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tygerland · 8 months

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momentswithmani · 7 months

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Understanding Black Men

The psychology of black men is distorted, and misunderstood through different lenses. Whether it’s through society, generational wounds, slavery, the entertainment industry, or families/communities. We commonly hear about the experiences of black men through wounded black women who had failed experiences, wounded black women who fail their sons, and the societal stereotypes that have existed for decades. It’s a rare occurrence that we hear the experience of being a man through a black man himself. Mainly, due to decades of them being silenced for speaking their truth, and them having a voice would threaten their manhood.

When getting to know a black man, these are some factors to consider: their upbringing, their childhood, their personality, their character, and their spirituality. Understanding the layers of who they are gives you an opportunity to learn them. Getting to know their nature usually comes with compassion, and empathy. Missing out on the opportunity to learn them for yourself, because of the outside noise, leads to ignorance. In order to formulate your own perspective, it requires introducing yourself with openness, considering that the way they interacted with the men in their generation could differ from how you interact with them in your generation.

When communicating with black men of different ages, it requires a different perspective. Comparing him to his low quality father is detrimental to how he will view himself growing up. Talking down on him will be detrimental to how he views himself. Many women will insinuate that it’s not that big of a deal, think about it this way….

Your mother can talk down on you: cursing you out, telling you you’ll never be anything, neglecting your emotional/mental needs, being manipulative, etc.

This behavior comes with a price. More than likely, you’ll struggle with self confidence. You grow out of your hobbies/passions. Your psychological development becomes stunted because of the abuse. Although men and women are built different biologically, the impacts of how men grow up are similar.

The way you speak to a man, can make or break how receptive a man is to you. If you speak negative energy into him, that becomes a wound to his heart. If you invalidate his emotional needs, he shuts himself down emotionally. If you invalidate his concerns/vulnerability, he’s less receptive to communication. If you brag to the world about how worthless he is, he will shut you out to dissolve himself from embarrassment.

We rarely credit black men of all ages for their spiritual responses to what they experience, whether it’s good or bad. This is due to how aware + observant they are. Because of how much they’re used to being neglected, it teaches them to neglect themselves. They are then forced into survival mode to fend for themselves, even if it includes indulging in detrimental behaviors. This plays a major role in them suppressing their vulnerability, which stems from the hardships they’ve been told they needed to endure in the name of “manhood”. Because black men are adultified at young ages, it strips away the humanity of how they exist.

It’s easy for us to be frustrated with black men, simply for existing. It is necessary to open a space for compassion + understanding regarding their stories. They are human beings, who are navigating life in the most effective way they can, or think they can, in the midst of learning who they are as boys, young men, and men. Their silence is mistaken for their lives being easy flowing. Their upbringing neglecting their needs at a young age is mistaken for privilege. Their physical appearance being fetishized, is mistaken for appreciation. If we’ve been given the ability to create a narrative on who they are for the past decades, they deserve to redefine the narrative based on their experiences, their manhood, and who they are as people.

#mwmwritings #black women #mental health #self love #mentalheathawareness #inspiration #relationships #black men #black people #society #rant post #life #trauma #healing #black tumblr #vent post #blogger #communication

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punkeropercyjackson · 1 month

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Oh did that trans woman present femininely in a way you find corny?Did that autistic kid annoy you by being passionate about their interests?Did that traumatized person cope by being a therian so you think they're stupid?Did that black person act in a way you found offputting?Thank you SO much for making a whole post to make fun of them because it was completely necessary to announce your most important feelings ever because weird people are vewy scawy.Should we throw a party to cheer you up?Should we invite JK Rowling?

#like shut your fake freak ass UP you're not breaking social norms by being k/inky and using over the top cruelty those are literally normal #i used these groups because they're the kindness most accepting and coolest people ever and have done nothing but help me heal as i do them #and with autistic kids i mean they did it completely unintentionally by being my friends while i took the role of the shoulder to cry on #because i'm a GROWN ASS MAN AND WOMAN who does NOT need the approval of my oppressors and i will NOT throw them under the bus to get it #go do actual activism and grow a spine and get a relathionship that's not a situationship and communicate outside out of your little bubble #transmisogyny #ableism #antiblackness #transfem #trans women #actuallyautistic #catkin #dragonkin #ghostkin #therian tag #autistic girl summer #black femme #black men #black love #blackness #misogynoir #bigender #genderfluid #transmascfem #pinkcore #weirdcore #children's rights #anti harry potter #💌#summerposting

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napqueenkae · 1 month

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Black men we love you. We're just tired of loving you more than we loved ourselves.

