#and the one you'll get to keep is too busy having a human brain and being warborn

[marlenacantswim]

hey gang, do we all agree that ten's massive ego and god complex (or rather those traits being especially prominent in his regeneration) were a direct result of what happened in Parting of the Ways?

"marlena what the fuck do you mean" okay well think about it; ninth doctor. fresh off the time war. thinks himself unlovable, unworthy of love. just did a double genocide, including against his own people. he's returning to his old ways of lallygagging around helping humans in a more-than-desperate attempt to repress his feelings and try to mimic the person he was before the war. he's so vulnerable.

enter rose tyler. to him? she's the most amazing person in the universe. he loves her, full stop. she makes him feel like maybe he's still capable of love, but does he really trust her love for him? after all, she doesn't really know him, does she?

all that comes to a head when rose tyler becomes the bad wolf. in that moment, she sees everything. everything everything. the doctor's past, and the doctor's future. every horrible thing they did and will do.

and in that moment, with all this truth streaming constantly into her brain, most amazing person in the universe rose tyler looks at him and goes "i want to save you. you are worth saving."

bro no fucking shit ten has a motherfucking god complex, jesus christ i would too!!!

now personally i think nine would have rationalized it and been relatively Normal 'bout all that noise had he survived onwards, but unfortunately he didn't, and so when the doctor's subconscious and the universe were holding hands deciding what their new little guy should be like... well, we're already making him just for her, and she loves him.

rose tyler loves me. she loved me even when she knew me.

i'm just saying, that "Bad Wolf chose to save me" to "the laws of time are mine to command" pipeline is a straight vertical drop only a few feet long.

#there's also an argument to be made about the time vortex being responsible for his death #and how that might have contributed too #yeah sorry the inpenatrable waves of time lived inside your boyfriend and killed him #yeah and it kinda fucked up his regenerarion #so sorry girl your boyfriend's new life is tainted with the pull of ultimate power over one's domain #this won't actually mean much to you since your boyfriend will split in two #and the one you'll get to keep is too busy having a human brain and being warborn #but this will have horrible consequences for him after he turns six #and will emotionally devastate just about every other person he crosses paths with #but hey that's alright; remember that drunk guy who foretold good tidings on new year's? #yeah that was your boyfriend. he went back to see you as he was dying from the results of his god complex. #he came back to be with the reason he did everything— the reason he was— one last time #okay i'm making myself cry right now i gotta chill #running my mouth #doctor who #nuwho #tenth doctor #10th doctor #ninth doctor #9th doctor #the doctor #rose tyler

[cherrygenshin]

Obey Me! Rut HC's

Warnings: SMUT! 18+! MINORS DNI! Breeding, that's about it lol, it's pretty tame for smut.

GN reader

Smut under the cut!

Lucifer

His rut lasts a bit longer than most demons, usually goes for one or two weeks.

Wouldn't really want you involved due to the fact his nature can be a tad uncontrollable during his rut, but will let you aid him if you insist.

His pride goes absolutely wild during his ruts. He doesn't normally mark you? Now he does. He doesn't normally like the idea of people watching? Now he'll take you anywhere, even if people are around.

Also becomes very possessive. Watch out if he smells one of his brothers on you, you WILL be punished.

Likes it when you're loud and will purposefully try to make you scream, he wants his brothers to hear who's pleasing you so well.

Actually uses LESS dirty talk while he's in his rut. His brain is filled with thoughts of breeding you and bringing himself pleasure, he doesn't really have the mental capacity to think of sexy things to say.

On that note, in place of where he'd usually talk, he grunts and groans.

Even though his brain is telling him to breed, he's not that keen on the idea of kids. He already has 6 brothers to look after, does he really need more responsibility?

In the short periods where his strong urges reside, he will make sure to be incredibly attentive to you, making sure you're staying hydrated, smothering you in kisses and praise of how well you're doing for him.

Mammon

His rut is normally pretty short, only lasting 4 or so days.

He's demenor doesn't really change too much, he's pretty horny in general so you're used to being pulled aside for a quickie when he needs one.

Actually makes a little nest in his room, piling his blankets, pillows, shirts, and anything of yours he can find all together.

Unlike Lucifer, he will purposefully seek you out and ask for your help during his ruts. You're his human, you're both in this together!

Like glue to your side, in the small moments you're not fucking like rabbits he will be at your side, touching you in some way. Makes him more domestic??

Becomes slightly more subby, will beg much faster than usual and will whine/cry when reaching his climax.

DIRTY TALK KING?? "Fuck yes, gonna fill you up" "Wanna take my cum baby? Yeah you do." "Gonna breed you, gonna make y' nice and full with my seed."

Can't keep his fucking mouth shut, not that you mind.

Like Lucifer, he is an aftercare king. He's canonically really caring in general, and thankfully his rut doesn't take away from that. You're his special human, he needs to make sure you're okay :)

Leviathan

Poor baby gets hit HARD, his ruts last for two or more weeks.

He won't approach you for help, you'll have to seek him out and offer to help him. Maybe even have to beg him to let you help him. Poor boy is just so embarrassed!

When he eventually agrees to letting you help, be prepared to not leave his room for days on end.

Nest King 👑 Fills his little tub up with all of his body pillows (and maybe he's got one of your panties hidden in amongst the pillows) it gets so full you can't even tell there's a bathtub under all that mess.

His tail will be wrapped around you 24/7, even when you're not busy going at it.

Gets very possessive, but in a quiet way? He won't openly tell you he's unhappy that --- spoke to you, but there will be signs.

LAYS EGGS!!!

Has two dicks for a reason, one lays eggs and one fertilises them.

The idea of you carrying his eggs drives him absolutely insane, he will cum at just the thought of you with your belly swollen with his eggs.

Loud, like, ridiculously loud. You know the way pornstars moan like they're receiving the best pleasure they've ever received the moment they get touched?? That's Levi.

Even though he's the one breeding you, he still begs when he's close to climax. "Please lemme fill you up!" "Please, please take my cum!"

Unfortunately bb boy isn't big on aftercare, he barely takes care of himself so it may be up to you to make sure you're both hydrated and well fed. He appreciates you very much though and will be sure to tell you.

#obey me #obey me smut #obey me lucifer #obey me mammon #obey me leviathan #lucifer smut #mammonobeyme #anime #om! leviathan #obey me one master to rule them all #obey me nightbringer

[mindfulstudyquest]

❥﹒♡﹒☕﹒𝘀𝘁𝘂𝗱𝘆 𝘁𝗶𝗽𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗺𝗲 𝗽𝘂𝘁 𝗺𝘆 𝗮𝘀𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝗮 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗶𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝘁𝘂𝗱𝘆

organization: i know it's the most trivial advice in the world, but i swear it works. before doing anything, i take my planner and review everything i have to do, i divide the study by subject, amount of things to study and review spaces for exams. realistically, you can't expect to do it all in one day, but a good plan could almost allow you to sleep at night!

a clean workspace: i can't fucking concentrate if there's a mess aroud me, i get distracted easily, even by dust, so before i start studying i always deep-clean my desk. i know that not everyone can afford a personal and quiet place to study in their houses, so try to find yourself a small angle where you can really focus.

go to study in a library / café: i didn't believe it at first, but it's actually useful. if you have the opportunity to go to a library or a café after school ( or near your house ) do so. being surrounded by people who are studying like you really helps to focus, you'll be less inclined to get distracted and procastinate. i would feel uncomfortable using my phone in a library with other people who are doing their work while i'm sitting there scrolling on tumblr.

breaks: ik ik, not very blair waldrof, hermione granger, spencer hastings, rory gilmore of me, isn't it? but is it worth it. sometimes i end up having really bad headaches from studying and, even if i keep studying, the quality of my work decreases significantly. breaks are fundamental. i would not recommend using social networks for your beak, because they litteraly drain your attention, rather do your skincare, prepare yourself a snack ( eating is important! it's what makes you focus ), read 10 pages of your book, dance a little bit in your room, do stretching, go outside and buy some mint chewingum, something like that.

