#2SLGBTQ+ persons

[coochiequeens]

This guy is in the news again........

By Eva Kurilova. December 21, 2023

Canadian women are expressing outrage after a trans-identified male who campaigned to defund a rape crisis shelter was awarded the Meritorious Service Medal from the Governor General of Canada. Morgane Oger, a trans activist from Vancouver, was honored at a ceremony in Ottawa last week.

On December 16, Oger took to X (formerly Twitter) to boast of his receipt of the award, claiming he had been selected because of his work with “2SLGBTQ+ persons” and trans rights.

“Feeling so grateful, recieving [sic] the Meritorious Service Medal from Governor General of Canada Mary Simon last week for supporting 2SLGBTQ+ persons and furthering the legal protections of Transgender Canadians.”

In Canada, the Governor General is the federal representative of the monarch, currently King Charles III. According to the website for the Governor General of Canada, the Meritorious Service Medal is a civil award that recognizes “great Canadians for exceptional deeds” such as tackling poverty or improving educational opportunities for children.

In the list of recipients for the awards that were distributed on December 7, Oger is described as a “champion of diversity who has changed perceptions around 2SLGBTQI+ rights and has worked tirelessly to see those rights enshrined in law.”

Continuing, the office of the Governor General states that Oger has “forged alliances across party lines that propelled changes to provincial and federal legislation protecting individuals against discrimination based on gender identity or expression.” The short biography concludes by lauding Oger for his “courage, vision and perseverance have helped redefine the fundamental issue of equality and have advanced inclusiveness for gender-diverse Canadians.”

But the news of Oger’s top-level commendation did not sit well with Canadian women’s rights advocates, who noted that Oger has a long and disturbing history of actively fighting against women’s rights.

Canadian journalist and Feminist Current founder Meghan Murphy called out the Governor General, writing that Oger had once stalked her through her neighborhood in apparent retaliation for her views on gender ideology.

“Morgane Oger, whose career has involved harassing and vilifying feminists who defend women-only spaces, including fighting to defund Canada’s longest-standing rape crisis centre and transition house, @VanRapeRelief, stalked me around my neighborhood one day. Just one more reason I left Vancouver,” Murphy wrote. “Are these the ‘exceptional deeds’ bringing honor to Canada, @GGCanada? Making women feel unsafe and ensuring that when they are targeted by male violence they have nowhere safe to go?”

Murphy, like many others, was calling attention to an incident in 2019 where Oger successfully campaigned to strip Canada’s oldest rape crisis center, Vancouver Rape Relief & Women’s Shelter, of its city funding due to its female-only policy. In comments made before the city committee meeting, Oger called the shelter “non-compliant with Canadian law.

Prior to losing its city funding, Vancouver Rape Relief had been through a 12-year legal battle where its policies of only serving females and only allowing female peer rape counselors had been tested and held up in court. The Supreme Court of British Columbia and the British Columbia Court of Appeal both ruled that the facility was allowed to maintain a female-only space.

But despite the legal precedent, the City of Vancouver agreed with Oger and pulled the funding it had previously provided the shelter for its educational outreach programs despite the fact that the outreach programs were accessible to all, even transgender people.

While in the throes of defending its funding, Vancouver Rape Relief was targeted by a sickening harassment campaign from trans activists. Dead rats were nailed to the door and messages like “KILL TERFS” and “trans women are women” were written on the windows of its charity storefront.

Oger dismissed the abuse the rape shelter was receiving in a blasé statement he gave to press at the time.

“Sometimes, unfortunately, when Vancouver Rape Relief’s policies hit mainstream media and when their discriminatory conduct hits the light of day some people overreact,” he said of the vandalism and threats.

But just prior to the incident with the shelter, Oger had already attracted the ire of Canadian women’s rights advocates for his initial support of vexatious litigant Jonathan “Jessica” Yaniv.

Yaniv, a trans-identified male, made international headlines after filing a series of complaints with the British Columbia Human Rights Tribunal against female aestheticians who refused to perform waxing services on his male genitals. During a lengthy proceeding, it was alleged that Yaniv had deliberately targeted salon workers who were Sikh or Muslim in an effort to force women with religious restrictions on male-female contact to serve him.

On X (then known as Twitter) Oger referred to the women’s refusal to touch genitals on demand as “prohibited discrimination” and said that there was “no entitlement in Canada to refuse the performing of a service” on the basis of gender identity.

“Estheticians should take this up with their training providers. It wasn’t that long ago some service providers ‘weren’t trained’ to work on Black women or serve foreigners, either,” he said. “The law’s changed. Move on, get the training you need.”

When asked directly about his personal involvement with Yaniv, Oger was non-committal in his comments but admitted that he had spoken to Yaniv on the phone and that he had previously encouraged “trans women” to “complain to their human rights tribunal about prohibited discrimination.”

