#long-distance

[mariszero]

Here, have a wholesome reuinion for these three long-distanced poly birbs. I am crying, why am I obssesed over my childhood movie. I need help. But I love these three so much.

#the three caballeros #three gay caballeros #donald duck x José Carioca #donald duck x panchito pistoles #donal duck #josé carioca #panchito pistoles #donald x jose x pachinto #josé carioca x panchito #jose carioca x panchito pistoles #gay #polyamory #gay birds #art #digital art #my art #my drawings #reuinion #long-distance #parrot #rooster #duck #long-distance relationship #relationship #trio #wholesome #wholesome reuinion #comic #wholesome comic #reuinion comic

[stone-cold-groove]

Dial MAin 3-9970.

#vintage illustration #long-distance #long distance calls #telephones #vintage phones #dial phones #bell telephone #ma bell #the bell system

[fandomjunker]

a love for the ages

this is just a very vague idea i had. it's sort of a series of connected drabbles that eventually lead up to a romance (maybe?). anyways. here's the first part? the drabbles kind of speed-run through the initial stuff before we plunge into the good stuff in 2023-2024. it'll

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They said love makes fools of us all. I used to roll my eyes at the very thought. 

Until he made a fool of me.

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September 2020

It’s the month of September in the year of the lockdown: 2020. I hummed to myself as I scrolled through the contacts on my phone. The task given to me was a mundane one: recruit interested volunteers for the Teacher’s Day event to be held shortly. I muttered to myself with a tinge of frustration, “Maybe they should’ve given this task to someone who has actually met the people in this school.”

Being fresh out of Mumbai and joining my new school in the lockdown, I’d never actually met any of my classmates. All they were to me were white names on a black screen in an Arial font. I didn’t particularly want to go through the trouble of reaching out and making new friends. Again. I had already done that song and dance twice in Mumbai, and in my four years there, I’d only picked up one worthwhile friend, Lakshanna "Shanna" Shetty. She was more than enough for me. I didn’t see the need to put myself through the unnecessary torture of awkward social interaction. Still, I dutifully scrolled through the contacts of the numbers I’d guessingly saved the names of.

Malika

Roshini

Gokul

Amina

Kai

I stopped for a moment at the last name, Kai. My finger hovered over the profile pic for a moment before I clicked on it. It was the Ikigai venn diagram of life. An intrigued smile tugged at my lips as I remembered Dad and my discussion on it a few days ago. They always say not to judge a book by its cover, but I already had a feeling that this person would be a kindred soul. I had to reach out to someone at some point. Why shouldn’t he be the first?

So instead of merely forwarding the generic text I’d copy-pasted for everyone, I typed out another message first.

#writing #spilled ink #love #romance #long-distance #romantic #taylor swift #(there'll be a lot of references) #random thoughts #drabbles #stories #fiction #novel idea #reading #writeblr #bookblr #desiblr #desi main character #female main character #school romance #high school romance #desi aesthetic #desi academia

[elviramac22-blog]

Gerry and Theresa: Living Separately

Gerry and Theresa of the “Golden Bachelor” who got married in January are living separate lives. She is living in New Jersey while Gerry is in Indiana. They got married on January 4th of this year and still have not found a medium ground. They seem to make this long-distance relationship work. They are planning maybe to move to Charleston, South Carolina which is the middle ground for both.…

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#Gerry and Theresa #Golden Bachelor #long-distance

[findasongblog]

Find A Song about a long-distance relationship

Carlos Ucedda - Short Time My Love

Added to FAS Spotify playlists electronic/electro pop/synth pop and relationships.

via Musosoup

#music #music blog #indie music #alternative music #electronic #Carlos Ucedda #Short Time My Love #long-distance #indie #alternative #find a song

[rosewgul]

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[newrelationshipgoals]

A happy relationship is about three things: memories of togetherness, the forgiveness of mistakes and a promise to never give up on each other.

#quotes #couples #relationship #love #thoughts #relationship goals #relationship quotes #long distance relationship #ldr #long distance #A happy relationship is about three things: memories of togetherness #the forgiveness of mistakes and a promise to never give up on each other.