EAT!: girls, boys and theys, we know. i honestly think that almost every person that craves academic validation ends up developing a sort of eating disorder. it's not even the food, is the fact that you are too busy studying that you forget to eat, ignoring stomach cramps, or the fact that you didn't get that answer right and now you don't feel like you deserve the lunch. i understand bc i AM like this, like you. but think about it: you need to do it in order to survive ( but this is secondary to the grades, right? ) and to keep your brain active. you can't walk around with blurred vision because you haven't eaten or drunk for fourteen continuous hours. i swear that eating like a normal human being helps you to keep going.

sleep: same thing as eating, but with our terrible sleeping schedules. i know that school is toxic so we end up finishing our homeworks at 2 am everyday ( if we're lucky ) but when you have the chance, take a nap and recover.

repeat things as if you were explaining them to someone: this is litterally the fastest way ever to learn fundamental concepts when you're studying. imagine that you're talking to a friend that doesn't know anything about the subject that you're studying and try to explain the topic to them. finding simple words for a difficult topic will help you understand it thoroughly, on this basis you can then build an articulated and more academic speech. repeat things out loud, doesn't matter if you look crazy, you already are <3

check and organize your notes the same day: i never have time to take proper notes in class, so i review them as soon as possible, with the lesson still fresh in mind. it really helps me understand the subject and makes the further study much easier.

watch youtube videos: youtube is my favourite class. sometimes teachers are dumber than students and you, who don't have a degree in that subject and are tackling a topic for the first time, don't understand a damn thing. ofc not!! sometimes professors are terrible at explaining stuff, but fazal from pakistan isn't. i passed my physics class with a 10/10 thanks to an indian guy on youtube. documentaries and yt videos are a simple and nice way to understand better topics and do insights for extra credits.

delete social media: i'm gonna do another post specifically for this.

"STUDY!" wallpaper: last but not least, the dumbest yet the smartest advice, set as lockscreen a white / black / whatever background with a big fat "STUDY!" written on it. everytime you're about to pick up your phone and procastinate the wallpaper will scold you.

hope this was useful or at least fun to read byee

#academia #college #education #note taking #school #student #study aesthetic #study blog #study inspiration #study motivation #study notes #study tips #studyblr #studyinspo #studyspo #university life #univeristy #uni life #university #university student #university studyblr #university stuff #college life #dark academia #light academia #chaotic academia #academic validation #academic weapon #academic life #architecture studyblr

[potchi-fics]

One look

✮ ⋆ ˚｡𖦹 ⋆｡°✩ one look is all it takes. one look and you don't know how to function, your brain stops working, your palms start getting sweaty, and all those cliché things you read in a story where a character starts falling in love. but you don't believe those. you don't believe that someone could make you experience such sappy things, i mean--this is real life, no?

⋆｡ﾟ☁︎｡⋆｡ ﾟ☾ ﾟ｡⋆

you look at the clock hanging on the wall, its hands saying that it's thirty minutes before you start closing your cafe.

you saw that right, your cafe--your very own. it always has been your dream to work on one, to manage one, and to own one. your business bloomed the moment you opened it. of course, you're thankful for your customers, but every once in a while, you enjoy the peaceful of the place when it doesn't have many people in it.

on rare days, your cafe would be completely empty, and it's one of those days.

you were so lost in the ambience of the place that you didn't notice the soft creaking made by the entrance door being opened. hearing a gentle voice call out to you makes you snap out of your trance.

"excuse me?" the person called out, "are you still taking orders?"

quickly straightening yourself up, you finally see their face. it was a woman, a beautiful woman, you think inside your mind. your eyes meet hers.

one look.

one look is all it takes just for you to be proven wrong.. so so wrong. you feel the world around you two goes into blur, the time seems to slow down. are you losing your mind?

the woman's oreo themed hair suits her so much, her oversized and baggy clothes make her more appealing, and her height.. makes your palms sweaty, your brain stop working, and your knees weak.

"i'd like a caramel macchiato and a glazed donut, please."

jesus, her voice trances you like some hypnotized human. hastily ringing up her order, you thank her and informed her that you'll just call her name.

"i'm gonna need a name." you're surprised when your voice comes out stable.

she smiles, her eyes seem to disappear when she does, "bada."

and with that, your interaction ends. before you start working on her coffee, you take a moment to calm your beating heart. what's happening to you?

all the while making her coffee, you keep stealing glances at Bada. her aura makes you nervous and excited.

should you ask her her number? or is it too soon..

shaking your head, you finish her order and say out her name.

"for Bada?"

you see her figure stand up and walk towards you, it makes you more nervous.

she reaches for the coffee from your hand and her fingers comes into contact with yours; you feel electricity running throughout your body, your chest feels so tight like your heart is about to burst out of your body.

Bada smiles again, "thank you."

after she walks away, you lean back on the counter, eyes wide and mouth slightly agape.

this is real life. you don't experience those things, and yet.. you're standing there like a high school girl who just got her first crush.

・┆✦ʚ♡ɞ✦ ┆・

over the course of a few weeks, Bada continued to go to your cafe nightly. your impending crush weighing on your very soul, and you swore that you're gonna talk to her tonight.

as usual, Bada comes in and makes her order.

you look at her, and you just can't bring yourself to talk to her. her stare roots you on your spot, she makes the words you want to say get stuck in your throat. but before you could say anything, she beats you to it.

"do you want to come and sit with me?"

your cheeks flush red, "i.. yeah, i would love to."

Bada smiles triumphantly, like she just won a contest.

and just like that, you're in your own movie.

✮⋆˙♡₊˚ 🦢・₊✧🦭✧˖°

thats it for my very first fanfic here on tumlr, i really hope you guys enjoyed reading even though its so short huhu. also, english is not my first language guys so sorry for the mistakes..

૮₍ ˶ᵔ ᵕ ᵔ˶ ₎ა

#bada x reader #bada lee #swf2 x reader #fiction #oneshots #writing #imagines #swf 2 #female reader

[ghouljams]

It’s been too long since we heard about Pet. How are they? Still living their best life?

Pet is still living the only life they are allowed to live. Whether or not it's their best life is up to you.

Anyway, I think Valeria is really into boot grinding. It's about having you panting and desperate, willing to use something so beneath her to get yourself off. She'd never stoop to that level, but she'd make you. She'd force you to the ground and shove her boot between your legs, rubbing it against you until your hips can't help but follow. Valeria doesn't even watch you do it, it isn't like it's for her pleasure, so what does she care? Some dirty little pet getting off on her boot? She's in the middle of a business meeting, that's far more important than you.