Eventually, the British Columbia Human Rights Tribunal ruled that estheticians were, in fact, able to refuse services that they were not trained to perform, such as waxing a scrotum.

This is not the first time Oger has received a Meritorious Service Medal. In 2018, he was given the award by then-Governor General Julie Payette for, according to City News, “her [sic] work advocating for LGBTQ rights.”

Speaking to Reduxx, journalist Meghan Murphy condemned the Governor General for providing Oger one of the most respected civilian awards in the country.

“Morgane Oger’s legacy is fighting against women’s rights, safety, and free speech,” she said. “Anyone who focuses so much effort on defunding one of the few rape crisis lines and transition houses in Canada is not someone who deserves to be celebrated.”

Murphy continued by noting that Oger had made her feel “unsafe” in her own home, prompting her to file a police report on him in 2020.

“This is a man who has gone out of his way to ensure that women don’t have safe places to go when escaping male violence. That the Canadian government has supported and celebrated him in these efforts is horrendous and shameful.”

#Canada #Giving a man a medal for defending a rape crisis center #Meritorious Service Medal #The Governor General of Canada #Morgan Oger #2SLGBTQ+ persons #I believe Megan Murphy #Vancouver Rape Relief & Women’s Shelter #Men with gender identities attacking women only spaces #TRAs nailing dead rats to doorways #Prohibited discrimination

[ufvasexualresearch]

Researching Asexual Experiences - Looking for survey and interview participants!

Update: Thank you everyone who participated! The survey is now closed. Please email me if you have any further questions.

Hi there. My name is Brooke Higginbottom. I’m a student researcher in the sociology department at the University of the Fraser Valley, in British Columbia, Canada. I'm working on an independent study. As someone who identifies as Asexual, I decided that I wanted to focus my research on the different perspectives and experiences of asexuals when it comes to establishing and maintaining romantic and/or sexual relationships. 

I intend to publish the results of this study. If you want to know more about me, my study, or my reasoning for this research topic, you can message my account or contact me through email: [email protected] 

If you’d like to participate, there is a link to a survey below. You don’t need to answer all of the survey questions if you don’t want to, and feel free to answer each question in the way that feels the best for you. Survey responses are anonymous and will not be public. Only I and my supervisor will be able to see any responses. 

I’m also looking for people to have one-on-one interviews with, so if you’d rather do an interview than fill out the survey, please contact me to let me know. All interviews are going to be conducted online through Discord, Zoom, Skype, etc. This will not include any video sharing to maintain confidentiality. 

I estimate that the survey will not take more than an hour to complete. Please read the consent form before starting the survey! 

Here is the link to the survey:

https://www.surveymonkey.ca/r/QYGH5ZP

#asexual #asexuality #survey #lgbtq #2slgbtq #aromantic #ace #research #school #university #aroace #ufv #ace research by an ace person #please

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

By: Malcolm Clark

Published: Jul 18, 2023

The LGBT movement is beginning to behave more like a religious cult than a human-rights lobby. It’s not just the Salem-like witch hunts it pursues against its critics. It’s also its flight from reason and its embrace of magical thinking.

This irrationalism is best illustrated by its recent embrace of the term ‘two-spirit’ (often shortened to ‘2S’), which in North America has been added to the lobby’s ever-growing acronym, meaning we are now expected to refer to – take a deep breath – the ‘2SLGBTQQIA+ community’.

The term two-spirit was first formally endorsed at a conference of Native American gay activists in 1990 in Winnipeg in Canada. It is a catch-all term to cover over 150 different words used by the various Indian tribes to describe what we think of today as gay, trans or various forms of gender-bending, such as cross-dressing. Two-spirit people, the conference declared, combine the masculine and the feminine spirits in one.

From the start, the whole exercise reeked of mystical hooey. Myra Laramee, the woman who proposed the term in 1990, said it had been given to her by ancestor spirits who appeared to her in a dream. The spirits, she said, had both male and female faces.

Incredibly, three decades on, there are now celebrities and politicians who endorse the concept or even identify as two-spirit. The term has found its way into one of Joe Biden’s presidential proclamations and is a constant feature of Canadian premier Justin Trudeau’s doe-eyed bleating about ‘2SLGBTQQIA+ rights’.

The term’s success is no doubt due in part to white guilt. There is a tendency to associate anything Native American with a lost wisdom that is beyond whitey’s comprehension. Ever since Marlon Brando sent ‘Apache’ activist Sacheen Littlefeather to collect his Oscar in 1973, nothing has signalled ethical superiority as much as someone wearing a feather headdress.

The problem is that too many will believe almost any old guff they are told about Native Americans. This is an open invitation to fakery. Ms Littlefeather, for example, may have built a career as a symbol of Native American womanhood. But after her death last year, she was exposed as a member of one of the fastest growing tribes in North America: the Pretendians. Her real name was Marie Louise Cruz. She was born to a white mother and a Mexican father, and her supposed Indian heritage had just been made up.

