#feminine and strong

[bethanydelleman]

Sometimes you just don't communicate well online and what you said is taken very negatively. I would delete this but it was re-blogged too much and I don't want it to have zero context, so I'll edit instead. All the original text remains.

I love you Fanny Price (Mansfield Park) for wanting to look the best in your ballgown.

Explanation: Fanny really cares about looking good for a ball. This is never mocked, it's taken as a real and sympathetic concern. So often I feel like women are dismissed for even caring about their appearance.

I love you Elle Woods (Legally Blonde) for going to court in a pink dress.

Pink often is seen as girly and infantile. Also, I love that we actually see the effort that Elle puts into being pretty. She cares about it and it's an investment. What we seem to get now is instant make-up and fashion from characters who don't actually care about it. Like you have to look the best at all times but it should also be effortless.

I love you Beth Harmon (The Queen's Gambit) for using your winnings to buy nice clothes.

I thought they would throw Beth Harmon into the frump category (ie: A woman only has brain cells to be smart OR pretty, not both, think Amy from The Big Bang Theory). Also she's not shamed for spending her money on clothing and not more important stuff.

I love you Joan Harris (Mad Men) for showing a woman can be both sexy and very good at her job.

This one has probably been taken the worst. Joan's character is fascinating to me because she falls into a bunch of "sleep your way to the top" stereotypes but they subverted those expectations. She is sexy, she does use it or attempt to use it to her advantage (it mostly ends up hurting her), but she is also very smart and very good at her job. It makes me so angry that most characters, even Peggy at first, dismiss her as just trading on her looks. I loved how complex a character she was and that she wasn't just a "bimbo"

I wish there were more of you, instead of an endless trope of Strong Women TM acting and dressing like men.

Edit: This post was taken as an insult by people I did not intend to offend. I would be more than happy to see women of all types in media. What makes me sad is that it's still rare to see a woman enjoying being feminine without being portrayed as stupid.

#I know there are more but they are rare #legally blonde was probably the first time I saw a woman in pink be a boss #Other than Power Rangers #legally blonde #mansfield park #the queens gambit #mad men #Strong Women TM #Like honestly Beth dressing like a queen in Queens Gambit made me so happy because it had been so long since I'd seen a smart woman do that #fanny price #elle woods #beth harmon #feminine and strong

[bebs-art-gallery]

𝐃𝐚𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐚

© lightbeyondtheframe

#painting #art #artblr #oil on canvas #oil painting #artist #dark academia #goth #gothic #strong female character #gothcore #dark feminine aesthetic #ai generated #ai art #art community #artists #classical art #femme #art gallery #art blog #dark feminine energy #femine

[hadesoftheladies]

women's sports is one of the loudest and most successful anti-patriarchy campaigns in human history. what women's sports did and does is prove, over and over again, the excellence, the raw power and strength of the human woman. it completely disrupts ideas on gender.

you have big, powerful women in rugby. fast, endurable women runners. impeccably strong gymnasts. women with strong, large bodies that take up space. that are HEALTHY. they are not RESTRICTED or ladylike. they are free of the stillness/deadness that femininity demands. no corsets. no (aesthetic) thinness. no hourglass bodies for gawking. women's sports screams to society "we are fully human, not objects, not small men. we are not domestic dolls. we are hunters and foragers. fighters."

why do you think men are so vitriolic about it? why don't they want women in football? why don't they want it televized? why do they keep harassing female basketball players? why do they insist on dressing women in sexualized uniforms? why do they now make it taboo to exculde men from women's sports?

i firmly believe it's because women's sports tears patriarchal gender ideology apart so effortlessly. it completely spits in the face of patriarchal political propaganda and shows how null it is. it forces all of us to view women as full, as the beginning of human excellence, as central to human history. not as decorative sexual objects, no matter how men want us to be.

that's why there's so much aggression and derision when it comes to women's sports from men. because women's sports destroys the idea of femininity and depicts women as non-derivative. women must be monsters and cannot afford to play into the childlikeness that femininity demands. the arena of sports forces us to focus on women's physical performance rather than appearance. their strength rather than how attractive they are. their skill and strategy. their humanity. it is a form of entertainment where all female roles are agentive and active rather than passive.

women's sports events are also hotbeds for female and lgb solidarity like you have no idea!

y'all need to start watching women's sports. not only because it is exciting, but it deprograms the patriarchal bullshit out of you so fast. you realize how much is possible. how much we can all achieve right now.