Of course every time you stop, every time you feel her associate's eyes land on you, feel the heat of shame and embarrassment, she focuses her glare on you. Growling out, "I didn't tell you to stop," in that lovely sharp tongued Spanish, that rounds so soft in her mouth but cuts you without effort. You grind yourself against the leather of her boot, sparks of pleasure jolting through you, making your hips buck as you force yourself to keep going, to keep pleasuring yourself for her. She's mad when you stop, and if you keep interrupting her she might cut the whole scene short. You can't have that, even when you're staring bleary eyed at her, your mouth open as you pant and drool. It's never enough, you're just working a wet spot into the dark leather, just edging yourself.

That might have something to do with the tethers she holds tightly in her fist, pulled taut as she rests her cheek against her fingers, smiling like a fox at the fae she's dealing with. If you were brought here to do a job it isn't your usual one. You're not here to intimidate anyone, and how could you with how pathetically you whine? You're an example: look at you, a dangerous fae, powerful and deadly, reduced to nothing but a mindless pleasure seeking pet for a human master. Not even chasing your own pleasure half the time, chasing hers. It's truly pitiful.

And you love it. You rest your cheek against Valeria's knee, watch her speak, watch her ignoring you, and you rub yourself against her, shining her boot with your slick. Your skin is sticky with sweat and slick, damp and uncomfortable, but you can't stop rubbing. You'll rub every thought out of your head, rub yourself dumb, for her. You don't want a brain, you want to be hers, want to be a mindless pet. Because you're her pet, and when she pulls your tethers, forces you to crash into orgasm, to smear your spend all over yourself, over her boot, you can only pant out a thank you.

She doesn't even have to raise her boot for you to lower yourself to the ground and lick it clean. You feel something warm and wet splatter against your back, hear a scream of pain, hear Valeria's tongue click. "I don't like other people touching my things," She chastises the other fae, one of his fingers rolls into your periphery, "it will be your whole hand next time."

#cod x reader #x reader #x oc #cod x oc #gn!reader #valeria garza #valeria cod #valeria mw2 #valeria x reader #valeria garza x reader #cod modern warfare #valeria garza x you #valeria garza cod #valeria garze smut #fae au #oc: pet #1fae1

[restinslices]

hiiii :D

would it be okay for you to do bi-han, liu kang and kung lao x hypermobile reader if you're not too busy or anything?

like reader has alot of pain in the knees, back and gets frequent migraines and they try to help?

Hey bookie, I wasn’t ignoring you. I was just procrastinating 😭. Finally got to it though! When I looked it up a hypermobile person seemed like a double jointed person but with occasional aches but obviously there could be stuff I missed since I’m not hypermobile. Because of that I mainly focused on the things you brought up however if there’s certain things I missed, you can always request again.

Bi-Han

When it comes to your joints moving more than normal, I don't see him making a big deal about it 

I don't see him being like “omg that's so cool” but I also don't see him being like “that's freaky”

It's something he notices but doesn't point out

When it comes to pain he'll suggest stretching it out, which might do the opposite but it's what his brain conjures up first 

I just feel like stretching and trained assassins go hand in hand

He knows multiple stretches that focus on those areas and that's what he'd suggest first 

There’s also other physical activities like walking for your knees

His brain goes to physical things

If all else fails, he's a walking ice pack 

I don't think he'd necessarily want to be an ice pack but if I'm the wind under your wings, spit out a couple ice cubes for me 

As for migraines I am a firm believer that Bi-Han as the oldest brother is a mini medic

He'd assume your sick so he'd advise you to drink tea, eat soup and keep your eyes closed so they're not being strained while looking at something bright 

If you get migraines often he'd buy some thick ass curtains so the sun doesn't peek through 

He may be a lil asshole but I'm gonna stay delusional and believe he'd be a good partner 

He's a good man Savannah- 

Liu Kang

I also think he wouldn't make a big deal out of it 

He might comment on it but you'd be forgiven for thinking he forgot about it 

Idk how you could use this in fighting but if you could, all 3 of them are impressed 

When it comes to pain in the knees and back, he's the opposite of an ice pack 

His power might work better with aches and pains. Depends on your body

I doubt heating his hand up would be difficult for him 

He mostly wants you to rest and take warmth baths to soak your joints 

Him and Bi-Han are mini medics but Bi-Han is more of a physical therapist. Also sitting around is a problem for him. Liu Kang is more patient and understands that there’s nothing wrong with taking a break and letting yourself heal

He probably also knows a bunch more healing methods I don't 

He's been around the block for awhile. He knows how to do other things besides leave someone concussed 

Assuming you're a regular human, he knows how weak your body is (no tea no shade) and you really need to rest or you'll break down 

That's his thought process with migraines as well

Has you sleep a lot more since migraines can be eased with sleep 

He knows all the tricks in the book. You know when your parent is like “you have a headache? why don't you *insert the most old and outlandish bullshit*”? 

That's him 

You'd think he'd use all this worldly knowledge to oh, idk, build an empire or smth but no

Kung Lao

He wouldn't make a comment in a mean way but he would do a double take 

Maybe I'm wrong but I would imagine people don't go “hey! How are you? I'm hyper mobile btw” 

So when he sees a joint kinda move funny he's thinking “am I tweaking? I gotta be”

But then it happens again and he's like “aight, what the fuck was that?”

He asks a few more questions but that's kinda it. He won't ask your whole life story. If you wanna share more, then you will 

When it comes to pain you gotta thug that one out-

I'm joking… slightly 

Liu Kang is a demigod. Bi-Han is a human but got magic powers. Kung Lao is a normal person and only has a hat

And I don't wanna hear about the magic shit in his moves. In the game I'm pretty sure he only has that hat. The hat is cool and all but my point is, he can't magic any pain he feels away 

He knows better than anyone that sometimes you just gotta take the shit on the chin and try to go on about your day 

However, that wouldn't be his only solution 

Regular human who can't make his own ice packs means he's a regular human with tons of medicine 

Medicine he'd obviously share 

He'd even buy some specifically for joint pain and keep it on him for you 

Same with medicine for migraines 

He probably has way more of those so he can't carry all those bottles but he carries some in his pocket 

He actually has a phone so he's for sure looking up ways to help with any pain or discomfort 

Whatever comes up, he'll suggest to you or help you with 

Your pain won't go away the quickest with him but it's obvious he's trying his hardest 

I did not mean to give Kung Lao the most-

#mk1 #mk1 2023 #mortal kombat 1 #bi han #bi han sub zero #bi han headcanons #liu kang headcanon #liu kang #liu kang mk1 #mk1 headcanons #kung lao mk1 #kung lao headcanons #kung lao #bi han x reader #liu kang x reader #kung lao x reader

[gotafewtricks]

Holy shit Hc's for a Kitsune!reader w kiriko? I think it'd be so funny and cute with how her spirit animal and reader might interact with each other 💀💀

Also hope you're having a good day!

(Might send a crap load of requests cause my brain can't stop coming up with things 😭)

★ O' fox spirit...

Hey !! I love getting requests, and if you're the same anon that requested Genji with a dog!reader, then I'll call you silly animal anon lmao :3 unless if you want to assign yourself w/ a name, that is!

With first impressions, Kiriko would've been pretty pumped about it all!

