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gent-illmatic · 5 months

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2024 IS NOT FOR "PLAY PLAY" .

#new year #leveling up #philosophy #self identity #identity #spiritual alignment #spiritual disciplines #positive vibrations #vibrational energy #resilience #spiritual awakening #high maintenance #thoughts #high value mindset #growth mindset #wisdom #gentillmatic #black girl moodboard #masculine energy

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gent-illmatic · 4 months

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Intimacy 💗

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gent-illmatic · 10 months

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Lake Como, 🇮🇹

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gent-illmatic · 4 months

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NATURALLY.✨🤎

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gent-illmatic · 3 months

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What is your first initial thought when laying eyes on this image? 😌🙃😳😰😎🥱

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gent-illmatic · 4 months

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Sag Harbour, NY✨ (open house)

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gent-illmatic · 10 months

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I LOVE MONEY

Not for the flex.

Not for the attention .

For the freedom!

For the experiences!

To go where the fuck I want , when I want, to do what I want. It’s merely a tool for access to environments I like to occupy. The other trivial benefits come as a by product of having it. Even though I’ve grown up with a pinch of privilege , upward socioeconomic mobility is still the goal for me and mine. Fuckin around with the “fuck arounds” isn’t going to get us anywhere . Paying attention to the sequence of events and the company you keep proves that every time!

Its all of what my ancestors wanted🤌🏽

- ᛕꪖꪀꫀ🫡

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gent-illmatic · 4 months

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gent-illmatic · 3 months

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gent-illmatic · 4 months

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Generous Friends

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gent-illmatic · 6 months

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gent-illmatic · 25 days

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NATURALLY 🩶

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gent-illmatic · 3 months

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NATURALLY🩶

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gent-illmatic · 9 months

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A matter of time⏱

(A long af ramble)

I don’t care how long you’ve known some people, what the bond was, if they’re relatives, part of a community, childhood friends, best work buddies etc.

Everybody isn’t meant to stay in your life!

During my spiritual journey I realized you can’t “helicopter” over the people you care about. It’s a dysfunctional love language many of us have. I wanted to support and guide my loved ones to the best of my ability. I’m known as the therapist/fixer of any friend group I’m apart of.

I’m the Olivia Pope of this shit. However, I would end up being the emotional trash bag ,while they reject every plausible solution presented. Im the person strategizing how to get them on track and distracting from my own goals to save theirs (ppl pleasing). Silently seething because not only do they seem to care very little about themselves … but also about my time and effort in supporting them! They’re turning up while I’m stressing for them.

I also realized a lot of these actions stemmed from events in my childhood, but I digress!

Then the “Ah ha” moment hit!

They don’t owe me shit.

Why? … because it’s not my job to do that! They’re not calling for advice. They’re calling to vent. Yes, being a good listening ear is part of being a good support as well. We don’t always have to swoop in with “what you should do is…”. I also learned my actions of support make me seem like a “know it all” with good intentions. It sends signals that I don’t believe they are capable of figuring out their own issues. As if they were mentally challenged. This dynamic breaths life into resentment.

However, for people like me , that becomes exhausting after while. Loved ones complaining about the same bullshit misfortunes over & over without looking for solutions, better discernment, or to establish positive patterns/habits. Constantly returning back into the arms of what has them forever frustrated. Wanting you to hold all of their emotional and dysfunctional baggage. You are being spiritually drained!

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Especially, if you’ve done the work for your own life’s outcome! With or without therapy! You’ve put in the effort aside from your prayers. Now, you’re reaping the peaceful benefits of the investment in your life. You feel your spirit and life being led to better pastures ….It’s time to realize…

You’ve outgrown them.

it’s time to love them from afar!

The dynamic you once shared has expired/changed. The people you were in the beginning, No longer exists now. It’s no longer serving or fulfilling.

People will always prioritize themselves (as they should). You need to make sure you do the same. Nobody will care about you more than yourself as an adult. You can care for your loved ones, and wish them well. Give them guidance if specifically asked. However, we can’t live for them or force them to take our advice! It doesn’t matter how great the quality of our advice is…. We don’t even have to experience the consequences of the advice we give them! They have the choice of what to take and what to leave! We don’t even know if we have all the facts of the scenario anyway. They have their journey and you have yours…

But….

If their dysfunctional life starts to effect yours just being in their company…you begin reaping their consequences for their choices…you notice yourself regressing … you recognize you’ve lost sight or esteem of your own life mission…

Fall back.

You are the average of the 5 closest people to you. Choose wisely!

The mental ease you receive for allowing people to “do them” and letting go is priceless. Now you have time to dedicate towards your own conquests , continue your own development, and learn from your own choices.

I’m rambling now… but one last thing

Beware: When people notice you walking away to a better life, they may morph into your enemy. They may spill your secrets, smear you, they may not even care about your absence. If that’s the case It’s all good… some people can live in your heart but not in your life!

Keep the grass cut🌾🐍🌾

-KANAAN🌱

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gent-illmatic · 3 months

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Tanyka 🤎

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