[alenseress]

I think I peaked with this art specifically

#atla #edt: suki is long-distance in this and sokka is holding a phone because they're on a call!! there were two more sketches to complete the au #avatar the last airbender #zukki #katara #aang #zuko #toph beifong #sokka #college au #ate this one up

[nature-hiking]

Sunset on the Matterhorn - Alpine Haute Route, June 2021

photo by: nature-hiking

#sunset #matterhorn #lake #mountains #landscape #alps #switzerland #zermatt #sunset on the matterhorn #AHR #Alpine Haute Route #long distance trail #wilderness #hiking #trekking #nature #photography #original photography #photographers on tumblr #AHR 2021

[stone-cold-groove]

Plowing a 1600-mile furrow for defense.

#vintage illustration #vintage advertising #bell telephone #the bell system #long-distance #long-distance telephone #life during wartime #the 40s

[incognitopolls]

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#polls #incognito polls #anonymous #tumblr polls #tumblr users #questions #polls about relationships #submitted nov 16 #relationships #ldr #long distance relationship #dating #partner

[humans-are-tasty]

#cross guild #sir crocodile #dracule mihawk #buggy the clown #one piece #my art #theyre road tripping/ on the run and ended up in some bar middle of nowhere #weird #recommend keeping your distance and dont stare for too long #big guy with two little? guys #hello world

[larryhappiday]

LDR: Psychological Traps and Technologies for Overcoming Challenges in Long-Distance Relationships

This article is sparked by the many social media complaints about long distance relationships. You will find detailed list of virtual activities that can help to bridge the gap and give more realistic expectations from your distant associations.

Introduction Long-distance relationships (LDRs) are becoming more common in today’s connected world. While technology has made it easier to stay in touch, there are psychological challenges that can make these relationships difficult. This article explores the psychological background of LDR problems and looks at technological solutions for the two (2) most common issues faced by couples in…

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#Amos 3:3 moments #ldr #long-distance #psychology #technology #virtual reality #vr

[wu-does-art]

thinking about Nico adjusting to letting himself miss and long for the people he loves. based on these bits from the sun and the star:

" As Nico and Will followed the trogs, he thought about how much he missed Hazel. He was learning to make peace with that feeling. It was okay for him to miss people because that meant he wanted them around in his life. That idea was *very* new for him- he was used to either pushing people away or watching them recoil from his presence." *

" That was the most surreal thing of all... Was he happy? Nico wasn't very familiar with the sensation, but he couldn't deny that he felt wonderful in Will's presence. He even longed for the son of Apollo when they were apart. A funny thing had happened as the two grew closer: Nico suddenly understood all those cheesy, sappy love songs he'd always hated."

#its just. i like that they included that in the book yk. the fact that he prepared a certain distance between everyone #and thus isnt used to missing anyone #so its strange for him #this is probably set somewhere pre tsats just because i like to think it was one of the times he found himself missing and longing. #but it was one of the first times he actually allowed himself to feel that way. #took the feeling and held it instead of banishing it away #also yes letting himself unmask a bit #i like to think he just gets wayyy more expressive with his hands the more he heals #that and he unmasks more!!! more openly stimming!! more special interest rambles!! #just oughh. #anyways this was a huge comic to colour #big fuck you to tumblr who made posting soooo much harder #fuck u and ur updates tumblr #solangelo #pjo #percy jackson and the olympians #percy jackon and the olympians #nico di angelo #will solace #the sun and the star #trials of apollo #they borrow clothes from eachother its real in my head okay #nico canonally bought will a stupid shirt as a joke tho and i love that for them

[ruporas]

… and it all came flowing to his brain, three years of his youth. (ID in alt)

#jjk #jujutsu kaisen #gojo satoru #kenjaku #geto suguru #ruporas art #happy boxing day :partyexplosion: this is technically a redraw of an old piece i did!! #one of the top tier scenes of jjk - the tragedy was truly crazy i remember seeing this back then and had my whole life sucked into stsg #for a bit wraghhhgds it came back when s2 started airing but not for long... i knew i wanted to do a piece in celebration of the boxing tho #after this........i wonder if ill have the strength to do more jjk art... after that new chapter *puts my hands behind my back* #*staring longingly into the distance* but it was fun revisiting these scenes. im also queueing this before the ep airs #so im excited to see how devastating the effect will be in mappa's animation!!!