Much of the fashionable two-spirit shtick is just as fake. For one thing, it’s presented as an acknowledgment of the respect Indian tribes allegedly showed individuals who were gender non-conforming. Yet many of the words that two-spirit effectively replaces are derogatory terms.

In truth, there was a startling range of attitudes to the ‘two-spirited’ among the more than 500 separate indigenous Native American tribes. Certain tribes may have been relaxed about, say, effeminate men. Others were not. In his history of homosexuality, The Construction of Homosexuality (1998), David Greenberg points out that those who are now being called ‘two spirit’ were ridiculed by the Papago, held in contempt by the Choctaws, disliked by the Cocopa, treated by the Seven Nations with ‘the most sovereign contempt’ and “derided” by the Sioux. In the case of the Yuma, who lived in what is now Colorado, the two-spirited were sometimes treated as rape objects for the young men of the tribe.

The contradictions and incoherence of the two-spirit label may be explained by an uncomfortable fact. The two-spirit project was shaped from day one by complete mumbo-jumbo. The 1990 conference that adopted the term was inspired by a seminal book, Living the Spirit: A Gay Indian Anthology, published two years earlier. Its essays were compiled and edited by a young white academic called Will Roscoe. He was the historical adviser to the conference. And his work on gay people in Indian cultural history – a niche genre in the 1980s – had become the received wisdom on the subject.

Roscoe’s work had an unlikely origin story of its own. In 1979, he joined over 200 other naked gay men in the Arizona desert for an event dubbed the ‘Spiritual Conference for Radical Faeries’. It was here where he met Harry Hay, the man who would become his spiritual mentor and whose biography he would go on to write. The event was Hay’s brainchild and was driven by his conviction that gay men’s lives had become spiritually empty and dominated by shallow consumerism. For three days, Roscoe and the other men sought spiritual renewal in meditation, singing and classes in Native American dancing. There were also classes in auto-fellatio, lest anyone doubt this was a gay men’s event.

To say Hay, who died in 2002, was eccentric is to radically understate his weirdness. For one thing, he was a vocal supporter of paedophilia. As such, he once took a sandwich board to a Pride march proclaiming ‘NAMBLA walks with me’, in reference to the paedophilia-advocacy group, the North American Man / Boy Love Association. Hay also believed that gay men were a distinct third gender who had been gifted shamanic powers. According to Hay, these powers were recognised and revered by pre-Christian peoples, from Ancient Greece to, you guessed it, the indigenous tribes of North America.

For years, Hay had been experimenting with sweat lodges and dressing up in Indian garb in ways that would now be criticised as cultural appropriation. Despite this, Roscoe took Hay’s incoherent thesis – that gender-bending and spiritual enlightenment go hand in hand – and turned it into a piece of Native American history.

Unsurprisingly, given its provenance, Roscoe’s work is full of holes and lazy assumptions. To prove that two-spirit people combine the feminine and masculine spirits, Roscoe searched for evidence of gender non-conforming behaviour among the Indian tribes. The problem was that he had to mainly rely on the accounts of white settlers who had little understanding of Native cultures. And even when he didn’t rely on those sources, Roscoe still jumped to the wrong conclusions.

Take, for example, the case of Running Eagle, ‘the virgin woman warrior’ of the Blackfeet tribe, whom Roscoe was the first to label as two-spirit. As a girl, she rebelled against the usual girl chores and insisted on being taught how to hunt and fight. She became a noted warrior and declared she would never marry a man or submit to one.

Of course, none of this really means that Running Eagle was two-spirit, or that the tribe she hailed from was made up of LGBT pioneers. It merely shows that the Blackfeet were smart and adaptable enough to recognise martial talent in a girl and were able to make good use of a remarkable individual. Nevertheless, Roscoe’s description of her has become gospel and Running Eagle is now endlessly cited as an example of a two-spirit.

This is a mind-numbingly reductive approach. It’s based on the presumption that what we think of as feminine and masculine traits are fixed and stable across time and cultures. It dictates that no Native American man or woman who ever breaks a gender taboo or fails to conform to expectations can be anything but two-spirit. This is gender policing on steroids.

The two-spirit term also does Native American cultures a deep disservice. It assumes that 500 different tribes were both homogenous and static. As journalist Mary Annette Pember, herself Ojibwe, argues, it also erases ‘distinct cultural and language differences that Native peoples hold crucial to their identity’.

In some ways, it is entirely unsurprising that the wayward ‘2SLGBTQQIA+’ movement has fastened on to two-spirit, an invented term with a bogus pedigree. Far from paying tribute to Native American cultures in all their richness, it exploits them to make a cheap political point. Harry Hay and his fellow auto-fellators would be proud.

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"Two spirit" is a great way of fabricating an interesting identity when you don't have one. And you can scream at people as "bigots," but without the guilt of lying about your great-grandparents being descendants of Sacagawea.