#women's sports #radblr #feminism #olympics are coming up #women athletes are so so cool #like i watch them and im like i can't imagine how much strength it took to pull that off #sometimes my dad watches WNBA highlights with me #im not yet a dedicated watcher of sports but im fixing that this year #anti-gender #anti gender #women's sports makes men so angry because women are strong and smart and beautiful without any femininity bullshit

[lipglossuser]

#girl blogger #girlblogging #just girly things #coquette #gaslight gatekeep girlboss #this is a girlblog #coquette dollete #girl interrupted #manic pixie dream girl #im just a girl #hell is a teenage girl #femcel #female rage #divine feminine #moodboard #gaslight gatekeep girlblog #girl interrupted syndrome #the urge is strong #:(

[csuitebitches]

On Becoming Well Read

Why is it important to be well read or well informed?

We tend to gravitate towards people who we find interesting. A fear that most of us have is that we’re not interesting enough.

“What if I don’t make any friends because they think I’m boring?”

“What if I don’t know what to say at that date and he ghosts me?”

“I have no idea what this person is talking about, but I’ll pretend like I do.”

“God, I wish I had done some more research before coming here. I feel so dumb.”

In order to combat such feelings, we need to actually address them and work on them.

It’s not that you’re boring or plain. It’s just that you may not have expanded your horizon enough.

Here are some things that I do:

1. Read 3 academic articles a month (this month I’m reading on parenting, globalisation and urban riots). Annual review is a great resource. The articles I’m reading aren’t more than 30 pages long.

2. Read the news every single day. I have 13 different news apps that I use. You don’t need to use so many (I just like being informed in what’s happening in my country, the world, and certain specific nations). Start by reading just the headlines everyday.

3. My brain likes reading about fashion, lifestyle, exotic travel as well. I refer to CNA Luxury’s website for that.

4. If you don’t like reading, watch videos instead. YouTube is a vast resource. Look for TED videos, Cold fusion, Slidebean, Circle of Life, History Matters, Ted Ed, Absolute History.

Here are some topics I think are interesting / you can research on:

* your country’s history

* Basic international history and some of the most notable/ infamous events

* Classic literature

* Architecture basics

* Interior aesthetics

* Famous people and families in your country

* Prominent CEOs, politicians and personalities

* Start ups and industries that are becoming popular

* Small talk

* Jewellery - stones, metal types, settings

* Massages - best pressure points

* Real estate - structure deals, buying and selling homes

* Economics - rates and what they mean

* Philosophy basics and notable figures

* Alcohol basics - how is French wine different from Italian, why is champagne called champagne, what is the most popular drink in every country?

* Lesser known communities and tribes

Based on how well this article is being received, I'm thinking of creating a free newsletter, with content like this. Sign up here! Launch on 8th January, 2033.

#c suite #powerful woman #ceo aesthetic #personal growth #that girl #productivity #strong women #getting your life together #feminine energy #balance

[curiositysavesthecat]

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#incognito polls #period cramps #hygiene #feminism #feminist #femme #healthcare #health #poll #polls #tumblr poll #tumblr polls #tumblr #meme #memes #feminine #the feminine urge #strong female character

[bellemagedon]

this ken's specialization is: water

#i'm kenough #kendall roy #kendal roy #i'm just ken #succession s4 #succession #coquette #feminine urge #2014 tumblr #roman roy #babygirl things #jeremy strong #barbie #barbie movie #ken

[notperfectenoughtolive]

Im just so fucking tired of trying to be enough

#mentally tired #i'm just so tired #my thougts #body goals #perfectbody #perfection #clean eating #pretty girls #relationship #mental problems #mentally fucked #not enough #not strong enough #beauty #dark feminine energy #anorexies #i wanna be pretty #perfectgirl

[jade-len]

i adore how mxtx sorta flipped the idea on the whole top/bottom thing with svsss, and just BL relationships in general.

making bingqiu very open to switching, not making the "bottom" super feminine and actually leaning more to the handsome side compared to the "top", how luo binghe is manipulative sensitive and cries easily, etc. one of the main themes in svsss is literally about sexuality (and possibly even about gender roles).