Sincerely,

Black and Brown Women 💕🙏🏽

#napqueenkae #black tumblr #black women #black men #healing #self development #reflection #relationships #poems #poetry #lyrics #growth #leveling up #self love #soft black girls #soft black boys

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zafrinaxyz · 2 months

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My Valentine 🥀

#this is very healing ....#i- that's it i'm leaving earth goodbye ya'll #omfg last one he got that backpack FULLLL 😭❤️#na'vi ai #na'vi oc #na'vi art #na'vi x human reader #na'vi x you #na'vi x y/n #na'vi men #na'vi fanart #na'vi x black reader #na'vi x black woman #na'vi x human #na'vi x poc #na'vi x reader #na'vi x woc #na'vi x black girl

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vampire-lord-garfield · 2 months

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I'm still on my:

"With good food and constant action at the manor Bard will gain muscle mass and dad bod"

bullshit.

And because I'm a Sebard trash - the annoying bastard is also there and is into it.

(also that bitch is so dramatic - he refuses to take off his gloves even when he spends the night with Bard)

#kuroshitsuji #black butler #sebastian michaelis #Baldroy #kuroshitsuji bard #kuroshitsuji baldroy #Sebard #garf arts #garf posts #I just saw that “character that are healing and in a happy place now gains weight and I never stopped thinking about it”#Cause like Baldroy was starving when seb decided to pick him up #Maybe even partaken in cannibalism #And the men is middle aged dad #That constantly running around with guns and snacking at the kitchen #You know I'm right #Anyway if anyone still remembers that I've existed - that'll be nice)#garf post

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histhoughtslately · 23 days

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I Remember This Day: About two years ago, on a Saturday in fact, I made myself a full 4-course candlelight dinner. A fun fact about me, I’m a cook and I’ve done it professionally for private families.

On this particular day, I realized I’ve never received flowers before. I wondered what would it be like to receive flowers and go all out like I would for someone else. So, I bought myself flowers and took my time the same way I would for someone else. I started digging up what I call “My Fancy Ass Recipe Books” to plan a dinner. I found a delicious wine I paired with precision.

I say all this to say especially for the fellas out there, you deserve the finest things as well. The same love and effort you pour into someone else, give back to yourself. Self care and self love isn’t about whether or not it makes you a man. First and foremost, you’re human. You have feelings, you have emotions, you have wants, you have needs, you have desires, you have dreams, you have goals, but you also have pain, you have traumas, you have hurts and you have a mouth to speak.

Vulnerability is key. It is necessary. And the right person or people will be there with an opened embrace. However, you must acknowledge you first and all that you are. Admitting how you truly (and I meant truly) feel, does not make you less of a man for expressing it. Remember, you are human first.

This message is for everyone but I feel the need to emphasize for my fellow guys out there. Take that first step if you’ve never have before with setting up a date for just you. Believe me, it makes a world of difference and you’ll be begin to see a HUGE difference in your outer world!

#menmentalhealthmatterstoo

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nerdfighterwhatevernumbers · 9 months

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Terfs are like “Hating AMABs is right because I was raped and it’s been healing”

like okay so are guys who were molested by men allowed to be homophobic?

are white women who were raped by moc allowed to be racist?

Can I start campaigning against feminists if I get assaulted by a woman?

I’m just trying to understand the rules here

#terfs #it's not healing if it's making you run a rage blog #i know you guys won't actually read the tags #but nb4 i'm guessing the response is 'people with penises have inherent power over women that gay men don't have over straights'#but like that's not true because Black men absolutely have less power than white women #so clearly one part of your identity can be a mitigating factor over the amab part of it #and with how much violence happens to trans women i'm psure gender identity is one of those factors

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moonhedgegarden · 2 months

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"Embracing the vibrant swirls of authenticity, I am reborn to live a life that resonates with my truest heart, guided by the clarity of my purpose."