The fake mysticism goes along neatly with the notion of disembodied sexed thetans ("gender identity") which become trapped between worlds in the wrong meat bodies.

#Malcolm Clark #two spirit #pretendians #native american #native american culture #noble savage #narcissism #narcissistic personality disorder #2SLGBTQ #gender ideology #queer theory #cultural appropriation #religion is a mental illness

[sof13]

“you left me no choice but to stay here forever”

literally everything about this song kills me. i feel frozen. i feel like my entire life was spent trying to be what my mother wanted, trying to fit and twist myself into whatever shape it took to get any degree of affection from literally anyone. and now i’m two years out of that home. two years separate from any expectations. almost a month since i lost the only being on this planet i didn’t have to contort myself for. and i am so lost. in so many ways.

i don’t know how to connect to people authentically. i don’t know how to be someone’s friend. i don’t know how to let someone love me. i don’t know how to let me love me. i have no higher education, no way of making money to sufficiently support myself, and no way of taking substantial steps with the medical aspects of my transition. there’s just *so* much. and i have no one.

but i have me. and i have music. i have the songs that have kept me feeling human when nothing else did. and in a bit more than a week, i get to see Taylor on a Saturday night just outside of Boston. and i swear, if she plays right where you left me, i will breakdown right there in my seat. tho tbh there’s more than a few songs that do that to me but this one’s just be hitting me hard these past few weeks. just being all dark and twisty.

anyhow, welcome to i guess my public diary (if anyone reads this). i hope life is treating you well ✨🌸💕

#taylor swift #transgender #wlw #sapphic #lesbian #demisexual #2slgbtq #lgbtqia #the swift life #swiftie #neurodivergent #personal vent #trans #trauma #recovery #healing #Spotify

[inthegardensofourminds]

I’m really wishing now that I had spoken up about my supervisors at my last job misgendering my coworker, or at least mentioned that I noticed what was happening. At the time I was unsure of what to do, even though I’d thought about telling them what I was observing, and it just seems so obvious now that I should have just done that. I feel badly that after being let go I left the company without making a change for my coworker who is continuing to work with them.

Should I write to that coworker and apologize to them? Or do you think it would be too little to late and not actually be a good thing? We got along really well and I don’t want to email them out of the blue and make them feel bad.

#personal #me #thoughts #nonbinary #LGBTQ #LGBT #2SLGBTQ #2SLGBT

[throwaway-settings]

WAIT..... I'm thinking about how the meeting I went to recently had two other folks with canes there and one of them would make sure to check on us when we were walking a medium to long distance which was like. the sweetest thing and neither of us were used to it bc each time they went "hey, you doing good? ok to walk?" we would be like "uhh yeah?" but the third time they asked me I was like "honestly my hip is killing me and carrying my luggage rn is a pain" and they TOOK IT FOR ME

feeling emotional about solidarity and community tonight boys!!!!

#it was a REALLY NICE TIME it was a meeting for a govt sponsored project to develop and delivery training on gender based violence #to organizations serving youth and especially 2SLGBTQ youth and its a project im really passionate about #and this was the first ever time we got to meet up in person!!!! #it was so nice to meet everyone and to get some work done and to be in an explicitely queer space #we all left filled with joy and refreshed and renewed #so happy :3 #i was too jetlagged to really enjoy it at the time but now im SO!!! EXCITED ABOUT IT!!!! #WAAAAAAAH #community is everything :3

[allthecanadianpolitics]

Canada’s far-right “freedom movement” is planning yet another convoy, except this time their goal is not to end vaccine mandates or replace the country’s democratically-elected government – this time, they say, their goal is to “save the children.”

The “Save the Children Convoy,” a spin-off of recent anti-2SLGBTQ+ protests targeting schools and drag storytime events as well as loosely inspired by the controversial film “Sound of Freedom,” is being planned for Toronto in late summer or early fall.

Organizers say they are currently holding secret, in-person meetings to iron out their plans and aren’t sure where they’ll stay when they get to Toronto.

They also admit that what exactly they’re trying to “save the children” from is not straight-forward and could be open to multiple interpretations. [...]

McDavid accuses Alberta’s Child Protective Services of running a “child trafficking ring” and alleges the Government of Alberta is “colluding” with insurance companies to produce child pornography. McDavid also claims without evidence that “Trudeau’s paying LGBTQ a million dollars” to promote “the sexualization and the grooming” of “children in the hospitals and at schools and stuff.” [...]

Continue Reading.

