#validating yourself

[unwelcome-ozian]

#Validating yourself

[dark-wackademia]

Emotional Regulation: Somatic Tools, Feeling Safe, and Self-Acceptance |...

#youtube #emotional regulation #repressed emotions #emotional resilience #somatic #somatichealing #somatic therapy #try qigong it uses the same stuff #qigong #right/left brain #integration #anger #anger issues #stress #emotional #regulate yourself #shame #guilt #uncomfortable #self acceptance #self compassion #self love #self care #self healing #self therapy #feeling safe #safe #validating yourself #label emotions #self healing tools

[slfcare]

2024 is about letting people care about and for you. it’s about answering ‘how are you’ with honesty, asking for space when needed, accepting help and being open to advice, listening to concerns and having difficult conversations. it’s about trying your very best to let go of the feeling that you’re completely alone, and finding ways to prove to yourself that you aren’t.

#‘proving to yourself’ because waiting for others to prove it to you is going to end up in disappointment #nobody will ever meet you in the exact way you want them to #but that doesn’t mean that they won’t meet you at all #learning to be a social being #positivity #positive #positive suggestions #positive thinking #suggestions #suggestion #comfort kindness family #self validation #self love #self care

[traumasurvivors]

If you hate hearing “everything happens for a reason”, that’s really valid. And I’m here to say that some things are fucked up and should never happen. You didn’t deserve it. It should have never happened to you.

#if you cope by telling yourself #that things happened for a reason #you’re valid and that’s valid #just don’t push it on others please

[honeytonedhottie]

pretty and well educated⋆.ೃ࿔*:･📄

its important that even if ur not going to school currently to continue learning and educating urself about the world in which u live. think of ur brain like a muscle that needs to be exercised everyday. or a plant that needs to be watered daily.

FOR LANGUAGE LEARNING ;

read subreddits and newspaper articles in ur target language everyday. that way u can learn about news in different countries while also practicing ur target language.

READ BOOKS ;

specifically nonfiction but nonfiction doesn't always have to be boring. read entertaining nonfiction. some fun topics to research books for include

stock market and economics

industry of ur choice (i like fashion)

SATISFY UR CURIOSITY ;

whatever ur curious about, RESEARCH. thats the funnest way to learn in my opinion. make a list of things that u are curious about or find interesting and when u have the time research them and educate urself about them.

write down what piques ur interest

STIMULATE UR MIND ;

daily mind stimulation is good for ur well being in general. read books fictional or nonfictional, do some writing, do word searches and puzzles etc. for funsies and to keep ur mind sharp.

#pink academia #honeytonedhottie⭐️ #advice #becoming that girl #it girl #self love #that girl #it girl energy #dream girl #dream girl tips #dream life #self improvement #self development #self growth #mindset #academic validation #academic weapon #educate yourself #hot girl semester #hot and educated #hyper femininity #girl blog #girl blogger

[pikp0kcas3]

The Hazbin Hotel fandom’s issue with accepting aromanticism and asexuality

Now that it is officially Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, I want to talk about this!

I find that, as an aroace myself, I am constantly grasping at good representation and coming up empty— it usually ends up in one of two ways.

One: the character is portrayed as emotionless, cold, and robotic in nature. It’s the question aromantic and/or asexual people are often asked: “Are you heartless?” The answer is no, of course, but general media makes it out to be the opposite.

Or two: Their lack of attraction is seen as something to “fix” because they “haven’t found the right one yet”, and they end up with a partner as a “happy ending”.

It frustrates me greatly because of how little people actually see aromanticism or asexuality as a true part of the LGBTQIA+ community.

So when I watched Hazbin Hotel, and I found out about Alastor being aroace, I was over the moon. I was on cloud nine. I also saw how his voice actor has looked up the term as an attempt to learn about aroaces, which makes me OVERJOYED?? Amir is truly a blessing, and I love that he’s proud to embody a character that’s part of our community. It’s so beautiful to finally have a proper character, a fan favorite at that, who just so happens to be aroace— and that’s another thing I love about this.

It’s never explicitly stated in the show (though it is stated in interviews), but it’s rather clear when you’re watching, isn’t it? Alastor’s aversion to any sort of sexual advancement, coupled with Rosie’s blatant “I know you’re an ace in the hole” comment sort of spell out his asexuality pretty clearly, as well as what side of the spectrum he falls upon. In addition, his Valentine’s day card was strictly platonic, which caters to his aromantic side. It feels so validating to finally be represented, to finally have a character in media who shares the same lack of interest in romance and sex as I do.