It wasn't an everyday occurrence that you'd see a yōkai out and about. If you are taking on a human form, then she'd know not to cross with you—not just because of your heritage, but because she knew wise you were! As she has practiced under many ceremonies relating towards the kitsune, she understood the nuances of those mythical creatures; how elegant, yet sly they were with their cunning attitudes.

Kiriko would be very understanding of many things, and would not go around and tell everyone that you were a kitsune—considering her most loyal companion is one, and there'd be no use in letting really anyone know about that without your permission—if you were secretive about it.

She'd love to know how you were doing, and would equally love the chance to strike up some small talk.

The girl would laugh at the silly interactions between you and her companion, always wondering what'll happen next.

Her fox friend would be very interested, I'm sure! I like to imagine that it doesn't appear very often, only in times of need (such as combat) then it'll be summoned. Or, around the comfort of Kiriko and her family. Not everyday you'll see a ghost, eh?

That's how she'd know that you were a kitsune; if you did not have anything outright screaming at her that you were one. If you didn't have the tail(s), ears, or a mask (though, she understood that people may wear them for just apparel), judging by the energy you give off—Kiriko would sense something. Also, it's terribly obvious if her kitsune is also reacting to it, as well.

If you were comfortable with turning into your animal form, she'd then lovingly sigh, as she's crouch down to level the height of the two foxes before her. She'd jokingly chide the two of you to behave; which you two do... sometimes. Causing mischief has never been more fun!

Kiriko would always respect you, and understand if you ever need your time and space. Spirits get busy, and she gets busy—so, it's only fair for her to try her best to ensure that you're okay.

She knows that you can take care of yourself; without needing anyone's help. Judging by your abilities and powers, you were older than the oldest businesses here in Japan that she could think of. If you needed help with anything whatsoever, specifically in reference to adjusting towards human life, she'd do her best!

If you were reluctant with interacting with others, she understands. Humanity is pretty terrifying at times; especially with the Hashimoto now clogging up the streets of Kanezaka. Kiriko would say that, even if those criminal organizations keep up piling on and on, if you were to try and persevere, and focus on the good you're doing now—it's worth it in the end. Even if you just make a few people smile, it's still worth it; even for those few people.

Kiriko would be all up for causing some fun-loving trouble, however, she will back out if things get too dicey. If you wanted to help her with the current yakuza problem, then sure! She'd hate to rope you into something that you may not want to get involved in, so she would want your ultimate consent.

Hanging out with her would be so fun! You're surprised by how she is able to think of so, so many things.

Having trouble with cleaning? She understands! Either that's helping you pick out the best shampoos for your fur, or brushing out and straightening it all—she's got you. Though, be careful about shedding everywhere...

Want to go win some costume contests for Halloween? You guys could go as, well, kitsunes together! Though, Kiriko may say that she'd rather go as something else; knowing she could excell in such a costume, the fox spirit, so she'll dress up as other things—witch, fortune teller, or cosplays from her favourite animes.

All in all, she would adore to have you—even if her hands were already full with her current fox, she's lucky to've been able to meet you.

#overwatch x reader #ow x reader #kiriko x reader #kiriko kamori x reader #kiriko yamagami x reader #x reader #gn reader #gender neutral reader #overwatch headcanons #req #reqs open

[moonlit-positivity]

PSA

It is okay to be disabled

It is okay to be in chronic pain

It is okay to be struggling with depression or any other mental illnesses

It is okay if your pain interferes with your life

It is okay if you can't work a 9-5

It is okay if you can't work from home

It is okay if you can't work period

It is okay if you feel like work is not for you

If your body aches and is in constant pain and makes work hard, or if you've got the bad brain flakes interfering with your everyday life, please know your feelings on this are valid as fuck. It sucks to be in a position by society that the only options to live and get by, is to further damage your body mind soul and spirit beyond it's limits

It is okay if you need to quit working and take care of yourself, be it your physical or mental health and everything in between

IT IS OKAY IF YOU CANNOT WORK.

It is NOT OKAY that people judge for this

It is NOT OKAY that people consider government assistance "the lazy man's income" or "a handout"

GOVERNMENT ASSISTANCE IS THERE TO HELP PEOPLE. PEOPLE WHO HAVE CHRONIC ILLNESSES, PEOPLE WHO ARE ESCAPING ABUSE, PEOPLE STRUGGLING WITH ADDICTIONS, PEOPLE WHO ARE IN NEED OF HELP

SERIOUSLY

LETS STOP TELLING PEOPLE THEIR WORTH SOLELY DEPENDS ON HOW MUCH THEY CAN GET UP AND WORK & HOW MUCH MONEY THEY CAN MAKE

If you need government assistance, TAKE IT

APPLY FOR FOOD STAMPS. APPLY FOR DISABILITY. APPLY FOR SECTION 8. APPLY FOR ASSISTANCE. APPLY FOR A CASE MANAGER TO HELP YOU FIND OTHER RESOURCES IN YOUR AREA.

THERE IS NO SHAME IN LIVING OFF AN ASSISTED WAGE.

Now, the application process & how much funds you'll recieve? Thats a different story.

Get ready for: wait-lists.

Section 8 has like a 5 year wait-list behind it and disability can be even a longer process

There is such a huge disonnect in society on how to even RECOGNIZE when you need to quit working that 9-5 and TAKE CARE OF YOUR NEEDS IN A DIFFERENT WAY.

People will SEE YOU STRUGGLING AND THEN JUDGE YOU BEHIND YOUR BACK. BECAUSE THEY DONT FUCKING GET IT.

WORKING A 9-5 IS NOT FOR EVERYONE. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO QUIT. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO LOOK FOR OTHER WAYS TO GET YOUR INCOME. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO ASK FOR HELP.

So if you happen to see this post and feel like you need a way out, PLEASE CONSIDER WHAT YOU NEED AND BREAK THOSE HARMFUL STEREOTYPES.

This can be some of the most HUMILIATING shit for a human to go through. To realize, hey, damn, I actually can't keep up anymore! I could use some help! And like NO ONE KNOWS HOW TO TALK ABOUT THAT. BECAUSE THEYRE TOO BUSY CALLING YOU "LAZY" BECAUSE YOU'RE IN PAIN AND YOU DECIDED TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

Tell these bitter mfs to fuck off and apply for whatever assistance you can get your hands on!

YOUR LIFE DOES NOT HAVE TO LOOK LIKE EVERYONE ELSE'S. IF YOU NEED A CHANGE OF PACE, TAKE IT.

#recovery #ptsd #trauma #mental health #healing #boundaries #disability #disability awareness #disability positivity #trauma awareness #trauma informed #stigma #society #capitalism

[firespirited]

Welp, thought I was fine but the CPTSD kicked in anyway. At first I was just really tense without understanding why, with flashes of anger when stuff crossed my mind

then I went emotionally numb which was unfortunately after I'd popped on a film and was frogging yarn to try and keep my head busy. Renfield and Polite Society are vague colourful 'meh' blurs so I'll have to rewatch 😂😭

I can objectively say that Nic Cage doing Bela Lugosi's Dracula was spot on and I probably should feel a way about it but the emotions part of my hippocampus was either depleted or shut off by this nonsense.