Tagging: @politicsofcanada, @vague-humanoid, @abpoli

#cdnpoli #Alberta #freedom convoy #Toronto #Ontario #far right #right wing extremism #reactionary politics #qanon conspiracy

[kimabutch]

Things are getting increasingly shitty in Canada for trans people and, not gonna lie, it's really stressful! Within the last month:

The Conservative Party of Canada, which is the official opposition party (AKA the party with the second most votes) and has a solid chance of forming the government in the next election, held a convention where they voted overwhelmingly in favour of creating policies to stop gender-affirming medical care for minors (link)

They also officially voted to define "woman" as "female person" and try to stop trans women from being in women's prisons, shelters, locker rooms, and washrooms

Multiple provincial governments are either enacting policies that would require parents' approval in order for trans kids to change their names or pronouns at school, or have officially said that they support forcibly outing kids (link)

A nonbinary teacher in Quebec received threats of violence for using pronoun "Mx" and other Quebec provincial parties complained about "wokeism" and said they wouldn't use the title (link)

And this doesn't include the homophobic & transphobic protests outside pride events throughout the summer or the "Save Our Children" convoy that's being planned for later this month (link), or the tons of shitty things that have happened all through this year, like tons of Ontario trans people (including me!) losing healthcare.

I'm trying to stay as optimistic as possible, knowing just how many trans people and allies there are, but sometimes! It's hard!

Anyways, if you're Canadian, please consider:

Getting involved in local, municipal politics, especially on school boards, to speak out about the need for gender-affirming policies, especially for youth

Showing up (with an organized, prepared group) to counter-protest anti-trans protesters

Keeping track of any anti- or pro-trans bills going around and contacting your MPs & MPPs to let them know what you think of them

Supporting 2SLGBTQ+ charities

Literally never ever voting conservative

And even if you're not Canadian, if you have friends who are Canadian & trans, maybe check in on them? Most Canadian trans people are pretty freaked out right now I think.

#lgbtqthings #my stuff #tbh I wrote this mostly to vent #I feel like no cis people I know irl are as freaked out about this as I am #canadian politics

[lesbian-disaster-academic]

Since there's been some discussion of this on a prior post I made, let's address

Neurodivergent Skill-Regression: What is it & Why Does it Happen?

Content Warning! This post will make brief mention of various topics, including: childhood abuse (not explicit), depression, suicidal ideation, car accidents, the COVID-19 pandemic, and throwing up.

Okay, let's begin with a quick preface. I'm writing from the Global North, in a capitalist economy, and in a country founded on (ongoing!) systems of colonialism. Therefore, that's how I'll be situating this discussion (just because it's what I know best). Neurodivergence and Capitalist Exploitation Under capitalism, productivity and extraction in the name of profit become of the utmost importance. Extraction can take place in the form of extracting physical resources (think fracking on Turtle Island), extracting labour, etc. Ultimately, neurodivergence itself is not an ill-formed or "bad" mind. It is only conceptualized and coded as such because capitalism and various other interlocking systems of oppression are actively hostile to minds that, in some way, subvert capitalist and colonial ideals. (however, this is not to negate, invalidate, or trivialize the fact that adhd/asd/ocd/bpd/etc. are disabilities. by their very nature, they impede and disrupt functioning. what is considered "functional", however, is determined by this capitalist/colonialist state and the things it values. this is all simply to say that we would be able to more easily exist and thrive within a society that doesn't reward self-destruction in the name of accumulating capital for the upper class) Of course, living in a system that is not built for you is going to be exhausting—it takes a toll on you, both physically and mentally. This can be further compounded if you are marginalized in other ways; for instance, if you're a person of colour, working class, a woman, 2SLGBTQ+, an immigrant, or a combination of these.

Masking and Burnout Many neurodivergent folx are forced into positions in which they have to mask. For the sake of clarity, "masking", in this case, involves concealing one's neurodivergent traits. For me, that might look like suppressing compulsions, consciously regulating my facial expressions, working longer and harder to accomplish tasks because I can't focus, or scripting conversations before I have them. These manifestations are often invisible to outsiders, but they take a heavy toll on us, and can often result in neurodivergent burnout. This is where the skill-regression comes in. An Example... Let me give you a personal example of what neurodivergent skill-regression can look like! Prior to the pandemic, I was a highly productive person. I was designated "gifted" (whatever that means) and was top of my class in every single class. I was participating in (and running) multiple clubs, working a steady job, volunteering within the community, and learning new instruments and languages. I was a skilled pianist and painter, and also very athletic. From the outside looking in, I appeared successful: I had a massive scholarship lined up at the most prestigious university in the country. I was generally well-liked. I was creative and skilled in both the humanities and STEM (mostly humanities lol), etcetera etcetera. But I was in no way okay. I was incredibly depressed and suicidal. I had multiple undiagnosed anxiety disorders and neurodivergencies. I was experiencing relentless abuse at home. I was throwing up every few days out of pure fear and stress. I was constantly sick, crying (in secret, and then later too numb to cry), overwhelmed, exhausted, and apathetic. And yet I refused to stop pushing my body and mind to their limit because I had this ingrained belief surrounding my productivity—if I slowed down, would I be worth anything? At the time, to my mind, the answer was a staunch no (even though I didn't apply this thinking to anyone but myself lol). So I repressed everything. I pushed it all to the side and kept moving forward. To put it in perspective, I got hit by a truck at one point, but I was so scared of being late to a thing and disappointing my parents that I just apologized and kept going. This kind of behaviour went on for close to a decade. And then the pandemic hit. And I was forced to stop. I was made to (by virtue of my relative privilege) take a moment to sit down, look around, and actually feel things. And it hit me like a ton of bricks: All the weight of the anger and fear and everything that I had been repressing for the sake of survival came RUSHING in. Now? You want to know what I'm like now? I am very burnt out and incredibly unproductive. I have the attention span of a gnat. Where I used to be able push through exhaustion or else tamp it down with consistently high levels of adrenaline, I now almost ALWAYS feel tired, to the point where I have to lay down. I used to be able to toss together an essay in the span of a couple hours. And, yes, while I can still put an essay together quickly, it’s not going to necessarily be good. Likewise, where I used to be able to mask my neurodivergent traits, I'm now hyperaware of how exhausting it all is, which makes it more difficult to appear neurotypical in public.

