"[Harley Quinn] could stand as a reminder to young girls that they can be a bit unorthadox but still be loved, misunderstood but intelligent; that they hold the power to brighten [a] room with a joke or smile, and harness enough strength and courage to be their own hero."
-The Ascendance of Harley Quinn, edited by Shelly E. Barba and Joy M. Petrin, page 13.
Did you know you were amazing? Well you are! Not because you checked something off your to do list, not because you worked hard, not because you accomplished something, not because you’re where you hoped you’d be in life. You’re amazing simply because you’re you. No matter what things look like or how you feel, just know you’ve managed to get through the days you thought you couldn’t, you dried tears you thought would never end, and if you’re reading this it’s means you’re still undefeated. You’re stronger than you give yourself credit for! Show yourself some grace, be kind to yourself! You’re Amazing!!!!
Things I learned from the K-drama Fight for my way
The light hearted, fun and aegyo filled kdrama Fight for my way was much more than that. It taught and reminded me of more life lessons than I could have expected. What's your favourite Kdrama? What did it teach you?
It's not your job to live up to other people's standards of living. It's not your job to play the other people's versions of you. It's not your job to see and perceive the world through other people's lenses of seeing and perceiving the world. Your job is to be you and be the best of you.
Lately i've been struggling. And i'm not here to vent or seek attention, but i'm here to tell you that it's absolutely okay to struggle when you're healing. It's normal to have crying spells when healing. Healing is figuring out what needs to be guided to the right direction and becoming a better you. Sometimes that takes a while to find out. But that doesn't mean you should give up on yourself, you've come so far. Everything will be okay, just focus on you until you find yourself. Even then, there's always so much more to improve on.
So apparently, roses are one the the most delicate flowers, and can easily die, or wither.
That doesn't make the rose weak, or any less of a flower.
Because when nourished properly, roses are actually celebrated. Songs have been written about them, people named after them, and they have become symbolic of love it's self.
So if you find you have different needs, or require more support or delicacy in some areas of your life, that doesn't make you weak, or any less of a person.
Let's face this. People, and by people, I mean your own people are going to be mad at you for something or the other things you did or said or the things that you didn't do or didn't say. That doesn't make you a bad person. What you did today might have pissed out many. They might have judged you for who you are. They may judge your intentions. It's highly probable that they might never want to speak with you again. But guess what, they had no idea about what you were feeling back then. No idea about how vulnerable you were. No idea how much time you needed alone and away from the mess. It's not your fault. It was needed. You don't have to give any explanations for it. None. You were being you. Period. Your feelings matter way beyond what they think. There will be times that you might want to disappear altogether. And it's okay. You needed this, Rutu. It's not your fault. You have to stop thinking. Just pause and reflect. How did you feel in the morning? All alone, in your world- reading? You had the courage to start a new book when you had already gotten bored of reading. You started and you knew that you didn't want to stop but you had to. The amount of peace that action brought to you, was immeasurable. You don't always have to be the loud funny girl that you are. It's okay to be your vulnerable and silent self. You have to learn how to embrace every feeling. Be it sadness or joy. You are more than what you think you are. Many layers, many emotions, many yous. You feel this? The sunken feeling in your gut? The feeling of denial? I know you hate this feeling, but it is what it is. You may owe an explanation, but not now. Right now, the only person that matters is you.