as a queer asian man myself, i absolutely despise the "yaoi archetype" and it was one of the reasons why i avoided consuming BL media. hell, years ago when i first saw heavens official blessing, i mentally groaned and went, "ugh, let me guess, the bottom is super feminine and innocent, while the top is masculine and experienced." of course, that's not the case now, but it's disappointing how that thought was there purely because of the god awful way fetish-y media portrays homosexual people and couples. because, believe it or not, we are not assigned male/female typical gender roles just because one likes to top/bottom (and even then, it's not even like that! some people have preferences, sure, but it's not so strictly "i'm top/bottom")

so, while i absolutely LOVE the english novel designs (especially luo binghe's cute curly hair, gongyi xiao, etc, and personally believe a lot of the takes from the western artist on the designs are an improvement), i am greatly saddened by people subconsciously assigning shen qingqiu as someone more delicate and feminine and luo binghe as someone super masculine and muscly. like, if you're going to have luo binghe depicted as the western design (i believe this stems from binghe being applied to more western ideals for men, and, admittedly, i actually really love his design), at least don't make shen qingqiu feminine and delicate? don't have his appearance play into the stupid yaoi thing?

i get that people have different takes on svsss, especially how the western version depicts it. but, people just... seem to very over exaggerate the top/bottom roles when it comes to bingqiu (again, these two are, canonically, VERY open to switching).

it's weird, it's uncomfortable, and it comes across as, "so, who wears the pants in the relationship?"

so, can we please have more canonically handsome shen qingqiu? canonically beautiful and pretty boy luo binghe (they literallly state that binghe looks EXACTLY like his mom, su xiyan! while a more handsome woman, is still very beautiful!! plus it is stated several times that binghe is slim, and that shang qinghua made him that way!) or at the very least, a BL couple who actually look like normal people (ok thats a little hard considering binghe is literally supposed to be perfect) and not just a stupid fetishized version of themselves.

and no, i'm not saying that queer men shouldn't be feminine or men who are feminine shouldn't be in a relationship with guys who are masculine, etc.

TLDR: please stop twinkifying shen qingqiu and going against what mxtx defied for us queer men (the stupid yaoi roles). and for the love of whoever you believe in, do NOT think that i hate the english design or people's personal interpretation of characters, i just hate the subconscious assigning of gender roles to bingqiu and how media portrays and fetishizes LGBTQ+ relationships in general.

edit: also i love teardrew's (check them out on twitter!) interpretation of shang qinghua. while i do really like the the eng novel design's tiny scared hamster vibes, teardrew's version just radiates "up to no good, paranoid but suspicious looking bitch" rat man and i love it so so so much. i'm not gonna repost their art bc i don't know how they feel about that but perhaps you can search up "svsss designs" on here, you'll see it pop up eventually lol.

edit 2 (1/16): i just saw someone reblog a post (that im pretty sure was referring to this one because, well, if you saw it i think it'd be a little clear kahxj) that was about how bingqiu switching and completely eschewing traditional top/bottom dynamics was a fandom idea or smth? so now i'm wondering, since i swear i remember that they were open to switching, but it's just that sqq preferred to bottom and/or was just a little too lazy to top. plus, sqq is a pretty unreliable narrator who says he doesn't want something one moment and then he does. how could he say no to bingbing? esp if he seems to wanna try bottoming too. perhaps i'm mixing things up though, idk? so if anyone can find that passage that says he only and strictly wants to bottom or whatever please show me! but i think the point of this post still stands haha (i wanted to ask about it, actually, but when i clicked on the og post's user it turned out that they blocked me ? so that was a little surprising oops. hey if ur somehow reading this, im... sorry for making you want to block me bc of this post? akdhxjj)

#JOIN THE 'STOP TWINKIFYING SQQ' GROUP #did i make sense? i have no clue i just wanted to rant about this #i really pulled a cucumber bro there huh #this also applies to GL #thinking about it more #there should be trans men and women bl and gl #and not in a fetishy way #of course luo binghe is still the big strong protag and taller than sqq but come on #i dont believe luo binghe is a twink exactly?? maybe?? but just feminine in a historical chinese male ideals way #for edit 2: #i was just saying how it made me happy that mxtx didn't follow the yaoi archetypes and how i lov her for it <3 #never said bingqiu was never done before and COMPLETELY flipped it over skdhjx #but i do believe that bingqiu did a good job providing variety and such :) #same goes for mxtx's other works as well i love her stuff sm #svsss #mxtx svsss #the scum villain's self saving system #luo binghe #shen qingqiu #luo bingge #shen yuan #luo bingmei #bingqiu #luo binghe x shen qingqiu #danmei

[bethanydelleman]

Feminine and Strong and Jane Austen

Jane Austen never does something that many writers do to set their heroines apart from other women and show their intelligence\strength, which is give them masculine traits or interests, or worse, have them show disdain for feminine interests and traits. Jane Austen shows that her heroines can be strong, intelligent, and good, while still being very feminine or girly.