The thing is, when you have something like adhd as well as an anxiety disorder, the anxiety can pretty effectively mask the adhd. But once I started medication and more intense therapy, I got a hold on my anxiety and alllll of my coping mechanisms fell away. I no longer had that constant, vibrating fear to force me to maintain attention, and push myself to the breaking point.

It’s like not aging for 80 years and then suddenly having decades collapse into you in the span of moments. So Where Does This Leave Us? Okay, that was a loooong tangent, sorry. Returning to the original point. As the infinitely cool and talented @revenantscholar mentioned in a previous post of mine, when you exist in an unsafe environment (or one which is generally not built with you in mind), it's difficult to hold onto the skills you once had. Your body goes into survival mode and prioritizes keeping you alive. Once you have returned to a space where you can unmask and be physically/emotionally/mentally SAFE, you have the capacity to relearn some of those skills. Not all of them, necessarily, and not all at once. But these things do return—and even if they don't (listen to me, this is important), that doesn't make you stupid/bad/worthless. You are living in a world that is not built for people like you and I, and it sucks, and it's painful and scary, and we will continue to fight for a better future. In the meantime, it's important to remember that you are worthy of care, compassion, empathy, and support regardless of what you can contribute/do. You are incredibly important and I'm so glad you're here. (Thank you for listening. I'm drawing on my human rights knowledge from my degree, and also my own personal experience. However, feel free to correct me or ask any questions you might have! I'm also happy to provide resources/citations if needed. Now go drink water and rest if you need to! Ily!)

#adhd #actually adhd #actually neurodiverse #executive dysfunction #adult adhd #adhd paralysis #adhd hacks #attention deficit hyperactivity disorder #disability justice #autism #audhd #actually ocd #actually autistic #neurodivergent #neurodivergent burnout #burnout #bpd #depression #mental health #anti-capitalism #dyspraxia #dyscalculia #dyslexia #obsessive compulsive disorder #ocd #neurodivergent things #actually disabled #tw: childhood abuse #adhd skill regression #skill regression

[seriousposting]

Editor's note: This story has been updated. It contains descriptions of violence against a nonbinary person.

Nex Benedict, a nonbinary high school sophomore died on February 8, the day after reportedly being beaten by classmates in the bathroom of their high school in Owasso, Oklahoma.

An anonymous source who identified herself as a friend of Benedict’s mother told local news outlet KJRH that the 16-year-old was attacked by three older classmates on February 7, adding that she believed Benedict died from “complications from brain trauma.” The source claimed that although Benedict couldn’t walk to the nurse on their own following the incident, school staff did not call an ambulance. According to KJRH, Benedict’s grandmother brought the student to the hospital after the altercation.

"I know at one point, one of the girls was pretty much repeatedly beating [their] head across the floor," the source told KJRH.

The Owasso Police Department (OPD) told KJRH that they were called to Bailey Medical Center on the afternoon of February 7. When they arrived, Benedict’s parents told police their child had been involved in a fight at school. OPD provided a statement saying that the cause of death has not yet been made public.

Since Benedict’s death on February 8, they have been repeatedly misgendered and deadnamed in media reports.

“As many are learning of the horrific news out of Owasso, OK, many news outlets, and therefore, many of you, are using their dead name,” the official X account for Oklahoma County Democrats wrote in a February 19 post. “Their name is Nex Benedict. They were a 4.0 student. They liked cats. They deserved to live. May they find peace now.”

Benedict’s grandmother, Sue Benedict, told The Independent that other students started bullying Nex at the beginning of the 2023 school year. The Independent notes that the 2023 school year started just four months which was a few months after a bill requiring public school students to use bathrooms that matched the sex on their birth certificates became law.