When I entered the fandom to look for more content, I kind of expected to see the same respect for Alastor’s orientation there too. But that… wasn’t the case? I am fully aware that aromanticism and asexuality are both spectrums— of course, aromantic and/or asexual people can enter those kinds of relationships. I’m not denying that and they belong in the community as much as anyone else on the spectrum.

But, the more I see the same line again and again and again, the more it feels like an excuse to just ship what you want.

Usually I don’t mind shipping? I’m often a firm believer in people shipping what they like as long as it’s harmless and they don’t go crazy over it. I also know for a fact that Viv doesn’t have a problem with people shipping her characters. They are fictional, after all.

But in this case, people are ignoring the very thing that makes Alastor a part of the aroace community! People are ignoring his lack of romantic or sexual attraction!

Is this not the same as changing a gay character’s orientation to suit a straight ship? If not, how so? I’m told that we are a part of this community, so why aren’t we being treated like it? Why is it so hard to accept the people on the end of the spectrum who aren’t interested?

Something I’ve been noticing throughout my life is that society has not exactly progressed very much on the idea of accepting asexual or aromantic identities. Maybe we have, a little, since the old days— but hell, people in “the old days”, which in truth wasn’t very long ago, believed that asexuality was a medical condition to be “fixed” by taking the right medication or having sex. That’s a pretty low bar to clear. And on the romance side, you’re seen as a “late bloomer” or “boring” if you don’t express interest. These days, being friends with someone is treated like a gateway to them possibly becoming a lover. Not getting married, not going on dates, not wanting a partner— it’s all treated like a crime when it’s not.

Maybe I’m selfish, or sensitive, or I’m butthurt over nothing, or I’m making it all about me. Maybe I’m gatekeeping or whatever the term is. But please, please, please, I just want an aroace character like me who simply is not interested in sex or romance.

And I want fandom to respect that. I admire the creations that fans make— the art, the animatics, the writing and the character analysis. And I want people to keep creating because creation is indeed a beautiful thing.

But I really would like people to treat aroace identities like they’re important. Like it’s more than just a spectrum to get wiggle room to wrangle in another ship.

#aromantism #aromantic #aroace #asexual #hazbin hotel #alastor #hazbin alastor #lgbtqia #alastor aroace #PLEASE i just want people to LEAVE HIM ALONE #“but it’s a spectrum” STOP USING IT AS AN EXCUSE #RESPECT AROACE PEOPLE WITH ZERO INTEREST IN ROMACE AND SEX #let us have this #we barely get anything as it is #but just to clarify i don’t believe that most people are being intentionally rude about it #nor am i discouraging people from creating fan content because it is FAN CONTENT and you can express yourself #i just would like people to understand a little more that #yes it is a spectrum and it covers an extremely wide range of orientations #yes ANYONE who identities as someone on the spectrum is completely valid #if you wanna argue with that i am showing you the door and kicking your sorry aphobic ass out #my point is that the spectrum is not a loophole. it is not an excuse and it is NOT okay to just use it willy nilly for your convenience

[shlulkythepissbaby]

Come On Man, You're Making It Out To Be Worse Than It Really Is

A comic to mock my thinking process when I was around 13/14. I would make a small mistake or do something silly, and when I didn't immediately get validation for it I would cry about it and then do things to make it worse.

#Shlulky do not worry you will eventually learn how to validate yourself #and then when you make a mistake you can work on making it better rather than be unable to function #i love you shlulky you will make so many beautiful things #anxiety #mental illness #comics #comedy #shit post #ur not stupid Shlulky ur just silly ♡

[free-my-mindd]

#twitterpost #self love #accept yourself #loveyourself #mental health #positive message #know your worth #validate yourself #so true #positive thinking

[thepeacefulgarden]

#get curious #mindfulness #acceptance #feel your feelings #trusting yourself #your feelings are valid #your pain is valid #your trauma is valid #feelings #emotions #self compassion #self care #healing #recovery #trauma #grief #it's okay to not be okay #cry it out

[ruhlare]

i don't like it when someone is easy to reach. when someone is open to everyone, when literally anyone can get their attention. it is a question of values ​​and principles not to be open to everyone and not to have the need for everyone's attention. people who are easily available won't value soulful connections.

