancholyfleurs]

just wanted to say to those with stone identities that i love you and the people who refuse to understand are not only ignorant losers but also they are completely undeserving of your presence and the beauty in your intimacy. i will defend you forever <33333

#as a vers i will defend u forever and ever and i love you #if u come for stone tops or bottoms in my presence u will die by my blade #this is not a safe space for you #that freak on TikTok wishing a pillow princess on their ex negatively.. my ex couldn’t do that she knows i would enjoy myself too much #ramblings #lesbian

[chronicowboy]

obsessed with the absence of eddie in buck centric episodes. like i can't explain it very well so this is going to sound incoherent but bear with me here. episodes focused on buck's trauma are always so tightly tied to family, his biological family and the scars they left him with both physical and mental. buck begins and in another life are so heavy on the family of it all and it speaks fucking volumes that in both of these episodes eddie has one scene that sets him apart from everyone else. in buck begins it's the like five second exchange of "i had to do it/i know you did" and in in another life it's eddie being unable to look at buck in the hospital bed. and fuck i don't really know how to explain it without saying things i've said a hundred times before but it's carving eddie out of the family that hurt buck so badly and setting him in his own little category. it's eddie being family outside of the biological barely-a-family buckley family, but it's also eddie being family within the wider 118 family. it's a sanctuary of sorts. buck has the buckleys, buck has maddie as both his mother and sister, buck has bobby, he has hen and chim, he has eddie and the rest of the 118. but buck also has eddie and chris as an entirely separate entity. a family full of trauma (tsunamis and ladder trucks and bullets and lightning bolts) but a family that provides refuge from it rather than causes it. at first it seems odd for eddie to be so absent in those episodes when he's such a huge part of buck's life (and when buck plays such a big part in eddie centric episodes like eddie begins and fear-o-phobia) but it's eddie taking a step back and saying i know you aren't sure of where you fit in because you've struggled with family all your life but we're here, i'm here, whenever you're ready to come home we'll be waiting.

#sami rambles #tell me this makes sense #i had some in another life posts of mine in my notifs and then i started thinking about buck begins too #and im just fascinated by eddie's place in those episodes when buck so clearly dedicates himself to the diazes #and idk its just telling that all their most domestic moments are in normal mundane episodes bc that's his safe space at the end of the day #with the diaz boys #911 show #evan buckley #eddie diaz #buddie #buck x eddie #911 meta #buckley diaz family

[deoidesign]

A short comic I made for an anthology

#millennium #I enjoyed making it #its not in the millennium comic but its luzio and sage #but the reason I made this is that I like to conceptualize all of the things that are important to me as living in my heart #on a little hill. and as I put care and love into these people and things that are important to me I'm building them a home #but the things that are mean to me. cruel even. my demons or whatever. they live in there too #and if I dont give them love and care. well. they have nowhere to sleep at night. #and they'll have to break in and destroy the things I love just to feel safe and seen and heard #and so I must sit with them and build them homes too #it's the only way I can conceptualize giving things like my anger the space that it needs #so. that's why I made this! #this comic is pretty old by now. so I might make a new thing off the same concept #I mean I might make a million new things off the same concept #I like doing that #but. yeah. anyways! #enjoy! #short comic #comics #comic art #my art #illustration #my ocs #ocs #art #digital art #original comic #mini comic

[momojedi]

Omega really tamed Crosshair like a wild beast.

Man’s constantly fuming and hissing but the second she addresses him or touches his arm, he immediately turns to look at her like a kicked puppy would

#his gaze always soften #i need someone to look at me like that #please #i want to be someone’s safe space too #star wars #clone wars #the bad batch #bad batch #the clone wars #star wars the clone wars #tbb #star wars clone wars #star wars the bad batch #omega #clone trooper crosshair #q

[disorderly]

cluster b culture is just don't make this about yourself don't make this about yourself don't mention yourself don't do it I swear to God don't mention yourself don't please God anyways I did the same thing and you didn't even notice what about me how come you never notice me but expect me to always be paying attention to you why don't you—

#vent #bpd #bpd vent #bpd problems #bpd things #bpd thoughts #cluster b #like....sorry I really have such an issue with feeling invalidated and then I bring up myself like a selfish bitch #like oh? you're restricting? did I tell you I'm underweight too #girl shut the ABSOLUTE FUCK UP omg I do NOT DESERVE FRIENDS #I can just BARELY control myself when I'm in a negative headspace already #the urge to be people's safe space until I can't control my terrible impulse to invalidate others RUINS relationships

[zombieplaguedoc]

Your f/o(s) would 100% be there for you when you're overwhelmed/underwhelmed or overstimulated/understimulated.

they know you can't deal with sudden loud noises, crowds, small places or that you need extra stimulation in certain times

when they notice you starting to get upset, anxious, they'll lead you outside, without gathering attention, to where it's quiet and help you decompress

they'll stay near you, letting you stim the anxiety out without any judgement and help you keep yourself at bay

if you go nonverbal / non speaking when your overwhelmed/stimulation; they'll use sign language in your native language that you taught them, text you, let you write your words down. Or if you don't want to talk, they'll leave it alone and let you take your time until you feel comfortable enough to come back to them.

Your f/o(s) would keep extra gadgets on them, stim toys, maybe on their land yard or keys incase they need to give you one when you need stimulation or need to stim

they would never treat you like a child for it. they know your boundaries, they know how you like to be comforted. They know this is how you cope, how you deal with your struggles, they know you can't control it. They just want to help :)

Antis fuck off, this post isn't for you

#🎙The representative from California has the floor🎙 #antis go away #antis fuck off #anti anti #antishitters dni #antis dni #proship #proship safe #proship positivity #proship please interact #proshipper safe #proshipping #f/o #s/i #self ship #proselfship #selfship #selfshipping #f/o imagines #imagine your f/o #where the heck was this several years ago #I can even imagine 🐰 holding me on his lap while he comforts me #And if anyone comes too close or tries to talk to me while I'm in a bad space he shoots them a murderous glance to scare them off #Before turning his attention back to me

[fazbearcorporation]

Ill make proper designs for everyone else eventually but for now :] these guys who are spinning in my brain 24/7

#nautdraws #regretevator pest #pest regretevator #regretevator poob #poob regretevator #regretevator #this is a safe space right. i can post pboobs right #ofc these arent completely solid and i will change them bit by bit but i wanna keep their bodies the same at least #I also have specific ideas about bive n wallter too so im hoping i have the energy to make full references 4 them too #i loooove regretevator. its freaking awesomesauce #posting this at 2am hope i remember to reblog tmrw when people r actually awake LOL #ok mini rant in tags over have fun everyone :]