The LGBTQ+ advocacy group Freedom Oklahoma, as well as numerous progressive and LGBTQ+ media outlets (such as the Los Angeles Blade, Daily Kos, and LGBTQ Nation) pointed out that Benedict’s death comes as Oklahoma’s head education official, state superintendent Ryan Walters, continues to embrace anti-LGBTQ+ rhetoric and policy. In January, Walters pushed an emergency rule to prevent students from changing the gender listed on their school records. Last month, he also appointed Chaya Raichik, the woman behind the virulently anti-LGBTQ+ platform Libs of TikTok, to the Oklahoma State Department of Education’s advisory council overseeing the state’s school libraries, despite Raichik not even living in Oklahoma. Last year, a Tulsa elementary school received a bomb threat after Raichik shared a video with the name and school of a local librarian. In 2022, Raichik similarly targeted a teacher in Benedict’s school district for openly supporting LGBTQ+ students who weren’t accepted by their families. The teacher later resigned following harassment.

Freedom Oklahoma remembered Benedict in a February 19 social media post, writing, “We wanted to reach out to our community grappling with this horrific harm, and the grief we all share as we reflect on the growing anti-2SLGBTQ+ sentiments out youngest community members are facing more often, fueled by state law and the rhetoric around it, words and actions of our state elected officials, and the growing platforms those in power are giving to people like Chaya Raichik who continues to use her platform in a way that leads others to threaten real harm at Oklahoma kids.”

In the post, Freedom Oklahoma also shared memories of Benedict from people who knew them. They described the 16-year-old as an unfailingly kind person who “always searched for the best in people.” Benedict, who The Independent reported, is of Choctaw ancestry, is described as a lover of rock music, who often bonded with others over headbanging. A post from Pittsburgh Lesbian Correspondents says that Benedict loved The Walking Dead, playing ARK and Minecraft, drawing, and reading. During the funeral, their family said they loved to cook and would often make up their own recipes. Nex was also a straight-A student.

A previous version of this story said that Nex was a member of the Cherokee nation. They were of Choctaw ancestry. We regret the error.

#op #trans #transgender #non-binary #choctaw #oklahoma #nex benedict #transphobia #hate crime #murder #child death #transphobic violence #uspol #news #links #them.us #bad news

[museeeuuuum]

I teased this in my last video (which was all about pirates) and here we are! I went and checked out "Queer at Sea: Tales from the 2SLGBTQ+ Community" at the British Columbia Maritime Museum and it was something else! The queer and trans communities have long been a part of BC’s maritime history and the exhibit conveyed their first hand accounts of love, prejudice, and hope.

I really enjoyed this exhibit and how it was put together. Queer at Sea is text-based with more stories and oral histories than physical objects, but the level of community involvement that bonded this into a fully fledged story is compelling. 

If you would like to support this museum so that they can continue to put on fantastic exhibits like this one, please consider checking them out in person OR you can leave a donation here:

https://mmbc.kindful.com/

#pride month #2slgbtq+ #lgbtq history #museum #archaeology #youtube #maritime history #museum visit #queer history #queer museum

[r1z3n]

Introduction Post

Now that I have all my filtered tags and filtered posts in order: Name: Rhys or Riz Pronouns: They/Them if you must. (Null Pronouns but like in practice it gets tedious to explain that to people). Age: Closer to 30, then 25. What am I doing: Trying to find my passion for writing again. What are you doing: If you think I am cool or interesting following to see if I do or dropping an ask to make friends :D 2SLGBTQ+ - A person with a disability - "Speak the truth even if your voice shakes" - Maggie Kuhn the actual quote is better Hobbies, Likes and Dislikes Below:

Hobbies: Reading: I am trying to get back into reading Original Works so you are strongly encouraged to send me recommendation blurbs to my inbox. Video Games: Stardew Valley, FrostPunk, Oxygen Not Included, Minecraft. Writing: Things happened, some parts of life poisoned some of my writing and it spread like an infection. So I am working on finding that passion again by restarting a new. Likes and Dislikes Likes Music Genres: Folk, Punk, Alt and some Country Books Genres: Fantasy, Hurt/Comfort, Fluff, Romance and Competent Characters. Anime/Manga: Fullmetal Alchemist, That Time I Got Reincarnated as a Slime, and One Piece. Some sports anime, some of the more popular Shonen's but only certain seasons or arcs or movies. Flowers - Cute Animals - Hope - Happiness Dislikes Music Genres: Patriotic and Nationalist Music, you know the type. Book Genres: Subservient Power Fantasy Anime/Manga: Refer to above (and if you get upset thinking I am talking about your favorite anime or Manga, please Check Yourself). Passivity - Eucalyptus - Needless Death - Divinization of A Real Life Breathing Person

#introductory post #pinned intro #blog intro #introduction post #writer #writeblr #2slgbtqia+ #lgbtqia #attempting to make friends #is this how one does that? #Riz do be speaking

[lil-princesshil]

I’m currently researching “Queer Spaces” for some work Im doing and it’s causing me anxiety.