—----------------—

Waiting is a task when you're neurodivergent but waiting with dread and guilt and repressed anger and compassion and pity and understanding is a draining chore. Waiting because you can't sleep just in case there's a 1% chance the other person isn't sleeping soundly and actually hurting...

Reciprocated love makes the toil worth it. The worry-time spent on people who care back is still traumatic but tinged a different colour and flavour. The memories are violent but have a sort of pride to them.

Casual cruelty leaves the memories tinged with shame. You get the sense your brain had marked them as unfinished tasks, things you're supposed to find a lesson in, so up they pop so you can teach yourself.

Except there's nothing to learn. Aberrant rare behaviours don't give you insight into humanity at large. The fact that you encountered several rare humans isn't a pattern, it's only that the first bastard messed you up and marked you to find and be found by the others.

We don't have a way to tag "task finished" and "lesson learned" on the things our brains dredge up and attempting to stop it doesn’t work so here's my hard learned advice:

### Treat your PTSD like food poisoning. ###

There's no getting out of it, you can still function between bouts but it's going to happen. You need to be taking moments alone to let it hurt (toilets are useful for brain diarrhea too)

And it's going to leave you drained. You'll have recuperate for a couple of days. You'll be wobbly, don't feel stupid about it, brain diarrhea is as nasty as the bowel one.

If you can give yourself the grace you would for food poisoning instead of self-blame, maybe we can all heal a bit faster. 🖤

I'm off to make myself instant soup and maybe a hot bath to 'soup' myself. Sending you all so much love. Take care. Brain IBS is as horrid and as real as the guts one. So be good to yourself even if you're embarrassed. Promise?

#saf #Really feeling the IBS and CPTSD parallels right now #Ramblings #This was set off by #james somerton

[vylithscat]

dominant mc pt2 - obey me! headcannon (18+)

absolutely doing dateables >:) thank you for asking @oliolisstuff ! very sorry for the wait on this pt2! i wanted something smaller to get myself to start posting again, so here is some more dominant mc for all of you! part one with the brothers can be found here if you haven't read it yet!

minors dni, slight spoilers in like,, all of them prompt: a dominant mc is picked for the exchange program and how their time with the dateables would be (+how sex is) genre: general & smut pairings: dateables (minus luke, obviously)

DIAVOLO

He was so amused seeing you the first day, I mean look at Lucifer!

You didn't seem worried of your own fate, which eased some of his nerves, but sparked different fears

Would you be fine here, with little to no care? Even with the supervision you had?

And when you managed to survive two years of being in Devildom, sometimes when your life was in danger

He felt great about it, and you, and coming to the human world was so wonderful

That's when he felt most comfortable, really

He was away from work, in your room with you, your hand gently caressing his thigh

He got a bit pouty each time you didn't keep going or moved your hand

Give him a little kiss on his bare skin and you'll see him shiver slightly

Be gentle while handling him though, he's new to this, but he knows you can handle him

Make the space comfortable too, just make everything really nice so you can go slow and hear all his sweet little moans

Keep kissing around, gentle bites, subtly marking him riles him up more than words can in this moment

He's most likely going to flip it on you when you're not able to keep going on him

He's also the one who goes the longest of everyone while still allowing you to climax, enjoy yourself..

BARBATOS

The hardest person to get alone for more than a few minutes, what kind of a sadist are you?

At the beginning, it was hard to even know how he felt, even now it could be hard

But you didn't give up and ended up in a relationship with the Barbatos

Having any romantic moments with him are few and far between, but they felt wonderful when they happened

You got to bathe in his subtle but fragrant cologne while he eased you to sleep during your stay at the Demon Lord's castle

Then, he woke you up and you wanted your Barbatos-time, so you had him promise you time together, just the two of you

He cleared his schedule with care before meeting with you at night

Still didn't turn off his butler switch and cared over you until he could detect no lies

And then you brought up an offer; cockwarming (with or without a dildo)

His face grew red as he checked up on how you were feeling, before smirking, "My, my, if only you told me earlier, dear.."

After checking that he didn't have any other business, he settled himself on your lap and allowed your test of patience to begin

He took the time to graze your lips, to gentle bite them and to feel up your body before you broke and pushed him onto the bed

Although you weren't gentle with him, he didn't entirely mind, he enjoyed seeing how quickly you broke when he was right there

Now, just tell him whenever you need that again, surely his schedule would magically be free?

SIMEON

You were the opposite of what he expected when he saw you

Well toned, tall and looks as if you could crush someone skull with your hands

He was impressed that humans could get to the point you were at

But that didn't distract him that much yet, not until later on, the closer he got to you

You clouded his brain and judgement to the point he had to pause his speaking to gather himself again

Then the night on the train came, where he told you how he felt about you and you accepted his advances

It eases his nerves for sure and you spending more time with him was even better

But in your touches, he felt you restraining yourself, avoiding touching some places

That made him upset, where you had to avoid where you laid your hands on him because it was considered sinful

So, he let you indulge by starting it himself by planting himself on your lap, placed your hands on his hips and when your hands moved to his ass, he leaned in and kissed you

Course, he thought it would stop at touching, even if it killed him inside, but you didn't

You pushed him back onto the bed, mumbling about how long you'd waited, if he was sure about this, and he felt his face warm up

You were rough, but slow with him, and you both ended up with nothing on by the end of the night

Spoon him as you both rest, and promise him this wasn't a one time thing, please

SOLOMON

Another person who was amused, especially cause of how you reacted the exact opposite the demons expected

I mean really, you may be stronger physically, but that doesn't make you anymore safe than if an average human was sent down

Still, he promises to be the only connection you have to other humans while down here

Continues to treat you as if you were a meek little lamb who needs a guardian

And then you start developing magical skills and he's BEAMING

Finally, someone on his level, maybe even better, who's physically strong to boot?

You're like the perfect little magic person wrapped up

And then he can't keep how he feels to himself in Levi's game

It's not like he hasn't had experiences like that before, but it still felt unreal

And he didn't receive as much as you did that night

So, when you're in his dorm and the angels are out, he decides to mess with you

Tugging on your shirt is your first hint of what Solomon wants, so why hold back?

It was his turn to be a moaning mess and it caught him off-guard at how well your hips moved in motion with his movements

Though, he didn't really mind being on the receiving end for once

The constant murmurs in his ear, asking how he's doing before you gently bite behind his ear once he reassures you he's fine

It was sweet and hot at the same time, and he'll happily do that with you again, with less restraint preferred

#obey me #obey me swd #obey me shall we date #obey me dateables #obey me mc #obey me diavolo #obey me barbatos #obey me simeon #obey me solomon #obey me headcanons #obey me headcannons #obey me smut #obey me x reader #gender neutral reader #gn reader #obey me dateables x reader #dom!mc #omnsfw

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

Abigail Shrier's book, "Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up," shows us -- and I have it here -- shows us a new way forward for parenting, where we don't have to lean in to the child's emotions. Where we become a little bit wary about leaning into the child's emotion. Where asking the child if they're happy isn't really favoured. It may be better ask, "Have you got something good to do? Are you busy? Have you got something kind of thoughtful to get at?"

I'm guilty of it myself. I'm always asking my kids are they happy. Happy isn't a human condition that is -- it's not the end goal you know, because if you make happiness your end goal, you'll end up thinking your way into CrazyLand.