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lvrsdrk · 10 months

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My past is filled with users that ONLY wanted help. The moment I provided no utility or service I never heard from them again. It was crazy. I couldn’t be sick. I couldn’t be tired. I couldn’t be in disrepair. It was so bad I had to lie big enough to where it was barely enough for me to make a space to take care of MYSELF! I had to always perform AND be the perfect man mentally. I’m angry at myself for allowing these type of interactions. Alas, we live and we learn.

#weoutchea #lvrsdrk #pieces #scorpio #black poets on tumblr #black men #written #black writers of tumblr #poem #self reflection #unappreciated #tired #frustrated #healing #black women #black men write

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thesoftestblackguy · 3 months

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Black men as a whole need to congregate together and discuss black manhood and how it needs to be changed to fit today’s times cuz “manhood” in general is an outdated practice, black manhood needs to be tweaked and updated because the shit black men be normalizing and portraying is toxic/demeaning to literally erbody.

#niggas need more healing #niggas need to learn more self respect #niggas need to learn how to understand and respect others #especially black women #how long are yall gon go about life treating black women like shit #then wondering why they date/marry other races of men #it’s cause yall are trash!#smh #and I’m tired of it #random thoughts

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punkeropercyjackson · 3 months

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'[Insert feminine term/behavior/fashion/etc here] transcends gender!!!'Well,maybe i wanna be a girl anyway.How about that.Bitch

#genuinely this is one of the most annoying mentalities ever when applied to strangers💀it's always fem stuff too never masc stuff #i'm not a trans woman but i am a biracial black one who was raised by the white side of their family and had ONE girl black friend as a kid #and i'm autistic too so you imagine how deprived of appropriate femininity for someone like me i was and yes i was a big tomboy back then #but now i'm super femme and it brings me so much healing and comfort and fun and even-you guessed it-gender euphoria!!!#which is why i id as transmascfem instead of just transmasc because my womanhood is instrictly tied to literally every part of me #i fucking like that being femme means i'm a girl!!!i'm also a man but i refused to crack for so long because i thought i had to give that up #i got this shoved onto me directly for the first time on a fic about a transfem egg hc too you 'transan///drophobia' bitches are sick #misogyny cw #transmisogyny #transmasc #transmasculine #trans men #demigirl #bigender #genderfluid #femme #femmegender #xenogender #catgender #dragongender #ghostgender #softgirlgender #momgender #autigender #plantgender #transmascfem #trans women #herogender #💌#summerposting

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smileymoth · 4 months

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Doctor, grabbing a patients arm: wait. Something is wrong here. [rubbing the bicep] There should be a muscle here.

Medical malpractise the movie

#mehed ei nuta (men dont cry) i love black and white estonian movies #this ones abt how a bunch of people w insomnia get sent away to a 'hospital' to heal their sleeplessness #but they actyally get put to a unhabited island to do labour bc the doctor thought that would fix it instead LOL #moth post

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eggbagelz · 1 year

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Cant believe i have to say this but yall know that magneto's allowed to be a terrible person right

#hes allowed to be both jewish and a villain. marginalized characters are allowed to do horrible terrible things #he literally advocates for genocide. hes literally a eugenicist. the cruel irony of the way hes become is #very much a purposeful thing #and this was written by a jewish author.#hes a villain for a reason and i can list So Many Ways hes a terrible person like #his cause is important ofc!! but the way he wants to get there is how u say fucking awful like #i cant believe i have to tell yall genocide is bad no matter whos committing it #also like his trauma is directly tied to the reason hes a terrible person and thats bc he refuses to heal #and is stuck in this horrible black and white mindset completely unaware that hes directly mirroring the men who #traumatized him to begin with. read magneto zero read children of the atom 1999 #fucksake just pick up any issue of classic uncanny xmen snd it'll tell u the same thing #anyway.#chattering

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softtopxpressions · 7 months

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Black men are needed. Black men are necessary. Thank you and Gratitude to the wonderful men in my life. They weren't perfect, but they were there when it counted most. I love y'all (Can't stand y'all but I love y'all). Goodbye for now Unc., I know Grammy is happy to see you.

~Big Head/PeeWee/Lil Sodi Mama/Mika.

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adudeandhisart · 9 months

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Boy Has Mind Expanding Experience. Mending Broken Heart

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