When I read about the theoretical notion of “Queer Space” I feel like an imposter: how can I relay what queer space is to a group of people when I don’t feel like I belong in “queer space”? I am not an authority on this topic, so what right do I have?

I am a queer person. I am apart of the 2SLGBTQ+ community. And yet I feel like I’m in high school.

I read these articles, these papers, these firsthand accounts on what it’s like to be queer, and I feel like I’m not “cool” enough to identify with these authors. I feel like I need to hide in the bathroom to eat my lunch, because I don’t fit in with the cool, confident, queer that knows themself (during high school I ate lunch in the bathroom more than once).

Because these authors know who/what they’re attracted to, they know what they want from life, they know what they want in their relationship(s), they know if they want relationships (emphasis on the plural), they understand who they are, and they certainly don’t need a partner/partners to completely themselves, but they would see partners as possibly a happy addition to their lives.

They also know what turns them on. They already have it figured out completely. They would have already known they were turned on by the smell of pee (referencing myself).

I dont fit in with that group.

I know this is all nonsense. I know logically that most people struggle with their sexuality, what they want from life, and confidence etc. And I’m sure it’s the same with these authors. But feeling that is different than knowing that.

Rambling.

[jubillii]

Help a mixed 2S homie out 👽?

Hey yall, it's Evan. As some of y'all know, I've been trying to get out of Oklahoma for a while now. Recently, it's been getting worse and worse, with new anti-2SLGBTQ bills being introduced practically everyday. It's so hostile to people like me, and it's only getting worse. I need to get out for my safety and wellbeing. Please consider dontating if you can, and sharing as well. All is extremely appreciated. Thank you for reading.

#mutual aid

[weirdstrangeandawful]

Heads up to people who follow me: I may have to take a break for a few days. With the current hate wave happening in Canada tomorrow and discussion of it possibly being actually unsafe to go outside as a 2SLGBTQ+ person tomorrow in the area I'm living, I may need to take a mental health breather.

#not whump #weird strange and awful seriousness #sept 20th protests #fuck transphobia #fuck the far right

[jocks-play-with-their-balls]

✦☆ Read Me Info ☆✦

🤠🏳‍🌈 Howdy! I go by Bonnie or Benji (he/they pronouns.) My main account is @red-dead-simp 🏳‍🌈🤠

I don't draw often anymore because of physical and mental health, and I've sort of lost the ability to do so to be honest. But when I do, and when it's not NSFW, I'll try to remember to post it here :) This blog is SFW, but content may have adult themes. Young'ns, heed that warning.

This is a safe space for anyone 2SLGBTQ+, autistic, disabled, and/or BIPOC. I won't tolerate anything otherwise.

Read below the cut for additional information and TWs for themes that may come up!

All NSFW art goes on my Twitter, which is explicitly 🔞18+ and all under 18s will be blocked. It's nothing personal, I just post and retweet NSFW content freely, and it's no place for minors.

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Trigger/Content Warnings:

-- Please note that these are never written or portrayed in a way that glorifies these topics or actions, and most of this applies to character background stories or written works--

Fictional drug use and alcoholism

Fictional violence

Allusions to and mentions of abuse and domestic violence (physical, emotional, and psychological)

Use of era-specific homophobic slurs (in fanfics I may link)

Characters acting ableist or making ableist jokes at the expense of disabled/autistic characters (in fanfics I may link)

There may be mildly suggestive art, specifically of my OC Shoe lol Think shirtless pics. I'll tag these as such.

Fandom List:

Rather, fandoms that are relevant to what I'll probably post here.

Bully (2006)

Red Dead Redemption

World of Warcraft

Bully OCs:

Hyperlinks direct you to the Bully Fanon Wiki page for each OC :) Please note the above T/CWs.

Randy Douglas

Bentley You

Hannah Cox

Mitzi Patricelli

Duke Symell

Red Dead OCs:

You can find these guys and more on my Instagram! Hyperlinks direct you to relevant posts.

Gwenieve O'Gwilly

Eleanor (she actually belongs to my bestie, but I use her a lot, especially with Gwen)

Clover Haywood (she actually belongs to my sister but I use her from time to time lol)

Scarlett O'Shea

Shoe Percutio

Benny

Other OCs:

No link to these guys, but I'll tag them with their names (mostly for ease of access for myself XD)

Shoe (not in the Cowboy AU of RDO)

Zerus (a WoW OC)

Morty

Guy

Big C.

Lucas

Skadi (she belongs to my sister, but I draw her from time to time)

#blog intro #intro post #pinned post #cw list #tw list #oc list #fandom list #cw drug mention #cw alchohol mention #cw abuse mention #cw ableism mention #bully 2006 #rockstar bully #canis canem edit #red dead redemption 2 #red dead redemption #wolrd of warcraft #i like tumblr because i can actually tag shit #i think that's all i have to say for now #i'll edit this as needed #please be kind #and respectful #im doing my best