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narcissisticacey · 3 months

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I want people who think "narc abuse" is real to understand that we are not invalidating your abuse. No one deserves to be abused. What we're invalidating is your choice to armchair diagnose your abuser with a personality disorder and then act like anyone with said personality disorder is an abuser. You're fucked up for that and you deserve to be called out for that shit.

First of all, none of you are a psychiatrist and your abuser is not your client, so therefore, you cannot diagnose them with a personality disorder. That's the first thing.

Secondly, narc abuse is not real because there is no possible or probable way to differentiate types of abuse based on disorders since a good chunk of personality disorders overlap in their symptoms. So saying that you suffered from narc abuse when your abuser could potentially actually have BPD or another Cluster B disorder is stupid and that's why you're incorrect in saying that narc abuse is real.

Lastly, a lot of you don't realize or don't care to realize that people with NPD were abused themselves and that's why we're like this. Our personalities got warped from trauma. And not for nothing, but you OTHER victims are susceptible to getting a personality disorder, as well; so don't demonize something you may have developed and need to deal with in the future. Just saying.

#actually npd #actually a narcissist #npd safe #narc abuse is not real

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livingfictionsystem · 5 months

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A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.

Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.

What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.

Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.

What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.

Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.

What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.

Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.

It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

-Xanthe

#pop psychology #love bombing #npd #actually npd #narcissist #trauma bonding #gaslighting

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solitaryschizoid · 2 months

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neurotypicals will be like "you can't self diagnose" and then diagnose everyone they dislike as a narcissist

#actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #npd safe #actually narcissistic #narc abuse isn't real #npd abuse isnt real #npd

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unbearable-swagger · 9 months

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I will be like "I'm fine" and then another fucking event will occur

#mecore #actually borderline #bpd #bpd mood #bpd meme #npd #npd mood #npd meme #actually narcissistic #npd safe #1k #5k #10k #15k #20k #25k #30k #40k #50k #60k #70k

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evilsystemm · 14 days

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uhh???

#npd #cluster b #npd safe #actually narcissistic #actually npd #npd culture is #npd traits #npd positivity #npd posting

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sin-esthezia · 7 months

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the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.

depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.

ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.

and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.

mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.

but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other more well understood mental illness, you can be patient with us.

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kitten-forward · 6 months

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doomsdayradio · 1 year

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HELP THE TIKTOK ABLEISTS ARE SAYING NARCS EYES CAN STRAIGHT UP GO BLACK⁉️⁉️⁉️

bro they think we're mythical fucking demons im done😭😭😭

#npd #narcissistic personality disorder #actually npd #actually narcissistic #ableism tw #words words words !!#🧋❓

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thecatspasta · 1 month

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Inspired by @arrgh-whatever's post on helping ppl with BPD

Edit bc I forgot to add this: Being vulnerable means smth different for different ppl, something that could read as being vulnerable to you can read as just another Tuesday for someone else

[ID: a simply-drawn comic, narrated by a person coloured-in in pink.

Panel 1: The pink person narrates: "So there's a lot of "signs your ex is a narcissist and how to deal with them" and it's not very accurate. So here's how to actually "deal" with a narcissist from someone with narcissistic personality disorder."

Panel 2: This panel has the heading: "1. Supply." The pink person narrates: "People with NPD have very fragile self-esteem, and supply is what keeps us from having a mental breakdown. Supply can be many things, but often attention and praise are effective. Stuff like "Wow! That's super cool!!" can go a long way." A person is shown saying this to another person, who smiles.

Panel 3: This panel has the heading: "2. Criticism." The pink person narrates: "Oh boy. So narcissists take things as personal very easily. It's because if anyone contradicts our delusions that we have built our entire self-image on, it feels like you are attacking us as a person." There is an example shown, where one person says "hey, you were a bit too rude back there," but the other person hears "You're an awful dick no-one likes." The alternative manner of phrasing is suggested as "Hey, you were a bit too rude. You're cool, but some people took it poorly." The second person in this example thinks "I'm still a cool person. It's not my fault, but I can do things to be better." The narrator continues, "We don't really understand the concept of a harmless mistake."

Panel 4: This panel has the heading: "3. Boundaries." The pink person narrates: "With narcissists, setting down strict boundaries is very important. 1. Knowing we have hurt you because you didn't set down boundaries can really upset and annoy us because the delusions that we can do no wrong and know you best get broken. 2. If you let us break boundaries, it can lead us to see you as "weak" and devalue you. Communication is key."

Panel 5: This panel has the heading: "4. Anger." The pink person narrates: "So people with NPD tend to be prone to anger. This is a defense mechanism, because to us, it's either facing the inaccuracies of our delusions and having a mental breakdown, or blaming something else. We do not mean to lash out; we just don't have the skills to cope properly. You can help by: 1. Letting us express out emotions without judgement; 2. giving us praise or attention; and 3. Distracting us from what angered us." Each example of how to help is accompanied by a small cartoon.

Panel 6: This panel has the heading: "5. Other NPD things!" The pink person narrates: "'Love bomb, devalue, discard' is actually: we are genuinely obsessed with you and want you to recognize us as cool, we lose that obsession and move on, we feel threatened in some way and lash out. We can't really handle being seen as vulnerable. We take sympathy and empathy as pity and pity as you telling us we're weak. Not acknowledging we're being vulnerable and acting as if nothing is wrong can be helpful in these situations. People with NPD have a very warped view of reality. We do not mean to hurt you and often do not realise we have. Remember, this won't work for everyone, and talking is very important."

/end ID]

Ty to @aromanticsky for the id

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npdemu · 6 months

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thank you for your constructive criticism. unfortunately, i have been sent into a rage which i will not mentally recover from for three years

#npd #npd safe #actually npd #actually narcissistic #cluster b #cluster b safe #actually cluster b #bpd #hpd #aspd

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thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra · 3 months

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The cycle of childhood trauma recovery:

"wow isn't it weird i never developed anything from this extremely traumatizing childhood event i experienced?"

"wdym that's a sign of a disorder"

"wdym

#max squawks #actually narcissistic #actually paranoid #actually traumagenic #actually biid #npd #ppd

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love-me-love-my-weirdness · 4 months

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Shout out to the people who never had a safe place. Who didn’t have a before trauma. Who were loved but not protected. Who were collateral damage in someone else’s breakdown. Who got fucked up so young that they’ll never know who they could have been.

Shout out to people who’ve never felt safe. I hope you do someday.

#npd #cluster b #did #actually dissociative #trauma #trauma recovery #cptsd #complex ptsd #ptsd #actually traumagenic #actually traumatized #actually narcissistic #child abuse #abuse

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mirroringshards · 7 months

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sorry for being mentally ill and actually having symptoms it will happen again xoxo