HOW TO REMAIN THE BEST YOU
Move in silence
Take care of your mind, body and soul
Be picky about who you let around you
Work towards a goal
Decide and enforce your boundaries
Actions over words
Allow yourself to feel your feelings but then let them pass
Focus on what you are doing now
Learn how to use your traits and skills effectively
Tell yourself postive affirmations
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self care is SO important
here's the thing about self care—it's not just about bubble baths and face masks (though those are great too). it's about giving yourself the time and space you need to recharge and feel good.
going for a walk, reading a book, chilling with some music. it's what recharges YOU!
taking care of yourself is good for your mind and body! it's easy to put yourself last, but remember, you can't pour from an empty cup. so, do yourself a favor and make self care a priority, even if it's just for a few minutes each day.
you deserve it!!!!
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It takes courage…to endure the sharp pains of self discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.
— Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of ‘A Course in Miracles’ (HarperOne; October 13, 2009)
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Why do you love her?
When you ask me
"Why do you love her"
I find my words tangled on my tongue
I cannot describe to you why I love her
Mere words could never do her justice
Her love is gentle
Her love is kind
Her love is selfless
Her love is unconditional
I look for her in every painting I observe
I look for her in every song that is sung
I look for her in every poem I read
I look for her in every dream that I've dreamt
When we meet
It is as if time has stopped completely
My world is taken up by her presence
I feel at home for the first time in many lonely years
When you ask me
"Why do you love her so?"
I find my mouth numb
For mere words could never describe what we have
She took me in my broken entirety
Observing my cracks and imperfections
She saw the rotting garden inside of me
And tended to it, as a mother would to her sick child
For every scar she saw
She kissed it to make it feel better
For every wound reopened
She embroidered new skin for me
She doesn't see a wilted garden
She doesn't see a worn down garment
She doesn't see a tainted piece of flesh
Nor does she see a waste of breath
She does not see these things
Like others most often do
She only sees my entirety
And she deems it beautiful
When I am broken into pieces
Backed into a corner and shaking
Naked and vulnerable like a feral dog
She doesn't scorn, nor shun
She takes me in
And soothes me
Like a mother would a crying infant
Gentle and reassuring, she tells me
"Everything will be okay."
When you ask me,
"Why do you love her?"
I find my mouth empty, my only answer being
"She loves me too."
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Abilities that will forever benefit you
The ability to walk away
The ability to manage your time
The ability to remain consistent
The ability to self analyze
The ability to learn how to learn
The ability to understand others
The ability to listen
The ability to express your thoughts and feelings
The ability to break down tasks
The ability to adapt
The ability to control your mind
The ability to ask for help
The ability to act upon facts not feelings
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Green Flags in Communication 💚💬
"I want to know when I hurt your feelings."
This shows they are willing to understand and acknowledge the impact of their actions.
"I don't want you to feel alone in this."
This shows empathy and indicates that the person is supportive and does not want the person to deal with issues alone.
"I've been struggling with ___”
This demonstrates vulnerability and trust, as the person is open about their struggles.
"How have you been feeling about ___? I know it's been on your mind a lot."
This shows concern for the other person's issues or worries, showing that they are listening and care about what's important to the other person.
"I feel __ when you __; are you open to trying __ next time?"
This is an example of constructive communication.
"What do you need from me when this happens with your family?"
This shows awareness and sensitivity to the persons family dynamics and a willingness to provide support.
"I appreciate when you ___.”
Expressing appreciation is vital for positive reinforcement and acknowledging the efforts and qualities of the other person.
"I didn't handle that well."
This is a sign of self-awareness and accountability, recognizing one's own mistakes and being open to learning and growth.
"I'm sorry, I was wrong to say that. I'll try to be more mindful in the future."
Shows you are able to apologize genuinely and a commitment to improving behavior.
"Tell me more about that; I'm really interested in hearing your perspective."
Indicates a genuine interest in the other person's thoughts and feelings.
"I noticed you seemed a bit off today. Is everything okay?"
It shows you are attentive to the other person's emotional state and a readiness to provide support.
"I'm here for you, no matter what you need."
Offers unconditional support, creating a sense of security in the relationship.
"I love how passionate you are about your hobbies. It's inspiring to see."
Expresses admiration for the other person's interests.
"Let's work on a solution together. What do you think would be fair?"
Focusing on collaboration rather than conflict.
"I trust your judgment on this."
Trust and respect for the other person's decision-making abilities.
"Your happiness is important to me. Let's make sure you're taking time for yourself."
Prioritizes the other person's happiness and emphasizes the importance of self care.
"It's okay to feel that way. Do you want to talk about it more?"
Validates the other person's feelings.
"I appreciate how you handled that situation. You're really good at ___."
Praises specific strengths or skills, boosting the other person's self-esteem.
"I know we disagree, but I respect your point of view."
Acknowledges differences in opinion while still maintaining respect and understanding.
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Femme Fatale Guide: Game-Changing TED Talks Everyone Should Watch
"How Five Simple Words Can Get You What You Want" by Janine Driver
"Master your Mindset, Overcome Self-Deception, Change your Life" by Shadé Zahrai
"How to talk to the worst parts of yourself" by Karen Faith
"Think before you speak, hacking the secret of communication" by Catherine Molloy
"The Hidden Code For Transforming Dreams Into Reality" by Mary Morrissey
"Don't Believe Everything You Think" by Lauren Weinstein
"The public speaking lesson you never had" by DK
"Programming your mind for success" by Carrie Green
"How to stop screwing yourself over" by Mel Robbins
"Own Your Behaviours, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success" by Louise Evans
"The psychology of seduction" by Raj Persaud
"Why we're unhappy -- the expectation gap" by Nat Ware
"Think Fast. Talk Smart" by Matt Abrahams
"Increase your self-awareness with one simple fix' by Tasha Eurich
"5 steps to designing the life you want" by Bill Burnett
"Staying stuck or moving forward" by Dr. Lani Nelson Zlupko
"To reach beyond your limits by training your mind" by Marisa Peer
"Emotional laws are the answer for better relationships" by Diana Wais
"Feelings: Handle them before they handle you" by Mandy Saligari
"Cultivating Unconditional Self-Worth" by Adia Gooden
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