Catherine Morland is the most tom-boy heroine, playing baseball and neglecting her dress, but only for a page or two before she starts caring about her appearance and curling her hair. Her parents praise her improved looks and she is flattered by compliments, which is gently laughed about, but not with disdain. Jane Austen doesn’t require her heroines to disregard their personal beauty, though the best men fall in love with minds and not faces. Catherine even talks about her dress choices with her love interest and he responds to her seriously.

Fanny Price, the most moral female character, spends an entire chapter stressing about what to wear for a ball. Neither the narrator nor Mary Crawford, whom she consults, makes fun of her for it, it is a natural thing for a young woman to feel. Fanny also worries about her gown being too fine on the way to a dinner party. Hollywood Strong Female™ would never worry about something so trivial. But Jane Austen shows a type of strength that is also completely womanly. Fanny can be moral, kind, and principled and like to look good in company.

After a ball, it must be discussed and the things being gone over are entirely girly. Both Elizabeth Bennet and Fanny Price have a need to talk about the ball, which at least in Fanny’s case, is presented seriously in narration. Lady Bertram cannot remember what people were wearing or what was said, but Mary and Mrs. Grant do the tasks “which are so essential to the shade of a departed ball” and Fanny actually feels mentally better afterwards. Elizabeth meeting her friends to talk about the ball is called “absolutely necessary.” Mr. Bennet will not talk of lace, but Jane Austen’s heroine’s must and there is nothing wrong with that.

Characters are shown being too concerned about dress as a negative trait: Mrs. Elton and her over-trimmed gown are a great example of this, but even Jane Fairfax seems to style her hair with care. Marianne neglecting her dress is a sign of her depression over Willoughby; an indication that caring about appearance is viewed as healthy by the author.

The reason I love this so much is that we are often shown women as strong when they inhabit male roles. In fact, sometimes Hollywood just slots in a woman for a role written for a man. Jane Austen’s characters are completely feminine: they do not attempt to enter the male sphere, they show that female intelligence can be equal to male (Emma is a slight exception as she has a kind of unique control over her home and father, but even she loves a ball). Elizabeth Bennet doesn’t need to wear pants or ride astride for us to see that she is in every way an intellectual equal to Mr. Darcy. Fanny Price doesn’t need to disdain discussions of lace to be moral and stand strong against extraordinary family pressure, she can very much do both. Like Elle Woods in Legally Blonde, Austen’s heroines show us there is nothing wrong with wearing pink.

#jane austen #feminine and strong #fanny price #elizabeth bennet #legally blonde #catherine morland #I know pink might not be a girl colour yet #it's just light red people #Austen heroines #not about Mansfield Park #but still about Mansfield Park

[bebs-art-gallery]

by majara__

#painting #art #artblr #oil on canvas #oil painting #strong female character #dark feminine aesthetic #dark feminine energy #feminine #dark academia #ai generated #aesthetic #fantasy #dark fantasy #fairycore #fairytale #fairytales #moon #academia aesthetic #artist #art community #art gallery #art blog #artists #snow #art history #classical art

[cait-sith]

October 2023, Day 25: Decay

The Final Run.

#art #trigun #artists on tumblr #vash the stampede #trigun vash #vash fanart #trigun plants #trimax #trigun fanart #my art #daily drawing #inktober #october prompts #jorm scribs #october23 #the trigun obsession is still going strong for me #the plants are so interesting #on the one hand I don't think they really do gender #on the other we've got the vast majority of them looking rather feminine #with Vash & Knives being the only exceptions even among independents #I understand why there is so many trans headcanons about them lol #That gun was so fun to draw. It took me a while to get the plant's... kinda blank but screaming expression right. #I went back to the scenes with the Final Run a few times for this

[andsheoverthinks]

i think the reason white women/white feminists glorify the 'strong independent black woman' trope is because they mistakenly think it's some GNC, anti-patriarchy thing that black women came up with to stick it to the man... we didn't. idk what the men told you. but make no mistake it's not about us being respected leaders but moreso packhorses.