#that's something i think about a lot #the same goes for social media #can't take people serious who seek online validation #especially some men are easily to find behind the posts and likes of women #this makes someone clearly unattractive in my eyes #does someone understand what i am trying to say? #how less do you have to think of yourself to fill the void with VARIOUS people? #i like people who stand out #my writing #soul #letters

[selfhealingmoments]

#people pleaser #personal improvement #self worth #self help #self improvement #mental health #self reflection #be yourself #new life #letting go #inspirational quotes #new beginnings #positivity #let it go #moving forward #moving on #seeking validation #people pleasing #loving life #being present #being yourself #be happy #positive thoughts #manifestation #inspiring

[drdemonprince]

people who are obsessed with passing are gonna be the death of our community i swear

#i understand how and why so many succumb to that temptation and of course i get it ive been there but its POISON #listening to a podcast where a trans guy says getting maamed on the phone bc hes nice means he “failed” #is soooo .... ugh #my dude that happens to so many cis gay men are you kidding me #are you really about to study how to be mean on the phone rather than just correct somebody #or just like not define your existence by fleeting interactions w strangers #if you define yourself only by passing at all times youre gonna turn into a sad hudsons guide esque husk of yourself #fuck passing 2024 i am so over it #it truly is a never ending chase for cis validation and its bad for us!!!!!

[c0l0re]

I love you trans people, I love you transsexuals, I love you FTMs, I love you MTFs, I love you trannies, I love you transgenders, I love you trans men, I love you trans women, I love you nonbinary people, I love you genderfluid people, I love you multigender people, I love you people with no gender at all, I love you genderqueer people, happy trans day of visibility to each and every one of you, I hope you have an amazing day and are safe and happy and proud of who you are <3333

#trans #transgender #ftm #mtf #transsexual #nonbinary #enby #genderfluid #multigender #genderqueer #trans man #trans woman #trans positivity #trans day of visibility #colore speaks #love yall so much <33333 #no matter what labels or terminology you use for yourself you are loved and appreciated and are valid as hell #happy tdov from this bigender and genderqueer boychick <3

[recoverr]

i hope life takes it easy on you today. but if not, i hope you have the strength to carry on until the sun rises again. you are very loved and very needed here, i hope you remember that.

#mental health #recovery #self care #self love #positivity #recovery suggestion #suggestion blog #actually mentally ill #healing #be kind to yourself #validation #affirmations #comfycore #mine.

[seagreenstardust]

“When toxic behavior is portrayed as romantic, it’s problematic. When problematic behavior is portrayed as a character flaw for a character to work through, it’s good storytelling.”

Katsuki Bakugou, my friends.

His behavior was problematic but never once portrayed as romantic at the same time. Katsuki said and did awful abusive things, and he also chose to be better when he was given the chance. If you’re still hung up on chapter 1 Katsuki now then I don’t think you’ve been reading the same story I have.

I can’t speak for everyone, but I’m not shipping Izuku with an irredeemable abuser. I’m shipping him with his most important person. His narrative foil. His childhood friend who made awful mistakes and then made it right when he saw he was wrong. The person Izuku looks up to and strives to emulate, despite their past struggles.

Bakudeku is so good because of how flawed these boys are, and how hard they’ve worked to get over it, and how much they matter to each other after it all

#perfect stories about perfect people who never do anything wrong are usually boring #stories about growth and mistakes and redemption and forgiveness and progress are lit #bkdk #bakudeku #the quote is from cinema therapy on YouTube btw #love them so much #they look at media and talk about what is and isn’t good from a real life human perspective #and boy did this quote slap me in the face #anyway this is my thought literally any time anyone says something about shipping Izuku with his abuser #if he was still being abused then I get it #but he’s not #and saying he needs protection from Katsuki is honestly doing his character dirty #and this is not to say that every situation with an abuser and a victim should turn out romantic #obviously not #the world is not black and white and neither are people #sometimes you have to get yourself out and never look back and that is valid and healthy #but sometimes you’re talking about two boys in a manga who literally cannot stop thinking about how good and incredible the other is #bro I get it #surface level chapter/episode 1 Katsuki is literally the worst #but his glow up has been literally meteoric

[draculaswidow]

Become so good at your chosen field that people start thinking you're the Devil's prodigy

#dark academia #dark acadamia aesthetic #aesthetic #dark academism #books #quotes #dark acadamia quotes #perfection #perfectionism #this is just for motivation btw #remember to take care of yourself #stay hydrated #take breaks #light academia #chaotic academia #romanticism #academia #dark academia aesthetic #academic validation #study motivation