What you'd need, what you would benefit better from, and what I would benefit better from and what your kids would benefit better from, and mine, would be having something purposeful to do. Something to sink your teeth in. Do you have something good to do today? Something interesting? Have you found yourself a good activity to get into today? Rather than, "are you experiencing joy?"

The brain is a problem-solving organ. The human brain, when it's left just at kind of ease it looks for a problem. It looks for a problem to get their teeth into. So, you'd be better off challenging your brain to play chess or learn an instrument or pass their driving test, anything. Give them small helpful achievements, small helpful goals. That would be much more helpful than ask them to talk about their feelings.

Because they live in this world, this generation of children, there's been too much emphasis on their feelings and there's this kind of concept that has grown which Abigail Shrier calls therapeutic parenting, and it's not working. The parents are leading the children into emotional dysregulation because they're asking the children about big emotions. And the child is leaning into their big emotions, when they'd be better off saying, you know what, that's an awful lot of heightened emotion. Let's move it on. Let's have a hot chocolate and think about something, Let's do something tonight. Why don't we do the jigsaw? Why don't we kind of listen to one of those podcasts and see what we think about it? Why don't we learn a little bit about, you know, Nietzsche's kind of understanding of life, or what Karl Marx thought?

The more you could lean into kind of cerebral challenges, and you might find them good kind of thoughtful podcast or YouTube just to kind of expand their mind and get into other concepts rather than thinking, am I happy? I'm not happy because of this. I'm anxious because of that. I'm worried because that's not helping these kids. We've gone too far into their emotions and they're feeling emotionally dysregulated and kind of rudderless, because they haven't got a purpose. They don't know what to do with themselves. And help them if you can at all, to find meaning and purpose each day by looking for something to keep them busy.

==

Your kids are not your patients, and you're not their therapist.

They need a parent, not a shrink.

#Stella O'Malley #therapeutic parenting #emotional dysregulation #parenting #Abigail Shrier #Bad Therapy #psychology #human psychology #emotional incontinence #religion is a mental illness

[yandereaffections]

May I please have T,V,X,Y with Undertaker? Thank you in advance and have a wonderfull day/night!

Tears: How do they feel about seeing their darling scream, cry, and/or isolate

You'll see his face drop from his usual cruel smile to an expression that reflects absolutely no thoughts. It's been such a long time since he's been human or behaved in a humane way, since he's been so detached Undertaker doesn't know how to take care of one like he used to.

He doesn't know what to do, sure he might be older than all the clients he's had in the past month combined but still undertaker has not a single clue on what to do. At first he'll try to reason to get his dove to stop crying, saying that it's strange to him to see such a burst of distress. Eventually undertaker will learn to wipe away your tears with no unnecessary comments, only gentle comfort and a promise that you'll never be without him ever again

Vice: What weakness can their darling exploit in order to escape?

Not particularly a trait of his but rather his relations with others could be exploited to escape the sadists possession. Due to his crimes against the grim reaper dispatch and humanity altogether there are several enemies who would like to seek revenge, if the opportunity arises that you have the Phantomhives or maybe a dedicated reaper or two looking for ways to take the maniac down don't hesitate to offer the information you've gathered in exchange for safety

The Phantomhives are a better bet if you want a longer period of freedom due to the promised protection of a demon, considering undertaker has succeeded in causing major disruption amongst the reaper society at least two times before

Xoanon: How much would they revere or worship their darling? To what length would they go to win their darling over?

This man has you floating around his mind every second of the day, undertaker could be completely focused on his newest 'client' and the circumstances they got in his care yet the simple thought of what you might be doing in that moment could take over his brain entirely until he forces himself to focus once more on the task at hand. When the intrusive thoughts of you get more common will he get pent up, which leads you to be absolutely adored at any time he can possibly get to you, refusing for anything else to distract him other than you no matter how simple your interaction may be together

Undertaker isn't over all the worshiping type unless his need for you starts to boil over, otherwise his words and actions show he's just fond of you, nothing more nothing less, only composed and gentle love to give.

Yearn: How long do they pine after their darling before they snap?

Fun little activity he does before showing too much interest in you is his usual research, undertaker is a informat after all. It could be months or years before he's ready to drag you down into his hold simply because he's having fun learning about all the little features that come with his little dove, of course he'll have a better time when he gets to admire you up close.

Also undertaker is quite a busy man with all his corpses to experiment on and what not, as much as hes fallen in love with you he finds his 'studies' distracting him from time to time just to keep the chaos flowing

#12000 celebration #yandere alphabet #brain fuzzy hard to concentrate #black butler undertaker #kuroshitsuji undertaker #undertaker x reader #yandere undertaker #undertaker imagine #undertaker headcanon #black butler x y/n #black butler imagines #black butler #black butler headcanons #yandere black butler #Kuroshitsuji #yandere kuroshitsuji #kuroshitsuji x reader #kuroshitsuji imagines #kuroshitsuji headcanons #yandere #yandere x reader #yandere headcanons #yandere imagines #yandere imagine #yandere x you #yandere x y/n

[inuhiime]

:: 𝐒𝐄𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐂𝐄 𝐒𝐓𝐀𝐑𝐓𝐄𝐑𝐒 ! ──── ⪩⪨ 𝐉𝐎𝐉𝐎'𝐒 𝐁𝐈𝐙𝐀𝐑𝐑𝐄 𝐀𝐃𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐓𝐔𝐑𝐄 ; 𝐩𝐭. 𝐢𝐢

' loneliness will devour a man from within '

' it may be true that our fate is to be together '

' don't you understand? fate won and you are the loser '

' you'll be safe here. i won't let anyone hurt you again '

' i won't be a matyr. i refuse '

' why do you want to shame me? i have made peace with myself '

' hey, are you listening to me at all? '

' are your actions born of truth? '

' just shut up already. i have nothing more to say to you '

' what a pathetic life you've lived '

' what, are you going to try to run again? you can't do that anymore '

' why are you telling me all this crap? '

' no matter where in the world you might run to, you'll never find a safe haven again '

' this will hurt me as much as it hurts you '

' i never had the slightest intention of forgiving you '

' go to hell, asshole '

' have you ever considered why humans wish to live? '

' it's a waste to kill you '

' it's all over for you. you should have stayed outside of my business '

' the one who should be running away is you '

' does your brain shut down when you talk to people? '

' i probably won't ever find someone who sees me for who i am '

' you're not gonna get any sympathy from me '

' what, are you afraid you'll regret killing me? '

' your foolish honor will be your demise '

' you went and pissed me off. was it worth it? '

' who else would know pointless crap like that? '

' i can't ever forget a clown like you even if i tried, you bastard '

' even if it's scary, i gotta do something '

' you'll forever have my respect for doing this '

' why does that even matter? '

' doesn't anyone in this world have a decent personality? '

' your death is a necessity at this point '

' good heavens. was it something i said? '

' i thought you were defeated, but i guess you had already won '

' i wanted you guys to be proud of me '

' when it's over, we'll bring you home '

' we don't engage in actions that risk one's own life '

' you should savor your last meal while you can '

' how many times do i have to keep teaching you this lesson? '

' you are planning to help me, right? '

' i appreciate the commitment, but i think you're taking it a bit too far '

' you won't make it in time '

' watch over me so i may not walk the wrong path '

' that's the dumbest thing i've ever heard '

' what kind of pompous bullshit are they on about? '

' that's great. could you please heal me? i'm dying '

' you're a disgrace '

' your rationale intrigues me. just what were you thinking? '

' you could never understand what's in my heart '

' it hurts to say this, but no one's coming with you '

' though you might be able to witness the truth, you can never hope to reach it '

' please don't tell me to stay behind '

' no one can escape the fate that was chosen for them '

' i can't bring him back. i wasn't fast enough '

' please give everyone my regards '

' we are all slaves of fate '

' this is me saying goodbye '

' you shall come to realize your own insignificance as you wither and fade away '

' you are unable to defeat your destiny '

#rp meme #rp starter #sentence prompts #sentence starters #sentence starter meme #⪩⪨ ･･･ anime

[pokemoncaretips]

( @smol-smoliv )

Hi there! I recently took in a Ditto who followed me home (after I gave it some of my sandwich, in true Paldean fashion). They’re a sweetie, and I’m definitely doing my research, but I’ve never worked with any Pokémon quite like this funny little blob. Do you have any advice?