the strong black women trope is very much gender-conforming and hyperfeminine. it may not be pink and ribbons and cute but it is indeed Feminine (Pertaining to Female Stereotypes). the strong black woman is the ultimate 'mother' figure (see the Mammie stereotype). she gives and gives and GIVES, having no feelings of her own. she can be abused and raped and tortured without showing any trauma or shedding a tear. she is whipped to the point of death while in labor. her children are stolen from her at birth. she breastfeeds her mistress's children the milk meant for hers without a complaint.

she is self-sacrificing having no self-love or indeed self-identity. every Black woman tries her best to escape this stereotype in order to maintain her self-identity. this is the stereotype which causes us to die at crazy high rates in childbirth... still think it's empowering? Black women cling to the feminine aesthetic because we hope it will humanize us, earn us a scrap of empathy. we hope people will look at us and see just a woman instead of a black woman. you can laugh all you like at the bright-under-eye dark-lip-liner long-nails IG girls but you don't understand how they got there. 'princess' may be a cage but it's a nicer and better cage than 'mammie.'

women of all races have to escape the programming but it's different for all of us.

why do you think hollywood loves portraying the strong black woman struggle love stereotype so much? do you think holly-WEIRD is down with the cause?

being 'soft' and expecting to be waited on and prioritizing our feelings is GNC for Black women. that's how men behave, after all.

*waves hand* make me a plate.

#why black women are so drawn to the hyper feminine aesthetic #and materialism #it's an escape from servile femininity #it's not an escape from patriachy though #as evidenced by women who go beyond the aesthetic #and fall into the divine feminine trap which is patriarchy all over again #'strong black woman' is not about being physically strong #or mentally strong #it's about being the ultimate slavewoman

[csuitebitches]

How to Handle Procrastination

Source: James Clear.

The Two Minute Rule by David Allen

- best for small tasks such as chores and smaller work tasks (sending emails, sharing feedback, etc)

- Small wins mindset

1. The two-minute rule aims to banish procrastination and help people accomplish small tasks.

2. Here’s what the rule says: if you can do an action in two minutes or less, tackle it at the moment — and don’t delay. This has the potential to deliver long-term benefits.

Temptation Bundling

- habit stacking method

1. Temptation bundling is a concept that came out of behavioral economics research performed by Katy Milkman at The University of Pennsylvania. Simply put, the strategy suggests that you bundle a behavior that is good for you in the long-run with a behavior that feels good in the short-run.

2. Only do (what you love) while doing (what you’re procrastinating).

Eg: only do (pedicures) while (answering work emails).

Only (watch your fave tv show) while (ironing your clothes).

The Ivy Lee Method

1. At the end of each work day, write down the six most important things you need to accomplish tomorrow. Do not write down more than six tasks.

2. Prioritize those six items in order of their true importance.

3. When you arrive tomorrow, concentrate only on the first task. Work until the first task is finished before moving on to the second task.

4. Approach the rest of your list in the same fashion. At the end of the day, move any unfinished items to a new list of six tasks for the following day.

5. Repeat this process every working day

#c suite #powerful woman #ceo aesthetic #personal growth #that girl #productivity #strong women #getting your life together #feminine energy #balance #currently procrastinating #procrastinating #procrastination #avoiding things #avoiding #work calls #work

[thaliasthunder]

piper. is. girly! piper loves pop music and blasts it in her cabin! piper loves the color pink! piper loves wearing skirts around camp! piper adores to paint her nails! piper likes to pick flowers and decore her cabin w them! piper enjoys dancing wannabe by the spice girls w annabeth! piper likes fashion and playing dressing up! piper loves to hold her friends' hands! piper is always kissing her friends on their cheeks! piper is feminine and it doesn't make her any less strong and powerful! piper, piper, piper!

#pushing my girly!piper agenda on u #hoo piper hating femininity? yeah forget that shit #it doesnt exist it was just a weird dream !! #canon piper is girly and it doesnt make her any less strong <3 #btw piper loves kissing her friends' cheeks well w friends i especifically mean leo & beth #pushing my besties!leo&piper agenda on u #and also pipabeth bc i mean they're the prettiest girl friends #piper mclean #annabeth chase #leo valdez #riordanverse headcanons #hoo #pjo #pjo/hoo #girly!piper #pipabeth #percy jackson

[bellemagedon]

this is biblically accurate

#coquette #feminine urge #lana del rey #2014 tumblr #roman roy #babygirl things #succession #succession s4 #culkin brothers #brian cox #shiv roy #jeremy strong #lana del rey chemtrails #chemtrails over the country club #succession meme #kieran culkin #sarah snook #logan roy