We need to get a little uncomfortable for a minute. But it's ok. You have to be uncomfortable in order to grow.
You're going to fail. You're going to disappoint people and yourself. You're going to have moments where you're so overwhelmed that you're curled in a ball crying and frustrated. You're going to miss important milestones. You're going to drop the ball so many times things seem impossible. You're going to fail. You're going to be mean. You're going to be a bad person at points. It's life. It happens. You just need to understand that it happens. And on those days where you want to dissappear and never be seen again because everything is too much, your brain is going to amplify all these faults and failures and make them seem worse.
Babe. We all go through this. We ALL fail. We ALL make awful choices and fuck people and ourselves over. We ALL will have moments where we are the villains. Where we completely fail a lot of people in our lives due to bad decisions. It will happen. Probably multiple times. What matters is that you recognize these things and make appropriate changes in your life to help make sure that next time isn't as bad. Maybe start learning time management so you're not stressed constantly and blowing up on everyone. Maybe find a healthy outlet like painting or the gym or cooking. Find small, simple joys to make life better. It's going to suck. You're going to be the bad guy. But that's not your entire life.
It's uncomfortable and hard to sit with. Sometimes things are your fault. Sometimes you make bad choices and they fuck your life up and fuck others over at the same time. It happens. You can't change the past, but you have the power to change your future. You can change your future. Talk to people. Find yourself outlets. Learn skills. Things get better, but they only do so if you put the effort for them to do so. I love you. You're trying. And that's all you can do. And one day you'll slip backwards and feel so defeated but when that happens, you'll have many tools to help you get even further. I promise babe everything will be ok.
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Hey lovelies this is a reminder to not listen to productivity influencers all the time. Please don't make every part of your day productive. You don't need to listen to self help podcasts while getting ready. You don't need to make all of your reading focused on mental health. You don't need to make a schedule to ensure that maximum productivity is reached. You aren't alive to rush to the grave babe.
Do listen to podcasts and music that make you happy and get you excited. Do read things you enjoy reading. Do make a schedule with rest time in it. Do take little breaks. Go feel the sun on your skin. I promise that taking time to actually exist and be alive won't somehow make you less productive. And in fact, you'll probably be more productive.
If you push yourself and focus on productivity and betterment constantly, you're going to burnout real quick. So take some breaks and go outside and stretch your arms and turn your head up and spin in the rain. Jump in the puddles and get those new shoes wet. End your study session early because you're frustrated and tired and make a cup of tea and get some cookies and watch a show. Read that fantasy book with moral lesson. Go take that night out with friends.
Please, please, please, PLEASE, P L E A S E don't let productivity be all you do. Live little. Relax. Really relax. Take personal days. Yes, get those grades and study and clean your house and stuff, but don't let it suffocate you. Ultimately this is your life love. Go live it. And don't feel guilty for living.
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50 African proverbs.
"A bird that flies off the earth and lands on an anthill is still on the ground."
"If you want to go quickly, go alone. If you want to go far, go together."
"The lion does not turn around when a small dog barks."
"When elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers."
"The wise create bridges, the foolish build barriers."
"He who learns, teaches."
"Unity is strength, division is weakness."
"Do not look where you fell, but where you slipped."
"Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors."
"A tree is known by its fruits."
"The one who loves an unsightly person is the one who makes him beautiful."
"The strength of a crocodile is in the water."
"The old woman looks after the child to grow its teeth and the young one in turn looks after the old woman when she loses her teeth."
"A wise person will always find a way."
"Where you will sit when you are old shows where you stood in youth."
"Do not be a spectator before life; participate!"
"The rain beats the leopard’s skin, but it does not wash out the spots."
"No matter how full the river, it still wants to grow."
"Wisdom is like a baobab tree; no one individual can embrace it."
"When the mouse laughs at the cat, there is a hole nearby."
"The goat says, 'Where there is blood, there is plenty of food.'"
"By the time the fool has learned the game, the players have dispersed."
"He who is destined for power does not have to fight for it."
"The chameleon changes color to match the earth; the earth doesn’t change colors to match the chameleon."
"The heart of the wise man lies quiet like limpid water."
"If you close your eyes to facts, you will learn through accidents."
"You can't build a reputation on what you are going to do."
"A wise person learns more from his enemies than a fool from his friends."
"You cannot climb to the mountain top without crushing some weeds with your feet."
"A roaring lion kills no game."
"Knowledge without wisdom is like water in the sand."
"Where there is love, there is no darkness."
"The strength of a nation lies in its homes."
"The best way to eat an elephant in your path is to cut him up into little pieces."
"He who refuses to obey cannot command."
"It is the calm and silent water that drowns a man."
"Patience is the mother of a beautiful child."
"A good deed is something one returns."
"When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends."
"If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together."
"If you want to go quickly, go alone. If you want to go far, go together."
"When spider webs unite, they can tie up a lion."
"No matter how tall a tree grows, the leaves always fall to the ground."
"When the moon is not full, the stars shine more brightly."
"A leopard cannot change its spots."
"A village without elders is like a well without water."
"The sun will shine on those who stand before it shines on those who kneel under them."
"The eye never forgets what the heart has seen."
"A dog with a bone in its mouth cannot bite."
"The axe forgets, but the tree remembers."
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