Sorry for the delay, my inbox is getting quite full and we're in full hatching season over here, so I've been busy.

General notes: The ditto is a famous pokemon, not just for its malleable genetic structure but also the vital role it's played in pokemon conservation. Though prone to being exploited by shady breeders, in caring hands it's been the living breathing heart of captive breeding programs around the globe, saving endangered pokemon from extinction.

General care: The ditto is shockingly easy to care for. It's an omnivore, and eats by engulfing its food like an amoeba. It has a broad range to temperatures it can tolerate and spends much of it's time at rest.

Their skin is very slightly tacky, and has a tendency to pick up dust and debris as it wanders about. Wiping it down with a clean damp cloth is sufficient to deal with this.

You'll need a pretty high tolerance for the uncanny valley, as although the genetic code is perfect, there's always something a little...off about a dittos transformation. Pokemon can't seem to spot it, but humans do, and even an experienced and talented ditto can give a human a mild case of the creeps. This is exacerbated if the ditto hasn't encountered any new pokemon recently, as. Well. Ditto aren't the brightest bulb in the box, and quickly start to forget what the form looked like. It is not uncommon to see a ditto wandering the house shifting randomly between forms, a bizarre and uncanny mix of legs and wings and fur and feathers.

There is a good reason dittophobia is the second most common phobia after arachnophobia.

And yet, despite their creepy appearance, the ditto is the definition of "no thoughts, head empty", a friendly blob of shifting goo that, while not the cuddliest, seems to enjoy being around people.

Ditto sleep in the form of a large rock, and have a bad habit of sleeping wherever they feel tired. Like doorways. Watch your feet unless you want to trip over it.

We do need to address the phanphy in the room. Ditto can breed with everything, but that's no less taxing than it would be for any other pokemon. Laying eggs takes energy. If you plan on using ditto for breeding you'll need to take into account extra food, as well as block out chunks of time where they do no breeding at all to rest. They are not egg factories. They may have blank little faces and approximately one brain cell but they are living creatures and feel pain, exhaustion, hunger and discomfort. I wouldn't recommend more than one clutch of eggs per season.

Ditto have no parental instincts, and in the wild would leave their eggs in other pokemons nests for them to raise. Keep a close eye on them and rescue any eggs they lay before they get cold or broken. Care rating: Green

Training: Though they can use their transformations to fight, ditto really aren't made for it, and given that they aren't too bright, can be out maneuvered well enough. They're happy to roll about the house and melt in sunbeams. You can use a ditto to fight, but it can be frustrating. They're better as house pokemon.

As house pets, they do learn commands and rules, but it can take time for them to sink in. Once it does, though, they stick. Which can make adopting a rescue ditto a bit difficult, as it will need to relearn the new households rhythm's. Training rating: Green.

Safety: Though ditto can badly frighten people, there have been zero recorded reports of a ditto causing physical harm besides being a tripping hazard. They have no natural teeth, claws or acid. Many children with dittos will use them like silly putty and rub them on comic strips to transfer the ink. This is harmless for both parties. It's a mellow little guy. Safety rating: Green

Overall ranking. A quiet little pokemon with no threats behind it, though it's best kept by people with a good tolerance for mild body horror.

#pokemon #pokemon irl #pokemon care #ditto

[lianabrooks]

How To Keep Your (Found) Family Happy

A friend posted a cartoon about weaponized incompetence on another website and talked about how every family has this. In fact, most groups of humans have run into this at some point, it's pretty normal for humans to try to find a way to take the easiest route (even if it means more work for others).

Despite all that, I've been with the same person since 2001. We've been married most of that time, had four kids together, and moved countless times as we restarted jobs, hunted promotions, and switched career fields. And we've managed to avoid most of the pitfalls. Here's how my spouse and I have avoid fights, weaponized incompetence, bitter feelings, and feeling neglected in our relationship for over 20 years (Hint: there's a lot of communication going on)... P.S. These are all very family/relationship-centric but you can absolutely adapt them for the workplace, school, or anything else.

MAKING CHOICES AHEAD OF TIME ... the menu is made at the start of the month, money is allocated before major events, we plan trips sometimes years in advance. All of that reduces the choice making later and is one less stress to handle. This is purely a decision making fatigue thing, if you have to make a decision, it requires brain power, and after a long day you'll have none. So why not sit down on a quiet day and make all the decisions you need to make for the next week? Poof! Brain power is freed up and there is less stress!

MONTHLY & WEEKLY CALENDAR SCRUBS... we sit down and make the menu around the first of the month, and we fill in the calendar with schedules so we know which days someone will be too busy to do things like cook, wash up, or something else.

DAILY CHECK-INS... whoever is home together in the morning does a morning devotional (yoga, dance time, scriptures, motivational quote, prayers, whatever works for you) and review what's happening so everyone is tracking major tests, work meetings, stressors, ect. Then we try to have dinner together if possible (even if it means eating at 5) and then a bedtime check-in before light's out (usually scriptures, prayers, and chatting, then bedtime stories for the littles). If people are working from home, we might have lunch together too. That means we have 2-4 planned meetings a day so we can course correct. -> If you're not religious, don't stress it. Pull out some Terry Pratchett quotes, favorite poems, pick a theme song for the week and dance to it. Just give you and your people five minutes to do something happy together. -> If this is at work this might mean a team meeting at the start of the day or a 12 minute check-in at 1:30 when everyone is back from lunch. The goal is to make sure everyone is on schedule for what they need, haven't run into an emergencies, and no one has questions. A supported work team gets more done.

SPENDING LIMITS... we got married in college when we lived off college stipends of $400/m. And we had a kid. Our rule was never to spend $20 without consulting the other person. We never changed that. We discuss everything from birthday presents to grocery lists and when we're getting gas in the cars even though we're much more financially stable. It means everyone spending out of the main accounts is tracking where the money is going so we don't over-splurge.

CHORE SCHEDULES... when we were first married we'd set aside an hour or so to clean the house together. It worked. As the kids got older this got more complicated (they needed to learn how to clean). But now we're at a point where everyone has assigned chores and we put bounties on chores that need to get done and are unassigned. And then we have one cleaning day (usually Friday or Saturday) where we take an hour and all clean the shared spaces. It takes 30-60 minutes to clean the entire house if you have six people working together. Laundry has assigned days for every load. The dishwasher and cooking have assigned days. It works. Everyone helps to the best of their abilities. -> With this is a lot of Adjusted Expectations. My house is not color coordinated with everything in a bin. My family is all neurodivergent. Most our dishes live on the counters because putting them away makes them vanish. This works great for us but might be overwhelming for other people. Who cares? It's our house, we're doing what works for us and the person mad about messes on Instagram can suck a lemon. -> If you really cannot do chores, cosplay it. Roll the dice and make it a game. Set a timer. Bribe yourself. Make it work for you.

ONE-ON-ONE TIME... not just for me and hubby, but for parents and kids. We try to make sure everyone gets some alone time where they are the focus of attention and we can check-in and make sure their emotional needs are met. Kids need a space to vent. Adults to a space to not be parents. -> This is super important for friendships too. Make time for people in your life! -> At work, this means managers need to make time to talk with their employees, check-in, and assess who needs things (and consider the people's needs first, not the CEO's bonus)

SCHEDULED DOWNTIME... usually this is Sunday for us (the Sabbath day for our religion), but it can be whenever, and we might have more downtime scheduled on a stressful week than in an easy one. The goal here is to make sure everyone gets time to not work, not lead, not think, and just chill. They can play, listen to music, nap, whatever their brain needs, and they can do it without upsetting anyone or feeling guilty because it's part of the schedule. -> In an office this would mean not lean staffing, maybe having an early release day once a week (or a late start) or long lunches. Give your people space to zone out and chill so they can come back refreshed. -> Quiet Quitting only exists because management is trying to exploit their staff. Don't be that boss. (P.S. Join Your Union)

SOME THINGS DON'T HAPPEN... our kids are limited to one after-school activity a year and one AP class for high schoolers. We've tried other ways and found it generates too much stress. I limit projects I take on because I have a set quitting time, even though I work from home. My husband passes up on some away-from-home events with friends because we prioritize family time. Figuring out that balance is something you have to decide as a family. What works for one person won't work for all. -> In business this means doing sustainable, slow growth over rapid booms that overextend and hurt the system. Stop looking for the short term boost when long term is better.

ADAPT TO WHAT YOUR GROUP NEEDS!... this is the most important one, because what we've done over the years has changed in reaction to the needs of people around us. My kids in college need something different than the one starting middle school. My team at the lab needed something than my team at a newspaper. If you have a bunch of introverts, they probably don't want a dance party, they want a three minute meeting with a heads up about any major disturbances and then ten minutes of silence to prepare their souls for any human interaction. Do what works.

#life hack #quiet quitting #weaponize incompetence #how to prevent problems in life #how to make your life measurably better #after 20+ years of marriage this is what works for me #Liana Brooks #former teen mom pays for her kids to go to college out of pocket because she can

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What are your thoughts on Luz bringing the hexsquad to school for them to check it out? What would they enjoy, what would bamboozle them, would they absolutely have to sneak in like Luz had to Hexside?

Asgdhjkl Luz is only one person and Willow and Gus still got caught sneaking her in. Imagine Luz's efforts to discreetly smuggle in four kids, all of whom have a bad habit of being....peculiar by human standards. It would be hard not to arouse suspicion.

Leaving for school in the mornings is hard for Luz cuz they linger in the doorway with their big sad eyes. They miss her not being around.

I could see them longing to explore Luz's school. Their curiosity to see what she does all day is insatiable. It's only Gus that's shameless enough to beg. He'll wait at the door to ambush her. He'll spit out his pitch rapid-fire as to why Augustus Porter should attend human school for a day. He negotiates and he bargains his ass off until eventually he is on the floor, gripping Luz's ankles, pleading.

Hunter takes this moment to pop up and say "I don't recommend taking Gus to school with you. Who knows the kind of trouble he could get himself into."

"Exactly! Thank you, Hunter!" Luz exclaims trying to shake Gus off her leg. "It's too risky to just-"

"Unless!" Hunter powers on. "He was supervised. By somebody older. Somebody responsible. Somebody who knows how to handle him."

Luz is thoroughly unamused.

Hunter blushes "Somebody liiiike...."

"Me!" Declares Willow, scaring Hunter out of skin as she suddenly appears next to him. "Once Gus's hyperactivity contaminates Hunter's brain and you know it will, you'll need somebody to supervise both of them."

"You're not coming either, Willow. I'm sorry."

"Aw man..."

"Guys, you gotta stop bugging Luz about this. If she's gonna bring anyone to school with her, it's gonna be her girlfriend."

"Amity..."

"We could hold hands in the hallway 🥺"

"Don't do this to me, sweet potato..."

See THIS is why they're all huddled around an ipad here

They get restless when Camila and Luz are gone for the day so they give them a screen that mezmerises them until they get back so so they're not inclined to go stirring up a ruckus.

Anyway in the chance that they DO get to explore the school, I figure they'd be enthused but bewildered.

I'm kinda drawing a blank on the big things that would confuse them cuz for the most part Hexside is very similar to a regular human school. They have a bell, an intercom, lockers, clubs, ridiculous teen drama. So they're accustomed to a lot of stuff.

I think the biggest thing that the kids just cannot wrap their heads around is the lack of Boiling Isles flair.

"So you guys have a grom..."

"It's called prom actually."

"Right, right, but there's no monster to fight??"

"Exactly."

"Then what's the fucking point???"

I don't think any of the kids can fathom that sports can exist without magic. They're fucking gobsmacked to learn about human sports. Like?? No chance of dying?? No annihilating the opposite team with offensive spells?? What do they even do then??

I think, despite the initial confusion, it would fascinate both Willow and Hunter and they would stick around to watch a football or basketball practise or whatever Luz's school's main sport is. I think Hunter would be interested in any activity that makes you look awesome and badass without needing magic, while Willow just thinks it's really cool and innovative how the game revolves entirely around your strength and speed and stamina. As somebody who loves working out, she can appreciate that.

I could see Amity being really intrigued by whatever business is going on in the science lab. Chemistry specifically. Being an abomination specialist, she'd be eager to mix some weird human shit around and see if she can bring something to life. Luz is pretty sure she can't do that so it's safe to just let her at it, but also keeps an eye on her just in case.

Gus just...Gus loves everything because of course he does. Goes apeshit over a GLOBE. Willow, Hunter fucking LOOK AT THIS!! THIS IS A DIORAMA OF THE WHOLE HUMAN REALM!!! AND IT SPINS!!!!

Sees a poster of the whole solar system and loses his entire goddamn mind.

Stumbles upon the library and gets kicked out after ten minutes for squealing and yelling from the overload of human culture everywhere but it was the greatest ten minutes of his life.

Gus discovers whiteboards and markers and learns that you can scribble all over the board and then wipe it off. He's amazed. He has his fun with it until the marker dries up.

Once he finally wanders back to the rest of the gang, he informs them that he has joined the chess club, the DnD club and the anime club. No, he does not know what any of these things are but he's enthusiastic.

Hunter, meanwhile, has been staring at an algebraic equation on a whiteboard for the last hour now. He doesn't understand what kind of code it is but he's determined to figure it out.

Luz is like "You really don't know math?"

"I can count. But what does math have to do with this?"

"Hunter...buddy...this is human math..."

"No way..."

"Yeah way."

"Why the fuck are there letters in it???"